We Need Therapy
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- We talk about marriage therapy as we take a good look at self to recognize what we lack and what we need more from God.
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When I made the commitment to love my husband as Christ loves the church I didn’t know it would feel like a burden. Marriage opened my spiritual eyes to the burdens I’ve been carrying around. Understanding how to release those burdens onto the Lord (and not my husband) and accept the freedom that comes from following his perfect law is the most difficult and rewarding journey I’ve ever lived through.
Alena, I have been a fan of you guys for years and I adore your family of love and how you all walk with God. Though there may be bumps in the road, rest assure that working together on overcoming issues is always worth it to be able to save a blessed union of love. I wish the best for you both. Amen. 💜
God is every word, god is love!! And jesus to! We have to be patients and forgive like jesus say 777 time. Is being good, and follow the example jesus how he live. Always pray. Every time you feel bad or argue pray and say to your espritual guide asking advice and ask for.protection. i am spirit. I follow doctrina espirita allan kardec and. One a week i read evangelio. And pray. I wish i can explain better. But i wish you both the best love for you. You are so nive family and tonce love. God blessed you guys and. Family!!! Take time for you guys!!
AMEN
Amen 🙏🏽 nothing better. God first and everything after. Leave it all to God. Talk to him daily… he’s the only one that can fix anything & everything. Praying for you both. God bless.
Alena this is not your first marriage so what does that statement mean?
Who else agrees??? Marriage counseling between a healthy couple is like going to the doctor for your yearly physical so you can prevent a serious illness by catching it early and getting early treatment.😍
Absolutely!!!
Amen!!!
Yes yes
Totally agree!
respectfully I disagree. Dont think you should be pre-empt problems with a stranger.
I love to hear Joe talk. He's such an old soul.
I've noticed. He's a very old soul.
Counselling isn’t because you’re falling apart it’s because you are evolving and you need these tools to continue to evolve you’re doing great guys.
You guys need a vacation together. Let grandparents watch the kids while on vacations😊
Yes, a RETREAT or something, so they can both find their inner Zen or something. My boyfriend is a Taoist, I'll have to ask him if I said it right! 🤭
Yes! they need time together to reconnect.
Yes please :)
They absolutely do hey
Dads and grands perhaps but not have older kids do this. They didn’t give birth to them.
Personally, I don’t think seeing psychotherapy or counselor is a “bad” or “troublesome” thing. Most of us see a PCP at least once a year, dentist twice a year and such. Our personal mental health is important especially due to everyday stressors. Likewise, for a couple it should be principle. Sending positive energy.
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Wow I really appreciate this comment. I never really thought about it like that! Your absolutely right. Like you said we see 🪥 🦷 dentist, pcp🥼 , physical therapy, and other things we may need to see but neglect our mental health.
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Love your comment greatly said!! Tdavis
My opinion: As a Christian I feel sometimes we over spiritualize things.. some of the operational things in our households that cause issues like she said " the kids are yelling and I might not operate in love" that could be you are overwhelmed and feel tugged in many directions. A Bible verse can help us re ground ourself but it is normal to have emotions and reactions as humans.. God expressed anger, jealousy, love.. so all negative emotions don't need to be cured, it simply needs to be addressed.
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Love how Alena is looking at Joe so attentively as he speaks, shes really listening...both contributing to the conversation equally and patiently.
Yes very important ❤️😊
He barely looks at her, avoids eye contact. No chemistry , the inception of thier relationship was the result of infidelity. Seems togather for you tube. Both seem unhappy.
I agree. Listening is key.
@@karong7017 infidelity? Whoa did they do a video on this?
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This is true, “let sleeping dogs sleep.” However you did bring it up, which sparked my curiosity.
I’m not surprised. Relationships are difficult. Even the relationship we have with ourselves is difficult. However, it starts with ourselves by taking responsibility of our own thoughts and actions. I’m pulling for you guys. From the heart, Dee Smith.
Stop assuming people am married for 37 yrs and and marriage is really hard If I didn’t love my family i would have been gone a long time ago !🙏
This is 💯. When we take ownership of our own feelings, thoughts and actions, we are drawing healthy boundaries in the relationship.
The best recipe for your marriage is to put God first, I love both of your strengths. Remember now you are one, not two one! Read Matthew 19:5 🤝🙌
Islam is the best way to understand how is the real marriage
Relationships on camera are more difficult.
This is beautiful…It’s so refreshing to hear Joe’s “voice”. It’s also refreshing to hear Alena’s “gentleness”, I pray for continual intimacy between them 🙏🏽
Oh yes….
Awww that's a lovely thing to say my darling 😊
@Shereen Golding, I love your words; they are so beautiful.
Joe consider individual counseling. It’s always good for each person in the relationship to have individual as well as couples counseling. Do not ignore the red flags in your relationship. Seek out therapy from actual trained counselors. Childhood trauma is no joke. Get the help you need.
I can definitely see something different in Alena 🧡 Like her spirit seems more at peace, mature, and refreshed…and I love how direct and pointed Joe is….This is why I love them and they are goals 🙌🏽👏🏽 God is faithful
Yes! She listens to Joe more giving him the "floor" and authority now. Shes IS calmer and more soft spoken.
My name is Alena lol
Agreed. I've been watching them for a while! God is definitely doing a work. 💕
Yep, time and experience helps.
I agree, she used to be noisy. But now she behaves maturely
Knowing that you need therapy is a form of maturity ❤️ hope everything is good.
It really is whether it’s marital or on an individual basis….it’s often seen as a last straw but it can actually be a form of “check up”that you do with your body….catch it before it becomes anything else….
exactly
Its not a maturity its a medicine to cure a relationship
@@thechatpion9040 imagine going through life thinking all forms of help should be the very last attempt and not a proactive measure. that's the type of thinking that results in suicide because people don't feel they need therapy when they're still descending into depression.
@@laur-unstagenameactuallyca1587 true
My husband and I never stopped marriage therapy. Best decision we ever made. We went through marriage counseling than post marriage counseling. Most likely we will keep therapy in our marriage.
I commend you two for having the love and commitment to talk it through together and to seek God for understanding. You two have a strong relationship and others could learn from you. Stay Blessed I love and pray for you and your Family!!
CONGRATS🙏🙏🙏♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️👍👍👍👍♥️
There is nothing inherently “wrong” about getting therapy as individuals or as a couple. Life is difficult. Marriage is difficult. You are multitasking and wearing multiple hats. We have even watched you (Alena) earn a degree that no other woman of color (that I am aware of) has earned. We have listened for years to how erudite Joe is. You are gifted individuals. You bless us with the content you film and have invited us into snippets of your family life, which is not easy either. I think whatever you need, God supplies. If counseling is what you need He supplies the counselor as an instrument to allow you to work through whatever it is you need to work through. I pray continued blessings for you and your family.
The way you get the blots out your heart is through fasting and prayer Matthew 17:21
I love the uniqueness of your journey as a couple, as parents, as individuals, and especially as Christians. I have observed that Joe has a lot to say when given the opportunity. He said a mouth full by saying communication is between receptive individuals as opposed to having someone talk at you to show how much they know rather than connect.
Joe wants to be heard…. There was a moment there when he explained what is going wrong and his statement was ignored n he flinched or winced with his annoyance.
I've always noticed that. I love Alena but she pushes and gets in his face a bit. And Joe is more layed back. I'm glad their finally getting counciling. I appreciate you two allowing this conversation to be heard. Many people especially in social media don't talk about it until things get out of hand.
They talk off camera, so im sure he gets it in and they argue, love, talk and a plethora of other things to do or state. What I see is what you see in the edited clip. It's not all and done
I agree with shawna and kimbo...
Yep. They have no chemistry. Really seem to tolerate her, stay out of obligation . Avoids eye contact, bad sign. Never looks in her eyes.
@@karong7017 he's Asian. In Asian culture to look someone in the eye is rude but I do agree that he seems not valued by his wife.
Alena is not sensitive towards him and lacks insight into her self and that her behavior is negative in the marriage.
13:56! Speak up, Joe! It seem like Elena is trying to be a little more subdued instead of overwhelming, loud and dismissive of Joe’s and the feelings of the kids. Like when when of the girls asked not to have her hair cut so short, but Elena ignored her daughter and cut off all of her hair anyway. Boundaries and sensitivities have to be respected. You don’t have to be loud all the time, or heard all the time or overbearing all the time. Sometimes you have to be QUIET and let your mate be more seen than you. Let your man be the leader and you be his comfort and his rock and he will be glad to return the love and nurturing you have to him. Signed, married 33 years.
Just because you’re married 33 years doesn’t mean you get to speak on other people’s marriage nor does it indicate your marriage is perfect because no marriage is. Your longevity in your marriage means you chose to stick together despite challenges. Stay your nose out of people’s marriages and focus on your “ perfect” marriage
You are not here to judge the couple. They are actually brave to seat there to talk about their marriage also that is the reason they went to counseling: - - to discover their errors
- to fix them
- to reconsider
- to apply
- to evaluate is ongoing because we all fall short of the glory of God. The perfection isn't in us and only God is
The wise thing is, they have hears to listen to the voice of God. They love each other and want to keep their relationship well and healthy so the can pass on to their children real love which is a blessing from God from generation to generation. May God bless them and their children forever. A couple who prays together stays together.
@@adelinejean7486 I don’t come to read others comments and then attempt to scold or judge anyone about what they have said. I left a respectful COMMENT and went on about my business. Please take note.
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@Mr Koala I’m not snooping around their home and no one is nosing into their affairs. They shared their situation in this public forum. I know they appreciate “the good”.
I admire how real and authentic you are as a family. May you continue to be blessed.
I admire you guys for being real.Relationships need work.Putting God in the middle of it makes it all worth it.Keep up the good work and always take care of each other first.God bless
I see growth. I like that you have grown to allow him to speak without you interrupting! I love the growth.No relationship is perfect but practicing makes it perfectly imperfect!
I agree 👍
@@audreysayo5957 God did not write the bible men was inspired by God to write the bible
Let me just say, I COMMEND you, for being transparent, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable not only to EACH OTHER, but allowing MILLIONS of people to watch the journey. It's difficult enough on it's own, and I PRAY it doesn't hinder you, having all of this feedback. Pray you receive what is for you, and manage to spit out the "bones" of negative input. Be encouraged, GOD'S HANDS are definitely upon you both.
I love how calmly Joe speaks, he has such a calming spirt. Alena you can see how much she adores Joe by way she looks at him. Marriage therapy is good for the soul.
I’ve been married for 21 years now and haven’t had any counselling,
We just so comfortable with each other and we are different religion and we have 3 kids .
We accept life and we do try and make things happen when there not supposed too .
We try and make things as simple as possible by not taking things for granted especially..
every relationship is different but sometimes u shouldn’t live by any bible ..
we teach our children about god but from our own experience, not a book ..
life is a resource.
Shout out to this super transparent Couple.
Amid the judgements and naysayers, I champion them for being astute enough to care about their union, not just likes.
It's takes a certain level of Faith, being humble (and knowing that they are the first examples for their children), and accountability to even approach this.
May God bless them and their Family. 🌻
I really like how honest they are with each other, and the amazing heart to heart conversation they are having. It allow each to see the other person's heart and understand their feelings. Many relationships lack this! Keep it up!
Right
Couple need therapy before, and during marriage. Therapy is healthy, it helps couples recognize little things that could become a big issue, and to keep couples a step ahead in the feature.
Couple need God and Jesus in they're marriage not a therapy
well said
@@bonniesmith1520 therapy is literally just getting another person's opinion. stop seeing it as the bogeyman and you won't be saying stuff like that
Facts.
@@bonniesmith1520 People CAN do BOTH. Small minds live in small world.
Joe! Your example of fasting for your wife is so inspiring! Thank you for your example of being a loving and humble spouse/servant of God.
I had an epiphany when you all talked about investing in your relationship like investing into 401k. You don't just put money in once and never check in on it but you have to continue to put into it and make adjustments along the way to have a healthy return. Wow 👏 thank you all for sharing 💕
Marriage is hard, requires constant work and a commitment to stick through the rough patches. It’s good to get help before things fall apart.
Being proactive is a great start! Congrats for setting the tone for your children.
Joe is so articulate and I love how he is able to communicate the process they are going through. All the best to you both. Communication is definitely key.
Therapy is good individually and even better when you do it as, a couple. Putting God first is major and will see us all through. God bless you and your family MazeLee 🙏
This right here is such an honest display of God’s love for his children! In order to truly love another person, you must first love God, accept His love for you, and then love yourself! 💜
You both have just shown the world what it means to truly love! Thank you so much! 🥰
I’ve been married for 22 years. It’s called the 7 year itch! This is the milestone of your marriage. Their is nothing wrong with marriage or family counseling. There is counseling in the church or outside offices. Honestly we have never done it but our two daughters have their Psychology degrees, they’re our counselors! Lol. Really serious! We are truly blessed to have what we have and we’ve known each other for 38 years since 7th grade. There is no shame in strengthening your love for each other through marriage counseling. I love one thing about your relationship marriage, when you talk he listens, when he talks you listen! That’s the key right there! Listening to each other and not against each other! Great job! PS.. OBEY was not in our marriage vows! Lol
Your outing is so romantic, Keep it up. I pray you shower yourselves with more PDAs, despite the distractions from your children. I encourage you that you're doing great, but there are always ways to improve, I pray that with sufficiency in Christ you will enjoy your marriage into your old ages. ❤
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Honestly, we humans need therapy when it’s needed and it’s not a bad topic to talk about it! It’s a healthy way of starting into right path because you know well that you want to work it out. Professional therapist looks at both side and try to be the bridge, hope it works out well!
Joe and Alena…you have shared your family and beliefs to over 2 million subscribers. You have shared God’s word, His truth to over 2 million people. God is using you for His glory. Being transparent and sharing your marriage counseling revelations shows us that we are not alone. God said we are not alone. He is always with us. I truly believe that in that truth he places people…like yourselves…to let other couples know, they too are not alone. Hearing Joe pray shows his love and leadership. Hearing how he fasted for Alena shows his love and leadership. Some may comment that Joe is submissive but there’s much strength and leadership in him. Submissiveness isn’t about weakness. Not here. I see his submission to God instead.
It’s good that you are having Therapy, Alena I think that your talking through the meetings, but it appears that you Alena you sometimes speak for Joe. Yes Gods is love but there is the love of two Christian husband and wife on this earth. Marriage is two people becoming one. As a Christian it’s us individuals how we live our lives in God. praying with each other is a good thing. Fasting in the good and the bad times, so we pray for our marriage. Its so obvious that the love you guy have for each other is strong.
I pray that good Lord will continue to bless your Marriage and you show examples to your children/ your family so they will see you as light. Heavenly Father continue to bless these two young people, father I ask you to open their eyes open their mind to know you are there for them to talk to. Bless you both. Praise the Lord.🙏🏾🙏🏾
Truth !
I just love this family. I love how Joe loves the children that are not biologically his. I love how he and Alena love each other and work together raising their family. I wish them so much continued success as a couple, may they continue to grow in love.
How many kids his not biological child?
Sounds like they are preparing you all for the divorce to come. He has channel, she has hers...
@@amalismail7772 i taught only the first daughter
@@amalismail7772 I believe the first 2 or 3 are not biologically his.
@@amalismail7772 update first 4 are with prior relationships.
I'm rooting for you guys. Love the blended family and transparency. Marriage is not a game and it can be rough.
I think this is beautiful. Seeing a counselor individually and together is very healthy. Blessings.
2021, Alena and Joe; it's very nice to see the both of you working to build a stronger foundation in your relationship by focusing on yourselves. I have witnessed the demise of marriages over not willing to admit ones own faults or over controlling behaviors. Alena, this is the first time ever seeing you peaceful though the entire video you looked beautiful. Keep-up the good work.
I've never been married and don't want to be. But it's always been refreshing to me to see two people who've made that commitment to one another fight to maintain the health and strength of that covenant. God Bless your marriage and your family. Thanks for sharing both with us.
Why don't you ever wanna be married.
I laughed sorry, I hope that it's not because a bad thing that happened.
You have not met the one who reaches your soul, who is interested in you, one day you will. Don’t run from it study it, and you will learn if it is right.
To Alena and Joe, (My comment before the actual video was posted.) I think it is a great idea to seek therapy. Bringing two together in marriage can be rough. One of the things that I like most about you guys is that you seem to have a relationship with the Lord. I cannot express how key that is in your relationship and in life in general. Most people are under the impression that love is conditional, but the truth is that love should be unconditional. As believers, we are supposed to be imitators of Christ. God's love is unconditional. How awesome is that? Can you imagine asking your spouse, "Why do you love me?", and their answer is "I use to think that I needed a reason, but God showed me with time, that the true reason is, I just do." My prayer is that all is, or will be well. Personally, I think you were made for each other. Joe, your temperament is out of this world. I've never seen anyone that exhibits the amount of patience you do. Of course, I don't know what happens when the camera is off. But I would like to encourage you both to be honest with yourself and give it all you got with God's help, to make it work out. That's if there is a problem. (You never stated that there was.) Don't listen to the lies of the enemy and keep your ears in tune with what God is saying to you both. If you are interested, I can suggest a very good book that has key nuggets that are helpful for married people. Blessings!
I would love to know that title
What is the name of the book please, I have been married to 15years
Alena, please listen to what Joe is saying and try to be more sensitive to his feelings. He is a lot like my husband was. I did not
always really listen to my husband
and this led to a major rift in our
relationship. But thank God when
I turned to the Bible and started
working on me and how I could be
a better wife and partner our
relationship got better. See you are making an issue out of a scale. It
sounds like you didn’t like his response . Why couldn’t you just
accept his response. Marriage is
not a dissertation where you have
to keep a certain score. By the way
my husband and I were married
for almost 48 years and together
50 years. We were two imperfect
people who were perfectly fit for
each other. Keep God centered and you will be okay. One thing I
learned was when to be quiet
and really listen to my husband. I learned that he didn’t have to always agree with me or vice
versa for us to be happy. But we did have to always be kind and
loving toward one another and to
follow God’s word. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Ms Tee, well said.
The Bible reads, the devil is like a roaring lion going to and from seeking who it may devour.
Unity is strength.. bless
@@jacquelinehumber6430 That's great, and that's YOUR marriage you speak of: They're working on THEIR marriage, and as a BRILLIANT person, people don't always understand how SHE thinks, or process information- It doesn't mean she has to DIM DOWN, or be "Silent"...they BOTH have to figure out a better way to communicate. She's trying. He's trying. They'll figure it out.
You’re just 7 years married don’t worry you’ll grow in your relationship and communication ❤️
Loved this video; there's a whole lot of truth right here! Thanks so much for your honesty, openness and willingness to share these things with us. Therapy/counselling is so good and important for everyone at some point in their lives. Especially where relationships are concerned, it's so important for people to understand themselves and to be able to understand the other person, too. Unfortunately, councelling/therapy can be viewed negatively by many people, so it's good that you highlighted this and explained it a little.
I'm glad that you're working through various things together, and as Christians the Bible is definitely the best manual! God made us and He helps us in all things. God bless you both, your family and all who watch this! ❤
Thank you guys for being transparent and open always. We also believe in therapy even in good times because it’s when things are good that you are more receptive to correction. My hubby & I have been lucky to have free counselling sessions with a proffessional from the time we dated so it has really helped us I’m sure one way or another coz these sessions can be quite expensive. Shout out to Joe! You seem so chilled whilst Alena speaks 90% of the time kkkkkk
Every time, I watch your videos or just see a picture of Alaina,her beauty becomes more more stunning. Your joy and beauty within shines through out and you and Joe together gives a double dose of beauty that shines from within and through out.......
Take care 🙏🙏
Today's conversation was really deep and vulnerable. I was so touched because you were candid and kept Jesus in the conversation. I actually felt like I wanted to write to you. I cried at the end when you ended the post in prayer. May you never be ashamed of what God has done in and through you.
Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus the author and finisher of our faith!
So glad you're enjoying and growing deeper in God even through the marriage counselling. God bless the couple you're gleaning from. Strong homes =strong communities. God bless you and the family.x
Both of you are sooo blessed!! Having a partner such as yourselves is A gift sent from God🙏🏾 praying randomly during the day with each other is a great idea! ❤️ that y’all are together and sharing your lives with us!
Thank you ❤ both for being transparent & choosing to share with your children & this platform that it is healthy to go for counselling. I Am single woman who loves God & I totally get what you are doing. As a single woman now with adult children & a new grandma, it is so important to walk in Truth. I Am learning alot about myself & my young adults & I Am choosing that I will make a difference. Yes I totally agree with counselling as a single parent, God opened the door of counselling for my self around 2004/5. I am currently attending again. I enjoy all that you do, may God continue to use you both, whilst you continue to bless others. Much love always ❤
The fact that a couple is taking the initiative to get couples therapy shows how you care about your relationship. Being together with someone for so long is not easy and you have to make sure you stay in love with each other forever 😍🙏🏾 God bless y’all ❤️
Sooo true❣ Most people won't even go on their own. I agree may God continue to bless them & their beautiful family. I pray that he blesses yours💕
@@heavenlyfiremedia thank you 🙏🏾💖
Beautiful! Praying you continue in a happy marriage and for they 85-92 communication Joe spoke on! God bless
I love you two and agree with everything you both are saying. I went to therapy with my child and thought I was there to support them and found out the therapy helped me so much too. I think everyone should go to therapy. Beautiful people and family.
I feel you guys have grown a lot into the one that marriage symbolizes, even though your intentions have always been so...I see it more now. So happy for you guys! You're such an inspiration, and I pray to have as beautiful and as fruitful of a journey as you guys have had. I enjoy these reflections and intentions you guys share in respect to your relationship with God and his will for you.
Love watching your conversation together and seen you both realise praying together and remembering Gods word when your thoughts or the world hits you is always the way to go. Keep going your doing awesome, appreciate being part of your journey by seen your intimate conversation. God bless you and your family.
I've been married for 22 years and we did marriage counseling at the beginning but our individual spiritual maturity was our greatest asset. Know that therapy will be needed multiple times...as a wellness check, not only a solution to a problem. It's can be a win-win! ❤
Your video really helped alot of people heal. Thank you so much for talking about the power of God.
I love ❤️ when you guys do these sit down conversations. Even though I’m not marry you guys make me see relationship differently and think about what I want in a relationship. I just love ❤️ you guys and family, the kids are so beautiful. God Bless you guys 🙏❤️🦋🦋🦋
Love this ❤️ healthy communication from both sides is needed as much as our communication with God. I love the emotional maturity… God bless your union.
Counselling is soo necessary (with the right partner that agrees and wanna heal too/together...)
Such a beautiful and honest discussion. How wonderful it must be to be able to find a counselor who is able to bridge the spiritual with the psychological and individual. I will never forget the advice we got when we got married.... That marriage is almost a triangular union with God. With husband on one bottom corner, wife on the other bottom corner and God at the top point of the triangle. As you surrender to God and get closer to him as individuals (up the triangle), you get closer and closer to each other. This made so much sense to me at the time, but childhood trauma and intergenerational hurts weren't included in that formulation as they can be barriers to feeling safe enough to trust that process.
Very self-aware of you! It has been my experience that it is hard to feel empathy unless we ourselves are self aware. Why do we act and feel and react the way we do? Without that we blame others for everything. Kudos to Joe for owning his experiences and trying to understand where his feelings and fears come from, as well as understanding that sometimes he is reacting to something in him- rather than Alena doing something TO him. God bless you both, continue to introspect, pray, seek guidance, love and support each other.
Really great discussions Joe & Alena! I have watched a lot of your old videos... Alena, wow, you are transitioning so strongly and maturely...it is an AMAZING transformation. Joe, you are the smooth and steady rock. Your unwavering personality has clearly been a foundation for the family. You both have grown a lot over the last decade, and STILL together...isn't that exciting?!!? I liked the testimony of Joe fasting for you Alena, and how it moved you; as it should have. You are both a very inspiring couple to so many out there. Keep doing what you do and yes, I hope you both do put more prayer 'Together' into practice. The family who prays together, STAYS TOGETHER!!! Amen & Amen. (great editing Joe, you pick good music!) : ) Congrats Alena on achieving your Doctorate Degree! Tamara from Virginia
This is making me so aware of the work that I need to do on myself a single person.
Well said. It’s so necessary to meditate on the word of God daily to renew our minds. Praying for our spouses is a must.Totally agree marriage counseling is a good thing. Thank you both for sharing. Have a blessed week MazeLee family❤️🙏🏾
This was very good for anyone looking to get married or having stumbling blocks in their marriage. Thanks for sharing
You guys are a blessing,love you both. Thank for being such a inspiration to the souls of others.
Just had to pause and say thank you so much for this. I’ve recently split with the present love of my life (thus far lol) and we were unequally yoked this has freed me to being way more comfortable in my decision to not settle although it hurts in the moment to be without him. I pray and have so much faith that God will bless me with a husband who’s heart is also after Jesus. God bless you both and pls keep these talks coming you’re an inspiration 💕
It is nice to hear Joe really get to speak. He explains very well how this process is working for his own personal awareness in helping him become a better and happier person and partner. He doesn’t use God as a weapon or a judgement against his wife or a way to control her. He gets it…………. It is interesting how the partner who appears the most insecure and controlling describes themselves as lacking empathy because they had a happier, more healthy childhood. Some people just suck the oxygen out of the air for everyone else. Their need to win and have all the focus on them can be withering to the spirit of others.
I love that you two can discuss your ideas with respect, compassion and thoughtfulness. This is the new new of relationships. I support marriage counseling. You two represent a working implementation of seeking harmony. Your journey will inspire many and does inspire me. After a full day, I look forward to watching positive young love. I thank God for you both. May his love reign in us forever.
I was so encouraged by this video ! Thank you so so very much. Suggestions well taken. A Godsend. Blessings to you always!
This is an amazing video. You both are so inspiring not just to couples but also a single person. Especially getting to know yourselves better and keeping the LOVE of GOD and Love in your marriage. You are on the right track in your journey. Praying is a very powerful way of solving problems and asking for guidance. It really works. I also pray for people who do not know about praying.
Looking from the outside of your marriage , I find that you were so involved in having children, you neglected your relationship with each other without knowing it. Now that your children are growing up you don’t exactly know how to communicate with each. You can begin by praying together, being more affectionate to each other, spending more time together. The scripture I would suggest you read together Is Ephesians 5:25-33 and meditate on each role to see how each of you can make the changes. This will allow your love for each other to show from the heart, keep loving and caring for each other 🌹🌷🌺💐🌼
Yes love and affection is a big part of marriage, not just working on your spiritual life. God is always first but love and affection is not to be overlooked. I’m grateful for 36 years of marriage and praying together for more .
Alena and Joe, thank you for the beautiful prayer. You are strong enough to share many aspects of your life with us; you have brought us joy and some of your pain; watching you discuss your issues is inspirational; I shed a tear for you both. How dare anyone hold you up to any scrutiny; we all live this life with strengths and frailties; some of them we are aware of; others we discover along the way; life is just a process of learning; you have the ability to find your way through the maze - because you have a lot of love for each other. Love you both.
watching this family vlog for many years and i love Joe how he handle herself and so patient and understand to Alena and kids ...salute to you broooo God bless your family
I watched you guys over the years and I noticed the big changes in your marriage where you guys have grown with understanding one another. Respect is so important in relationships that help in communication. Many blessings to you and your family.🥰
Elena, i can sense your desire to grow & heal. As a black woman a lot of our trauma causes us to have characteristics & personality traits that may appear to others on the outside as though we are loud & overbearing & need to control the world around us but it really just stems from a place of fear. I applaud her for being honest with herself. I know she loves him & love comes with sacrifice & I believe their desire & commitment to grow & heal themselves will heal their marriage & carry them through.
❤ well said, or should I say, perfectly said¿ ❤
Perfectly spoken. People jufge her severely but upu can see she's really trying, she's putting effort. She was married young and has no mother to guide her.
Thank you for being so open and honest. You guys are awesome. I think "preventative" therapies are helpful whether they are of a mind, body or soul nature.
Me just mesmerized over the bond, body language, sense of reasoning, connection, chemistry etc thank you for sharing. I admire you guys so much 😘😘😘
I used to hear the old folks in my family talk about the 7 year itch.
It's amazing that our parents didn't do therapy, they just seemed, to work things out.
Therapy is good thing for you two, remaining close to the word,
you can't go wrong 🙏🏾
May God continue to Bless your marriage, Alena thank you so much for that prayer👌❤️
This video makes me cry reminding me the ups and downs in marriage. This topic enlighten me more and think more on what should I want to be in my marriage.
This is so good! How long in our carnal mind have we believed the lies of the enemy through culture, family, circumstance etc…?Knowing the word of God replaces the lies and the voice of the accuser and we don’t have to accept the lies. So exciting to see the refinement that God is doing in your marriage. We never stop growing and I think it’s beautiful that you both are vulnerable enough to include the world in your journey. God bless you both!
I definitely agree with marital counseling! It helped restore my marriage. Then we started taking marriage classes in Chicago. Afterwards, we turned and began helping others in the church with their marriage. As certified marriage coaches and counselors. It's so worth it!
Hearing Alena being so gentle and Joe s old soul shining through is everything ⭐🤞💓
What you guys have in a marriage seems really great. I really appreciate your example and pray for continued blessings for you and your family.
Having the courage to face & accept the real truth about ourselves, is such a huge step.
And whatever we take true responsibility for, God can change.
Thanks so much for sharing. 💐
Relationships are difficult, but I think communication is the key. Talk to each other no matter what, be best friends Always. Secondly Always choose to love each other. Love is a choice. I think it is so wonderful and awesome how joe embraces the older children who are not his biological kids. He cares for them, communicates with them easily, and is a real father to them in every sense of the word. That right there is family!!!
Yes is really; but we think too try to speak. The choice and man and woman is not easy;there are attraction's ; and after attraction's ;other things became Serious; Day after day and ect.........
Good good Communication ; is not easy; but when you're a believer ; you can talk with sheperad to help you.
7 is the number of perfection. This maybe a time of reflection and perfection. No one is perfect and marriage isn't but God is 🙏🏾
Thank you guys for being so transparent. Therapy is so important. Good video !
This video was a blessing to my soul and my heart. I truly appreciate you both and the truth that you bring in every video that you share with us. I pray that God continually moves in your lives and continually blesses not just your marriage but your union and your family, Amen.❤️
A family that prays together, stays together ❤️
I think that's wonderful!Because their taking CARE of the well being of their marriage and NOT taking their marital commitment for granted.
If you take care of your union, your union will take care of you ♥️
You two are so smart! That’s really good y’all are doing that! May God continue to Bless y’all and you learn and grow daily!
It is good to open up about your feelings with each other and to be friends during the process. Your perspective on the purpose of Marriage Counselling has provided a positive view and so people will be more receptive to this as a preventative and or preservative means to enhance marriage rather than a band aide on an open wound.
I enjoy you two and hope you grow in the love God has ordained to exist in holy matrimony. Keep on pursuing each other to achieve his/her best in life together. Take care.
This was a great conversation, im glad you guys are following God's plans. May God continue to bless you and your family..
This conversation between you two was highly appreciated and is necessary in relationships and is a great example of how couples should work through issues that arise in marriage Joe is an excelllent support which has contributed significantly to your growth and
success , love and appreciate him with all your heart.Thank you both for sharing your lives in this way. Excellent teamwork and example for the world.Awesome use of your platform.Thank you for your prayers as I continue to pray for your marriage and your family.
I loved this thank for being so transparent and for your prayers. This was so deep and needed for me. GOD BLESS YOUR MARRIAGE AND YOUR FAMILY
Thank you guys for your honesty and being so open about this personal relationship called marriage.I to am married and go through some of the same issues you spoke about, so the encouragement is appreciated.I agree with the prayer and fasting for your family it connects you to throne of grace almost instantly, may God continue keep you guys together through this journey called life.amen
You guys are amazing! I pray God's continued protection over you individually, your marriage, children, and finances. Alena, you are GORGEOUS. Truly. You are elegant even in the way you listen. I pray that you walk into the fullness of who God has called you to be and not what others have tried to add unto you. May those things fall away in Jesus' mighty name. God bless you both.
This was truly enlightened. I love proactive.
Counseling is a good thing when a relationship is healthy or not. Good for you. It’s important to have friends/folks in your life that have healthy marriages too. Understanding differences in communication styles is very helpful. Love and Marriage is a great book that talks about this issue a lot. I’m glad that you all have had this talk with your viewers/audience. Thank you for sharing. I hope that it will help listeners. Good reminders for sure. It’s so important to invest in your marriage and your family. Not just monetarily but in intangible ways. They may want to do marriage counseling too. Premarital counseling is great for finding out where some of our individual holes are and may highlight issues we never knew we had.
...It's so awesome that you and Joe recognized that seeking counseling is not only for couples who may have issues within their marriage but for also those who want to maintain a healthy relationship and marriage. Its also good too that your children will view therapy as something normal, healthy, and not viewed as something that symbolizes failure or trouble. May God continue to bless you beyond measure.