Realities of being Raised in a Narcissistic Family.
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- Realities of being raised in a narcissistic family. #narcissisticfamily #toxicfamilies #dysfuctionalfamilies #narcissisticparents #narcissisticsiblings #scapegoat #jillwise
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The child does not have his/her own life. Its very sad n scary. Their demands r atrocious. Thanks Jill.
Extremely true! All glory to my Heavenly Father for stepping in to protect me and show a better way to live life. That Narc parent is very jealous of my family.
If you grew up like this, never date a partner because they “feel like home.” This has wired your instincts to find narcissistic people comfortable.
This is why I’m bisexual 😢
When I met the man I married. He was best man I was maid of honor in our friends wedding. When I saw him I was instantly drawn to him. And when we danced the slow dance, I was home. Everyone else disappeared. I didn't want the dance to end. I knew this is who I was suppose to with. We have been married for 42 and counting. I was raised by a malignant narcissist step mother, and a covert narcissist birth father. His mother was a grandiose narcissist. We chose not to continue the mistakes of our parents. We have 4 boys here. Three of them have special needs. And our oldest is typical normal. The special needs of the others are, 2 have A.D.D. and Autism Spectrum Disorder. One born with it one from vaccines. My youngest had all that plus Down Syndrome. Oh yeah, I was diagnosed with A.D.D. at 4yrs.and recently with Autism Spectrum Disorder. I am 62. My birth mother lost custody because of physical and sexual abuse. And my birth father would say to me with great passion and anger " I hope you have a child just like you!" Well you always receive more than you give. So what Satan and my birth father me t for evil God ment for good. God blessed me with 3 like me. My teachers and all of my children even the3 children I lost through miscarriages and are in heaven. They are all my gifts and teachers. God is still healing and there is still pain. But God is faithful. He has all the answers and guidance.
So true ,,,,this stuff is hardwired ,,,,,,,,even with all the years of research experience in therapy I still seem to attract narcissistic people,,,,,,,, how do you break this toxic cycle
It's also transactional. They think spending money on them, including housing and food, shows love and remind them constantly of every penny spent and threaten them to withhold monetary items if not listened to.
Yes. Its so true.
Exactly...
It's heartbreaking.
So spot on. I was a good student, stayed out of trouble, had nice friends and did what I was told. But excellent wasn't good enough for my father; he wanted perfection, at least from me (not my brother, though-which added to my confusion). I never understood what was happening. I was well into adulthood before someone helped me see. While I've come a long way, the problems this caused are some of the issues I still struggle with, even though I'm almost 64 years old.
I’m 58 ,,,,,,,I didn’t wake up until I was around 42 ,,,,,,,,,🤨still struggling
Stay strong, bro!
Facts!!!
If I didn't clean up after my familys mess I was charged my benefit money and yelled at so I relate here. Feels like you described my entire life
I am really afraid for my two boys. They have been groomed into not liking me and I haven't seen them in a year.
Look to God. My heart breaks for you and your boys. May the Lord be with you help you and give you guidance. God Bless.
I am grateful to have real love in my life now. I thank the powers that be.
It sounds like a generational curse..... Must be,.. Past on from generation to gereration.
Heartbreaking.
It is. The Bible also has lots of information about the family curse, narcissists and the child's responsibility to move on from their parents to lead their own life.
Ex husband a covert , raised by a Malignant narcissist ( his mother) was living a double life I found out at our 20 year of marriage mark. He came up with an almost too crazy to believe plan to ditch me and our sons for his new supply. He carried out his plan and hasn’t seen our sons in years they’re now 16,19& 20. We imagine he’s told elaborate lies to his family and friends about the situation and why he hasn’t seen or talked to them in so long. The weird thing is that no one from his side of the family has tried to contact the boys either since he left. It’s all so hard to wrap my head around sometimes.
So so true , a very sad existence
So true. It damages at such a deep level the childs soul becomes damaged.
True. There’s no real emotional connection between a child and their narcissistic parent. It’s heartbreaking, you feel lonely from the beginning of your life.
Nice Job Mrs. Wise!
True! The child feels the pain of not being loved but can’t express or do anything about. The child is left completely alone, completely helpless, confused, and the sadness that grows out of this feeling of helplessness and being alone in the world lasts throughout their entire life because a parent is such a pivotal and irreplaceable figure.
Je pleure. C'est vraiment
This makes me want to cry..
I’m already crying, I have these children and their mother is malignant narcissist
🙏🙏🙏 first time in my life i have found you!! Who knows this condition!! I am 30 now and i can only cry!! Love and abuse! Two sides of a coin!! So true!!
Yes, yes and yes. You are so correct
My lover was so abused by his family I share this with him, he leave me And said he went back home because of loyalty,
He feels as though he owes them one of the world's top businessman but he is so weak in the knees when it comes to his family. I'm so happy for I did not get dragged down in his chaotic mess.
Facts Jill my narcissistic father makes everything about him.
I can so relate to this
Thank you for making those videos. I have bookedmarked this video. I am afraid my kids will be screwed up by their narcissist mother.
Call on the Name of The Lord. Confess Jesus as Lord & Savior and reverse that curse!! Romans 10:9; Luke 2:4
100% true. This was my father.
You described my mother perfectly. I be Always felt unloved judges & felt like I was a burden. My C dad tried but he was weak & often her flying monkey.
They used to hit me even as a teenager. However, she Spoiled rotten both my B brothers. They are rotten to the core people today. I C married twice, narc men.
Was in same situation 😳
Narcissistic abuse really should be a criminal offense, punishable by prison…
I honestly think of narcissism as a predator type shit. Cause they be preying on certain people they deem as weak, target make friends with them just to take advantage and betrayed them. Causing psychological abuse, emotional abuse, etc..
I just had an argument that I wanted to just stay a convo initially and it was over this somewhat. I brought up the one person that seems to show me interest and concern is some one I met online that I never met but she tried to demonize them and scare me, then dismiss the fact she and families were willing to let me go unloved and out in the cold where anything could happen. But the one person who shows me kindness must be worse. Narc's logic be crazy. I was like what would care if they were if you act like my life is no concern behind closed doors of course.
So true. I married a narcissist with super narcissist parents. I picked it up as soon as he took me to his parents home. The mother did not clean, fo grocery shopping or cook for her family. The all provided fir themselves. The parents did not speak to their children nor to me or him. So my ex narcissist husband did not speak to me in 20 yrs of marriage. Thank God it ended.
Both my narc parents were jealous of me and in competition with me ... I think they wanted me dead ,,I never gave them any problems ,,, I suffered substance abuse ... they laughed at me never gave a shit ,,,I finally got help and therapy ... and before they died I let them know how f___k up they were .... my mother went into a rage ,,,, lol sad but true ... my side of the street was clean ,,, a normal parent would discuss the issue ..... but a narc will flip out ,,, That confirmed my diagnosis of them ...both covert Narcissist
Wow!!! ..... Its like you were there😮
Yes 🙋🏻
“Love and abuse are two sides of the same coin” at this point I don’t know if my parents hate me or obsessed with me at first they push me away then they bring me back and make me feel special or they say the sweetest things about me and then they talk to me like like I should’ve never been born and don’t even get me started on my mom’s guilt tripping…🤢 and my mom does this thing after hurting me she gets lovey dovy and acts like she deserves an apology and pretends none of what she did actually happened it’s her way of expressing love I hate my birthday now because of my dad first he calls me a mistake unwanted and tells me he should’ve sold me for something better and then on my birthday he lectures me about my birth story from beginning to end and tells me how happy he was to have me just to make me cringe and hate myself more 🤢 I used to be excited about my birthday at this point its the exact opposite a bunch of people come up to me and ask me what I’m gonna do for my birthday my self conscious: I’m gonna do another suicide attempt…
Hi, I want to let you know about this their jobs for feel superior and feel happiness are-
Their first job is to make people to feel negative emotions like shame, fear etc the more you feel these emotions they feel pleasure.
They just project their own shame and fear to you because they are so fragile they cant feel it so, you are feeling their shame and fear. It's not yours. They have created a persona to you and project it on you. They only speak lie so your birth story is false. They never speak 1 truth to you and hide everything which is real, you believethem because they condition you to believe them.
Their job is to make others ashamed of themselves and hate themselves so they control you, feel superior.
They love to put people on self doubt, confusion by making them believing whatever they are seeing, feeling, doing, thinking is wrong by gasliting.
They control others emotions if they cant they cant take it.They control your emotions and your every action all your life. You made you their puppet real one. Make you feel shame and fear. Observe what are you feeling. Feel what you want to feel not what they made you. When you are feeling negative emotions after they say something that means they are controlling you.
Their every action, even word they speak to you is make you feel negative emotions by gasliting your reality, devalue you, put you in a trouble so that you suffer which make them happy(their supply they need to survive every day) watch danish videos to understand more and observe your parents yourself. To know what damage they done to you.Remember their is nothing wrong with you. They are mentally ill and psycologycally brainwashed and condition you this way. Healing is only way❤
Pretty accurate.
My parents would beat the hell out of me, and then call me into the kitchen table and say they did it cos they love me.
That's makes sense from a child care to now !!! I still pray to GOD to overcome to break that cycle, it is hard with the GOD on my side I can make it work !!! Just saying!!!
IT IS A CULTURE..
Sad ❤
iam afraid that my daughter n soon end as narcicists... her mom abandoned us always till 2021 when she left whit other man. I tried to give them all they need, but dont know if they have a void caused by their mother.
I got real love from my Codependent dad... but that's it.. and then got hatred from my mm because of it
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