8 MAJOR Green Flags in Guys (you should date him!)
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- čas přidán 2. 08. 2024
- Instead of talking about red flags in men and red flags in dating, let’s talk about the green flags! What should you look for?
I’m going to talk about what I think are 8 major green flags in guys, but if you have any other huge green flags in men that you feel are important, comment down below!! 💚
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CHAPTERS:
0:00 Green Flags in Guys!
1:05 Green Flag #1
3:18 Green Flag #2
4:33 Green Flag #3
6:16 Green Flag #4
8:37 Green Flag #5
10:40 Green Flag #6
11:38 Green Flag #7
12:39 Green Flag #8
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1. Can turn brain off with him
2. Has a vision for himself
3. Communicates kindly
4. Sexual discipline
5. He brings out the best in you
6. Does things that improve your life
7. Has clear intentions with you
8. Not afraid to talk about the future
well, in todays modern times any male who has all these above green flags will be seen as weak, a looser, and a doormat to be used and abused and rejected by modern wahmen.
1. Can turn brain off with him - Not sure what that means.
2. Has a vision for himself - Agree.
3. Communicates kindly - Partially agree. Communication must be harsh if any one spouse leaves the kitchen with the stove on or drives drunk.
4. Sexual discipline - Agree.
5. He brings out the best in you - Disagree. Each human must try to improve themselves. That is why we marry adults and not children.
6. Does things that improve your life - Agree.
7. Has clear intentions with you - Agree.
8. Not afraid to talk about the future - Agree.
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@@pmaitrasmI’m a male and I agree with all of this but I’d like to add unto the communication bit. I think men shouldn’t be afraid of communicating their frustrations or concerns. But the language in which we as men should use should be kind/respectful in nature. I don’t think it’d be appropriate to call a spouse names or any derogatory terms even when upset or not. When it comes to the tone in which we as men communicate in I believe as long as it isn’t yelling and the tone is reasonable for the situation then it’s completely fine. But I see nothing wrong with having a more stern tone if the situation calls for it either.
If a man can’t even communicate effectively and honestly with his wife, then in no way is that same man gonna be able to communicate effectively against someone who is threatening his wife.
And for all the single ladies out there, hoping for a good man that you imagine marrying. Ask yourself this question, what type of woman would you imagine that man marrying? Now do the dirty work and become that woman
@@EazyE_, Thank you. We must not indulge in abusive language. I agree. I will add another aspect of impropriety in language.
When we refer to Mother Mary, Mother Teresa, Florence Nightingale, et al., as a lady, we are _using_ the word lady.
When we refer to Princess Diana as a lady, we are _abusing_ the word lady.
We must not use abusive language.
"Do you like the person you become when you are with him": Ahhhh the best verse
When was this said?
Boyfriend is all of these, I am honestly truly blessed. ❤
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How did you guys meet x
@@hc7092 Hi! We met online on a penpal app, it's called "Bottled".
@@hc7092I met her at the bar
For sure there are so many crappy low quality men nowadays is insane im bi so I am very close to switch to the other party(lesbian) because men are just hopeless and crap.
Do not lose your boyfriend take care of him and love him as he does to you, you may not find someone like him ever again is very very but very rare! I love seeing happy relationships since is almost non existent and very rare
God bless both of you and take care!
As a 25 year old man who currently looks for dates and potentially a relationship, this video is very insightful and interesting. It really motivates me to further work on myself and strive to be the best version of myself.
@Lentreeo All my blesses for you! You are already a lot of steps above your fellow men. You take this as a improvement not a personal attack 🤍🤍
Same here (M18). I also clicked on this video for self-improvement.
I think 25 it a perfect age and getting married at 26 or 27 is a perfect time depending on your personality and personal life
@@uriel_valle that's ambitious haha but hey why not lol
If you use this video as a lead, then I wish good luck to you... 🤣
Please post an update how it went. Surprise me! (90% you won't...)
i like the approach of green flags cause usually videos are about red flags
Same here
This! Was complaining about this the other day! Everyone always talks about red flags, but not many people actually talk about green flags!
@@mycroftholmes8261 its so important, cause people with bad intentions can take notes for more red flags, where opposed to learning about green flags leaves little to no room for the negatives
I'm so blessed to say my husband is all of these. Number 4 is especially huge. Ladies, do not settle for these boys who follow hundreds of half-nude models on IG and gaslight you into thinking it's normal. There are real men out there who will prioritize you and treat you with dignity and respect. Settle for nothing less!
Well said ❤
Oh my God this one boy i was talking to..though he says he likes me i always felt something sneaky about him and and mind you we were only chatting...and with time his behaviour got sneakier and i felt that even in chats and after sometimes he followed me on instagram and i saw his following there are some half naked girls he was following..i don't want to judge him or anyone but i was sure he was not for me..and i began to distance myself from him...our connection begins with chat ends with chat..we never met each other...and i think it was for best..
Is this after you hoe around with multiple men? Then you want a man with dignity. Lol.
@@gypsysoul8565 It wasn’t meant to be 🥰
"don't make someone a priority, if they treat you as an option."
I always tried to express that I was on her side, that I supported her in her goals, and that we're a team toward the future.
My first wife blocked my goals, called me a doormat, and decided she didn't want to be married anymore.
My second wife appreciated me especially after her previous husband had blocked all her goals.
So your her kind of doormat i guess. Onless you changed then I am sorry.
That's how it works. Marriage is the end of the relationship. Once a woman gets you to concede (marry or p whip you), she loses all interest and moves on to the next guy to conquer. The key is to be 30 percent "nice" and 70 percent a man.
The worst thing you can do with a woman is..... to be kind.
@@azhuransmx126 No. Being kind is the worst thing you can do with a selfish or narcissistic woman. The best thing you can do with these women is to withdraw.
If she is a kind and generous woman (in spirit more than financial), then she deserves kindness in return. It is the positive experiences together that bond a couple together. Negativity kills love.
@@ChadAV69 It really depends on whta kind of women you get to know.
Yes, i met a lot of women that are insane because of Trauma.
Who an unreliable and would flake the moment everything is not perfect.
Then there are also women who are not like that.
My husband is all of this. I love him so much! I literally became my best version, I upgraded my life and character in any way possible. I'm so grateful. 🥰
The number of people in the comments saying their man meets all these green flags, gives me hope. I don't want to get married unless I have a good man, I would rather take care of myself rather than have someone who would only make things more difficult. I hear about so many negative traits and experiences these days that I wonder if a good healthy relationship is a thing, but clearly, it is. Thanks to everyone for sharing your experiences, and thank you Jillz, for another wonderful video!
Good men do exist!
lies...more lies everyday
modern girls will reject, ridicule, ghost and consider them doormats if any man today have any or all these green flags.
the only time girls start to ACCEPT these good traits are when they hit 30 or older.
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Yeah but what are you doing to attract a man like that? My guess is next to nothing because your a princess that does not need to improve or fit in to his needs. Happy cat ladying if thats your plan.
They exist. You just don't know them. Take it from a guy who doesn't like many people. There are always good and kind goys but they usualy wont start any conversation with you.
Yes, my man has all these green flags too - I love him! He suffered a covert narcissistic wife's abuse for 18 years, I suffered my perilous narcissistic husband's abuse for 14 years... And now we're so happy to find out that yes, happiness exists.
He still sometimes has some 'sadness' short episodes, and to me its clearly echo from the past - but with my support he's getting better and better.🤗🤗🤗
Thank you for your comment! I've been with my covert narcissistic wife for almost 18 years and I am scared of the "dating scene" and finding someone else. I'm so glad you and others are able to find your match and and can find someone to love and support you.
@@jakeadams5741leave her man or talk it with her that she needs to change
Watching this, I was starting to wonder if there’s still guys out there like this in our day and age, and then I read the comments and saw so many ladies mention that their man is all of these and they’re so happy. Gives me some hope, so thanks, girls.
It gives me hope too but I haven’t found anyone like this yet 😢
There IS , they are Always by your side , but you don't réalisé it , but you have to tell thé différence between a simp and a gentleman
I’ve been all of these things for my whole life… 6’2”/eyes of blue, as well, I was married to the most amazing woman,have 2 wonderful kids… but she passed from breast cancer almost 20 yrs. ago, but I don’t know that life will give me the opportunity to find that kind of unconditional love again in this life time… Where are all the good women living in there sacred femininity? Or did they give up as well?
@@pauldavids7167 I really Hope that you will find that love again , and I Hope you will meet with your love in heaven
The thing is .
Ru the women which the good guys want?
Coz most of the time women think that they're a prize not realising that if u think of yourself as a product then someone u get viewed as one and get wear and teared as a product.
The funny and ironic thing is that women friend zone guys with these traits. Women do not respond to these things, and thats a fact.
Yup. They will go bang Chad and then complain they cant find a good man. 😅
I’m sorry that there are some women out there that made you feel that way. There are so many women that I know that do value these qualities in men, but it makes it easier to know that they’re not the one for you if they don’t seem to value any of these things you may bring to the table. Keep being yourself & being the green flag! The right women will eventually find herself gravitate towards you naturally. Don’t give up!
Yes exactly - you do all these things & then these grateful difficult women get turned off, so you are damned if you do & damned if you don’t. Why do you think us guys stonewall you girls & back off when irrationality occurs - cos we know the pattern of how you women operate. So if you sees these green flags - then don’t be a friend zoning ungrateful monkey brancher
Yes because the girl is not into the boy.
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My initial thought was "and where do I find these type of men" but after going through the comment section, I felt like I will someday. All the ladies speaking so proudly of their men being a green flag fills me with hope ❤
Everyone says that until it ends and they get divorced.😂
@@cavaleirosemlicenca3894 you're not lying but you didn't have to say it 🤣🤣
My Question is do you deserve one of these men nobody solely exists to serve the vanity and needs of others
@@cavaleirosemlicenca3894 after she cheats on him *
You find them in your friend zone.
1. Me, me, me - it's about me, because he can make me relax...
2. Has a vision for himself, he has goals, etc - ok, this is legit. Only concerning thing that he needs to be a leader. Strong independent woman or man should be a leader? Decide.
3. Communicates kindly when the couple is in an argument. "even in these tougher moments". Yes, the woman also needs to keep her cool. Not only the man. This is about again...how he should behave even though the woman doesn't behave similary.
4. Sexual discipline. This should be the body count in women's lives. If she's over 10, forget her. Likewise if a man can't keep his D in the pants, forget him.
5. He brings out the best in you...me, me, me again. You need to bring the best out of you. Not him. He can work as a catalyst, but not the engine itself.
6. Does things to improve your life. That's what relationships should exist in the first place. I agree.
7. Ha clear intentions. Absolutely 100% true.
8. Not afraid to talk about ...basically anything. This I approve absolutely. This is probably the most important thing in ANY relationship.
Good job! I highlighted a few points where I see space for improvement, but the video is really classy and contains good ideas. Keep going, keep improving!
Haven't watched yet but you read my mind. I've been thinking about red yellow and green flags (in all relationships not just romantic) and I realized I know what would make me pause (yellow) or retreat/stop (red) but not the positives to keep going.
YAS! ✨🙌💯
Only yesterday I wrote down that my future partner is someone in who's presence my nervous system is going to relax naturally! ✨❤️💯 And I'm so happy that you share this as one of the greenest green flags with so many sisters of our girl girls fam 💕
I don`t know if i was supposed to come across this video. But as a man, I approve this message! you NAILED it about our intentions!
Fascinating. I don’t understand how this video popped into my feed but I found it interesting. You’re right. As I watched, I got to remember the things I fell in love for. Thanks for sharing.
My boyfriend ❤!! I’m so happy to hear every point and just think literally him ❤️ thanks for this video 💕
Hey jillz....at this point ur videos have become my comfort place....i just love hearing your voice.....I'm just turning 17 but all your tips in your videos will help me become a better adult n shape myself....so a big thank you❤
Ok, as a man, I've been watching you, Jillz, for a good while, mostly for clear cut advice and guidance on exploring my feminine side, but also, I've seen red flag videos, green (like this), qualities and such, and honestly, videos like this helps me out in ways I hadn't thought about because I'm always focusing on just improving so many new things to better myself from when I was at rock bottom many years back. That said, I did get quite a lot of constructive things to pay attention to, while acknowledging those that I check off on, based on past relationships and other kinds of relationships I have. I'll give examples and something for me to look back on when I come back to this video to give myself perspective on how far I could come in time. Without further ado:
#1: I've been told I'm easy to talk to and that I've made past partners feel special, so, I think I'm good to go there, even though it's been a long time since being in a committed relationship.
#2: this one's harder for me, because I'm unable to pursue career aspects due to my Autism disability, however, in life, I've been trying to focus on living simply in the here and now but I do have aspirations to improve myself in ways to become my best self (losing weight, getting in shape, getting more active and healthier, learning on ways to be better) so, I don't know if it's green or red for me.
#3: Ok, this, I gotta work on. I've been guilty about verbally losing my cool, although I have tried to put the brakes on, so to speak. Solid point!
#4: I've gotten a lot better with that through understanding and age and maturity and just respecting women overall and their autonomy. Sure, I got my hormones but I refuse to pressure sexual things onto my partner.
#5: I can't tell you, in both romance and friendships, how many women in my life have told me that I made them better and that I help them. This one, I consider a high ranking honor.
#6: Ok, now, this one, I pride myself on generosity. And, as far as it improving quality of life of those that matter to me, I enjoy doing things, say, to help my grandmother out that she never asks me to do, like taking out the garbage from her apartment, getting her Tylenol if she's in pain and it being after a certain amount of time since she took others last and even just treating her or both of us to certain things like a cherry pie from the grocery store or food from a favorite restaurant we agree on. With a romantic partner in the future, I know I got this one ready to go for her.
#7: clear intentions, definitely. I'm not one for mind games, especially having such happen to me in brutal fashion in the past. But, I do try to keep it timely and not being rushy or pushy about the future, which brings me to number 8.
#8: this one, I've talked about a lot with my last partner, even though, sadly, it couldn't happen. Basically, we talked about the whole 9 yards over the years with each other. So, I'm not afraid but like I said in the previous part, I like to keep it timely appropriate, and according to mutual love over time.
Bravo, a man who can introspect is a great man. I hope you'll meet a great woman.
That is such an important video. Ladies, you deserve nothing less.
My partner is the best thing I could ever ask for ❤
My man is a walking green flag❤
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hoist him. u know where
I’m glad there are girls like you out there Jillz.All I want is a girl that’s cute,feminine and a sweetheart.That I can protect, provide and lead.But finding that in this society is very hard.But I hope that there more women like you out there, putting this content out.Hopefully it will reach more young ladies to go down your path.✌️💪👨👩👦👦
I am a guy that loves woman ;D -this is a wery fresh approach in general by switching it - Green flags instead of the usally oh no red - nice work
I know this video is targeted toward women seeking men, but as a man, I’m so grateful you ended up on my page. I’m 25 and I haven’t dated since I was in undergrad, so when I started dating again this year, I was really worried that I may not be a good boyfriend, especially since my own insecurities ruined my last relationship. While I can’t say I have all of these green flags, hearing your examples, I think I have definitely improved since my last relationship ended 4 years ago. And more importantly, for the flags I don’t have, you mentioned concrete things I can work on to ensure I treat my current partner right. I know I’m not perfect, but I really want to do things right and treat her right this time, so I just wanted to say thank you for making this video ☺️ and I will do my best to take your words to heart!
I just want to say I am truly grateful I have come across your channel. I literally have a book I am journalling in and taking so many notes on all of your videos. They are truly so helpful and you are helping me step into my feminine energy to become a better friend, partner and woman. I appreciate and admire the way you can articulate yourself. Thank you for doing the work and reflecting on your experiences to be able to share this wisdom with us. x
Aw I’m so glad you’re here and getting value from my videos!! ❤️❤️❤️
I do all that, really without even thinking about it, and still get the "I don't feel the spark/magic/butterflies..." speech after 2 or 3 months. They say I'm not boring, just lose feelings or something. Guess I pick poorly.
Just take your time, no rush in locking anyone down for the sake of not being alone. The right person will shine brighter than the others. I've been married for 10 years now and my wife and I have the same spark we had when we first met. Look for a partner that share the same values and similar interests and someone that could be or is your best friend. Also, be sure to progressively be the best version of yourself and they will come.
I noticed that a man can have all these 8 green flags except one and suddenly he is cast out as a potential man for a woman to date. In my case it was: you are all fine except..........You are so fantastic except..........I can understand you but..........I can see what you mean but you know I am looking for........................And so on. But what had happened was that she dated someone else and after some long while she contacted me and wanted to return. I reminded her what I lacked and suddenly it was OK with her. My response was: there are NO returns, and NO deposits, NO reclaims.
Well done ✅. Mate.
I'm an Introvert guy The information in this video is gold! I hope I can improve my dating life using this video
Appreciate these perspectives so I can continue to grow and be the best man for my woman. Thank you!
@@redpanther9380 appreciate the fan love buddy!
After 7 years, my man still does all of these 🥲💗.
Fast forward 3 years, you are initiating a divorce because you are bored
Damn I now realize why my past relationship did not work out. I did not have most of the green flags you mentioned. I didn't know any better. Thank you for making this video!
Now my Sunday looks perfect seeing a video from Jillz thanks for making my Sunday ❤
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Loved the depth of your green flags! Definitely resonates things that would be shown within 1 year and further in relationships ❤
These are great! Fully agree. I would love to see what the opposite would look like - green flags for women or what men are looking for in terms of signs to check in with myself too ❤
I love how her cute dog is sleeping in the background!!❤
The last four are what women think they like, but nowadays these make almost any girl loose interest really quick...
You are right. Its 'women' not girls.
What women say they want and what they actually respond to with increased interest are not the same. Sorry ladies but it has been scientifically proven. Study the psychology and you'll see...
There's only 1 green flag that matters, and funny enough, it's also literally green, it's this 👉🏼💵💲💵💲💵.
I'm being a bit hyperbolic, but try telling your girl that your kind personality, good looks, or six pack will pay for food, rent or medical expenses and see how that works out.
*lose
What they say and what they respond to………far removed.
I know you are not doing this for the guys, but this was helpful. I am always trying to become a better man and it's helpful to get a woman's perspective on what makes a good man. I have some of these down and some probably need some work. Thank you for your insight.
you are simply the best femininity-related content creator on the internet! so helpful and clear and intelligent
Girlie you look so cute with the hairband! It’s giving Blair Waldorf ❤
Ahh thank you!!!💕
Fr, I was thinking that too this look is giving Blair Waldorf x Slytherin
Hi Jillz! I discovered your channel recently and love your thoughts and advice. I already know how strongly I feel about my partner's green flags, but I totally agreed with the priorities in your list and he meets each and every one! Especially anticipating my needs and naturally helping me be in tune with my highest, most loving self. I might say another green flag is everything felt "easy," especially early on. Not to say there aren't obstacles or difficult talks that can happen, but you shouldn't be pulling teeth to get a text from him. Or even having a more internal struggle of trying to identify your feelings for him. If he's causing you angst and uncertainty, it aint it. I've always said that falling in love with my partner is the easiest thing I've ever done. Happy to say we'll be celebrating our anniversary in a couple of weeks 💜
I think I'm in the right path, I just need to find the one, good video!
The guy who claims to love me has all of these traits but that "you like what you become in his presence" one, I only agree with half of it. He's a lil shy, and not talkative at all, and when I'm being my chatty self (which is almost all the time) sometimes I feel so chatty comparing to him about how much I talk. The rest, he made me feel so special, and he thinks I bring out the best in him, and is always rooting for me and my goals. My hesitant, conscious overly calculating self is always weighing stuff (
As always awesome video Jillz, I just relax and wear my PJs on Sunday nights to watch your videos
That's interesting. Did you let him know that you don't like it when you're being more chatty than him? Maybe he likes listening to your chatty self.
I am the same kind of man, I just can't talk with people it's crazy. I need the person to guide me with that, I need to feel safe which seems kinda feminine lol, but then I can spread my wisdom, kindness and critical thinking. I don't know if I will find a girl that can helps me with that and not just feel like I am a weirdo that can't speak...
@@chaosfr3959 Oh no, don't worry at all about that. It's okay for both men and women to need to feel safe around others. There will definitely be a girl who will love you just the way you are. And also being a shy myself I can surely say that shy people are the best and have so much to offer the world :)
@@danethenice yep I did multiple times, I say, "I spill a lot don't I?"
And he always says "Nah I always love listening to you"
I'm an introvert, but he's a lot more introvert than me, and when we start talking, it's usually me who realizes after a little while that I'm talking a lot and he's just listening to me.
@@arisha8278Soo you are gonna pass on a relationship, because you talk too much according to yourself, he even says he likes it...
This is why so many people are single.
These are soooo good. This shows me that I'm in a toxic marriage. 😢 but I'm grateful for knowing these. ❤
As a man I put the effort you as a women put in if you don’t even talk to me I don’t talk to you.
Dating is a struggle rn so this is helpful 😊
That dog in the background 😅Love it!!! @ 11:40 the dog be like, "why is my mommy talking to a wall?"
As someone who is getting back into dating it was nice to see that 5 of these I already do well (so I have been told) two I am currently working on, which leaves me with one flag to work on. Excited and hopeful, thanks for the insight!
As a man I want to say that you won't find these type of men on dating apps usually, so get out there and interact with people irl
So yes bodycount matters for both women and men
Yes brother
Thank you ! As a woman, I really don’t like dating apps. I have never used them at the age of 29. But what I don’t understand is, that I never get approached by man. I often get compliments for my looks but also for my character. And I have strong boundaries and I am educated. I am sorry to write in such a blunt way, I just don’t understand, what I should offer more, to just get approached. Thank you sir.
Please do the same for green flags in women!
I was thinking of asking that :)
im pretty sure she wouldn't like triggering her core audience
As a man (m18), some of my green flags for women are:
1.: she shows interest in me and is willing to put energy into a relationship (I don't want it to be one-sided, where only one of us is investing their energy (and time), while the other just complies/ is dragged along)
2.: I can have fun with her and be myself (feel like I'm where I belong), but also talk/discuss about deep, meaningful topics
3.: She is open and willing to improve/ learn
4.: kindness (very important)
5.: positivity (she doesn't play victim to gain my attention)
Keep in mind, that there is much more to a relationship, than just some green flags. Also they differ from man to man. See this just as a rough overview.
And please don't play "hard to get". This will lower your chances tremendously.
@@davidsommer325 Thank you for sharing this :)
In summary.....be a leader, be successful (hence smart, rich ect ect), be stoic, be protective, be loyal and you get the girl!
It is what it is guys....society is very demanding when setting the standards that define a high status man
More gymnastics to try to fit the video into your viewpoint than the actual olympics
"Get the girl" ok, the girl is a slot machine reward.
The video is half "give some f*cks about how she feels" and half "have a life with goals on your own so she can have one".
Also that he's completely honest , my toxic ex told me that all men lie(because he was a dishonest man) , i believe true men completely in their masculine energy don't lie because they don't have to.
Edit:dear ladies some men in the comment section are normalising lying in relationship lol😂.
Sure thing. Try to be honest to your employer that you have no experience in the field and see how that works for you
As a man who holds himself in high esteem I’d like to assure you that your assumption that those proper men don’t lie, especially with their partner, is correct.
It’s not enough to not entertain the men you don’t want, they’ll still linger and try to check in with you and you know the intention they’ll bring with them. You have to drive them and keep them away, and a usually a firm “NO” will do that.
Well maybe your the kind of girlfriend it helps to lie to because your awful otherwise. I do believe in being honest with people who have earned that right. Its not given to everyone and you should lie to some people. Lie to all that want nothing good from you lie to people who does not have your best interest at heart. Lie to women that hold shit you say to them in confidence over your heads forever. Lie to selfish women that do not care about your needs or don't understand that a relationship is not all about her!
@@Lightflames85 thanks stranger🫰😌💕 ( I guess somebody was caught lying in the past, it triggered them lol)😂 , any man that lie doesn't matter to whom isn't a true man, now go hate somewhere else😊.
@@Lightflames85 thanks stranger 🫰😌💕 ( I guess somebody was caught lying and cheating in the past lol😂 , it triggered them) , a true man wouldn't lie to anyone, doesn't matter who is he talking to, when he loves he loves that person from whole heart , he just picks one who is right for him , he doesn't play games , you're the kind of person who would cheat and then would blame victim for catching you cheating lol. , Go 🥰 spread your hate somewhere else.And btw it's "you're" not your.
As a guy this helped me too. I saw some points that I can work and improve upon.
What I Love the most with her is her gentleness and kindness
Interesting to see as a man. I thought there aren't much more of this type of women anymore, but i'm very glad there are. Please spread your message further so we as masculine men and feminine woman can improve the world together
I love your channel jillz!! You give great advice ❤❤ going to go back and rewatch your feminine energy video now
Being a green flag has only lead to being single or cheated on. The problem is what she says she wants isn't the same as how she behaves. Especially if you're her first "Good" Man.
This is so true but I want you to know something additional. My ex boyfriend had almost all of these but even if someone talks about the future and tells you that he loves you, you gotta look at his actions. Sometimes guys are so motivated by their future and goals that they don’t really have time to be in a relationship with you, and that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you, it just means that at the moment you have different plans and places to be
you can't find someone who has everything well set just either make sure to regulate that your plans go together or leave before its causes emotional damage.
In my experience, derailing my life plans for a woman doesn't end well. I've experienced a major setback in my own life by bringing a relationship up to equal priority with my goals. Granted, I chose a woman who didn't know who she was or what she wanted, and I think if I can find one who does, then being more flexible with my plans should be less risky. I want to align my life around a central vision, even if it's a partner's (I don't mind playing support to a remarkable woman, but unless I can find her, I'm just gonna stay focused on being a remarkable man), but most people in their early 20's don't have one so I gotta align around my own. It's tricky.
So in summary:
1) You can turn off your brian with him in his presence.
2) Has to have a vision for himself.
3) Communicates even during difficult times (keeping his cool)
4) Sexual Discipline
5) He brings out the best in you
6) Does things to improve your life
7) Has clear intentions with you
8) Not afraid to talk about your future
As a man, to all the women watching this, i have few questions, since the audience are mostly women.
1) Comfortable enough to turn off your brian? Okay, is that why you sleep around with bad boys when you are young? Whats comfortable around him? His reckless, arrogant attitude under the facade of confidence? Yeah right, and then have regrets after, whats worse is you women carry that into your marriage making a "nice guy" boring to you in marriage, cause he isnt "reckless", "fun" and "adventurous".
2) Has to have a vision for himself, okay, how many men have you met young who have vision? It comes later on in life, a man has to commit certain years of his youth as a sacrifice for it, why should a man who spent years and years of his time to surface a vision, then settle with a women who was just travelling around or having "fun" when she was young? This is male logic, and does it not make sense to you women?
3) Keeps his cool, okay, i agree on this. But its for both partners? Both should communicate and keep thier cool, as a guy if your calm but your girl acts mad all the time, doesnt really work out. How much abuse can one man take?
4) Sexual Discipline, here comes the main topic. "We dont want a man who is oogling at girls, cant control himself etc" Understandable, also men dont want a women who cant control herself either. Sexual Discipline is both ways, if a women in her prime (youth when she is young) sleeps around with men, then why shouldn't a man sleep around with women in his prime (30s-40s)? No sexual Discipline both ways, isnt that the society we live in now? Also Sexual Discipline would also mean you dont post explicit photos of yourself in social media for millions of men to see, not short of that these days huh? Degenerate women breed degenerate men. Simple.
5) Brings the best in you, couldn't agree more, goes bothways.
6) Does things to improve your life, couldn't agree again, goes bothways.
7) Has clear intentions with you, yes, definitely, marriage is the conclusion for a relationship right? So if a women has been in 1-2 relationships, or has has friends with benefits, what does that mean? Marriage was never the thought? So then those women dont deserve to get married. Same with the men, i have no bais. Let them marry whoever they slept around with.
8) Not afraid to talk about future, of course, but what about a womens past? A mans future and a womens past, equal trade off. If you both can be honest, its for the best. Otherwise why complain? If you dont want to answer about your past as a women, then you shouldn't be bothered about a future with a man of dignity.
Regards,
A Good Man
Before any of you women attack me, let me tell you something. (I have not slept with any women even though i had chances, and believe me, men hardly get chances unlike women.
Im abstaining for my future wife, but believe me, looking at the degeneracy of this generation, im beginning to lose hopes.
I work day and night to provide for my sister and mother, because our family is separated and I as a man, know how much pressure it is for both sides, not just mothers but also fathers on divorce and alimony, so i took it on myself. If my father decides to give, he can.
Lastly, i have a vision and I am young, just 26, no degeneracy, no alcohol, no smoking, no drugs, no nothing. My only restriction is porn, and that will be always be because i am born as a man, a sin to worship women, wrong or good, doesnt matter. Until i find a right women, it will always be like this.
Now to all the women, if i dont get a type of a women i deserve, then is it wrong of me to not settle for someone less?
I worked hard twice as my father did, so why should i settle for a women half the prowess of my mother? I have been raised as a family man and have been living as one, but women dont like "vision and dedication", they want wealth that has surfaced out of thier visions, no women want to go through stuggle phase yeah? All want achieved status and inheritance, and since i dont have one at present, no women will even look at me. So why even bother sometimes i ask myself, only with a blind hope of maybe finding a good women one day, because i am a good man myself. But everyday, day by day, i lose heart, looking at the degeneracy. But i will try till my last breath, if it doesnt work out, then a message to all the women, if you dont recognise and cherish good men, how will they even survive? A good man will wait years to become attractive to the good women he deserves, and if that women was just a slut for the night for one man, then she cannot really be your wife for life? (In case you are wondering, male logic here is "if she spread her legs for some guy for free, why should a man who has accumulated wealth after years and years, have to do "formalities" to spread her legs, you see how degeneracy of women really kills the motivation of some good men?)
To all the good women, I hope i can meet you one day, that is all.
P.S: Women dont really understand how much thier sexual prowess motivates men to do things, degeneracy kills it.
Insightful brother.
A virgin ?! Eww...
You are trying to win the argument. Not good :) cf. Greenflag N°3 :)
Good luck on your journey man!
#4 is a big point that she really glossed over. Is the woman doing her part to fulfill the mans sexual needs, or is she looking for him to be "sexually disciplined" so that she can weaponize sex against him by withholding? It really needs to be explained further what she means. If a woman wants you to be sexually monogamous, it is now her responsibility alone to fulfill that need.
also, you spoke of marriage in your comment: No man should be getting married today. Not until the laws are made fair and updated to the modern day. These laws still view the world as if it's the 1950s instead of the 2020s.
@goldofox5111 what are you a single morther?
absolutely love this one 💌
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Another Green Flag - DO YOU HAVE A STRONG BOND? Do you love spending time with him? Do you tell your closest friends good things about him? Are you honest with yourself about loving him?
Everyone on social media always talks about what does the guy bring to the table. Girls. Remember! It is a relationship. It goes both ways. It is not “qualities” only here. You gotta have chemistry. You gotta truly connect with the person on a deeper meaningful level.
Thank you for this video. I've always dated men who do all of the above & my friends refer to them as nerds, but nerds is the name you give men you don't like, so to me, they aren't nerds. I feel very confident.
So clearly your friends were not very wise. If they all were turned off by men showing positive and healthy behaviors, they got issues.
I am glad you were smart enough to pick the right men, but the fact that all your female friends were that delusional makes me just shake my head in exasperation and wondering why women continue to do this to themselves.
I will focus on the mentioned green flags .. thank u ❤❤
I like it that you wear green💚💚💚
As a man, we prefer Intimacy over emotions.
wtf does that mean? lmfao
Huh? 🤨😐
@@ssj_shep if you like that.
as a male watching this, i"m a male watching this
I’m just here for the dog in the background!!
I feel so grateful to see all these qualities in my partner. After countless dates with men who asked for sex on the first date (and never called again after I refused), I met him, and at the end of our first date he told me 'I'm sorry if this sounds crazy, but I really liked you, and I would like to get to know you exclusively, with a serious relationship in mind.' I said yes, a few days later he told me that he was getting blood test for aids (he didn't have any) so that I feel safe when being intimate, and we did wait until the results were back and we knew each other a little bit better. I didn't have to ask for any of these things, he has been respectful from day one, and still is.
Ladies, when a man likes you and he's sure of himself and the future he wants, he knows. Do not settle for a guy with a corn addiction, no future plans, no patient, and no self-knowledge.
how many in total have you slept with in your life... answer truthfully as God as your witness. I am just a stranger, if no harm in spilling the truth. If you lie God will curse you and bloodline to ages.
So what is it?
Thank you so so much Jillz. You gave me the aswers that I was looking for. Your videos help me to put words on things that I knew but wasn't clear to me on my head. Now it's clear, thanks to you!!!! ❤
"If he wanted to, he would"
As a guy, the only point I take (only a small) issue with is number #7. I think, simply, in today's world, there are countless reasons why a guy highly interested in you might NOT make any first moves. The world just often feels like the risks of asking the wrong one are too high. Even if you're not the 'wrong' one who bites those that simply ask you out/for your number/whatever... there are too many women who do.
If you've been out on a few dates, if you've been intimate at any level, etc and he's still wishy washy, unclear on his own feelings? Yeah, depending on the situation... well I'd agree it isn't a bright, forest green flag at least. But if you haven't expressed yourself & opened the door (and I do think women should begin to understand that we're in a world where women need to express verbal interest first), don't be surprised if he hasn't, even if he's head over heels.
How should a woman express verbal interest ? Thank you for your insight. I thought this came of as aggressive and masculine.
A great summary of a "green man", thank you for this video! ❤
Quality stuff as always Jillz :) My fiance is all of these
What a sweet woman you are, this is a great message that you are sharing.
I already falling in love with this man!🤩
Thank you Jillz! Also, the quality of your videos 👌🏾
My man has all of these green flags he's so kind and lovable human 💛 I love him so much 🧿🫶✨
Wanting sex fast has more to do with high sex drive, it doesn't always mean he just trying to use you.
It also has to do with not being a sucker. I'm not waiting months to get with a woman if she's slept with a guy on the second date. If I waited months and then found out down the road that she's had one night stands before, it'd be over right there.
I'm blessed that my husband is all that 🥰 I would really appreciate a video about green and red flags in a woman cause I genuinely wanna know myself better and work on our relationship from my side 😅❤
Really cool video, it's interessing to see what is considered to be a genuine good trait in a man
This video helps guys as well. Thank you
I didn't knew girls have dating advice. But guess it's nice to see something from your perspective.
Great video def some good points on how I can become a better man 🙏
This video also applies to women. Nice video, i totally agree
The guy who I just started dating is from Southeast Asia, I love his personality like crazy and his beliefs. It’s been great so far and he has a all of these qualities, as do I. Very excited for the journey🙏🏾✨
I hit the jackpot this time with mine!❤
I thought I offered a lot of these things to my ex, not sure if I really did now, but this video definitely made me realize I have to focus on stuff like this so thanks
This was such a great list!!❤
great list jillz!!
Man here. Ladies, if you are ever wondering where are all the good men are, remind yourself that they are all around you. They are just afraid of being treated rudely or labeled as a “creep.” Modern society has made men feel more hesitant than ever to talk to you. Please assume positive intent with men, and give us a chance. He might not just come to you, you might have to meet him halfway
Not sure why this came up on my recommended but I’m glad it did
Hey there, I’m a 24 y/o single guy; I found this video to be extremely helpful and informative, I personally saved it to a ‘favorites’ video playlist. I think this video is honestly what all guys need to hear nowadays, thank you for this content, I am personally trying to learn to embody all of these traits in their entirety.
Loooove this hairstyle on you ❤
Hey I got all of these but I'm not sure about number one because I've only gone out on a couple dates before (they went well just didn't connect personally) so I don't have much to reference on that end. But hey not too shabby ladies.
CZcams comments is exactly where I expect to meet my soulmate 😏😂
proud to say i have a walking green flag for a man 💚
I love your hairstyle today❤
I agree with all of these!
as a guy, these are all things I look for in a girl, too. Even most of my close friends check most of these boxes. I think this is more of a "how to be a pleasant human to be around" guide. and obviously you'd want your partner to be the most pleasant person in your life.
Your hair style here is very cute and pretty! 💗🌸
I love this list!! Thank you!!