This is Why You Procrastinate
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My father used to say to me "you have to make it right or you better don't do it at all"... So here I am.
Mines used to say " do it right the first time " are you related to me or do we just have bad advice giving dads
"Doing it right" has a range, I think
Make it right sounds kinda nice, kinda leaves room for interpretation like make it right…. But who decided what is right? You do. Make it right, for your standards not your fathers, or anybody for that matter. You know what’s “right” for you.
@@Fredosauce69 well, right now I am trying to have this mindset. But when I was a kid it was either do as he wants it to be done (which I not always understood) or get yelled at/beaten up
I would tell myself "If you're gonna do something, do it right the way" Didn't realize how much of a perfectionist I am until recently 😬
_'After a decade of planning, I've decided I need ten more years.'_
😂😂😂😂
I make all these goals, huge goals, and then I have now wondered why I procrastinate 😢
If you struggle with this, I recommend doing something you KNOW you're bad at. You don't expect yourself to do well at it, and you experience doing something imperfectly and actually being okay with it
This is exactly my problem, I wanted to start working out to lose weight, I contemplated it for years thinking “I have no idea how to work out and eat effectively for weight loss, I don’t want to go to the gym and waste all my effort on something that probably won’t work because I’m doing it wrong. I need to research and find a way to maximize my results” this thinking made it impossible to get started, because the amount of research I “needed” to do would take days, so I kept putting it off and putting it off. Finally I started watching a few videos on exercising and found a guy who sends people free beginner workout plans, I knew it wasn’t perfect but he said in one of his videos that just getting started is all you need to see great results, and you can fine tune the program as you work it. My mistake was thinking it would ever be possible to start out with the perfect workout plan, that’s not possible, I needed to get started, figure out what’s working and what needs improvement. Been exercising for around 4 months now and I’m down almost 30 lbs, even though I had no idea what I was doing the first few months. I’m no expert but I’m learning as I go and I think that’s the best way to do it.
That's awesome! What did you start with? I think I'm in a similar position.
Cheers ! ✊
Good job, how you doing one year on?
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you have such a beautiful, radiant smile.
I think procrastination is also caused by trying to avoid stress
Yeah and a lot of stress comes from the desire to be perfect.
@@hereandnow3156 such is the cycle of perfection...
@@hereandnow3156i think that's but for me is mostly because u fucking hate doing mundane and repetitive tasks like studying, is just so boring that i might as well deal with the consequences of not doing it
Or anxiety. I won't feel anxious if I don't think about things until I absolutely have to.
Which is due to having standards that are too high, which is also procrastination
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I live in a constant shadow of self looming over me and for her whatever I will do, it never be enough.
I got a little bit stunned when I noticed my mom being a completely different person nowadays than the strict woman she was years ago. Took me a while to recognize I created an imaginary substitute to perpetuate that figure of discipline and authoritarianism.
This right here... no matter how i did something, my mom would find something to point out that i missed or didn't do to her liking...
Fast forward to me reading a work email 10 times before i send it because what if I've missed something?! 🤦🏾♀️
Not only that, our desire of perfection is reacting from realizing the growing potential for failure, which lead us doing things that has a higher chance of success but kinda useless and that guilty from procrastinating further grow the sense of need for instant perfection which also train us to more impatient over time combining with instant gratification from social media whil all of this originally coming from overestimation of our own ability on `trying it out' in the first place.
If u want know how i know all of this, just know I f*cked by this process
Been going through these exact thoughts for years😦
Sometimes procrastination is just your mind telling you that you dont like to do certain things. That was my case and had to switch jobs. Its good to listen to your mind and body
This is true. In often not able to start if I think the goal is not perfect. And trying to come up with a perfect goal is often stressing that results to not doing anything. The asnwer... just do it and iterate.
I know it’s not the point, but I am willing to try anything to reduce the pain that comes with my disease. Constant pain really numbs you.
perfectionism isn't the only cause for procrastination tho, or is it?
No, definitely it’s not the only one. There are plenty of reasons. It can stem from different fears. It even can be your special form of self-sabotage and self-harm.
I've been reading a great book on procrastination by Dr. Fuschia Sirois. She has spent a lot of her career studying procrastination and found there are several key factors behind it, with perfectionism being one of them.
Other factors were related to direct reward vs reward in the future, not seeing you future self as a part of yourself and fears related to getting the tasks done.
Interesting rear for anyone who struggles with it.
Haha the amount of planning I try to do before starting this speaks to me
I don't see how this perfectionist thought process is wrong. which is why I'm stull stuck I suppose.
I've rushed into things before and upon reflection I'm like, "Oh yeah, haste makes waste. I should really plan better before I start". Now I don't start lol. I agree with the points in the video, but I think there has to be more to it.
Fully agree 💯 i been feeling pike this a lot more than i ever did i think and it could also be related to that which is similar to ocd wanting everything organized etc ready to go so im other words trying to do everything perfectly only makes you stressed,and upset and feels like you are in a rush sometimes as well and procrastinating if you should do something or not unless you think you need to perfect everything just gotta learn and find ways to deal with it
derive the delta of change (to - from)
then normalize it down to a reasonable unit vector and use the result as a doable direction rather than a perfect next step
Thanks!
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LITERALLY me. I will put things off and off until Ive done a research deep dive on details and how to do something or how it works because I dont want to look like an idiot!
but why would I put mediocre work?
Because completed work is better than no work, and you do no work when you expect perfectionism.
As someone who made Bloodstained go for a 10 hours gameplay to a 30 hours one (I was so strong that I could kill OG while striking still, no need to evade at all), I completely agree
Love it!!
I do this exactly
Man really just motivated me to finish my workout
As someone trying to write a novel for the first time, I feel extremely called out by this
Perfect is the enemy of good.
Damn. He’s right.
Ok so I have a huge problem with procrastination but the thing is I don’t really want to be perfect because I know that’s impossible so I just try to do the best that I can
That's me, exactly.
Not really for me. I procrastinate when I know it will get done if I do it later so I have no reason to do it now until I have no choice but to do it now and for the next 3 weeks straight. I know it will be the same (level of perfection) if I do it now or later so there's not enough motivation to do it now. Even when it's something I like.
Except you don’t tho. You don’t know if you’ll spontaneously fall ill on the last day. In which case you’d get very much less perfection. Which is why they keep telling us to not procrastinate
That sounds like the sort of procrastination more common with ADHD, from my little understanding. Not exclusive though.
What happens to me is: when I dont have time I can do what I can and stop trying to do it perfect and start barely doing it. I know I am doing worse than I can but it feels more liberating than putting more time and not doing it perfect. Except I then wonder why I didn't start earlier and made it better.
its just laziness
@@SimonClarkstone perhaps but I don't think I have ADHD. At least not in the sense that I can't focus on one task. At least when I do get round to doing something, I can focus on it and nothing else for an extended period of time. Idk if not being able to attend to anything else would be considered ADD.
My procrastination is the "I'll do it tomorrow" type. I hate that about myself cause I don't get anything done most of the time. Even now I'm still struggling to deal with it, but luckily I have a wife that'll remind me constantly to help me get things done.
I'm willing to try the bare minimum! 💪🏻
yeah i have a huge problem with this. like ill start and be sort of ok with it. then ill do a bunch more and then ill make a better system and have to redo it all. and then ill make an even better system and i have to redo it all. and eventually i stop making progress lol my systems get better but i get nothing done. its also why i struggle to actually finish games that have a lot of mod options. i have like 400 hours of fallout 4. but ive never finished it. not even half way.
There is some truth in this...
But what if I procrastinate finishing stuff?
Wrong, I procrastinate because I don't want to do it.
He just described me 💀
I’m in this video and I don’t like it 🥲
I'm also in this video, shall we team up?
Ohh wow. This is so me. But yea, it’s a mental block
im willing to try everything except illigal and highly dangerous activities
Why wouldn't someone be willing to try out everything?
It's the best way to find new interesting things
Good man
Why has no one in my life ever told me that...
facts
I'm a virgo
Iam no perfectnoist but still Iam procastinate
I swear you are watching what I am doing! Stop posting these videos when they are most relevant, I feel called out :D
Nah I'm just lazy.
Same