why i moved back home, relationships in recovery & some hard truths... let's chat
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Thank you for watching my Q&A / life update, it's obviously an eat with me / mukbang type video so I hope that if you ate with it you know you deserve fuel and you are allowed to let your body just be✨ Obviously wee TW as I do delve into eating disorders a little :)
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⤷ how old are you?
21 years old :)
⤷ where are you from?
hampshire, uk 📍
⤷ what do you film with?
canon g7x mark ii and iPhone 13 pro
⤷ what is your name / how do you say it?
my name is Roisin and it's pronounced ro-sheen, but i shorten it to Ro
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my favorite quote "not all wounds are visible"..
You can do it, I believe in you, just believe in yourself! ❤🫂
the hardest truth in recovery for me was staring recovery in a relationship with another woman with an Ed, and realizing it couldn’t stay that way.
^ she was my best friend and at the time I thought she was my soulmate, but our eating disorders turned out relationship into something ugly and it destroyed us.
@@pipsli I hope you are doing better now, that must have been incredibly difficult... I can kinda relate to this.
*!BIG TRIGGER WARNING for the following text!:*
I have a best friend who doesn't admit to having an ED, but I'm almost certain of it (or atleast, she is participating in disordered eating behavior). She hardly ever eats anything at school and a few days ago she told me that she hadn't eaten anything all day and felt fine, and that she had lost 7 kg from smoking. She doesn't know I struggle with an ED and her words and actions are very triggering to me but I just can't tell anyone what I'm going through. I'm afraid. I am very concerned about her health and I always tell her to take care of herself and stuff. I love her so much but at the same time her unhealthy weight loss is also affecting my mental health and my ED. It almost feels like a competition, at least for me: How long can I go without eating? Did I eat less than her today? What can I do to lose weight faster than her? I really don't know what to do anymore we are very good friends but I know my mental health gets worse every time she tells me how little she ate
same! first my eating disorder ruined my relationship with my ex girlfriend, then i started recovery and tried to fix things but unfortunately, full recovery felt impossible when my ex was actively engaging in disordered habits. i hope you're doing better now!
@@RakisDerra honestly as someone who struggled with this exact same issue the best thing you can do for yourself os limit interactions where you are with this person and focus on self love. nourish yourself because you love yourself, for your future health and wellness, to be the highest version of you. Small things such as taking yourself out on mini dates or doing arts and crafts in your home, affirmations in the mirror, building up your self worth. It’s better to be around supportive people who give you energy rather than take it away, even if it’s not your friends fault. You’re friend may not be direct about her eating disorder but she is still seeking validation through small comments that take energy away from you and i just don’t think it’s helpful to focus on someone else while the main person you need to prioritize is you 💛 you are worthy of love and happiness. i hope this helps in any way.
@@avasmithh Thank you so much for your kind words and advice. It means a lot❤️
Omg finally someone who hates colleen Hoover books too 🙈🙈🙈 the writing is so bad. I tried reading the same book you mentioned and I just couldn’t do it. So I can totally relate to what you said.
More important: I'm so happy for you that you are doing so good ! You are such a strong human being ❤
they were… so painful :,)
but thank you ! all my love ✨
Yess! Omg Ugly Love, November 9th...unbearable lol
I hope that people aren't on social media and seeing others outwardly struggling while eating in recovery, and subsequently feel that they need to imitate that behaviour. Developing normal habits around eating is also a part of recovery. So pls don't ever feel invalid because of someone else's disordered behaviours that you might not have ❤
It’s such a joy to see you continuing to grow & thrive.
You’ve come so far, we are so proud of you and it’s just incredible to see. You are inspiring and so enjoyable to watch ❤ also those questions were gooooood
I’ve been watching for a while I’d say since 2021 and seeing you blossom into this beautiful and kind person gives me so much hope that recovery no matter how long it takes is worth it, I’ve only recently started recovery but watching a ro video never fails to bring me that glimmer of hope, my struggles may be hard to face but without your content i wouldn’t be where I am today, thank you ro, truly
My daughter is ten. She has really high anxiety and mental health difficulties. She couldn't leave the house during the holidays and hasn't been to school for six months. We have been taking it at her pace but have been on buses and trains recently and it's so heartening and I'm so proud of her. Watching you gives me so much hope for her future. Thank you. So much love for you and your channel.
Oh that really touched my heart. She is still so little. Hope she overcomes all of those problems. Sending good energies to you. 😘
I've been suffering mentally for about 19 years now and I'm 21 so...😔
Thank you. Much love to you and hope for the future x
I don’t usually comment but I feel the need to now. when I started middle school (6th grade specifically) I developed severe anxiety, derealization, and agoraphobia (fear of outside/ people) I couldn’t go to school, go for walks outside, go in cars or busses, do sports, or just about anything that required me to leave. it was like this for pretty much all of middle school. However, now I am 17 and i’ve recovered almost completely with medication and exposure therapy. I can do pretty much anything except I still do school online. but almost all my agoraphobia and fear of outside is completely gone. My point is to stick with it. keep pushing her to get out there and remind her that you’re proud of her. she will get through this!
You are such a comfort to me, thankyou for being you :)
You're a true inspiration and your content helped me a lot with overcoming my ED, thanks!!!
hey Ro! i just wanted to say thankyou SO much for this video it was so helpful and just encouraging to hear you talk about your life outside of your eating disorder but also life in recovery
Thank you so much for sharing loop ear plugs recently I got a pair and went to an art gallery with my mum the other day which I haven’t done in a long time without feeling like I made a scene or having to leave. It was a huge step for me and a massive part of that was that I wasn’t getting sensory overload from all the noise of being in public ❤
I can definitely see you helping others (in the professional sense) with ED's Ro. :)
I find too often (from my personal experiences) that too many people lack compassion and patience for my own ED.
It's super upsetting but i know i need support from someone professionally now more than ever.
Feeling really lost atm but super grateful for you and this beautiful community we have all together here. 💞
I really enjoyed this video overall too! 🌼
regarding the issue of relying on your partner 'too much', i think the question is more about making sure that your partner has the mental space to support you and that you don't immediately let them solve your issues/fix your distress, i.e. learning how to do that yourself but them being there to support you through that process :-)! I personally also try to make sure that my bf knows that there is room for him to feel bad and talk about his feelings just as much 💕
thank you for showing you eating but muting the chewing haha, the misophonia girlies are grateful!!!! it’s very helpful
i mute those parts before i even edit them bc LORD THAT NOISE 😖
I have Misophonia BAD too! ❤
Ha ha yes!
Thanks for sharing everything. I have anxiety, anorexia, and ptsd. There have been many long stretches of time when I couldnt gomoutside in the daylight. I cancel plans alot. Even just my own.
I have crippling social anxiety. And the past few covid yrs had amplifyed EVERYTHING.
So I understand. Still Ive watched you recover from day 1. You are so strong and have done so well and are helping SO many people with your journey and progress and your candidness.
And yea so doing ANYTHING Out In The World is exhausing bc it causes anxiety. I totally agreee.
THANK YOU FOR VALIDATING THAT THERAPY CAN HOLD YOU BACK! I feel so seen. I also felt EXACTLY the same way with regards to feeling like I ‘should’ be struggling all the time or with any given task and if I didn’t, I wasn’t actually sick or deserving of them helping me. I’ve never heard anyone speak to this before so thank you, thank you, thank you. Honestly, I flourished when I discharged myself from all services and took full responsibility over my recovery and did it in my way on my own terms.
Thank you for this little update! I was debating on wether I should skip dinner or not, but I made pasta instead and ate it alongside you. Your content is more helpful than you'll probably ever know. Sending you lots of love and support from Guatemala!
hello, I am an old viewer, being a young teen, a year- a year and a half ago i watched many of your videos as i was in my own anorexia journey/recovery. Tomorrow i am being discharged from my ED clinic and officially ending my recovery journey. Tonight, I came back to your videos as i looked back on the last 2 years. i just wanted to say how much your videos helped and inspired me, today i am blown away by how healthy and amazing you are now. Youve come so far since i last watched one of your videos, and just congratulations, i admire your determination, it is not an easy journey. You were an inspiration and help to me and no doubt thousands of others... Thank you.
My daughter's boyfriend is so good for her mental health, it's a beautiful thing. Donna Tartt's Goldfinch is an amazing book too. Thanks for being you.
Ro, thank you for being so comfortable and helpful. I was doing well in my recovery, but had a bit of a setback and now I realized how I was slowly going back to the older ways and ended up having a pretty bad allergic reaction because my immunity was bad...thank you for being honest and helping us stay positive!
naaawwr i’m studying at the library but will watch as soon as i’m back home. i don’t know yet what’s in it, but reminder that no matter what we support you and are so grateful of you xxx
Hey Ro thank you for being such a comforting and supportive content creator, you are one of my biggest recovery inspirations! If possible I'd love to see a piercing tour video? I've seen you have quite a few ear piercings but I'd love to see them closer up!
I really enjoy your videos Ro, you are so well spoken and soft that it results very comforting to me. I'm glad that you are ok and happy, I'm waiting already for your next video. Hope your bf and your family are doing great 💕💕
Also, can we just admire how stunning Ro is as a person and as a soul!
I'm so proud of you for taking care of yourself well ♥️♥️♥️
Just my thoughts on a couple of things you said:
- I hate Coleen Hoover books, too.
- I think having a partner with mental health issues can be hard on the relationship. Especially, if you're not able to set boundaries well. But good communication helps a lot!
- Challenging your anxieties is so hard! I'm gonna keep going and I wish you all the best, too xx
I LOVED the secret history it’s my favourite book read it in 2021
Thanks for doing your videos I’m still really scared to dive fully in to recovery but seeing you live your life with the thoughts not being so controlling over you is so helpful to see (obviously the ptsd is hard I have it too been in hospital 6x so it’s so so tough I know)
Sending love
Again, so much love to and for you. I really like and appreciate your willingness to do these Q&A's too. ❤️❤️❤️
your hair is fantastic in this video 🤍
did not fall in love with your channel for the book thoughts, didn't ever even expect to get them, but loving them and now i need nore🥰
Happy NEDA Week!
Hi I just wanted to come on here and say that I’m in recovery because watching your videos helped me to recover and my therapy didn’t help I found it held me back too but watching your videos made me want to recover and helped me recover so thank you for that so much it’s the greatest gift.
I also wanted to mention around the crying comment, some people when they finally get help actually feel a huge amount of relief and enjoy their recovery meals versus crying into them, even if they feel guilty. I and some others I knew went through that at first and it was actually keeping up with it long term that sometimes brought on tears. I just wanted to mention that you aren't invalid if when you start eating properly again, you do feel relief or enjoyment for a portion or even the entirety of the experience.
You have helped me so much over the past two years, I can’t thank you enough ❤❤
ah this means the world 🫂
Ro you have no idea how much you helped me love you so muchh♥️
that pasta looks so delish!!! and i love how honest and raw you are with your content❤❤ you’re so inspiring
it was !! & thank you :)✨
You talking about how questions about uni and further education stress you out means so much to me. I currently can't go to uni, because I'm ill and these questions always make me spiral. And I've never met someone in the same situation! So thank you for talking about it!!
Take care of yourself first. There is so much more time for all those other things. Don’t let people pressure you ❤
I wore that sweatshirt yesterday! It's one of my favorites, so comfy and cute 😍 So glad you and Brandon are doing well, you deserve all the happiness in the world!
ah yay! and thank you so much lovely 🫶🏻✨
I am french Canadian and it's really nice when an english speaker want to learn french! Best luck to you in all of your objectives! (And starting stardew valley again, so relaxing!)
Thank you for the QandA it was amazing
Just wanted to say that your curls are looking amazing today💕💕💕
Ro! about the partner supporting thing: you also help and support him in different ways! all partnerships are give and take, where each person gives what they have and everyone's strengths in giving are different!
#lifeisshortuseexclamationpoints
Thank you for honesty . Words of wisdom today for anyone who needs to hear it: as soon as you stop desiring to be ill your mental struggles hold less power over you ♥️
sending love 💌✨
I definitely agree that you shouldn't be afraid to accept help - I find this so difficult but I've realised over time that I've hurt my loved ones by distancing myself when I need help and making them worry. It's definitely a difficult habit to break though!
100%! but as you said it hinders more than helps when you push loved ones away ❤️
Deep inside, I know that letting myself eat whatever/whenever I want is crucial to recover from my anorexia. Fear stops me and I don't know how to take that step. I often think I cannot get any better but your videos help me see the light somehow... thank you.
Thank you for helping me recover, for good this time
I did French to beyond a level which is a lot of years ago now. And because im off work because of my ED and MH and my mind has got bored now I have a bit more energy I’ve been doing lingoda and LOVE IT! Lessons are so good and teachers are great!
You are such an inspiration that Recovery is possible ❤
you absolute superstar 🌟 forever proud of you and inspired by you!
i love you!!!!
Could you do a q&a with your parents? Talk about parents and how to handle kids with an ed or struggling mentally?
this picked me up so much after my first therapy appointment. thanks ro you’re doing amazing things and helping so many people ❤️
i hope it went well! it’ll get easier :)✨
Your editing is so cool i love this video❤
Thank you for helping me and million others❤
i love university so much but like its really not the only way to learn, i love learning and its a place where i get to learn but like its really not the only path !!!!!
Omgg your glowing!! Your videos always make my day. Thank you for existing 💕💕
thank you!🫶🏻
Ro, you are such an inspiration to me. Thank you for just being here and being so genuine. ❤
Also, do you have any tips for increasing calorie intake? (I have a bad body image and am deadly afraid of gaining weight)
You always bring us joy!! Thank you Ro💕
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thank you ro for helping me so much❤️ love you
all my love!✨✨
you feel good? YOU LOOK GOOD OMG I LOVE THE NEW HAIR 😮✨😝
Our music tastes are literally the same!! Stick season is literally one of my favorite albums
I just have to say that the loop earplugs are great! Thanks for the discount! Happy to see you doing well ❤
yay! i’m so glad you like them too 🥰✨✨
Thank you so much, you helped me so much! And I totally agree, like I was struggling a LOT with anorexia and I chose to go all in. Therapy was holding me soooo much back. They were kind of like „yeah, we know how you feel, but your bmi is still okay, so you don’t have to be hospitalized, we can get you some help, but your weight doesn’t seem that dangerous so…“ like what the heck? I am trying to recover and break the cycle and they just keep pulling me back and invalidate my ed eventhough they don‘t even notice. They think it’s a compliment, but NO. So I am recovering on my own and it is kind of the only way for me to get out of that illness, cause I don‘t want to wait till my BMI is that low that they „validate“ my ED. I am the same girl with the same ED with the same struggles NOW and a few weeks earlier and a few weeks from now. If my BMI is even lower, this won‘t change the intensity of my illness! It is already there and I don’t have to prove it and even get sicker. I needed so long to realize that. So guys, the only thing that has to happen is that YOU validate your ED! Why would you wait until you are like near death if you KNOW that it will result there? Why can‘t we start to recover earlier just because „professional help“ is not helping or invalidating us? Do you want to continue living a life like this, or not even like this- a smaller and smaller life? Do you? It is really YOU that can save you. It is YOU that has to have reasons for YOU to recover. It is possible to do it on your own if no one else is there (but the right support is always good) thank you Ro for showing and sharing your journey!!💕💕
Ro you are such a comfort place❤
all my love 🤍
I read the Secret History over 10 years ago and I can confirm that it will STILL pop into your mind on a near daily basis in a decade's time..
I just adore you and your videos! ❤
you are honestly amazing, i just know if you do pursue your plan into working as a recovery coach/helping others in recovery, you will be brilliant and honestly someone that lots of us wish we had! love you ro xx
I LOVE my "Give yourself the love you deserve" hoodie so much. Super comfy and warm 😊
yay!!! love to hear it 🫶🏻✨
You re actually a queen ❤
Ro hi! I just want to say thank you so much. You cant believe that you make me feel so good and safely and ı really love you so much ı have ed and ı am really try to recovery with you love u -in turkey
I love you videos. I’m a recovering anorexic, managing OCD and Misophonia and all kinds of mental health issues… just nice to know I’m not alone.
Pesto Pasta used to be one of my few Safe meals when i suffered from Arfid as a child and there are actually so many vegan options (specifically vegan and vegan by coinsidence)
A major component of a heathy, loving, mature relationship is being able to consciously and compassionately support each other and turn to the other for comfort ❤ If you cannot share your struggles with your partner, then they aren’t your Partner and you may as well be alone. It’s wonderful that you have a significant other who wants to show up for all of you, and who makes you feel safe to be your authentic and vulnerable self with him 😊
I love the same songs!!!! And your taste in books too. Not sure you’d have any advice on getting over/ closure from struggling with anorexia for years and recovering alone and only a few people knowing. Very anxious at the mo and wanting it back?! ❤
hi ro!!! i’d love some nail advice, i’d love to start treating myself to professionally done nails and absolutely adore the shape and style of yours! what shape and style do you normally go for? they’re stunning!🥹
I think what freaked me out in recovery when I enjoyed food.
I felt upset when I would eat food and be like “DAMN JESUS THIS TASTE SO GOOD”
more often mixed with fear was admitting how much I loved food n how good food taste and how sweet things taste sweet how savoury foods tasted salty in my mouth.
i want to thank you for saying it’s okay to rest a lot because of mental health, I‘ve gotten so many bad comments and insults from „friends“ because I haven’t done a lot of dtuff and when I talk exitedtly about being able to fo something I wa sscared of ai just get toöd it was stupid to be scared and I shouldn’t have been so weak
or when I already did two things or mpre in one week anf say thats enough for me no one understands that those two things were so hard snd I need the time alone to rest and reset
for most of my early teens I wasn’t able to go out much due to anxiety a d even now I still get comments about it, sure I might have „missed out“ some things but it’s no reaspn to make fun of someone and it took me a long time to realize thst so I‘m thankful that you always stress that one should take things at their own speed
I'n eating a protein pudding for AN EXTRA snack after my usual snack and drinking a pepsi max ❤ I love you so much Ro💗💗❤
Also I’m a lived experience practitioner in the NHS. It’s brilliant but HARD and you really do need to understand yourself and know your boundaries and be prepared to standup for yourself and the people you are caring for. But I think you’d be fab at something like that. If you want any advice on starting in a lived experience role please get in touch! I never thought I’d hold down a job and was told I couldn’t. Well I was the first in the uk with my role 4.5 years ago and I’m still in the role AND we’ve expanded it to other areas and roles!
6:13 thank you for talking about this.
I love spiral pasta. 💙
I used to have an eating disorder myself. Now I work as a chef at an inpatient eating disorder unit. Also do meal support!
You're channel is super inspiring! It's definitely helping a lot of people who are gointo through the same things and changings peoples life for the better, thank you so much for sharing your journey with us!
Je fais partie de la petite audience française et c'est un honneur :)
You're an amazing person and your channel is such a safe place thank you for everything
On est deux !
trois !
@@loan2813 4 :p ! si vous êtes en voie de guérison, courage
@@nonenola mercii courage à toi aussi, je suis fière de toi 🫶🫶
@@loan2813 ça fait un longtemps que j'ai retrouvé la santé de façon stable et c'est génial. j'y croyais pas au début, mais recovery is possible
Honestly, the Midnight Library by Matt Haig was so helpful for me to read
I didn‘t cry at all in all the times of my ed because my body hadn’t even had the energy to produce tears
Thank you so much I always feel so guilty if I’m not literally having a panic attack and crying at every meal, I know it’s something silly but thank you for addressing that.
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Me too
I’m always like do I even have a ed
You dont have to go to Uni to have a career in what you want to do. I 100% agree that the best see be counselled by are ppl who have had ed’s. The others can not possibly understand how are brains work and the struggle…tho they can be empathetic and give us “tools” I guess. You’re already being a great counselor for US by sharing your recovery journey and being so honest w us.
High school graduates can’t be therapists . If you want to be a therapist you need a four year degree and a masters at minimum . I have a BS in psychology and a masters in counseling and this enables me to work as a therapist in the unites states . With only a high school degree you may be able to be a mental health tech , but that’s about it .
omggg the jellycats
hiii!! welcome :)✨+ thank you hehe
hiii!! welcome :)✨+ thank you hehe
I know almost Nobody that recovered with minimal theraphy like you ( not in a clinic) that didn't have a boyfriend, I feel like a boyfriend can really be the key. You deserve their help and support if they offer you that, please use it
supportive boyfriends >>>>
I wouldn’t listen to the people saying you’ve not gone to uni what are you going to do with your life.
As someone that’s been to uni, the experience was great and I loved living away and being with friends all the time but you don’t need to go to uni to be successful. I’ve ended up in a career that doesn’t even require a degree so it’s not the most important thing ever. There’s loads of options out there that don’t require a degree ☺️
Love your videos💕
your so inspiring Ro🫶🏻
While i watched this i ate slices of strawbery inbetween oreos (a recipie i made up halfway through) and they were delicious, highly reccomend
Totally agree with It Ends With Us. I couldn’t finish it 😬
i got like halfway (if that) and gave up 😖
@@RoMitchell I’m more of a mystery than a rom com kinda gal
you talk so pretty :)
I'm 30 - did the whole A-Levels, fancy uni, post grad route to the bone because I got told I had to. I am now a mental health advocate (I mean as paid employment) and there was no formal qualifications needed, the only essential criteria was to have lived experience of mental health difficulties which was both refreshing and scary because without my fancy qualifications on my CV I felt really bare like I wasn't enough, but I guess I was.
My job straight out of uni was as an A-Level teacher and I always said to my students that the route in life doesn't have to be uni. But even though I said that, the college didn't. Colleges really force uni down students' throat, even in tutorial (personal tutor) sessions we would do UCAS applications and I had students who said "oh I'm not going to uni I have got an apprenticeship" and I literally still had to force them to do a UCAS application "as a back up". Despite the fact it costs money to apply and I knew these students well enough to know that they defo weren't going to change their mind. Such a joke.
Put Pesto pasta with Natrual yogurt, if you haven't already. For me it's the best!
Vegan and veggie pesto is a thing and tastes just as good!
Really amazing veggie and vegan pestos exist in the uk! I recommend Mr Organic Basil pesto, Zest basil pesto or Sacla tomato pesto. Sacla even have a chilli pesto which I didn’t know was a thing 😂
Do you still have a support worker? It is great to see you thriving :)