healing from burnout | detaching productivity from self worth
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- How to recover from burnout & my lessons from the past year of doing less, releasing pressure on myself, detaching my self worth from productivity & achievement. Thanks BetterHelp for sponsoring this video. Get 10% off your first month: betterhelp.com/aileen
This is the sequel to the video: what to do when you feel like doing nothing (unmotivated, burnt out, unproductive) - on mental health & self care.
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I woke up just feeling so useless and burnt out today. I’m at a point in my life where I feel so uninteresting, lacking hobbies, living by myself, no goal. This is comforting, and feels like a starting point to something new.
Hey, I'm sorry you're having a rough patch. I wanted to say when I feel like I need a Motivational talk to pick me up, I go to Tom Bilyeu or Women Of Impact for top content with many subjects to get me feeling better again. Even if I just read a post of theirs on IG. Also, use the living alone situation to give yourself the space you need to try new things like new exercises, read new books, learn a new hobby etc. You can always change if you set your mind to it. Just take it one step at a time and don't overwhelm yourself with too many things at once. Take a safe walk outside or a hot shower or journal when you feel down to rest your energy. I hope this helped in some way. In health and healing. 💓
I feel the same way!
Yeah I feel the same. Not only that but I also have to manage my relationship!!!
i agree! :)
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.
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🥺you too!
What a lovely wish! Thank you, the same to you!
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2:00 ~ slow down and do less🌻
3:00 ~ saying no & building stronger boundaries🌻
3:50 ~ realise the presure and expectations🌻
• 4:51 Questions:
~Why do i have to do that?
~What fuels that need/desire?
~Who am i trying to prove?
~Who am i doing this for?
5:24 ~ heal body and energy🌻
6:23 ~ the healing journey never ends🌻
7:40 ~ THE LESSONS🐥
7:52 ~ RECOGNIZE WHY🐥
11:28 ~ just being🐥
Thats it, i hope it helps somebody
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thankyou. this was super helpful!
Thank you!
Thankyou
I was having a breakdown an hour ago because of burn out and i literally felt likee this video was for mee thankuu so much like genuinely ❤️
Wow I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope you continue to feel better 🥺
@@khalilahd. thnkuuu
wishing you fast recovery and know that you are not alone!
I know how you feel. Happy you’re doing better, my friend ❤️
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I’ve been a mess ALL April and definitely relate to this video. It’s hard to slow down and force yourself to find peace and live in the moment when you’re so used to putting pressure on yourself to get things done so videos like this are SO helpful 🙏🏽
Khalilah gurl I see you everywhere lol we must have the same algorithm 🧍🏻♀️
How come we watch exactly the same videos? I see you everywhere🥺
i had a burn out 6 years ago and have suffered from depression and eating disorders on and off for 10 years. i am still struggling to detach my self worth from my academic success and career. life is hard and we all go through dark times. thank you for this video ❤️
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today! I just quit my nursing job 2 days ago and I'm feeling guilty but I know this was the right thing for me and my mental health. I was having extreme anxiety, I couldn't take it anymore. Thanks for sharing this!💖
Mia, you made the best choice for you ❤❤. I'm a nurse too and I understand very much how overwhelming the work can be. I don't think anyone from the outside really can understand what we go through in our jobs. Taking care of people is the easy part 😉, a lot of the times it's the environments / systems we have to do it in that's insane. I'm so proud of you for choosing you! Your job will always be able to replace you, but YOU won't be able to replace YOU. 👏🏾
proud of u 💕
same here. quit my nursing job almost a year ago. since then, the shame and guilt never left me. now anxiety seems to have been my constant buddy. i was and is still being too hard with myself. Thank you for this episode.
@piperj Thanks! Props to you cuz I could NEVER do ER! I'm in NICU & actually ended up staying on as PRN!! Feeling so much better about that decision b/c PRN is giving me the opportunity to continue to learn while also giving me flexibility to take more time off when I need it for my mental health 😊
I’m 28 and my first ever memory is my dad insulting me (I won’t say what he said) when I was like 5. For my entire life my dad made me believe I wasn’t good enough UNLESS I did something or became something etc. So now I’m trying to get rid of those beliefs. Exactly what you said in this video. I’m burnt out and it’s been a pattern my entire life.
I loved the point "Self is not really about to do lists and fancy things. It's simpler than all of that". I can feel that. Self care is all about nourishing yourself in way that feels great and it's different for everyone. I have watched tonnes of tiktok emphasising skin care equals to self care but i don't think that's the ONLY truth. It might be more some people but generalized anything is kinda wrong.
I read this quote somewhere which i love so much : "Life doesn't give you a manual because you have to create your own one"
An advise from my experience is that as long as you do anything for you, it never feels like a burden. Shifting our mindset plays a major role in achieving stuff. Like instead of saying 'I gotta prove im better at academics than xyz' you should think "Lemme gain all of this freakingk stuff and enrich myself with such amazing knowledge" I swear this mindset helps me hella lot in my academics. And not just academics, when you stop caring what others gonna stay, you'll be happier.
All of the points you covered are so true and helpful. Thank you so much sista!!💙
This is exactly what I needed today❤️ Thank you Aileen🥰
And u should be thanked for this beautiful advice ❤
I love the part where you talked about eliminating the self care to-do list. I am guilty of having this! Then, I start to feel anxious about not completing the tasks that I wrote down to make myself feel more at peace!! 🤦🏾♀️
This timing could not be more perfect - this week I realized I've been struggling with burnout for the past two years and have been looking for steps to take to start the recovery process. I'm self-employed full-time so it's really hard to find that balance in life and not spend every minute either working or feeling guilty about not working. Your video made me realize that it's rooted so much deeper than I thought! I'm starting to understand that this recovery process is going to be more than surface-level changes like setting working hours or adding more self-care - it's going to have to be total mindset makeover when it comes to how I view myself and my work. Thanks so much for sharing your journey and insight 🙏
Loved this Aileen, and love you❤
Love you 💕💕
I even got goosebumps when I saw that thumbnail cuz your contents always pop up at the right exact phase I'm going through. The one sentence I take away from this is "the more you let go, the more you allow yourself to be truly you are". Thank you so much, dear Aileen.
“The more you let go, the more you allow yourself to be who you truly are” This quote hit home for me and I basically shed a couple of tears watching this video. I definitely hit burnout, but as I feel like my true self was trying to say something to me without even realizing because lately I’ve been having a hard time with productivity, and I feel like I am having an internal battle. Overall, amazing video and Im glad you shared it.😊😊😊
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This is the talk I need so much! I burned out from the work several weeks ago and I realized that I don't want to fall into this repeated cycle again anymore! I have been always hiding my true though and be harmonious with the whole team to achieve the work goal. However, that totally took toll on my personal health (physical and mental).
Recently I am watching "My Liberation Notes" on Netflix and it speaks to my heart! I try to make small "progress" (even it is just a talk with my colleague saying what bothers right now) and it starts to change my life! I tie my self worth with work performance too much. My personal life is blank! "Who am I if I am not working?" And I couldn't think of me as what kind of person! how pathetic!
A good talk reminding me to start to be my authentic self!
I agree....we are not machines! And that's why "the machines" are taking a lot of jobs. But this grind culture is toxic, and I try to prioritize relax time. I tend to find myself feeling guilty but I know it's for my best good
Oh my god! For the last couple of days, i've been feeling burnt out after my midterm exams along with family issues and that general anxiety of future. Everything felt more overwhelming than it used to be :,) I was litterally in a place where i couldn't do any work but neither relax properly till today. Today, even though i couldn't got up early as i planned i still got up and started doing something. I havent watched the video yet but i believe it'll help me, truelly. Thank you so much I'm taking this as my sign.
this is literaly me oml :')
My favorite point is that your mind and your light are not the same. I’ve been to the hospital twice in the last five days due to anxiety. This gives me hope that I will get pass through this and let my light show.
sending you more hope & love Patricia ❤❤. Your light WILL shine through, and you are not your emotions, you are not your thoughts. These are your tools, but they are not you, you are more than them. you can make it through!
To the individual that sees this message, make your self a priority boo! Don't feel overwhelmed about things you can't control. Focus on the things you can control and make time for your SELFCARE. We tend to neglect ourselves and fall victim to burnout because we feel we can do it all. Take a break, get some fresh air, vent to your tribe. Everything will be fine! -@Yoselfcaremama🧡
I really needed to hear this 🥺
Being a new business owner is really hard! The fear of failure was hunting me very, very badly! I started to compare myself to other business owners who was more successful than I was!!! It was just overwhelming!!! On top of that, I’m a mom and a wife!!! I had to pretend I was okay and perform my everyday duties. I’m blessed to say I’ve gotten so much better at balancing everything!! Still improving daily, but I’m not where I use to be!! Love, Peace and blessings to you all!! All is well!!! We are going to be alright 🥰
Thank you so much, I'm really struggling as an unpaid creator - I'm working so hard and it has been getting the better of me, this video has helped xxx
Thank you so much for this reminder. Been hustling for 2 weeks and I'm aware that I'm slowly feeling burnt out.
I know that I should not consider "rest" as a reward. What I need to do is really incorporate this in my life.
exactly 💕
very timely :,)) thank you so much for speaking these words, am and have been in a burnout since a year ago and i really do agree that healing is a constant process! journaling (ie the whys etc) has changed my life and i love that you mentioned self-care is not checking off a to-do list! thank u and for all those reading, may you find your love and light in yourself
such kind words, and so true, i’m happy you’re feeling better sierra☺️
I’ve been on sick leave for severe burn out and depression made worse by a toxic work environment/boss. I really enjoyed this video. Would you be able to do a seperate video on healing and moving on from a toxic work environment? Apologies if you have already done a video on the topic.
As I have said, this is truly the year of realigning with the power of boundaries.✨ Boundaries truly liberate us, even from aspects of ourselves that are no longer serving us. Thank you for this video honestly, I have been reassessing all aspects of my life's foundation exchanging productivity for time with the soul. The detatchment from anxiety is definitely a practice, thank you for voicing this 💜❤💜
Would never imagined you were struggling with this.
Your meditation on self-worth was very helpful to me. I'm overcoming similar issues.
love to witness your self-care/relaxation glow up as I definitely went a similar way as I closed out my 20's of overachieving. I really liked the point about not listing off your self-care "accomplishments" and remembering it's about listening to yourself and what you need, not "doing self-care" just to say you did self-care.
I love this, I just realized I put too much pressure on myself. It took me nine years to find out because my parents and guardians always called me lazy and ungrateful. I always pushed myself to the final limit and always tried to give 110%. I was always compared with the smartest kids my whole life that made me feel like I’m not enough. I felt like school was a completion and I had to show them they are wrong. I discussed this with my mom but now she is saying I am victimizing myself. You are like my breath of fresh air of the day and I look up to you. I do your meditations everyday. Can the people who are reading this give me advice in the comments?
Just remember that you are amazing and beautiful. Never give up on yourself.
I don't think you're victimizing yourself, I think you're recognizing that you were acting in response to pressure. Just don't get stuck in that space. Use it to ask yourself who you really are and what you want your life to be.
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My husband and I bought a fixer upper as a first house so we've been living in a half renovated house, boxes still packed while we live and work and work on the house. It's been so much feeling like we haven't made enough progress but I remember we still have so much on our plate and we are just spinning our wheels into the mud. So we are finding gratitude for the small projects and the things that are done or do work. Working outside on the yard and feeling like you are tending to your environment. I need to set up a yoga space because I have no place to lay out and move
I'm so grateful that I decided to watch this video today instead of rushing , doing homeworks , projects ... We really need a break from this like we're literally rushing but we're actually rushing nowhere but death ... It literally hit me hard when you said that there's actually no rules in this earth , the way we livin' ... Society created this and we have life and we have choice to do what we want ... Thank you so much for this advice and you're voice is just claming and charming as always 🥺💗💕💝💓 I love it
You are an absolute gift from the Universe to all of us. I need this, so bad. So grateful for you Aileen. I wish you good health, joy, love success and more. Please accept this BIG virtual hug from me. May God bless you 🙏❤️
What was your favorite point from this video?
Sending you all soo much love 💞
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thank you for being so warm
Convert to Islam u will never feel that way again
Make more about healthy productivity, balance and overwhelming 🙏🤍
Asking Why do I have to do that. And What am I trying to prove . Ive been on this treadmill forever and fear seems to be the motivator.nThe pandemic really through my plans out of wack and Im off on a tangent, working at a job where I feel trapped and held back.
My favorite point from this video was when you talked about seeing self care through this achievement filter too, it’s something I’ve been doing and I don’t want to, I want that to change
Thank you, I'm finishing my degree and really needed this ♥️
thank you so much for making this video i literally feel burn out😢 with my routine
So true Aileen .... It's sometimes doing nothing and not feeling guilty ...but feeling rejuvenated... ❤️ yr video content ❤️❤️
literally loved that video last year and glad to see an update! love to see you thrive and appreciate you sharing your experiences with us
Thank you for this! This is exactly what I did last month. I took a rest for a month because I felt like I couldn't breathe and it felt everything was exhausting, and overwhelming. Now, I have the energy to do the things I did before. And you're right, our healing goes on, there's no stop, and all we need to do is to not give up even if we fail.
Thank you Aileen for this video!
I’m rewatching this. This is incredible and thank you for being open and sharing
Thank you for this video🧘♀️💗 It’s really a healing journey. I had something similar 4 years ago. I’m not sure if it was burnout but I was really close to it. I also went to therapy and that was helping me so much. Although I was really feeling so empty and broken inside and just didn’t understand why (after the therapy it started to get clearer and clearer).
Since then I’m taking much better care of myself. That’s why I also quit my latest job because I just felt, that I’m giving way too much energy and passion into it, what is actually good, but I can overdo it easily, especially if I don’t have a private life (like partner or family who I’m living with). So it’s really important, listening to ourselves and observing our feelings as well🧡💜🤍💐
I love this so much, it’s nice to know there’s people like you in the world.
I've been watching your videos for more than a year now. Love them!!!
The point I liked the most was certainly the one with the yin an yang energy levels and balance.
I've always been on the Yang side, masculine productive energy, a hich achiever.But i burned out, and loong loong talking sessions with my husband doing just getting deep inside me layer after, I realized I still had some terrorizing memory of my dad, or teacher hitting me for not having the best grade or some minuscule academic mistakes.
I grew up like a machine and was the one in the familly that always bring up the good results...Now
I do things for myself, I droped out of medschool and started my creative journey (starting a career in UI/UX design and spend hours drawing, which my father always tackled as being "useless")
And yeah, it's an eternal healing process but my husband helps a lot, and we explore our pasts regularly, layer after layer.
And it actually feels good. Thanks for this video as everything you said aligns perfectly with my life right now.
Now i "breath" and "live" 😊🥰
I listen to your videos all days long. It's amazing
This really resonating with everything I've been thinking lately. Thank you so much for putting this into words that we all need to hear!
I definitely needed this. I had a breakdown last night because I was just doing so much. Just hearing you say that I really need to ask myself why is something I want to work on today before I get started on my day. Thank you for this talk.
Thanks for putting this out there. Embracing the beauty of "being" is something we all overlook because it is considered to be unproductive. Grateful that there are creators who are authentic enough to address this. 🙏
Thank you Aileen for this video, I've been going through burnout myself and today I feel so much better, hope all people can heal and let go that's the most beautiful thing to do let's let our soul be happy !
Truly a queen! I love this video! Exactly what I need to hear! 💕
Thank you,Aileen. I need this. Have a lovely day as you are❤️
Your videos always appear right on time. Thank you for this 🥺🥺🥺
I really needed this... Thank you aileen 💕
I’ve been watching your content for years. And I find so much value. You are so sweet and genuine❤️
Love your point about not making self care a checklist...hussling the self care to do too!!! I totally do this at times.
Thank you for this video, I have also been feeling burned out as well and with finals coming up this will help remind me no matter what it’s important to listen to my body and mind.
Aileen thanks for your video. I’m going through a really tough moment and hearing your advice helps me out :)
It was extremely enlightening when you said that resting and listening to the body is not about being productive and ticking a to do list… so true
This video really helped me break down a lot of problems I’m dealing with. Thank you❤
Hope you are doing well,love your videos. Thanks for existing ✨💕
Honestly, thank you so much ): I cried so much with this video, doing nothing is so important, we’re here without rules just to be happy 🧚♀️✨🍃
This really resonated with me atm: “the more you let go the more you allow yourself to be who you truly are❤️
This is so helpful! Thank you for making such great contents for people like us!❤ I love you queen!💜
So appreciative of your transparency.I honestly feel like we all struggle with this in some regard.We are always on the move 😭I love it when the sponsorships actually match the video by the way.
Thank you for this, Aileen! This was really helpful!
Perfect timing with this video, today is one of my not doing days. Thank you for all your helpful videos!
Revisiting your channel after having found you from your video on Boundaries. It’s beautiful and so inspiring to see how much you’ve clearly attuned to yourself - I can see such a difference in your energy and communication. There’s such a strength and genuine feel to how you’re expressing. I’m just beginning my journey in understanding all the nuance you touch on here, and I’m so grateful to see you making such authentic and powerfully vulnerable content! This has so much value, and so do you! ✨💜✨🦋
One of the best self care CZcams channel ❤️
I feel like I’ve grown with you as I’ve watched your channel over the years. It’s so nice to feel like I’m not going through phases in life alone. I’ve definitely noticed you appear more carefree and lighter in your videos recently! (Even though I’ve always loved your vids). Thank you for inspiring us and keep doing the good work 💪🏻💪🏻
Thanks for sharing these observations, definitely gave me cause for reflection. You do seem lighter, brighter, more relaxed & more animated, it is good to see your evolution. 💚
Loved this video❤️ For me, I push myself because sometimes I compare myself to others and also have FOMO.
u didn't fail me to enlighten well-being✨, thanks ate Aileen❤❤ i really really love ur voice.
Aileen I loved this video! I’ve been watching your videos since 2017 and love how you keep sharing your truth and your light 💡
I really like what you said about that persistant voice not being our own, and that our truest selves are perfect just the way they are
Hey Aileen! Thanks for reminding us that we are enough, and that balance is a must ❤️
This winter I had the opportunity to slow down and take time to work on myself and to heal from burnout and now that life has gone back to my regular fast pace way it's been difficult to adjust. This video really helped me rethink my situation thankyou.
I feel like when you mentioned the part about realizing that a lot of our expectations come mainly from parents and upbringings. That really struck a cord with me cause that’s been my experience and I’ve learned that what I’m doing now is actually good enough. Sometimes we just need to honor how we feel and care about ourselves enough to know and understand when we’re tired and not in the mood and be real with ourselves instead of trying to cover it up and move forward like nothing is really effecting us
Thank you 🙏🏼for your wonderful, beautiful, gentle yet strong insight. I so needed to hear this from the perspective you took. Take care 🤗. You don't need to make heaps of videos. This one was a gem on its' own. You covered so many important points. Really helpful 🤩.
This was a much needed video, thankyou
You are so calming
I’m on my journey. I have 2 weeks til I move across country and start working a little less so I can recovery too. I think so many of us are experiencing this.
Thank you for sharing. I am also healing from burnout from work and personal trauma. There is value in being productive, but there is also value in being still. It is so important to pause and reflect amidst all the busy-ness.
Thank you for this video. I am exactly feeling like this too much overwhelmed with what to do with my life, seeing others get so much done in their life and me not able to. The pressure is too much but seeing this really motivated me and i feel calm😊😊
You look prettier Aileen than ever 💗 thank you for every words that is on point and for being a ball of light and hope to people like me ✨
Thank you for this healing video.
This video is GOLD
I was so low last year, emotionally, and I found that video you posted last year, and it made so much of sense, I became so much better after that. Once in a while, now, I do feel an emotional tsunami, and today, I saw this video, and again, it makes Complete sense. Thank you so much Aileen, for always putting things back into perspective 💜
I needed this. You hit all the right points. Thank you.
Maam Aileen, I just want you to know that you're one of my inspiration why I overcome stress and old traumas.. Your videos push me to become the best version of my self
Thank you so much for your tips! I’m struggling right now about the way I’m doing things because I feel that I put so much pressure on my goals. However, this video helped me to think about the present moment; about the activities I’m doing right now; about muy language and growth project. I’ll be right there but at my own pace.
I feel so inspired now 😊
Thank you once again!!
Love & peace ❤️
I just realize that I'm struggling with burnout these days and thank you for the insight, it make me understand myself better, thank u!
This was a beautiful, raw and honest video! It’s so important and yet so difficult to find that balance between what we feel called to do and share with the world and what we are physically able to at any particular moment. Because we change and sometimes the way we were operating even a month ago can be unrealistic for us at the moment. The important thing is to not feel guilty about it… to be kind to ourselves ✨
I resonated with this video the most of the all CZcams videos. I go through similar journey and you just voiced out what I felt, was feeling, still feel. Thank you it was very important for me what you put into this video ❤️
Stay strong Lavendaire... God Bless you and your gifts for our world .
thank you for everything, your content and workbook, and having you as a role model, has helped me so much, never stop being you 💜💜
i really love how you explained self-care, about how it’s the balance between yin and yang energy and not about the hustle culture. i never knew that when people were talking about the authentic self that it was when a person isn’t being driven by external forces, and just about letting go. i really don’t think i’ve ever understood it like the way you have said it until now. and i want to start learning more about spirituality and this gives me a bit of a push towards that ❤️
The importance of letting go. Thanks. U r the best.
Love your authenticity. Thank you for sharing.
this message was beautiful ❤ I strive to let go, free myself from everything that no longer serves me and know that I am incredible by simply existing too :)
Thank you so much for this video i was feeling so burnt out and now I'm feeling so much better
Really sending all my love for you