why YOU have a belly but influencers DON'T

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  • čas přidán 20. 05. 2024
  • 'Belly fat workout!' 'How to get a flat stomach fast!' GIRL, STOP! Stop falling for the lie that YOU are the only one with a belly! Despite what you see on social media, INFLUENCERS DON'T HAVE FLAT STOMACHS OR TINY WAISTS 24/7! No one does! And furthermore, you are MEANT TO HAVE A BELLY!
    1: Females have internal organs inside our bellies. Loads of them. Stomach, intestines, colon, bladder, uterus - the list goes on and on. It is physically and anatomically IMPOSSIBLE for influencers waists to look in real life - the way they do on IG.
    2: We eat. When you eat food it's not longer on your plate, but in ya belly.
    3: We bloat. For various reasons such as that time of the month, unbalanced hormones, food intolerances, digestive issues. Bloating is common, but not 'norma'. Please get to the root issue if you suffer from chronic bloating.
    4: We have a layer of fat ON PURPOSE on our lower belly. This is to protect our internal organs, especially our reproductive organs! Don't overwork yourself in the gym trying to get rid of this intelligent female human design!
    Let's stop misrepresenting what female bodies are supposed to look like. We are beautiful, worthy and powerful WITHOUT needing to have a 'flat stomach' or 'tiny waist' 24/7!
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  • @arianacmoi
    @arianacmoi Před 2 lety +8378

    When you know that large intestine is 1,50 meter and small intestines are around 5 to 6 meters.. and all of this is in your belly 💀 you know that small waist is just impossible

    • @itznehu280
      @itznehu280 Před 2 lety +74

      Preach✌🏻💗

    • @Tici-iw1eb
      @Tici-iw1eb Před 2 lety +334

      It is possible, but your hips actually impackt on appearance as well, if you have wide hips ,when you practice your waist it will help with visual look,making a pear / hourglass figure. Also the genetics play a role as well.

    • @arianacmoi
      @arianacmoi Před 2 lety +81

      hdh bb it will never be as small as insta models who photoshops and all

    • @allison.guy6673
      @allison.guy6673 Před 2 lety +31

      They must not poop. Lol…

    • @Black.Spades
      @Black.Spades Před 2 lety +158

      @hdh bb If your sister is petite with small shoulders and ribs, it is possible to have a very small waist. Or if your sister is tall or has a longer torso = more abdominal space (while still having rather small shoulders), this is also possible.
      But this is a skeletal build, which is inborn. You can't manually do anything about it (unless you remove ribs). That being said, even in small built people (for example some groups from India, East Asia or Ethiopia) a 20 inch waist is not the norm. Unless someone wears shaping clothing.

  • @soulfoodsmama2980
    @soulfoodsmama2980 Před 2 lety +2020

    “The belly pooch is not made to make you feel shit about yourself it’s made to protect your organs” needs to be on a shirt, girl. Keep preaching cause I’m here for it.

    • @imXnotXyourXgameboy
      @imXnotXyourXgameboy Před rokem +8

      Omg yes! I would wear it to the fitness

    • @RedRoseSeptember22
      @RedRoseSeptember22 Před rokem +1

      Yes ♥

    • @inejunta6569
      @inejunta6569 Před 11 měsíci +2

      Yeah, no. This is coming from someone sickly thin, those ultra skinny people I see they look off. That's not what your stomach looks like when you can't even gain the amount of weight that makes you look okay. It looks like a bad art project where someone drew something and got the anatomy wrong. It's fine if you looked like this naturally, but if they have a chest and curves, even with plastic surgery I don't think this is accurate. It's giving me uncanny valley vibes.

    • @inejunta6569
      @inejunta6569 Před 11 měsíci +3

      I'm surprised when people are surprised I have belly rolls wearing a crop top when I sit down at the beach but can also look like a sick praying mantis 🥐

  • @rebecca538
    @rebecca538 Před 2 lety +3665

    I feel these types of videos need to be shown to men to educate them that real women, not even the women they love to drool over on instagram don't look perfect, and do not have the bodies they think we should have. It's ridiculous the unrealistic standards women have to keep to be thought of as attractive and sexy. We can't just be real anymore, it's depressing.

    • @ju8560
      @ju8560 Před 2 lety +82

      Couldn't agree more. Well said.

    • @PutkisenSeta
      @PutkisenSeta Před 2 lety +19

      Men? This has shit all to do with men. You aren't some maligned basement virgin, you know how many dudes want a slice. This is about social status. Men ain't to blame for your pecking order scuffles. You know how some women say they wear makeup "for themselves"? Well, that shit ain't visible to you. You put it on because you want others to see you as high status. No one in particular, that's why it's "not for men, but for yourself." Status is just action potential, which is why you crave it. Generically useful for getting what one wants. No wonder you suffer if you don't even know what's happening.

    • @hitankshiarya7032
      @hitankshiarya7032 Před 2 lety +102

      @@PutkisenSeta calm down bob

    • @rebecca538
      @rebecca538 Před 2 lety +85

      @@PutkisenSeta someone's got a chip on their shoulder.

    • @PutkisenSeta
      @PutkisenSeta Před 2 lety +2

      ​@@rebecca538 Less butthurt, more thought.

  • @skankfaceBECCA
    @skankfaceBECCA Před 2 lety +1129

    They actually did “photoshop” women in the 1920s too, corsets didn’t actually make your waist super small. I’d have to do some googling but there were photography tricks back then that they used to make waists smaller too!!

    • @ashleyguthrie572
      @ashleyguthrie572 Před 2 lety +90

      Literally sometimes it was as simple as painting edits on the photo!

    • @gussuitoji8992
      @gussuitoji8992 Před 2 lety +9

      They did, i mean corsets. But it's not comfortable at all!

    • @gabrielasilva3561
      @gabrielasilva3561 Před rokem +17

      She said so much shit when talking about corsets that I just know the research she did was the first feminist blog she found

    • @RedRoseSeptember22
      @RedRoseSeptember22 Před rokem +9

      @@gabrielasilva3561 What does feminism have to do with any of this? Women did literally wear dangerous corsets back in the day, they *fainted* because they couldn't breathe!!!

    • @itz_moonwolf1480
      @itz_moonwolf1480 Před rokem +9

      @@RedRoseSeptember22 that was like the 0.001% of the population that were the highest class. Even then tight lacing was only used at major events for 3-5 hours at a time. I have actually made corsets using patterns taken directly from victorian and edwardian corsets. I have worn them with around 2 inch waist reduction, and honestly, I found it very comfortable. Usually, I wouldn’t wear them tight laced. Normally I just wear them tightly enough that it won’t move around and cause discomfort. Honestly, it’s very comfortable for me, I’ve seen ppl describe the feeling to be similar to a hug and I agree. Corsets caused just about as much harm as the modern day bra for the vast majority of people. It was only the people at the very top of the social ladder that tight laced.

  • @nicola4444
    @nicola4444 Před 2 lety +4024

    My boyfriend constantly tells me to stop hiding my “belly”, and he tells me it’s there for a reason he has to constantly remind me that it’s protecting my uterus and other organs. It’s crazy how he tells me this but my own mother tries to tell me to workout more and sends me exercises to get rid of it. Women really have been brainwashed to the extreme.

    • @malon-
      @malon- Před 2 lety +36

      @Paula Mostert Oh no that is terrible :'c remember, real friends are not like that. It is only some women who do... Try to find girls who are worth your friendship :D

    • @fay6160
      @fay6160 Před 2 lety +55

      green flag

    • @musicheart0101
      @musicheart0101 Před 2 lety +43

      Same. My mother's always telling me I need to loose weight and I am too large. My partner says she is wrong.

    • @Shelbydrich
      @Shelbydrich Před 2 lety +6

      Your boyfriend is just being nice b/c he loves you, your mother is right b/c she also loves you

    • @keylanoslokj1806
      @keylanoslokj1806 Před 2 lety +10

      Your mom is brainwashed. You should be listening to the boyfriend

  • @Kc-dq7zj
    @Kc-dq7zj Před 2 lety +4760

    Not just social media, ladies, but sometimes in real life too.
    I have 3 kids and I've had a tummy tuck ,liposuction and breast implants. So don't compare yourself to anyone. You never know what someone has done to look the way they do. Every time a woman says something to me comparing her body to mine, I always let them know that it's from plastic surgery. Even if it's a stranger. I don't want anyone to feel bad about their body because they're comparing their natural body to my cosmetically enhanced body.

    • @ririimari
      @ririimari Před 2 lety +708

      I do, too! I had a tummy tuck, lipo360, and breast reduction. ANY time in complimented by anyone in public, I tell them, "thanks, I had plastic surgery that's why :) "

    • @piau1798
      @piau1798 Před 2 lety +653

      That’s very thoughtful of you two

    • @Rain_Reign
      @Rain_Reign Před 2 lety +474

      I love this and just appreciate the heck out of anyone who is transparent about this stuff!

    • @adriana27100
      @adriana27100 Před 2 lety +252

      Yessss! Telling the truth is so important! This reminds me of when I was very I'll for a few years and my weight went down to 81lbs. Everyone kept telling me how amazing my body was. I also worked out a lot so although I was very thin, I had muscle definition and my abs were really showing. I had this one neighbor who was a young girl age 12 and she would always stare at me and give me compliments. The 1st time she came up to me she said, "Omg you're so pretty and your body is unbelievable! I wish I could look like you.. what do you do for your body to look like that?" I told her my body isn't normally like this, I don't appear sick but I'm actually very sick and it's caused me to lost a lot of weight. This is not normal or healthy! Just workout and eat as healthy as you can! I hope she understood and didn't idolize my body anymore. The last thing I would want is for a young girl to have body image issues/eating disorders bc I said something wrong. Hopefully my words stuck with her! 💕💕💕

    • @Anna-fd3ui
      @Anna-fd3ui Před 2 lety +81

      That’s so important! Especially for moms!

  • @lydialorincova7628
    @lydialorincova7628 Před 2 lety +426

    I needed to hear this so much! I'm 5'2, 100 lbs but still have a belly! I even have abs but lower belly is still there no matter how much I work out! Girls you're gorgeous just the way you are! And it's very important to remind ourselves that that lil belly protects our internal organs! I've learnt to love it!!

    • @francesatea5796
      @francesatea5796 Před 2 lety +20

      Hey im 5'1-5'2 too!! Im an athlete so i weigh a lil more around 120-125 at the most? I remember when i was a young tween, i would push back that little fat pouch thats used protect the uterus always thinking that i was fat or that i had a "belly". This shit seriously needs to be taught in schools, and ESPECIALLY to young girls

    • @annetbraet7255
      @annetbraet7255 Před 2 lety +3

      Me too!!

    • @linn4511
      @linn4511 Před rokem +4

      @@francesatea5796 I still do this all the time as well.
      Thanks for commenting this, reading it from someone with similar measurements to me really helps. (I'm 5.2ft and 108lbs.)

    • @human_okk
      @human_okk Před 2 měsíci

      Thank you so much I needed to hear this. I've been trying to get rid of the lower belly pooch but now I realise it's just there to protect my organs and I don't have to worry about it ❤🥹

  • @silverbunny6104
    @silverbunny6104 Před 2 lety +61

    I used to feel really crappy about my body. I'm not fat or anything but i always felt like I'm not skinny enough. But thanks to you after watching your videos during this past months I'm starting to like my body. You are doing something big here girl. I thank you with the bottom of my heart.

  • @Girlbrushy
    @Girlbrushy Před 2 lety +6258

    You need to win woman of the year. You really are creating content everyone needs to see, men and women! Thanks chick

    • @micivalantincic8227
      @micivalantincic8227 Před 2 lety +5

      I second that

    • @hurricane7800
      @hurricane7800 Před 2 lety +5

      I third that

    • @star-vs8qn
      @star-vs8qn Před 2 lety +5

      Absolutely

    • @vcassol6989
      @vcassol6989 Před 2 lety +14

      Wow! I just realized I absolutely agree with that! She is not just reveling the truth but also encouraging women to love their bodies in a healthy way... besides she is gorgeous and sweet!

    • @Bettybbe
      @Bettybbe Před 2 lety +6

      Bringing other woman down to bring others up isn’t exactly woman of the year material

  • @neamustonen1230
    @neamustonen1230 Před 2 lety +1231

    The comment "your skeletal structure and your internal organs do no shrink" is so true. I've lost 20kg (44lbs) and now at 51kg (112lbs) I still have a belly. It doesn't go away by losing weight.

    • @timeless9820
      @timeless9820 Před 2 lety +18

      U have to remember the muscle that was used as a cover was stretched out if u got fat. Even if u lost fat, ur muscle was stretched out lol. U can't pull it back to its position without plastic surgery and still, u will have some belly, the belly dancer cuz the peritoneum is there supporting the organs and each organ is sitting on top of it vertically.
      If u didn't have the uterus, there could be extra space for the organs to fall down. People are ignorant cuz the academic system didn't teach us how the anatomy works. We should all have a general understanding of that instead of learning some things that are not practical and as our interests appear our specialization in education can be narrow down, but schools force us to know too many things a big general and broad education that many forget as they get older cuz they don't use it nor like it.
      BUT they won't cuz it is politics. Corporations interest to see the masses to remain ignorant is goal for them to sell. Just like monarchs, the population remains ignorant. Culture hasn't advanced. Our technology, science, knowledge has skyrocketed yo the clouds and has advanced but our culture is still almost the same

  • @jenkenj
    @jenkenj Před 2 lety +242

    I've said it before and I'll say it again, I logically understand in my brain that so much on social media is fake or photoshopped... but your videos never cease to blow my mind. THANK YOU for these! :)

  • @sl33ptilldawn
    @sl33ptilldawn Před 2 lety +105

    I love how you help so many women and young girls. Our brainwashing is so engrained.

  • @heatherjane910
    @heatherjane910 Před 2 lety +1080

    I’m 53 and have had a “pooch” ever since I went through puberty. In fact when I was in my early 20s, I was wearing a slim pencil skirt at work and another woman asked if I was pregnant! When I look back at photos of myself from then, I had a banging body, but was self conscious because of my non flat belly. It was ridiculous. Women need to be kinder to each other.

    • @lexibrandi3355
      @lexibrandi3355 Před 2 lety +70

      I used to always be asked if I was pregnant too! Just because a bad car accident wrecked my posture. I was always arching my back too much, pushing out my stomach. Yet when I actually became pregnant, nobody asked If I was pregnant. Until i was like 5/6 months & it was obvious

    • @Pink_pr1ncess
      @Pink_pr1ncess Před 2 lety +50

      I remember my former female coworker would make patronizing comments about my body saying that I’m not built like a real woman even though I was 16 😵‍💫 ppl really should just mind their own business

    • @sweehtie
      @sweehtie Před 2 lety +17

      just got asked if I was pregnant this weekend after I rejected a guy ..

    • @erasedshallbehisname5100
      @erasedshallbehisname5100 Před 2 lety +12

      @@sweehtie You mean he asked you that? How rude!

    • @omegasage777
      @omegasage777 Před 2 lety +11

      I've also always had the pouch and it's fluctuated sizes with my weight, but never goes away! It's natural for me and for a lot of other women. I don't think I've ever met a woman who didn't have at least a little bit of fat there

  • @arwen_2.0
    @arwen_2.0 Před 2 lety +1483

    I am tired of being told: you have a little belly and be touched there. People do not have boundaries when it comes to bodyshaming. However, bellies are a very normal thing to have, ladies. Lets not give ourselves a hard time with that. Peace and love and Merry Xmas to all!

    • @Ms10yearsafter
      @Ms10yearsafter Před 2 lety +20

      I am with you here, how is it ok to touch me, poke my stomach saying the most stupid things 😔..
      Hey from Helsinki..
      Charlotte 👋
      Happy Holidays ❄☃️

    • @deec3561
      @deec3561 Před 2 lety +8

      Merry CHRISTmas

    • @hannahmaldonado3665
      @hannahmaldonado3665 Před 2 lety +27

      People really think they’re entitled to touch women’s bodies. 😕

    • @666kota
      @666kota Před 2 lety +11

      Omg that’s me with my “love handles” guys always point out my hips like they’re trampolines. 😩😖

    • @bleedinketchup
      @bleedinketchup Před 2 lety +18

      I can remember the skinniest I ever was ..about 110 lbs . Im 5 ft 6 and my temp boyfriend at the time poking my stomach . I wore dress ..insinuating I was fat . Around the Same time another dude asking if I was pregnant . Its not us being brainwashed- some dudes are too . Love this channel x

  • @marissalugo120
    @marissalugo120 Před 2 lety +140

    I'm thicc AND overweight so yes the tummy and thigh areas are touchy subjects for me. It's nice to see other women who can be fit and at healthy weight and still not have a rail-thin waist

  • @rosecoloredbby
    @rosecoloredbby Před 2 lety +28

    Hey guys, just a note on the tight lacing (i am not an expert but this is what i know): tight lacing is not to be confused with wearing regular corsets. Corsets used to be made by women for women and they were basically their version of our modern day bra. Most women did not tight lace and the goal of corsets was just to provide structure for the torso and support the breasts. Any issues you might hear today over actresses calling out their times wearing corsets for a film is most likely just because they were not fitted right!

    • @Nallenator20
      @Nallenator20 Před 9 měsíci +5

      I was looking for this comment, THANK YOU!

  • @nadiarambles
    @nadiarambles Před 2 lety +2260

    *"You will never have an Instagram belly, because that belly isn't found in nature."* Very well said, I appreciate your realness and the research you bring to your videos. :) Would love to hear more about your experience studying nutrition, I find that so interesting!!

  • @KaylaDickey
    @KaylaDickey Před 2 lety +722

    I work in film, and I wish people could see what I see on a daily basis: the reason why your favorite actors and actresses always look perfect is because there is literally a team of people primping, adjusting, and touching them up between every. Single. Take. Wardrobe tailors their outfits to fit their bodies perfectly, and makeup and hair have their looks down because they're professionals who work with them on a daily basis (also, you never know, they could actually be wearing a wig and prosthetics to look a certain way). At home, these people have a whole other team including personal trainers, personal chefs, personal stylists, and other assistants making sure everything they do helps to achieve their look. (Not to mention plastic surgeons, estheticians, nail techs, etc.). I'm not as well versed in the habits of influencers, but I can see where this could be happening behind the scenes for them as well. (Not even counting in photoshopping, face tuning, photo edits, etc.).
    My point is, everything is professionally curated to make it seem as though these peoples' lives are perfect, when they're absolutely not. This is in no way, shape or form, to spread hate to these people, because at the end of the day, most of the actors and actresses that I've been on set with and interacted with are actually genuinely nice people just trying to do their job like the rest of us.

    • @HankaAAR
      @HankaAAR Před 2 lety +14

      @Chrissy 123 Yes. It's kind of weird sometimes to look at pictures or films of actors, singers etc. who used to be considered very beautiful and catch yourself thinking, huh, she doesn't look that extraordinary - because people didn't use to look like Instagram models. Also, older (~100 years or older) nude paintings - obviously the painters chose models they thought looked good and most of them have very visible bellies and/or rolls. Often the pose even highlights the belly.

  • @jessjess024
    @jessjess024 Před 2 lety +147

    I've always really hated my lower stomach, but you recently taught me that the little extra layer of padding is there for a reason and that has made a huge impact on me. Thank you so much for creating this type of content and sharing your knowledge. It's sad how things like that are not more well known.

    • @ellalloyd17
      @ellalloyd17 Před rokem +6

      Yass go girl!!if you ever get insecure of it,just remember that the cute little belly padding there is for protection:))

  • @amandamuehlenkamp328
    @amandamuehlenkamp328 Před 2 lety +160

    I don’t think I realized the extent to which online images impacted my body image issues until watching this video and realizing how much better it made me feel. You’d think it would be common sense, to know those photos are doctored but when you see it enough it’s easy to trick yourself into feeling less than. Thank you for always sharing the truth in a positive, not shaming way 💙

  • @iaralazzari3251
    @iaralazzari3251 Před 2 lety +1679

    Running fast to see your videos, you're really helping us with our self-confidence

  • @Uhm.an.duh.G
    @Uhm.an.duh.G Před 2 lety +951

    When I was 13 I almost died from my ED. I literally obsessed over trying to get rid of my belly “pooch”. I’m now 29 and only a few years ago did I learn that what I was trying to get rid of was literally like my organs. I wish I could have seen someone talk about body image the way you did when I was younger. I think your videos are so valuable and help me to this day.

    • @leylagarcia4418
      @leylagarcia4418 Před 2 lety +8

      Litterally me:/ I know idk you, but I feel very connected to you bc I relate so well so I love you girl

    • @Uhm.an.duh.G
      @Uhm.an.duh.G Před 2 lety +2

      @@leylagarcia4418 I am so proud of you too!! It’s a really hard battle for sure.

    • @crystalcharofficial
      @crystalcharofficial Před 2 lety

      I keep tryna make my stomach flatter but its not flat yet im 139 pounds...i dont know what to do but maybe im just hopeless

  • @alessialopez4333
    @alessialopez4333 Před 2 lety +63

    I’m 18 and I’m traumatized with my belly, when I’m was younger (around 14 or 15) I suddenly gained weight and I had a tummy like everyone does, various adults made fun of me to the point where no matter what I hate my waist and stomach…but it’s always so nice to watch your videos…it helps me a lot

  • @fifirose8703
    @fifirose8703 Před 2 lety +39

    I started crying watching this video because it makes me feel so seen. I’ve never looked at it this way. I’m so comforted to know that having a belly is a biological necessity for a lot of reasons. You just changed my life.

  • @liana3886
    @liana3886 Před 2 lety +466

    Just wanted to add that corset tigt lacing was used by a very small minority for the fashion purposes. These were usually ladies who disn’t have to do anything, hence could just sit around the whole day. Actual women (mostly working women) wore soft bone corsets that actually gave them support but didn’t restrict them much in terms of movement. Just wanted to write this here, because corsets were demonized to hell and back while in reality being an awesome, supportive, everyday garnment.
    So yeah, tight lacing was done by few “high fashion” ladies circles, but everyday women didn’t do that.

    • @AnnaEmilka
      @AnnaEmilka Před 2 lety +103

      I'm so glad that there's someone here to correct thin information. Corsets are being demonized for no good reason, and by people that know fuck-all about historic clothing

    • @AnnaEmilka
      @AnnaEmilka Před 2 lety +24

      @@monicacreator3168 Daliessae didn't say that corsets weren't used. They said that TIGHT LACING (shrinking your waist with corset) was uncommon

    • @monicacreator3168
      @monicacreator3168 Před 2 lety +5

      @@AnnaEmilka my mistake here

    • @CrownedLily
      @CrownedLily Před 2 lety +33

      Thank you!! I sighed so loudly when she started about corsets my husband asked me what was wrong.
      Also let's not forget, some men wore corsets too.

    • @casperlavoid2984
      @casperlavoid2984 Před 2 lety +15

      @@CrownedLily Exactly! People forget/don't realize that men also wore corsets back then.

  • @violettimpson8107
    @violettimpson8107 Před 2 lety +502

    I actually watched documentation on how corsets are represented wrong. They weren't as harmful as we think they are. I would love for you to do a video on further research, and share with the rest of your platform, with your take on them specifically.

    • @beththedarkmage3359
      @beththedarkmage3359 Před 2 lety +38

      Not when worn properly, but it was a common practice for women who wanted a small waist to lace it too tightly.

    • @jpsings4229
      @jpsings4229 Před 2 lety +42

      @@beththedarkmage3359 only really in elite circles- most women had to work, so tight lacing wouldn’t have been feasible, or even wanted, for them

    • @alyssatjj
      @alyssatjj Před 2 lety +32

      @@beththedarkmage3359 to add to JPsings: tight lacing was also only popular during the late 19th early 20th century. So for the rest of history (and during that period where very elite women wore them) women wore much more comfortable corsets, optimized for comfort and breathability

    • @IIta-ren
      @IIta-ren Před 2 lety +11

      I was searching for this comment

    • @beththedarkmage3359
      @beththedarkmage3359 Před 2 lety +2

      @@alyssatjj Thanks for the added info, learnt something today :)

  • @amcvart9839
    @amcvart9839 Před 2 lety +21

    A few years ago I had a completely flat stomach and thought this was healthy, but I had no period, was eating very very little, got loads of stress fractures, ran like 15K every single day, had incredibly weak bones and was nearly taken out of school due to being so unhealthy. I was completely miserable. I was anorexic and orthorexic and of course these are very complex issues and generally they aren't 'caused' by social media, but for sure Instagram normalizes looking like that and made me feel that the way I was was perfectly healthy when I was slowly dying. It seems that many people online are either dangerously skinny or dangerously fat and it's hard to know what real healthy bodies look like.

  • @tammy_vip
    @tammy_vip Před 2 lety +533

    “Girl.. where is your large intestine? Do you HAVE a spleen?” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
    Stephanie.. YOU ARE MAGNIFICENT. ❤️ I love reading your comment sections.. the amount of people saying how much you help them brings tears to my eyes. Please keep doing this! You are changing the world, one self esteem at a time. 💪🏻❤️

    • @stephanielange
      @stephanielange  Před 2 lety +28

      😭😍 love you, you awesome human!!

    • @tammy_vip
      @tammy_vip Před 2 lety +6

      @@stephanielange 😭 love you more ❤️❤️

    • @LotusesGalaxyOcean
      @LotusesGalaxyOcean Před 2 lety +1

      I love these videos! I would love tips from you on specific deficiencies or problems women have and holistic solutions for them. However, a specific historical correction or two.........
      Tight lacing was rather uncommon and a bit looked down upon. Typically the corset was basically a bra and a thing to hold up the heavy skirts comfortably as well as a back brace. They actually usually just added padding to the hips and bust to get the hourglass look without harming themselves. Consider how bustles or puffy sleeves made this easy to do...... I much prefer fashion that lets me add padding instead of encouraging plastic surgery. Those crazy teeny waist corset vintage images are edited and create a false view of the times. Also, vintage shoes and clothes suffer from survivorship bias, meaning the typically sized items were worn until unusable and therefore are not around anymore. The tiny items or weird shoes were left on the shelf and stuck around until today. This is all without mentioning sizing systems changed how they did numbering changed. It all can make it seem as if the fashion then was far different than it really was.
      Fainting.... well women were not encouraged to exercise and consumption was very common as well as many toxic materials being used and consumed. In simple terms, women were at home more, exercised less and thus were more likely to be ill from a whole range of problems. In holistic terms it was a disaster landslide of many problems smashed together.

    • @hurricane7800
      @hurricane7800 Před 2 lety +3

      Is it just me, or can you (often) tell a great creator by they're friendly comment section? By that metric (and my opinion ☺️) Stephanie is awesome and does so much good!

    • @lesheawhite1870
      @lesheawhite1870 Před 2 lety +1

      Yes I love her too

  • @ea144
    @ea144 Před 2 lety +714

    The only time my stomach was completely flat at all times was when I was anorexic.

    • @beee___
      @beee___ Před 2 lety +107

      Same.. and even then I thought I was fat 😥

    • @ea144
      @ea144 Před 2 lety +74

      @@beee___ so did I. I hope you are healing hun.

    • @beee___
      @beee___ Před 2 lety +47

      @@ea144 thank you so much 🙏 doing much better now, about 4 years into recovery. I hope you are healing as well 🧡🧡

    • @ea144
      @ea144 Před 2 lety +29

      @@beee___ I think it’s something that I will always battle with but I definitely am way better than I was 5 years ago. I’m glad to hear you are going strong with your recovery.

    • @ClaireEmilia
      @ClaireEmilia Před 2 lety +8

      Hope you are doing better now

  • @StrongImaginationA
    @StrongImaginationA Před 2 lety +15

    Great video! I do feel the urge to add, as a historian, that corsets in the 17 hundreds were actually called 'stays' and were not meant to be tight laced at all. They were a supportive garment; just because it gives you a different figure than a bra, does not mean they were restrictive. The corsets of the 18 hundreds did make it possible to tightlace, but only a small number of women would actually do this (mostly for social outings). The stereotypical figure was an optical illusion made by padding the chest and hips, making the waist appear smaller.

  • @asana_awakening
    @asana_awakening Před 2 lety +69

    I’m part of the short torso and permanent belly pouch club lol 🙃 Even when I was 100 lbs I still had a belly pouch and ppl would ask me if I was pregnant. Also, PCOS contributes to my protruding belly a lot and I didn’t get diagnosed until my late 20s. Videos like this are SO IMPORTANT! Thank you!

    • @emilyjulia9178
      @emilyjulia9178 Před rokem +1

      Ah yes me too! I feel like people assume I have a flatter belly underneath my clothes because I'm quite lean but actually it's never been true, even when I was underweight. I notice my stomach looks very different when i stretch to make my torso look longer. I'm also quite jealous of people who have a vertical bellybutton, thought that seems like a weird thing to be concerned about

    • @RedRoseSeptember22
      @RedRoseSeptember22 Před rokem +2

      Ah a fellow PCOS diva! Hello! ♥

  • @SandmanLibrary
    @SandmanLibrary Před 2 lety +232

    One of my flatmates is an absolute bombshell knockout. She and I have started working out together, and it's a really nice reminder about how twisted our own perceptions of our bodies are, because she's said several times to me how much larger my bum is than hers/how much skinnier my waist is and how she wants to get closer to that- but here's the thing...
    I'm more or less convinced that our bums are the same size, and that her waist is smaller and her chest larger, putting her closer to hourglass. We really don't have a realistic perception of our own bodies, and so often we end up thinking how perfect somebody who's struggling just as much as us looks, even if their body shape is essentially the same as ours.

    • @ClaireEmilia
      @ClaireEmilia Před 2 lety +15

      this!!! I always thought my legs were kinda big but my friends told me they are actually smaller than of a girl I considered "skinny". I will never have super skinny legs, but they have a very female shape so how cares haha

  • @chrissymoss514
    @chrissymoss514 Před 2 lety +307

    The hours I've spent trying to undo the damage these images caused my, then teenage, daughter is ridiculous 😡
    From the boobs to the waist and the bottom and the thighs - all of these lies that are portrayed on IG, YT, magazines etc., have been the root cause of her dealing with body image issues and mental anguish.
    It all needs to STOP.
    Another truly fantastic and very necessary vid.
    Mad respect to you, ☃️🎅❣❣❣🎅☃️

    • @sapphia4612
      @sapphia4612 Před 2 lety +10

      I hope your daughter okay. Hoping for her good health. Tell your daughter that she is beautiful by me💖

    • @chrissymoss514
      @chrissymoss514 Před 2 lety +3

      @@sapphia4612
      Thank you so very much, xxx

    • @etoilesvives
      @etoilesvives Před 2 lety +1

      THis is such a wholesome comment from a parent caring for their daughter

    • @chrissymoss514
      @chrissymoss514 Před 2 lety +1

      @@etoilesvives
      That's so lovely to say, thank you, xxx

  • @Megan-fh7jn
    @Megan-fh7jn Před 2 lety +108

    I love your rants!!! Keep them coming! I actually have a six year old daughter that at one point told me (keep in mind she is six and has weighed around 40-44lbs she is little for 2 years, literally tiny girl) that she is too fat because her belly pokes out! I said oh hell no! You are perfect and that cute little belly holds all of your insides and is there to help you grow!!!!

  • @amywilson7540
    @amywilson7540 Před rokem +4

    My parents are really into low-carb/keto dieting, and I've noticed that a lot of diet gurus promote the idea that a flat belly is a sign of good health, and any belly fat at all should always be interpreted as a sign of insulin resistance, even if you've never been diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. They also promote the same idea regarding temporary bloating after meals, and basically unless your belly is perfectly flat all the time, you need to reduce carbs until it is. So a lot of people have been brainwashed to believe not only that a belly looks bad, but that it's something to be scared of or means that you have serious health problems. I actually believed this until I watched this video. It never occurred to me that a pooch might be physically beneficial or even necessary. This completely changed my perspective.

  • @cathodexuxinayu6404
    @cathodexuxinayu6404 Před 2 lety +364

    I love how this slowly turned into a biology class lol...

    • @stephanielange
      @stephanielange  Před 2 lety +30

      🤓

    • @joylox
      @joylox Před 2 lety +22

      Yes, but the history of the corset was wrong. Bernadette Banner made some really good videos about corsets, along with a lot of others. With both corsets and today, I think it's important to mention that hip padding is part of that illusion too. Whether that's celebrities who get surgery, those leggings with butt padding in them, or historically with bum rolls and gaps between the corset and the hips being added to show more of a wider curve. It's the same thing as padding bras which was really popular not too long ago.

  • @potatie_huh
    @potatie_huh Před 2 lety +212

    My belly is the one part of my body that I sadly despise. I have spent years HATING my belly so much that it's made me consider surgery. So many years wasted feeling less beautiful and inferior all because of a little belly.
    But these videos are a GOD SEND. They really help to remind me that it's okay not to be IG perfect, because I'm perfect as I am...belly and all. I'm slowly learning to love and appreciate my little pooch! Thank you so much for making women feel good in their own skin 💜

    • @stephanielange
      @stephanielange  Před 2 lety +28

      You AND your belly are beautiful! 😍❤️

    • @brittanybertram484
      @brittanybertram484 Před 2 lety +13

      I don’t know how you feel about piercings, but I recently got my belly button pierced, and after years of hating my stomach and having an ED, and two kids, this little piercing has helped me so much in my relationship with my stomach.
      I’m not sure what the psychology behind it is, but doing something that added beauty to an area I hated so much has really boosted my confidence, and I’m excited for it to heal enough so I can change out the jewelry. I’m 31 and I really wish I had done this sooner.
      This may not be the solution for you but I thought I would share just in case :)

    • @potatie_huh
      @potatie_huh Před 2 lety +2

      @@brittanybertram484 I had mine pierced a few years ago but my body pushed it out after a few months! I was gutted as I loved my little piercing! I'm so glad you've found something that's worked for you and made you feel good 💜

    • @MarySirenbun
      @MarySirenbun Před 2 lety +1

      I feel you, girl! I have had the same problem ever since I was in highschool, even though I was kinda skinny back then, I still didn't like how my stomach looked., - Now I am 28 year old, have gained more weight, so got a little bigger stomach (because I grown as an adult!) and still rocking my body in my burlesque classes! I love to see the videos of my self dancing I genuinely think I look gorgeous in them! Something I never in my life would think was possible to feel! But I do! And I hope that all girls/women wakes up and realise what fcking goddesses we all are!

  • @tee1224tee
    @tee1224tee Před 2 lety +9

    I really appreciate this video. I’m so tired of telling my clients that those ways and those body types are unrealistic naturally. I’m 47 and I’m pretty fit for my age. I work out regularly and I eat extremely clean and even I don’t have that kind of body. It’s unrealistic and unhealthy. Thank you for your videos. Blessings

  • @k213389
    @k213389 Před 2 lety +55

    I'm always so grateful for these videos Stephanie!! The thing about tightlacing corsets is true--it can cause health problems but it's also important to remember that not all people who wore corsets back in the day tightlaced or even did it for body modifying purposes. It was primarily worn by working women as a *support garment* like the belts weightlifters use today. Corsets provided support for women doing manual labor and they weren't always shaped to create a super dramatic waist reduction. They were also seen as necessary garments for appearing well-appointed and professional; similar to how bras are seen as non-optional in many workplaces today. Tightlacing has never been that common of a thing--it was more common among wealthy women. Also the whale bone (from ye olden days) or steel inserts (today) are there to hold corsets up; the actual shaping comes from the shape of the fabric panels. Without the boning inserts, a corset won't stay put. This is the same reason why stretchy shapewear often rolls or falls down; it doesn't have a support to keep it in the right place. Today high quality corsets (and other shapewear-type garments) are always constructed with spiral steel inserts, not plastic. Spiral steel inserts are much more flexible and comfortable than what was available back in the day.

  • @joylox
    @joylox Před 2 lety +180

    Tightlacing was very rare, and the deformities are a myth, they're the same as Spanx, just before elastic came along. A lot of the more extreme corsets had hip padding to add to the illusion. Corsets are actually very comfortable and help with posture, especially for those with scoliosis, as long as the fitting is done right. I've made my own, and want to see if it would help with my hypermobility related pain.

    • @kyupin1075
      @kyupin1075 Před 2 lety +43

      Yes! I just came to the comments to say this lol. To add to what you said, corsets were just a structural garment, like a bra today. Even working class women wore corsets because they were a necessary undergarment for the clothing of the time!

    • @DawnYarnDoll
      @DawnYarnDoll Před 2 lety +4

      Facts

    • @GenericUser1388
      @GenericUser1388 Před 2 lety +29

      Also, those photos of women wearing corsets were likely "photoshopped," as they still edited their photos back then just like we do now!

    • @ioana7547
      @ioana7547 Před 2 lety +1

      Comfortable? I wouldn’t go that far. Besides, if you have bad posture or some kind of spinal deformity (most people do) you need to get a doctor’s appointment and a prescribed medical-grade back brace; corsets being vaguely supportive is woo-woo science in that regard and might end up doing more harm than good if you have an actual medical condition.
      I get the noble effort to correct misinterpretations of historical sources but let’s not go to the other extreme and act like obsolete historical garments can possibly improve our lives beyond what modern day medicine is already capable of.

    • @shisurvives2635
      @shisurvives2635 Před 2 lety +17

      @@ioana7547 Many people with scoliosis use corsets made specifically for them in their day to day life to help them with posture. It's not some magical miracle cure that's going to straighten out their spine, but it does help to support and provides a structure that can reduce pain and discomfort in day to day life. There are even specific "asymmetric corsets" made for people with scoliosis and and other spinal related issues.
      And on a side note, properly made corsets are surprisingly comfortable, similar to bras they're not the most comfortable things but they're far from uncomfortable to me atleast.
      It's the ones you mostly see around the internet; the random ones bought online or at a lingerie store that are horribly made and so uncomfortable.
      I don't know if you've worn a corset as I don't know you, but I just wanted to explain my experiences♥️

  • @meowmeowfuzzyface3698
    @meowmeowfuzzyface3698 Před 2 lety +274

    Anytime I'm struggling with my body image or feel like I might relapse into my ED I ALWAYS watch these videos. I specifically eat while I'm watching them. You have helped me when I was struggling and I am so grateful to have somebody like you to help me see myself for who I truly am. Thank you so much for making these videos. 💕

  • @luisanamoya
    @luisanamoya Před rokem +4

    i can stretch this enough: you SAVED my life

  • @btwimawesome101
    @btwimawesome101 Před 2 lety +17

    You have no idea how much these videos help me mentally. Every-time I’m struggling with my body image I come to your channel and it’s such a reset! Thank you so much

  • @ellencampelo3383
    @ellencampelo3383 Před 2 lety +590

    Actually this is kind of a misconcept of the time, corsets were bras, so they actually made life easier for women, some of then would go to the extreme of putting it so tight that it was hard to breath, but that was some women, not all. The beauty concept changed through time to time, at the point women having a small waist and tiny belly wasnt a go to. But movies do pass that ideia all the time

    • @queenofhearts7503
      @queenofhearts7503 Před 2 lety +6

      Honey that is a fuckin lie- where did u get it information from

    • @ellencampelo3383
      @ellencampelo3383 Před 2 lety +78

      @@queenofhearts7503 actually it isnt, fiction made look it, but they werent that bad, they in fact helped until the modern bras came up. I dont walk around carriyng the links of sites and researchs, but if you want to look it isnt hard to find, try to stick with the ones that are more historicaly connected, i think one time i saw a very good video on CZcams about it too

    • @patatapatata6581
      @patatapatata6581 Před 2 lety +55

      I was looking for this comment and I’m glad I found it

    • @shisurvives2635
      @shisurvives2635 Před 2 lety +50

      @@queenofhearts7503 corsets and stays have been been severely demonized by media. A quick Google search or look into a book about corsetry should help♥️ the smallest number of women would tight lace so severely that they passed out or "shifted organs".

    • @queenofhearts7503
      @queenofhearts7503 Před 2 lety

      @@shisurvives2635 where tf u gettin yo Info from

  • @isabellamia4
    @isabellamia4 Před 2 lety +239

    Thank - you for helping our generation with self esteem and mental health issues! Your channel influences so many people and we are so grateful for all of the work that you put into these videos! You're the most genuine and thoughtful youtuber on here! Thank - you from the bottom of my heart! sending so much love from the UK xxxx

    • @stephanielange
      @stephanielange  Před 2 lety +9

      Aw that makes me so happy you've no idea!!! big hugs to you my love!! x

    • @Eli-tz2rx
      @Eli-tz2rx Před 2 lety +2

      She's indeed making everyone's self esteem better!

  • @amandagdomingos
    @amandagdomingos Před 2 lety +3

    This needs to be said and heard. You content is amazing!

  • @rebeccaluo1336
    @rebeccaluo1336 Před 2 lety +5

    I honestly prefer the natural/unedited waists. They’re still small without looking ridiculous

  • @cariad123
    @cariad123 Před 2 lety +31

    Almost no women tightlaced and the deformity thing is a myth men perpetrated because they didn't like corsets. They're a comfortable support garment, not a torture device.

  • @amberc6355
    @amberc6355 Před 2 lety +275

    Love this. I spend my 20s constantly trying to get a flat stomach, and even at my lowest weight....it was still soft and lumpy. Then I tried gaining muscles to lose the fat....Just got abs under the fat haha. Now I no longer diet, and at a heavier weight But my healthy body weight and I feel better than ever!

  • @hannahalkier7044
    @hannahalkier7044 Před 2 lety +3

    I watch these when I feel down about myself and they are so encouraging! Thank you making these and pointing out what is real and healthy. I love you!❤️

  • @miumiu9105
    @miumiu9105 Před 2 lety +25

    even in my smallest weight i never got that belly, and now I know why, thanks to the reflex of beauty standards and amazing women like you, who spread this helpful and healing information across the internet!

  • @fabrineclaudino6191
    @fabrineclaudino6191 Před 2 lety +40

    I agree with everything you said in this video, obviously, but just a thing abou corsets and tight lacing: it got popular in the 19th century, it was not for everyone, nor all women had to tight lace to achieve the fashionable silhouette of the era. This is a common misconception, but tight lacing was more common for socialites, actresses and women that enjoyed the look. Corsets were made of heavy fabrics and (whale) bones? yes, but they were made that way to give structure to all the layers people wore at the time, and there were so many different types o corsets, with just cotton cording, for sports, some lighter for summer time etc, the same thing we have today with bras. Some of the illustrations (if not all) you showed when talking about corsets were drawn by men to mock women and the way they dressed (we can never win, can we), it was one more way of making women feel bad about themselves. Corsets are just undergarments, they were worn by women of all classes for centuries. It's not as bad as the media or men (in the past) made it seen to be. Srry for the rant, but i really like fashion history and i really like your videos, i just want to give it a little bit more of context

  • @bodypositivity4508
    @bodypositivity4508 Před 2 lety +133

    Im 12 and i was really not confident about myself and the way my body and face looks like .. i always compared myself to women with the “perfect” body on social media and always felt like theres something wrong with me. Your videos really helped me feel more confident and love myself more . And to all the girls & woman that hates there bodies... your beautiful. Finally , the way you treat yourself is the way others will , so love yourself even if you feel there is nothing left to love. Embrace who you are and be happy ( sorry for my English , im not a native speaker ) ❤️ .

    • @jasminm8784
      @jasminm8784 Před 2 lety +14

      Yes, well said. And also, focus on all your qualities. What are you good at (e.g. crafts, maths, journaling)? How can you contribute to the world with these skills? What character traits do you have that the world needs (empathy, kindness etc.)? There are sooo many things that are important and I wish I had focused on those when I was 12 instead of distracting myself with thoughts of beauty, comparing myself, feeling crappy all day long. You are valuable, you are unique and you are important in this world. Make it count (because you can!)

    • @vee8259
      @vee8259 Před 2 lety +3

      @@jasminm8784 love this. 💕

    • @josiesc2887
      @josiesc2887 Před 2 lety +8

      Something my 20 year old self needed to hear! Thank you :)

  • @timea089
    @timea089 Před 2 lety +11

    Tw: eating disorder
    I love and appreciate that you re talking about this,because i find it so important to show this to women. I had a friend (and i too) ,that had an ed and it was horrifying.I ve seen her every day for almost a year ,eating just 4 pisces piece of pineapple .She would get sick and leave school 3 or 4 times a week,her period stopped coming and her hair would fall.And more than a year after while she got better,i started to became obsessed with the exactly same belly u shown in the video.I was forcing myself to eat almost nothing and counting all my calories,had breakdowns if i passed my number per day and my hair started to fall(still falls).And now i m starting to wake up ,after months of doing this, not out of nowhere, but because i started having stomach problems that really make my life harder and an possibly upcoming ulcer. I wished i had never gone through this just to realise how important is my body and how he loves me and protects me even when i don't.
    Thanks for making this type of videos,i m sure they really help women in discovering what really matters. Much love💓

  • @louisebeattie2891
    @louisebeattie2891 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for spreading this message I hope everyone who needs to hear this finds your chanel 💗

  • @Pufflehuff710
    @Pufflehuff710 Před 2 lety +401

    I needed to hear this! I'm 5'1" and all of my height is in my legs, so I have a very very short torso. That means my internal organs don't have a lot of space, so my body is just not designed to have a tiny waist no matter how skinny I get. Thank you so much for normalizing having a real human body instead of these fake inhuman images we see online all the time these days.

    • @tameikatoorie3634
      @tameikatoorie3634 Před 2 lety +19

      Me too but I didn’t even think of this at all. Like duh your organs need somewhere to go girl!

    • @itsme90s
      @itsme90s Před 2 lety +4

      Same hun! I'm 1,72m...1m legs 🦵 the rest torso and head...

    • @Rosecreationsau
      @Rosecreationsau Před 2 lety +3

      I needed to read this to remind myself! I'm also short and I have a really short torso and always look at my stomach and wonder why it never looks flat 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @lyrux5750
      @lyrux5750 Před 2 lety

      I'm short and my stomach is the flatest thing, I don't think this has anything to do with height

    • @Rosecreationsau
      @Rosecreationsau Před 2 lety +7

      @@lyrux5750 There are many factors that go into how your stomach looks. Genetics, height, weight, diet, gender, health etc. So while no, this might not apply to you it still is a factor.

  • @crytical1237
    @crytical1237 Před 2 lety +65

    I’m not kidding I was just in the mirror staring at my stomach. This helped me soo much.

    • @stephanielange
      @stephanielange  Před 2 lety +12

      Ahhh I hope you were staring at it marvelling at it’s beauty and power!

    • @crytical1237
      @crytical1237 Před 2 lety +4

      @@stephanielange I am now.

  • @haileydewitt8535
    @haileydewitt8535 Před 2 lety +9

    I am 4’11” I am naturally just skinnier (thanks to genetics) and I do go to the gym and am conscious about food but I can say that gaining even 5 pounds can make a big difference in how my belly looks lol! One days I may look and feel great and the next look and feel different! No amount of exercise and dieting will fix that lol it’s all about perception. Just love yourself in all ways!

  • @leoniek1976
    @leoniek1976 Před rokem +3

    I LOVE this, your videos should be shown everywhere until this society wakes up! Thank you for making so many people feel better and see what is real♡

  • @dayeknight2440
    @dayeknight2440 Před 2 lety +106

    In one of your pretty old videos, you talked about how insecure you were as a kid, and how ugly you thought you were. You made a point that the way someone feels about their face isn’t talked about as much as body imagine, and I agree. I’m 15 and hate the way I look. My body is fine, it’s my face I cant stand. It’s my big nose and big forehead, things I can’t change, that bothers me. It would really help me if you could make a video about thinking your face is ugly rather than body. But I’m not even insecure about my body and these videos still help me, so thanks!

    • @nohelypimentel2274
      @nohelypimentel2274 Před 2 lety

      I use to have a friend that would say “ I just looove woman with different noses .“ I always thought it was interesting how the things you don’t like , your future partner ( if that’s what you want )will adore about you. Your uniqueness is what makes you beautiful . For example your forehead might be the reason you can do certain hair cuts or styles that suit you and nobody else. Idk why but I’m 100% sure you’re super gorgeous.

    • @dayeknight2440
      @dayeknight2440 Před 2 lety

      @@nohelypimentel2274 thank you that’s really nice. It’s just hard to see that everyone around me is prettier and no one really looks like me yanno? And no one really talks about it

  • @cheyennehawes
    @cheyennehawes Před 2 lety +49

    This is not my bone to pick but is interesting to look into, most women did not tight lace when wearing corsets! But they did do a bit of old timey Photoshop on early photos...painting! If you look close enough in some of those photos, you will see that they touched them up with white or black paint to narrow waists. Karolina Zebrowska and I believe Bernadette Banner both have videos on this. We've been manipulating our bodies in photos to match the unattainable societal ideal for so much longer than people would think.

    • @sarahanditakarina1726
      @sarahanditakarina1726 Před 2 lety +2

      yeeesss pls Stephanie I hope you’d read all the corset misconception comments here and revise your take on it and spread the right info about corsets ✨

    • @sarahanditakarina1726
      @sarahanditakarina1726 Před 2 lety

      @@halumiswan7096 proportion wise yes, but not the size itself. I understand what you mean tho, however the pressure is more of having a fashionable sillhouette than being skinny.

  • @balandrav
    @balandrav Před 2 lety

    Thank you for posting this!!! Every person needs to hear this

  • @AarenYASS
    @AarenYASS Před 2 lety +7

    What made me realize this was ACTUALLY concept and character notes for the movie LILO AND STITCH of all things. Nami (the older sister) i believe had notes of her bathingsuit or croptop outfit that SPECIFICALLY OUTLINED the fact that her "belly" must be curved outwards ALWAYS as that was her UTERUS. This "protruding uterus" was an important aspect to capturing her surfer form and really, one of the few if not last attempt at even capturing the curves and natural flow of a woman's body.
    I saw this as a kid and (as an artist) this has NEVER left my mind for female character design since. -

  • @amandaknoner6114
    @amandaknoner6114 Před 2 lety +42

    I carry my weight in my belly and whew this speaks to me. Thanks for making this Stephanie

    • @stephanielange
      @stephanielange  Před 2 lety +11

      So do soooo many women! Some carry their weight in their upper arms, some in their thighs, some in their back, and some in their belly! You’re still a babe!! 🔥🔥

  • @ea144
    @ea144 Před 2 lety +252

    Us women are the only ones that can fix this phenomenon. Unfortunately women seem to be too focused on competing to be the sexiest woman.

    • @Ms10yearsafter
      @Ms10yearsafter Před 2 lety +4

      So many girls are just jealous,envious of each other instead of being uplifting and a friendly..
      I so don't get that!
      I'm not after your man, I'm not competing with anyone with my looks..never have! I don't get it tbh..😔

    • @contrarian9999
      @contrarian9999 Před 2 lety +9

      THIS.

    • @a.nastasia.olivia
      @a.nastasia.olivia Před 2 lety +25

      Unfortunately this stems from men putting the pressure on us and favoring certain women for jobs, movies, music, etc because of these looks that they deem necessary. But all that we can do to help rip that image apart will be beneficial!

    • @belleccino
      @belleccino Před 2 lety +2

      @@a.nastasia.olivia I think what we all should realize is that men have their preferences, it’s not all their fault. Some men like big ladies and some like slender etc etc .. Beauty is subjective, what one finds beautiful others finds it normal or not beautiful.
      Media is at fault too for only preferring one type of body beauty..
      But like the main commentator said, women are the ones who can fix it, by first accepting the fact that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes as well as people having their preferences when it comes to “sexy” and “beautiful”.

    • @paigurung4205
      @paigurung4205 Před 2 lety +11

      It’s not our fault. Social media pressures us to do so

  • @noinflouencer
    @noinflouencer Před rokem +4

    Thank you so much for these videos. I struggled a lot with my body imagine to the point where I was so dismorphic that I couldn’t properly recognize myself in the mirror and ended up crying under the weight of self hate.
    These reality checks remind me that I’m absolutely normal and start to see myself the way others see me. You’re doing such an important job 🙏🏼 thank you 🤍🤍🤍

  • @raeb5525
    @raeb5525 Před rokem +2

    It’s crazy how important it is for me to continue to come back and hear this message. Thanks again for being the voice of reason❤.

  • @serna710
    @serna710 Před 2 lety +50

    Yes thank you for this video ! I've been really depressed about my belly recently. I was just complaining to my fiance on how I feel ugly and like a telly tubby. Ive been working out for about 5 years and lost alot of weight but I just can't get that beautiful flat tummy and tiny waist. He tells me I'm being dumb because I'm not fat and look amazing. I can't help but feel insecure seeing these girls on the internet even knowing they edit them

    • @stephanielange
      @stephanielange  Před 2 lety +12

      These girls on the internet dont even look like that! we ALL have bellies! x

    • @Heatherrenee424
      @Heatherrenee424 Před 2 lety +5

      Hey there! I just wanted to reach out to you and let you know i am in the same boat! Weight loss and still feeling like my tummy is just hanging on for dear life.
      My husband says the same thing yours does but it can be EXTREMELY challenging to see these images every single day and not feel a bit shit about yourself.
      I am fighting that battle too girl!
      I think the thing that has helped me the most is journaling out positive affirmations, long easy walks (in the sun when possible-get those feel good vibes in) and prioritizing a “self nourish” day once a week doing whatever makes you feel most beautiful.
      Remind yourself you are your own goddess because you are. We ALL are. 💜✨

  • @DrinkYourNailPolish
    @DrinkYourNailPolish Před 2 lety +47

    Your premise is spot on, except for the corsets. I also follow the historical garment youtubers like Bernadette Banner, Abby Cox, and Meme Mom Karolina Zebrowski. They just recently did a roast of inaccurate corsetry history in a zoom call. Really funny and enlightening. Please refer to their knowledge re: :corsets. Other than that detail the overall zeitgeist of your video is perfect.

    • @monicacreator3168
      @monicacreator3168 Před 2 lety

      I didn't see that zoom video, could you give me the title?

    • @Alienaddikt
      @Alienaddikt Před 2 lety +1

      they still look comfortable tho and all of these youtubers are skinny so it look like they don't have any problems wearing them lol, just saying

    • @LotusesGalaxyOcean
      @LotusesGalaxyOcean Před 2 lety +10

      @@Alienaddikt Consider a corset similar to a back brace and then realize many very regular sized working women wore them and it makes more sense. They were basically a combo: bra, back brace and support for a bunch of heavy skirts. Working women would not have worn them if they had no function at all that was helpful.

    • @Alienaddikt
      @Alienaddikt Před 2 lety +1

      @@LotusesGalaxyOcean i think the "working class" corset was meant to be comfortable and easy to put but the upper class corsets (lmao) these youtubers mostly show, look uncomfy af

    • @evaweiss1160
      @evaweiss1160 Před 2 lety +2

      @@Alienaddikt I think this video by a plus size costuber about how corsets and stays from different eras affect her body measurements would be interesting for you czcams.com/video/PSvy8N61YnI/video.html

  • @rosecanpunchmeandIwouldsaysorr

    Thank you so so much for your videos! Such a shame that it‘s still not talked about enough, but you’re out here spreading positivity and giving all of us more confidence. Love! 💖

  • @simplysimone5091
    @simplysimone5091 Před 2 lety +14

    Wow, you are the big sister I never had! Thank you so much for sharing what you have learned to help us women. I am on my period and have been feeling like crap, and this was so awesome to hear.

  • @carameldare
    @carameldare Před 2 lety +60

    Ooooh girl, corsets were actually awesome. They're mainly support garments and are very comfortable when fitted correctly. Very few women actually tightlaced.
    There's also an interesting contrast between now, where we expect your actual body to adhere to the beauty standards, and the past, where women were expected to just pad their clothing to get it.
    I mean, we have always had dumb expectations of womens bodies, but its worse now.

  • @Hannahslynn
    @Hannahslynn Před 2 lety +43

    Your videos are helping women gain their self confidence back!!!

  • @vrushtimehta6358
    @vrushtimehta6358 Před 2 lety +1

    this is so well researched and nicely constructed, thank you for your work!!!

  • @elizabethgaines1115
    @elizabethgaines1115 Před 2 lety

    Thank you SO MUCH for these videos!! You're saving lives girl. I love all your videos but this was definitely the best one yet

  • @HannahBakk
    @HannahBakk Před 2 lety +40

    I am so hard on myself, struggling with eating disorders my whole life. On top of that I have a neurological condition and it makes it even more difficult to look in the mirror. Every time I’m sad, I pop on one of your videos and you put me in check. You are one of my biggest heroes

    • @SATANFUCKSMYSOUL
      @SATANFUCKSMYSOUL Před 2 lety +2

      I hope you take care of yourself ❤😊 Your beautiful

  • @ditavonstacey
    @ditavonstacey Před 2 lety +26

    I’m currently pregnant with my first baby and I’m so scared of how my body will look post baby so I’m trying to unfollow all the people that make me feel bad about myself and keep reminding myself of all these things you show us. Love your videos Thankyou ❤️ love from Australia ❤️❤️

  • @alyssalauren24
    @alyssalauren24 Před 2 lety +44

    I'm also studying to be a nutritionist and I just want to thank you. We need more women like you in this field! ❤️

  • @siennasamuel
    @siennasamuel Před 2 lety +1

    YOUR CHANNEL MAKES ME FEEL SO MUCH BETTER ABOUT MYSELF THANK YOU. My mom and sister love your channel too. Ur message is something everyone needs to hear

  • @elizaaajane
    @elizaaajane Před 2 lety +13

    You should talk about Essena O'Neil and how she quit social media and started renaming all of her posts with truths like "I took 100 photos before I found a pose I was happy with" or "I didn't eat all day for this photo because I didn't want to get bloated". That blew my mind when she did that, I presumed she was naturally so skinny and always looked like that.

  • @mindee9070
    @mindee9070 Před 2 lety +32

    Even though I am 30 and I logically know all of these things it's always good to remind myself that I am doing enough by trying to love my body and supporting it by working out and listening to my cravings, instead of starting down the spiral of self criticism. Definitely not regretting this fried chicken on my plate rn. Thanks Stephanie for making these videos and bringing us back to the basics

  • @carolinadehostos7715
    @carolinadehostos7715 Před 2 lety +2

    Love these videos, keep it on. Thank you for speaking up for us.

  • @thamirysportugal8322
    @thamirysportugal8322 Před 2 lety

    You are much needed! Thank you for remembering what we already know but forgot

  • @alwaysluvinlife
    @alwaysluvinlife Před 2 lety +57

    You help my relationship with my body so much. Thank you Stephanie 💜

    • @stephanielange
      @stephanielange  Před 2 lety +4

      Aw that makes me so happy you deserve to feel amazing and adore yourself!! x

  • @adbreon
    @adbreon Před 2 lety +13

    So, not to undermine your point but you want to be very careful when making statements about the effects of corsetry. One: tightlacing was a fetish then as it is now. Almost all contemporary literature we have currently about it is written by men (in fetish magazines). Two: Corsets on average only reduced the waist 2-4 inches. They look a lot more extreme in photos because they are laced closed, which is not how corsets are worn. Three: it was much more common to pad the hips and bust than it was to reduce the waist to an extreme degree. Four: while it does weaken the muscles of the back, corsets do not cause permanent structural damage to your body. Stop wearing one and everything goes right back to where it was.

  • @virginiaanndavidson178
    @virginiaanndavidson178 Před 2 lety +2

    I’ve been struggling soooo hard with my weight gain during COVID…..ESPECIALLY my tummy area. It’s been consuming me so badly that sometimes I can’t even looks in the mirror. But I digress…because I don’t wish to write an essay about me, but rather share the impact YOU bring, you lovely lady, you🥂
    Your vídeos are a gosh-send to me because gggiiirrrrlllll, my mind and its body dysmorphia lens is nearly impenetrable (I’m working w a therapist).
    For many reasons, including, your platform/message/perspective/encouragement/perceptive skepticism, make me feel better. It feels like a big warm hug, so I’m sending a BIG ONE back at you, Miss Stephanie: 🤗❕

  • @Jayjay_07
    @Jayjay_07 Před 2 lety +3

    Your timing with this videos is sooo good! I felt really bad the last days because it's that time of the month where my underbelly doesn't fit into my jeans without making me feel horrible.
    I was underweight when I was a teen, not life threatening or anything, but really thin and I still had this layer of fat to protect my organs. It's normal for women and also younger teens! It's sad that we have to remind ourselves of that fact :(

  • @larkfly9273
    @larkfly9273 Před 2 lety +107

    It makes me so mad that we feel like we should look like this by default. The equivalent is that I should expect EVERY man to have a sixpack - they don't! Also will you be sharing when the book is released and will it be internationally available in a printed copy? :)

  • @csebesta84
    @csebesta84 Před 2 lety +27

    These videos have helped me a lot. This morning I looked at my belly and remembered what you said about my internal organs being protected. 🥰

  • @rendeukie9212
    @rendeukie9212 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you so much!! You are literally the best woman in the universe!
    I am a girl who's obsessed with working out her abs and I love the progress I've made, but I still cannot get a perfectly flat stomach even though I have a good physique, after watching your video I feel so much more knowledgeable and happy. Thank you for your information and support.

  • @linneahedberg6969
    @linneahedberg6969 Před 2 lety

    never stop doing these videos, they're important. Thank you for putting them together. You add value to youtube.

  • @naomi-so5sr
    @naomi-so5sr Před 2 lety +79

    Genetically and all my life I've had a natural pot belly in combination with a small bum, slender legs and arms.
    Growing up as a little girl and wondering why I didn't have a flat tummy like the other girls I've seen was extremely confusing and contributed a lot to my body dysmorphia. I guess I would be considered plus size, but there's even a standard for plus size women! Example would be smooth large bum with thick thighs, hour glass, and big boobs, maaaaaaybe a roll or two. So shopping in the plus size section is very hard, because I have a wide waist but a small bum and legs. I wish bodies like mine were represented more! I know many women with my shape feel the same.

  • @fosho9526
    @fosho9526 Před 2 lety +9

    Your videos were a catalyst for me stopping my full blown bulimia.
    2 years sober since, thankyou Steph :)

  • @veramichailidou6745
    @veramichailidou6745 Před 2 lety

    Girl, I love you for that content! 👏🏽✨💚

  • @DonnaMariehutchinson97
    @DonnaMariehutchinson97 Před 2 lety +1

    I love your channel. One of the most real people on CZcams! Great content ❤️

  • @AbigaleKirsten
    @AbigaleKirsten Před 2 lety +106

    Ok but i just want to say this. Some influencers, really do have such bodies in reality. I’m not saying all, but even people who aren’t influencers, have flat stomachs. I mean flat stomachs are all around. Go to a club, or a party and honestly some of the people there truly have these bodies. And while I understand that what’s horrific is people who DONT have these bodies are fine tuning themselves out of existence, which yes i agree is false advertisement, damaging to self confidence and promoting unrealistic expectations, there is another side where some people really do have such bodies. I love that influencers are being exposed, expose all of em, even celebrities, but we gotta also keep in mind that there’ll be people with bodies like this when you go out shopping or to a mall and we can’t say they’re all fake or been under the knife etc (because a lot of people say that when they see someone with a good body in reality)

    • @angelwings967
      @angelwings967 Před 2 lety +26

      A lot of these candid photos taken of influencers still have really nice bodies, so I don’t know what you mean. NO ONE looks like those pictures in real life. Yes, people have nice bodies, but I can still see where their organs would be.

    • @wellnessbynoelia
      @wellnessbynoelia Před 2 lety +19

      Literally!! I actually compare myself more to other girls I see in real life than girls on social media. I know they could have photoshopped their pictures but I have friends who truly have a tiny waist and flat stomach so sometimes you just gotta accept that some people look like the beauty standard with no filters or editing.

    • @lauraa857
      @lauraa857 Před 2 lety +9

      It is true...in my family we have literally zero belly fat. BUT we carry all the fat in the legs (with cellulite and stuffs). I woud prefer having more belly fat and smaller legs ;).

    • @melindabrown9718
      @melindabrown9718 Před 2 lety +15

      When I had a stomach that resembled this, I was over exercising, under eating, taking laxatives and not eating all day before I went to a club. It’s very common that people with very flat stomachs have disordered eating and over exercise. I’m sure there’s a small percentage who a naturally that way but disordered eating is everywhere

    • @HankaAAR
      @HankaAAR Před 2 lety +33

      Just a reminder, some people wear spanx when they go out and/or don't eat that day to be skinny in the evening.

  • @haleytruslow7200
    @haleytruslow7200 Před 2 lety +15

    Stephanie I want to sincerely thank you for your content- I was born in 92 and grew up just dying to be skinny. I developed an eating disorder that consumed my thoughts and my life. I have since recovered, but sometimes I still hate my body.
    The other day, I thought about how I hate the fat on my lower stomach, but I remembered how you said it is there on purpose to protect my womb. It actually made me feel better. You are really making a difference, thank you ❤️

  • @barefootdaffodil3988
    @barefootdaffodil3988 Před 2 lety

    I've been watching you for a little while now and I enjoy them. I would like to see you do more content about what you're learning in regards to naturopathy specifically.
    I hope your channel continues to grow. 💛

  • @emilyfgidley1896
    @emilyfgidley1896 Před 2 lety

    Your words are very healing and encouraging. I didn't know I even needed this content.

  • @aivarizhtml
    @aivarizhtml Před 2 lety +17

    Your vids are really supporting and entertaining, but please don’t mislead your huge audience on the point of corsets. They were just a part of underwear, personally made and fitted so every woman could do her everyday chores with her back supported. Anyone wishing to know more on this topic can search for such historical CZcamsrs as Bernadette Benner, Karolina Zebrowska, minalee etc. By the way, all the “corset dangerous” myths were created by men mocking something that’s women-owned.