Why I Got off Instagram
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- čas přidán 25. 06. 2024
- Hello everyone! Thanks for taking the time to watch this video. To be honest, I'm nervous to post this as I bring up a few sensitive subjects, but this has been my most requested video so far, and something I did want to share with y'all, so I hope at the very least you found it insightful and at the very best, it helped you in some way. Would love to here y'all's thoughts as well.
As mentioned in the video, feel free to email me at the below since I do not use Instagram, or any other direct-messaging platform:
wanderingwithcaroline@gmail.com
Timestamps:
0:00 - Introduction
2:50 - A bit of context
4:16 - Reason 1: Time
6:46 - Reason 2: Mental Health and Confidence
16:37 - Am I more present?
18:08 - Behaviors that changed
19:46 - What do I do with my time outside of work?
21:25 - Financial freedom and stability
24:49 - Caveats
Deleted all social media. It’s boring now honestly
It is more boring, most times I use this time to sleep, 5 months off
As I am one of those who fell into the rabbit hole of "productive" youtubers, I can say that after two months the whole thing feels like a scam, they all just talk the talk, repeating themselves, saying the same steps over and over again where you can't actually see the real life, thats the real life for a person who does that for living. It's so refreshing to see a person who actually shows how it really is, who talks about how important is to work and try to succeed in something while taking care of themselves in a practical way. I could write so much more but I dont want to bother you. Anyway, this video is what I call an inspiration to be better at life.❤
Hi Martina, thank you so much for your comment. It really means a lot to me as that is exactly what I'm trying to do with my channel. I really don't want to ever "talk at" people and tell them what to do, but rather just share my journey, so that viewers can take what is helpful, and leave what isn't. I appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts and to comment :)
I like that you talked about being uncomfortable sharing provocative pictures. I have a lot of my male coworkers in my following and immediately felt the male gaze at the office when I started sharing pics of my progress at the gym. It doesnt sit right with my soul, deleted the app off my phone this week.
I totally get that. I can really see benefits to IG, especially being a small business owner now, but it is a very fine line to walk between personal and professional. I hope the break goes well for you and that you find it restful and refreshing as I did :)
i went through a hard time 2 years ago . And i would always post these vulnerable moments of myself and having people watching me who didn’t really care about and i would expose myself too much and i also had people that never liked me watching my life and it honestly made me uncomfortable
I've been off Instagram and FB for a year now.
Agreed,instagram imo only shows the edited side of someone’s life but not the whole picture.
And, like you said if you want to encourage young women and young girls to feel valued and value themselves. I’d highly suggest reading proverbs chapter 31
Proverbs 31:10 KJV
“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.”
Proverbs 31:30-31 KJV
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: But a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; And let her own works praise her in the gates.
I just diactivated my account, I need a long break
I think it's a wise decision. I removed all my socials ( incl my OLD profiles) as well. it only fueled the most negative aspects of my psyche ( pride, vanity, hedonism) while at the same time only offering a facsimile of connection and being a general timesink. it's only after a while you start to realise how estranged we are from each other. most people can barely strike up a conversation without having a panic attack. we're a spiritually broken generation tbh
Such a great point. I also noticed the more time I was spending on SM (which increased the overall screen time on my phone/the internet) my social skills really started to decline. Hopefully with more awareness we can start to repair some of that brokenness out there :)
So happy to see this video. I'm in the same boat and it's awesome to see someone else doing it!
Bravo. IG is corrosive and a time thief. I think we often forget to factor in the background static social media has in our lives. It may not be front of mind but it’s always lurking in the background affecting us.
Just found your channel and i really like your videos 🥰thank you for making this video! i love hearing people talk about this topic as I am also so passionate about it.
Thank you so much!!
Love this topic! I also don’t post on social media and it feels like I’m going against social norms. Funny enough it feels incredibly freeing. I hope more people will go against the grain of what modern society demands of us and we forge on a healthier and meaningful pathway
Agreed, very well said :)
Wow! Thank you so much for your video! This is truly so refreshing and I can totally relate to you! I deleted Instagram in feb 2022 and have not restored my account since. It has been quite challenging as being in college and in my early twenties it is definitely far from the norm, even though most of my close friends totally respect it. But meeting new people in this day and age the first thing they ask for is your Instagram 😅
But mentally, I haven't looked back because it truly helps a person to not rely on external validation, to work on oneself and to stop thinking about living up to certain standards!
Truly soooo freeing to have the time and mental capacity to spend on more important things! ❤
Same
I didn't have instagram for most of my time in college, so I can completely relate to what you're saying. I applaud your willingness to listen to your own needs vs the social norms, as you mentioned, because it is really hard! Glad you enjoyed the video and found it refreshing :)
Omg obsessed w you, you have such a beautiful energy
Aw, that is very kind of you, thank you!
Thank you for sharing this video. I have been trying to reduce my time on Instagram but have been struggling. For the longest time I thought that I follow people that I'm inspired by, so it's good for me. But in reality that wasn't the case at all, I was consuming all this stuff but forgetting it the next minute. It's like attending lectures and not actually taking the time to go and do the assignment- which actually takes hard work. It is easier to just seek more pleasurable content to soothe me. I read your comment on how we can quit as you said deleting the app doesn't work as it's easy to get right back in. I will try the method of resetting my password. I feel like I've wasted my teens to social media, so hopefully I can change that around before it's too late. Also, I really loved your analogy about handing someone a picture of your bikini pictures. And it made me think about how I'd feel handing each and every one of my followers my most recent photo... it's nothing bad but I'm such a private person in real life, it would be so out of my comfort zone to share that much. Thank you again.
Such a great analogy of lectures and the assignment! Sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders, so I wouldn't beat yourself up too much :)
Thank you for this video. ❤
you go girl❤ Life is so much better without social media
This is really helpful.Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Yeah I have reflected on much of the same things, and I don't think that this topic concerns women more than men - we aren't that different to eachother. I've been through two rounds of almost purging my social media presence since 2008 and I've come to realize that it's happening in cycles for me, like that some anxiety level reaches the top and I react with the flee or fight instinct, but always comes back for a new round. Social media is a tool, and like any other tool in the real world you can harm yourself on it, but with practice it can make wonders for your cause.
hi so i installed instagram again yesterday cause my exam's got over and idk scrolling on yt as well and came across your video decides to watch it and tbh i can relate to you in every way and i just checked my screetime and realised it was 5 hours and 54 minutes doesn't seem bad right?
here's the twist it's 6:27 am rn in india and im already at 6 hour screentime so deleting instagram again cause i don't wanna just scroll mindlessly and do nothing in my sem break rather i want to be productive
and it's all thanks to you !
You gotta be a Pisces ♓️ 🤔😂 over-thinker, questions about how you’d feel after dying, and stuff like that… You’re not alone 🫶🏼
Great video. But I just want to ask, how you you get over the fear of missing out? Like I usually just watch other people's stories and stuff but I ask my self do I really need to be watching other people's lives. Not knowing what other people are upto gets to me all the time. Any advice would be helpful. I just want to delete the app and not care about other people's lives.
I feel what you are saying. Though atm I don't feel like fully deleting Instagram because I can still see some benefits (and prob also for "anxiety" reasons), I can def relate and felt like deleting it at times, and who knows... maybe I will sometime in the future?
It's very much a personal decision, I could see myself going back in the future, but right now I'm enjoying the break. Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts :)
Off topic, You've got really good hair😍
I quit FB and IG a while back and I'm not planning on going back, Too much pressure to feel validated and at the end of the day it's all smoking mirrors.
Loved this. Would love to see work outfits even tho you work from home. Sometimes I get fully dressed up in my office dresses to feel motivated. 😂
This is definitely a thing! I've been trying to get more "put together" in the morning just so y'all don't see me looking like a ghost LOL. But i've noticed it has actually helped my productivity and confidence throughout the day! I will try to think of some outfits to share in one of my next videos for you. :)
Instagram is a cesspool pool. Definitely deleted that account. Facebook is getting bad too. You are gorgeous and don’t need anything done at all. I’m sure your boyfriend will say the same thing. Social Media has bad effects on society overall.
Very creative pov just a question how would u grow ur career as a digital creator if you dont use social media?
Thanks :) As of now I don't plan to expand to other platforms other than youtube. I prefer the long form format. If I ever did, I'd probably hire someone else to manage it so I don't spend the time on the app.
hey there! I've learned much from your video, which really help me a lot. Could you talk about how to quit these social media APP in next video? I dislike these but I cant help using them haha. that's magic😢❤❤❤
Hi! I'm so glad the video was helpful. You bring up a really good point here, which I totally did not think about. What I would say, and what helped me, is a couple things:
1) Deleting the app, but I'm sure you have probably already done or tried this. I think it is a good step, but given that they make it so easy to get the app back, I recommend taking other steps as well.
2) I changed my password to something I would not remember, fully deactivated my account. and did not save or write down my password. Even though you can still recover your account through a "forgot my password" mechanism, this will make it a bit more challenging, and sometimes increased energy cost is enough to get you to not jump back on the app unconsciously.
3) I think maybe most importantly think about why YOU want to quit the app, or any other habit you feel is negatively affecting you, for that matter. I think the more personal it can be for you, the stronger your "why" is, and the more motivated you will be to stay off it. I wouldn't just get off IG because someone else is telling you to, I would really think about why you feel you should get off it, and make sure it's a very personal decision, otherwise, it will be pretty easy to fall off any habit change in my opinion.
I hope that helps. :)
thanks for responding!! I will consider this issue deeply, from my inner part. Appreciation!!❤@@wanderingwithcaroline
Love your channel just found it and subscribe 😊
Aw thank you I appreciate it :)
i think this video will get over million views in the next weeks....has NOTHING to do with your looks, and its one of those titles that get views. i know which videos have the views.
You’re so beautiful
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It took me a broken phone to stop using social media. My iphone was beyond repair because it fell out of my pocket rock climbing lol and instead of spending the money to buy a new one i actually downgraded to a black berry. Its been almost a month and i feel free but totally agree with the points you brought up in your video.
Phone breaks are the besttt. When I was in a job transition years ago I went without my phone for a month. It was awesome. I applaud and respect you for rolling with it and enjoying the break while you can!