She Endured Mistreatment From Her Husband For Years
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- čas přidán 23. 08. 2024
- Join us today as Alisa Divine shares her empowering story of escape and recovery. Alisa faced years of hardship with a controlling, unfaithful, and violent husband. Determined to reclaim her life, she bravely managed to break free from this toxic relationship. In this episode, Alisa discusses her path to healing, the lessons she learned about self-worth, and how she has since dedicated herself to helping others in similar situations.
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I was emotionally abused and not physically. He told me I was fat and ugly (I weighed 120). He alienated me. I couldn’t wear makeup or skirts, it was crazy. I left after 6 years. I didn’t think anyone would love me. Now I’m married 27 years and I’m treated great.
All these judgmental, horrible women on here, i can see why abuse victims stay silent.
You all need to do better.
My story was of domestic and child sexual abuse. I eventually managed to get free of him with my kids. It’s not easy to get away from a controlling narcissist. It almost broke me but thank god my 4 kids are in their 40s now and I got them away to a safe life.
I'm so sorry ❤ I'm glad that everything is better now, you're such a great and brave person ❤
I will never again complain about being single most of my adult life.
In the middle of trying to make my exit plan. This is hell. Some physical abuse, SO MUCH UNBELIEVABLE EMOTIONAL ABUSE. The hardest part is fighting the enemy in my inner me.
The first thing you should do in a situation like this is get an IUD. Do not bring children into that mess. Especially more children than you can support on your own.
It confounds me that a religious leader would make the statement that you must forgive him, when he had clearly violated the covenant of marriage in the eyes of god. The oppression of women through religion that persists till this day needs to stop, as a man hearing this story and all the others like it make me ashamed of how men treat women. I am glad your story as turned out to be so bright, many women do not get that chance to remake themselves.
You can forgive ...but leave
The religious leader was wrong
You have to forgive in order to take your life back but you don't have to go back ...freeing yourself from the power of the devil is important to bring you strength and peace
It’s so crazy her church told her to forgive a cheater
the church can be the worst abuser
If you want to find the devil go or to church
I always said
He got her so young
He groomed her
He gaslighted her
He triangulated
Gave her an std
What a low down dog
Cheating is no were near enough to break up a family…. Get it together children need both parents. And if she knew she wasn’t in it for the long fight she should have never had kids
@@davonfickling6822 of course cheating breaks up a family. You completely sever the trust and respect and love that glued you together . But having said that The innocent spouse should have the choice to remain with the Cheater if the cheater is repentant. or part ways. The choice belongs to them but the cheater breaks the Marriage
I’m praying for your strong recovery ❤️🩹
I hate this planet.
Same
@@beelarehman5992 same here... fuck this planet
Well that's your problem edgy
The planet is beautiful, there’s just some awful creatures walking on it.
This is a prison planet….HELL
One thing i never understand. When people keep bringing children into a marriage, you know is bad.
Consider looking it up instead of judging someone who is sharing horrific history in order to help others.
You would understand if you had. Hell marriage. Usually it doesn’t become hell until your kids are born then it’s really really difficult to get out of if you’ve married a bad man unwittingly, or if he is a narcissist
We all live by experience and obviously you haven’t had kids or a bad husband. You’re one of the lucky ones
I can't understand why people with perfect lives would want to listen to these poor, miserable, pathetic women share their stories of abuse, which in no way can do a thing for them by listening to it. I guess they want to be entertained. 🤔
y, which in no way can do anything for them by listening to it. I guess they want to be entertained.
I obviously can't speak for every case, but I know my mother's case from her days of dv in the 60s. There was no women's refuge, no abortion, nowhere for her to go with 3-4 children.
I had a really good conversation with my sister the other week about this (she's 20 years older than me and went through a hell of a lot with our father). It's very confronting and very difficult to think about, but important to understand the challenges our mother and everyone was going through. As I said, this is just my experience, but it does make me more empathetic towards women who do get stuck in these situations.
Glad you over came this nightmare & found a better husband to share your life with.
I lived this watching my mother being abused
I helped her fight him
God bless you.
It’s always those controlling men who cheat. Ughhh I loathe abusive men.
Then do NOT get into relationships with them! And end it when he starts becoming an assh*le!! And for goodness sake, don’t marry and have kids with him!
Women cheat too 🤔
@@piratedre4d I know they do. I don’t see the point but to each his own. I’d break up before I’d cheat I don’t like messy on again off again relationships. Once I break up I don’t go back.
@@uly1q yeah but same argument for anyone that's the point
Abusive men are such a waste of ....everything.
Don't go to your church pastor about this. Ninety-nine times out of a hundred they are going to tell you to stay in the marriage no matter what.
I’m a Christian but that pastor was wrong…you can forgive, but it’s ok to not reconcile in cases of abuse. Forgive and leave. I’m sorry you went through this and got bad advice along the way.
I lived in hell for 14 years with my ex husband narcissist
Me too. It was over 20 years for me.
Me too. 19 years. Not sure if he is a sociopath too.
9 years too long in a terrifying, very violent and controlling relationship.
Two children.
My Pastor told me the Lord told him to tell me to forgive my husband, that I should stay, AND he had his assistant deliver a computer stack of every piece of scripture he could print.
I knew that wasn't what God told me to do. Something was "off" about that advice. As it turned out that Pastor had been in an affair with one of the parishioners, when he offered that advice. What a nightmare and eye opener.
I lived with my non-abusive boyfriend and I wanted to break up with him. It was not easy, so what it is to break up, when you fear of your life.
I’m so happy for you.
Well done. Such an accomplished woman and found new love. 🥰
A beautiful woman 🙏🏻
“There were red lights EARLY in our relationship but I, I CHOSE to ignore it.” Why??!! Are we color blind??
I can’t relate. Been married to a caring, loving man for almost 25 yrs now. I’m blessed to say I’ve NEVER felt the pain of a man’s hand striking any part of me bc I KNOW MY WORTH.
Hopefully my adult daughters will see our example & also choose wisely.
Because she probably didn’t think they were going to end up being what they were. But good for you.
Because you knew your worth. That’s the key, many don’t, they only know the opposite.
Ugh if you don't wanna study psychology Freud Jung trauma bonding etc stop making it our problem
@@mamathemeat Yes. Yes, life is very good for me. :-)
Thank you. As the content creator stated, she saw EARLY red flags. 🤷🏻♀️
@@LeahDyson-kq4bd Huh??!! Are you ok, ma’am??
You would be understood better if you knew how to use punctuation marks lol.
And yes, I’ve studied Freud & Jung in college Psychology. :-)
And btw, I have a great life, not problem free, but a still a married life (24 1/2 yrs) full of love & happiness. :-)
I'm just so happy that you eventually got out and moved on to a better life. Courage to you. God bless and keep you strong❤
Peace of Our Father cover her and her kids in Jesus name.
Amen.
Sezjezuz
I'm so sorry ❤ you're such a great and strong person for keep going and share this ❤
I been in a relationship with a person. That very controlling. But we had a child. That when it became hard..
If your relationship doesn't have a solid foundation with God and the 10 commandments,then it is already toxic...prayers you are here warning others with your story..you are so blessed brave and courageous! You deserve a healthy life not a toxic relationship
Ive lived this life the last two years. I also grew up watching domestic violence n i hope ur kids seek therapy cause i didnt n im in a bad place trying to escape. Kids absorb everything, every choice you make. What u choose to show them will remain with them for life, the chances ur kids r messed up is high so i rlly hope they get therapy
Therapy isn’t always the answer. Most people can’t access it.
I pray that you have found closure .your kids are the best thing ever grom that entire relationship...❤ Put all your thoughts on them..i understand that unconditional love you were looking for
I grew up with a father who was abusive when he drank. It really upsets me to hear these stories but it is so important to tell them. So many people stay in abusive relationship because they think they are the only ones. Telling the stories out loud takes away the shame from the victim and puts it on the abuser. These people have personality disorders and are not ever going to get better.
I'm surprised he let you leave without fighting. You were lucky in that respect.
❤ thank you for sharing your story you are amazing.
Thank for sharing your story.
Poor kids
You can forgive
FROM A SAFE DISTANCE
That much abuse and five children! Why?!
Because he is a disturbed person. That´s why. But victims also have admit that they played a long - they know exactly that they get abused (when physical and stay - the question here is why). In fact everyone can change his/her life. You don´t have to stay with a toxic person. (But you have to work independently - and that is not easy either). I know because I did it all... (Because of lazyness I stayed far too long).
Because he was abusing her, that’s why. Did you watch the video? Stop acting surprised. It happens all the time. Try being compassionate instead of being judgmental.
@@MillennialMountainMama you keep enabling bad behavior I can't. She can use protection to avoid pregnancy and that means less damaged children with an abusive father.
@@narmel8165 Not everyone can use birth control or have access to it.
@@narmel8165she’s not enabling it. The lady is sharing her story it’s over with. No one is enabling anything. Get over yourself. Go say that to someone who is doing it right now.
We want to believe we can make it work.or they will over time mellow
She had no support, poor woman. Nobody helping her see clearly.
I do find it hard to fathom that the disloyalty was the thing that bothered her. He’d choked her, given her Gonorrhea but cheating was a bridge too far. Not judging, just marveling that my own hard line would have been physical violence. I mean any. First time. No do-overs. The cheating wouldn’t be it. The emotional abuse and neglect, I’ve tolerated that. But physical violence would be the end. In fact, if I’m honest I’m pretty confident I’d retaliate with anything and anything i could reach. I grew up seeing it and I know this about myself.
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5 kids? Why tho? I hope she is not writing relationship books.
What a ridiculous story…. Can’t believe she brought kids into this mess.
🙏🙏💪💪🙌🙌
You needed other people around you to help you see? After he choked you? He doesn’t come home at night and you wonder if he’s seeing other women? You’ve have all these children with him? Why?
Your poor parents!
I would not read any of your books.
I am glad you are remarried and that you are happy
Your very Brave. U were married to a mentally ill man. I'm single. Was in DV also. I came out Alive. Not sure how.
Without being judgemental, why having children four more children with such a man? That I do not get. That it is difficult, sometimes impossible to get away, I know. There are so many different situations and difficulties. That it is very dangerous if the man knows the wife/partner wants to get out. This is the most dangerous time. Everything I heard and understand. But I really do not understand, without judging, why havong four more children in such a reality.
All exs wives paint a bad impression of theiŕ ex husbands. You don't know what to believe😮😮
Exactly the looking for sympathy
Men know that women need protection from men. You know some bad men and women that were abused by men all of society does. Her story is credible.
This is more than painted a bad picture this is a story of abuse men also suffer abuse they just don't talk about it as much
"All?"
How can you say that
Overcame big time super awesome accomplishments Ur the Greatest Boundless Love to U and Urs no doubt💎❤️⚡🛸🪷💯🧬💪 Namaste