I've been having social anxiety in college for 5 years and I'm doing my best to keep it together. It feels like holding your breath underwater for a whole day and you gotta do It everyday. It affected my performance, my grades, my relationship with my classmates, my family and myself. Only the pandemic gave me a reason to stop and rest for a while. I'm planning to go back when everything is normal just because I had to. I just wish all colleges have mental health examination so that they how to aid students that aren't like the typical outgoing and charismatic ones that they favor of.
@@bas9844 same for me…I can have a conversation when I need to, but it is exhausting because I overthink little micro details. most times I end up hesitating then not saying anything at all. I speak worse than I write
@@bdstudios6088 my eyes are tearing up from completely relating. I like to plan what I say before doing so and Ill muster up the courage to face somebody, but then it’ll just all drain away. And Ill be left there, frozen and so angry with myself later
@@bdstudios6088 I have the opposite problem… I start speaking way too much out of nervousness, sometimes about random things, and sound like an idiot. I’m starting to think silence is the best policy…
@@bas9844 I can relate. It's so hard for me to make new friends. This quarantine helped me but also damaged me lol. And now I don't even want to go to clg
I'm definitely shy, my heart races at the thought of someone sitting next to me because I know I wouldn't say anything, but sometimes people just do not look approachable at all, its like they are trying to hold onto their highschool ego or something.
@@bdstudios6088 Ah, I know that I myself don't look approachable probably, I am not necessarily trying to, but I usually fold/cross my arms, and I just don't talk, I never know when there is a right time or what to say. Usually when I'm in school I dont focus on how I look though, im usually zoned out in a way. I may just think that i don't look approachable but I may be wrong about that. I often just sont know what to say sometimes, I feel like a super boring person because I dont really do that much, and when I do I forget about it lol
@@Wffz-mo4qh Yeah people have told me that I look stuck up or unapproachable due to me not talking a lot, when in all reality I’m an extremely nice and laidback person. I’m guessing since I’m so nervous and tense all the time they think I’m stuck up lol.
I'm starting my freshman year in less than a month and I'm so scared. Nervous about socializing, nervous about keeping up with classes, and nervous about balancing the 2
Needed this 😭 ! Most other CZcamsr’s advice with college tends to have extroverts or activities such as drinking, relationships, and partying which I can never see myself doing- nor want too. I’m pretty much content being alone, doing schoolwork, and having a few friends. The problem just comes when I have to interact with others and do activities outside of my comfort zone.
Discovering hobbies and really making time just to yourself is the best tip ever, college is soo overwhelming and sometimes uou just need to escape. The tip to start the conversation is awesome too 'cause sometimes we overthink way too much
It’s the fourth week of college… I’ve surprised myself by being nervous and babble-y when talking to other students, even though I normally have okay social skills. I don’t know what it is but lately I feel awkward and incompetent. Like you, I also tried to be my most impressive self , but hearing you talk about it makes me realize you’re right- I should just try to be myself and authentic instead. I related so much. I’ll also try the “how are you”. I really appreciated this video and it made me feel good to know there’s someone else out there going through the exact same thing. Thanks for making it and talking about this stuff honestly. It helped me. Update: it’s the middle of the semester and after going to some events I’ve met some people I can be chummy with and say hi to! I feel liked. There’s also this awesome person in my class that I really want to be friends with. I’m not lonely anymore and things are going way smoother. I’m happy! I just wanted to come back and post this because I think it’s important for people to see that things can change and get better. They have for me, anyway. Thanks again!
ahh i’m starting college this monday august 23rd! everything i do in public is somewhat embarrassing and i end up hating myself for it. even walking in public is embarrassing for me. i’m trying to get better. throughout highschool i made no connections and no friends. i isolated myself and kept to myself the whole time. loneliness and depression took over. by senior year of highschool i was very mentally in a bad place and i couldn’t make friends if i wanted to cuz everyone already had their group. since college is starting soon i hope it’s a new slate.
@@timmypluscamera3747 the first week of college was pretty overwhelming to say the least😭 i noticed how lonely college can be since everyone has different schedules and since i have no friends i just sit around campus waiting for my next class to start. i made one friend and he’s pretty nice but i haven’t been able to make any connections in my other classes. i’m socially awkward and i slur my words so i feel like many people look down on me or don’t want to be friends with me. it might just be my negative thoughts talking but idk how to raise my self esteem and just talk to people. i always see myself as lower than everyone around me which makes it hard to start a conversation
I am in a similar situation to you Eugene but I am fighting like hell to improve my social anxiety. I find that running and other forms of exercise help to alleviate my frustrations. I was also like you even in my high school years and as such, I used to drink alcohol every morning before going to high school to help with my anxiety. A few years later, I quit the alcohol and I have not took a drug for my anxiety since then.
This made me feel better :D I can hide my anxiety quite well and even seem social, but I'm always in a state of inner panic lmao. I'm more afraid of making others feel awkward (because I can be awkward, cheers) so conversations are exhausting. Especially group projects are emotionally and physically draining. Doing work as a group can be alright and even fun depending on the teammates but I get HORRIBLE after thoughts and feelings when the day is over. Exhaustion mixed with embarrassment, sadness and anxiety EVEN when the experience has been okay. Overthinking is a devil.
Thank you for this. I am a parent of a senior with social anxiety, and we are in the college application process. My biggest hope/wish for him is that he’ll be able to break out of his shell and find friends. ❤️
It is really interesting to see some people exactly in my situation even we live in very very different parts of the world. Thank you sooo much for all your advice, these are the things what i need before go to college in-person for the first time.
I remember in middle school when I transferred schools I tried to act like that one main anime guy character from Hyouka (cz I thought he’s cool) and I started to speak less. This made it extremely difficult to make a true friend. I’m afraid cz this made me not know who I am. I don’t want to get caught up in this situation anymore… and that feeling of wanting to speak but not being able to that makes me feel more nervous. Thank you for uploading this it makes me feel like I’m not alone
Really appreciate this realistic advice! Thanks for making it seem a lot less scary. I hope quarantine lifts at least a little more so I can test it out myself...
@@timmypluscamera3747 the week by itself was fine but we’ve been told that we’re gonna pretty much be making presentations constantly which will certainly make me extremely suicidal😀
@@Rene-ie4im Nooo Rene :( you got this! I recently saw this quote that said "face it till you make it" as opposed to "fake it till you make it" and honestly think it's the right approach for presentations and things you have to do. Just going to take some time and practice.
Thank you so much for this video. I’m really nervous about the socializing aspect of college so this message was very comforting. It’s relieving to hear someone else’s experiences and I appreciate your honesty in sharing this. 💗
Thank you for this video!! Hearing how starting a conversation can be as simple as saying “hey how are you doing” was such a great reminder for me. Also, wow you are sooo cute awhh
Thanks so much for this video! Really helpful and relatable. I would do the same thing as you mentioned like putting up walls and trying to have this chill exterior without really showing who I really am because of myself being afraid of people judging me for who I really am, but thank you for the reminder to always be myself and I love reading too btw. :) Really glad I found your channel!
Thanks for taking the time to share your tips! It’s great to see more people opening up the dialogue on mental health struggles in college! I took a break from college during the pandemic and have been trying to work on my social anxiety and in doing so realized just how much it really affected every little thing throughout my life with socialization, grades, etc. Definitely still a struggle but it’s a work in progress :)
bro you're so wholesome :-o i'd love to be friends with someone like you, but it also makes me realize the important of like being your authentic self and being ready to be vulnerable and put urself out there. cause if u were shy and avoided people, you'd miss out someone you could have otherwise been great friends w! great vid, and look forward to your channel :D
Thanks for the video man, it really helped me out. I was able to make a few friends this year and I can really feel us going far. Thanks for the content!
Even though I’m in my third year this video helped a lot. I’ve been going through a hard time and have become even more socially anxious. Thank you for creating this (very wholesome) video.
I am just starting my college . Like I am moving in just tomorrow and I am so freaked out. And that part you said about wanting to be Mr. Cool kdrama person who minds his own business and didn't care what others thought is so true. I was planning the same mistake. But now I will keep your advice for sure. I really hope I don't become a loner in college.
ty for this video, I'm gonna be a sophomore in college starting tommorow and have so much anxiety about getting back into it :/ this video alleviated it a bit tho, thanks.
I feel like I am mostly chill and I am in college with my best friend( yeah lucky and I do feel very lucky), but both of us are trying our best to expand our circle, interact with more people and make more new friends. It sometimes feels very exhausting to interact with new people and make small talk, (small talks are the most exhausting!) but you have to make new friends because of group projects.
I sometimes start uncontrollably trembling and blushing when there're strangers around me. I feel much better once I get to know them a bit. I always needed a few weeks to calm myself down before talking to my classmates. But that's too late. Always wanted to change myself by acting like Im an extrovert but that wasn't easy Uni starts in a few days...Im super nervous and the stress got me upset stomach;( Thanks for your video, this makes me feel much better :)
I accepted the fact that I really like being alone, that I'm introverted, that I have social anxiety when going to new place and talking in front of a crowd and talking to new people. That some things will not go as you want it to. Back in senior highschool, I transfer to a different school because I want a new environment, new friends, meet new people and to end my introvertedness etc. or so I thought, I was so positive that people will just approach you like in the movies but I was wrong since I transferred in my senior years, Everybody is like acquainted to each other already and I'm left alone and me being introverted and having social anxiety make things worse, But I actually tried to talk to them but I got little to no response and they seem uninterested. But theirs this one time before I transfer back to my old school they invited me to come and sit with them I was happy then but they just kinda flat out ignore me like why invite me to just ignore me and sooooo I chicken out, after a month I transfer back to my old school back in my comfort zone, to the few people I feel comfortable with, which I kinda don't regret it, Because seriously I was so unhappy back then that I feel like crying every time I take the bus to my new school actually I cried so yeah maybe because of frustration and anxiety I don't know how to explain how I feel back then, also feel so tired and I even lose weight because of all of that, so I regret nothing transfering back. Now maybe thanks to virtual classes I'm in the comfort of my room but Next year will be the end of VR classes in my country I think, So I need to move to college dorm, sooo more reports in front of the class physically, more talking, more people, more group works but this time physically and just thinking about it makes me me feeeel uncomfortable, I don't know how to explain it. I really want ot change because I can't be like this when I finish college. So here I am in CZcams lookin for videos, finding comfort that theirs people like me, that I'm not alone, and I want to just share this here.
Now thinking about it, like in a professional setting I feel that I don’t really have as much social anxiety then I think I really do. But my social anxiety still is insane to talking to people in general
In professional settings I feel the same but usually I feel like I am a different person because the social expectation is more rigid and straightforward.
wow your videos will be so helpful for me thank you. I was only at college for 1 semester before pandemic started and now coming back to campus all of a sudden I’m in my 3rd year, so I have no idea what I’m gonna do. and yes I am very socially awkward which makes everything seem harder
College started yesterday for me (online) and it didn’t help that today was a free day (idk anyone yet, no wapp group either). Tomorrow I need to go to college for the first time and I got 0 idea in general what to talk about to ppl like ok we talk about something but when the topic just ends and there’s silence? That’s one avkward moment:( I sadly have a 50% online, 50% in person college situation rn. I really really hope it’ll become 100% online. I also hope there are going to be shy ppl out there, especially because ik a lot of ppl are going to be from other cities and will stay at dorms (I already live here with my parents and was born here). So maybe I’ll find a shy scared to live here on their own type of person who’ll talk to me? Idk if I really want friends, I just don’t want ppl to think I’m weird and bully me like they did in highschool. Otherwise I’d just calmly stay alone, but yeah. The fear of getting bullied again it’s so high I want to try and talk to at least one person and be friends with them just bc of that. Just so I’m not alone, considered weird and whatnot.
I’m really sorry to hear that you were bullied in high school, I know it can be tough to try to come back from that. Hope you know that you can’t control what other people think or feel about you, only what you can do for yourself.
I'm an extravert with horrible social anxiety, witch sounds crazy but when I'm with my online friends or online I'm super extraverted but irl my anxiety is so bad I find it hard to speak
I'm freaking out bc college is starting again. My first year was online and it was great, I'm afraid I'm going to lose it since it's gonna be in person.
I'm a freshman, I could at least talk and get along in a voice chat/zoom meeting (if there was no lecturer) but damn if it was in a group chat (WhatsApp) I'm so scared/shy or I don't even know what it is I just don't know what to do. Feelsbadman my classmates are talking and joking around in a class group chat, every day there would be at least 500+ messages and i'm just reading them. I'm so afraid if no one wants to be my friend.
What freaks me out recently is that i’m going to USA as an exchange student soon. I have social anxiety and I’m not perfect at English. I’m afraid because i heard that it’s not really easy to live as an introvert in USA and especially…..in college. Though I applied with my will to challenge myself, I’m really scared to be alone in a strange country.
Hi Roine! It kind of does depend where you go, but at least at my college people are really welcoming to international students. Do not be afraid to try, I’d recommend just saying hi :)). Best of luck!
Just started college and I feel out of place since so many of my classmates made friends quickly after the first few days of orientation. Barely know anybody outside of a few acquaintances.
I will soon start university I literally had a mini panic attack when I went for my screening in the university. I'm was so scared so many people everywhere!!! I was so f** conscious and I kept overthinking about how difficult it will be for if I ended up going there. I had a fever and vomited that one day. My family believes its travel sickness but I know it's my anxiety though😑😑
I'm supposed to have my "first" day of online class today but I decided to skip it since my anxiety started to kick in real bad. I know it's bad thing to skip it but I think it'll do me even worse if I can't calm down
Just Started my online college and in my major group every batchmate already made friends where i who actually first time approach people to make friends first time got ignored like fuck it's really destroyed my will to make friends or even like personally i miss my high school friends like crazy even it's i talk to them every day .
Really sorry to hear that :( you can’t control how other people react to you and in a couple of years you won’t remember all the people you tried to make friends with but will appreciate those that became your friends!
@@timmypluscamera3747 thanks timmy for the word . After what you said i really started appreciating the one who are with me right now . Nevertheless I hope i do make friends even it's time consuming and let you know about it:-D
Do you guys have alot of assignments that require interviews with outside people. I took one year of college 20 years ago and none of my classes had assignments like this but the online college wants me out and about talking to everyone
Yeah, I think it is a necessary component for a lot of classes. But it is pretty easy to fake who you are for short interviews until get you comfortable with them!
@@timmypluscamera3747 yeah, I just had a fairly serious talk with one of the counselors. They told me that I'm suffering from ptsd from workplace bullying. I thought I was suffering from something else but when I told them that I'm getting flashbacks of the bullying incidents when I was presented with tasks of going out and interviewing people, they said that is ptsd
Before i was 17 i was having social anxiety(sa) and now my bf have social anxiety, cuz i know how they feeling i love to talk with peoples with sa it feels me like im being a nice person. I hope my first gf have sa so she feels nice when ı was around her. Just wanted to write my experience, it took for me like 2 years to not having anxiety(for information i was really muted for social life about 4 years befora that 2 years) and i started read analytic philosophy it really helped me. I cant say it was easy but i really recommend you to reading analytic philosophy cuz average people so stupid even though you work about 15min a day you become an intellectuel and it makes believe in yourself its just like a superpower. and in that 2 years i forced myself to contact with peoples like being waiter in my free times. i make too many stupid things but for being fair i understand now actually the things i called stupid is at worst same stupidness average people have.
Hey Daniel Lord. I didn't know you had a third channel as well. It's really nice that you're forgetting the past and moving on. Btw, are you gonna invest in Bitcoin again?
@@timmypluscamera3747 Thanks for the advice my freshman year was messed up because of covid but i will make the most out of the my remaining three years
I am an introvert with social anexiety I am so devastated and heartbroken because My mom stayed with me during my entire first ever week of college and she's leaving tomorrow😰😰 I really want to cry so so so bad, my eyes are very red because of all the crying and sobbing😭😭 I already miss my home, my cozy room, my little brother and my daddy and now mom is leaving too😰😰 I'm so lost and confused and stressed and worried because of college, I have never got separated from my family.... I am going mentally insane and shaking right now😰 I lowkey want to suicide😭
@Ugly guy with decent side profile I couldn't take it anymore so I'm back home for this week, because I believe that my mental health is more important than college.
Man social anxiety is so pathetic if you think about it. Why should we even be scared to interact with people? Social media has destroyed a lot of peoples abilities to socialize. It’s a curse
Over exaggerating your problems. Typical. You're literate and articulate enough to debate, yet you can't deal with people? Nah, I don't buy it one bit. 👎
This is a fair take. My stance is that there’s a difference between something you research for a while and are prepared to discuss and the feeling of pressure when you are in unexpected/uncontrolled situations with personal questions. Both get better to manage with practice but anxiety is a completely natural biological response 👍
I'm starting college tomorrow and i kind of have some social anxiety so thought of jumping to youtube to let someone else calm me down. Still a little nervous but i know I'll get over it after the first day so yea thanks for the tips though 🫶🏽🌻
Just wanted to thank everyone who has been watching and interacting! I appreciate it and am wishing you all a good year / fresh start :))
I’m leaving in about 10 days. I’ve never been social and have hard time making friends. I been trying to break outta this shell but it’s hard 😊
I've been having social anxiety in college for 5 years and I'm doing my best to keep it together. It feels like holding your breath underwater for a whole day and you gotta do It everyday. It affected my performance, my grades, my relationship with my classmates, my family and myself. Only the pandemic gave me a reason to stop and rest for a while. I'm planning to go back when everything is normal just because I had to. I just wish all colleges have mental health examination so that they how to aid students that aren't like the typical outgoing and charismatic ones that they favor of.
In front of my friends, im freeze, my mouth cant say anything
@@bas9844 same for me…I can have a conversation when I need to, but it is exhausting because I overthink little micro details. most times I end up hesitating then not saying anything at all. I speak worse than I write
@@bdstudios6088 my eyes are tearing up from completely relating. I like to plan what I say before doing so and Ill muster up the courage to face somebody, but then it’ll just all drain away. And Ill be left there, frozen and so angry with myself later
@@bdstudios6088 I have the opposite problem… I start speaking way too much out of nervousness, sometimes about random things, and sound like an idiot. I’m starting to think silence is the best policy…
@@bas9844 I can relate. It's so hard for me to make new friends. This quarantine helped me but also damaged me lol. And now I don't even want to go to clg
I'm going to college in-person for the first time this fall and I'm so freaked out. This was really comforting, thank you.
you will be fine! rooting for you
We need update pls
Same ...
I'm definitely shy, my heart races at the thought of someone sitting next to me because I know I wouldn't say anything, but sometimes people just do not look approachable at all, its like they are trying to hold onto their highschool ego or something.
I get worried that I’m the one who looks unapproachable or not interesting to talk to
@@bdstudios6088 Ah, I know that I myself don't look approachable probably, I am not necessarily trying to, but I usually fold/cross my arms, and I just don't talk, I never know when there is a right time or what to say. Usually when I'm in school I dont focus on how I look though, im usually zoned out in a way. I may just think that i don't look approachable but I may be wrong about that. I often just sont know what to say sometimes, I feel like a super boring person because I dont really do that much, and when I do I forget about it lol
@@Wffz-mo4qh yeah same. I have my own hobbies and interests but I'm super bad at expressing them lol. it makes me end up avoiding people
@@Wffz-mo4qh Yeah people have told me that I look stuck up or unapproachable due to me not talking a lot, when in all reality I’m an extremely nice and laidback person. I’m guessing since I’m so nervous and tense all the time they think I’m stuck up lol.
I'm starting my freshman year in less than a month and I'm so scared. Nervous about socializing, nervous about keeping up with classes, and nervous about balancing the 2
Do not worry!! It will all be okay :)
Is it going okay as your freshmen
Same 20 days left that too I will live in hostel. I am freaking out being a shy person. And next month I have my freshers party😨
Hows it going now?(Asking as someone going to college in like 6 months)
Needed this 😭 ! Most other CZcamsr’s advice with college tends to have extroverts or activities such as drinking, relationships, and partying which I can never see myself doing- nor want too. I’m pretty much content being alone, doing schoolwork, and having a few friends. The problem just comes when I have to interact with others and do activities outside of my comfort zone.
How is it going?
My social anxiety is so bad. I wish I was normal.😔
Discovering hobbies and really making time just to yourself is the best tip ever, college is soo overwhelming and sometimes uou just need to escape.
The tip to start the conversation is awesome too 'cause sometimes we overthink way too much
It’s the fourth week of college… I’ve surprised myself by being nervous and babble-y when talking to other students, even though I normally have okay social skills. I don’t know what it is but lately I feel awkward and incompetent.
Like you, I also tried to be my most impressive self , but hearing you talk about it makes me realize you’re right- I should just try to be myself and authentic instead. I related so much. I’ll also try the “how are you”. I really appreciated this video and it made me feel good to know there’s someone else out there going through the exact same thing. Thanks for making it and talking about this stuff honestly. It helped me.
Update: it’s the middle of the semester and after going to some events I’ve met some people I can be chummy with and say hi to! I feel liked. There’s also this awesome person in my class that I really want to be friends with. I’m not lonely anymore and things are going way smoother. I’m happy! I just wanted to come back and post this because I think it’s important for people to see that things can change and get better. They have for me, anyway. Thanks again!
Wow sorry for missing your comment. I really appreciate this story and am wishing you the best!
having such a weird, online freshmen year is only making me more nervous- having in person classes scares me aaaaa
just know that that is definitely a shared experience we all have to get back to!
dude, THANK YOU to the heavens. i came here after typing "extreme introvert college" into youtube and i found this honestly very helpful video 💌
Hi, I just want to let you know I tried the "how are you?" starter and made a friend :]] gonna try it again to other when I have the chance!
ahh i’m starting college this monday august 23rd! everything i do in public is somewhat embarrassing and i end up hating myself for it. even walking in public is embarrassing for me. i’m trying to get better. throughout highschool i made no connections and no friends. i isolated myself and kept to myself the whole time. loneliness and depression took over. by senior year of highschool i was very mentally in a bad place and i couldn’t make friends if i wanted to cuz everyone already had their group. since college is starting soon i hope it’s a new slate.
It really is a new slate. How have the first couple of days been?
@@timmypluscamera3747 the first week of college was pretty overwhelming to say the least😭 i noticed how lonely college can be since everyone has different schedules and since i have no friends i just sit around campus waiting for my next class to start. i made one friend and he’s pretty nice but i haven’t been able to make any connections in my other classes. i’m socially awkward and i slur my words so i feel like many people look down on me or don’t want to be friends with me. it might just be my negative thoughts talking but idk how to raise my self esteem and just talk to people. i always see myself as lower than everyone around me which makes it hard to start a conversation
I am in a similar situation to you Eugene but I am fighting like hell to improve my social anxiety. I find that running and other forms of exercise help to alleviate my frustrations. I was also like you even in my high school years and as such, I used to drink alcohol every morning before going to high school to help with my anxiety. A few years later, I quit the alcohol and I have not took a drug for my anxiety since then.
@@genesprouts you are like living the same life as me lol
Any update bro?i have no close friend at highschool too
This made me feel better :D
I can hide my anxiety quite well and even seem social, but I'm always in a state of inner panic lmao. I'm more afraid of making others feel awkward (because I can be awkward, cheers) so conversations are exhausting.
Especially group projects are emotionally and physically draining. Doing work as a group can be alright and even fun depending on the teammates but I get HORRIBLE after thoughts and feelings when the day is over. Exhaustion mixed with embarrassment, sadness and anxiety EVEN when the experience has been okay. Overthinking is a devil.
Thank you for this. I am a parent of a senior with social anxiety, and we are in the college application process. My biggest hope/wish for him is that he’ll be able to break out of his shell and find friends. ❤️
Just started college and the anxiety is at it's peak, but listening to this really helped. Thank you :)
It is really interesting to see some people exactly in my situation even we live in very very different parts of the world. Thank you sooo much for all your advice, these are the things what i need before go to college in-person for the first time.
You have such a relaxing voice I really needed this video thanks
I remember in middle school when I transferred schools I tried to act like that one main anime guy character from Hyouka (cz I thought he’s cool) and I started to speak less. This made it extremely difficult to make a true friend. I’m afraid cz this made me not know who I am. I don’t want to get caught up in this situation anymore… and that feeling of wanting to speak but not being able to that makes me feel more nervous. Thank you for uploading this it makes me feel like I’m not alone
Thank you for these great tips! They're so helpful.
I’m glad CZcams recommended me this. Loved the vid, I subscribed! Can’t wait for future stuff
Really appreciate this realistic advice! Thanks for making it seem a lot less scary. I hope quarantine lifts at least a little more so I can test it out myself...
Literally starting uni this Monday, I feel like I’m about to die.
How did it go?
@@timmypluscamera3747 the week by itself was fine but we’ve been told that we’re gonna pretty much be making presentations constantly which will certainly make me extremely suicidal😀
@@Rene-ie4im Nooo Rene :( you got this! I recently saw this quote that said "face it till you make it" as opposed to "fake it till you make it" and honestly think it's the right approach for presentations and things you have to do. Just going to take some time and practice.
2 months later how do you feel in college ?
Thank you for your words friend, today’s my first day of college and as an introvert, you’ve encouraged me a lot
Thank you so much for this video. I’m really nervous about the socializing aspect of college so this message was very comforting. It’s relieving to hear someone else’s experiences and I appreciate your honesty in sharing this. 💗
I love this video. Thanks for sharing your stories and tips 🙂
Thank you for this video!! Hearing how starting a conversation can be as simple as saying “hey how are you doing” was such a great reminder for me. Also, wow you are sooo cute awhh
Thanks so much for this video! Really helpful and relatable. I would do the same thing as you mentioned like putting up walls and trying to have this chill exterior without really showing who I really am because of myself being afraid of people judging me for who I really am, but thank you for the reminder to always be myself and I love reading too btw. :) Really glad I found your channel!
Wishing you the best Rachel!
Thank you for making this video honestly it's so comforting to know you're not alone
Thanks for taking the time to watch! Hope it gets better for you :)
Thanks for taking the time to share your tips! It’s great to see more people opening up the dialogue on mental health struggles in college! I took a break from college during the pandemic and have been trying to work on my social anxiety and in doing so realized just how much it really affected every little thing throughout my life with socialization, grades, etc. Definitely still a struggle but it’s a work in progress :)
Thank you for your thoughtful comment Teeyuh and I hope it’s getting better!!
PLEASE UPLOAD MORE!!! I love your videos, and you’re so charismatic!
Thank you!! Plan on it :)
This has been plaguing my mind ever since I got accepted into Foster, but your video really did help me feel less pressured:)
You’re gonna do great, also don’t let the competitiveness of Foster get to you
thank you so much for the honesty i felt less anxious instantly after watching this. hope you’re having a good summer!!
Thank you Anna, you too!!
bro you're so wholesome :-o i'd love to be friends with someone like you, but it also makes me realize the important of like being your authentic self and being ready to be vulnerable and put urself out there. cause if u were shy and avoided people, you'd miss out someone you could have otherwise been great friends w! great vid, and look forward to your channel :D
Thanks for the video man, it really helped me out. I was able to make a few friends this year and I can really feel us going far. Thanks for the content!
Even though I’m in my third year this video helped a lot. I’ve been going through a hard time and have become even more socially anxious. Thank you for creating this (very wholesome) video.
Hope everything gets better soon! Wishing you the best
tysm!! this video was very calming! :))
Thank you so much for this.
Really needed it
great advice, simple but the truth I needed to hear
I am just starting my college . Like I am moving in just tomorrow and I am so freaked out. And that part you said about wanting to be Mr. Cool kdrama person who minds his own business and didn't care what others thought is so true. I was planning the same mistake. But now I will keep your advice for sure. I really hope I don't become a loner in college.
I got diarrhea and upset stomach from anxiety im not even there yet
Edit: i got a gf
ty for this video, I'm gonna be a sophomore in college starting tommorow and have so much anxiety about getting back into it :/ this video alleviated it a bit tho, thanks.
that “hi how are you?” convo starter is gonna save me this fall hahaha
you got this Emma!!
thank you this realy made me feel better :> starting on the 5th
I feel like I am mostly chill and I am in college with my best friend( yeah lucky and I do feel very lucky), but both of us are trying our best to expand our circle, interact with more people and make more new friends. It sometimes feels very exhausting to interact with new people and make small talk, (small talks are the most exhausting!) but you have to make new friends because of group projects.
I sometimes start uncontrollably trembling and blushing when there're strangers around me. I feel much better once I get to know them a bit. I always needed a few weeks to calm myself down before talking to my classmates. But that's too late. Always wanted to change myself by acting like Im an extrovert but that wasn't easy
Uni starts in a few days...Im super nervous and the stress got me upset stomach;(
Thanks for your video, this makes me feel much better :)
I accepted the fact that I really like being alone, that I'm introverted, that I have social anxiety when going to new place and talking in front of a crowd and talking to new people. That some things will not go as you want it to.
Back in senior highschool, I transfer to a different school because I want a new environment, new friends, meet new people and to end my introvertedness etc. or so I thought, I was so positive that people will just approach you like in the movies but I was wrong since I transferred in my senior years, Everybody is like acquainted to each other already and I'm left alone and me being introverted and having social anxiety make things worse, But I actually tried to talk to them but I got little to no response and they seem uninterested. But theirs this one time before I transfer back to my old school they invited me to come and sit with them I was happy then but they just kinda flat out ignore me like why invite me to just ignore me and sooooo I chicken out, after a month I transfer back to my old school back in my comfort zone, to the few people I feel comfortable with, which I kinda don't regret it,
Because seriously I was so unhappy back then that I feel like crying every time I take the bus to my new school actually I cried so yeah maybe because of frustration and anxiety I don't know how to explain how I feel back then, also feel so tired and I even lose weight because of all of that, so I regret nothing transfering back.
Now maybe thanks to virtual classes I'm in the comfort of my room but Next year will be the end of VR classes in my country I think, So I need to move to college dorm, sooo more reports in front of the class physically, more talking, more people, more group works but this time physically and just thinking about it makes me me feeeel uncomfortable, I don't know how to explain it. I really want ot change because I can't be like this when I finish college.
So here I am in CZcams lookin for videos, finding comfort that theirs people like me, that I'm not alone, and I want to just share this here.
Now thinking about it, like in a professional setting I feel that I don’t really have as much social anxiety then I think I really do. But my social anxiety still is insane to talking to people in general
In professional settings I feel the same but usually I feel like I am a different person because the social expectation is more rigid and straightforward.
wow your videos will be so helpful for me thank you. I was only at college for 1 semester before pandemic started and now coming back to campus all of a sudden I’m in my 3rd year, so I have no idea what I’m gonna do. and yes I am very socially awkward which makes everything seem harder
It will be okay!! Everyone is going to have to get used to talking to people so it’s a more even playing field now haha
Thank u this helped me 😊
this vid popped up laying in my dorm at 3 pm
College started yesterday for me (online) and it didn’t help that today was a free day (idk anyone yet, no wapp group either). Tomorrow I need to go to college for the first time and I got 0 idea in general what to talk about to ppl like ok we talk about something but when the topic just ends and there’s silence? That’s one avkward moment:( I sadly have a 50% online, 50% in person college situation rn. I really really hope it’ll become 100% online. I also hope there are going to be shy ppl out there, especially because ik a lot of ppl are going to be from other cities and will stay at dorms (I already live here with my parents and was born here). So maybe I’ll find a shy scared to live here on their own type of person who’ll talk to me? Idk if I really want friends, I just don’t want ppl to think I’m weird and bully me like they did in highschool. Otherwise I’d just calmly stay alone, but yeah. The fear of getting bullied again it’s so high I want to try and talk to at least one person and be friends with them just bc of that. Just so I’m not alone, considered weird and whatnot.
I’m really sorry to hear that you were bullied in high school, I know it can be tough to try to come back from that. Hope you know that you can’t control what other people think or feel about you, only what you can do for yourself.
thank you :)) this was really helpful!! Next time I want to start a conversation I'll say "How are you doing?" !
The comments makes me calm😚cuz i ll entet my first college soon
I'm an extravert with horrible social anxiety, witch sounds crazy but when I'm with my online friends or online I'm super extraverted but irl my anxiety is so bad I find it hard to speak
Thank you
I'm freaking out bc college is starting again. My first year was online and it was great, I'm afraid I'm going to lose it since it's gonna be in person.
You are cool 😤
I'm a freshman, I could at least talk and get along in a voice chat/zoom meeting (if there was no lecturer) but damn if it was in a group chat (WhatsApp) I'm so scared/shy or I don't even know what it is I just don't know what to do. Feelsbadman my classmates are talking and joking around in a class group chat, every day there would be at least 500+ messages and i'm just reading them. I'm so afraid if no one wants to be my friend.
i feel it, but honestly you have nothing to lose and all to gain by just saying hi :)
Great video !
You’ve got yourself a new sub
thank you 😊
moved in yesterday and i havent said hi to anyone. had noodles in lukewarm water cause i literally cant leave my room 😃
This comment made me laugh, I’m sorry 😂. Hope you’ve been able to enjoy hot ramen by now
What freaks me out recently is that i’m going to USA as an exchange student soon. I have social anxiety and I’m not perfect at English. I’m afraid because i heard that it’s not really easy to live as an introvert in USA and especially…..in college. Though I applied with my will to challenge myself, I’m really scared to be alone in a strange country.
Hi Roine! It kind of does depend where you go, but at least at my college people are really welcoming to international students. Do not be afraid to try, I’d recommend just saying hi :)). Best of luck!
@@timmypluscamera3747 I hope the same goes for the school people I'm going to go to. Thank you for nice video and comment! it's really cheering:)!!
How are you doing?
Just started college and I feel out of place since so many of my classmates made friends quickly after the first few days of orientation. Barely know anybody outside of a few acquaintances.
Thank you for talking about it :)))
Thanks for watching!
I will soon start university I literally had a mini panic attack when I went for my screening in the university.
I'm was so scared so many people everywhere!!! I was so f** conscious and I kept overthinking about how difficult it will be for if I ended up going there.
I had a fever and vomited that one day. My family believes its travel sickness but I know it's my anxiety though😑😑
Lol.... I'm about to become a senior high student soon . I'm nervous about what will happen to me. I don't think I'm ready to become a senior high😭
I'm supposed to have my "first" day of online class today but I decided to skip it since my anxiety started to kick in real bad. I know it's bad thing to skip it but I think it'll do me even worse if I can't calm down
Hi! Sorry for missing this comment, but how are your classes going now?
Coincidentally I am wearing the same shirt. I love it. We're like twins.
haha I got this at Ross I think
Do you ever feel nauseous with social anxiety?
Well I'm afraid to build genuine connections so looks like that won't work for me.
Just Started my online college and in my major group every batchmate already made friends where i who actually first time approach people to make friends first time got ignored like fuck it's really destroyed my will to make friends or even like personally i miss my high school friends like crazy even it's i talk to them every day .
Really sorry to hear that :( you can’t control how other people react to you and in a couple of years you won’t remember all the people you tried to make friends with but will appreciate those that became your friends!
@@timmypluscamera3747 thanks timmy for the word . After what you said i really started appreciating the one who are with me right now .
Nevertheless I hope i do make friends even it's time consuming and let you know about it:-D
You should say to subscribe if you are an introvert person .
YEAH WHAT ORLANDO SAID ☺️
Starting college in 28 days i rlly dont wanna do it but what other choices do i have :(
Tomorrow is my first day in university and I'm so anxious, I hope I can feel better...
Do you guys have alot of assignments that require interviews with outside people. I took one year of college 20 years ago and none of my classes had assignments like this but the online college wants me out and about talking to everyone
Yeah, I think it is a necessary component for a lot of classes. But it is pretty easy to fake who you are for short interviews until get you comfortable with them!
@@timmypluscamera3747 yeah, I just had a fairly serious talk with one of the counselors. They told me that I'm suffering from ptsd from workplace bullying. I thought I was suffering from something else but when I told them that I'm getting flashbacks of the bullying incidents when I was presented with tasks of going out and interviewing people, they said that is ptsd
Before i was 17 i was having social anxiety(sa) and now my bf have social anxiety, cuz i know how they feeling i love to talk with peoples with sa it feels me like im being a nice person. I hope my first gf have sa so she feels nice when ı was around her. Just wanted to write my experience,
it took for me like 2 years to not having anxiety(for information i was really muted for social life about 4 years befora that 2 years) and i started read analytic philosophy it really helped me. I cant say it was easy but i really recommend you to reading analytic philosophy cuz average people so stupid even though you work about 15min a day you become an intellectuel and it makes believe in yourself its just like a superpower. and in that 2 years i forced myself to contact with peoples like being waiter in my free times. i make too many stupid things but for being fair i understand now actually the things i called stupid is at worst same stupidness average people have.
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Literally starting my class in 2 hours after 2 years of online college and I'm so scared of what people thinks of me
HOW WAS IT?? hopefully okay?
@@timmypluscamera3747 honestly it wasn't so bad because the professor was nice to me and it was a fun class ngl.
Starting college in 3 days ‼️‼️
how was your first day? :D
@@alinamoreno9235 excited, I introduced myself to everyone in my dorm hall
@@hollywoodduncan8413 that's awesome! i'll try and do the same this semester! (:
@@hollywoodduncan8413 how was your freshman yr
Hey Daniel Lord. I didn't know you had a third channel as well. It's really nice that you're forgetting the past and moving on. Btw, are you gonna invest in Bitcoin again?
It's really hard in university it is not like home 😕
Intro music??
we about to dunk on some toddlers
4:02 so it's going to be like ..
1 - Hi how are you doing?
2 - hmm fine .. did I know you or something?
👍
ask them about themselves
How am I supposed to eat infront of em 😭
😂 I cover my mouth half the time
what about hs?
high school is a great time to explore your interests and hobbies. Try joining clubs that interest you and the rest will follow :)
@@timmypluscamera3747 Thanks for the advice my freshman year was messed up because of covid but i will make the most out of the my remaining three years
i start college in 5 days 🙈
Best of luck!!
I am an introvert with social anexiety I am so devastated and heartbroken because My mom stayed with me during my entire first ever week of college and she's leaving tomorrow😰😰 I really want to cry so so so bad, my eyes are very red because of all the crying and sobbing😭😭 I already miss my home, my cozy room, my little brother and my daddy and now mom is leaving too😰😰 I'm so lost and confused and stressed and worried because of college, I have never got separated from my family.... I am going mentally insane and shaking right now😰 I lowkey want to suicide😭
Hi,I hope you're okay :) Im alone at my uni too but I try my best to survive because there are others people who struggle just like me
@@ikmal9153 Hello!! Thanks for comforting me! I hope you'll be fine and do amazing in college😘🥰
@Ugly guy with decent side profile I couldn't take it anymore so I'm back home for this week, because I believe that my mental health is more important than college.
@Ugly guy with decent side profile I 100% agree! Thanks for the advice💖🤗
You are cute
I wanted to say this
He's so attractive 😍😍😍
As an ambivert, being an introvert is fine and there's nothing wrong with that.
Man social anxiety is so pathetic if you think about it. Why should we even be scared to interact with people? Social media has destroyed a lot of peoples abilities to socialize. It’s a curse
Social anxiety has absolutely nothing to do with social media
I’ve had social anxiety since I was like 5. Social media didn’t start it
Lmao I hate social media and have never had it because of my social anxiety, My social anxiety started in the real world and move into the internet.
@@ang4987 yes it does
@@hutch2811 no it doesnt.
+ratio +no damsels
Over exaggerating your problems. Typical. You're literate and articulate enough to debate, yet you can't deal with people? Nah, I don't buy it one bit. 👎
This is a fair take. My stance is that there’s a difference between something you research for a while and are prepared to discuss and the feeling of pressure when you are in unexpected/uncontrolled situations with personal questions. Both get better to manage with practice but anxiety is a completely natural biological response 👍
I'm starting college tomorrow and i kind of have some social anxiety so thought of jumping to youtube to let someone else calm me down. Still a little nervous but i know I'll get over it after the first day so yea thanks for the tips though 🫶🏽🌻
i still have 2 years before college and i’m still nervous 🥲 i’m not even an introvert, i love being around people, i’m just shy 😭😭