Foreigners Reaction: Love Vs. Arranged Marriage In Kerala! | Must-see Kerala Travel Vlog
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- Foreigners React: Love Vs. Arranged Marriage In Kerala! | Must-see Kerala Travel Vlog
Hey everyone
Thanks for again joining our Kerala travel vlog. As foreigners, and westerners in India, we are obviously intrigued by marriage and dating culture in Kerala and India in general. The debate around love vs arranged marriage is very interesting to us and we seek to understand both perspectives. Hoepfully this video does a good job showing both perspectives around the heated debate. Moreover, we are at a festival in Trivandrum City (Thiruvananthapuram) and get to see more culture and tourist places in Kerala. As vloggers and travellers, we feel it our duty to not only provide a travel guide but also ensure our videos widen perspectives and give something different to viewers. We hope you appreciate our digging. Please add your perspective in the comments to further enlighten viewers from different cultures.
Thanks again for watching our videos. We appreciate it more than you know.... Going to Kerala has been so eye opening for us and hoping it's also rewarding for you!
Lots of love, always
Mac&Keen
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ഞങ്ങളുടെ കേരള ട്രാവൽ വ്ലോഗിൽ വീണ്ടും ചേർന്നതിന് നന്ദി. വിദേശികളും ഇന്ത്യയിലെ പാശ്ചാത്യരും എന്ന നിലയിൽ, കേരളത്തിലും ഇന്ത്യയിലും പൊതുവെ വിവാഹത്തിലും ഡേറ്റിംഗ് സംസ്കാരത്തിലും ഞങ്ങൾക്ക് താൽപ്പര്യമുണ്ട്. പ്രണയവും അറേഞ്ച്ഡ് വിവാഹവും എന്ന സംവാദം ഞങ്ങൾക്ക് വളരെ രസകരമാണ്, രണ്ട് വീക്ഷണങ്ങളും മനസ്സിലാക്കാൻ ഞങ്ങൾ ശ്രമിക്കുന്നു. ചൂടേറിയ സംവാദത്തിന് ചുറ്റുമുള്ള രണ്ട് കാഴ്ചപ്പാടുകളും കാണിക്കുന്ന ഒരു നല്ല ജോലി ഈ വീഡിയോ ചെയ്യുമെന്ന് പ്രതീക്ഷിക്കാം. മാത്രമല്ല, ഞങ്ങൾ തിരുവനന്തപുരം സിറ്റിയിൽ (തിരുവനന്തപുരം) ഒരു ഉത്സവത്തിലാണ്, കേരളത്തിലെ കൂടുതൽ സംസ്കാരങ്ങളും വിനോദസഞ്ചാര സ്ഥലങ്ങളും കാണാൻ കഴിയും. വ്ലോഗർമാരും സഞ്ചാരികളും എന്ന നിലയിൽ, ഒരു ട്രാവൽ ഗൈഡ് നൽകുക മാത്രമല്ല, ഞങ്ങളുടെ വീഡിയോകൾ കാഴ്ചപ്പാടുകൾ വിശാലമാക്കുകയും കാഴ്ചക്കാർക്ക് വ്യത്യസ്തമായ എന്തെങ്കിലും നൽകുകയും ചെയ്യുക എന്നത് ഞങ്ങളുടെ കടമയാണെന്ന് ഞങ്ങൾ കരുതുന്നു. ഞങ്ങളുടെ കുഴിയെടുക്കൽ നിങ്ങൾ വിലമതിക്കുമെന്ന് ഞങ്ങൾ പ്രതീക്ഷിക്കുന്നു. വ്യത്യസ്ത സംസ്കാരങ്ങളിൽ നിന്നുള്ള കാഴ്ചക്കാരെ കൂടുതൽ പ്രബുദ്ധരാക്കുന്നതിന് ദയവായി നിങ്ങളുടെ കാഴ്ചപ്പാട് കമൻ്റുകളിൽ ചേർക്കുക.
ഞങ്ങളുടെ വീഡിയോകൾ കണ്ടതിന് വീണ്ടും നന്ദി. നിങ്ങൾക്കറിയാവുന്നതിനേക്കാൾ ഞങ്ങൾ അതിനെ അഭിനന്ദിക്കുന്നു....
ഒരുപാട് സ്നേഹം, എപ്പോഴും
Mac & Keen
Arranged marriage is not how you think it is. You do have a say in it. It’s kinda like a fast dating to see if you’re compatible or not. If you find someone you think you’re compatible with then you talk to them and get to know them more before getting married.
Yes amazing response. I want to pin it for others to learn as we have!
Also they marry like arranged if their love is accepted by their family
In most cases it is accepted
Thats a recent thing...15 or 20 years ago, women didn't have a voice in that. If the family/father likes the man and his family, the woman should marry him and they will convince her that it is for her good, if anything goes wrong after the marriage, she is told to handle it as a woman in the family, they will romanticize the trauma by saying its her duty.... I am sure this culture is still there
just few days before I saw ur reels frm insta, and then I checked all of ur YT vedios. Feels so happy that u are loving our traditions and culture. Happy to see both of ur faces with that smile. Keep going Brother and sister. we malayalis will always stand with u two where ever u go. Keep smiling , Love u two.❣
Thank you so much 😀 your comment makes us jump for joy!!!
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Awww thank you!! I hope it meets your expectations
I am 57, born and raised outside India. Post colonial Africa. South Africa.. Quite western and not certainly Malayalee. I stayed in college in India.. Trivandrum and Karnataka for 7 years when my folks were here.. Loved it
My folks moved back to India..they said.. No arranged marriage for me.. I won't fit in blah blah. Here too the Portuguese, Greeks, Italians,
Jews, Lebanese etc kind of introduce..meaning some kind of arranged. My folks did not have any issues who, which race I married. There are lots of Indians here too.
But I wanted a spouse who know my deep cultures.. And insisted my folks searched abd introduced me to my kind of people in India. At 32 I met my wife in India.. Chatted to her after I was back and got to know each other and we decided we will take the plunge.
25 yrs later abd 2 daughters who are now at Med school later.. ..we are so very happy. Daughters also.. Can marry who they want. But yes, we are still Indian, Malayalee too. Other people are equally good..all cultures and races but some thoughts are very Malayalee. So who knows... I think for my kids, finding partners here is better, as we have less and less Indian traditions and India too is changing.
As long as anyone loves my daughter's unconditionally, we are happy. Arranged.. African raised parent and kids from here..maybe not, but nothing wrong with it. For me, I lived in India, so it was familiar and I wanted it that way
Wow thanks again for the insight and perspective G! Your comments are always welcome here!!! Glad to know love marriage treated you well! Wishin you and your fam all the happiness
Nowadays, arranged marriages are rarely seen in Kerala and might decrease further. This seems reasonable because entering a marriage or relationship without understanding each other often leads to failure. When comparing divorce rates, India has a lower rate, which doesn't necessarily indicate good relationships. Many women do not pursue divorce even in cases of domestic violence, often adjusting and not reporting the abuse.
Yup... super interesting comment, thank you for adding!
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After seeing your video, I thought of write about love marriage and arranged marriage.
I know many people who enjoy good family life after their love marriage. But that is not the case with most of the people.
Love marriage require dating. During the dating most people involve in sexual intimacy. Sometimes, after long dating and waiting, they realise that this is not the partner I want. Then they withdraw from each other and withdraw from getting married. By this time most people are wounded and broken hearted. This is very commonly happening in love marriage.
Whereas arranged marriage is different. Most of the Indian marriages are arranged marriages; and people appreciate that because of its stability and sustainability. When the family members or relatives or friends see a boy or girl, they will try to see whether this person can become good match for my boy or girl. They will do careful observation that whether there is any equilibrium in the life and values of both the boy and girl, and look whether their family values will match or not. Then, If they identify this boy or girl can be a suitable match, and see they are compatible, then they introduce the marriage proposal. When they see face to face, if they like each other then they move forward and organise the marriage and get marry. That's how Indian marriages happen. Dating, getting know each other, and family life and all these things goes together after marriage. There's no chance for time loss, nor have chance to get hurts or wounds. There is no need of long wait and long date. That is the benefit of the arranged marriage.
But present generation thinks grass is green on other side
thank you for this perspective. It is really important for everyone to understand and empathise with both sides. I appreciate your comment!
@@Unstuk No worries. You are welcome
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Arranged marriage is safe and can support society in more systematic way . But Love marriage might be , might not be same . It's all about courage and moments.
True... Interesting for us to learn the perspectives of both given that we are from western countries
@@Unstuk I understand , I will explain how marriage is done . There is predominantly three religion in Kerala .
Hindus , Muslim and Christian .
Usually Find a Boy after checking his background and same with boy's family they will check regarding girls background , then boy will come to visit the lady with his family, where boy and girl talks to each other " she will serve tea and sweets "
{ sometimes parents just say to get married and they just get married "which is an issue "}
In Hinduism there is Astrology Involved, so basically it is really hard to get married in most cases , which is also a good reason for arranged marriage to exist . But I must tell even a astrologer claims if it's a couple in love , then must not check Astrology " just get married "
This Arranged marriage is also in Muslims and Christians .
In Hinduism , Women's family take care of Wedding and engagement.
In other religion, it is divided and done by both parties .
Before marriage parents talk about Dowry { which is banned in India } and what they will give to their Daughters and what is salary of the boy : stuff like that . And they will come to a deal before marriage. You may see it like business deal , but that's not the case , both Men and Women are looking for someone to marry it's just that they happened to be looking through Arranged marriage so this procedure isn't wrong .
Usually Arranged marriage happens between same religious groups .
You will get family support and families family support with lots of family connection after marriage.
Still I prefer Love arranged marriage which is mix of both 😂
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Don't go to such parties these can turn into drug parties.be safe.😊
Which party do you see there ?
Do you have any idea what's going on there....cave girl
Rotten noisy begining... Why so noisy.