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He didn't even mention that his wife IS A DOCTOR
Ok and?
@@countesselizabeth it's a joke, there video compilations that when he talks about his wife ,he says it everytime like a proud dad
That makes a Huge Difference 😁😁😁😁😁$
cringe asf🤦♂️
@johnnys141Yes it's actually a big deal even H1tler saved a Jew doctor from getting ex*cuted. But that's because that doctor helped H1tler's mother when they had no money to pay him
Having the same values is key. It doesn’t matter if you have different hobbies or taste in movies, music, decor. It’s the values that hold a marriage together.
a older gentlemen who was part of a group i was in touch with that discussed craft work explained it like this hobbies and taste will help you find a partner but your morals and principle values will decide if you both stay as partners that old guy was even more cynical then me but he did come out with really useful insight
Very well said.
Yep
it DOES matter. If you're SO has hobbies and interests that turn you off and get on your nerves; it's not going to get better.
Hobbies can be used to filter, discreetly. Money is the #1 of arguments in a marriage. Hobbies can tell you if you view money similarly, discreetly. Most people are happy to discuss how they finance their hobbies. Are they creative? Indulgent? careless?
Also, you can learn how efficient someone is with their spare time and if that is compatible with your viewpoint.
When I started asking these questions at first I got scared because I noticed I was turning down a lot of guys. And my friends started to say that I needed to be patient. And I’m so happy they did because Ben’s right, even when you get a no to vital question you’re still winning because you’re weeding out the people that don’t line up with your values.
I heard that Warren Buffet was quoted as saying that the key to a happy marriage is low expectations.
I'm happy you've found the right one now, even if he is your brother. Love is love. Don't let anyone judge you. Except maybe the judge...
So it worked for you then?
Because for men we don't get as many changes at finding this stuff out like women can ....a woman just has to breathe for 20 guys to be pestering her
My answer was, I only need one. And sure enough, I found him.
@@wiggy5209you kinda answered your own question. Guys are typically the ones that seek out women, so if a guy a talking to a woman and he disagrees with her morally then he should move on and try to find somebody else. Also, as an ugly woman, it's extremely rare ( I've only been approached maybe 4 times that I can remember) so there are downsides to both genders.both genders should move on when they disagree with fundamental values.
I agree. 45+ years ago, after dating many mismatches I told my husband on our first date what I I wanted my future to look like. My dream was pretty uncool in the late 70’s, but I told him anyway. I wanted a career, a career of making and taking care of my own family. I wanted 4 kids, cook, bake, sew the whole homemaker life and “a guy that believed in God but wasn’t weird about it”. He immediately said “Will you marry me?” 💕
Aww, beautiful.
Beautiful
❤😊
That was my dream also ! got it for a while but never regretted staying home to raise my own children.
Feminine women like you are so rare today and they’re so attractive!!! I would love to find a girl that wants to raise my kids and stay home
seeking a partner with similar values to you is paramount.
Ben said it well
He really did. He always does speak so very well. He is just so eloquently, intelligently and confidently well spoken.
all of these values are so npc and basic. there's literally no depth. u can find a girl like that through a jewish dating app.
@@niki7876what
@@niki7876ok but people have different levels of faith
Low key I think the whole “date someone whose the opposite of you” is the biggest myth in all of “dating advice” it just ends up wasting everyone’s time
I think that only works on things that people can be open-minded on. Taste in movies, music, food, etc can totally be opposite. Same thing with an introvert marrying an extrovert. It definitely doesn't work for values though.
Me and my wife are opposites. Different religions, color/culture, and political views. We have maybe three interests in common, but the specifics aren't. Gaming, anime, reading. But we have vastly different interests in each of those categories. Been together 14 years, married for 10 and happy.
It’s not a myth. There’s a difference between POLAR OPPOSITE, and being different in ways that compliment eachother. My husband and I are total opposites, but also the same person in many areas, and most importantly, our core beliefs were identical. That’s key. You can be totally different in terms of taste, hobbies, what have you, it’s the core beliefs/values that matter. I would genuinely hate if my husband was just like me 😂😂😂 our differences make up for our shortcomings. Balance.
100% true. Had 3 boyfriends in my entire life including my current one. First boyfriend was extremely catholic and believed women had to be pure but he could go sleep around and be obnoxious and gross. Second boyfriend was the opposite, he was a devil worshiper who made child r*pe jokes, said the n word quite regularly (he was Portuguese), and loved to cheat. Now I’m 23 with my current boyfriend who is literally just a guy version of me. We have the same music tastes, political and economic views, and views when it comes to a relationship. Almost 3 years with this man and my only regret in life is not having him as my first boyfriend 😭❤️
@@Taelyr do Portuguese people say the N-word a lot? I've never heard of that stereotype
*if more people were like this, divorce rates would significantly drop historically*
True, but so would marriage rates - it's very hard to find someone who is deeply compatible up front... People do change over time though so often "close enough" is the right choice given limited time to pick
@@jeinhorn87yes but so many people don’t even look for “close enough” on issues that really matter, they look at that overall and never have the deeper conversations. It’s not likely that someone’s core values will drastically change so having some idea what they are ahead of time is important.
Not necessarily. Two people can marry and at the start of that marriage have the same beliefs and ideals. But people do change in marriages for better or for worse, and that includes their viewpoint.
@@kuarahyyva How about respecting and celebrating differences in your partner. It makes marriage much more interesting. Ben is right about one thing, if someone I marry cannot bend, that would be a problem! I get the feeling Ben can't bend!
@@marthaworc7873 I can’t marry someone who has polar opposite beliefs, especially those who believe some people don’t deserve to love who they love or be who they are.
I’m happily married, so I have no issue saying so
Absolutely! My first date with my husband was us both asking each other world view questions. We were both looking for a spouse, so it was important to make sure we agreed on the essentials before wasting each other's time.
wow, that was me with a woman who having an affair on her husband did! We made sure we had a lot in common, so we were able to have a long term relationship for over 5 years. Even people who have affairs need to have stuff in common!
Absolutely 100%. These conversations should happen even before, formally dating.
🎯🎯🎯
Um no, that is why you date. To find if you are compatible.
Before. 😂
Fcking Hell, this comment has 309 likes from other idiots
@@J-Bird1234sometimes you can find out before the date but sometimes dating is how you find out.
@@J-Bird1234 you don’t need to date someone to find out you don’t share the same values.
So spot on. I tell everyone my husband and I had all of our most intense discussions in our first 6 months of knowing each other 😂
YES! We had our within 2 or so months 😂😂 I grilled him hard on things because he was the first man I was with since I made my stance on things I value morals of etc and we’re now 9 months in and expecting our first in April 😂😅 if you know you know lol
We got engaged after three conversations. Married after 4 in person meetings 😊
@@pursuingpurity596mashallah
@@Horsegirl2024I didn’t and so wish I had. Finally got it right when I married a guy who basically has most of the same values.
I read that too fast as " I tell every husband I had..." At first
I’ve always heard from my family, “interests and things you have in common is what starts a relationship, values and beliefs is what keeps the relationship together”
I hear that all the time but I've never been able to meet a person, let alone a girl who has any of those things. I always hear "just meet a girl with the same interests"... No such girl exists, I'll never be able to be *that* picky.
@@liamcraddock9539trust me I know that life. Sometimes I feel like I’ll never be able to find someone worthy of marriage just due to most modern women in my age group being overwhelmingly leftist and anti marriage
That's not true. Sexual attraction is the most important aspect in a marriage
@@loverofhumanitysexual attraction is a common interest
That's HOW to find a spouse.
Not things. Character!
He did not go to Cambridge university. He was referring to the city of Cambridge when he went to Harvard
I was looking for this. Thank you!
Facts, I was about say: Cambridge, MA
For his Law school. Not undergrad
@@kyv2431@69Luffy88 he is a conservative and saying Harvard is off putting to his target demographic of consumers, hence the omission
@@kyv2431there ya go…
As I tell my daughters and their friends: first & foremost is to know thyself - decide what's non negotiable for you and pick someone who shares these non negotiable values too. Don't compromise on these if you're looking for marriage and raising a family. Secondly, be the person you want to date and marry. Don't aspire to marry an ambitious, hardworking and responsible person if you're a loser who's looking for "someone to complete me".
hi Ben I'm a Muslim and yes I do agree with you so much .I wish this video existed 23yrs ago ,because you articulate better .Sadly I lost my marriage because I was not so on point ,and it was too late because the wall came crushing down 6months in being 2month pregnant. Of we are divorced but big emotional and psychological divorce. Now that I'm articulate, then I'm intimidating. So still single now because I stay firm on my ground. But I'm thankful that I was fated to have my son and learn to be strong on my worth. I'm 51 .
Celebrating 35 years of marriage on Saturday! Husband &I I met in military ( both on active duty)..talked about God, family, values etc and in 48 hours, he proposed! I said yes.. we knew we belonged together and trusted God!- must be doing something right!! Love how smart he is and how he ADORES AND RESPECTS HIS WIFE!--
Your story is si very similar to my husband and I... also 35 years, also military. He now helps me manage my family estates deep in rural England. Life is wonderful.
I agree w/ Ben here.. I think more couples need to agree on major stuff like religion, politics, marriage & having children.
Not really, you just need to be mature and humble enough not to force it down the throats of your children who have the right to form their own views and have their own aspirations in life. At least one loving parent is all you need, and I doubt having two parents who think exactly alike on a range of fringe issues is really preparing them for the real world!
@@theunistudentInstilling good morals and values into your children statistically sets them up for success.
He’s not wrong especially about politics… I’m Gen z & never knew a time where stuff wasn’t overly political.. my family says back in the day people never really had political talks, people that voted democrat & people that voted Republican could all still be great friends & never be disrespectful towards eachother. But I’ve only seen society as this place that EVERYTHING is turned into a political debate, like legit anything & everything & it’s only getting worse & worse, it’s low key sad to think about.. I wish we could just respect everyone’s political differences & not hate eachother
For me it’s still in that fantasy. If you just don’t talk or comment about politics no one will know where you lie and you’ll meet people who like you based on personality, even if they have differing views. It’s their opinion; no one will have the exact same beliefs as you.
I remember those days.
I hate this whole "respect people's differering opinions" BS. My adversaries believe that women can murder their kids if they want to. They believe that men are evil and inferior and need to be restrained. They believe that children don't belong to their parents but to their teachers and their government, and that it's perfectly fine to discuss sexual matters with them against their parents' wishes.
I have absolutely *NO* respect for evil and sin, and I will not deign to pretend that the devil's designs are on par with God's.
“Ur picking one person out of all humanity” that actually made me feel better im in highschool and i feel like if i dont get a bf now i will never meet somone
He was in Cambridge MA, not the Cambridge in England.
If everyone put at least half the effort and thought Ben put into picking a partner we’d thrive so much as a nation.
The reason why they don't is because they're have sex.
True. You just look for the "core".
My parents met on a Friday and got married the next, and not a soul knows (which brought the house down). My dad, who was from an exclusive school for boys, slightly afluent for that time, chose my mom who doesn't have a penny to her name, and barely finished school. So I asked, "why"? And he said, it didn't matter. He is the bread winner anyway. And it was perfect. What my mom had was kindness, patience, understanding, integrity, faith, a bit of ambition, and industriousness-- traits that my father's family didn't fully have. They were industrious but stingy, have money but condescending, selfish, and wavers in faith. Now, I am just looking for the same; what I need, from what the society wants. Because
...I envy their 1 week romance, and 40 year marriage. ❤❤❤
Wow, that truly is amazing and beautiful. A very short court that turned into 40 years of marriage that says a hell of alot for your parents.
This doesn't work for everyone I I am happy for your parents sign Cynthia Smith
My parents dated for slightly longer than 1 week, 3 months, before they married, but they were married for almost 51 years before my mom passed away.
@@SusieQ3I’m sorry for her passing! But that is truly amazing ❤
It’s sad because things are just not the same as those days, when they met. No cell phones, no internet or social media; they got to really get to know each other fully without all the distractions & bs plus both sound like great ppl that were soulmates ❤
Respect to your dad for being the better person in the family
A lot of young people tend to be influenced and become the same kind of person
Ben mentioned the religious compatibility aspect. This is a huge part of compatibility in marriage. It really makes a difference. The family that prays together stays together.
No
My Husband "Picked" Me Before I Ever Met Him. He Saw Me And Apparently Said "Omg. That's The Girl I'm Gonna Marry.", But Just In Case He Was Wrong, He Proceeded To Ask Me All The Difficult Questions Before He Even Sat Down At The Dinner Table On Our First Date.
Bet he met you in English class!
While I live by different values, I completely agree with his view on how to pick a life partner. Be concious what is important to you, make sure you have common life goals and values and learn what personality traits are an indicator for a healthy relationship. Don't settle for less.
This is how I found my husband, after I became catholic. I can't wrap my head around the fact, that before that I had a boyfriend with multiple red flags who I told "you don't need to pop the question. Unless this and that changes I will say no".
It is crazier to commit to someone until you get the courage to ask the most important questions and who needs to chance and you wait for it, than find someone who is really compatible
Nice way of saying you had a ho phase 😂
My now husband and I had this amazing conversation the 2nd day we met, it went for hours and hours, we discussed everything from personal matters to religious ones. It was not a concerted date but it was definitely the base for our relationship and future marriage.
She sent her resume before the date, sat for the interview, and got the job.
I prefer Ben's maturity to Andrew Tate sleeping with endless women, looking for a sex toy, and ending up.... what is he again??....oh right! Single and old!! 😉
You realize that it is a two-way interview, right…? She should be asking and expecting the same things for her spouse choosing process as well.
Very important to be with someone of your same faith. Most the time women marry men and think they can drag them along into their faith. Many times it does not work
Yeah having the same imaginary friend is a key to a solid relationship
I'm sorry that you will die and then nothing. Also, it says somewhere in the bible and yes I am paraphrasing poorly, that if you are married to a non believer your faith can cover your husband or wife, possibly saving them as well. My aunt was a Christian and my uncle was not. She and there son my cousin went to church for decades alone without my uncle. My cousin grew up to be a pastor, my aunt died and now my uncle is saved. I never thought that would happen .
@@bruhahaheehee2687 nope. Not true! I am glad for your case that it worked. When Paul said that, he was referring to people who were already married to the unbeliever before they (the Christian) got saved. Being a believer that is married to an unbeliever does not save them, but it sanctifies them so they do not sin (if they're willing to be obedient to their spouse). As for the first statement, I would rather live my life as a Christian and then die for their to be nothing than live my life as an atheist, die, and be in hell.
@@Cinnogirl well I think we are talking about the same thing. I know my uncle was atheist all my childhood. All my child hood he and my aunt were married. Idont know when she got saved exactly, but she and her son , my cousin, started going to church while we were all young and I remember asking him if he went and believed in Jesus and he ,at that time did not. My aunt and uncle remained married to each other until she died. My cousin became a preacher. My uncle lives alone to this day but now he is a Christian . I don't know when that happened for him, only that her faithful dedication to the Lord and my uncle witnessed it and also his one and only son as well were saved because of her example. Seems like what I read in the bible kinda explains it. God bless!
@@Cinnogirl also Ms. Shelby, when I opened my first comment with sorry you will die and nothing, I was responding to the commenter who said God was an imaginary friend. I should have specified that part. Lots of love
Sometimes, even with the right questions, partners lie. I found out 8 years in that my partner is a gambling addict. Go figure. You just can't know everything all the time about your partner. It is love, love is a risk you take. The price is high but the reward of having loved and being loved is great
Very true. There are no guarantees in life. But that shouldn't stop you from doing your best, and making the best choices you can, in the moment.
I'm very sorry for your having to deal with that gambling addiction. I know someone who married a man and later found out about this. It's awful 😔
@@user_mll374 Thanks. The silver lining for me is that at least being with him is more rewarding than the pain of his gambling addiction. Also, he is cooperating with me on stopping it, giving me full control over his economy
I was going to say this very thing. I was lied to(twice) about wether or not they believed in God. Both were addicts as well. People are very good at playing the role of who you want them to be, for years.
@@GodISSovereign17god is all knowing. If you’re his follower you don’t believe, you do it
Obviously it doesnt eliminate all issues if you share the same major values, but it definitely puts you on a good foundation.
The one man who cares that his wife was ambitious.
Looks were still first though
Looks are always first, looks are the gateway to the follow up questions. It’s a hard truth but it’s reality. The good news is the stats say that men are attracted to around 80% of women. So as long as you’re not in the bottom 20% (to him), you’ll get the follow up questions.
The wife who is ambitious will help her husband with his goals. She will not resent him for working too much, or taking risks in order to achieve more. So if you are ambitious you need a wife who will share your aspirations.
you need a partner with a similar view, otherwise it really cannot work out
And yet liberal women find conservative men more attractive than liberal men.
Exactly! If you don't have the same view, you're not going in the same direction, you will not end up in the same place
What's your view?
Ive been married 20 yrs and my husband is white male republican and i am a female mexican Democrat. It works because we love and respect eachother
@@BB-rn2ks Andrew realizing the Democratic party does not represent your cultural views.
Love his articulation
I always looked for a “thinker” , he said it a lot better
A lot of people don't realize that shared interets are not the same as shared values. A lot of people will date other people with the same or similar interests yet that is no indicator that a relationship will work out. When it doesn't work out, that's because the values didn't align. Sharing the same interests with someone gives you instant gratification because you immediately connect over the same interest, but if you like John Mayer, for example, you'll have that in common with every single girl at a John Mayer concert; that doesn't mean all those girls are a great match, it just means you both like John Mayer a lot.
My wife always says I interviewed her the first time we met and I have to admit, it’s true. I was done finding out bs down the road and starting over. Nothing wrong with not wasting your time or someone else’s.
People lie on interviews for the job 😂
People who say that they have the entire humanity to pick from are weird. It's not true. You have such a small group to choose from and if you don't leave your city, it's even smaller. Y'all, don't get it twisted, you dont have as many good options as you think. Meeting someone perfect for you rarely happens two or three times. So live wisely.
But, God can . . If you want His guidance
Yep. Good luck to everyone.
I'm a completely different person to Ben. I have different values, but I completely agree with Ben 100%. Make a list of specific things that important to you. Things about you, not about them, and be specific. Your life partner must satisfy those criteria in order for the relationship to be successful.
The underlying tone was “how Jewish are you reaaaalllly?” 😂
This is why you should start looking for your mate when your young. With a laundry list of qualifiers you'll need time to sort thru them all. But notice the first qualifier was beauty. Not the only thing, but the first thing.
Very very smart and rational line of thinking. I could have used this advice twenty years ago.
This is very important because you are PICKING THE PERSON WHO WILL HAVE YOUR CHILDREN. Choose wisely!!
Thank you for making me feel less crazy some days I’ve felt too strict for having things like ambition and commitment and health as something to look for in a partner.
My husband is Hindu and a vegetarian I’m Christian and a meat eater just those things alone causes fights alllllll the time. He’s smart
All good spouses are meat gobblers, even though they claim to be vegan
He literally just explained hiw unbelievably lucky he, and well she, was. But, he also stuck to his morals. Imagine what the divorce rate would be if we all had that integrity.
It's about having the intelligence and moral upbringing to know what to look for and how to live your life. If people aren't well educated and guided, they have to learn from catastrophic mistakes.
Yeah, I feel like he was EXTREMELY picky and somehow managed to find someone. Yet here I am, 37, and still haven't found a woman willing to commit past 1.5 years.
@@ohyea456 38 going on 39..... feel ya
@@anaromelloaka hoe phases
@@ohyea456shapiro is extremely successful and at the time of meeting his future wife saw the $$$ security
I actually respect his values and mindset. He found someone who had similar beliefs and morals.
Yeah,like what?
@@NxnNxnlcjcj I don't think I understand your question?
@@AMunee 😂his values and mindset and his similar beliefs and morals
@@NxnNxnlcjcjAre you saying he didn't find someone that had the same morals/beliefs?Or that you don't agree with them (Ben's morals/beliefs)?
@@AMunee 🙅🤦you said you respect his values and mindset. What are they?
I got to meet Ben's family and Ben himself at Boca Ratons town center mall and I must say. Such a beautiful and respectful family. Ben took time away from his family to actually speak to me and he showed such grace as a man to just be humble and normal and spoke to many people. I have so much respect for him.
You do know he’s getting paid a hefty amount to do that
Sharing values/ethics is the basis. I found out too late. A lot can be negotiated/discussed/revalued/reconsidered, but not values/ethics…. The simple 10 Commandments… lying, stealing, killing…
So many variables. I picked my husband bc his voice was low… all these years later, I’d pick him again and again ❤
😂 glad it worked out!!
I have a high pitched voice 😂.....wish I was like your husband...seducing all the ladies with my voice
His Wife is so blessed to have such an educated and handsome loving and loyal Husband.Hes also very blessed and she's a Doctor.
These are important, but another critical thing to remember is that people change, so you may be in alignment on things when you first get together, but diverge as the years go on. The trick is constantly communicating and having those deep conversations and work out those divergences as they come. If you’re marrying for life, you two will need to be happy changing together. When done well, it’s a beautiful process!
As a woman, frankly, it’s still pretty depressing that no matter what, the number one criteria he lists is that she’s beautiful - for both women.
He’s ain’t wrong about the politics.. I legit my brother & his wife fight about politics 24/7.. they’ve tried making agreements to just not talk about politics but in 2023 it’s pretty impossible, especially cuz they watch the news so they always having fights over that.. it’s crazy, they married a long time ago & both never knew eachothers political opinions back in the day but the way society has become so hyper political, now they’ve realized they are on complete opposite sides when it comes to politics
Too much logic for the average American.
I love that he wanted an ambitious woman! Put all these insecure men to rest.
As if non-ambitious couples don’t exist 😂
Ben: * asks questions *
Future wife: I’m a doctor.
Ben: SOLD!
Ben is so smart! He’s inspired me to make a reasonable and smart check list for my future husband,just like he did. If more people were as strategic with how they pick they’re partners,there is a 99%chance of the divorce rates going down.
But, what if you meet someone exactly like you that hates you? What if he hates himself? What if you hate yourself?
I have 15 years on Ben. I just learned these things. He had good parents.
Lol I’m 21 and even I know this, it’s just common sense
@@Winskl9010 good.
I love the fact that while looks played a part in the initial noticing, it was values and personality that sealed the deal in the end.
Money 💰
All of this 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I asked my wife, "Do you want to move overseas and plant churches in a place where you could get killed for being a Christian?" She said, "Yes." In that one answer, she answered 100 other vital questions. I knew she was the one.
So when do you plan on moving over seas with her?
Already did.
@@FredHenry1850
Well I hope you don’t get killed my friend. Which country did you move to?
Thank you for the kind support. We moved to Kenya, along the Somali border. We have been evacuated a couple of times and have had to flee to different cities due to Al-Shabaab activity in our area. We have contingency plans in place and stay in clear communication with our team. For the most part it is peaceful, though.
God bless you guys ✝️🙏🏻
My gradations are so narrow that I have to date myself.
I met an engaged couple in the food court of the mall where I worked. They gave me basically this advice. Together we worked on a list of qualities to look for in a future partner, and another list of red flags to watch out for. About a month later I met my husband. We've been together for 23 years.
Reminds me of that one country song, “She likes the Beatles and I like the Stones.”
My husband was a lib and a questioning atheist when we met 7 months later we got married and he is a conservative and a Christian and we have been happily married for almost 4 years
This is rare. Wow
@@ami2763 yes I'm very lucky.
i think he grew up
@@AlexPerazaTV well that and he was exposed to ideas and topics that he wasn't exposed to before
Praise the Lord! When I met my husband I was liberal and he turned me conservative. Now I’m a full blown born again believer and a stay at home mom. He’s still not sure about Christianity but he’s super supportive and doesn’t fight me on it and even comes to church with us. Couldn’t be more grateful.
Being with him would be a nightmare ..you do one thing wrong he will gas light you
That’s why communication is super important in a relationship.
I would hardly call someone he "went on a date with" an ex.
Wow! He knew what he was looking for a partner at a very young age.
His parents prepared him for marriage from the time of his bar mitzvah, that's why. Most boomer and gen x parents neglected to prepare their kids for marriage during their teenage years. Also there's no option of celibacy in Judaism so every Jew is expected to marry and have kids.
Everyone should have these standards ❤
This is so key. When you do this kind of questioning of each other, you can be kind. And dating is still fun! But this keeps you away from stupid dating and wasted time and hurts. Or worse. And it opens up the best.
“Gradations of observancy” in many religions can change but it is definitely 💯 an important distinction & matter when the goal is to raise a family.
Going on a first date with Ben Shapiro would be more comparable to an Executive job interview with a Fortune 500 company.
I'm betting he also ran a background check.
So romantic! LOL
As opposed to going on a date with a man trying to get you drunk, lying to you about anything, and trying to take you home to sleep with you???
Yeah.... that's way more romantic....
🙄🙄🙄🙄
@@user_mll374 If the man is playing "catch and release", and the first "date" is going out to a bar... it tells me a lot about the woman.
And if the woman is wearing 3lbs of makeup, has fake boobs, high heels, dyed hair complete with hair extensions... She deserves an honest man? 😆🤣😆
“Ben’s ex woke girlfriend” 🥴🥴🥴🥴 what girlfriend??? He went on A DATE with her…
Does he forget that that spinster-ass Pearl knows more about marriage than he does? 😂
My husband and I's first date was a two hour walk around his hometown discussing what our goals and values in life were. And it showed both of us that a relationship together was worth pursuing.
Had to do with money for sure!
@@-Clarence- He was broke at the time and I paid for the plane ticket to fly to see him. Definitely didn't have to do with him having any money, haha. But he was kind, came from an intact nuclear family and was ambitious and wanted to get married young instead of playing the field.
Some people are really good at lying to get in your pants. They know what you're after and will be anything they need to be to secure you. They won't care about the mess later, and claim that they really loved you.
I'm glad it worked for Ben, but it doesn't work for everybody.
Wait until marriage. I highly doubt someone will lie that much for that long just to sleep with you. If so they probably have other red flags you should see
If I'm not mistaken, psychologically, most people can't keep up an act for 3 months straight. There may be outliers like sociopaths who can fool people for decades on end (usually these people are charmers), but one test that will always reveal a person's true intentions is to assess whether their actions match up with their deeds, which means pay close attention to them but keep it under the radar.
Also ask questions when they make weird statements that they wouldn't think needs qualification. If you listen closely enough, you will find that people tell you exactly who they are when you meet them, some do this to excuse their behaviors by claiming they told you from the start, but at that time you were trying to be polite and brushed off the comment without giving it much though (for example "I'm a bit jealous/clingy" or "everyone has different standards for cheating" etc.
This is why abstinence is so important.
@@nix6959thing is, after 6months, things like long term commitment, marriage, kids come into the equation. Too many people lie to stay in a situation (not being alone or regular sex or "this will do"), knowing this is a safe situation to stay in. That's why many women initiate breakups. Guys like staying in their comfort zone knowing they will string women along pretending they share same hopes and dreams for long term. When women find out, they will end the relationship
@@obelarcapitalit happens a lot, how you don’t see it is anyone’s guess
He is a genius for this
He didn't go to Cambridge University he meant the town of Cambridge in the USA.
He does make a very good and very basic point about what you should get answered over time when you are looking for a partner. He has his list, mine wasn't so focused on religious details but there was an overall question about religious compatibility, along with questions about children, where we want to live, goals in life, etc...
It amazes me when people don't get the major questions that are important to you answered BEFORE you get married.
Being a doctor is irrelevant, not all doctors are good people
Polite way of saying ho
My brother in law (my fiancé’s brother) got divorced from his now ex wife last year. He married her after only dating for four months, she didn’t want kids but he did, she wanted to live in her native California and he hates California, she’s super woke and he’s conservative, and she’s pro-abortion while he’s pro life. It was never going to work out. Had they had more tough conversations earlier on, they might’ve come to the conclusion that they weren’t compatible before vows were exchanged. Now his new gf is also a liberal Californians. Men in that family never learn their lesson.
My husband and I were young when we fell in love. We didn't discuss religious beliefs or political beliefs at all. We were just compatible and happy. We grew together and in doing so we came to all the same conclusions politically and religiously. Maybe it was luck ? Maybe he was God sent ? I don't know but I'm grateful. It worked for us.❤
The issue I've found is a lot of times love doesn't develop just because they have the same values.
Like if I wanted to marry specifically on values I would not be marrying someone I necessarily love which would lead to resentment.
This is one of the issues with today's society, people aren't having the right conversations early before being intimate
Ben is very based.
Ben "my wife is a doctor" Shapiro
My now husband and i discussed our "deal breakers" the first day we decided to start dating. No point in wasting time with someone who is fundamentaly incompatible with you.
Wow. How romantic...
Traditional values come with standards. He's right and a lot of men out there should take notes. You're living a life of sin.
I’ve taught all this to my little girl well she just graduated and turned 18 leaving to college in fall. I wish someone had taught this to me and to my mother but the road ends here.
"By getting a 'No' to a question that you think is vital" 🎯
Rapatatatatatatatatatatata - Ben Shapiro
My favorite part about your comment is that CZcams offers to translate it to English. 😂🤣
@@tickley42and when you translate it, it doubles down on the Ts 😂
This is exactly why Ben Shapiro is how he is. He's a man that surrounds himself with people who are exactly like him.
but he votes for politicians who hate his religion.. just because they hate the same people he does.. smh
And thats is why he will never grow as a person. We are here to learn and be better . We will reach divinity at one point but he wil die and come back again and again till he learns he thinks he's way its the right way . Arrogance will never reach divinity
@@fernandocervantes3189no he's just not married to a blue haired feminist, and you obviously don't understand how Jewish people tend to get married especially orthodox Jews, you think Ben Shapiro fully agrees with Michael Knowles or Candace Owens or Benny Johnson? Cuz I know for sure they don't agree on much, theres a difference between the person you marry and live most your life with (you'd want them to be agreeable with you and on you side) vs ppl you hang out with
he is far more matrue then most people,
has a great life, with a wife he loves, kids he spend a lot of time with and million and million of dollars
and he right most of the time.
long haired men are gay
I agree with him. If you don’t have the same views in certain topics, then the relationship is not going to work out.
Having the same values is key BUT they also MUST treat you with respect and show they are dedicated to you consistently.
He didn’t fall in love.
He filled a job position.
True love is spending a lifetime together and raising a family. ❤ When you marry the right person, the love & respect grows deep and wide with each passing year. "Falling in love" is shallow and you can just as easily "fall out of love".
Don't mistake infatuation for love. Infatuation lasts only a few months, but you need a person to be loyal at your side during the hard seasons of life and for that you need to look VERY closely who you choose. That's a different kind of love.
It is a job. And it's the most important contract you will ever sign. Better think very carefully before hand
Actually, the role of a spouse is way more important than any job. Imagine that you are betting your entire life, the lives of your children, and of all the people you love on what kind of person someone is. Now imagine that you only get 1 chance to choose this person and no matter how it turns out your life will be built around your relationship with this 1 other person. How specific would you be about what you're looking for? What's most important to you? In most religions, people believe that you will be with this person for your entire life on earth and then for eternity in heaven. So, who would you want to be with like that forever?
He was smart enough to not just fall for how pretty someone is on the outside. External beauty fades and changes with time. Who you are as a person is a million times more important!
And now they have a staff of 4.
Did you know his wife is a doctor.... now you do
Totally agree with what he said about picking the same religion and cultures. Most people who fall in love with different religions and cultures say that they are ready to work hard at understanding differences but what we fail to forget as that once you get older, you’re less likely to want to work hard (like how you were when you were younger) and would rather maintain things to keep the peace. There’s already “hard work” thrown enough at you as a married couple, then add kids, aging parents, extended families, etc… even marrying someone in the same culture can be really difficult if you didn’t grow up similarly or have similar values.
Im very happy for him, it’s beautiful to see when people meet a soulmate
“I make money, oh you make money to?!?! I mean let’s get married”