Why are people not getting married anymore?
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- čas přidán 18. 07. 2023
- 89% of the world’s population now live in countries with falling rates. In the U.S., marriage has declined by 60% since the 1970s, while median age for first marriages has increased for both men and women.
“There are a couple of big factors here in play. One major factor is the changing economy”, said Brad Wilcox, director of the National Marriage Project at University of Virginia.
The phenomenon affects many countries in the world but it’s most pressing in east and south Asia, where marriage and childbirth are highly correlated.
“Governments all over the world are worried because of economic implications”, said Dr Leng Leng Thang of National University of Singapore.
The decline of marriage is turning into a demographic crisis for Japan which is the world’s third largest economy and home to the world’s oldest population.
And a similar problem is troubling authorities in China, which registered the fewest marriages in 2022 since public records began.
“By 2050, China's working population will be reduced by 10%, and not enough babies will be born to fill that gap. The dependent population, those who reach retirement age, will double” warned Dr Ye Liu from King’s College London.
Watch the video above to learn what causes increasing number of couples around the world to opt out of marriage.
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The best way to avoid divorce court? Never get married.
😂
Girlfriend = rent a wife. Easier to replace a girlfriend when she hits the wall and get a new younger and more beautiful girl.
No morals when laws dont even ask for it
Absolutely
@@nextleader7543 incel
Never sign a contract where the other party will benefit by breaking it
You mean like when you're husband cheats
@@winning3329or the wife decides she's not happy
@@winning3329 Studies show that women cheats more then men.
@@winning3329 Real question, I've seen you in every comment here. Did you have a bad experience with a specific man?
@@winning3329 When your husband cheats he loses his house and possibly even support system /friends, employment and reputation. That doesn't sound like a benefit for any sane man. What are you on about??
It’s amazing how they talk about how expensive it is to get married, and they never mentioned how financially devastating it is to get divorced.
it's because that is their agenda. They won't speak if it won't benefit.
Emotional devastating is worse 😢
🤦♂️The reason is not economical, if is expensive a married life then how can people survive with only 1 salary alone?
the reason is because the current zeitgeist is a war against males.
In Muslim countries they are in similar economic problems but there is no problem with marriages because there is no war against males.
It doesn't match their narrative.
They never consider men's problems and perspective.
Finacially devastating ......FOR MEN!!
People can’t afford rings, clothes, ceremony, transport, honeymoon, house deposit (let alone actual house), pregnancy, medical bills for child’s birth, daycare, schooling. We’re just hoping we can afford to get old.
Right it amazes me how people can afford all that people are struggling to support themselves alone
I'm just hoping to retire at a reasonable age, at this rate, I'll be working until 90. Or Death.
I can't afford a car, how can I afford anything else?
In canada they can’t afford food too now 😢. Shame on humanity
Meanwhile the population increases in Brazil, Mexico, Nigeria, India Egypt etc
Yes you could've afforded these. You dont need to spend a lot.
Experienced divorce attorney here. Marriage is simply too big a risk in modern times. Divorce and family court can derail your life, even if you didn’t do anything wrong. Better to live your best life and do the things that bring you joy. You can still have terrific relationships without inviting state laws into your life and finances.
Do prenubs help?
No sir. If I divorce I want half for my efforts and energy
@@feliciaboston6365As a guy, this is scary to hear.
@@Random_dud31 Prenups don't work because the woman can contest the prenup in court for years, forcing you to spend hundreds of thousands, even millions of dollars just to get the courts to enforce the prenup. Most men can't afford to contest and so are forced to settle.
@@feliciaboston6365depends how long you were married and whether it was your fault the marriage happend. I believe in fairness women can have half of the man cheated or physically assaulted her but she can’t just call it off and take half
Men are avoiding divorce laws. This literally isn’t that complicated.
oh trust me they know, they're just playing dumb to not shine light on it.
And women are avoiding slavery. It isn’t that complicated
@@tanyamilewski5700 did you just compare being a mother and holding down a household as slavery 🤣🤣.
@@Ace01010 yes because what do you get for that? You work work work and most men don’t appreciate it or think it’s not worth anything so what’s the point of having babies and working like a dog for nothing, not to mention being controlled by another person? It’s only worth it if you get something from it or if it’s appreciated. Most men don’t have such appreciation of what it takes or what it’s worth so most men want slaves not wives therefore yes it’s slavery and no thanks.
@tanyamilewski5700 if they marry a rich guy, it's a vacation 😂
as a GenZ living in Turkey, the issue with the marriage is not about rising expenses but finding someone that you can trust. Everyone is playing around, no one can expect young people to get married.
Because Gen z is at that kind of age of university colleges high schools all you have to do is wait and be patience many are looking for a committed relationship however many are focus on education but at about 28 to 30 many will start to slow down just look at Millennials countless articles saying end of committed couples but now most are either getting married and romantic partners or are engaged to be married it just takes time I hope you will not listen to those negative articles most are made by dating sites for endorsement.
@@jonathancunningham8739Not so true in my circles. A lot of unwed among my peer group (I am in my mid-going-late 30s now)! 🤣🤣🤣
Money has to be part of it. Why not give Robots a try?
In today's world staying single is a wise choice.
100% agree with you Mr!
They are gay or lesb 😮
@@faraon2012 Even Jesus was single for life. Does it make him gay too?
@@selfknowledge9560 they cannot think 🤭 look at how your question paralysed them
Agreed
Marriage is simply too financially costly. If you screw up and choose the wrong partner, it literally destroys you economically. My parents always told me never to marry.
How about kids tho?
I never would have married had I looked at my own parents marriage. Lucky for me I had hope in greater things that I learned from church. It's a huge risk, but so is doing nothing.
@@Cocoisagordonsetter wise words.
You parents are wrong.
Some parents lol
I work 60-70 hours a week to make ends meet, when am I supposed to date? Or meet anyone? On top of that I've worked way too hard to risk marrying the wrong person and destroying my personal or financial life, let alone my mental health. I've seen what bad marriages can do and it it's better to be single and free than with someone and miserable.
Facts fam!
its also better to have a loving spouse and kids than being single and hysterical.
@@andrewchung83no its not
That’s a very accountable attitude. Building with someone who is equally accountable and matches your values is key. Today, men are quite afraid of women with their lists of to do’s, love can get very lost when one partner takes over everything, leaving the other to follow or give all the decisions to the one who has the lists of goals and objectives, which leaves the partner cold & left out. It’s tough these days for men to marry.
@@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger Tough to find the right partner is on both sides. Not just men. I'd say it's even harder on women being on the passive end of things.
It is better to be single and alone than in a crazy dysfunctional relationship.
Exactly
Casual sex, and sex outside marriage are no longer taboo, so rushing to get married aged 18/19 just to get 'laid' (which was the case until the mid-20th century) no longer carries the same appeal. Dating apps and societal values encourage short-term casual relationships over long-term commitment.
People care about themselves now, they dont care about our future they think we are doomed which is wrong 😢
@@Akrmdz444 They don't because the insane laws fucked their present/future.
Really?
@@Akrmdz444 considerings today's overpopulation and sustainability problems Id say they're doing Earth's a favor.
@@ayar2 "Earth overpopulation" we literally use 10% of earth total labd if not then lower than that, atleast 80% of earth land is inhabitated and potable land which 2% of them are agriculture land/ or other stuff
I did my part. I had 3 children. Today, childcare, child rearing are too costly. I don’t blame anyone who chooses not to marry or have children. It’s hard enough to financially sustain oneself.
Men want to marry and have multiple children and they can afford it. But they cannot afford divorce. Wife cheats and divorces him and he loses all his money and children.
Agreed
I always thought I'll have kids. My partner and I wanted to adopt at least 3 kids. But the expenses are so much, I can't even think of having kids.. it'll lock us in a financial lockdown for at least 2 decades. No relaxing in the evening, brunches on weekends, impromptu vacations, traveling back to my home country. We still haven't been able to save enough for downpayment, so definitely not having kids. We'll donate to some charities but we are not in a mental state to take even more responsibilities
This is my retirement plan. NO KIDS!
"I did my part". Are you a brood mare?? There are plenty of other "parts" a person can play...
You addressed everything except the real issues. The steep economic decline, severe inflation with practically unchanged wages, higher workload, longer work hours, insanely competitive workplace with less chance of promotion, longer studies, cultural shifts, severe societal division and distrust of one another, p0rn addiction, etc etc.
You forgot to mention the organized demoralization of men and boys, and the runaway hypergamy of women.
In the past 1 man could feed the family
Now you're looking for that 8th roommate so you're able to pay rent
(I'm exaggerating, but I would blame mainly inflation and overpopulation that creates demand)
No, there are three main causes, industrialization, feminism, and the pill. All three taken together utterly destroys marriage as a concept and institution, so maybe in the future, men and women will just have designer children and they would get raised in community day care centers
@@ss-mw9dj It most definitely IS about the money. Sure, it's also about social media and feminism. But you have to contextualize being a home owner and building a family through its economic feasibility within any given country. Many people in Africa have a lot of kids because of the high mortality rates and the fact that physical labor is often still needed to acquire basic physical needs like food, water and shelter.
@@ThomasJDavisdude most people around the world rent as much as 70% rent all their life. The West has destroyed the family by feminism and family and divorces law. Bring Shariah.
She keeps her stuff while getting half of his stuff, and it's up to her whether or not she wants to keep the kids.
She cheats, she gets everything, he cheats, he loses everything.
Marriage was turned into an exclusive career for women, that's why.
People are not running away from marriage. They are running away from divorce.
Those are same thing. Divorce can't happen if there is no marriage.
@@memebro3181 divorce laws are the problem not marriage.
@@musaib34 Without marriage there won't be divorce and divorce laws. Let two consenting adults do w/e they want. They don't need marriage.
Bingo! Men want marriage…. But not the divorce. Women want….. everything, bring nothing and stand to gain in divorce.
Starting a family is expensive.
There's more financial instability than before.
Most of them are starting families they just aren’t getting married. My in laws just had there 50th wedding anniversary and I celebrated 25 so it’s not all bad.❤😂
Starting families used to be profitable. Both decisions are financially stable for their time.
You’re funny. This is mainstream media, what do you expect? They have values to uphold you know
@@mr.anderson4755You men care more about money than to have a family. Remember that women even if you are not married to them cost money.
what are you feeding your kids? lol
Because Gen Z and Millennials have been raised by parents whose love, and marriage fell out and had to witness what kind of problems marriage and divorce can create. From financial instability, to the toll it takes on ones psyche, its just not worth it.
I guess I'm in the minority, that's sad lol.
@@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858Aren’t you the woman who said she'd give up her kidney to save her husband? How are you doing rn?
No marriage no drama and no divorce.
No wife, know life.
No marriage ever been there done that it might work for some if you like to be controll by someone cheated on have your money gone, these are men that I try to be with they will love you if you have a House a car and a job, then they will leave you with nothing, yes women do it to however men have a better track record of it from what I went though So no never again XD
No man no murder 🤷♀️
@@Scrittlescrattle No man no Hu-man.
@@Scrittlescrattle
Not the same. If a man never marries he can never get divorced.
If a woman never gets married she can still get murder 😭
And there are women who murder men aswell so its not exclusive to one gender.
@@Scrittlescrattle no man = indigenous
Men finally realized that never sign a contract with someone who is rewarded for breaking it. Men Keep going this way, don't stop.
It’s not just about men. Women have realized they don’t need to get married and put up with basically adopting another “child” to take care of. All most men do is stress women out and use women for their benefit. Women are now educated, making their own money (many times, more than men) and living their best lives. 😌 So yeah, I’m glad it’s worked out for both of us. Cheers.
Some states have common law marriage. So thag won't get him out of anything
@@Becky_CalA self centered response. How shocking. Thanks for the reminder, I always enjoyed coffee more when it was quiet 😊
Yeah that's why they are crying to get married and saying if he doesn't marry you in 2 years of relationship leave him 😂@@Becky_Cal
Marriage is not for everyone.
Only a true fool of a man would get married under the current law.
@@gomahklawm4446 seems like they are a lot of them out there turning the blind eye knowing that the woman they are engaged to, for any reason or anytime beyond their control , can take half their finances, and put a claim on all their future earnings, and be paying her alimony the rest of their lives, and have their life financially destroyed
marriage is not a solution. you need to solve all your childhood trauma on your own and not drag another person and kids into it. enough of generational trauma. love and heal yourself first!
This is the biggest thing they leave out. They’ll mention everything from pay, to human rights, to leisure or self determination.
And thus is exactly why I've not sought a relationship with anyone I'm working on myself, learning to love myself and it has taken time, alot of it.
DIVORCE IS NOT A SOLUTION, as living alone lead to feelings of sadness and loneliness. Marrying another person also doesn't guarantee happiness. Instead, the key lies in seeking help for your marriage and being cautious of engaging with progressive psychologists who might promote woke ideologies.
@@vuksgitau You are born loving yourself, is not hard to be self centered, just let your demons take over.
amen
My wife through false allegations of child abuse tried to win divorce and put me into prison. She won temporary custody. After 3.5 years the court cleared me of initial accusation, but now my children who used to love me don't want to see me at all. The ex spouse didn’t get any punishment for false allegations. It cost me a lot of money to fight in courts to clear my name. Too sad the system is one sided. I lost all my faith in justice. The social workers from department of children who initially believed all words without any proof didn’t lose their jobs either. They ruined my relationship with children.
very sorry to hear, but I suggest you start looking into improving your consciousness and entering into spirituality to make life more meaningful. Trust me just give it a chance to seek yourself and your true purpose my friend. Hope all is well.
The same happened to me. Except she also acused me of domestic violence
This is why I don’t ever wanna get married at all . Cause here in Canada divorce rates are going up . Plus it’s a waste of space and money .
Wow. How do you do an entire show without going over the number one reason which is divorce? Mind blowing.
Cos it's gynocentric.
Because a women is narrating it.
the actual number 1 reason is because most people who get into marriage go into divorce is really just because they had unrealistic expectations that weren't met and couldn't deal with it later.
What do you mean? People aren't getting married because they are afraid of divorce?
@@etta5487
1. 50% of 1st marriages divorce, higher with any subsequent marriages.
2. Antique divorce laws in the modern era, weaponised by Feminist family Law Courts & Govt destroy men, taking his home, his children and most his assets while socially demonising his reputation. Male suicide rate is four times the female rate for a reason.
3. The median average length of a marriage in the Anglo-West is 8 years from marriage/1st cohabitation to separation.
4. Social decay means successful single men have plentiful sexual access to women anyway.
5. Marriage rates have steadily fallen over the last five decades, from ~70%+ to ~30%, lower for the Caucasians group
6. By 2030, 50% of women 18 to 40yo will be single and barren, and 45%+ of all children will be in single mother homes.
Conclusion: the Feminists have won a complete victory to destroy society, with demographic collapse. Marriage is now only a lifestyle choice for showboating rich men, not the working class or lower middle class. Everything Pearl talks about, in broad terms is spot on.
Actually Single Unmarried men dont need as much money.
We arent consumers like that.
Outside of
Beer, Play Station, Netflix We dont have many expensses.
We can do a studio or one bedroom.
If we do exercise or work from home we may have a two bedroom
We dont need two cars, its just us, so we buy one car.
We have more options to spend less on rent, since we dont have to be concern with being SA like women do.
We can do cheap rent no house. we have groups of guys that we can band together.
Men who are single have less expenses.
Totally true, I have roommates...had them for a long time. Even though the rent goes up, we're still doing fine! I still have my one car, savings, retirement, I'll be 40 soon and I've yet to fall on tough times. Being a single guy is just not as hard as I thought it was going to be when I moved out. 🧐
@@bratzboyz being single guy since I was 22 and 46...it's the best thing
Frankly, imagine if someone subtracted the beer and playstation and instead read books freely obtained from the library or via inexpensive on-line venders. Sat in a park and drank tea/coffee (maybe even made at home rather than an expensive coffee house). Imagine also if these single people volunteered through local church groups or community organizations instead of ocupying themselves with streaming services and social media. A much less expensive life filled with far more creativity and social interaction.
They are the most loneliest too. This is why they are so comfortable harassing women on the street
@@solaris5922ummm……..No
During a recent family get-together, I had a married distant relative try to "shametalk" me for a couple of minutes into getting married while his wife was there.
I politely asked him when was the last time he was able to keep a whole paycheck for himself, after taking out half of the household expenses. He got pissed at me for asking him a personal question.
LOL! That was a mic drop moment.
I’m so glad that men are waking up. Men need to be happy and love themselves, women do not love men and the sooner men realize this, the happier they’ll be.
Marriage only works if a society is traditional. If there is no common traditional values in place in a complex institution like marriage, it will break over time
In an Indian state called Keeala, females file false harassment cases and media totally support them..
aptly stated
If that’s true, then marriage should die. 😎
@@LucareonVee it's on life support, soon it will die.
The west is in decline and this is only another indicator amongst hundreds
Why get married forever when you can just wake up one day say you're not feeling it and get divorced a week later?
and she takes half your stuff!
Nobody ever wakes up and just decides to get divorced, sure sounds like your wife left you and you are coping
@@xXEGPXxfeminists here people.😂😂
@@xXEGPXxyour right.. Women are way smart to just wake up and divorce u. The divorced is planned before the marriage
@@xXEGPXx it seems like that to the man because the woman plans it behind your back for months and months and makes sure she builds all of the pieces of a winning case against you, and then drops it on you unsuspecting and suddenly once all the pieces are in place for her to destroy your life
Because being married to the wrong person sucks!!!!!
I am a 33 years old man, never married. I want to share my experience.
Sometimes I get bored only because people of my age are busy with daily stuff they got themselves into. If you have friends, a single life could be fun. Many times I think about how I can do stuff which benefit the poor people.
Just give them your money
Find a friend (a woman) who can do both, appreciate & criticize you (not in public though). Someone who doesn't stop at speaking of the shortcoming but also tells the solution. Grab her hand and ask her if she is already taken.
Read some research, long term marriage is about companionship, not 5ex, not money, not anything else.
In any case, we living being need loving companions. Those who don't have a human, go for pets .... and cry, because cats and dogs have much shorter life spans.
@@ndahiya3730animals age better than human
Human and up in retirement home while
Animal starts up new game😎
@@prashnaveetprasad8339 Haven't you seen American cats who live longer than 15-16 years or dogs that live longer than 12 years? They just drag themselves. Even if they don't, how many dogs, cats, cows, parrots or other pets have you heard that live past 30 years?
None except elephant & tortoise. Not many can afford to have an elephant and not many know what to feed a tort or how to keep it cool in a flat.
So, I repeat my assertion, humans need human companions - friends and relatives. Companions that share a lot of common ground.
As a Nigerian living in Nigeria, to be respected by society, you must be married. To hold public office, you also must be married as it is believed that, being in a marriage shows that you are responsible and can be trusted with vast resources. That’s the biggest lie ever told. The married ones who hold public office, are the most corrupt and loot all of our funds.
Seems many societies are similar. When a single person runs for office their status is used against as a smear campaign
It’s still like that in the more higher echelons of power and wealth and status and high society
@@Napstone deep breaths. That was so long but, interesting too.
Not that way in Western countries because women many times earn more money than a man.
Absolutely true, in some society, Parents who are poor will even go to the extent of disowning their children because they are not ready to marry. Having Family is a dream and sweet. When I was young, I had dream of holding to lover bird - while being youthful but today my opinion diverged from my dream quite some distance due to experiences and I am 26 and I am not sure if Marriage is something on the Horizon for me.
Divorce, financially ruined, depression, etc. A million reasons not to get married can only think of a handful of reasons to get married. I'll pass on tradition and keep my life simple.
Kiss. Keep it simple st*pid 😅🤟
@djm2189 yep have to agree. Best quote I ever heard was from my grandfather. Said "just cause you want to sleep with her, doesn't mean you have to marry her!" Honest but true
I honestly dont know how it benefits men....I have tried to see the benefits for men I just can't
The same goes for women, outside of having to care for an adult and children there a nothing else to marriage.
@@nataliekhanyola5669 Are you kidding me? The benefit to women is they get to have their "special day" and play princess, and then they have someone to support them and their kids. I've known plenty of women who quit their jobs after their first kid and never went back. And women certainly benefit in divorce court. 97% of all alimony payments are made by men.
@@nataliekhanyola5669The truth is, men and women really don't need each other anymore.
@@nataliekhanyola5669are you kidding? Stop trying to be a victim everywhere
Never enter into a contract with someone who is rewarded for breaking it.
I had amazing parents and came from a beautiful loving home....and then one day they get a divorce and from 12 to 18 my household dynamics shift significantly. I remember how that felt, I remember how it made me view marriage, I remember how each member of our family's livelihood changed. So now at 32 I worked really hard to get to where I am today, it is extremely difficult to want to drive down that same road. Its very hard for the ones that come from divorced homes.
well spoken
Because people especially men marry for lust and not love and this makes the relationship doomed
Oh that's your fear talking indeed.
@@winning3329 No, because there's no fault divorce and women can just pull the cord and collect the cash and prizes. There's no incentives for men to get marry other than having legitimate children.
Oh wow
One of the most important reasons why I just decided to stay single is because of the unpredictability of my income flow. So If I Imagine myself having kids, I'd have to work twice as hard to provide for their needs. However i do understand why the government is so concerned about declining marriage and birth rates. basically a family unit drives the economy growth because you have to spend a lot for your family while being single gives you the freedom just to decide anything in life. you can even go off grid if you want to.
In the past your same financial cornern tying up with enforced increased productivity was called as “kids make you want to be a better person”
Government is worried about marriage because it is worried about number of tax payers in the future.
Singles spend their money otherwise. They travel and spend more for personal fun
The biggest perspective we rather not delve into is that humans need to procreate to not go extinct and also a civilized (Conscious civilization) system to support. However, looking at the current situation the modern world has created it is not going well for humans.
@@letsthinkbriefly3761 Almost like the modern world isn't stable or is antithetical to the natural order. 🤔It'll sort itself out though, the people who have the most children and can continue that trend are the inheritors of the world.
NEVER SIGN A CONTRACT WHERE THE OTHER PARTY SIGNIFICANTLY BENEFITS FROM BREAKING IT.
Not being married and not having kids allowed me to retire at age 58. And I took fabulous vacations, enjoyed 5 star restaurants and dated a lot of women. I had those things plus my *solitude* whenever I want.
And I’ve never seen a marriage that I envy.
Yes! I'll be retired at 49. Kids would not allow that.
But after you who will be your heir?
What a sad life you've had
@@yajas4900 It'll be like Mr. Burns, he'll hold an audition.
@@yajas4900 Who cares?
I'm 44 years old, never married, no children. I've been single since 2009 and loving it. I'm staying single as long as I live.
Enjoy your cats.
@@mauser8515 Nope I have no cats. Plus when I die, my nephews will inherit everything I have. So, I will have a legacy.
@@Robert-mz9hi that’s not a legacy. Your nephews will become custodians of your stuff. A legacy is a transfer of genetics, ideas, and traditions. It’s not simply a transfer of “stuff”.
@@mauser8515 My nephews share my genes, ideas, and have the same tradition as I do. I taught them how to run my business. I gave them knowledge. I order to run a business, you have to know how to run it. They share the same genes as me and my brother who's their father and will carry on my last name.
@@mauser8515 Enjoy working until it's almost time to die to financially recover from the 60% divorce rate.
I am not surprised CNBC chose to play it safe and not adress the giant elephant in the room. Marriage is a raw deal with no upside for men in today's society
Well just leave women alone all together.
@@misssterling3094 Japan started the MGTOW like 30 years ago. They've been working on Stepford Wives ever since. It won't be long now...
@machu.... As soon as that happens, no man will choose a woman over a robot.
Marriage is obsolete in modern times.
Imagine spending a fortune to get married and then half of your wealth snatched away by your ex-wife , it's a loose loose contract for men
1. Too expensive
2. alimony and child support payments suck
3. divorce also sucks
You left out Too risky
Left out.
Laws are outdated
Cheating seems to be trendy and even romanticized. Divorce rates are high. Divorces can be financially devastating. Plus how many times are you getting "settled" for? All that grief and stress, for not much upside. It makes much more sense to stay single.
This
Then don't be a cheater
@@winning3329 Yup, some one definitely cheated on you.
It should be talked more.
Divorce rates are high and who files for divorce 70-85% of the time?
I think it mostly comes down to not finding the right partner to trust and build a healthy marriage with, not having the means to support and grow a healthy family (crap economy), and not having benefits that can outweigh the consequences.
That, and to be honest, some people just really aren’t marriage material to begin with.
BOOM!
The real question is, why marry?
Because you love and are committed to them and grow old together. That's what's been the mindset for many decades. At least that was the ideal and the hope when it comes to those things.
@@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858tbh people can live together even without marriage and can change each other if things doesn't work. I mean that's more practical.
@@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858Marriage for love is a recent invention! For the longest time, marriages were a business arrangement... 🤣🤣🤣
@@mrconfusion87funny how it worked better then.
For love.
Back in the olden days, women had to marry to live because she could not work a job and keep the money.
Flash forward to 2024, we can work, go to school and better ourselves, have an actual home, purchase out own cars, establish businesses, DON'T have children just because we married.
Men have their own reasons not to marry and they are reflected in these comments as well!
Personally I've seen that older generations' been marrying for all the wrong reasons, resulting in divorce and caused so much trauma in their children's lives. I would love to get married and start my own family but I also need to put all the work that other generations didn't so I have a healthy marriage and raise my kids in the best conditions... As simple as that.
Because men married for lust and not love and the relationship is doomed
@@winning3329same for women, women marry for money as they see men as their own ATM 🏧
Many older generation physical child abuser
Right men in the 50s and 60s started marrying for lust and not love before it was love now then lust now young generation are single and not interested in anyone anymore
@@winning3329and women married for an ATM and a financial indentured servant. Get outta here with that disinformation. Because only now, only men have to keep our traditional roles while the opposite sex is liberated
My cousin married the girl whom he knew from childhood...and got divorced in less than a year
Seems way too common these days.
Same with my brother. Both cheated onto each other within a year. Though my sister in law did it first and my brother out of guilt told her about his sin. My sister in haw played victim card and even we were not supporting our brother but later it was disclosed that she herself was cheating onto him with her gym trainer. And funny thing is both fought with their families to get married 😂
@@whentheimposterissus8376😂😂
Xaxaxaxax😂
Ouch
dodged a bullet years ago cuz I found out she belong to da streets!
The comments section is far more informative on this topic than the CNBC video.
It's not rocket science. Men dont want to get screwed by the divorce laws and the family courts.
YES. The only fuckin comment on here that says that. Idk if this channel is deleting comments or something but yeah, it's Obvious af.
And women have to work and don't want to get home act like moms to their spouses as well as their kids (especially in Asia).
@@jayluis189 Not deleting, that isnt part of the feminist woke agenda.
You know what, it can happen to women too. I supported by husband for years while he was half- heartedly getting a degree, and when he had it, he divorced me and got haf of my money, so... yeah, I shouldnt have supported him in the first place and it was my fault that I did, but reading thia narrative that it is only men who pay upsets me
@@lyamorian767 on average it’s the men that usually get screwed. Because of the dynamic of marriage, men don’t like women making more, and women don’t like men making less. So your dynamic is uncommon. Just accept it as karma for all the men that get screwed!
I'm 36 years old, I have no kids and never been married. I just never saw the benefits in being married.
I’m 36 also I’m thinking free agent for life
I'm only 20 years old and even younger than that, I never really saw the benefit in it either.
I'm 40 years old, and let me tell you...single life is AWESOME! 🥳
Wait until you hit 40 years old. Friends are not permanent. Family is
@@jdzajdzaThere are a lot of old people, who are married and have children but still end up in old age homes.
Getting married in our day and age is simply the biggest blunder you can make as a man, it’s a trash deal with literally the risk of financial ruin, depression, endless divorce procedures, etc but almost zero upsides. Not to mention the global decline in the quality of women in the West.
Divorce broke my brother in to pieces Those pieces couldn’t be put back together. He ended up dying in Hospice.
Getting married and raising a family is really expensive. Over inflation, lower wages and the impact of pandemic. It's not just a US problem but a global problem..
Getting married is a luxury, not a privilege nowadays.
Facts
And it’s a luxury that is outdated.
Only a true fool of a man would get married under current laws.
that's just an excuse for being lazy and not wanting to work on a relationship.
@@margeryojije7862
People don't even want children anymore!!!
But if people are stilling cohabiting and becoming parents like they're married, they're going to have the same expenses and experiences. So marriage really isn't the problem. Relationships are just challenging in general.
Agree
You are missing the one aspect of everything and that's the dissolution of marriages. Yes at giving time within cohabitation the cost is exactly the same but when cohabitation relationship end, we don't have to worry about paying two lawyer, court fees etc. No alimony, no losing half of your savings and retirement etc.
"Relationships are just challenging in general."
Yes... and thanks to feminism, relationships are very challenging.
People that live together before committing to marriage usually break up and never get married. This is why marriage is not a thing in modern society. The tradition of marriage provides a foundational path toward a long-lasting relationship in binding a woman and a man. People nowadays just date and break up like it's a game.
@@tcs07dwell I don’t think that’s fair for housewives unless you are paying them an allowance because where is there promised security
The fact that they started calculating how much a fancy wedding cost at the beginning shows why most marriages shouldnt happen. Does not take all that for a real commitment. That is a show
Young male adult here. Women want a guy who has a salary of 6 figures, is 6 feet tall, has a six-pack, has six ....., has a house, has a car, and is between the age of 23 to 35. Plus women can divorce them whenever they want, and then he has to pay alimony and he can not even protect his children 😭.
We’ll be thankful divorce exists now because in the past you would’ve just been poisoned in your meal. Also I call skill issue because women’s standard bar is now higher than “man who won’t abuse me or kids we might have”
@@ScrittlescrattleCope 304.
those are not ordinary women, they are extremes from internet videos. I think thats two different things. I always see them as entertainment, not the real issue.
@@no0neXthe main problem is the lack of remedy.
Marriage is a commitment with your life. The seriousness of Marriage is not well understood by many before they getting married. The root cause of all chaos is the lack of commitment.
Because people especially men don't marry for love they marry for lust and the marriage is doomed
@@winning3329 well I that case, I would say women marry rich men just for their divorce share.
Simple and clear.
That and the financials and risk (especially for men) involved make it difficult to argue for marriage.
@@winning3329lust is served for free even on dating and hook up apps, men don’t need to marry to get it. And women are earning their own money to not fall under subjugation from a man.
Woman marry for money and whenever that men loses his job, gets sick, or the economy goes into a depression. You can be certain that the divorce paper is not far from her hand.
People are getting smarter. They are giving more thought to the idea of getting married. Getting married or getting a divorce, both should be treated serious matters, be given enough consideration. Why so much hurry to make important decisions of life?
Amen!
if both parties know how marriage actually is, the risk of divorce is almost nonexistence.
People rush because they just want kids
life is not eternal and women are infertile by the age 45!!!people are really getting smart
@@Sona77. why marry. You can adopt one?
"Marriage is a diabolical leverage game in the US. Devoid of religious significance or the idea of love, marriage is nothing but an awful contract that you shouldn't sign" - Dave Chappelle
Divorce financially crippled me. Because we had children, and she got custody, she got most of the cash and prizes. It's not 50/50. I wouldn't get married again in the West.
@reader-tested Not in the Philippines as they don't have divorce (Also the Vatican doesn't have divorce but not much to do there!)
Marriage and a college degree has become the biggest, worthless, overrated and useless piece of paper. I did both and regretted both. When you reward irrational behavior, you get the mess we are dealing with now.
Sounds like you made some bad decisions and now instead of doing some self reflection you just blame everyone else.
My college degrees were BSEE & MSEE from Georgia Tech. My professional career was lucrative. What was your college degree? English Literature? Art History?
@@tringuyen7519 it was in science. Most of my friends in the science degrees are also doing something they could have done straight out of high school.
❤❤❤❤
I’m married with a college degree and doing well. Definitely blessed.
I’m a boomer and I was 32 when I got married and my husband was 36. The idea of getting married was always so odd to me, it was something my parents generation did not something I and my friends did. It took me a couple of years to get used to referring to someone as my husband. We’re now in our 60s and I have at least 10 close friends my age who never married and many others who never had children, and none of them regret their choices. I’ve always believed that my generation started the movement to avoid marriage.
Yes starting with no default divorce in the 80s pushed and endorsed by Regan amongst other things…
@@azraelfirstofhisname8695no marriage, more tax, married people pay joint tax so marriages failed when government got involved..
Perfect only rich people will pass their genes to next generation not a bad deal
Nah, you started the movement to create a society where young people can no longer afford to start families.
@@azraelfirstofhisname8695 - no-fault divorce, birth control, legalized abortion, family court, spousal support, and alimony...I think that about sums it up
Men… never marry them, there are no unicorns. Never get leveraged and always protect your finances.
No wife happy life
"Everything ain't for everybody" and we are finally (FINALLY!) starting to understand that as a society. And I, for one, love it!
The governament destroyed marriage , wayyyy too much one sided
That mindset is the problem and why society is collapsing.
@@DOCTORKHANblogNothing is collapsing. Unless you're talking about your mental health personally. 😌
@@DOCTORKHANblog Society isn't collapsing it's evolving.
@@DOCTORKHANblogtell that to the birth rate
I think we're living in a moment of history that more than never people are questioning the status quo and not committing themselves in social expected behaviors, but looking much more for meaning and real joy. Marriage most of the time in history was set as duty rather than a joyful experience.
Exactly. Because the ruling class wants to have people to send to war. Plain and simple.
I'd add to that people are lost. The culture has derailed traditional pathways.
Marriage isn't about Happiness, never has been... It's about Family and Duty.... Women are the ones who pay the most, they age out and are washed up by 35-40, whereas Men regularly get married well into their 60's...
Men make a lot more money than Women
well said
@@thomasward00 The average woman in her mid 30s still getting more dates than the average guy of any age. Also if you look at average income for the 30 yrs old an under women now make more than men.
Why as a single woman would I want to deal with a man when a can have a happy life and be free. Why should I have the morbidly, depressing and suicidal life of a wife / mother.
Exactly! Plus cats and dogs are better companions than men.
yes reject man. become cat woman
@@trfgshdtg4577 yes bcz they are voiceless and women like that nobody told them they wrong.
Happiness comes from meaningful responsibility and offspring, not selfish actions of hedonistic pursuits. Capitalism however thrives on insecure individuals.
@@sagartomar3461 take accountability in the women you pick
If people can't support a family, it's wise not to marry. I mean really, why make your own and other people's lives miserable. I'm from West Bengal in India. Most families here, have the mindset that one must marry irrespective of their income. People are convinced and pressurized into getting married. Not marrying is almost viewed as being abnormal. :(
Hi there...from Kerala. Although here presently age of marriage is getting pushed . I know many people especially women who are afraid of getting married - if they are from liberal family , financially secure they are atleast un married until 30. That's the prst gen... don't know whether it will change
People are starting to realize a boogeyman called 498A
People who have failed marriages advice others to get married the irony
I am also from West Bengal (kolkata). Cheating is everywhere. People are afraid to get married
@@Letsgo-sg4cy Not only cheating. Betrayal can come in many forms and in the end that is the only feeling left behind that matters ......Feeling Betrayed.
What a shallow treatment of an important topic. The decline of marriage needs to be discussed but it has nothing to do with the price of a wedding cake.
It’s the ring! I can’t afford a cake after buying the ring.
And she can't accept a wedding ring from Walmart? What matters is the ring is a symbol of love. Not how much it costs or where it came from.
they don't want to admit that marriage is declining because of men getting wrecked in divorce courts
Yeah it has more to do with the fact that the women have become so toxic and difficult to deal with. You can barely say hello to girls anymore without them thinking you’re some kind of creepy psycho. In fact, in the UK you can actually be jailed for no more than looking at them. Not kidding, that’s actually a thing now!
Did you only watch the first 1 minute of this video? Lol
It's all about money and we know it. That's why we avoid it.
Like many men, I wanted to meet a girl, fall in love, get married, have a family. But my 20s was nothing but rejection, heartbreak and loneliness. Now I’m early 40s. Never married and childless. If no one wants to date you, what chance do you have of getting married ?
sad man, i have pity for you, travel, play video games
BlackPill
@@speedythings7396 ha yeah... a bit of that.
Real suggestion: travel to the Philippines or Ukraine in search of companionship. You may find them to be more accepting. Western women now, delusionally, expect perfection.
I'm about to turn 40 in a few weeks. I've literally never even been in a situation in which marriage was even a consideration. In part for all the reasons detailed in this video. But also, romance and dating dynamics have changed a lot. Basically everyone my age is in some combination of being traumatized and jaded. Hyper vigilant cautiousness plus option paralysis.
I already got a vasectomy... Just going to do my thing from here.
I'm sorry you haven't been able to experience that my man.
@@4X4ish We don't want to experience marriage, a gf is no different than a wife, the only thing a wife can do better is rob you blind if she wants.
@@4X4ishexperience what? A failed marriage?
@@askeladd60 hahaha, yeah, you can go ahead and take it there. :D
43 in the same boat. I've seen so many of my friends lives ruined from relationships, it has kept me single for the last 20 years. It's lonely, but it is far less stress.
It doesn’t work. We know this. Majority of those married are miserable
I got married when I was 22, divorced at 24. Very glad I experienced marriage while I was young, poor and stupid so now I don’t have to. I’m almost 39 now, own a successful business and there is no way I would risk a single dollar of it by getting married, worked way too hard for it! So my advice for young people is, get married while you have nothing, this way you’ll know your wife is not marrying you for your money or don’t do it at all, you won’t miss anything! You can have a serious relationship and kids without getting married.
Your failure is someone else's success. Thank you for the advice
You wouldn't risk your business now, but you'd advocate for people to lose their business still? That makes zero sense to anyone who starts a business.
@@peteranon8455 Where did I say that? I said if you really want to get married, do it while you don’t own anything, but you are better not getting married at all as it does nothing for you !
My Aunt and Uncle didn't get married until he was on his deathbed, so she could collect his Finacial benefits.
Get married without papers
Change the divorce laws and see the rate change. Men are now waking up.
The desire for marriage has not decreased, the risks and costs of getting married and heading a household has greatly increased. Every time I get on Facebook someone is getting engaged or getting married. I do bridal makeup for work and there’s no shortage of brides.
I believe people have a better understanding what it takes to maintain a HEALTHY marriage and are being smarter about their approach so that means they’re getting married for different reasons and waiting longer to marry.
The Bible states that “marriage should be honored by all” but there was no commandment for every human being to enter into marriage or childbirth. The stats will change over time so I don’t get hung up on the number TODAY.
She’ll take all your money through divorce, alimony, and child support and she will find a way to blame it on a man.
Women want to be brides, but not wives. The wedding is a party get together, for her to gloat.
@@AllHandlesRTaken sure, it’s always the woman’s fault…..you realize it takes two to tango, right?
@@Random_dud31The menoshpere is toxic and that means you have been polluted and women need to avoid you at all cost.
You can buy a house plant to keep you company
It is not desire for marriage but desire for show off.
Don't be their retirement plan.
Yeah, when women can control their emotions/unhappiness, then maybe marriage will come back but no fault divorce needs to end.
❤ one of the few comments that gets it
@@brent4073maybe if men start being better partners women would want to stay married😂 no one wants to be married to a man child
what do you mean by “being a better partner?”
@@1132539not cheating, being abusive, financially irresponsible, not lifting a finger at home or with the children or being addicted to drugs/alcohol.
To name the most cited reasons women initiate divorces or end relationships full stop.
If Japan wants more people to marry they need to increase wages and restrict working hours. People don't have the time or resources to raise a child.
I’ve been with my high school sweet heart for almost 30 year. Not married and we are both happy as can be.
Until your sweetheart finds someone better then that person is free to walk away with absolutely no strings attached.
I've seen this alot
Don't listen to "winning". She ain't winning like you are. She lives in fear and wants to trap a man against his will for her own security. Abandonment issues probably. Cheers to 30 more years.
You should check common law marraige laws in your area.
You sound like someone who doesn't have much but she'll still get half
@@winning3329How does a marriage help in this situation?
@@winning3329 who hurt you
Say no to marriage and yes to stress free and happy life❤
Well said save money and travel world
😅
Amen
I agree 👍
@@sainadhreddy1762I’m just trying to save up atm
@@artby1285Some people prefer being alone, and being single doesn't mean you don't have friends/family.
For MEN: the juice isnt worth the squeeze, especially in Cali.🎉
Too many risks for men.
The decline of marriage isn’t just about the economic implications so often spouted. It’s also due to the way society is changing. People have more outlets and opportunities to venture out and explore more options than in the past. Also, the nasty legal disputes that may arise from a divorce. If two people really, truly love each other, it ought to be stronger than a label and a piece of paper.
True, but instead of saying people have more outlets and opportunities, I’d say it’s women specifically that have all the options. Otherwise why would damn near two thirds of young men be single?
@@honkhonk5181women don’t have many options with age lol I think men have all the options
@@DeematheFashionDesignerthank you
@@sir_evergreen anytime!
@@DeematheFashionDesigner yes with age you start dropping in sexual desirability but hey, at least you got to ride the cc in your 20s unlike us men who’re lucky to get any action or female attention at all ever. The reason so many men are single is because the women are, according to the stats, only going after the top ten percent of guys and not giving anyone else a chance.
I think it’s trauma/attachment/loneliness. Personally I had an emotionally neglectful childhood and have not been able to figure out how to maintain a stable healthy relationship. I have no interest in getting married because I do not trust.
Every man I dated has walked out on me, why would I risk putting effort in a man and risk him walking away and another woman reaping the benefits
We all ought to work on ourselves and strive to become better as person.
True, one first needs to be on the way to get healed (doesn't need to be fully healed, but that shall be the set direction) , then get into a relationship.
@@jj4774ns-te5px this is like the only comment I've seen I saw based in self accountability and actionable steps and not fear and loathing
@@winning3329 If EVERY man you dated has walked out on you when you were such a perfect angel then you're not telling ppl something that you must of done for that to happen
that's simply wrong,it's the opposite marriage is your cure.
people dont get married cuz they are to busy doing a masters degree for 10 years to make minimum wage. While the rest of people are on social medias and onlyfans making millions showing themselves but aint no one wanna marry that so your left with tuition debt, high costs of homes, groceries, and basic cost of living necessities. The people in power are to busy filling their pockets and the pockets of their team while the rest of the world suffers.
The culture is different. I personally don’t want a woman with kids from another man. So many women have kids by age 20 but almost none are together with the dad after 3 years.
Where do you live? In the USA only 16% of women under 25 have children.
West tx, i saw that figure too, but just thinking of everyone one i know between 18 to 25 has or has had children. I only know one other person who doesn’t have kids, he is a relative and he is my age, 38. Does that percentage accurately represent your surroundings?
@@rudeliorodriqueziii1090 Quite different in the two regions I've lived in: New England and the Mountain West. My core friend group is between their late 20's to mid 30's and very few of them have even gotten married let alone had children. Seeing that play out in real time really put into perspective the absolute nose dive the overall fertility rate has taken in the US.
I feel that following are the reasons people around the world are not interested in getting married: -
1) General chaos in the world. In one word - instability. 2) Inflation 3) Job uncertainty 4) Trust issues 5) Unwillingness from either partner to sacrifice their needs 6) In case of a couple having children, unwillingness of older generations to lend a hand in raising their grandchildren 7) Lack of flow of money down generations.
8) high straight divorce rates. LGB divorce rates are lower but the heteros have a 50/50 shot basically of divorcing. With it being difficult to get married in the first place Listing 1-7 I don’t think the straights (90%+ the population) are going to be any more incentivized too go into marriages that have a 50% failure rate
Lack of awareness on mental health
@@krox477When things reach a head, it seems like many people will be caught "unawares."
rigged family courts against men
I think number six has to due more with the fractured nature of families these days. Kids grow up, go to college and find jobs half way across the country. Children aren't living in the near proximity of their parents as often as they once did.
My thoughts:
1) Advent of Internet and on demand entertainment leads to less need for companionship
2) Building on above point, social media is like a 24x7 night club - worst thing to happen to us
3) Rising costs coupled by expensive education - leading to low skills and low salary and practically zero savings rate
4) Women doing really well for themselves (which is awesome) compared to 50 years back which unfortunately makes them not super attracted to the pool of men from above point
5) Inter culture marriages/relationships leading to cultural norms fading away from next gen a lot of which included settling down with a family
6) Having a child is really expensive - businesses have made sure of that
You forgot the most important one. Divorce. The legal consequences of divorce punish men ruthlessly and can literally lead to destroying their entire lives.
This is how i feel too. Consta
Your points are spot on!
Spot-on. I agree with everything you just mentioned. The only thing missing is divorce. Other than that I see things exactly the same way.
Number 2 is the most accurate. And females only gain from that.
🤦♂️The reason is not economical, if is expensive a married life then how can people survive with only 1 salary alone?
the reason is because the current zeitgeist is a war against males.
In Muslim countries they are in similar economic problems but there is no problem with marriages because there is no war against males.
Thirty years ago I decided I would never get married. Best decision I ever made.
As a woman I’ve opted out of marriage and motherhood.. saying no to a life of slavery and servitude
Damn right 🥂
I'm wondering where you're living, or which time capsule you stepped out of, that you feel marriage is tantamount to slavery and servitude.
Fact I will never take on that prison sentence why would I choose a suicidal life
Very smart woman!
How many cats do you have?
Divorce laws need to change
How so?
@@etta5487 biased towards women
@@kevinfernandez9999 examples?
@etta5487 so I completely understand why more men don't want to get married. Because marriage is a scam. A marriage contract is basically a legal contract where one party is s rewarded heavily for breaking it and the other party is punished heavily for breaking it.
@@etta5487my cousin's wife cheated on him, they divorced and she still got the house and half his 401k.
Marriage has catastrophic consequences
I grew up in a time when my parents thought that marriage was what would protect me I guess. Every guy I dated from late high school years on was who I should marry…not my high school love . Two abusive husbands later I have been happily living with him for nearly eighteen years…..
cooperation,responsibility,sense of fulfillment,not being alone,sex,patience,discipline,having a purpose,....how are these catastrophic?
@@user-ry2qs7xf9k sex? jajaja
@@user-ry2qs7xf9kOne person's trash is another's treasure. Everyone has varying sets of values.
@@evilds3261
I think without marriage you can't be full human.
70-90% of woman start divorce. As men, we lose the house, the pension, the 401k, and 90% we lose the kids and get stuck paying.
Where is the benefit? Where are the woman? I've yet to see a dignified or decent woman, still looking though.
What I HAVE seen: Quality of life matters to woman, the person providing it doesn't.
This just gives me more reason to revamp my marriage everyday and appreciate that all marriages do not fail ❤
Also give me reason to marry more in life
Marriage for a men is the worst gamble you can take In life
just co-habitate {don't sign any documents together, or share bank accounts or mortage} keep it simple, if she don't like it get your passport and head abroad (remember not to fall for foreign womens tricks either, they will try to get you to marry or take them to your country, at that point they start swinging the marriage grape vine and looking for new guys'
Especially for a woman.
@@eveharris30 no
Dowry is gone
Alimony is still there
@bear8190 No what?
Historically speaking, Marriage is a kings arrangement to ensure stable population for military and work.
Historically speaking, who are you to talk?
@@DisasterService both you and him
@@olivur_1459 whats your problem?
True
Biased against women earlier
Now it’s biased against men
Scam should stop
@@olivur_1459ask yourself that question! Just like you have the freedom to comment, so does that person 🤷🏻♀️