Responding to "Blaire White Hates Non-Binary People"
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- čas přidán 13. 05. 2021
- Today is a rant all about non-binary and the differences in what people THINK and SAY I believe, and how I actually feel. Let's talk!
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We used to call this androgynous and no one thought it was a big deal.
Exactly
Yea language changes english very rapidly, for example only 200 years ago they/them were used as plural and singular, and even now in most forms of colloquial english its used as both, I didn’t even know about non binary people until like a three years ago, and it’s still part of my dialect. In fact even Russian uses their version of they in both plural and singular it’s actually very common in language, oh i went off track whelp
yeah, like glen close and david bowie
But thats also the thing, not everyone who identifies as nonbinary is androgynous from what I've seen!
Exactly! My first thought was bowie
I’m gay and my voice sounds a lot more feminine so on the phone I’ve been called “ma’am” or “Mrs” but It wasn’t hard to politely say “Oh I’m a guy lol”
I guess they do that because most women will get more offended for being called sir, then men will for being called mrs.
That's because you are okay being you and they are obviously not. Still that does not need to be our problem and they should go away. LOL.
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Exactly. I used to work as a merchandiser and my company had no uniforms in women sizes. So with my baggy pants, long shirt, and short hair, people would say "excuse me sir" and mistake me for a man all the time. I understand the mistake, and just politely say "I'm a girl" and keep it pushing or leave it be.
This is random..but I have serious anxiety and my husband sounds more feminine on the phone..so he literally does all my calls for me 😂 honestly the biggest relationship upgrade for m ever. I don’t even think he sounds feminine, but other do on the phone, so hey..gotta take the perks where they come!
@@user-vq9lr6ss4z lol nah...a few weeks ago..I was called mame then sir by some punk ass kids that were up to no good and I didn’t care in the slightest..was only pissed off ghat one had run like a brick house into me! Also more concerned that his first thought was to question my gender on the defense. Horrible sign to me!
I love how even “transphobic right wingers” would call Blair White she/her pronouns because she clearly puts in the effort with transitioning rather than just demand the pronouns
Exactly! The point of being trans is that you TRANSition into the other gender. You can't slap on a wig and demand that people call you a woman.
As masculine lesbian I get Mis gendered as a man. I get the “yes sir” thing all the time or the “thank you sir” as I work in the food industry. But the things is I can politely say its mam not sir and things are okay no one comes at me sideways. I Don’t make a huge deal out of these things because once corrected everyone goes about their business. Don’t attack someone for not knowing your pronouns when they don’t know you as a person🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
This is how it should be done 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
I'm a straight female and when playing videogames online, people assume I'm a guy (ex: Oh shit he's good) but that's the least of my concern. I'm JUST there to game, not make a scene over my damn pronouns. I understand your situation 100%, it's different in person.
The thing that makes all the pronoun thing silly and just plain obnoxious is, nobody speaks to another using pronouns directed towards them. Unless of course that person is going to hold a conversation in the 3rd person, which I'm not going to entertain. But what you call someone directly is called a Salutation, not a pronoun. Mr., Mrs, Ms, Sir, Ma'am, etc, etc are Salutations. So they don't even make any sense with this pronoun nonsense. If I'm holding a conversation, I will use whatever pronoun or word to describe you I want, you're not a part of the conversation.
@@cheetahman859 that's because the pronouns were always just a sly way of saying male or female but if a guy just comes right out and calls himself a female it is more jarring.
Non binary person here! That’s pretty much the same for us. I am misgendered a lot as to be expected if you were to ever look at me. And I, like you, politely inform them and move on. I like you don’t make a huge deal and most people are cool about it. Wondering do you know anyone non binary people in your real life? Like and close to them. I’m married and a parent and pretty fucking normal.
It's really terrifying how some people think being "politically correct" or "woke" is somehow a free pass to not only be abusive and malicious towards those who simply think differently than them, but to ruin the careers and lives of professionals who just want to help people.
this
So true. The woke movement has given people this false sense of moral superiority that is exactly the type of delusional mob mentality that fueled china’s cultural revolution. It is absolutely terrifying.
And they complain about being victims.
@@rjlundholm89 It's a typical trait for an abuser. Play the victim card whenever they're called out.
Right?! I mean I am totally pro woke but radically anti-abuse. Its just not justifiable to abuse peoole.
Lol.
When I was a teenager I said I wanted to be a boy. I binded my chest with an ace bandage sometime. I always said I was a man online and presented as such.
Turns out, I wasn't trans! I just hated myself and had a lot of really nasty internalized misogyny.
I'm not saying this is the case for EVERYONE, but, for a lot of people, it's just a phase. There's no shame in having phases. This is why severe medical testing needs tk be done before allowing people tk begin hormones or have surgery ....
i feel you! i dont think people should be shackled because of my experience, but it should be okay to go through phases or to feel differently about yourself or your gender expression without tacking on a label. if youre really an enby, i will not question if your identity is or isnt valid- thats not my business, but i really dont doubt that some people feel discomfort with gender roles and therefore give themselves labels that simply arent for them. these feelings of discomfort *are* valid without the label, and way too many people feel like giving themselves these titles are what validates them. it should be normalised and encouraged to question yourself and then come out realising youre just different- automatically assuming androgyny makes you trans doesnt just hurt confused cissies but also hurts trans people who dont *want* to present as typically fem or masc.
peoples perception of you can really shape your identity. i personally go by masc names to avoid people perceiving me as female, and if i continue to feel that way or not, i dont care. its what makes me comfortable, im still a female, but im not trans. you can have phases, your feelings and your experiences are still valid.
@@tobomy Get a job 🤷🏼♀️
@@tobomy If you can't afford to be evaluated before getting on all these life changing hormones that have irreversible effects, then you can't afford the treatments.
Theres no shame in exploring your gender just the same as you would your sexuality. if you discover you are cis, that’s totally fine. It also doesn’t mean that was a silly phase. You were exploring your identity and figuring it out and thats awesome!
@@Marshmallow_1111 True, but looking back on it I just lump it in as a silly phase. Along with me being a wannabe emo/scene kid.
It was a silly phase, and I'm not ashamed of it, I'm just calling it what it is :) Exploring, a phase - interchangable for my life.
This is so true. I am a trans person myself and find it pretty odd that non binary people claim that they are part of the trans community. I don't want people to question my gender and pronouns. Trans and non binary are just two totally different things. I hope people will become more aware of this.
Being trans is not identifying with your birth assigned gender. Hence, *trans:* transitioning from gender to another. Of course enby people and trans people are not the same but they are similar in a lot of ways.
@@vivineon I didn't say non binary people aren't similar to trans people. What I mean is that non binary people aren't part of the trans community. There are similarities, but trans and non binary are clearly not one and the same thing.
@@LonelyBoy94 binary trans people and non binary trans people are not the same but trans means not identifying with your birth sex and therefore includes both groups
@@alexturnbull1301 there isnt an issue with binary trans people wanting a seperation between the two groups community-wise though, as again, the experiences are *not the same*. they are similar concepts, fall under the same category in the context of trans being an umbrella term, but you trying to fucking tell a trans person what trans means is ridiculous. dont speak over trans people cause you disagree with them.
@@finnegan728 have you read the comment I’m responding to? They said non binary people aren’t trans which you clearly disagree with and considering that’s the whole point of my comment I don’t know what you’re trying to achieve
I've gotten a lot of death threats from whole 40 year old lesbian women who identify as a "he/him" lesbian. (While actively looking feminine and persuing other women who also see you as a strictly lesbian woman) The definition of lesbian contradicts the definition of he/him pronouns. You simply cannot be a lesbian and identify as male - there are other terms to use to describe yourself. Lesbianism and being male cannot go together. Period. It isn't an opinion - it's literally how meanings of words work lol
But pronouns doesn't equal gender right?But if they identify as male then it wouldn't work out you're right lol
Pronouns don't always equal gender but that woman disgust me.
@@givemefood8524 technically chosen pronouns don't have to match the gender you identify as lol but if you're straight up contradicting yourself idk 😆
@@ChadetteIsDead then why is it call “misgender” when u use the wrong pronouns on someone.
@@superduperkimberly7831 well some girl uses only them/they. They get will get upset if you use she.
I remember I was in a lesbian relationship when I was 16. She straight up told me "can you be the guy in the relationship" and she pushed for me to be a masculine leabian so hard that I got so confused with my self and kept wondering maybe in trans should I be a man? Is that who I am? It was a bad confusing time for me but looking back I should've dumped her after she said thag
Wow 😦 Never let anyone try to change you or make you question things that you never questioned before. (Sorry my first language is not English so I don't know if that was readable)
@@Raven-wh2pl you did great!
maybe she was just as confused and wasnt actually a full blown lesbian. she wants a man, she should go get a man :🙍
@@RED_Theory038 she cheated on me with men because I didn't get sexual with her. The men in her dms talked about her breasts and she reciprocated the messages
@@lizar7623 sucks to hear. i know what its like to be cheated on. Hope things got better for you and you know what you want :)
When I was a child, I would be 'misgendered' all the time. When it happened, I never acted as childish as these so called adults. I would just tell the adult who made the mistake, 'I'm a boy.' And that was that. Never did I feel the need to start screaming at the top of my lungs, or attack someone else.
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So many young people now assume the worst of people. Most people don't go out of their way to hurt others, they just aren't always aware of how others identify if it's not clear.
I teach a martial arts class and one of the students looks like a girl (Long hair and more feminine features, plus the mask doesn’t help) but is a boy. When any of the other students call him her, then he acts calm and politely corrects them. He isn’t even 10 and he is more polite than most of these fully grown “adults”
Same, somehow people always thought I was a boy, but I am a girl. I might have said "I'm a girl!" annoyingly, but other than that - it never bothered me.
God this still happens to me to this day, its extremely annoying. I totally understood why it would happen when I had long hair and dressed all butt rawk like I stepped out of 1983 or something but now that I have short hair and dress more rock n' roll like a greaser/biker mix with a pinch of punk rawk. Hell even with a mustache people would still think I might be a female its like wtf seriously.
Someone told me that misgendering people was an act of violence. I told them it's not violence. People arent trying to misgender you. They arent trying to hurt you. Its something accidental. They compared it to vehicular manslaughter. You dont mean to hit someone with your car, but you still hurt them smh
It's not an act of violence if it's not on purpose, but it does hurt. People absolutely do misgender us in purpose though so yes. That one is violence. They are trying to harm us. Violence is not always physical.
Typically yes violence is considered physical mostly though. Like intentionally misgendering someone that wouldn't be violent per se unless they were commiting other acts with that. It could be considered a hate crime or bullying in a sense if someone's doing that intentionally to you but violence I'm not sure about that because it does hurt but it does not put you in immediate threat of danger physically. Someone can be homophobic without being violent. They can be emotionally abusive without being violent. If they are homophobic or transphobic or something of that nature and they're not tolerant and because of that they commit a physical act of hate on you that would be violence and that would be a hate crime as well. It hurts not to be accepted or to have someone blatantly disregard who you are but those people don't mean much and they're probably not meant to be in your lives anyway I wouldn't consider that violent I would consider that an a****** who you don't need in your life. You're not going to be accepted by everybody and that goes for anyone not just people who are trans or gay (I'm a lesbian My family doesn't accept it They say s***** things and don't accept me but theyre not violent with me) I've also dated a trans who understands this And that person has given me a lot of perspective on the struggles that happen for them while at the same time realizing hey not everyone accepts me and they don't take it to heart. I've been in the room where people have intentionally misgendered my ex. They weren't being violent with her but they were being complete and total f****** assholes I was very upset and my ex had to let me know like they don't matter and Not everyone will accept you and that's fine
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@@nathanmccoy9188 violence is always physical, that is the definition of the word. It is actually useful to have words mean specific things and not just fall blindly into modern usage, especially when the start of that misuse was likely bending the meaning for the sake of emphasis... now in more cases than not the word is used as emotional manipulation ie as a way to stifle disagreement without addressing the criticism using actual arguments
@@justsomenobody889 violence has several definitions. One is intense emotional hurt.
@@nathanmccoy9188 that's only according to some sources and only recently. It doesn't take away from the point that when you screw with the meaning of words it leads to problems with communication
Being a straight male raised by lesbians I've got to witness some very sad things on all sides. Having a difference in opinion is a benefit to any community a hive mind one school of thought all inclusive mindset can turn to hatred real quick. I found your videos after someone called my uncle transphobic who is a trans Male. I've got to say I love the way you think. Objective thought is something that is extremely important. So thank you. Keep being amazing.
Hope you and your family are doing well.
Siblings who wind up being lesbian and trans is statistically super rare, like 0.015%
okay, it's hard to keep track with all these phobias
Yes, like where are we gonna end? making whatever people don't agree as a phobia, I'm sick of it
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Right!!! I'm phobic of phobias. Get them out of here. Be normal and struggle in silence like the rest of us. Anyone I know doesn't appreciate attention on the things that hurt or make them disphoric
Well that just means your phobia-tracking-phobia is showing! Get woke! Lol. 😜
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I'm transsexual, and Blaire is saying all the things I've been saying forever. All of us trans people trying to live normal lives tend to feel this way. Good job Blaire 👍
Nice to see someone else identify with the word transsexual
ANOTHER transsexual woman here, already fed up with the clownery that at the end is cursing Us all.
Blare white is the actual clown in all this.
Omg thank you for using Transsexual. I am tired of people using ‘gender’ from John Money’s failed experiments. As a trans person as well. The idea of only being trans’gender’ means and tells people they only need to change their behaviour roles. If it was only having to change behaviour that would be a cake walk. But the change is physical and that is why I love the use of transsexual. If you are not changing sexually ...not to be rude but get off the stage. I am also intersexed and so for me I loath non-bindery they do not have a clue what it means to be in the middle. They treat it like a candy land, it is not.
@@TheCasperSpooky thank you for mentioning John Money. That bastard was the beginning of all this gender chaos
My problem with the non-binary movement is at times the hatred towards identifying as a gender. I was born a woman, I love my body, and I am happy with myself. I have a right to express my feminism, and my activism for women. Let’s not forget that women just gained equal rights 100 YEARS AGO. And of course, trans people are still fighting for their rights. I think that people need to chill the fuck out and let people speak their minds, be human, make mistakes, and have the sovereignty over their own identity. This whole thing is just overcomplicated. While I respect people wanting to be called certain pronouns, there is a biological reality that remains underneath all of the mental gymnastics. I respect you for standing up for yourself, Blaire! And you are right- we should be fighting the evil in the world together, not fighting each other for accidentally misgendering someone. There are much bigger problems in the world, in my opinion
@bonehead well, of course you did, bonehead.
@bonehead your comment was the entire point of this comment.
We didnt even get our rights 50 years ago
@bonehead im in genuine surprise at your comment. there is literally no hope for humanity at the moment. what in the world did i just read.
@@bonehead5712Your name says it all.
I'm a long haired, big eyed, long eyelashed cis straight man. I've been confused for a woman before with my mask on; until I pill it down and they see an awesome beard. Again, I am a man. This doesn't make me non binary, I like being a man and I am happy to continue being so.
Long haired dudes are the coolest.
@@boogie_4203 Well thank you! 😁 I haven't had a haircut since July 2019; grown from shaved head. I used to have an undercut I stopped maintaining before, and I grew that for almost 2 1/2 years, so by the time I cut it I had a weird double-pomy Jesus look going on. I'm never going to cut cut my hair again, but I think I will get a trim sometime. I haven't decided when, but sometime lol
Yeah this doesn't make you non binary, so what exactly is the point of your comment? Discrediting actual non binary people?
@@xai788 The point is to emphasize that just because somebody has characteristics that are typically associated with the opposite gender; it does not mean they are nonbinary or trans.
@@xai788 …Some people act like if you fit into both the “male” and “female” role then you must be non-binary. That’s just how some of them act. You can wear manly clothes but love to get your nails done or so and some non-binary people will just assume you’re non-binary.
I’m a transsexual woman and you aren’t the only one who thinks like this amongst us girls .. thanks for using your platform to spread awareness.. 👏🏼
You know what's sad, she still going to continue to get hate over this. It never ends
@@raefuller7635 I'm guessing you didn't watch the full video? Or your just plain stupid.
spread awareness? Please.
As a trans male, I agree with her. I want to stop being categorized with people who are ruining the community. I am hated by 'trans' people because I believe a lot of what Blair says and am hated by cis people because I am trans. People who ruin the community make trans people look stupid and annoying so cis people don't like me. I try to not mention I'm trans cause it just causes a shit ton of problems
@@raefuller7635 what she was saying is that there's a difference between someone who transitions and someone who doesn't. Even as a binary trans person who chooses not to transition. They have different experiences so they shouldn't be classified as the same thing
Are we actually ignoring the doggo in the back, chilling without moving a damn muscle😂🥰
just so adorable
she was just vibing
She was bored a hell getting ready to pass out. 😂 Reminds me of a baby.
He's sleeping I think lol
@@avant-garde2.028 what kind of dog sleeps sitting straight up
I'm a straight girl, but I am a tomboy. I have had people call me "sir" before on accident because of how I put myself together but I don't get mad about it. I just jokingly look down and back up and just say "I'm not sure my features look much like a guy" and we all just laugh and move on. It's not something to make a huge deal about lmao
THIS. For some reason people don't believe that masculine straight women exist
@@flamingfox26 Nahhhhhh I think people do but they just pretend we don't exist to express their own Woke agenda
@@katanamnm2910 or for feminine guys.
@@hycngtnr98 well some people assume things
My problem is that I’ve never heard a definition of non-binary that doesn’t reference gender roles or stereotypes. To me this appears to be why NB only occurs in one segment of the left political spectrum that sees gender as performative or a purely sociological phenomenon rather than the neurological reality it’s been demonstrated to be. You can find every identity in every location on the political spectrum except NB. You can however find gender non-conforming everywhere.
Note: I do recognize that people who identify as NB prefer neutral pronouns, and may even have trauma around binary pronouns. I will refer to anyone however they want to be referred within reason
People argue that it's not about stereotypes but identity all the time so no it's not about roles and stereotypes. Also of course non-binary people aren't right wing wait until society moves onto discriminating against otherkin or whatever in the future. The group that's considered the least acceptable/weirdest is never going to be right wing because conservatism is about conserving traditions of the past not whatever is currently new. There's nobody for non-binary people to chuck under the bus to distract people from themselves or play respectability politics with yet within the 'overton window.'
I've never actually known a non binary that was anything but gender stereotypes. But then again I've never met a trans that was more than stereotypes either.
This is literally the case for binary trans people too? Why do you have to be a full MANWhy cant you just be a really really masculine woman? Its all based on stereotypes. The whole point is how you want people to perceive you
@@pinkrocker61401 we’ve actually dissected the brains of transwomen and found they have brain structures more in line with ciswomen than cismen. There are neurological differences between men and women and transpeople have brains more in line with the gender they identify with
I mean yeah, You would never find almost a single trans person alive that identified on the right 50 years ago. You would never find a single gay person alive thats on the right at points in time too. This really happens with everyone as certain political parties move beyond discrimination. As I see it 1 party will adopt a view then the other party out of partisanship will be the opposite to the extreme, Then both eventually move on and grab onto whatever else is next in line.
As a cis-woman, I find it super offensive when people ask my pronouns. It’s like, “is it not obvious? Do I not look womanly enough?”
I agree. Not everyone has gender dysphoria.
same same
I think people care too much
It’s just because someone can look “womanly” as you say, but go by they/them. That’s why people ask. ^^ since not every non-binary person appears androgynous.
@@Lin-hq9jh I’m not asking everyone their gender. You should tell me your pronouns if they differ. I have enough problems in my life than to worry about everyone’s gender. I have no problem with people being non binary but the world doesn’t revolve around you and your triggers.
You mentioned hating to use the word "childish", but it's kinda true. There's no longer sitting down and having logical conversations anymore about topics, it's all just people taking things as personal attacks and become emotional and lash out in anger. When you do something to a child that they don't like, say...take away their toys when they are misbehaving, they have temper tantrums. An emotional response. So I would say "childish" is the right word. We seem to have forgotten the old school teaching to learn to control our emotions so that they don't control us. If people keep impulsively reacting with an emotional response, eventually it'll get you in to trouble. Love your vids! YOU GO GIRL!
Most "adults" and teens still act like kids
you can use this argument about tone and emotional responses for binary trans people too and thats why this kind of thing is dangerous. did you forget that trans and gay people had to yell and scream, have riots and be killed to be listened to? people did the same thing and used that as an excuse to dismiss their message because they disagreed with how they behaved.
@@ElFayefaye those people probably were able to sit down at some point and talk about what the problems are and how to fix them. But to just instantly dismiss someone without hearing their side of the situation is not the right way to go. Too many people just yell at each other and hear, but don't actually listen to what's being said. A wise man once said "The smartest person in a conversation, is the person who listens". In the end, the way we work things out is by talking to each other and trying to understand one another. Never give them the satisfaction by proving them right in being the negative things they say about you. Don Shirley once said “You Never Win With Violence. You Only Win When You Maintain Your Dignity.”
okay no but i’ve seen people say “let’s have a logical conversation about this” and then when a conversation is made where logic is presented, suddenly it changes to “yeah no these are my beliefs and you’re just going to have to accept that”. but that’s not the case. no one has to accept your beliefs and your views, and frankly, people are allowed to have any sort of reaction to your beliefs. you want to have your beliefs but want to get upset when ppl don’t agree with them and voice those opinions? it’s hypocritical.
@@gerald9547 okay. People say all sorts of shit. I’m not the person you’re complaining about so talking about what other people say isn’t very constructive. When it comes to identity, nobody can really force anybody to believe their experience, and frankly that’s sort of useless. I think it’s the least we can do for each other to just give each other the benefit of the doubt that they understand their own experience. If your “belief” involves invalidating and denying someone their own identity, you’re allowed to do that and believe that but you’re going to look like a dick. I’d actually genuinely like to hear what logical reasons there are for quashing an identity that you don’t personally experience or understand.
TRANSWOMEN ARE OUT HERE SCREAMING THAT WE HAVE DIFFERENT NEEDS, WHILE EVERYONE ELSE GETS TO HAVE THEIR PLACE, BUT TRANS PEOPLE ARE NOW NONBINARY. BLAIRE THIS VIDEO IS SO IMPORTANT I LOVE YOU GIRL GOD BLESS!!
I'm a bisexual woman who's always felt more in tune with myself when I have short hair and I'm not big into makeup. When all this started happening people would misgender me as they/them. Like I have breasts (small ones), a uterus, and two kids at home. I'm a woman. Like just because I like my hair short and present more androgynous doesn't make me NB.
A lot of people think that if you disagree with them, you hate them. It’s very childish. I’m mature enough to have friends or have conversations with people who don’t agree with everything I’m saying without thinking they hate me.
No you can't.
AGREE! I DON'T SO MUCH DISAGREE WITH PEOPLE I JUST DON'T GET THEM SO I PREFER TO SELF ISOLATE WAY BEFORE WE HAD TO. I FIGURED THAT AFTER I SAW ALL THE HATE IN THE WORLD AND PEOPLE BURNING,LOOTING,ATTACKING,DOXING AND EVEN MURDERING OTHERS FOR THEIR CAUSES I REALIZED I WILL NEVER GET THIS WHOLE NEW WORLD AND AT MY AGE I DON'T THINK I WILL GET IT.
It’s simple. We don’t have to agree on everything to respect one another.
Exactly my bff is religious and I am not and I am a veggie with family,friends and acquaintances who are not.
I love how Bella is just sitting at the back
she's just vibin
I didn't even notice her before I read this comment. I just perceived her as a pillow xD
Bella is so chill. 🤗
Blaire is a taxidermy queen
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I’m coming at this as a regular viewer of Blaires CZcams. My partner is non binary and experiences gender dysphoria. For sure, at the end of the day they won’t have the same struggles as a trans man or woman. They’re getting top surgery (breast removal) and have been diagnosed to have gender dysphoria. A few years ago I had been BEGGING them to let me do their makeup, since they never wear any. When they looked in the mirror, they started having a panic attack and couldn’t stop crying, begging me to take it off and that’s when we started talking about non-binary. We’ve also agreed that I’ll always do my best to not touch their breasts (sorry tmi) because it reminds them that they have breasts and makes them super uncomfortable and upset. We’ve had lots of long talks about their gender and gender dysphoria, we’ve talked about whether they could be male, but they said that having masculine features would also give them dysphoria. If it were possible, they said they wished they could just be like a gender less Barbie doll, I picture their gender like kind of being a game of tug of war, male vs female and they’re the rope.I think lots of people are coming out as non-binary as an “aesthetic” and things like that which is such a piss off, I do believe you need to have gender dysphoria to be trans or non-binary. But yeah, I’ve witnessed their dysphoria for the past three years, non-binary dysphoria is very much real and I just wrote this to give people a good understanding to non binary gender dysphoria it’s truly heart breaking to see anyone experience it and even more so when it’s someone I love. Have a greats day peeps
no one could’ve described it better :)
Thank you, this is truly insightful. Sending love your way!
This is the best way of describing it that I have seen. I keep telling people I do think that every trans person (Non-binary included) has gender dysphoria. It may not be physical but it's there. Otherwise there would be no pull to want to transition in whatever way you feel fit
I do also think though there are a number of people especially online going by non-binary when they're not non-binary, thinking that will solve problems with expression. Women can act masculine and men can act feminine, doesn't take away from anything else
Thank you so much for this comment! I needed it to better understand what being non binary actually means. I get confused by people when reading explanations and it all just seems a trend or an aesthetic as you said. Now my brain doesn't hurt anymore hahaha
Hey Blaire. I consider myself liberal, but I like to watch your videos to get another perspective. I just wanted to say that I've seen the way people (of many different persuasions) treat you for being trans and that although we disagree on a lot, I wish you all the best. No one deserves the hate you receive, and I know what a tough position you're in. I try to actually live our liberal values of tolerance rather than just preaching it. Thanks.
Ok so which parts do you disagree most vehemently on with her
None of Blaires commentaries are false. Blaire speaks all facts.
When it comes to nonbinary people vs. Trans people. when I meet post transition trans people, they are usually very happy and satisfied with their transition, when it comes to nonbinary people (most who don't transition) they are some of the most controlling depressed people i've ever met.
Exactly. They’re also very rude to people who don’t support that and only care abt themselves in what I’ve experienced
This has absolutely been my experience
Theyre very confused , strange people 😂 every single one I've met has been weird. And I've met a lot through my bro who has a ton of LGBT friends.
I actually wonder if they really are maybe trans but are to scared to transition? Or that they're confusing it for something else like depression or whatever. Like that kind of anger doesn't happen because of nothing, I dunno, just food for thought
I’m not even depressed though?? I’m more happy then I was before knowing who I am better.
As a trans man, I once tried to say that NB people experience a "different type of dysphoria" than I do because they don't want to physically transition in any way, and I was called truscum.
As a NB you're definitely right on some people, some NBs want to change their appearance to be more masculine (like me) more androgynous, more feminine, you get my drift and it's definitely ok
Yep, I still can't wrap my head around the fact some people can go from "support all trans people or die" to "wait this trans person has a slightly different way of seeing things, let's exclude them" in the blink of an eye
Were humans, there are two genders, its innate. Not sure how you don't define as neither, are you another species?
@@travistarp7466 because that's sex not gender? Gender is a concept and sex is what parts you got? I swear you're a troll
@@an0nym0us_slash35 Gender is a descriptor of sex, its based off sex. Why do transgender people take hormones and change physical characteristics then.
I've kinda stopped identifying with the nonbinary label, mostly because its often used to describe people that want to use they/them but don't feel uncomfortable with presenting cis. I am trans and have severe gender dysphoria, but i'm transitioning to be androgynous. If I really try to pinpoint why I feel genderless, I'm either a trans man who's uncomfortable with gender steryotypes, or maybe there is a way for the brain to develop somewhere in between male and female. Either way, I have dysphoria that tells me I'm not a woman but not entirely a man, the same way trans men and women know they're not their sex assigned at birth. I don't fully understand it myself, I'm just trying to be me.
This is how I feel. I use they/them pronouns, but mainly she/her is what makes me uncomfortable. I’d be happy being called he/him. I’m tryin to figure it out, cause Non-binary doesn’t really fit
I am with you, same!
It’s nice to see an alternative experience here. There’s a lot of narrow thinking. I agree with Blaire here, but a lot of people are misconstruing her point a lot to be a lot more close minded than the original point.
@@eepmeep8550 Also Uptown Cosplay (they don't really use a label, just vibe with their partner)
I feel exactly like this
Im so tired of all the labels. We used to reject all this when i was growing up. Times have changed and everything has to have a label now. What happened to just be yourself?
I've always been called a tomboy and half consider myself one, but never thought to actually become a boy...
Because you don't have gender dysphoria. Its a very rare medical condition.
Legit tho, 10+ years ago tomboys were real, while today a girl that wears boys clothes is given a non binary stamp
The same but I did consider myself a boy that why I change my name to Alex when I was 7-8 years old and ask my teacher they were okay with it lol
I was a pure tomboy grown up I was super boyish and wasn't girly at all but I never wanted to be a boy. It was just what I preferred.
I like being a tomboy. I hope nobody tries to tell me I'm non binary. I was born female and feel female despite my more male traits.
Blair White haters: "I bet she doesn't even have a cat. She probably hates cats."
I apparently am "non-binary" though I really don't feel like I want to use this label, precisely because of how the community acts. Neither do I insist on "they/them" pronouns, I don't use them, actually. I have learned to just take a chill pill and not expect people to understand how complicated it is in my brain, I myself can't explain it properly, how can I expect then understanding from others? I have never felt hate from Blaire, Blaire is just fact-oriented and I so respect her for that. Do I experience some light forms of dysphoria? Yes. But would I compare it with what Blaire has went through? No. My experience I love to describe as "you look at your face in the mirror (femboy face in my case) - sexy! You look at your body without your head in the frame of the mirror (it's really feminine... in my case) - well, sexy! I am attracted to girls! But you look at the combo and you are all like ew, what is this weird creature, lmao".
I am fully aware however, that despite this, I am no trans man and my experience is very different. I don't "hate" my body, I just really don't feel like it is mine, the way I look at it, this is a pretty body that I much prefer seeing on women, rather than on me. I am uncomfortable at times, but it is what it is - at the end of the day, just like Blaire said - it's important how I feel inside, and if you don't get it, well, what can you do. As you can see, it is very, very different from trans.
I am so sorry to everyone who feels pushed by some non-binary agenda caused by our own inadequacy to accept that we're just... weird. An experience of both genders at the same time, one at a time, none at a time, it's all overflowing. It's actually much more of a spiritual experience to me, ying and yang, than it is biological. It is completely possible to live with it and not feel butt-hurt about it every fucking second, lol.
Love you, Blaire
Perhaps it is far more important for us to accept and love ourselves more than for other people to love and accept us? If we could do that, then I don't think it would matter so much what other people around us are doing because we would all just be free to be who we are without having to be pigeon-holed and labelled. We are humans - not bug specimens that need to be catalogued.
@@harmonymiller1211 Yes, I couldn't agree more. It is what I advocate for as well.
Thank you for literally speaking on my behalf and validating my personal experience without making it sound afool. ♡
@@ghostomelon
OP, have you considered hrt?
such a good point legit trans people do not want to be asked their pronouns they want their transition pronoun to be assumed VERY GOOD POINT
I really thought her dog was a statue for the first two minutes lmaooo
Doggo moves, but just barely.
And then when it moves IT’S ALIVE??? Haha
@@AwesomeMusicLady: Hocus locus alimagocus!
As a “cis gender” I’m genuinely confused about how gender became so hated. Just bc you were born as a certain gender and identify as that gender doesn’t mean that you have to abide by gender norms. Just do your own thing. Can someone explain it to me?
My advice? Just ignore them nothing you do will ever please them. Just please yourself. Most non binary or even some of the more left leaning give me hormones or else t mafia possibly have autogynephilia and have due to teaching and such really fucked notions of sex.
That's what I've done. I'm a cis woman but I love androgynous looks. I view everyone's body as a canvas they can do whatever they want to however strangers misunderstanding our expressions aren't so understanding and that's OK.
I used to get really upset about it and feel sad when people would say I dressed like a boy one day and girly the next but at the end of the day dressing with style and versatility and being able to express myself and be comfortable in my skin is something that makes me happy and I need.
Maybe because I have never experienced dysphoria people will get on me about this but genuinely, live your life and don't hurt other people. If someone doesn't understand you or agree with you fuck em. They're not in your life or orbit for a reason
Cis is offensive and sexist. Why are you adding anything to your gender? You either are or you aren't.
@@screamtoasigh9984 is Cis not a term for biological women? I didn't know Cis was offensive.
@@screamtoasigh9984 yes I would also like clarification. I genuinely don't know where you are coming from
You are one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen.
And I'm GAY.
You should use yellow eyeshadow more often, looks gorgeous
They’ll throw around “enbyphobic” as if it has any weight in the real world whatsoever. What annoys me is when they act like it’s on the same level as homophobia/biphobia/transphobia.
Well, if a gay person is hated and people tell him "ew you're disgusting" it hurts that person. The nb person feels same hurt so yes it is on the same level.
@@jamielee7404 thats a bad analogy
@@jamielee7404 Just because someone can feel a certain way doesn’t justify anything. If everyone went by that same analogy, the society wouldn’t function.
@@jamielee7404 so then what about the people hating on Christians?
@@jamielee7404 Yes but being gay is a real thing. That's why it hurts. 🙃
“Omg Blaire hates dogs! She just said dogs and cats are different!” 😂😂
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Did u just assume that they are dogs and cats they can identify as either or, I’m offended lol 🤣
Clearly a Caniphobe.
Dead AF 😂
What a hot take!
When i was growing up, we were fighiting for us women to still be considered feminine while doing masculine things or dressing more manly. "Still a woman".
the reason why these people think " disagreeing = hate " is because THEY hate people who disagree with them and they're projecting
My thoughts on nonbinary, if you respect me I'll gladly try to be as accommodating as possible. If you try to weaponize your identity I'm automatically going to put effort against pretty much anything you tell me
I like that you acutally try and understand and arent invailding all of us... thank you
@@raefuller7635 far as I'm aware those of the demographic that aren't weaponizing their identities is pretty rare but I'm not gonna just assume they're going to because loud minorities are a thing.
Same here, although I’d try to completely avoid the asshole... like any asshole.
@@Jinkroll oh definitely. But if they insist on interacting with me while being an asshole I'll absolutely respond in kind
Many who do this don’t even actually have that identity when you strip their traumas off...
I’m so glad that someone is brave enough to actually say that gender dysphoria is unnatural and is actually not supposed to happen. It’s great to see someone with a brain who can acknowledge that trans people are just people worthy of the same love bc respect as everyone else while simultaneously acknowledging that gender dysphoria is not natural and actually hurts the people affected by it. I love when she said we should work towards finding a treatment or cure for it because it shows someone who understands it is not a choice and is something that many trans people are burdened by, again stressing the point that it is a disorder that a treatment should be researched for.
This¡ omg. I want that world so bad. A world were regardless of your sex you are fine with it, and that regardless of your sex you can be how you want to be.
Masculine girl?Femenine Man? Androgynous? All good. But we dont suffer for something as trivial as our sex.
@HeyHannah I just wanted to discuss some of the phrasing that you used here. There is a difference between saying something is "uncommon", and saying that it is "unnatural". A four leaf clover is uncommon and abnormal, but it is definitely still natural. It genetically develops differently than a regular clover, but you would not say that it "is actually not supposed to happen". A four leaf clover is considered special and even lucky, but it is also a genetic defect, technically speaking. I know that you were speaking from a good place in your heart, but I think we should be careful not to say that the way that a trans person developed is "unnatural" or "not supposed to happen".
@@TryMyMartini you are correct, natural might not be the most _precise_ word choice in the world, but I think you are nitpicking and missing the overall point. There is a saying that goes something like, if you spend too much time focused on defining what words mean, you end up missing out on what they are there to say.
@@hannahdivic28 As I said, I understood what you said, and that your message came from a positive place. I still caution that you might not want to say that someone is “not supposed to happen” the way that they did. When anyone is trying to get their point across, it is their responsibility to choose their words, especially when speaking to and about some of the most emotionally vulnerable amongst us. You can ignore my advice if you honestly do not believe it applies to you, but I would think that your intention is not to hurt anyone, and I think it’s fair to point out that the words that you choose might.
@@TryMyMartini but were correct in saying its not supposed to happen, because it's not. Doesn't mean it's unnatural, I agree, but there's nothing wrong in saying something isn't biologically and genetically supposed to happen. If it was supposed to happen, you wouldn't need to treat or fix it
Some non-binary people (many in fact) transition medically and many BINARY trans people (trans women and men) choose not to medically transition.
as someone who pretty heavily leans right, you have helped me gain a deeper understanding on the lgbt community and I feel a lot less bitter towards them. i used to struggle with my sexuality and gender identity so once i got over that horrible struggle, hearing about the community just kinda put a bad taste in my mouth, especially with all the nonsense people keep making up lol. but you have given me hope for the community! i wish more people thought like you!
When I was a kid, I was a tomboy. Thinking back on it now, most kids my age in the neighborhood where males, and I only had a older brother. My female cousins and neighbors were already in their teens. So I think you adapt to your environment to "fit in". I remember one time when I was about 11, my bro and I were watching a talk show about Trans people, (I'm not sure if they used that expression then) and I said "hey, maybe that's me. I could change into a man". My brother came over grabbed and pull me off the couch by my shirt and threatened to "beat my @ss and disown me" if I was that kind of "freak". And then he dropped me back on the couch after I apologized. My brother was a very abusive person toward me my entire youth. The thing is, I wasn't trans, I was never trans...I was just a female who had masculine traits and opinions because of my environment. By high school I wasn't a girly girl, but I wasn't a tomboy anymore either. Real gender dysphoria goes alot deeper then preferences toward more masculine or feminine things.
It's also totally possible to be a girly girl with "masculine" interests, but I feel like the new gender discourse erases all these nuances. As in, nowadays you're either fitting the "trans" case or you're a lame cis person 😐
First of all. I hope ur brother learned to control himself to avoid situations like that. second. I agree. most of these nonbinary people or trans people had similar childhoods as me in the sense that as a female I had masculine qualities. I thought I was trans too, but turns out that idea just stemmed from insecurities. I think people confuse dysphoria with genuine personality.
@@leinanightray4294 Its weird bro. I think they try to break gender norms by ironically enforcing them unintentionally.
Your brother is a hero
Exactly. See that's hard for me. I'm very feminine and like painting nails, (not so much wearing them since it doesn't make me pass) making earrings, I also get excited about things "most girls do" but when it comes down to it I hate the fact that I have a chest. I was 9 crying cause I never wanted them. I also want to be seen as a guy and stand to pee. I just really like being feminine and sometimes like a few feminine things about me. It's not all about masculinity or femininity that makes your gender identity. It's also body wise and being seen as preferred gender. (Gender dysphoria)
Here's my prediction for how this goes...
People: "Blaire hates nonbinaries!"
Blaire: "No, I don't."
People: "Don't listen to what she says, she's clearly lying."
Blaire: "So you'll listen to what you THINK I said, but won't listen to what I'm ACTUALLY saying.'
@Luna Loo agreed
Theres sooo many people, especially on tiktok, that think like this 🤦♂️ its like talking to a brick wall
More like:
"I want a cure for dysphoria".
"Blaire wants to genocide all trans people".
@Luna Loo yep
I was thinking they'd go:
"She wants a 'cure'. She hates herself."
or
"Blaire White = Transgendercide Advocate"
there are actually a lot of cultures that have a history of a third gender, sure- the word non binary is new. but the idea of someone who neither or both is absolutely not new.
EXACTLY MY POINT
idk, in all examples of that I have seen it's been in cultures with strict gender roles, where a "third gender" had to be invented out of necessity to accommodate for, for example, flamboyant men (who weren't seen as "real men") or make it possible for daughters to inherit their fathers (since women usually weren't allowed to inherit). there might be better, more progressive examples i'm not aware of though - would love to hear about some if anyone can namedrop a culture like that. it just bothers me that i keep seeing cultures i HAVE read about being held up as progressive when in fact they're mostly just... sexist.
@@felucca there are several native american tribes that celebrate two-spirited people which means the person could experience and teach traditonally masculine and femininr pov's in life
@@felucca there is also the term māhū which means there is a third gender in the native hawaiian and tahitian cultures
@@felucca there are several other cultures who have more than one gender
I don't need to change my gender just because I'm a more feminine guy... it's just me
So you're not trans. Nothing to do with this.
as someone who leans towards the left, i really can’t help but agree with blaire. i mean she’s right. i just wanna hear blaires input on neopronouns like pizza/pizzaself which yes, people do actually use 😭
she already made a video on it i think
@@telepathicmagicshop they do lol
They're trying to out pizza the hut.
On VLIVE, a K-pop app with different channels for each artist, many people have usernames like: Fulanita star/moon, Menganito cat/purr, Juan Chuchín taco/burrito.
I saw it, they asked me to use that shit when talking to them and I was just like 😃 *No*
Do they differentiate themselves in what kind of pizzas they are? LOL!
I am a male i am a cross dresser and I am fem but I am not trans and I love and support you and I am sorry that you have to deal with the wave of idiots running their 👄. Much LOVE AND RESPECT sister keep up the good work and one day our special brothers and sisters will get it they just need to heard
Good for you, hope you are happy.
@@andrewfreshwater1843 thank you 😊 very much I hope you are happy
I’ve also noticed that a lot of men who cross dress (including fictional characters) are tacked with the trans, gender fluid, etc. label without their approval. Its kinda weird
So out of curiosity, do you get told you're really trans?
I've known cross dressers and trans people throughout my life, but I'm older than dirt and we just didn't worry about the microagression.
@@leel2792 I was watching TCM, they were showing psycho. At the end they were discussing how it showed transgender in such a bad light.
Norman wasn't transgender
Norman wasn't even a transvestite
The psychiatrist made it pretty clear that Norman's cross dressing was split personality at best.
"What my dog needs in my diet"
Blaire White confirmed puppy play sub.
There’s a big difference between “woke” and “awake,” People!
I still think "Pansexual" is just "Bisexual" that you order from a fancy restaurant.
and you'd be correct with a side of filet mignon.
Exactly. Pansexual is a regular old grilled cheese sandwich but plated on a hook over a cinderblock or something.
Exactly. There’s too much forms of homosexualities, and most of them mean they like everyone, with a little lame twist🙄
Seriously, I've said that many times. Why does it need a new name? It makes my head hurt..
I've no idea what Pan means 😂 it means they would have sex with male, female and trans ?
It's crazy to me how people can think so differently. To me, this is common sense, to someone else It's hatred....crazy
Great point.
Ikr!?
@@hllyenaylleth9576 iki9
@Leander Herman Thank you. It can be a very difficult life.
@@zoooweeemama1808 Oh?
Correct me if I am wrong. My theory is that transgender dysphoria is caused by internal conflicts such as mind and body whereas non-binary dysphoria is caused by external conflicts such as gender standards and norms.
the thing with that is external conflicts do also coincide with binary trans experiences. they also struggle with gender norms and that fuels their internal conflict.
As someone who likes pretty much anyone, in my opinion pan/bi is basically the same thing and if someone asked if i was pan/bi I'd just say yes regardless, cos lets be honest being attracted to all genders vs being attracted to both genders is effectively the same thing. I mean it's not like someone who calls themselves bisexual would suddenly have no sexual attraction to someone if they say they identify as a toaster.
I'm the same way lol. I've asked people what the difference between bi and pan is and they can never give me a straight answer. I always thought it was because bi people only date people who identify strictly as men or women, but then they say "no bi people can date non-binary people too" so like why the distinction? That said I just say I'm pan cuz I think the flag is cuter.
@@princessaur lol fair enough
So I’m non binary and I totally agree with you. For me I have dysphoria and I want to change my body to fit more how I should look. But before I do that I want to go to a gender therapist to make sure that’s what I really want. I’m not just going to go and get a permanent surgery without doctors approval. With pronouns people shouldn’t have to go around the room and state them as a collective group. That totally invalidates trans women and men. I hate neopronouns. I feel like it’s just a kink thing or a trait people use to describe their style. I’ve genuinely seen people use pronouns such as rot. Like I’m not calling you that. It’s not a gender identity. I’m glad that you are brave enough to stand up to non binary people who feel the need to bully others into stepping down about things that just end up hurting other trans people
I'm just curious, how are you Nonbinary buy agree? I'm Nonbinary and that is part of my gender identity, and asking pronouns isn't invalidating, especially if you are asking legit everyone.
I felt compelled to tell you that I wish you the best ❤️
I literally had a conversation with someone who said "non binary people are trans and if they dont identify as such then they have "internalized transphobia". Like what? When I heard that I went off.
Hope everything goes well
No one cares what you are. Get over it.
That's something people dont want to talk about is finding cures for things that cause genuine hardships in lives. As someone with a disability I would love if I could be cured. My life would be hella easier if I weren't disabled and it'd be a lie to say I'm okay with being disabled.
God, I couldn't imagine what it would be like to be 'normal'. I am mildly disabled, I haven't been able to run for about 27 years, I don't remember what that feels like, and many days can't walk without my cane. My severe chronic pain makes it to where I have no idea what it would feel like to go an entire day and not feel excruciating pain, thank you Ehlers-Danlos. I have nightmares where I can't walk anymore, I try to put one foot in front of the other, but my legs just collapse under me, and I wake up in a cold sweat. I'm with you, if I could be cured, I would fucking take it. Just to know what it feels like to run.
Same. I would love not to struggle in life.
I’m autistic, and I’ve seen so many people in the autistic community saying “we don’t need cures for autism! It is apart of us!” And then getting angry at neurotypical people and society for not being fully accommodating to them when - and I may offend someone here - it is a burden. Having a disability doesn’t make someone any less of a person, and they deserve the same amount of rights as non-disabled people. However it is harder to accommodate for them in many ways, so I don’t see why it’s so out of the question to find cures for those disabilities if it makes our lives easier.
The reality is that many autistic people complain so much about their disability and how their life is so much harder with it (having sensory issues, meltdowns, being unable to understand social cues etc.) but then get angry when people try to find a cure for it. Maybe I do sound ignorant, but this is from my own experience. Is it so hard to accept someone with a disability and support them *while* simultaneously trying to find permanent solutions to lessen their hardships with it? Why can’t those with demanding needs and less mobility get the same opportunities and life experiences that non-disabled people have? Because we want to preserve the feelings of those who can *mostly* live life normally?
Of course this is not just tied with autism. I’m just talking about that disability specifically because I have personal experiences of facing hardship with it.
@@justausername5749 I think it is because we have bad experiences with some therapies that try to make us seem less autistic. It is true that are things about being autistic that are really shitty but when people have told us most of our life that we’re broken or that there’s this terrible thing in us, it came a point when we get tired of hearing that. We just wanna be able to embrace who we are and not be reminded every five second how wrong is everything that we do and everything that we are. Like sensory issues are terrible but stuff like special interests actually makes us happy and we don’t wanna lose that. And if people think that it is weird, that’s sad but it is nice to be passionate about a topic. I would like to eliminate some autistic traits but no all of them. At the end being autistic it is a big part of who we are. If they just remove all of it, I think I would end up being a whole different person (and I like the person that I am right now)
@@gabricheyne that’s a pretty solid explanation. Thanks for taking the time to say this to me, since I’ve learned a lot more about the topic. Have my like as a reward.
Blaire's dog is a soldier 😂
I have NO IDEA why anybody hates on you... You are level headed, educated and RATIONAL. You use YOUR experience as your lens and can still see that there are other lenses to view from.... I'm sad we live in a world where stating your view in a kind rational way is attacked while people talk about kinky babies with NO REPERCUSSIONS.Thats so gross... Keep up the good fight, girl.
uh most likely bc she has different opinions & doesnt believe in that tumblr shit
The only issue I ever had with Blaire was when she lied. Then I wondered what else she lied about or if she would lie again and she lost my trust. Videos like this where she just speaks her opinion are fine though.
i think that non binary isn’t a gender but more an adjective, like if you want to say you are non binary and have your friends and maybe family call you “they” then go ahead, but don’t get mad when in the real world your referred to as he/she, and don’t act like you expirience transphobia, and don’t speak for trans people or on trans issues.
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Unrelated but semi related. I am non binary, medically transitioning and all that. I prefer to appear more masculine, and If I’m going to be gendered by our world I’d rather be mistaken for male. So, I started using the male bathroom at school. Hair cut short, binding, and on testosterone and they still wanted me to go to the girls bathroom knowing my identity and my transition. I’ve almost been jumped in there a few times too, so we can experience transphobia. The school actually tried to expel me for it before I got the district involved. I do pass frequently more in public, but those kids knew me from last year so no real way to be stealth. Just my two cents.
@@Daisy-kg4ho i really empathize with you and its nice to see that there are some exceptions in terms of nonbinary people facing transphobia. however i feel with how many nb people i have seen that most of them dont have gender dysphoria nor have any interest to transition whatsoever and i think that's where the big issue comes in with the distinction between nonbinary and trans because nonbinary people who have no dysphoria or plans to transition in any shape way or form are likely not going to face any form of trans/enbyphobia. the worst i could imagine is being misgendered, which in comparison to what trans ppl in other countries go thru is very very mild.
@@gillian3510 I completely agree! I just wish edgy teens on social media or sjws weren’t the face of a community so misunderstood, binary or not. Because they’ll talk over binary trans people, but then they’re what’s pushing out other non binary people from the community because everyone resents us yk. Thank you for your compassion 💜
@@Daisy-kg4ho thanks for sharing your experience also because it does show that there can be nonbinary trans people as you have transitioned and that's something i've never thought of. maybe people can start to acknowledge that there are nonbinary transfolk, but also nonbinary folk who aren't trans. i mean do you consider yourself to be trans and nonbinary or just nonbinary? if that's not too intrusive, it's just that i dont see many people who are nonbinary with hopes to physically transition in some way to look more masc or fem. its got me thinking that if someone who is nonbinary but experiences gender dysphoria and plans to transition that they could very well be considered trans on the basis of their gender dysphoria
edit; sorry if this was repetitive or a bit confusing i think its just an idea i've never considered before
Meanwhile in the UK, a train line apologised after a train driver addressed passengers as 'ladies and gentlemen', and two non binaries complained 😅
That’s rather stupid
I saw an article about that lmaoo
that's so dumb lmao
😂
ladies and nonbittlements
I’m a nursing student and I’ve been studying to get my BSN so I can understand all kinds of people. I love this video because gender dysphoria is a mental health crisis. Also, any surgery that is elective (without a diagnosis from a psychologist/therapist of a mental health disorder such as gender dysphoria) puts the patient at risk. This issue is a public health crisis regardless of how you identify. So be nice to people!
Best of luck in your BSN quest! Always tab your ends and take your stethoscope from around your neck when you have to deal with anyone combative. You are 100% correct. Every procedure requiring Anesthesia is dangerous, surgery of any kind should always be last resort. General Anesthesia "knocks you out" completely, the patient, ie, you, have a ventilator breathing for you during your surgery. You are literally on life support while your operation is underway. There is ALWAYS the risk of using too much medicine during General Anesthesia and the patient doesn't "wake up," regain consciousness, resume breathing on their own. This is a risk EVERY procedure with General, be it heart surgery, phalloplasty, appendectomy, kidney removal, any time you are knocked out, you risk not coming back.
I am a gay man, I was born male and I identify as male. I can't stand being called they/them it feels insulting to me. What is so wrong with having differences between sexes? I think men and women can bring different things to society that are both commendable and less desirable and frankly if we were all the same the world would be pretty boring... Love the nails btw slay!
A lot of people equate not understanding or not agreeing with something to hatred, which is gross misinterpretation of the terms.
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Blaire: I'm not better or worse than any other human being on this planet that puts their pants on one leg at a time
Twitter: Blaire White is Ableist?
I can actually picture that.
There is a lot of us that feel this way. It just shouldn’t be under the same “umbrella”.
You have way more patience with these people than I ever will. I would legit rather do prison time than pretend that some obvious man or woman is a made up gender just because “we wouldn’t want to be a meanie”.
I have found the nonbinary fixation on calling themselves trans to be kinda weird, and I'm honestly not sure what they're going for. It just seems to be really similar to someone telling you they have chronic depression, and then you saying, "oh yeah, I get sad sometimes"- well yes, everyone does, but it's not the same thing as having chronic depression. Nobody is telling you (in this instance) that you being sad from time to time isn't valid, it's just a different thing, and most people wouldn't be fussed at having that pointed out, so I'm not sure why it can be so controversial when it comes to this subject regarding nonbinary, and this subject alone.
Trans = not identifying as what you were assigned as birth. I'm Nonbinary and that isn't what I was assigned with at birth. I have more dysphoria than my binary trans girlfriend. I may eventually get bottom surgery and/or top, and if I was healthy enough would do hrt. So... Idk how that's cis
@@rainbowdashsailormoon6005 then you are using a different definition of trans.
Trans means going from one place to the other. Gender means gender (obviously lol). Transgender means going from one gender to the other
@@anthropomorphicpeanut6160 Nonbinary still fits under that....I wasn't assigned as Nonbinary as birth. I transitioned to that.
Well it's no different then someone insisting that trans women are women. They aren't.
@@rainbowdashsailormoon6005 I guess that's fair for NB who do transition (and that would make them NB and trans), but there's still an entire class of NB who equate themselves with being transexual, when they have neither dysphoria, nor any intention of transitioning- in the words of the NB community at large, those things are irrelevant (though, maybe you don't personally ascribe to that).
When a transexual transitions, they're not transitioning to a transexual- they were always a transexual- they're transitioning to the opposite sex. From my understanding, an NB person was always NB, even if they weren't out of the closet. At best, your statement could be that the two aren't mutually exclusive, but that doesn't make every NB person trans.
My school is stopping the use of "boys and girls" to include quirky non-identifying teens, its getting kind of surreal since you hear it on the news and now it's happening to you
🙄🙄🙄 so stupid. As is girls and boys don’t exist. I could see maybe saying boys, girls and non binary folks. It bothers me that they try to put their gender dysphoria on all of us. Most ppl are cis gendered. Pretty soon people are going to stop listening to them. I’m not going up to ask everybody their gender.
Why should schools be inclusive anyway? They’re supposed to have standards.
That’s ridiculous
Ooooh! Are they going to start calling them cheetahs and lemurs instead? But s’rsly - although I agree it’s kinda stupid, what age were you when you realized how condescending it was the way most teachers and principles said, “Boys and girls...”? 😉
@@revolutionfrommahbed4246 as a lion I feel very underrepresented 🤬🤣🤣
Omg I thought the puppy in the back was like a stuffed animal at first lol so cute
Honestly a lot of nb people are just sooo annoying. I’m nb and like is someone calls me by she/her pronouns, I’m not offended because I haven’t transitioned at all and I look pretty feminine. It’s truly not that hard to correct people
Congrats you're the "pick me" of non binary people
@Strawberry Orphan thanks a lot?
Johnny Rose: "My son is pansexual..."
Roland Schitt: "I've heard of that...its that kitchenware fetish..."
Haha that was actually funny ngl 😂
i love schitt's creek but watching that i was thinking "why couldn't he just be bi or something"
@@Eli-ou8sq Cuz he lived in New York.
LMAOOOO I'M WHEEZING 😂
XD
That's a real phobia? Hell, I can't keep up with this anymore.
No one it’s not
What's isn't a phobia in the LGBT
Soon Adolfsexual
And Naziphobia will be real
We will destroy Isreal the naziphobic country
Join the
Not a zucker inartschool
Nazi for short
@@gerard7417 hating trans activist
@Conrad Kujur Transphobia and Islamophobia were the last legitimate phobias, but after that I stopped listening to Twitter and the mainstream media labels.
I love how your puppy just guards you from behind and falls asleep sitting up watching you lol 😂 🐾🐶
Something that I don't understand is why people have started going out of their way to spell out the letters N B as 'enby'. It appears to be an attempt at spelling phonetically, but that would properly be spelled as ehn-bee, so if it's an attempt at phonetic spelling, it makes the person writing it look stupid and uneducated. That's the only conclusion I could come to, so if there's another reason for writing it that way, I can't find it. If it is for phonetic styling, I have to imagine that they're only doing it try and appear smarter, but the fact that it's not how you'd phonetically spell the letters out only serves to backfire on that front, making me take these people even less seriously than I already did previously.
“Cats are different from dogs”
“So you’re saying you hate cats?”
nb ppl are trans fuck is the difference?
@@yui-hb8ys how is a person that hasn’t transitioned from on gender into another transgender ?! No transition was made . Non binary is outside of man or woman. If you haven’t transitioned to one you are an outlier.
@@Ajlex114 trans literally just means not identifying as cis it doesn’t require transition 💀 nb people can identify as trans without transitioning because they aren’t cis and don’t feel comfortable with being in the binary hence the name nonbinary. people who use neopronouns don’t need to transition either but they’re still trans (but I’m using neopronouns as an example won’t change ur mind cuz you’re too close minded to believe in them)
@@yui-hb8ys that’s your option , to me they are simply non binary , not trans . Idk why they can’t be considered separate categories to people like you.
@@Ajlex114 they are trans? if they say they’re trans then they’re trans.. also wtf you mean “people like you”
I’m trans and I agree Blaire but I’m scared to admit that in the community
speak even if your voice shakes
You're voice is so important even if they'll fight against it !
And you shouldn't be. I'm liberal and I think often we're too toxic to the people who we're supposed to be protecting who don't completely tow the party line. We as liberals need to have more patience and be honest about our values of tolerance acceptance and approachability.
The bottom line is it's gatekeeping and if you're not willing to admit that you're not correct about stuff it's not going to go over well. If you have an actual discussion your feelings can be valid but they don't have to be accurate. Just how people don't understand trans women or men, they're wrong.
Girl, gather your strength and courage and speak up.
Also being in the community is a choice. You don't have to be with them at all.
non binary person here. while i disagree with a lot of your videos, this is kind of spot on to how i feel. my experience is not comparable to a trans person. transgenderism is not an umbrella. i am NOT transgender.
and a world in which i am asked my pronouns every greeting is not ideal. i am secure enough in the way i feel to handle being referred to as the gender i appear as.
i only state i go by they/them with friends and people who know me well enough for me to care about what they think i am.
I'm called transphobic because I believe if someone is going to transition, they should finish development first, I don't think kids or teens should be able to transition, no one knows who or what they are in full when they are that young..
i understand that but,, would you rather have that child grow up feeling uncomfortable in their body?
I disagree if the kid has a well documented case of gender dysphoria and has been diagnosed with gender dysphoria they should be able to transition
@@hihellowhat when they are fully developed yes, I agree, but as one grows up they can change their whole way of thinking. Blaire has had people on who have had to retransition back to their biological gender.
Blaire once said non-binary kids will be the emo kids if they are in the 00s. So true.
oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh you assumed nom binaries were from 2000s!!!!!!! IM A NOM BIBLERY FROM DA 90s!!!!!!
Blaire told me im cisgender
PREACH!!
@@TheFirstHurrah woah so fucking transphobic 😍
def some of them are just doing it cad they think its cute , buy u shouldnt assume all of them are , if somone tell ur they are nonbinary just believe it and dont be an asshole
As someone currently in the process of accepting the fact I'm trans some of the encounters I've had with NBs in the community have really hindered me. When I've spoken to them there's this idea if you have a variety of hobbies that are both masculine and feminine that means you're nonbinary. For me personally I could care less about that. My dysphoria comes from my physical body. I feel like it trivializes the issue a bit to have it all based on clothing or hobbies. If dressing in a certain way got rid of my dysphoria I wouldn't feel like I need any surgery to feel at home in my body.
Facts, although I like dressing masculine, I'm naturally drawn to it. My gender dysphoria is my body, It feels like I have phantom penis syndrome. I've heard nonbinary people say being trans is a choice too...I feel like majority of them really miss the mark, I think nonbinary is a different disorder.
The question is do you want boobs or pecs.. Its that simple, if you want boobs you're a woman, if you want pecs than your man. If you want neither than you're confused.
Im non-binary and have dysphoria, maybe you talked to some weird people or just misunderstood the context, all the enbys ive known have been pretty similar in experiencing dysphoria :P
@@1fault Fair point. I just haven't run into them specifically. Most of my interactions have been in more online support groups? Those tend to be more extreme I think.
@@gabeajean9221 thats tru about support groups tending to be more extreme, and also i feel like some people just kinda confuse being gender non-conforming (which isnt an lgbt thing or new gender, just a non traditional expression of style within their own gender, male or female) with being non-binary. But as long as people are saying what they are in good faith, then its fine and some people need time to read into things more before they can really figure themselves out
>I don't hate anyone who doesn't do harm to animals, children, or people in general
Based asf
hey! i'm a someone questioning their gender (unsure if nonbinary or trans man) and i actually agree with a lot of what you are saying here. you make a lot of sense
Getting your surgeon on your channel to talk about what you have said he has told you, of course obscuring his face, to go more in-depth would make for an interesting interview.
There are a lot of medical professionals who are concerned about where things are going with gender and sexual identities, out of genuine concern for their patients/clients. GP's, psychologists, surgeons want the best for their patients but they now feel that if they question their patients, or speak out about their concerns, that they will be sued and lose their licence to practice. Practicing from a non-evidence based perspective puts patients at risk, yet that is what they are basically being pushed to do.
The mention of ''Cure'' got me the most. As a Transwoman, I always try to explain people that this is not a glorious thing nor that I wish to be like this, it is just I can't help it. I'm in a constant battle with my dysphoria so I had to go through all that trouble to find myself which is initially not needed for the most. I had breast implants, HRT just to feel a bit more comfortable in my own skin. It really is difficult to explain especially if the person you are talking to is not suffering from it, gender dysphoria is not as common as you think. Just like you said, I had all these emotions when I was I child, nothing has changed for me until I start understanding the concept of gender and the perception of the society '' Why am I like this, why I was born as Trans? '' I would've loved to have the internal/external harmony like most cis people has. I'm not saying this to disrespect anyone's personal experience since we all face hardships but I live in Middle East and all I can say is that my condition has caused more harm than good for me. I can't help but wonder how my life would be without dysphoria.
I genuinely would love to say that I understand you, BUT I can't because I don't suufer dysphoria, and I'm glad for that.
I just can wish you the best of lucks to overcome this, and that you can move on without second fights.
I wish there was something that worked as a cure for the dysphoria. I can't imagine what it feels like, but I can see that it causes those who have it such pain.
You really really need to move to a safer place.
Yea and not calling it a disorder, and saying it is normal isn't helpful to the person.
"the internal/external harmony like most cis people has"
Who has been lying to you? Because if you think women are somehow deeply fulfilled by the fact that they're female, you have been badly mislead.
For me, nonbinary doesn't make sense because I feel it reinforces gender stereotypes. If feel masculine, you're a man, and feminine, you're a woman, and if you don't fully fit into those categories you must be somewhere in between? If someone can explain it better, I'd listen, but so far it feels very sexist to me.
I think I understand what you mean, but at the same time there are people who feel neither masculine nor feminine, or both at the same time, etc. and they aren't trying to enforce gender stereotypes, at all; they're just finding an alternative that makes them feel good about themselves, and I see nothing wrong with that. Just like a woman can be masculine and a man feminine, the same goes for non-binary people.
Gender is a spectrum, which is not necessarily related to how a person looks, acts, etc., and the existence of enby people does not deny it, if anything it does the opposite. My point is, non-binary is a gender, not a way of dressing or looking. So, the existence of enby people doesn't change anything. Also, I doubt you'll meet an enby person who tells you that if you look a certain way then your gender must be the one that is usually associated with that look (and if you do, I'm sorry, but I'm sure you'll meet better people). Enby people are not trying to force anything onto others, they're just doing their own thing, being who they are, finding a way to feel comfortable with themselves, and we should respect that. Thanks, have a nice day/night.
@@sketch_9458 Thank you for trying to explain. I think my greatest confusion when it comes to the nonbinary discussion is that I view gender in the same way that I view species or race, as a binary physical feature rather than a spectrum. Because of that, it doesn't make sense for people to identify with a gender other than their own unless they suffer from gender dysphoria. Whereas masculinity and femininity are a spectrum, gender in my mind is directly related to biological sex (with atypical exceptions, such as intersex and trans individuals). Maybe that core belief is the reason it doesn't make sense to me? I hope I've explained myself a bit better than I did in my original comment.
@@sydneylyman8778 Ah, I see! I understand what you're saying. I do have those kind of thoughts myself at times, but as someone who does not have dysphoria and feels somewhat comfortable with all pronouns (although I do have a preference), I am not qualified to explain the reason why gender matters so much and is such an important part of society. But in the end, I guess that I just want people to be happy with themselves, and if using neutral pronouns makes them happy, then they should do that.
I see gender as a spectrum because from my experience it seems like the most logical way to represent it, especially since, in the end, everyone views it in a different way, everyone feels a little bit different. I just think that by viewing it as a spectrum, it's easier to understand how others feel about their own gender.
I guess that in a perfect world, gender wouldn't exist and sex wouldn't matter-
But since sex does matter, the existence of gender is necessary to the people who are in contrast with their sex.
I think that's all- this is just my way of seeing things, though ^^ I understand that everyone sees them differently, and I accept it, as long as they're respectful- that's all I care about. Thank you for being polite :)
Pansexual is the same as bisexual
The problem with NB is that they're so annoying and obnoxious all the damn time. They think their fashion choices are a personality trait 🙄
Exactly
Agreed lol. Like chill
and they think their personality is a whole ass gender lmaooooooooooooooooooo
No. They think their personality trait is a sexuality.
@@InschrifterOfficial I thought it's a gender?
They say that you think you’re higher on the totem pole because in their minds there IS a totem pole of identities. It’s been that way for years. The person with the most labels wins.
Projection is their old, very close friend.
"Do I understand it... No, but I don't have to to be nice to you." This really. "Try to see people as people" Great quotes this vid
this is why i just dont care, im not changing how i talk to cater to someones insecurities & ideals if that makes me anti-prog then oh well fuck it. i like who i like, im sorry youre not one of em
I think the goal of pronouns is not to ask them, as the gratification of one not having to ask that individual what their pronouns are is probably highly fulfilling for those who have transitioned and who are in the process of transitioning.
asking pronouns isnt about how someone looks. sort of like how you cant always tell if someone is gay. they don't owe you an outward appearance of how you think non binary should look. thats why to simply be inclusive, asking pronouns is polite no matter what. if people are upset about the inclusion, it says a lot about them.
@@ElFayefaye I get what you're saying, but (and that is a big but) gender and sexual orientation are not linked. You don't use different pronounces for people with different sexual orientations.
@@ElFayefaye it may be polite and I see why some people ask, but also most people who identify as women also visually appear to be women to most of society, and go be she/her. It’s just natural for most people to assume. Humans like many other animals, are hardwired to live by patterns. Most people with big boobs in a bikini are she/her women. Most people with facial hair and huge muscles are he/him men. That’s why I think it’s okay to assume. It’s natural. Ofc don’t be a dick if you assumed wrong and try to go against what you initially thought and change the pronoun, but there’s a reason people do it. Also, many trans ppl feel happy when others assume the correct gender. It can feel as if they “nailed” their transition and might even be more offended if you asked. In fact, I think many cis people would feel offended if you asked, like “you couldn’t tell?”
@@annagararsdottir5432 of course. I used that as an analogy because they are both instances when people assume something about you that they couldn't possibly know just by how you look outwardly. i thought that was obvious.
@@leel2792 Right, so see how the language you are using is "most" and "assume". thats basically the point right there. I think some people are thinking: wouldn't it be easier if we skipped the whole assumption game because there could very well be many people whose genders don't "match" their outward appearance. It erases misgendering completely. It would also benefit pre transition binary trans people and give them the opportunity to tell people how they want to be viewed instead of having to correct them. I think if we all understood that asking pronouns isn't about clocking someone as one gender or the other but rather as a courtesy to every person with every identity than maybe theyd be less hurt by it. Its not about them. it just isnt. The second they give their pronouns its a non issue. If you really care so much about making sure other people know youre cis too, or binary trans too... then just say it.
Remember the borg from startrek. How they all thought as a collective; that’s where the world is headed🤦🏾♀️
@Martian Android personally I don’t understand how he/she her/him became offensive. The entire concept is confusing too me. I don’t want to learn all of these terms and genders. Im no borg and nobody is going to make me learn this stuff if I don’t want too lol. I don’t acknowledge people at all anymore Bc everything is offensive these days🤷🏾♀️
The Muggles are going nutters for sure. LOL.
Puppy in the background is like "oh god not this again, I'm about to fall asleep"
The only thing that I knew about binary and non-binary was in relation to computer codes or whatever not people