My Entitled Family Wants to Take My House and Give It to My Brother, Even Though They Kicked Me Out.
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- My Entitled Family Wants to Take My House and Give It to My Brother, Even Though They Kicked Me Out of Their Home Because They Had “no Space” for Me.
Timestamps -
0:00 - Old bits.
35:02 - New Updates.
#redditrelationship #redditupdate
By updates I meant updates after the last video i made few months ago! (Sorry if this confuses anybody!)
The way you consistently post the full thread, u should not be apologizing, currently Braiding my hair, great pass time 😂
This is one of the best reddit stories everrrrrr! Glad that the OP finally has some peace.
Update us for Dan!
This was the very first Reddit video I watch, you started an obsession, thank you!
Dude how your can speak so much!?
I cant even speak correct
"You'll be disowned for this!"
"You promise?"
I disowned my father 20 years ago because he moved me and his gold digger girlfriend and her two kids in together. He gave me a room just big enough to fit a twin size bed in and a dresser. I still treated her two boys, who were only 10, 11 and me being 20 my father's youngest, like they were my little brothers. I took them out to play baseball, football, rollerblading and so on. But their mother bad mouthed me being a bad influence because all I did was sit on my computer all day (despite working 40 hours and having paid off one of my father's cars, paid it's insurance and installed remote starters in both) but all she did was lounge around all day drinking and popping pills. The last straw was when he threatened to kick me out if I didn't buy "the car" off him for the remaining 8,000$ of my inheritance from my grandmother. I had thought he meant the car I had paid off and signed the pink slip in anger and paid him as I started looking for a new place. It wasn't till the next day when I couldn't find my keys that I noticed he had left the keys for her beater of a town car. Looked at the title I had signed and it was for that pos. I told him to go fuck himself and his gold digging girlfriend and took my computer and few things and drove down from near the Maine boarder to Boston were a friend lived... found out how much the car was because it was sputtering and having issues. Pulled into a mechanic shop and the guy did a quick look and showed me the cracked engine block, it needed a whole new engine. It thankfully got me to my friend's place. (still ended up homeless because his roommate tried blackmailing me into paying his rent.)
😂😂😂😂
@@SilvaDreamshope all is well with you family can be the worst
It's more like: you still haven't disowned me yet?
@@SilvaDreams, what happened to your step brothers?
His Camper is the real MVP of the story.
lol yeah when you think about it
always took the insults and kept helping the shunned
and when the very same people that insulted it needed it
it selflessly allowed them hospice
@@fanunitmk8dx177that camper is the jesus of campers.
Real @@khaleesireyna731
Maybe the actual camper is the friends we made along the way
Ngl, this would make a very good short film commercial for a camper van (Thai movie style)
The cop saying he would cite them for littering was perfect 🤣
Truly, the hero we deserved.
i bursted out laughing and farted at that lmaoo
What’s funny is if they weren’t so obvious in that they broke in, the cops would have potentially had to tell him that he’d need to sue them out, as squatters are a civil matter. But with how obvious it was they broke in to do that, and how they right in front of the cops (who likely had bodycams) showed how fraudulent they were, yeah, B&E and no chance of ever trying it again better convincingly
i unironicly said destruction of evidence thats another charge
@@fitkamgummy 😂😂
The four main things are
1:they broke in to his house
2:it has more lore than fnaf
3:sil is a bad name
4:it was the good ending out of everything that could've happened
sil means sister in law lol
sil means sister in law lmao
@@AuloraRavenno they mean like bitch or hoe egero “bad name”
@@youshould4509they mean like bitch or hoe ergo “bad name”
Sil means sister in law lol lmao
The boss who gave OP a break and allowed him to have a safe space to live, and get back on his feet is an unsung angel. Yes OP was on call 24/7, but he seemed happy with that. Glad things worked out for OP.
Being on call when he desperately needed money and was bored out of his mind beforehand is pretty good
@Louis_2568 I wasn't saying it wasn't a good deal, I was just pointing out that small almost catch to the agreement. I would have happily taken the deal to had I been in OPs situation. A safe space to sleep, all the hours I want and the ability to save for a permanent house.
It's just some people may not see being on call 24/7 would be worth it
@@carebear-fox I was agreeing with you
@@Louis_2568that actually sounds amazing when u put it that way
He's the true MVP of this entire story.
I don't care if this is fact or fiction, That is a damn good story. Kept me hooked for an hour
I didn't even realise it was an hour long...
Same
Fr but if it is true then he can give me their address and I'll take my violin to play a sad song🤣
Exactly, sometimes a good story is better than a true one
true
This guy had a whole chess match with his brother, and he just kept putting Dan in check.
and he did it with a king
@@Nezumi_YasuI thought the kings couldn't be 1 next to another they have to be 1 square apart
@@storm3940 you can. if the ither person messes up. And that's what Dan did. he put his king next to Ops
@@Nezumi_Yasu Oh
I will never forget my boss who let me park in the lot during my last two weeks, just gave the check and said leave. Thank you so much and youll never know how much i appreciated that.
calling you a homeless bum is so funny bc they have 4 kids and still live with parents
People can be so stupid!
Yep. Mckinney-Vento Act would count them as homeless.
lol
Imagine giving this story to chat gpt and then having it draw all the characters!
So true
Old bits = The rise of OP
New Updates = The redemption arc of Dan
And redemption arc of OPs family
@@djtrac3r935yup
It's bullshit too. He was treated like shit before SIL came into the picture. They would still be treating him like shit if he hadn't destroyed their reputation. They're still shit people, but now it makes more sense to suck up to OP rather than shit on him, and if they didn't have a SIL scapecoat.
It’s kinda good how he tried to grow and change as a person, possibly for the sake of his kids
The Dan Redemption Arc was my favorite. I kinda liked Dan (or at least who he could've been) from the beginning because it seemed like he was gaslit into bullying OP by the parents and then he married The Main Villian and got manipulated even more and I was just hoping he saw the light and turned to OPs side bro. Like he seemed more of the conduit of OP's trauma and less the Master Mind behind it.
amazing how he stayed the better person and never sank to being petty or getting revenge. honestly, it’s nice seeing the people at fault actually work to improve themselves and admit they were wrong, without resorting to legal punishment or revenge
and the fact that he didn’t even cut ties with his family but even helped Dan after everything he did is crazy
There was many moments where I thought he would make them feel even worse or do anything to make their situations worse as a measure of revenge, but he really didn't or did at all
*1 hour video*
Me:looks like I’m canceling my plans
ONG
@@Zombieninja131 no fr i was supposed to join my Minecraft smp yo help with a redstone build since im the only one who gave a shit to learn redstone but i just said. “Hold on y’all im gonna be an hour late” when they asked why i just sent them the video and we watched it together, was a bonding experience
@@koolbrayden21 legend hgahaha
@@Joriszx lol
Facts!!!
that poor 7 year old, hes been through so much insanity and stood up for his mom so hard and just got betrayed and a black eye for it.
Those kids been through the ringer bro. Definitely the 7 yo cause damn imagine seeing how unhinged your mother actually is and that the mom you adored turned out to be a MONSTER!
I feel glad the three children aren't approached by their mother anymore, though I do feel bad for the fourth.... (I mean, it wasn't a baby's fault for being born between a messed-up narcissist and a guy that dumped her)
bright side, the others probably too young to really remember much of this
@@ethanpowell2725 No.
You remember things way, waay younger with that kind of abuse.
At 7yo, you could remember how it's an ongoing thing that fucks you up inside and outside.
Certain things you genuinely cannot forget, what those kids went through? They'll remember for years. Hell this whole story is (supposedly) being told by a guy that was neglected as a kid and vividly remembers what he went through@@ethanpowell2725
If OP had a dollar for every time someone said "do it for Dan" he would be a millionaire by now
He would be a billionaire.
@@NancyNanavati Trillionaire.
if he simply got a small coin made of plastic that is hollow worth 0.0024678 cents he would be a quintillionare
He would have enough money to buy a whole universe
He would have enough money to create his own universe
49:11 "I knew he was smart. He just let himself be dumb." That goes to show just how good of a person OP is - he never thought his brother was an idiot, just that he was acting idiotic.
But idiots are people who act dumber than they actually are
17:09 "Fuck dan! Its my damn house, not his" was fucking awesome and I loved the olive garden saga
The infamous “DO IT FOR DAN!!” Saga is still infamous and unbelievable and I wish we had a final update with Dan getting his butt handed to him by his parents finally…
Holy crap yall!!! 9k likes?!?! Thank yall so much!!! Wish I could have a drink with all yall
What ended up happening to him and the truth that came to light was arguably worse.
After getting to the end of this video, I'd say he's been punished enough and came out as a much better person.
Link??@@KilroyWasHere83
The only ones that compare are the"Crazy Aunt," "Faux HOA Lady," and the "My Sister Kelly" sagas. The HOA lady one was so long I'd been using it for background noise until it finally caught my attention and Holy Cow! That ended up being a Federal case and when the FED DA asked the OP what started all this, he said, "She yelled at my wife." OP said DA laughed uproariously for 5 minutes straight.
True DO IT FOR DAN !!
"some people might not believe this."
I watch it for the entertainment 💀💀💀
👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏
"Some people might not believe."
this I'm watching this because I'm bored 💀 💀 💀
This. Idc if this is true or not, as long as it's a good story, it's worth watching already.
you might not believe it bu
I'm watching this to waste time💀💀💀💀
🗿🗿
@@reipriezacanoneo1722 fr 💀
I'm a teenager. I honestly had no idea how hard it really can be to get on your feet. This man has insane resilve bravo
I love how dan said “I pulled a you”, like that is genuinely something brothers’d say to eachother, like a younger brother idolizing his older brother, i hope their relationship improve
The boss is a legit goat like he let him live while he was homeless and helped him a bunch I recon the boss deserves some credit for what he’s done
W boss
W boss
W boss
W boss
(Continue the chain!!!)
W boss
The roast about the baby getting drunk from the mom's breastmilk is crazy 😭
Hilarious!!!
Hilariously crazy
That’s not a roast, that’s a Volcano Eruption!
Thats rather a legit concern and could be filed as child abuse. Alcohol during pregnancy leads to poor brain development and I don't think that in infancy this issue is any less concerning.
Typical behavior of a woman like SIL, wants to be treated like the virgin Mary because she's a MOMMMMMY, but drops those kids like a bag of snakes as soon as she "finds something better." I've seen this happen too many times.
I honestly think you are a amazing man for giving your family another chance and even letting your brother stay in your prized possession camper which you loved not to mention you did not get them arrested at the time because of the kids and how you treat them so nicely we need more people like this ❤❤
As a fellow truck lover myself, I just wanna give a shout out to the guy for for keeping his car and working condition when it’s from the 90s and likely and likely doesn’t have a lot of replacement parts around
Well, it was quite sweet of OP to give his camper to his brother, despite everything he's done. I'm happy that OP and his family somewhat reconciled and, especially, that Dan's kids don't hate OP because of their mother influence
OP knows the most Divine of Knowledge: Being an ass to people wanting to change just makes you an even bigger ass.
He was also thinking of Dan's kid.
It was satisfying to hear Dan go through a Thorfinn level arc and do a complete 180 to the person he was. 11/10 story, even if it’s probably fake
@@Chadius_Thundercock I actually believe it. The very disparate (in time) updates, alongside nothing going exactly in his favour as a matter of course when OP had been relying on that being the case (like some stories have revenge-plots that _need_ components of them to go _just_ right), does make it rather plausible. Add to that how OP was mainly reactionary and the story felt consistent, too. Granted, there were portions that felt somewhat embellished/biased (like his accounts of how horrid they had been to him as a kid), but that is honestly to be expected (and kinda made it seem more likely someone's actual account of events). And even those things are stuff I have knowledge actually _do_ happen irl at times, so might not [biased].
The main issue I have making it seem like it might be fake, is the extreme the family went to when they broke into his house and such (even forging fake documents - which btw any competent cop would bag as possible evidence). Hard to see how they could think they would get away with it, what they actually hoped to achieve, and how parents able to try and do that could then expect him to ever reconciliate. But ppl do do stupid shit irl, and making attempts/hoping is free
@@feha92 what makes it sound super fake is the multiple times posts of people on the story or accounts are private, deleted, “oh I don’t have cameras to show the video” then later on he says he got cameras but doesn’t upload the videos, doesn’t specify what state he lives in, no photos, there’s way too many coincidences for it to be real
@@Chadius_Thundercockvideos and pictures weren't shown for privacy reasons, same with no description of state.
"do it for Dan" could be a political campaign slogan XD
"Vote Dan, get him into office, Do it for Dan"
Nah 💀
😭😭
“get him into office (because he deserves it more than the other guy)”
Get him to office cos he needs work 😂
Get him into the white house for him and his kids
Some people believe it, some think it's fake. I've followed this story from the beginning, and OP hasn't given me any reason to not believe it, and has also been very consistent with the storytelling. So I think it's a true story for sure. People can be crazy, never underestimate them.
Imagine caring either way? Whether it's real or fake isn't important. The fact is, some people really do act like that. That post just shows that even someone reserved can do something right. I would have personally pressed charge against them for every single thing they did, I wouldn't care about the kids if the parents ended up in jail. Instead, I think them being placed into foster homes or other family members would have been beneficial because they wouldn't have been influenced by their narcissist family anymore.
If I didn't have a narcisstic mother, I too would have thought this was fake. Trust me they are very capable of this.
This story was so long and depressing that it gave me a headache. I had to pause it and go to sleep and continue watching it the next day. I can not imagine living your life.
BLESS YOU.
Pls keep up posted on your life. And please tell us if you find a girlfriend or get married or are having kids. LOVE YOUR POSTS. ❤❤
The kindness OP showed Dan during his drunken low point (and the morning after) after everything Dan did to him is god damn saintly in my eyes.
I feel it was in large part that he didn't want to feel responsible for a drunk hit&run, + that he had realized he weren't using the camper and just letting it sit and go derelict while also actually still caring for those kids. Don't think it was much for dan's sake.
@@feha92on the off chance i sound insane i went through some crazy shit with family myself i am legitimately surprised how op did not feel the literal urge to kill him then and there, not saying there should have been any chance of it happening but i myself would be so done with these people i would have jailed all of them on the basis of assault battery harassment breaking and entering and sue for emotional damages and wasting my damn time, i feel very strongly that "family" are people that make you feel safe and cared for, not whatever troglodyte raised you. i wholeheartedly believe op would have been significantly happier had he distanced himself completely from his family emotionally and chalked it up to it literally being their fault.
@@Arxgxmii guess some people are different than others. OP feels like someone who values attachment more than others, as he said in the story about not being able to easily leave their town. He may have a subconscious feeling that cutting them off completely is not good for his mental health.
@@supesulgi yeah i don't think i can ever understand that, everyone has their limits and this should be past most people's IMO, even if you value attachment a lot you can just form new bonds decently fast, as opposed to trying to make something work with people that made it impossible to work things out for well over a decade. i just really don't get how burdening yourself with a family that never valued you like this could lead to any amount of fulfillment or happiness.
I am Kinda Glad that Dan Finally woke up and saw the reality of the situation. As much as I despise him, I hope to see a Redemption arc for Dan.
Yep. I see way too many moral justice keyboard warriors painting everything in such broad black and white strokes here and on Reddit that I have to hazard a guess most of those commenting haven't dealt with many people IRL. Rarely are things as clear cut as we'd hope they'd be and instead we have to play the cards we've been dealt the best way we can. People may despise Dan in perpetuity (because those people actually can't let go of personal grievances for some reason), but I very much like hearing about how a person like Dan can actually take the time to self reflect and learn from his mistakes. They say time heals all wounds, but without putting in any effort to make sure that healing continues what's the point?
I just hope Dan is like: oh wait I’m actually a spoilt favourite child who wants to take my brothers house by legal and illegal means maybeeee this is unfaiirrr
Don’t hold your breath…
I think to a degree there was a redemption arc, just the willingness to go live in a camper like OP in order to do better for his son shows huge strides in his attitude and how he thinks about himself. Granted, it took being humbled by a cheating wife, which is always sad...
It was fun, how at the end, OP was basically just the narrator, while we followed a villain protagonist, it was pretty cool.
"Just do it for dan and his family" NAWWW THE AUDACITY THEY HAVE THAT IT BROKE MY SCALE. Why do these people exist bruh. ngl if i was him at the first time they come in to his OWN house I'd already press charges🤙
Me too.Op is very kind and a patient man .I could never be that patient
Best ending tbh. Do hope that the family situation will be fully fixed. Seems that Dan is/has come to terms with his shitty past and has genuinely grown as a person, which is always amazingly nice to see
As a child of narcissistic parents and grandparents, this was not hard to believe. What was shocking was the number of people saying they didn't believe it. My parents would gaslight me, saying all families were like ours and that "I should deal with it," like this guy and being young I accepted it.
Yeah, this story is not only believable but also common too. And the most common "character" in the whole story is SIL. The girl that finishes college but then realizes she never wanted to work, tries getting a traditional role but then off shores all of her work load to older generation around kids while still spending money, and especially popping out kids every few years to keep out of work is so common. It's actually so common that it's basically an archetype of a character, instead of "one off", and I personally know few of them. It's really sad when people don't know what they want in life and then end up pulling everyone down with them. If she honestly strived for being a good stay at home mom and used all those years she wasted on college to acquire cooking/cleaning skills and then set out to find a guy who wanted 4-5 kids and such wife, she could've had happy life and make someone's life equally happy. Instead she spent those years acquiring worthless degree she won't use and more horrendously, a lot of ego about it. A lot of people do this and it always results in overall unhappiness around them.
One of the most relieving and depressing things I found out thanks to the internet was the shit I went through wasn't unique and was actually disgustingly common.
because reddit "true stories" are creative writing exercises for ragebaiting at this point, and writing believable fiction is the goal for such a purpose. Characters are archetypal, story follows a perfect arc, with character development and plot twists, happy endings, and most importantly regular updates. The story even opens by addressing the veracity of itself, and keeps insisting it isn't 10 copypasta reddit posts glued together. It could even be inspired by real world events, but it doesn't take Sherlock Holmes to figure this out.
@@MrMrtvozornik getting angry towards a stereotyped fictional character archetype lol. Good old misoginy ragebait reliable as always. Nothing gets the blood of early 20s incels boiling like the portrayal of evil women. Raging foaming at the mouth so much it's dripping down the neckbeard. *chefs kiss* perfection
1. You're white knighting way too hard, watch your back, they might break under all the pressure.
2. It's not fiction because I even said I saw it far too many times, and one's already too many.
3. Work on your profiling, cause early 20s incel is way off. You got gender right, pretty much nothing else, your profiling sucks ass.
And by the way, getting angry at the archetype is precisely what people should do, and normal people do. Hate the sin, not the sinner is also "getting angry towards the archetype". Archetypes is what you build your world view, morals, ideals etc. But you wouldn't know anything about that, since you're parading on the YT defending undefendable people. I could ad hominem you with classic "I hope you grow out of this phase typical for 16-20 year olds" but I won't stoop down to your level of debasement, cause unlike you, when I do talk about a profile or archetype, I don't pull stuff out of my ass. @@professorfrog7181
"we will disown you!"
"yay finally"
Multiple takeaways regarding Dan:
1. Don't live together with your parents after you're married
2. Get your finances together and and figure them out together with your partner
Bro made me smile so hard this story bringed up my mood when he got justice for what he went through and how he overall had a good rest of his life
This story goes to show how public shaming is a good thing. Let society judge you for your character; otherwise, you’ll be stuck in your own narcissistic bubble
Yes, public shaming is nothing more than a reality check. In a world where we are trying to be more civilized and less violent, shame is a great tool to open the eyes of others and lower the rate of degenerate actions caused by others and ourselves.
to an extend public shaming can do some good but with all things if done in excess it causes more harm than good
This new format for updating old stories is really great please keep this. It lets people new to the story catch up and older subscribers get straight to the new updates. Thanks Telltales!
It's nice to get both a recap and an update all in one for one cohesive story.
Agreed
Agreed. I knew the story already but there were some gaps that the first half easily refreshed my memory on.
"You didn't deserve the house and I need a better place to live with MY family" cool, cool. He worked realy hard, buy this house with HIS money, and now he should to give it to you? Nah, only 11 minutes of video and I alredy want put them in jale.
Everyone:
-Do it for Dan
-Crazy ex-SIL
-Family (kinda(?)) redemption arc
-GOAT Camper/boss
Me:
-All of the above
Also me:
-I feel bad for the baby for being stuck with SIL 💀
Yeah, hopefully the baby ends up with a nice foster family or more trustworthy relatives!
How the hell is this man called selfish when he didnt press charges while they have kids he basically showed them all the mercy he could
He sure was merciful
This saga is everywhere. Telltales, R/slash, Charlotte Dobre, READING REDDIT STORIES, who hasn’t checked this story out yet?
I havent checked the story yet
Wait
I recognize the story
Ive checked it out
Honestly one of the best sagas out there :D
I’m glad my brother and I have a good relationship
Op the goat for caring about children that aren’t his
My favorite part of this story is how long the OP spends trying to convince everyone that it's not a combination copy pasta of ten different reddit posts he read.
Like, if it's real or not bro, just tell your story. None of us are here for facts, we're here to be enraged by vaguely believable human nastiness.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I know right 😂
Cringe way to phrase that tho, I feel attached to op and would Ve killed for him, I expected some shady legal action somehow creeping in and him losing his house somehow and I was losing my mind while listening
Not the way I'd phrase it but yeah you're right.
That last part doesn’t make sense, “vaguely believable”? There are many people who are exactly like who the stories are about, some people are trapped with them by relationship or by being the child of said people and have to deal with it until they’re old enough to get the hell out of there
I respect the OP for giving mercy for the sake of the kids. Even if their parents were crap those kids still have a whole life ahead of them. And if anyone says “well the 7 yr old kicked him!” Any child would do that for their mother. Her behavior was all they knew. She had the child wrapped around her finger.
55:04 "probably kept popping out kids to avoid getting a job" 😭😭
"He's smart. He just chose to be stupid." How often I needed that phrase in my life.
Also, when Dan called himself, "The prick I used to be." I thought it'd be interesting to see a movie character like him because the way he changes is so dynamic.
Frankly, OP was a better person than I would ever be.
I would've cut ties with someone like Dan, never help him nor even be friendly.
Because notice how Dan never apologized for being shitty towards OP, he only called himself "shitty" as in his taste for women.
He never applogized for acting haughty, for being evil, for acting entitled...he's still too prideful.
Tbh I'd never trust or love them again
That is true, but Im hopeful that words of apology, taking responsibility and repair will come in time. But maybe like his father he also needs to develop new behaviours to connect with his brother in a healthy way. When growing up you learn different patterns and as long as they work all is fine and dandy.
Problem begins when it turns out these patterns aren't good in the long run, but without alternatives you will repeat the old patterns out of lack of choice.
Therapy is an important part to help people with this no matter if they are the abuser of the abused. I've worked with plenty of people that have experienced abused, helping them finding their own maladaptive behaviors and then learning to break them and create adaptive behaviours.
It's not easy, but it is possible. And when it comes to anger management progress can often be surprisingly fast just by getting one or two alternatives to blowing up in anger and getting a basic understanding of where the anger comes from.
I’m pretty sure he said “I’m a terrible person with a shitty taste in women” no?
@@h1vezer That's an admission, not an apology.
To apologize you have to *at the very least* say "I'm sorry".
@@FlipTheBardyou don’t really have to and i’m not sure sorry would have persuaded OP in any way other than just wanting to hear it.
I am so glad he’s healing, and he’s actually so inspiring to be forgiving and empathetic but not forgetting what was done to him in the past.
Idk like 95% of this could have been avoided if OP stopped being a doormat. wouldn't call it inspiring as much as I would call it naive
@@Hanzo1 Tf kind of perspective is this? He was always silenced by his parents whenever he tried to say something even so as to moving as far away from family to keep up that behavior.
@@Ratio429fella, that's exactly what a doormat does. Do you even know what a doormat does? Retiring back when faced with opposition instead of confronting it fearlessly
@@seige8621 You do realize they are his parents right? What are you implying what he should have done? What would you have done?
@@Hanzo1 he’s been the opposite of a doormat for the whole story, unless you mean when he was a literal child
“It also makes a good guest house” 😂😂😂
narcissistic personality disorder is usually caused by being neglected in their childhood or developing mental illnesses or learning it from their own parents. While it not an excuse for their actions, it just explains why Narcissists exist.
Shoutout to the Employers who let him park the camper in the backlot, man. Without them, not only would we not have gotten this amazing story, but OP's family would never have seen "That Bitch" for who she truly is. I'm glad reconsiliation is in the cards for the family, and I truly feel apologetic for Dan, who likely experienced some form of Ego Death through all of the revelations that occurred throughout the story (ranging from reading the perspective of his older brother through the reddit posts, seeing how his Ex-Wife manipulated and took advantage of his previous narcissism, down to her outright cheating and then blaming his older brother, and everything in between). Things seem to be looking positive, and from there, as much as I want an update to keep my drama-driven brain satisfied, I actually REALLY hope that we don't get any more updates, because ending off where we are now, no news is good news, aside from the car egging situation.
This is the type of man aspire to be forgiving, but not forgetful. Empathetic and willing to mend fences.
“I’m surprised that the baby doesn’t get drunk” best roast ever
I love how it has a happy ending (as happy it could be with his family that is)
Man...I heard this story originally from R/Slash and I had NO idea the SIL had gone so far off the deep end. And to be honest, OP deserves WAY way better than what he got in terms of parents and siblings. If this had been me, I probably would not have gone as far as OP did if those kids weren't a factor. Either way...glad to see this Saga come to a decent ending. Hopefully this is the last time we have to worry about the ex-Psycho-In-Law.
Exactly! Pity to narcisist thieves? Nah, not even kids would save from the court cases lol
Nah SIL is not just far off the deep end she’s in the Mariana trench.
@@joaop4585 I get your point, but at the same time, they are technically innocent and still young. If Dan and SIL had gone to jail that day, those kids would be in the foster system or at best with the grandparents. It's a no-win scenario for them, and to be honest the way the story went with Dan actually getting his act together really shows how much people can change if given the right push.
Like Dan could be salvaged to a degree because being the golden child isn't his fault, he was basically groomed to be a piece of shit by his parents, and at least he shows remorse now to a degree and admits he's terrible. It's the parents who should never be forgiven as they fully chose to be awful to the point they chose to move away from the family because everyone was calling them on being awful parents.
@@NinjaTyler A fair point. It's not 100% Dan's fault, but at the same time, he's still got a lot to make up for, so I think if Dan hadn't changed, yeah I would say something has to give one way or another. And I agree. If the parents really can't change, let them sort their own problems out. The father especially. He was such a dick to OP that he doesn't even know how to treat the poor guy since he can't enable Dan's BS anymore.
Hearing this story i realise how much childhood trauma effects a person.....this man even after all this wishes for parental love you can just feel it as how soft he is toward his shit brother's kids
Parents are the gods of our lives and create who we become.
Once you hit a certain age you realize how the smallest of things done and not done can DRASTICALLY alter one's life.
[ small looking back, and objectively small incidents not just subjective. Yet for some reason they are magnified from small actualities into huge life changing phenomenon. It is indeed wierd ! ]
When he said ' oh and sl is off have a tantrum in my front lawn' got me😂😂
52:34 got me good. "Dan said he did a 'me' and laughed maniacally". Man, this story captivated me a lot more than I thought
I find it hilariously convenient for Dan and the parents that the second SIL turned out be an enemy, that suddenly it's was "all her fault" and they wouldn't have done any of it if it wasn't for her
Yeah, lying through their teeth and using her as a scapegoat to try and repair the damage they'd caused
exactly, they got “nicer” because they realized they couldn’t abuse Op as before. I bet when they see op vulnerable or when he gets a partner, they’ll drop their masks.
Sometimes certain people are a terrible influence on others
@@SpikastruNo, I was like him, scarey close, but when I grew up , I became the stronger , smarter, and the provider for my wife and kids, I was to strong and confident after awhile to be stepped on or used, so unfortunately they latched on harder. I do love them, but they'll never get a dime from me, or anything else, but they have my reputation to use, being my family can get them far, so being nice to me is needed, because if I dint like them or they do me wrong, and people find out, they'll lose jobs , favor , and 'friendships, which i dount they are anyone's friends , they use people.
It's funny, they never thought their ugly, runt, who was always afraid of everything, while my brothers from the second husband were bigger , faster learners and more popular, would turn out to be a handsome , hardworking , respected and loved person lol. Their abuse formed me into what I am, I never wanted anything from anyone, I spent my time learning and working out, learning martail arts , but they didn't knkw I left when I was 14 and figured the world out, and as mean as the world can be , it was never as hard as that home was, and in fact people who had nothing, people the world hated and frowned on, helped me, people with no homes, drug problems and criminal records raused me, looked out for me, taught me skills and to be better then them! Now thats where I find my workers , my loyal and trusted friends. My business started with nothing but me and a shovel, broom, and a push cart, now I have 20 employees, many trucks and tons of equipment, and part timers at many points of the year, I have cots set up for the guys , and lady, still working to get a place in the shop, my family is the bottom of the world, because the heavy hearts sink the farthest down, I'm just smart enough to go pull them back up, like those who did it for me.
@@SpikastruI’m really disappointed with op. After the house shenanigan, he should have blocked their numbers and done one or both of these things, A) take a self defense class like BJJ or MMA and B) Sell the house and move to a lower cost state with a higher paying job.
@@CriticalPopulistAnarchisti get why you'd feel that way but it's clear op is sticking around for the kiddos who def don't deserve the parents or dan...
This would make a great movie ngl. “The Camper,” I’d pay to see that
Am I The A-Hole: The Movie
You guys are missing the obvious choice: Do It For Dan
@@sonamy5000 Damn
Thats a good one @@sonamy5000
@@gtdc4685 *Dan
I come back to this story once a month because it's just so great haha
This is the most despicable thing i have ever heard. What awful parents and siblings. Im so sorry you went through this.
The real goat in this story is really the boss of whoever wrote this story
It's highly amusing how people think that going to church makes them better people.
I agree, but at least it shows their effort if they truly believe so. It seems that their behavior is getting better so theres no harm in going 🤷♀️
The act itself no. But depending on the person it could help them take a look at themselves and try to change for the better. They have to make an effort though.
I view the infant/early stages of going back to church as some form of seeking redemption. I also view the routine of habitually attending as a way to judge of whether one wants to be truly redeemed, or to claim moral superiority.
There are two types of people that go to church. Those who are genuinely good people, know that they sin through simply being human and aspire to be better than they were the day before. They help everyone around them and try to make everyone around them be as comfortable as possible. Then there are people like OP's family. They know they are wicked people and are unrepentant. They know where they are going when they die and they are hoping keeping up appearances will earn them a spot. I'm more like a combination of OP and the former. I don't like going to church because I'm surrounded by protestants and they freak me out. That said, I try to treat everyone around me with kindness and if I can help, I will. I don't have very much, but that will never stop me from offering someone a place to stay, literally offer the shirt off my back or offer someone something to eat or drink. I'm not looking for validation or praise, just offering my two cents. God will ultimately judge me in the end.
Some people do it like that, and as others said for some people it can be the first step of introspection. In this case it seems to be the latter since they seem to make efforts to change behaviours and take responsibility.
Just talking about these things with people from the outside is important in situations like these, both for the ones doing the abusing and the ones being abused. Without an external frame of reference just about anything could be considered normal. Which is why I can see the progress of wakeup that OP describes. It rarely happens fast and all at once, often there is a build up and then it can come a tipping point where things suddenly happen fast. Kinda like bending a piece of twig where there's a lot of nothing happening on the surface but tension is building up inside until it finally snaps.
MVP to the officer who threatened to charge them with littering after they tore up the fake papers. 😂
From an antagonist to a friend of the protagonist....
Thats honestly surprising
ngl, at this point it's utterly silly how often the folks in this story constantly *threaten* to press charges, but only ever do so after the 127th threat
He already explained he didn't do it because of Dan's kids.
Previously if he had SIL and Dan were a package deal. If he pressed charges against Dan he'd lose his job and probably never get one as good again.
That would ruin the future of the 4 kids.
As soon as they're apart though? Nothing stopping OP.
@@kittikats the grandparents could have always taken care of the kids. That is what happens when their children are failures - they get to try again.
@@TJackson736 taken care of, sure. But they all live in the same house.
Dan in jail = far less money for the household.
Dan in jail = grandpa working until death and hope he isn't forced into retirement.
Normally I would NEVER say this but...are those kids actually okay being raised by parents like that? Because yeah you feel bad for the kids but whatever fall out that happens were conscious decisions made by the parents because of their own arrogance and not because of the kids. Not once we're those kids actually thought about.
“You’ll be disowned for this!!”
“Pinkie swear on it?”
I never been this interested in reddit story. I don't even care its true or not, its written well. I really liked whole story
This was the most emotional Film i've never seen.
Thanks OP for sharing and GL for your life
Oh my god... Dan got a redemption arc. I can't believe it. I agree that his wife's infidelity and seeing himself as a youtube caricature acting out his horrific behaviors was enough of a punishment for him, especially since it was paired with actual effort to be better. But the the wicked bitch of the east (SIL) hasn't quite fallen far enough from grace for me to be satisfied. At least she doesn't get to inflict her horrible, unchanged personality on those kids anymore. I'm glad this story had a good ending overall :)
Good for OP! Glad he finally got the house he deserves after all that work and pain, what a blessing that boss was fr
No lie, the guy said no to giving his brother money and co-signing but he STILL gave him valuable budgeting advice.
“”I have more respect for shit stains on a gas station urinal” than I do for SIL.” - a wise man
saaaaaaaaaaaaaammmmmmmmee!!!
The fact OP lent his brother his the camper in the end, just out of his brother's decision to put his son first legit made my faith on humanity get a bit better
Poster is a saint for keeping parents out of jail
Hope someday the redemption arc for Dan comes full circle with him and OP going on a camping trip in the Camper
At least Dan been humbled enough to do some good. For once. And dear lord, this video has had me on roller-coaster for the past few hours.
"The boss who extended a lifeline to OP, providing a safe haven to rebuild, is truly an unsung hero. Despite being on call 24/7, OP found contentment in his situation. It's heartening to see things turning around positively for OP."
Lord this was a full movie. With twists and character arcs
A lot of CZcamsrs and podcasts covered this story, because it’s crazy how Op parents, sister in law and brother could basically treat Op like a boomerang whenever they need something but never give Op anything in return.
No they do. They've given him so much trauma and disappointment.
People only treat you how you allow them to. his childhood cant be helped but as an adult if he just put his foot down, pressed charges and went no contact most of this could have been avoided. at a certain point you are responsible for how others treat you
@@Hanzo1 Considering that they showed up at his house, drilled through his lock to replace it with their own, then barricaded themselves in his house until the police arrived, I don't think merely pressing charges would've helped much.
I want to watch them can you tell me the podcast?
@@liamdell6319let’s see, trespassing and destruction of property. Another charge is distributing the peace.
I just want to hug him so badly for going through the first part of his life like that. I wish he had known the love and warmth parents should give to their children.
" you dont need jail for revenge" ohhh its about to get real soon
And Dan being in the camper means his parents still have to look after the kids..
I KNEW IT !! Sil must be having affair , the gaslighting , the guild trip even the harsh talk about moving her inlaws to a camper . Thats really a classic narcist behavior and sign of a cheater .. good scott!
Especially with the fact that she’s not working. She loves being pampered I wouldn’t be shocked if one of those kids is not dans
*Narcissist is the correct grammar. People who throw that word around recklessly without understanding the definition always spell it wrong. 😊
I disagree with OP about not needing to have his brother and SIL arrested for their trespasses because the kids didn't deserve to see their parents in cuffs. The grandparents would have taken the kids + the kids would have learned a valuable lesson that you can't trespass and act upon someone without their consent. A lesson their parents clearly aren't ever going to teach them!
The amount of the stress I had to feel throughout the story, I feel very sorry for the guy who had to live with these leaches.
This story had me triggering and boiling with rage all the way. If I was in OP's place, I would have made sure that the minute the family stepped into my house, I would have had all of them arrested instantly and a vast spew of insults would be flying out of my mouth and on to them.
So this is for anyone living out of their car or homeless: there are gas stations (at least in Canada) that have showers for truckers. It's usually 10 dollars, but it's better than nothing.
Same in the US
Some of the gym memberships are cheap and have shower facilities. Your milage may vary.
I hope this story is real, I'd like to believe that there are still people out there as respectable as the OP
unlikely but it's still a pretty good story.
@@lonewanderer8743 No its real
Definitely not real
@@frozezone2947 A lot of these stories are fake.
Real or not, quite a story to hear!
That 7 year old kid is gonna have some crazy lore
So proud of you for standing up for yourself. I've learned that we have to treat ourselves as number one because no else will and you deserve the best. Thank you for sharing your post with everyone. It was truly amazing.
Oh boy... I had read this story before, up to the point of the family begging OP to help Dan get a house. I was not expecting such a turnaround.
I'm glad that piece of garbage woman is gone from their lives and that the family managed to mend things to a degree. What a wholesome ending.
Welp, not fully out of Dan's life, but at least OP finally has some lasting peace
The thing that got me was his dad just looking all empty at OP when he broke things down.
I've met my fair share of shitty parents. A part of me wants to believe the dad wanted to be proud of how his least favorite son got on his feet, but knew he had no right because he was a big cause of his son's difficulties.
That was quite the emotional rollercoaster. Poor Op. I bet he'll live happy if he never hears the words... "Do it for Dan" again.
I love how the OP and Dan started to bond more toward the end. I hope that Dan can really come to his senses and step up and be a dad as well as a son/brother
Even if this is fake this is a damn good story. Dan is like a DBZ villain with a rise, downfall, and then redemption arc.
Hello and I agree I just finished this
Prince Vegeta
The fact that he still had sympathy for his brother shows how adult he is. I have a big family consisting of 7 sisters and 2 brothers and a brother and sister in Germany who I don’t speak to and I find it incredibly hard to get along with them so the fact that he is able to communicate and speak his thoughts makes me believe that I can too