How to stop feeling anxious about anxiety | Tim Box | TEDxFolkestone
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What if it turned out that anxiety isn’t actually our enemy? What if we suddenly realised our fear was trying to help us? What would happen if we stopped trying to fight anxiety and embraced it as a trusted friend?
Tim Box is a therapist, author and anxiety expert, and in his youth experienced debilitating levels of social anxiety.
Tim has spent a large part of the last 10 years helping people understand and control their anxiety response and at some point during the last decade he started to get the distinct impression that most people dealing with anxiety were thinking about it in entirely the wrong way.
In this talk Tim explains why we need to think about anxiety differently, why the help we are being offered often exacerbates the problem, and how a very simple shift in the way we think about our own emotional responses can free us from our diagnoses and help us all feel a lot less anxious about anxiety. Tim is a remedial hypnotist and mind management expert. He helps people get back in control of the way they think, feel and behave.
Having overcome his own social anxiety in the past, he now specialises in treating anxiety issues. In 2017 he published his first book; Clear Your Head: The simple guide to enjoying your life without anxiety getting in the way. This went on to become an Amazon number 1 bestseller in its category. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Does anyone else at the end of panicking just cry because you wish you could just be normal
Legit
Mee! I honestly feel like im dying when i get a panic attack🙁 it's the worst feeling. Nothing compares to that.
Please look up the YT channel Vacate Fear. He cured himself and I am in the progress myself ☘️
@@infinitylux197 you are normal, anxiety is your brain trying to steer you away from a situation which means its trying to help you, there is nothing wrong with having anxiety it is normal and you can learn to control it
I had one today while driving and couldnt go back home and i have a very beautiful daughter 1 Y/o and still couldnt control myself for her im sad im deff not happy with my life i guess being single mom
To whoever dealing with this. IT WILL GET BETTER. I promise you that. You are not going crazy. U will not die because of it. U will be better. Focus on not being scared of the symptoms rather than focusing on getting rid of it. Change whatever can be changed. What can’t just say screw it and move on. It takes a little bit of time but ur effort will show later not right away. Be patient and strong. When u overcome this, u will be wayyyyy stronger than before. Much love and I wish you to be happier than ever
Thank you for taking the time to type this
Jazakallah khair
thank you very much for sharing this. much love
Yo fr I’m so much better already I can’t believe I’m that smart hahah
thankkkkkkkkkkkk youu xxx
everyone who is struggling daily with anxiety, you are not alone. let's try and do our best no longer to suffer from it but embrace it.
Can someone explain me more. Are we just counting 5 to 1. Or we are doing something else?
I just want to stop “remembering” the word anxiety every second! It feels scary to have such a word that causes unwanted feelings on your body on your head all the time!!!!
@@shammaalhosani9490have you tried subconscious rewiring to release your anxiety and beliefs that aren’t serving you ? I can help if you want to know more 😊
@@saminarazaque7478hello! I would like to know more please
@@saminarazaque7478yes, I’d like to know more about that please.
Anxiety has taken over my life lately. I can’t even do little tasks. Watching this video makes me feel better. Even though I just want to be normal again. I won’t give up my battle & one day I’ll look back and laugh at this little bump in my life. Best wishes to everyone and their battle !!
Exact same thing happening to me
Same here, been a little over 2 weeks with extreme anxiety for no reason…
@@elisamiguel2826 same. But you got this 💪🏼
I have been the same way for the past 6 months. It hasn't been easy. I find myself having panic attacks every day. I'm afraid of every possible situation or scenario and sometimes I don't even know why. It's just constant anxiety, and as this video states I've become fearful of anxiety itself. But dont worry friend, we will get through this! Keep your head up!
I know how you feel. I’ve been in the same boat as of late. But make no mistake - we are normal! Just look through all the comments on this single video. We all experience the emotion that is anxiety. You will overcome and get to the place you want to be
I needed this. I needed this so bad. I woke up this morning feeling so anxious and had to run to bathroom and had a whole mental breakdown. I’ve been suffering for so long and I just want anybody reading this to know that I stand with you I understand how it feels, and we will get through anxiety together. I feel so much better after watching this.
Amen! I had a full blown panic attack driving! I been in tears over this! My anxiety makes me paralyzed! Prayers that you are feeling better!
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I hope your feeling better 🙏
same happened to me today :(
How is it going with u?
I feel anxious cuz I’m worried about being anxious
M.m7 7 exactly the same bro, ur not the only one
Me too. Especially when in public
Yes i feel anxious worrying about being anxious..i don't want this feeling
I feel the exact same. Although I am glad I am not alone in this feeling I am sad about it at the same time. We cant get rid of it but we can be in control. You have to work to learn to live with it just as you would learn to do anything else. Take care everyone. Always reach out. Xxx
@@deepikakakkar1912 It's the worst!
To all those watching this video for their mental health, in case no one tells you today, just know you’re not alone (a lot of us are here for the same reasons) and you’re doing an amazing job getting on top of your mental health. And you should be proud of yourself for doing so. I hope you have an amazing day, and know we’re all here with you :)
Thanks man, we're in this together
Ima take this with me to my interview, thank you 🙏
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PRAISE OUR LORD JESUS HE IS WAITING TO HEAL YOU!! ❤️❤️❤️✝️✝️✝️
Thanks very much for supporting and being with us
i feel the hardest part of anxiety, is knowing you have it, everyday you wake up and are waiting and waiting for that one moment your anxiety will spike. which ends up making the whole situation way worse.
The phrase"do not be afraid" is written in the bible 365 times in the Bible
That's a daily reminder from God to live every day being fearless.
I hope this will help too:
“When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul.”
Psalm 94:19
"Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you."
1 Peter 5:7
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Matthew 6:34
Ask God for help..
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God."
Philippians 4:6
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Matthew 6:34
"Say to those who have an anxious heart, 'Be strong; fear not! Behold, your God will come with vengeance, with the recompense of God. He will come and save you.' "
Isaiah 35:4
"And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?"
Matthew 6:27
A tip for the mornings… ‘The part of you that checks in on the symptoms is the part of you that creates them!’
Yep subconscious is dangerous when u think about it 24/7
Thank you so much for all the comments here.
I'm so pleased the talk is helping and people are finding the ideas of value.
Can you share a video on medical anxiety issues..
Amazing speech!! The crew analogy was really helpful! I hope to remember it everytime i start feeling anxious and hopefully I won´t reach such high levels of it anymore. Thank you!
Oh Tim... I’m sitting here in tears because your talk just totally transformed my thinking about my struggle with anxiety, that I’ve had my whole life. I’ve never thought to just befriend it and be kind to my crew. You have blessed me in ways you’ll never know! Thank you so so much....
Thanks for the speech i accept anxiety as part of my life as of this moment god bless you i feel so much better Tim Box
I'm a doctor and I feel hypochondriac and start diagnosing myself with various illnesses.
You made me look at anxiety from a completely new perspective.
I am thankful to you and will be preaching your message forward to anyone who feels like they have anxiety disorder.
Thank you so much!
“Anxiety is not an illness...it’s an emotion.” One of the most powerful things I’ve ever heard. Thank you for posting this beautiful video.
True
It's not an emotion, it's a disorder. And it is a disorder that can be re-ordered. Emotions are feelings, they're there as a barometer of how you feel, yet Anxiety is an issue that can be fixed.
@@ZiloBalo i dont think you watched the video at all
@@princesstoni8116 I did
@@ZiloBalo word your gonna make people worry more
It is exhausting to constantly feel like I need to be scared or frustrated by something. I want my mind to stop. I want to be free of this weight. I want to sleep. When I sleep I am not anxious.
Sending love, support and encouragement to every human that reads this. You got this. You are smashing life. People in your life love you and are proud of you. Never forget that.
Idk if you're doing better now. I hope you found a therapist, but Tim Box the guy in this video has a channel called Tim Box: Mind Coach and he gives very in depth discussions on many aspects of Anxiety to help you understand your symptoms. Everyone in this field will tell you once you understand this disorder you get control
this comment. Thank you so much
Dunno why people always think drugs are the answer.
If you use psilocybin, dmt or lsd wrong. You will suffer so badly.
I know because I've been there and I didn't even take a massive dosage. They made my problems worse.
I am feeling this to a T right now and all I want is sleep because It makes me calm and relaxed. I also want my mind to stop because that’s what makes me anxious and I can’t shut it off. It feels good to not be alone.
Also the way you say you feel the need to be scared of something is so real
Two years later I'm coming back to this video to say THANK YOU. I suffered from anxiety and panic attacks, really doubting I would ever recover a normal life. This video helped me a lot on my journey, I remember watching it alone in my room and regaining a brief dose of hope in this nightmare. I made it, all people can I guess, I applied exactly what was said in the video, just that, embracing the anxiety, I decided to talk to my crew with kindness.
In one or two months it was gone and this nightmare I lived has become one of my greatest victory in life that I'm proud of. Thanks a lot Tim Box, I don't know why it took me two years to come back here and post this comment :) To all those struggling with it: keep hope, don't give up you'll make it!
Thanks for you encouragement with your testimony! I though I was free from anxiety, but here I am again
@@Mstwotimesmesounds like you're still looking at it like its a big bad monster coming to get you
Thanks for the Hope
@@bharathipari4623 everyone can return to normal levels. Thats the anxiety talking when it says there's no hope or that you're gonna be stuck like this forever. Don't believe it
@@chaoswraith ❤️❤️🙏
What a powerful speech. I was in tears because I realized I just needed to make peace with myself before anything.
SAME
Me 2
Watch 10 myths about anxiety it is really good
That's true..
Same
1. Refuse to believe it's an illness.
2. You are the captain.
3. Listen to your crew. They are trying to say something.
4. Talk to yourself with kindness and positivity.
5. Accept it.
But what are they trying to say? I don't understand my anxiety at all and it wont leave me alone.
@@crococatcreative learn how to pay attention and get out of the comments. Your anxiety is meant to not leave you alone, it is apart of everyone that helps you decide between right and wrong
@@battlewithintraining after u listen to your crew what orders to we give to the crew
Thank you !
"4. Talk to yourself with kindness and positivity" is something i needed to read today
He really just made me reevaluate my entire hatred against myself and my anxiety. It's 1am in the morning and I've never felt more alive and at ease. Thank you so much for making me realize that my anxiety is not a sickness I have to get rid of. It feels like a whole mountain of stones just got lifted off my chest. My anxiety is my friend giving me advice that I can choose to take or not. So much love to you, Tim Box.
Soooo one week update?? 😬
@@stephenl2571 ong 😭
Yeah same entire new perspective of anxiety, at 1 am lol
Been a year now. How is it now?
I agree, don’t be afraid of anxiety…it’s just an emotion. However, be careful not to take the “thought” that goes along with it at face value, especially if you suffer from OCD or panic disorder. You can’t always believe the narrative the mind plays.
Does that mean i can't deal with anxiety if i have ocd ?
@@mycom310 Yes, anyone can deal with anxiety. Accept the “emotion” and let the body process it. Dismiss the fearful “thought” that came with it…it serves no purpose since it’s nothing but fear.
@@GenXer82 Thank you very much !!!
From all my google searches over the years, I've always thought of anxiety as the enemy... the cause for my low self-esteem, the reason why I failed in things I tried doing... but after listening, I cried because I realised I am the reason for my thought patterns, I am the one who puts myself down, who tells myself that I am unlovable, that I am not smart enough or skilled enough to make it out in my career. When you talked about being kind to ourselves, to make peace, to actually listen to our crew instead of trying to lock them away and hide... it made sense. I used to think anxiety was a disorder, but now I realise chronic anxiety is just a result of an emotion that has tried to take over the ship because the captain has lost control. I am the captain, and I need to take back control by being kind to myself, by listening and by telling myself I am good enough.
Beautiful comment. Keep on positive change-making, my friend.
God bless you friend
I cried reading. Suffering from chronic anxiety. Fighting alone
@@qhhh4189 Change is possible, my friend. Read into something called cognitive behavioural therapy. You can get books on it that can turn you into your own therapist.
@@qhhh4189 hang in there. I find asking my anxiety what it needs me to hear is sometimes all it takes for it to reduce. it will pass. all things pass, good and difficult. it WILL pass.
“A ship in the harbor is safe...but that’s not what ships are built for”
Love that
Beautiful
But if the ship's captain is tired of life, should it set sail?
Wanted to share some thing that I heard once… “ anxiety and excitement are the same feeling in the body “…
When I get anxious I try to tell myself that I’m just excited and it seems to calm me down almost immediately. It feels like life is all about perception. Thank you much love ❤️
excellent way of looking at things
That’s so true
I second that. Excellent way of having another perspective on this INTENSE sympathetic nervous system we have!
I guess I could try to see the insomnia/bodily symptoms /etc as Christmas Eve. I couldn't sleep because of the family morning that awaited. So it's a mindshift to a degree. Flip the switch from terror and exhaustion to enjoying a sense of anticipation (...of life).
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Anxiety and panic attacks have taken over my life over the last 2 months. I am struggling to leave the house and function normally. It’s calming to read so many comments of similar situations! Keep pushing through. I have been through this before and I know it’ll get better.
Same, for years I self medicated with alcohol which worked well for the longest time but now its actually making it worse.
I feel like owe this comment an update: I started medication (Lexapro) 40 days ago and it has forever changed my life. Between that and just forcing myself out, I am a completely new person and can confidently say I’m 95% my old self again. You got this!!!
@@AdamLegendsFF they started me on that as well 2 weeks ago. They said it would take a month to start to work. I have been having horrible impacts of the anxiety (loss of appetite and I cant sleep more than 4-5 hours a night) so hope to get some relief soon) glad you are feeling better.
Am struggling with the same for the past 2 months. I even throwup when anxious
@@smcc839 alcohol made the anxiety worse? It's the only thing I've turned to
U r not the voice inside your head. U r the one who hears it.
Yo that's fuckin crazy
Blew my mind
Your true self. Sunny Sharma has bunch of awesome videos on this topic. Who am I?
get a grip
@Obob Obob you can't cure herpes simplex, HIV or cancer. We simply don't know how yet, so stop luring vulnerable individuals into your scam.
This calmed the anxiety. It calmed me. Im in literal tears, because I went to sleep feeling anxious and woke up some hours ago (in the middle of the night) still anxious. And in 18 minutes, this man helped me calm, and accept anxiety as part of me. Now I accept that I have health anxiety, and it's perfectly fine. Remember you are not alone in this. You are not dieing, although everything in your mind is telling you do. You are stronger than what you think. I love you, even though I don't know you, be ause you are perfect the way you are. I'll try to sleep now. I hope everyone can calm and breathe well :)
Your comment brought tears to my eyes thank you so much I finally don't feel alone
@@tayveeslimeslatt2557 aww you are not alone at all sweetie! Hope you are doing fine today 💙
Wow i mean i knew people suffer with anxiety but i never knew this many did it definitely makes me feel at ease knowing there is more than just the odd few that suffer as now it makes me feel like its healthy to feel this way
Your mind isnt telling you are dying its protecting you ok say you were scared of something and ran or fought with the feeling you made the brain realise there was a threat and this makes the brain automatically activate the flight or fight response when you dont face the anxiety and fear this makes you sensitised only way to recovery is letting the body do what it wants and not fear it, it is only protecting you not killing you when you keep doing this you tell the brain or let it know that you are safe and in time you never get scared
Hope you're doing better :)
Mushrooms did wonders in my life. I was diagnosed with cptsd since my teenage, spent my whole life fighting cptsd. Also suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. This is something that really need to be use globally to help people with similar health challenges.
Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here
Can you help me with the reliable source. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Spain. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.
YES very sure of Dr.raymycology. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Ive done shrooms last month in my house. It taught me how severely traumatized I was from alcohol. I healed from many mental traumas from my past and was able to forgive, let go. Shrooms to me is a remedy not a vice. I even felt more refreshed the morning after. So no hangovers. No depression mood for days. No anxiety.l now have a more calm mind
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
The fear of anxiety is itself a problem, anxiety might sound like nothing to those who don't suffer from it but it creeps up slowly and can grow like a snowball being rolled on the ground becoming larger. Anxiety can make a person reclusive, jobless, have no relationship/partner, damage social circles and damage social and interactive skills, its a major problem in the modern era which nobody takes seriously until they experience it themselves or someone close to them goes through it.
its called meta anxiety or "Anxiety of having anxiety", its a very common type of anxiety, its like a loop cycle anxious thought,
Hello to the person that’s reading this... I hope you are doing well even if you are struggling with anxiety. Just know you are not alone. 💖
been Expeeiencing Insomnia anxiety panic attacks....GOD bless😇😇😇😇🙏
Thank you :)
Hey, Thanks
@@chamiracampos3427 Thankyou so muchhh
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I started suffering with panic attacks about 6 months ago and it feels like anxiety is dominating my life at this point. I feel like I can't do anything because I am so busy focusing on not being anxious. I hope everyone is doing well and knows that we can all get through this together!
Everything will get better :)
Chilling out, Take some action. Reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly they will reduce and relax the mind. Deep inhalation-exhalation is not needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
So have you watched the video above?
Man its the exact same thing for me. Hope things are better for you and that they’ll get better for me
Same my first panic attack started on 15 May 2022 it was scary and intense till now i have this anxious feeling that won’t fade away but i guess i have to live with it i found out that trying to get rid of it makes more worse
I thought I was alone in being anxious about my anxiety. It just makes everything harder, I’m getting anxious about my health and see myself having a ruined life. I find this aspect of anxiety the hardest, because this overall anxiety feeling is hard to understand. However, I realise that I’m the captain of my ship and now I will start to treat my crew with trust and love. Guys, if we are watching this video, we are alive and bothered about our mental health which is great! We are not ill, we are simply alive and we’ll have hard but super great lives! Love y’all ❤️
How's is it now??
Alina. please check out Dr Caroline Leaf's channel here on YT.
Yep
Guys, Don't fight the negative anxious thoughts. Accept them for what they are - thoughts. Anxiety disorder is the fear of feeling anxious, so acceptance is the first step as avoidance and fighting is fear of anxiety! Even when you are paralyzed, accept it, feel the feelings as bad as they are and let it run through your body.
Stop scrollin down and focus on this damn masterpiece
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Damn, busted 🤚
my bad
Whoopsie, thanks for this!
no
Accurate. I feel like anxiety isn’t an issue until you identity the anxiety as anxiety. Until about a year ago, I never really cared and I was never very stressed. I used to interpret anxiety as, “hey I need to do something.” Then all the sudden I was like, “hey I’m feeling anxious so I need to do something to get rid of it.” Which makes me more anxious because my goal isn’t to accomplish my task, it’s to actively try to get rid of the anxiety
thats exaclty how i feel!! these past couple weeks i have just been stressing and becoming more anxious over simply the thought of anxiety and its all i think about at all times. i dont feel anxious at all times but i start to stress about the next time i do get these feelings again and i dont know how to deal with it... i try to get out more but then that makes the anxiety worse.
@@anna-ew9fy Avoid your fears and they will grow, move towards them and they will subside, it takes practice and I no it sounds scary but ask your brain for more anxiety tell it to give you its best shot.....it can't hurt you roll the red carpet out for it... give it the so what I'm not bothered attitude and it will sunmbside
Sam Walker great advice! thank you.
I feel the same way! A few days I read an article online about symptoms of anxiety and they matched mine (I was actually diagnosed with acid reflux). So I started feeling anxious of having anxiety when before that, I never stressed about it. These days, the thought of having anxiety sometimes makes me wake up in the middle of the night and that makes it worse. Still working on it. Does anyone else have this problem?
world국 yuuuuuup being anxious is the worst feeling so i also get anxiety about eventually having to feel that again, it’s so bizarre. worrying about something is also a worry on it’s own ?!
"Anxiety is not an illness, anxiety is an emotion and every emotion is important and every emotion has a purpose" that hit me hard!
This video was so powerful.
I am literally in tears. He broke down everything so well. life changing, I swear. Anxiety is not a illness it is a emotion and to who ever is going through it no that you are not alone. We are in this together. And we will come out stronger.
We are not all in this together - so stop with this jumping on the ban wagon b s~
You must be fun at parties
@@tweedpenguin712 lol I am
this title gave me anxiety. for a week I've had non stop panic attacks and my body has been on like a 24/7 flight or fight mode. i look forward to not feeling like this soon and i am dedicated to learning all the ways i can stop it. if you're going through something similar, know you're not alone and we can get through this. we are strong.
You can get thru it too. Thanks for your comment
Same here mine cause by the cruel menopause and still going through
I keep having reoccurring panic attacks I want it to end it’s the scariest feeling
Yes maam! We got this
Anxiety paired to a constant feeling of Fight or Flight ?
I do not mean to tell you what to do or to even tell you what you might have, but .... maybe... ADHD or something similar?
I hope you are feeling better :)
And I’m having anxiety listening to this
I get that feeling to. I find myself getting anxiety just watching someone do something publicly. And I'm not even on the stage!!!! DA FUQ!!!!! :(
@@jeffreymercado2082 same here
We need a chat room for the here under individuals
I'm scared that if I get scared about something as small as homework how will I overcome the rest of my life , first of all I'm really young if I tell my parents they'll just think I'm joking or something and because I'm young I haven't experienced bigger things yet and I'm......
Scared will I be able to take this harsh world
I'm sorry I just wanted to tell this to someone and I can finnally let it out if you read this till the end thanks for listening to my feelings it makes me feel like someone knows my situation and I don't feel like there's a fire instide me I can't let out ❤️
heather gilmore yesssss
Being an anxious person, i have seen hundreds of videos about anxiety & this is the best one i must say. I cried while watching it & i wish all of other people who are suffering from anxiety would watch this and apply this in their life...
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This thought process definitely works. It worked for me. You’ll have flare ups. But like he said, that’s fine. No one is perfect.
That's exactly how I feel. It's like why am I anxious about being anxious then anxiety levels go up. It all started with something I never experience before and I think something is wrong
I feel the same way :(
Tiffany smith-Nesbitt same it’s do horrible and I hate it but we jus have to stop overthinking
Nothing's wrong. Many people feel the same way. You'll get over it, and once you do, edit your comment and tell us how you managed it.
@@deepchatterjee6325 I'm learning and it's getting better. I'm learning some things are out of my control. I can only do my best.
@@tiffany84318 Yeah you surely can! This period is absolutely horrible tho- sitting at home and having too much time just messes up with our thought process. I'd recommend you to keep busy and active. Hope things get better for you. You'd need to be patient tho. Rewiring our thoughts do take a little bit of time:)
I had an anxiety attack and after calming down I searched for the topic and found this brilliant man!! Thank you for existing
I really do hope your alright 😌you are not alone, you are so strong and I want to tell you I am very proud of you because that must of been so hard what you went through, because you are a very brave and strong person anxiety is how our bodies fight against danger if we never felt anxious that would be very weird and it is actually okay to feel anxious you were having an anxiety attack because your body was trying to fight danger, our mind is the most powerful thing in the world we can’t change and fix anxiety but what we can do is change our mindsets I suffer from anxiety too and I struggle to we all struggle.
Same
Anxiety is completely different from a panic disorder. This is a great talk for people that have day to day anxiety, not for people that can not control their physical or mental symptoms
This I agree to. If you’re having a panic attack (shortness of breath, tight chest, constant dread) for no apparent reason and it’s not stopping, you my friend may have a panic disorder like myself. This guy is right that anxiety is a good thing sometimes; it helps us not be late to work/meet a deadline, ask out that special someone, etc. but it’s when your brain misfires and convinces you that you have anxiety when you’re just trying to watch your favorite show that you really should seek help… and part of that help may mean medication, and that’s okay. It’s no different than a diabetic taking their insulin, or a woman taking her birth control because she doesn’t want to get pregnant; it can help. Trust me, I know ❤️
Sounds like you’re trying to somehow say you’re different because you want to be a special snowflake.
He had me til he wasn’t a fan of medication
The moment he said it’s not a medical issue I was like “ok bye”
@@K3zz21 maybe you should start thinking that you are in control of yourself. Believe me it is more convenient to suffer rather than take action and CHANGE your mindset.
Stumbling upon this video was a godsent. I'm recovering from my recent anxiety and panic attacks. It's the first time where my body completely shut down and turned against me, and I was worried I would never get better. That I would never be able to eat properly without feeling nauseous. But Tim Box changed my perspective on anxiety. Thank you.
To all those suffering from anxiety, we're all in this together. We can do this! Be kind to yourself always
My anxiety is about death. I feel like I’m dying and then comes panic.
I have never related so much I always get anxious about my health like (brain tumours, cancer) ect. it is so bad
I feel the same way I understand your situation if you feel this way seek help don’t let your thoughts get the best of you you are strong and you will get through this.Stay positive 🖤
Omg this!!!
I thought I was the only one. Puts me at ease to know that Im not the only one
@@emilymayfield4567 yes cancer. my favourite too. anxiety so bad its like i remember i have cancer then i think hang on no i dont.
"If you beat yourself up, you end up beaten.
But if you built yourself up,
who knows how far you can reach...."
- Tim Box
Anxiety is real and should be dealt with extreme care. A word of encouragement, for those who are currently dealing with anxiety, just know that you are not alone and those thoughts and fears are valid. The key is to ask the 5W and 1H questions and take a leap of faith in order to little by little calm and better equip yourself
To those, who are suffering - my heart with you. It WILL get better soon. This video and Voicely helped me a lot. Remember, you are not alone!
100% accurate. We are not alone for sure. I have never met anyone who hasn't experienced anxiety for various reasons. I can remember having anxiety as far as my early childhood.
I've been dealing with anxiety since the begining of the pademic. I'm so tired. I just started to cry because it is so hard to shut the voices in your head.
My anxiety has gotten worse since the beginning of the pandemic and has brought me to the point where i just cry cuz i don't wanna deal with it anymore
LITERALLY they wont shutup
@@sausagetdm9339 i think the most important and easiest thing to realize is that it is totally okay to feel anxious or nervous. Today‘s problem is that you dont feel allowed to be vulnerable or feel anxious about something anymore, just because others dont seem to feel the same thing. You have to realize that it is okay to feel anxious. Everybody experiences nervousness, some more intense than others but the thing is that you are NOT alone! You are allowed to feel anxious and you have to accept whatever you feel. This it what makes you human! Feeling anxious is just a natural reaction of your body, just like feeling happy or angry or excited. If you avoid situations, whether it will make you experience nervousness or happiness, you will still feel anxious about either things because you feel afraid to accept this emotion. You have to accept that this is an emotion that everybody feels and that it is okay to feel something. I hope that helped you! At least this realization helped me overcome my anxiety :) I still feel anxious sometimes, but it doesn’t rule over my life anymore.
Yea i get how that feels like. I haven't been able to take a deep satisfying breath ever since last year. It's air hunger due to anxiety and it's been bothering me a lot.
I’m praying for everyone in the comments and watching this vid 🙏🏻❤️
You are not alone. You are not alone. You are not alone. You will get through this. You will get through this. Tough times don’t last, tough people do.
I went through a period where it seemed anxiety was taking over my life. I finally learned that running back to comfort was not the way to deal with it and that it only made it worse the next time. I learned that the way out is through, not running away from it. This realization has helped me tremendously and I can now say I have a much better relationship with anxiety.
He speaks a lot of truth. I’m suffering with chronic anxiety at the moment and was convinced I’m seriously unwell. not being able to sleep makes it worse
David, Take some action. Reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly they will reduce and relax the mind. Deep inhalation-exhalation is not needed. Day or night before sleep sit or lie down and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 thank you so much for your reply. I have already started doing this and it helps so your reply confirms this
Resume:
1- You are not ill
2- Listen carefully
3- Talk to yourself with kindness
Anxiety is an emotion, like any other, that tell you that something is important and have to focus on it.
I’d like to think this can help. I have a nervous gutt. It’s the worst. Before I take a test or even something as trivial as having dinner with friends, it feels like I’m dying in the inside and I end up running to the bathroom. For anyone else that suffers with this, hopefully the idea of embracing anxiety will help us, just a little bit ❤
The phrase"do not be afraid" is written in the bible 365 times in the Bible
That's a daily reminder from God to live every day being fearless.
I hope this will help too:
“When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul.”
Psalm 94:19
"Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you."
1 Peter 5:7
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Matthew 6:34
Ask God for help..
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God."
Philippians 4:6
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Matthew 6:34
"Say to those who have an anxious heart, 'Be strong; fear not! Behold, your God will come with vengeance, with the recompense of God. He will come and save you.' "
Isaiah 35:4
"And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?"
Matthew 6:27
"Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."
Matthew 11:28-30
I had my first panic attack at 19. Didn’t understand it, but it slowly crept up into my life and there was a point I didn’t want to go anywhere. This went on for years. I finally went to therapy and understood that I’m not supposed to fight the symptoms. I have to find acceptance in the moment and understand the fact that I HAVE AN ANXIETY DISORDER. And this is ok. I hope everyone gets a chance to understand this and breath. You are worthy ♥️
Anyone else have a hard time eating when they are anxious?
Yes! I literally get anxiety because I’m afried I won’t be able to eat calmly because of anxiety
@@nathalieds9011 OMG girl same!!! Where not alone!
i have anxiety all in my face so its hard for me to eat also
@@youngchap4941 I'm sorry man :(
@@Catty_Wampus4610 ty its good though its life we are all getting more depressed and anxious we just gotta keep fighting and things will probaly get better lol
Im to the point now where I'm starting to feel comfortable feeling uncomfortable. When you deal with the anxiety day after day it can really beat you down. It seems like I always have lingering anxiety. Even when I don't have anxiety I think I'm anxious about getting it. Like I said I'm trying to learn to feel comfortable being uncomfortable.
Same here
Me too 🤣
Me too every day I’m so anxious and it’s to the point where I just push through it
@@jovannieraybourn what really helps is eliminating gluten from the diet, I went keto based and helped tremendously.
Same here
This was so reassuring. I’ve accepted that I can be more anxious than others & that’s ok, but I hate the thought of someone else thinking I’m weird or something is wrong with me. I’m trying to get better about not caring what ppl think. Not sure exactly how but positive self talk, self care and acceptance has brought me a long way, so I’ll figure it out soon enough. 💕💕 amazing presentation!
I enjoyed the majority of this talk - particularly the emphasis on accepting anxiety rather than pursuing getting rid of it. However, I disagree strongly on his statement that medication is not necessary for "a non-medical problem" (anxiety) - anxiety actually is a medical problem in many cases. We just treat mental health like it isn't medical. The truth is that it is medical - it's not purely thoughts, and it's not purely a result of evolutionary development - anxiety is created through chemical changes in the brain and the maintenance of neuropathways that contribute to these chemical releases. One of the reasons therapy can help is through coaching patients to form new thought and behavior patterns - these (over long periods of sustained effort) change the neuropathways in the brain into ones that are less likely to trigger those chemical releases, and thus reduce anxiety overall. However, entrenched neuropathways can be extremely difficult to alter, and regression is likely. Anxiety medication is used both short and long-term to suppress the chemicals that are released when we engage those neuropathways (um, please note that this is an extremely simplified explanation and a lot of other stuff is going on with medications, which is why you get side effects and some drugs work across different things and work better or less well for different people...). In short, anxiety medication helps to control out-of-control chemical saturations that contribute to severe anxiety. Benzodiazepenes are an excellent example of a rapid-action and strong influence - you take a benzo and within ten minutes or so the world is kind of floaty, you're exhausted, and even if you do feel anxious it feels like something you're watching on a screen, rather than an actual emotional response. Benzos are highly addictive and are NOT for long-term use, but can be helpful to those experiencing severe anxiety / panic attacks in rapid succession. They often have adverse side effects, which can be severe. Long-term anxiety medication is not a "drug dependency" - here Tim is confusing a "drug dependency" with an addiction. That because you believe you need it, you are addicted to it / dependent upon it. While it is certainly true that humanity isn't perfect and there are plenty of people in the world who think "I can't function without my anxiety meds", that's not actually how it works. Medication is NEVER to be recommended as the *only* treatment for anxiety - not everyone who has an anxiety problem needs medication, and medication won't fix everything related to anxiety. But that doesn't mean that medication is not recommended at all!!
A holistic approach - for any medical condition - is most recommended: medication plus therapy plus (ex) yoga or mindfulness or de-stress hobbies, or some other lifestyle change. All of these are functioning parts of anxiety treatment. The goal of all of these approaches is to help change thoughts, to change mindset - to reset neuropathways to more optimal functions to decrease/suppress the release of cortisol (a key "anxiety" chemical) and increase seratonin or dopamine or other "I feel fine/happy" chemicals.
Allow me to elaborate: I am not addicted to my multivitamins, but my doctors and pharmacists still strongly recommend that I take them every day, in appropriate formulations, for the rest of my life - I'm even occasionally placed on different supplements - Vitamin C or B12 or D3 - in order to correct chemical imbalances in my blood / body that would predispose me for negative health consequences. This does not make me "dependent upon" these drugs, any more than I am dependent upon my inhaler to control my asthma. If I do not take my inhaler, my breathing rapidly deteriorates and I am more likely to have an asthma attack. If I do not take my anxiety medications, my mental health can deteriorate, and I am more likely to have a panic attack. In turn, if I don't take my inhaler and my blood oxygen levels decrease, my brain will release anxiety chemicals (ex, cortisol) in order to tell me "something's wrong, pay attention" - and I'm more likely to have a panic attack in response *even if* I'm taking anxiety medication.
The point here is: the brain is complex, anxiety is complex, and both are able to be influenced by medical interventions. Medication is not the end solution, and I would one day like to be off my anxiety medication - I'd like to be off *all* of my medications, for all my health issues. I'm 32 years old and I don't need this many medical issues, or pills, thank you very much.
But what I want will not always reflect my reality. The reality is that I do suffer from generalized anxiety disorder and occasional depression as well as a myriad of more traditionally physical health issues. Medication, therapy, and practicing mindfulness (in relationships, eating, and daily activity) are the three primary methods I engage to manage my anxiety and maintain functionality (working, chores, hygiene, health, relaxation and relationships). It is true that I could try to operate without my medication. But it's also true that in my case the lack of medication means those chemicals are not suppressed to any extent and my anxiety symptoms are more severe.
I would never, ever recommend that someone completely rule out medication as a treatment for their anxiety. Everyone has different needs - if yours is resolved purely through CBT or AEDP, then that is wonderful and I'm happy for you. But if therapies and self-care alone are insufficient, then please schedule an appointment with a psychiatrist - preferably a good one - and see what treatments may help. Start with low doses, make sure your psychiatrist has your best interests in mind (rather than paydays for specific medications - aka, a bad psychiatrist), advocate for your health, and see if medication can help to take the edge off. My brother and I have tried several different medications and dosages - he works well with a typical anti-anxiety medication at a medium dosage (10mg). When I am doing really well, I can decrease my dosages to the minimum (5mg), but I'm currently on year 3 of high stress so I recently switched to a medication more traditionally used to treat depression but with anti-anxiety properties, and I'm at a middling-high dosage (20mg). When my exterior stressors decrease, I will work with my psychiatrist to decrease my dosage again, but for now this helps with my daily functioning.
Do keep an eye out for side effects - research tardive dyskinesia so you know some serious side effects to watch for, even with traditionally low-side-effect medications - everyone responds differently. Keep in mind that anxiety and other mental health medications are quite literally used to treat medical conditions of the brain, and anything messing with your brain chemistry can have unexpected consequences - we don't yet fully understand the brain or its chemical reactions - so paying attention to how your body responds to any brain medication is your best defense against serious side effects.
But please don't rule out medication completely or tell others that medication makes them an addict or dependent upon medication as though it's a negative personal trait. This is definitively a medical condition. Society does not yet treat it as such, but it is, and one key method of treatment is through chemical / medical means.
this!!! thank you.
Mental health is medical at times, however anxiety is an emotion that sometimes isn't processed properly. By medicating an emotion, you are further neglecting that process of the emotion. You don't medicate joy do you? Because it doesn't feel like it hurts us. Yet we believe anxiety does hurt us. Our brain has anxiety to protect us from threats. It knows no difference between the saber tooth a long time ago and modern problems. So medication is told it's what we need for it. It's not a problem, it's just how we look at it.
U r bang on! Exactly what u said, people generally have this notion that lot of medical issues can be controlled by us through meditation, will power, self control and so on. The truth is those who go through it they know, whether they need medicines or self healing practices help. If not treated it can lead to so many other complications.
Completely agree. I have had anxiety issues my whole life, ranging from easily dealt with to absolutely debilitating. I'm currently on anti-anxiety medication to help me function. Simply saying "anxiety is just an emotion" feels akin to "depression is just sadness". An anxiety disorder is not just me being anxious about an upcoming work performance review, it is a debilitating sense of doom that makes it hard to live a fufilling life.
I'm a doctor and am trying to cope with my anxiety. Especially is socially demanding situations..
Thank you for your service during these hard times
You’re strong, which is why giving up isn’t your strat!
You need to do what is best for you. A day at a time xxx
I work at a hospital, have had a conversation with a dr who was also feeling anxious about covid19, if only the public understood medical staff are just people with families, they’re worried too, no wonder you feel anxious
I have anxiety bad this year due to isolating from covid sky high now I have get bisopy done on 2 dodgy Moles that burning and they said they will cut them out either way cos they don’t like the way they look it’s prob skin cancer and either way am terrified of the surgery and anxiety shot straight up it shot straight up sooner they told me they coming out I went pale they said I look really Ill they checked my pulse and heart rate it was sky high they panicked they got resus team with heart defibrillators out they never seen a heart rate that fast so they had keep me in for an hour till it went back to normal while resus team was talking to me they was worried badly so I decided to search this video cos tomoz is the boispy and am already shaking today with fear it so hard anxiety I might ask them can they give me some laughing gas if it’s possible tomoz during my biopsy so I will feel relax
I've never heard anxiety being described as an emotion and that it is here to help. What a powerful and eye-opening revelation. Thank you so much for this presentation!
Experience anxiety but not to suffer from this. Wow that was mind opening
Nothing short of a revelation for me! such a simple analogy has just chopped my anxiety from 80% to 10% and I have a very good feeling I am never going to reach the levels I have reached just today! TYVVM!!
Im so happy for you! reading positive comments like these really help :)
Best of luck applying this approach, my friend
Same here brother. Never seen anything like this!
I love your anxiety Tim Box. 43 years ago doctors told me that I'd been in a bad road accident when waking from a long coma. That wasn't the bad news because they then told me I was paralysed from the neck down incurably but I felt really excited because I knew they were talking medical nonsense because God told me a different story during my coma. Although until then I'd been an electronic engineer, I overcame 70% brain damage by engaging with what was left of me and all my anxieties which got me off that bed eventually supporting and motivating other brain-injured people on the ward to walk, I embarked on a new career as a hypnotherapist. I teamed up with my anxiety to make my impossible my I'm possible.
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Instead of me running away from my anxiety I'm learning to embrace it. This video speak volumes to me. It's hard to explain my anxiety to others who doesn't take the time to understand it. Today I felt anxious and VERY overwhelmed. As much as I didn't want to face it I did it. Oh boy I cried I journal I prayed I even talked with friends but none of them really served a purpose until I face it. My anxiety is an emotion. My crew is trying to help me not destroy me. I am the captain and I can conquered these moments when they happened. And so can you. I am who I am and I love ME. Today is today. Tomorrow belongs to God. So focus only on today. Yesterday is history. Deep breaths you can do it. Blessings to all
Amen 🙏❤
Well put, we can get thru this together ❤ all us here are in your corner cheering you on. We will take control of our anxiety, God bless
It's so hard to accept my anxiety. I checked in with my subconciousness through meditation and learned that I don't have confidence that I will get through this and that is because I have been upset that I can't get ahold of my anxiety on my own. Have you experienced this along your journey?
@@amykel605 Yes! I've experienced those emotions in the beginning of my journey in accepting my anxiety. Whenever you're trying to change something about yourself. There's always going to be all kinds of stuff trying to keep you off your mission in accepting something that's actually not your enemy. Anxiety sucks! And it will never be easy. But I will tell you from my own personal experiences. I'm no longer running away from my anxiety. When I feel an attack I go into writing mode. I have a journal on my phone. And I start out with, Today is today and today I'm feeling? In that moment I only focus on what I'm feeling. It helps me get through that attack. I also take ashwagandha and L-theanine by Nature's Bounty 2 in the morning and 2 at 6pm. It's over the counter and it doesn't suppress my anxiety it actually helps me keep calm and at ease. Writing actually helps my anxiety. But that's me. You find something that gives you joy and used that as a tool to get you through those moments. Change your mindset on anxiety. It'll change your life. Prayers and blessings to you. Write me anytime.. ❤️🙏🏾
That is the best metaphor I have ever heard after two years of therapy
How to be less anxious:
- Love, embrace and forgive yourself and others in the moment because anxiety stems from the past or future
- Breath deeply and slowly
- Know that everyone will die someday
- Eat less processed foods, meat and dairy and eat more whole foods including vegetables, fruits, nuts, beans, legumes and whole grains
- Exercise at least 20 minutes a day
- Sleep more than 8 hours (let your body wake up naturally)
Is this true?
Is it normal to have a hard time eating when ur anxious?
@@Catty_Wampus4610 yes, I have noticed that before.
Panic comes from ruminating on the feelings of being anxious.
@@Catty_Wampus4610 yes it is totally normal
When I am anxious about something I can’t eat or even look at food
I feel really nauseous
It is so hard for me 😭
This video changed my perspective on anxiety. I used to have really bad anxiety attacks a few years ago. They were so bad that everybody noticed it and that only made me more anxious. I still get anxiety attacks but they're not as bad anymore. But I belive I will overcome it one day, just like everybody else watching this video. You're not alone in this.
How you now. Have these anxieties ever taken you to depression. I was depressed last year and now anxiety about depression !
@@Ashish-nd3xj Last summer I was depressed af but at the moment I’m feeling amazing. I’m really happy to be alive.
@@Friixee love you brother even though we don't know each other, feel like saying it. It's so exhausting for your self and the family it's unreal ! Your plans are moving every few days. Nothing concrete can be planned !! After amazing 3 months before debiliting 6 months of depression due to anxiety , i am back to the ruins quickly ! Ho2 did your friends take this. Do they know how severe your condition was.
hey so i also have fear, anxiety maybe also panic attacks. Like i really dont know how to indentify it. Its really bad and uncomfortable and sometimes its very hard to breathe for me. Can you describe what a panic attack feels like? thanks in advancee
“if you beat yourself up, you just end up beaten. If you build yourself up, who knows how far we can reach”🔥
I feel like there's a big difference between being anxious and having an anxiety disorder. Yes, anxiety is an emotion and it's completely normal - people will be anxious about school, work, money, relationships, etc. However, people with anxiety disorders are often irrationally anxious and it can be so crippiling that you cannot do the things you once did. Most people who feel anxiety aren't waking up at 2AM having a panic attack because they've convinced themselves they're having a heart attack and dying, but someone with an anxiety disorder (especially health anxiety) could. With general, day-to-day anxiety, you probably don't need anti-anxiety medication (you can often cope with specific techniques from a doctor or therapist) but when your anxiety is so debilitating that you can't have a fufilling life, then it's probably necessary.
I totally hear you🤍 there is a difference. I almost feel like there should be two different words haha.
i have an anxiety disorder and haven’t left my house for almost a year because of constant panic attacks.. but i don’t agree lol. my mind is constantly thinking i have something wrong with me, or i’m so terrified of having a panic attack or fainting in public that it gives me a panic attack before i even leave. but it’s all what i’m thinking. i can take benzos and it literally does nothing because i can still think which makes me still have panic attacks.
working with a psychologist and doing cbt, i feel a huge change when “brainwashing” myself before i leave like instead of thinking “what if i have a panic attack, what if i vomit, what if i faint, what if i feel trapped” i flood my mind with “i can calm myself down enough to not lose control, i’m safe, i’m going to feel good” etc. it’s so important to learn how to cope with a panic attack and get through it and stop fearing it. once you get to that point, it hardly affects your life anymore.
Thank you for posting this. Some of us can’t function and have debilitating panic attacks without medical intervention. That is completely different than anxiety over a first date or anxiety over a speaking engagement.
Both types may benefit from therapy but only one needs medication
@@travelfitlife I fully agree with you. I've had "anxiety," my whole life, but recently it has developed into panic attacks where I feel as though I am going to pass out when they occur - tingly hands, feet, loss of vision, etc., which then, of course, makes me more anxious. It's affecting my daily life. Trying out Zoloft for the first time and I hope it works. I see what he's saying about being anxious about dependence on medication and side effects, because I am, but I'm less anxious knowing that I could have something mis-wired in my brain and the medication may help me fix it. Nobody should have to suffer with this.
I guess not everyone who has anxiety is anxious about being anxious to understand the point of this video.
I’m so tired of being scared to do everyday things. I’m so tired of feeling like everything is the end of the world and I’m so tired of feeling everything so intensely that the thought of feeling nothing at all seems so much better.
Its ok you're not alone , if u had a panic attack just stay calm , the more panic you are the more suffer you are , so stay calm and i fully recover because i get used to it😀😀
@@Rahelkoey it’s not a panick attack it’s constant. It never stops. I stay calm but that doesn’t stop the feelings
@@KiwiMike I’m better. But I’m still tired, I just have more people in my corner right now. And I’m still scared of everything but I’m not alone anymore.
Omg that's exact how i feel everything scares me, how do you feel better??
@@KiwiMike i hope you feel better now Michael
I always talk to myself all the time, i tend to my anxiety everyday, but they keep making new thinks every day and keep making me overthink everything. Things that i cannot do anything about because everything is just in my head, nothing i do can fix this. Most morning, feeling bad, my anxiety asking me to answers questions that there is no answer to, and there is nothing there. Nothing to fix this, after every answer my heart kept pumping hard, and then new questions come, feeling much worse than before. That’s how i feel nost of my days. My anxiety is not sosial anxiety, it’s overthinking to nothing and everthing. Thank you for reading mates.
I hope you feel better soon.
Hey i know just the thing for you . Why don't you start scheduling every hour of your day. That'll keep you distracted. If anxious thoughts come, focus more on the task at hand and you'll get better
I know how frustrating the feeling is. I was reaching a place where I was able to stop ruminating when the covid19 virus hit us and anxiety levels shot up again. This time for a very real reason. Now I have to start all over again.
What do you think about?
Update : I’m feeling much better now, I learn how to be at peace with yourself and your anxiety. More than that I’m moving forward with more positivity with my life. If anyone with Anxiety is reading this please know that everything is fine and know that the struggles you’re figting now is just a little bump to make youself a better person in the future. So stay positive and be happy.
Ps. Thanks for all the positive comments. Lots of love to all you guys.
This made me anxious about being anxious about being anxious
In my early 20s i thought anxiety was a myth. All along i had social anxiety and didnt realize what it was..now i have an anxiety disorder that terrorizes my life. God bless us all. Love and pwer to you.
Im alone at home tonight and not with boyfriend and friends due to severe anxiety. 18 weeks pregnant. Trying all to make this get better. So lonely and scared but prefer that than pretending infront of people as its even more overwhelming. Hope for a miracle.
Hey I have an online book that I read that really helped me so if you’d like it I can find a way to send it to you
lol thank god i aint a girl
u ready to be a single mom?
@@persian114 bruh
@@shaquilleoatmeal9068 I’d like to read that book aswell
This really helped me to come out of panicking and anxiety. One might say this saved me from myself.
Every time I feel anxious, I try to appreciate the emotion, that it is not the enemy.. then I tell my "crew", "Thanks for letting me know.. but you don't have to trigger on thoughts.. thoughts are never dangerous, let them come and go" OR that "you don't have to trigger on emotions, things are as they are and I am in no danger, but thanks". Something of the sort.
Being kind to myself and my anxiety response and GUIDING it in the right direction, helped me out of years of being anxious and depressed constantly and just seeing things for what they are.
This took time mind you, and repeating myself for a long time, but helping guide my response for a longer period helped it stick.
Super helpful thank u love.. I screenshot this so I can rmbr when I’m feeling anxious again… it’s literally a mental battle but we can get thru this, just have to find peace in ourselves I guess…
You okay still ?
18:17 minutes video is in one sentence summarized: (treat anxiety as a close friend and listen to it in order to be normal over time). You got it!!✝️
Hey, I know right now you can’t breathe that well, your probably thinking “if anxiety is causing all of this then why do I only feel this way when the symptoms come out of nowhere”. I’ve been there, in fact I’m there right now. I’ve done tests upon tests for my physical health from heart problems to breathing problems to stomach problems, I have taken ambulances multiple times convinced that it was the end.
I just don’t want it to be true that anxiety is the root of the cause but at the same time I would love to be 100% certain that it is the cause at the same time so that I could stop feeling this way, unfortunately I’ll never 100% know for a fact, and that is probably what causes me the most distress. “What if the tests that they ran missed the root cause” “what if I just think it’s anxiety but it’s actually something physically wrong that could kill me”
I’m writing this because I want you to know you aren’t the only one. I’m going to take this one day at a time and you should do the same. I’m going to try and stop worrying about the uncontrollable. I will accept feeling uncomfortable and embrace it. I will reassure myself that I have felt this way 1000s of times before and although I may have thought it was the end every single one of those times I always make it through.
I love you all and we will get through this together ❤️❤️
thank you so much for this. I haven't been able to breathe well for the last week. Every day I think I'm having a heart attack because my arm has been slightly hurting. I know it's ridiculous but I can't stop it. This video and your comment have helped me immensely. I've also decided that I need to focus on taking care of myself and going back to church, because I think that's what will help me, not medication.
needed to look at this but my anxiety gotten worse since my grandma died last year.. i be thinking like is it going to happen to me or my close relatives next😔
This is So so me thanks for sharing this..
I felt someone just wrote down my feelings❤
Rye, thank you for sharing. I feel this exact way. How are you now? Any advice??
I just took a snap shot of your comment cos it explains so accurately what I am going through. I just came back from my second hospitalisation in 2 weeks and today I was convinced I was going to die.
Thank you for sharing this. It has helped me greatly.
This speech really helped me accept my anxiety. I have struggled with anxiety from a young age and was always afraid of feeling anxious. I felt helpless and alone. I didn't understand why it was happening to me and even what it was. I didn't know how to deal with my anxiety or let alone how to calm myself down. I finally understand that it's not an enemy but rather a friend who is just trying to keep me safe. I will from now on try and be kinder to myself and my anxiety and instead of trying to get rid of it and push it far, far away, I will accept it and learn to love and listen to it. Thank you Tim Box!
We're all here in your corner. And well put comment btw. I hope you're well, we will get over this 100%
May I ask how old were you when u got anxiety?
Thank you to CZcams for recommending this but most importantly, thank you Tim for sharing. This is a powerful message and I especially liked the part about being kind to my crew. My anxiety has saved me from a lot of disasters and I feel like I never take a moment to appreciate that. Yes, it's painful to wake up with a heavy chest, struggling to breathe. The constant cold feeling in my stomach is not easy to live with. However, I remember being anxious from as young as 4 and now at the age of 22 everytime I feel extreme anxiety I remind myself that the mission is not to "get rid" or anxiety or "avoid" anxiety, the mission is to listen to my mind and negotiate with it and always strive for the best outcome in the given situation.
I am 77 and dislocating a hip replacement at 73 woke me up to my age. I didnt think I suffered from anxiety because it was controlled by a life time of exercise. Running, hiking and walking my dog. I even ran after my initial hip replacement and took my dog for 5 to 10km walks. This was all taken away in a split second when I over extended my leg and the hip popped out. It was extremely painful and the surgeon put it back a month later it popped out again. This time the extreme pain caused a mild stroke and I had to wait 8 weeks before it was re done. This all created the anxiety I feel today because I was suddenly faced with my morality which had never entered my head as I was always fit and age was just a number. Without exercise my levels of cortisol could not be controlled and not being able to release all the energy has created anxiety as well as depression as I realise now 3 years later that my life will never be the same again and I dont know how to "be" without exercising. Frustration has accompanied the anxiety as all the stress of the what its leaves me exhausted. The thought of living the rest of my life out like this is not how I imagined it. Now I am overthinking everything and am totally demotivated as I cant do what I did all my life and took for granted. I am on anti depressants and valium in small doses but have never taken medication in my life. Now I depend on it. What is frustrating is knowing I need to accept and allow but I am fighting it even though I know it's not how I am going to find relief. Its got to be the most frustrating space to be in especially at this age.
I was dealing with anxiety before watching this, but afterwards I felt less anxious and I learned a great lesson, anxiety is not your enemy it's a natural emotion built for your safety.Thank you TEDx for sharing this amazing message. I hope everyone who is dealing with anxiety gets better, have hope and a good day.
I have GAD and making that step to do anything is made that much harder. I'm starting a new job tomorrow and it's the most overwhelming, crippling feeling that I know is not normal.
Feel proud of yourself if you live with this and still find a way to get through the day.
THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I TRY TO EXPRESS TO DOCTORS! I don't have an illness, I certainly don't need a pill to cure me (I've tried that already and it just made things worse). This talk is life changing, thank you 🙏🏻
Suffering a panic attack right now. Anxiety is on top. I feel fear, fear o the unknown z fear of losing my mind or getting crazy. :'(
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You can over come it. Keep breathing.
That’s exactly how I feel
I understand how you feel. I convince myself I’m crazy bc of my mental quirks but everyone has them and it’s not a disease it’s what makes me who I am.
i feel you
This guy is so spot on. In order to accept anxiety as a normal part of life you have to understand it, the symptoms and how it manifests. Once you understand that it gets easier to accept it as a normal part of life and with that comes the reduction and intensity of the symptoms. There are techniques like deep breathing and meditation to help you cope while you’re working on understanding anxiety. Try to reduce your stress, stay away from negative people and situations and spend more time doing the things that you enjoy.
And be mindful of how you talk to yourself (and your crew). Be patient, be kind, encourage. Even if you don't believe it. It makes a difference. Steer toward positives and you will see more positives in yourself
I don’t experience anxiety when I’m at home in my room! It just flares up when I’m in social situations, or when I’m in public places!
I was so anxious about having anxiety that I was in denial about its existence in my life for the longest time.Where I come from,it's frowned upon and percieved as a debilitating mental disorder that would require a heavy dose of medication to resolve....but listening to this talk makes me realise that I should probably accept it and come to terms with it and maybe it wont cripple me down anymore. Listening to this good man makes me believe that anxiety is only just a strong emotion and NOT a Disease. The mind chatter and that pulsating feeling inside my stomach will stop if I acknowledge it and really listen to my crew. Thank you Ted X . This was hands down the best anxiety talk . So relatable 🌼
Hi, friend. How have your past two months been since you came across this talk? Have you noticed any changes? A part of your experience is relatable to me. I have also got the pulsating feeling in my stomach, and that is okay. The mind chattering is a completely normal thing too. I've only come across this video today, but I'm hoping it might create some positive change in my life. Strangely, that is to go back to how I was before and simply live with anxiety, rather than to fight it.
@@junaid7197 sometimes the best thing is to acknowledge and ride the wave of anxiety. I also found repeating a positive mantra in your mind. So telling yourself that it won't be forever and that you have people who care for you. Another is deep breathing, but slow breathing. Finally, imagining a place that brings you peace and transporting your mind there. You can do so by closing your eyes and focusing on the colors and sounds of that place, as you piece by piece create that imagery.
@@maiamartini9095 Thank you for your comment and advice, Maia. I appreciate it. These days my approach is to do nothing in response to anxiety and to simply become habituated to it. It's a technique that I learned from Katie D'ath's CZcams channel which teaches CBT techniques for overcoming anxiety. I highly recommend her videos! The techniques are not designed to get rid of the anxiety (nor should that be the goal), but minimises its importance in one's life
@@junaid7197 That is incredible! I'm happy to hear you're overcoming that. That is definitely true about becoming habituated to it. I used to have very bad stage fright and fret over small stuff, but I found as I kept exposing myself to different situations it dissipated. CBT and mindfulness can be really helpful in allowing one to confront anxiety and understand it. I'll definitely check out that video. On another note, I think anxiety is also so prevalent nowadays because we live in such a fast paced society. In other words, anxiety can be another approach at analyzing life, albeit, overanalyzing. I think nature can help with that though. In nature, it can be easier to be connected and in tune with everything. Another thing is simplifying life such as finding enjoyment in the small things. That can be laughing with friends, seeing the sunrise, listening to crickets or trains in the distance at night , haha, I know that's probably random...but yeah, everyone has different techniques at destressing.
Sometimes downsizing belongings or decluttering can help with that. The most difficult thing is probably trying to get other people to understand when you're anxious. What do you think helps with that?
@@maiamartini9095 I think you are right that one of the reasons that more people are debilitated by anxiety is the fast-paced nature of the world, but I think the main one is that humans in today's society are not as social as they used to be. I find the company of others to be not only incredibly fulfilling, but also a valuable stress-buster. When we can talk, laugh and share with another, problems seem to melt away. Messaging you has this effect on me too. We humans were born to be with each other, even if this can sometimes be difficult.
I like what you said about the little things. In a way, life is "merely" a combination of many, many little things, all added up to make a big thing.
Getting others to understand that you are anxious is not always easy. I recommend sharing solely with a close person or two who knows you well and who you think will understand. :)
Does anyone have panic attacks almost everyday? Like as soon as you wake up you just suffer from anxiety
I am, everytime I woke up in the morning I always get this heavy feeling and something's always hurting in my chest that makes me cry. Every morning I suffer from this and I really mised waking up normal like before, but thanks to this man I finally know how to cope up with this
@@heliosteiner5115 are you recovered?
@@heliosteiner5115 just calm ok if u stay panic it will be more suffering , the key is calm and i recovered n get used to it😀
Yes. Lately I've been having a lot of high anxiety and it has been causing me to wake up every morning with a racing heart and panicked feeling. It sucks but I know I can get through this
I do I keep waking up with anxiety because I keep thinking about bad things and I don’t want to because I’m a positive person. Also because I keep replaying mistakes in my head it makes me wanna cry
For the people who suffers with anxiety every day ,
I also suffered from anxiety for my whole life
Now am fine thanks to my Indian ayurveda🇮🇳
Because according to Ayurveda mental health issues like anxiety and dipression are realted to vaat dosha( gas and bloating)
People who have dry skin like nose get blocked in dry air weather they have vaat prakiti ( their body Nature)
So they need to put some ghee ( clarified butter) , or some nice oil 7-8 drops in both nostrils) it's will moturise their whole skull ( face and head ) definitely relief ur anxiety and dipression nd u will not have problems of gas and bloating .
Hopefully everyone get better 😊
Love from India 🇮🇳
Thank you for all the kind comments. I’ve never struggled this bad and it’s truly terrifying. I have severe health anxiety and it’s controlling my entire life. I can’t sleep, eating is hard and I’ve ended up in the hospital 3 times convinced I was having a heart attack. I can’t wait to be better. This is miserable
To all of you: Even though I don't know y'all I love you! We can get through this and we will!
8:06 anxiety is emotion. Lovely
Yes just like anger our heart races we dont care when we are happy our heart races we also dont care and know its there and it disappears its the same with anxiety
I’ve been dealing with anxiety for over 3 years now,And it’s been the worst time of my life.Just doing things on a regular makes it hard I can’t even enjoy the simplest things,I wanna enjoy my time with my son but I always have something in the back of my head that’s killing me and it’s been getting worse and worse.I just hope one day I can live without it and help others because it’s a horrible burden.
You will
Every time i experience extreme anxiety i come back to this video. Watching this video really calms me down. Thank you for posting this beautiful video.
Hey bro what do u do when u feel that your anxiety is coming back again?
@@geramiahhilburn2378 hide 😔
You'll never go wrong with KINDNESS! Even to yourself... 😊👍
I'd love to be able to walk into a social situation and not worry about what peoples perceptions of me are
Excellent talk. For those that are here for a way to take the edge off panic at its pinnacle.
1. Contract hard the muscles in your body for 5 seconds.
2. Breath in for 4 seconds while still contracting
3. Release your contraction and breathe out for 5-8seconds.
Doing this over and over can bring you back to a calm state, really focus on exhaling the tension away on step 3.
I get panic attacks at night sometimes (just got one there) and this technique I find is the best solution in the moment of panic. Helps if there's meditation music available, whatever keeps you focused on the breath and process.
If fearing a panic attack itself normally drives you into one, knowing the above approach may prevent anxiety turning Into full blown panic.
Hope this helps!
Tim Box - this is such a valuable video. Suffered from agoraphobia/ panic disorder since 2012. Still battling daily but this gave me hope.
The phrase"do not be afraid" is written in the bible 365 times in the Bible
That's a daily reminder from God to live every day being fearless.
I hope this will help too:
“When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul.”
Psalm 94:19
"Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you."
1 Peter 5:7
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Matthew 6:34
Ask God for help..
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God."
Philippians 4:6
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Matthew 6:34
"Say to those who have an anxious heart, 'Be strong; fear not! Behold, your God will come with vengeance, with the recompense of God. He will come and save you.' "
Isaiah 35:4
"And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?"
Matthew 6:27
Just an FYI, if the panics are too much, it could be related to food. For me COMPLETELY stopping caffeine and especailly coffee (NOT even decaf) led to a more balanced life.
Me too ❤
I remember never having bad anixety. Once covid hit I've completely lost my mind. Burning sensations body pains. Breaking down. It's took a toll on me. Honestly depression hit me super hard as well. This speech makes me feel a little more relaxed. I just want my life back. If I had to give all my money away just to feel great again I would.
I was having a panic attack while eating and this came across my recommendations. I have been dealing with it the wrong way that when it comes, I push it away and end up vomiting and even pooping (excuse for my words) because I always try to get rid of it instead of listening to it. If you are reading this, remember that you are not alone and you are stronger than you think. I love you so much and please take care of yourself. We can do this!
I am thoroughly EXHAUSTED from ANXIETY!!
Is Anxiety a signal from our mind to alert you about things we are ignoring or running away from life !
Thought I’d share my notes that I took from watching this amazing speech -
1. Refuse to believe that you’re ill. Anxiety is an emotion not an illness
2. Listen to your crew. Don’t push them away otherwise they will speak louder in order to be heard. When the crew stops shouting, the captain can be heard and that’s when your more logical thinking gets to have an input and you truly get to decide if this feeling is actually appropriate/helpful or not
3. Be kind to the crew. For all the criticism and negativity that you’ve received in your life, the person who has giving you the most is yourself. This has a cumulative effect of destroying the morale of your crew. A demoralised crew = low self-esteem
To repair the damage, decide from now on to always talk to your crew (yourself) with positivity and kindness. People do their best when they feel empowered to achieve. If you beat yourself up, you just end up beat. If you build yourself up, who knows how far you can reach!
It’s important to feel anxiety every day of our lives because it means that the crew are still sailing the ship and still trying to get it in the right direction. It’s the part of you that reminds you to check your keys before you leave the house, to re-read your messages before you hit send
The first step to changing your experience is to accept it. Anxiety is a natural part of our human experience - once we stop seeing it as an enemy but as a trusted friend, we’ll be surprised how quickly the crew gets back to sailing the ship and we stop feeling less anxious about anxiety
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