Breaking Free: Signs It’s Time To End The Narcissistic Relationship
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23 days left til my planned escape. Ending 29 years of narcissistic abuse, and I’m terrified. I have a plan, going no contact completely. There is no need to ever see or speak to him again. I’ve kept this a secret from him, and he will explode…I cry everyday, I just have to execute, pray for me.
This is wise and my biggest regret. I didn't make a clean break and I communicated too much. He lost his mind. You're going to be so much happier on the other side! Praying for you now.
Here for your encouragement, keep it secret, no matter how you'll be provoked. You probably know this. I will pray for you. I'm in same boat sister. 2 years in.
@@mactine2k7 are you ok now? Still healing, moving on?
Good luck Miss Jflo, you will have a new life. No contact is important. Stick to your plan, you can do it.
Praying for you. You can do this!!
I escaped this 9 months ago…I’m not well at all but I’m glad that day I found the courage to leave. I wish everyone to find the strength to leave.
You’ll get better don’t worry! Just give yourself time to heal. I finally pivoted past the recovery phase and it took over a year. I was only involved with him for 6 months. You have the strength to carry on ❤ God bless you and heal you!!
For sure!! What’s really scary is when you think you’ve tried to learn so well what it is and you’re around someone not knowing what they really are until it’s too late. You have to just be so careful ❤
Well done, be patient with yourself this is probably one of the hardest thing you’ve done ever so take baby steps and don’t put any expectations on yourself…sometimes the healing is one step forward then two steps back, but the hardest part is done. Keep educating yourself and if you possibly can get some therapy it really will help you on your journey ❤
I have cut ties with a close relative. I now see what she is after watching your video. Thank you.
I escaped 22 yrs ago and still not well because >80% walking this earth is like this. I think everybody is born through light or with light(code) but because of severe trauma on this earth realm the light cannot properly anchor in the physical and it becomes transgenerational and collective, so many cannot pass on the light and the light bearers are far in the minority
"Never regret being a good person, even to the wrong people.
Your behaviour says everything about you and
their behaviour says enough about them."
-- Anon
I almost never comment below any videos but now I think maybe my story could help someone who needs to hear this. He discarded me yesterday after like 10th time. It's so brutal that my whole body and soul just doesn't know how to cope w it without getting insane. Honestly with my naivity I took him back with hope he will be loving towards me this time. But truth is that each time he came back the discard got more and more brutal. I never thought in my life this trauma will be so hard fo escape. I see myself as kind, loving and smart woman however in this situation I feel like the weakest human being on the planet. Please if you are going through anything like this please know you are not alone and that you are lovable and you deserve someone to love you and treat you w pure intensions. I now have to go to recover with hope that I can heal from this. I need to learn how to protect myself and set boundaries and never allow this to happen again. Stay safe people xxx
You are going through the hardest part, the darkest valley. For me, it was 9 years ago. What I say to others, is that like a whole journey in front of you, you can not know, now, who you will grow to become. I am a person that is so authentic to myself, so grounded in my being, so comfortable in my skin. I look back at how distorted I had become and I can never be that person, again. It is like when you see, you can Not, not see. Hang on to yourself, and only concern yourself, for this difficult period, only the next few moments, asking what can I do, for myself, just for the next few moments. You will get through this. My heart goes out to you.
...when you know you are healing is when you begin to notice narcissistic tendencies EVERYWHERE😂...like when you get a new car and you never noticed that model before and then see them every time you turn a corner, well, that's you, the new car driver and your new car is the knowledge you picked up and embraced to drive away from that fucker...you know you don't want to be someone's drug and allow your life to get used up like thar, you want to be you....be you.....stand in relation to how you were made and know this type of personality...read up on it, watch Richard, binge...when you are satisfied, you are armed to the point you won't get fooled again....God bless your healing....❤
@@marierose6792thank you so much for your kind words..it means so much to me to read this right now. I admire you strenght and that you are in this state of being standing so strong. That is the biggest motivation for me not to give up. Honestly like right now I want to die ..that's how I feel cause he did some nasty stuff to me..but I kinda pray, that somehow I will find the power within myself to live. Again..thank u for your lovely support, sending love xxx
I’m healed completely, Jesus saves me. Thank you FATHER for letting me know who I am and my values
@@pthhhhhtyou are so right..I need to try to look at it w perspective of the opportunity to create better life for myself. It's so strange to have this image of someone in your head kind of expecting them to have the same values like you do. And for me it's not about victim mentality but this person really knocked me down..like I mean nothing and it's so coldhearted that I'm in deep shock still. But..people like you give me hope that I can get through this. Appreciate your words and support so much, sending love xxx
The key is to do all of what he says from day one. Narcissistic folks will discard you way sooner if you hold your boundaries from the start. Even if you really do want to meet up with someone every weekend, be unavailable at least once, put a boundary in place, watch the response. Will literally save you years of abuse
Very cruel I recently was looking at and deleting things out of my phone from the last 8 years . I cannot believe how cunning the pain was that this person was inflicting and that I allowed it .
Thank you for addressing the weirdness. It's the hardest part to describe when trying to explain why I left him. His behavior was unconsciously delusional. He was so certain about things that never happened - or not in the way he was claiming. Then there was his shifting persona. His voice and demeanor would change markedly - out of nowhere. It's like he was trying on different personalities, trying desperately to become someone he could like and admire. It was scary and unsettling. This wasn't like doing a bit from a comedian or movie character, or picking up mannerisms from a new friend. We all do that. This was something that was coming from inside himself and it left me feeling that I had no idea who the real him even was.
I have the same, one year after the abuse my mind is still trying to get a logic explanation when turning again and again in to cirkels..it makes me dizzy...so i NEED to do my meditation to observe my obsessive thoughts about this relationship in order to accept them so these voices in my mind are less loud...this is called cognitive dissonance...i don t know who he really is in the end...he himself does not know it..he is in a cst cognitive / splitting state...he has no self so its normal.that we don t know who he trully is.I.wish you the best , yes we can!❤
It's harder when these people are ur family,father, mother,siblings.
U choose ur partners, but u don't choose ur family.
TRUE!!!
With family, it's important to know what you want (but can't have) with the Narc and give up on "Hopeless Hope" for those things. Then, to know what you DO want and probably can have, and what you can do to achieve it. What I want with the Narc is an Open Door with very limited contact.
In my case, I stay in touch with a Narc family member via birthday and holiday greetings, expressing good wishes for the N's well-being but asking no questions and giving no personal information. I have informed the other family members that there is an estrangement because of a serious disagreement (no details, no calling out the O.P as a Narc). This, to avoid awkward situations and hurt for anyone in the family. I suspect that the Narc has been smearing me to others; and I am letting my continuing, consistent actions with everyone speak for me against probable angry words.
So true. And when your raised by a covert narc mother you don’t even know something is wrong until for me it was my twenties. Finally at 59 I went no contact.
It was harder for me when it was my spouse than it was my family.
I grew up knowing my family was crap. I expected backstabbing,etc. But my spouse? That hurt.
@@sarcasticcat4982 u chose ur spouse, but did u choose ur family? No.
I moved out 1 month ago. Our 21 y/o son still lives with her. He’s the most important thing in my life and she knows it. This scares me to no end.
It will play out naturally as time goes by, trust me. Your son will figure it out eventually and all you can do is be there for him. Main thing is you heal yourself bud. It will be bumpy, make no mistake but you will rise back up as though you have been reborn!
I can totally relate as my ex-wife has brainwashed our 23yr old son that he shouldn’t have ‘the other’ until he is married. She doesn’t even believe in god! During the separation, she alienated him from me by giving him seductive cuddles in a skimpy nighty and he loved it. Fucking sick.
I'm in the same boat, except my son is only 9 & a half, & his mother passed away in 2018😔 so my son is literally trapped with the narcissist..... doing my BEST to get him out but I have NO support system in place. Even my "family members" who know the truth are afraid to speak up or against her because they don't want the abuse themselves, so she continuously gets away with it
@@aaron_ar15 Do what you can to document the abuse. Record conversations, keep nasty notes. They can be defeated. There are attorneys who specialize in dealing with these types. Find one. They could be your biggest advocate.🤘
they DO get confused. My mother called ME "mother" in a fit of rage! it was when i realized that she is quite literally insane. That made it easier to cut ties and walk away, i know i cant fix that.
Your way of describing how the narc relates to you as an avatar inside his bubble is perfect. If a victim really gets this, detaching from a narc is as easy as turning off a video game, it never existed in the first place! It was all virtual reality! Yes, it's difficult for victims to get to this understanding, but once they do, it's totally game over! Thank you! 👏👏
You cannot comply your way out of tyranny. The narc has a fully stocked rolling toolbox of tyranny skills. I went through the reasoning stage. Im in the quietly packing stage now thank you Richard
Hi Richard And Thank you So Very Much For Sharing This. I'm A Victim Of Narcissitic Abuse I Went Through Horrific Emotional And Psychological Abuse Almost Causing My Suicide THIS Person Has Destroyed My Self Confidence Self Worth And Self Esteem. I Was Beaten Down With Months And Years Of The Silent Treatment Being Used Treated Like I Don't Exist. I'm Not There Yet But I'm Finally Getting Help Through A Life Coach. NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IS BRUTAL..
Omg this is what the narcissistic neighbour said about me, that I don't exist.. Sick.
This is my story too. Years of silent treatment gaslighting and stonewalling. It’s so lonely because they make you feel like you don’t exist 😢
@@joyshipley706
I’m So Incredibly Sorry I Understand Completely Im Going Through The Silent Treatment Know
2 Months Almost Three I’m So Incredibly Sorry For Your Pain.Narcissistic Abuse Is Brutal
I fucking know
@@laurie2633 they are just projecting onto you how they feel about themselves deep down.
Leaving a covert / vulnerable narcissist is also very hard because it got in so deep it takes a long time to heal.
Yep...4 years in healing and still not out of the woods.
Processing my own compounded trauma too.
The discard almost killed me...
Yes, I experienced that. The toxicity came from both sides. I felt the narcisstic triggers were causing my worse behaviors. I can't believe I was capable of saying such things. Gross.
@@Karlien68”Almost” being the key word. You will look back and remember the old you which got to that point. You will come back a million times stronger.
Thank you ❤ After 70 year I realised that the door is open! I leave now! Freedom ❤
I'm economically trapped, but I'm considering being homeless, honestly
I understand completely
DV shelter can help take you in and get you on your feet
@@blooming96 Yeah, I already tried that. No, it's not an option.
- Pls, if someone is willing to help by any means that AREN'T giving unsolicited advice or telling me "go (do this to) help yourself", I'm willing to listen.
The most bizarre thing when they accuse you for things that never happened and I think they really believe it
Perfectly explained, ive been in this trap for years , its hard to escape! How do you created boundaries, when they have hacked into your private world , spying , on every level with every gadget , yes its brutal 😩, but im still swiming , thanks richard for your posts , nice one 🙏❤️
Hidden cameras and tracking devices
He tried to tell me about my childhood and my family (who isn't great), but he was so wrong. He made up facts and was not even close! When he told me i was a narcissist, I looked it up, scared that I was bad and didn’t know it. Omg, it was a script for all that he said and did. Chills! I learned the game. All of the analysing me and labeling me were all of HIS issues. It was such a mindf***.
The great projectors always tell on themselves.
This is so helpful for people involved in a trauma bond with dangerous people. I was involved with a sociopath who exhibited all these traits and then some others as well. The constant criticism and yelling was over the top, yet always scheming. I recognized he was a narcissist but I didn’t even know what a sociopath was. I witnessed him punching his dog in the face and multiple other times of abusing his poor dog!!
After I learned what he was and got the courage to walk away a few weeks later (we had started a business together) I found out he had an extensive criminal record of jail and prison in multiple states and lied about going to university and graduating. He also lied about his age. When we met he told me he was 11 years older than me but it turned out he was 23 years older. I just thought he seemed old for his age 😅
So glad I’m free!! ❤ Thank you Lord Jesus!!
Sociopaths will lie about their age, name, past, and even gender!
My sociopathic ex dressed as a dude for me even though she was female, and when I asked "why?" she was like, "idk, maybe I'm trans?"
This wouldn't be a problem except she wasn't trans...
After we broke up and she was with someone else, she dressed feminine again.
Complete 180 with frilly flower dresses, long flowing princess hair, beauty queen makeup, etc.
That's what they do, sociopaths and psychopaths are different from narcissists, more dangerous, because they are shape shifters and have no real self. A narcissist at least knows who they are, are a younger version of themselves.
(A narcissist is stuck in child/teenage years)
A narc won't go as far as a sociopath would.
A narc would be arrogant, "I know better than you, in the best", etc."
But a narc wouldn't dress up as trans just because unless they actually were.
@@specialtwice4975yes not all narcs are sociopaths but all sociopaths are narcs because they’re on the spectrum of psychopathy.
Was the dog ok ? Did u or someone get it away from him ??????
My brother, sister, father, husband but my daughter is the most heart wrenching. She’s absolutely psychopathic. Elderly and ill she has abused me in all the ways you
Mentioned. Sadistic, evil, cruel, that smirk. I had nothing and she took whatever pittance I had and tried to leave me on the streets or a homeless shelter while she lives in a mini mansion and is extremely wealthy. A pathological liar, Jekyll and Hyde, isolated me. Much much more. And took the greatest pleasure in doing it over and over again. What she does to her 4 very young children is criminal. She’s crazy. And her flying monkey husband is afraid of her and allows it. I did all I could to help her for 43 years. Then desperately tried to help my grandchildren. One is self harming at 8 years and worse. All are having severe mental issues. I couldn’t help at all. She turned the 9 & 11 year olds against me. This is only a tiny fraction of what I have been through. A nightmare I can’t wake up from. It’s too late for me now but if you can…,, GET OUT. It really doesn’t matter if it’s your significant other a sibling a parent or even your own child. They WILL destroy you and as mentioned unalive you if possible. I never could imagine I’d feel this way about my own child whom I cherished. Thank you so much for educating everyone about this pure evil. 😢
So sorry. I can relate.
So sorry. Hope something “gives” for you ❤
You might consider asking a therapist to assess your own narcissistic tendencies. It's highly unlikely that a family system this out of control hasn't caused everyone to impersonate narc behavior. I did it and it was very helpful.
This is why all my bosses and everyone at work hates me.. everyone else worships them and thinks they’re so amazing and I just treat them politely and keep my distance cause I’m not that talkative anyway and they HATE me for it
I grew up around very narcissistic relatives and it made it very easy for me to read that behavior in others as an adult. The best thing I can do is distance myself from those people and sometimes even cut contact fully if they arent willing to be respectful around me. Life is WAYYYYY too short to just accept nasty negative people in my life, even family.
it was the fear for me, i was in constant fear of being left, because he kept threatening it and doing it, I've never been so preoccupied with being left. So i eventually had to face this massive fear and leave. I did take it to the extreme and left the area. I was lucky enough to have the ability to get into a strict routine and to watch my thought processes. Unfortunately i did get into another abusive friendship in my new area but was very quickly able to end it with little damage to my recovery.
Do you mind sharing what your routine was like?
Thank you so much Richard. Your videos helped me during the time when I couldn't afford therapy . I am healed to a large extent now , which i thought was not possible at that time. Took me almost 2 years to get here.
This is the video I needed before I even knew it. Thank you. These people are diabolical.
Absolut
I think that narcissists are more dangerous than cult leaders. The latter know what they are doing, they are con men, whereas narcissists believe they are gods. Read any comic book where the villain has to take power from somewhere else to get stronger and stronger. That's why they suck the life out of people. First it is "I love you and you will make me a superhero and I will make all your dreams come true." Then they don't do anything (the more you do the less they do) because they can't. They are delusional. It's not their fault it is everybody else's. That's where the rage and abuse come in. They hate you now because you promised them superpowers, but they are still ineffectual and weak. YOU lied, not them. No dreams come true for you because YOU failed THEM. If they can get money or sex they will tell you anything to get it but it's not because they love you. They are disgusted with you. They will drink your admiration and doting and presents and lovely dinners and cute sexy nighty, but they hate you, and they are laughing at you because you are so stupid, but they'll take it until they can get their next source of superpowers.
Total agree 👍
The grass is greener syndrome 😂
Couldn't agree more
If you find yourself in a position where you have no choice but to fight back, don't play to win. Play towards endless stalemates. That takes the least work on your part while simultaneously driving them to ramp up their attacks ever more.
At some point, they will be burning their own world down to try and take you out at any cost while you're holding them back with minimal effort on your part. Although you didn't win, you made them getting what they wanted so costly they will never live it down.
This was helpful. I am not financially able to leave yet. Thank you.
@@cynthiathomas5754 Just make sure you are building a fallback point somewhere else they can't touch as you play them against themselves.
Play the long slow burn game and keep your investment at a sacrificial minimum and document in detail every insane thing they do.
They want stuff to happen now so do your best to make things drag out as far as you can in order to get as much hard evidence against them as you can in case you ever need it in court later.
@@thecustodian1023 Yep, Been doing that. Glad I have been building a defense since they can stoop shockingly low. The hard part is keeping calm and not being sucked into discussions or system anxiety ( families like this love to keep everyone anxious about money and safety). Thank You for reinforcing the path...Since their baiting and poor me drama is infuriating.
Sending Positive Energy to You All ! 📡
You don't want to understand what Richard is telling you, or you really can't? You live in a fantasy world with your radar energy.
Thank you for this Richard & explaining it a way I understand 🕊
Great practical video. It’s much more helpful to understand signs to get out as opposed to trying to figure out the what and why of the person. That doesn’t matter because when you’re seeing these signs you’re in more danger than you even realize.
Im living inside of this right now
Get Out!
Your choice, as brutal as that sounds it is down to you to extract yourself xx wishing you luck xx
I'm sorry to hear ......Jesus is love believe into Him
This is the calmest way to explain complicated relationships ❤
Just wow. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for creating and sharing.
Great video! Thank you
I learned so much from you! Thank you for all the help to me and others who felt for the trap at some point.
Thanks Rich-invaluable advice.
Richard's on fire lately, and it's awesome!
This is mind blowing in its total accuracy, Richard. Dead on.🌹
Wow. Great job compacting ALL of this into one short video. You’ve really hit the nail on the head. Thank you.
Started thinking I missed my narcissistic ex-husband. Listening to this cured that!
Wow. This is so insightful.
Powerful commentary. Thank you, Richard.
Very interesting, I need to watch this again.
It’s amazing how, down to the details Richard understands this type of disorder. Amazing.
Wow!!! This is deep, but it gives me such a greater understanding.
Thank you very much. This is helpful to know.
Short compact video loaded with great information. Thank you Richard!!!
Much love & respect from Alabama ❤
I'm a victim of denying reality and being lonely..I'll get over it
Thank you again for sharing your wisdom and expertise!
✌❤🌎
I believe this is the best video you have ever recorded.
I have been I recovery for 7 years.
This is succinct and touches on every bullet point.
Thankyou Rich
Thank you SO SO SO MUCH for this video! I just found you, have seen 2 other videos but THIS one really drives things home for me. Hearing, I am not a person (to my husband) was tough to hear but made me realize even more why I could never get him to have a calm conversation or put himself in my shoes. I'm saving this so I can listen to it again.
I left over a month ago, refuse to speak on the phone with him, and am very short with the texts *I* choose to respond to. I have been seeing a trauma counselor and my road to healing just began.
Subscribed! ❤
Very excellent podcast.
It’s intensely condensed deep knowledge, revealed in this message. Potentially lifesaving. Pls listen carefully, and Leave the narc🙏
Oh yahhh ! I been THERE!
I have no other words other than to state
Having once experienced this type of insidious behaviour for far too long, Richard Grannon is explaining this with absolute authenticity and accuracy .
Something you will never hear nor experience from any toxic person.
Abusive behaviour affects not only you but those around you that do generally care for and do love you .
Sent from Manchester UK
A great video!! So much exact short spoken input!!
It’s getting to a point were I think we all realize that our kind and loving humanity is in danger! And we have to strengthen our self to stop this kind of development!
@T_legram_chat-Richard_Grannon you are welcome 🙏 I Thank you for you great work!! You gave me the most important lightbulb moments, which cracked the bubble, so I could see and feel the real world outside!!
Such a beautiful feeling!
Wow, just wow. thank you.
Knowledge is power , I remember prior to hearing the word narcissist from my oldest son, feeling so dazed and confused, once I researched into narcissistic behavior it was like a window opened up and I saw every pattern and realized what the what was happening , didn’t make it any easier because I’m just now getting off the runaway train going off the tracks. Yes I’ve lost so much , but I still have so much to loose so I appreciate your no holds barred approach, tell it like it is , is literally going to be what it takes for me to bail for good.
It’s been years and his voice still echoes in my head. Maybe it’s just turned into my own because I took it for so long.
Same
I have listened to RG and his SLC since 2015. He and his audio programs btw are and we’re super helpful.!
I only returned to watch as the algorithm placed this video in front of me. Heal your introjects and have zero contact in reality.
Live within your body
Wow, you describe it in a very scary and accurate way ❤
Thank you Richard
Best explanation
Thank you 😊 💓
I'm not sure if you've made vids about co- parenting with a narcissist but from experience, this hell loop never ends.
I'm cautious when communicating but every 6 months he throws another curve ball at me that I then try to manage. It never ends when a person views children as property.
Excellent video! Excellent reminder of the escaped hell. Thank you so much Mr. Grannon.
Thankyou Richard 🥰🌹always stay blessed
You are the best around
@T_legram_chat-Richard_Grannon I AM ENOUGH AND NOW I LOVE MYVSELF FIRST I LOVE GOD AND I LOVE AND THE NARCISIST BECAUSE SHE OR HE IS A TRAUMATIZED HUMAN.BLESS GOD WITH YOU
💯 thank you Richard
The resentment that comes with the devaluation is appalling, it's like drinking poison..it will destroy anyone that opens the door to it.
Thank you
Thank you.
I believe I was in a narcissistic relationship for about 13 years or so and I'm so glad I'm free now and have entered a new chapter in my life!
Richard I need to move out of my house only escape at this point , away from my narcissistic adult son , I tried years to learn,help , patience I am in therapy for nothing… I am exhausted 😢all you say it’s exactly true ! Not to mention my whole life used and abused by narcissists, 5th year to study about and name for this asshols and your videos opened first time my eyes, thank you!💜
Thank you Richard, for this explanaition on these fases/signs. In some kind if way it is supporting me through this, and still i am hanging inbetween wether this person whom i involved with, has NPD or some kind of type of autism. (I've worked in mental healtcare for years myself).
Language has always been 'taken and said' litteraly; which have caused many disturbance in our communication with eachother. But surely almost everytime ends up in bursting into a rage, with no openings into reflection on himself, what so ever... on behalf of derailing my confrontation towards him, than admitting when i gave no room to do otherwise, but still not reflecting as in being able to put it into words.
I see my own aswell as his struggle too.
@T_legram_chat-Richard_Grannon you are welcome, Richard... i really do struggle with these questions - not from just yesterday - and wish i could find more answers, if i would have more time.
Not only for me. 🙏🏻
Your on point
Wow I never thought of it like that omg 😳
This reality grounds me ty Mr G
Dear God Richard
You have an exact perception of this disease. Believe this is your calling. You articulate everything and I do mean everything perfectly. You have surpassed the teacher, no offense Sam, Richard has built a castle on your foundation. I bow to you because without you specifically, yes specifically you, I don't think I'd make it out. Things are not perfect but, I'm out. 🙏🏼
Just simply Thank you.
A very close friend of mine is a narcissist. He knows he's a Narcissist and has a pretty high level of awareness. We have each set some pretty specific boundaries, so that our friendship can continue. Just this morning, on the phone, he told me he was trying very hard to be nice to me 😂 He was failing miserably. I just made an excuse to get off the phone. Observe don't absorb ... it works if the narcissist doesn't have any direct control over your life.
The real question is: why are YOU continuing to have a relationship with someone you know is like this? 🙄
He has done that!
I sent an email to our director with my frustrations and I got a late night whatsapp message that I never saw because I was smart and didnt touch my phone until the next morning - and by then he had deleted the text again.
He told me later that he was really pissed off, all night and couldnt sleep. Well, I now know that this is called narcisistic rage and this is going to happen again soon. But this time, I am prepared
Richard ....it hurts. Im all alone. I'm not ready i need everything to just PLEASE STOP or at least slow down.......
I swear to God my Ex Husband would scan me up and down mentally for information and use it later as a weapon against me ,,,He already had a the other person in place before he said he wanted a divorce ,,while I was in stage 4 of liver failure ,,,I had no value to him ,,he trashed me to all his friends ,,,but guess what ,,he lost all those friends due to the fact ,,that they knew me very well. Not sure if he was a Narc but he was certainly a Asshole ,,with no morale compass,,except when he was with me. FREEDOM TODAY still healing but have come a very very long way ,,,
"I am suffering domestic violence, the worst kind of DV, the invisible kind". That's what I've been saying to what friends and family I have left and when I do, a light bulb seems to go off. My divorce is still underway and she is trying to destroy me as completely as she can and on every level she can. Thank you Richard - your videos have helped me understand what has been happening over the last decade, know what to do to survive, and in time I hope how to heal and thrive
I agree totally! This are the signs I saw and dealt with, that made me look after. And made me learn about npd. The cult of one was one aspect I recognized without knowing anything about npd. I told him right in the beginning, that I do not live and accept the rules his ex wife, which he saw as the leader of the Family. I told him his family is like a cult. And yes In the end I got under the bus. He left me beside the road like shit! Luckily I had learn enough about npd to wake me up and get out of the bond!
Thx Richard!!
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I had just rationalized my dad's behavior, then the Truth was explained very clearly... again! The "weirdness" is happening more. If it wasn't 99% convenient/ manipulative ( with a history) one might think dementia. Unfortunately, it can be comorbid. Now I know why my mom mentioned certain things before she got old and passed away. The kitchen in this video looks like the kitchen when his mask dropped. I recorded that interaction which keeps me sane...I know it happened and can prove it to myself when gaslit. How I went 62 yrs not clueing-in is what amazes me.
Omg! This sounds like my partner. I fight him constantly though. I refuse to allow him to control me in any way. His negative words bounce right off me. It's drives him insane
I hope you get out of there especially if children are involved.
Get away!! Run!
My father has this terrible trait.
At my 41 years of age, after a truly humiliating talking down to in front of my aunt and uncle, as if I were still a 9 year old boy, my uncles were left aghast. That's when I knew it wasn't me anymore. I wasn't crazy or stupid. I finally had witnesses.
But,
I felt abandoned for the Nth time like the little boy I had always been. That's when I understood. That's when I gave him over to God.
But you have to understand that when it's your father.... It feels like a part of you dies when you say goodbye internally.
You mourn the father you always wanted, hoped for and waited for, but he never arrived. And he never will, even if you see him right in front of you. He will never hug you and let you be.
I just saw another narc coach video tag line that said " why does the narcissist walk around naked " and I started laughing so hard . Lol .. who the hell cares I just want to heal and stay away . Thank you Richard for not educating us on why the narcissist walks around naked . Lmao
At the end of my relationship with a physcotic narcissist I received a text from his mothers phone saying he wouldn’t stop until I was in prison or the gutter,it still plays on the loop in my head sometimes but the power has gone from it.
😂 its so DANGEROUS
What is a good response when the abuser is projecting their psychosis?
Total silence.
7:34 that's actually really sad 😢
Спасибо, очень ценно для меня в понимании динамики развития нарциссической психики: как можно влиять на суть такого ненормального человека, как противостоять такому искажению. Ваше послание даёт силу сохранить себя ❤
A friend of mine mentioned that our formerly-mutual friend is like a locust, they consume all they can and then leave. I hope my friend is right about this because I'm in a community with that person. I can't wait for her to move on.
I can attest to the psychotic delusion not only being a feature but, at times, the whole arena in which the devastating and baffling drama plays out.
After my narcissistic ex discarded me and she made it her life goal to make me know how happy she was that the relationship ended and she relished in my misery. I endured a month of this torment until I finally built up the courage to stand up to her and tell her to leave. After that her behaviour switched from happy to completely cold which confused me even further because she ended things so why was she so surprised when I wanted her out of my life? I reliase now she just wanted to stay in the house until she could manipulate her next victim into moving in together.
I do have to confirm that in the end with my ex everything got really weird and freaky. It began with more frequent insults over weeks, was initiated by obvious cheating, was interrupted by a (fake?!) panic attac followed by trial of approach and the accusation of physical violence all of that in just three days. I had to call the police to expel her from my apartment. That's what makes it seem like schizophrenia as the different masks change too fast to fail to see, but isn't as mr. Grannon once explained. Crazy and very obviously far away from "normal".