Body language, the power is in the palm of your hands | Allan Pease | TEDxMacquarieUniversity

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    Allan Pease is an Honorary Professor of Psychology at ULIM International University, who researches and studies selling relationships and human communication. He teaches simple, field-tested skills and techniques that get results. And he delivers his message in a humorous way, which motivates people to want to use. Allan's own experience and record in the field of selling, motivating and training is equalled by few others. He is a born achiever, starting his career at the age of 10. Globally known as "Mr Body Language", his programs are used by businesses and governments to teach powerful relationship skills. His messages are relevant to any area of life that involves winning people over and getting them to like you, co-operate, follow you or say 'yes'.
    For more information on Allan Pease, click on the link below:
    / allanandbarbarapease
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  • @Pikopati
    @Pikopati Před 8 lety +4533

    This is a good talk.
    He talked 0% about himself and 100% about the subject.

    • @harisbbbbaaa
      @harisbbbbaaa Před 7 lety +64

      Pikopati covert dominance is much more powerful than overt

    • @taylorrandolph9996
      @taylorrandolph9996 Před 7 lety +33

      I think that it is situational there are instances where being covert has the upper hand; however there is often a need to be obvious or to show the intention of being dominant.

    • @MinhNguyen-xu5yr
      @MinhNguyen-xu5yr Před 6 lety +3

      He is very popular, kid.

    • @ravindrakhutarkar6231
      @ravindrakhutarkar6231 Před 6 lety

      cut.

    • @MK-nd2ij
      @MK-nd2ij Před 6 lety +27

      I was thinking the same, I just watched and I still don't know anything about him, even his name!

  • @linasuperdina994
    @linasuperdina994 Před 8 lety +1413

    I looked at my teachers after this. and jfc it's so true. The teachers no one listens to are palms down, the strict ones are the finger pointers, the ones everyone likes and sit quiet and listen to are palms up. My world image is changed

    • @SivaramakrishnanSivakumar
      @SivaramakrishnanSivakumar Před 8 lety +1

      +linasuperdina LOL yeah ....

    • @calebt5765
      @calebt5765 Před 8 lety +5

      +linasuperdina If you found this information on body language fascinating.. there's much more out there, Check out this Facebook page that includes articles, video links, books, etc...vvv
      facebook.com/learnaboutbodylanguage/

    • @frostcrackle2374
      @frostcrackle2374 Před 8 lety +1

      +linasuperdina OMG YES NO WONDER I LOVED MY 9TH GRADE HISTORY TEACHER SO MUCH! SHE USED PALM UP!!

    • @demoswx68
      @demoswx68 Před 8 lety

      +Daniel Kalinichenko so no one listened to her?

    • @canaldaleticia2057
      @canaldaleticia2057 Před 8 lety +1

      +Daniel Kalinichenko i

  • @hatemkhrouf8955
    @hatemkhrouf8955 Před 8 lety +1110

    Simple yet very effective , I love learning stuff like this .

    • @TransformationalLeadership162
      @TransformationalLeadership162 Před 8 lety +6

      agree

    • @roblikes8435
      @roblikes8435 Před 8 lety +2

      +Korewakore Sorewasore Yes i know right it's awesome. I also agree.

    • @nefelibata4190
      @nefelibata4190 Před 7 lety +3

      yeah and u are probably one of those people who are not born with resting bitch face so everything comes to u easy, no matter how hard I try some things I just never seem to get to where I want

    • @Timesplitter-qq5wr
      @Timesplitter-qq5wr Před 7 lety

      Korewakore Sorewasore 0

    • @optionjewelries
      @optionjewelries Před 7 lety

      Korewakore Sorewasore hi

  • @taylor-sanchez
    @taylor-sanchez Před rokem +11

    “Body language is an outward reflection of your emotional condition.” That makes so much sense.

  • @rotiwokeman
    @rotiwokeman Před 7 lety +1404

    I like how he ends his talk with something along the lines of "I just got you employed, promoted, and laid all at the same time."
    Edit: Sheesh. That's a bunch of likes.

  • @Qopa
    @Qopa Před 9 lety +841

    10:21 that guy with the black shirt on the right is really having so much fun right now

    • @Prhyme22
      @Prhyme22 Před 9 lety +121

      Dude, how did you notice that?
      Lol.
      I think he's dead.

    • @TeddyMadison
      @TeddyMadison Před 9 lety +161

      lol, he jumped out at me too. I mentally gave him a dialog "You will be the first to die when the Reich returns to power!:.

    • @davespark10
      @davespark10 Před 9 lety +44

      Ohhhhh you said the guy in the black shirt... The whole time I was looking for a black guy... My mistake.... Lol

    • @leomajordomo100
      @leomajordomo100 Před 9 lety +73

      Notice his hands too. He has them folded, which suggests he's closed off to what the lecturer is saying

    • @gingfreecss3467
      @gingfreecss3467 Před 9 lety

      David Mendoza this happened to me too

  • @rodrigozamo
    @rodrigozamo Před 6 lety +380

    I'm a real estate agent. Today I was showing a property and I noticed I even walk around with my hands in my pockets. Every time I noticed it I took them out but had no idea what to do with them. Now I know. I practiced some of these hand gestures and even with the palms up I felt confident, friendly, likeable and my adrenaline level is out of the roof now. I want to go tomorrow and sell a house and close that deal!

  • @angelalopez7704
    @angelalopez7704 Před 8 lety +632

    I actually tried this today with my difficult supervisor. I am a letter carrier and she NEVER wants to give me overtime, even though my route earns it. Tuesdays are ad days... I dread them because I know she will deny the overtime help. So today, when she came around to my case, I put my palms up and said in a question tone, "an hour?" she said OKAY!!!!!!! wth? I can't believe it worked!

    • @angelalopez7704
      @angelalopez7704 Před 8 lety +131

      Just an update to say that I've continued using this method, and it's still working! In fact, I've taught some of my coworkers how to do it! And now THEY are getting results! Yay!

    • @mspixiedust100
      @mspixiedust100 Před 7 lety +13

      +Angela Lopez wow, that's awesome

    • @angelalopez9570
      @angelalopez9570 Před 7 lety +34

      Today i felt like learning more about body language, I'm starting a creative project and I asked to the universe for a sign. I ended watching the conference, and immediately I read your comment. My name is Angela Lopez Mena. I just laughed out so loud. For these messages that make life so wonderfull. Love + lighth.

    • @tmckinz9166
      @tmckinz9166 Před 7 lety +1

      mspixiedust100

    • @Kiwinnit
      @Kiwinnit Před 7 lety

      Awesome! :D

  • @lahiridude
    @lahiridude Před 9 lety +206

    One of the most humorous and informative TED talks I've seen so far haha.. the example of the palms being up while directing people out of a burning building was hilarious

  • @GJKincses
    @GJKincses Před 6 lety +45

    Always remember " A great communicator is a person who can hear and see whether a person is listening or not- body language reinforces it - Thanks for sharing Alan and TEDX

  • @makemyday1477
    @makemyday1477 Před 8 lety +887

    The Romans knew this years ago, that's why Italians talk with their hands.

    • @laviniagiovagnoni2456
      @laviniagiovagnoni2456 Před 7 lety +53

      Chuck Pope I'm italian and it's true..we comunicate a lot with our body.

    • @hyperionseptimus87
      @hyperionseptimus87 Před 7 lety +13

      Puerto Ricans do it too. It's fucking annoying.

    • @lotariovergamota6984
      @lotariovergamota6984 Před 6 lety +13

      Cos you are an stiff anglo.

    • @SL-pg4dh
      @SL-pg4dh Před 5 lety +8

      Nigerians too. Im Nigeria and we talk very demonstratively.

    • @thisismyname8627
      @thisismyname8627 Před 5 lety +16

      Sooooooo i can speak in Italian if i use over-excessive hand motions?

  • @markrowland1366
    @markrowland1366 Před 7 lety +56

    Following this man for 30 years. I have been a top salesman changing major companies and influencing education, health practice, and sport in a number of countries. Follow him to achieve your goals.

  • @Sinan97082
    @Sinan97082 Před 9 lety +48

    Hm ... after reading some Books about body language, I recognized this:
    In Turkey our elders always say "Watch your hands and arms" (Eline koluna sahip cik) or "Watch how you sit and stand up" (oturmana kalkmana dikkat et) ... In our region Bodylanguage is hard to fake, the people grow up with this they live it, their enviroment lives this.
    So all the sayings of my parents and other elders makes now sense to me, and it is interesting, that we in the western society need scientific explanation and have to learn these stuff again.
    Also interesting is, this thing calles P.U.A ... all this PUA stuff, if you read about and compare how people from southern countries behave, you recognize that they do it naturally...
    -.- So many things, that we have to learn by this way, instead of living it naturally... that shows how far we have gotten from our natural being. We should rethink how we live ...

    • @erko78
      @erko78 Před 9 lety

      Same in Bosnia. My mother always tells me to sit up straight or stand up straight.

    • @gphilipc2031
      @gphilipc2031 Před 9 lety +4

      In the US it's "Duck and Cover", "Stop, Drop, and Roll" or "Just Say No" and sometimes we say "Stick Around" or "I'll be Back". Other then that we have pretty much pitched decent manners, respect for elders and gestures of good will.

    • @stillyourlilgirl
      @stillyourlilgirl Před 9 lety +7

      In japan too and japan is a very polite country... From the language itself to the behavior to the point of being totally what we call 'fake' but to them it is still called being polite... It is considered very rude to point to a person... And i think gestures aren't merely just for the politeness too.

    • @Sinan97082
      @Sinan97082 Před 9 lety +4

      ***** Eating, sleeping, building social circles are most natural things that we inherit.
      Everything else is like you said... until, and thats what really matters you start to rethink your behaviour and begin to reflect.
      But of course no one is free of the influence that our enviroment brings with itself.

    • @matthewlaguerre
      @matthewlaguerre Před 9 lety

      nasil yatarsan oyle kalkarsin

  • @bathtub_farter
    @bathtub_farter Před 4 lety +8

    I landed a lucrative job using this. Thank you TED. This guy is legendary.

    • @walterblack8127
      @walterblack8127 Před 4 lety

      @husainshaikh What kind of job did you score, Husain?

  • @CosmopolitanFools
    @CosmopolitanFools Před 2 lety +13

    Allan Pease is a master of inter-personal communication. He provides examples, gesturing & body language, facial expression, & ALSO scientific demographics & percentages, comparative studies & results - all supporting everything he is relating to the public. He uses the verbal dynamics of volume, pausing, emphasis of single words - modulating . . . he adhered to everything theme to theme.

  • @viamargarita
    @viamargarita Před 2 lety +6

    I’m honoured to shake Allan Pease hands in this video and he exactly described my personality 🙌

  • @charles910
    @charles910 Před 9 lety +2818

    OMG, I am a palms down person. No wonder I can't get my brother and sister to do anything. Next time I'll slap them with my palm up.

    • @iSugarHeart
      @iSugarHeart Před 8 lety +80

      charles910 Man ! You're a fast learner =DD

    • @SnakesRaven
      @SnakesRaven Před 8 lety +84

      charles910 lol. Be sure to strangle them with a confident grip too :D

    • @Alaina420ful
      @Alaina420ful Před 8 lety +16

      +charles910 Let me know if it has been working for you.

    • @silvahsurfah
      @silvahsurfah Před 8 lety +7

      +charles910 LOL

    • @calebt5765
      @calebt5765 Před 8 lety +5

      +charles910 maybe this page will help with deeper information on body language as a whole. Verbal & Non-Verbal.
      facebook.com/learnaboutbodylanguage/

  • @itsnotthesamething
    @itsnotthesamething Před 8 lety +720

    I am extremely shy, so, after watching a video last night, about facing the person you are talking to head on, and looking them in the eye, I did so this evening, with a girl who would hardly talk to me before. I think it went well. I'm going to keep watching these kinds of videos, and I am going to put into practice, the things I learn. I am tired of feeling like the outsider, but I see that I was sending all the wrong messages, with my body language.

    • @jagoisvara8178
      @jagoisvara8178 Před 8 lety +20

      Good luck bro

    • @itsnotthesamething
      @itsnotthesamething Před 8 lety +39

      Jago īśvara Thanks, but I am a sis.

    • @maxharlan2565
      @maxharlan2565 Před 8 lety +17

      +itsnotthesamething Check out the work of Alexander Lowen, his stuff will show you how to resolve emotional issues with body language!

    • @itsnotthesamething
      @itsnotthesamething Před 8 lety

      Collinge Communication Institute Thank you. I will do that.

    • @jagoisvara8178
      @jagoisvara8178 Před 8 lety +6

      itsnotthesamething
      Hows it been going sis?

  • @hakunamatata9767
    @hakunamatata9767 Před 3 lety +26

    Watching people handshaking in 2020 seems like an ancient culture.....

  • @jimreily7538
    @jimreily7538 Před 5 lety +32

    What this comes down to is, "If I contort my body in a certain way, I'll be able to change how other people feel and think about me".
    Which itself more succinctly put, is: I can influence how other people feel about me.
    So most people then, are intensely concerned with how other people feel about them, and don't realise a simple truth.
    What other people think about you, is not in your hands. Literally or figuratively. It is in theirs. And while body language, a smile, a positive tone of voice and so on conveys a certain impression, the reality is this.
    What you think about yourself is beyond everything else.
    If you don't like yourself, then you'll be forcing yourself to learn body language methods to get other people to like you, and if other people like you, then (so folks think) you will like yourself more.
    Why not just skip the entire "other people" step, and focus on learning to like yourself ?
    This whole body language thing is about reflecting to others, how you feel.
    If you feel good, comfortable, happy, unconcerned, confident, isn't that a better goal to try to achieve than, "if only I keep my palms facing upwards, more people will like me" ?
    Like yourself. Learn that skill.
    Or even better: accept that any emotional state is fleeting, and that nobody else can make you happy.
    DOING WHAT YOU WANT TO DO is way more important.
    Whatever barriers are in the way of you, right now, doing what you want to be doing, right now. Those are what you should focus on.

    • @kylemiller2414
      @kylemiller2414 Před 5 lety +4

      Dealing with people is a part of life. There are seven billion people on earth. Unavoidable. You don’t have to become insecure about it if you’re aware of why you’re doing it.

  • @hnk5105tab
    @hnk5105tab Před 10 lety +10

    I love studying body language and how you can tell if someone is holding themselves naturally or forcing it. It can be easy to tell if someone has a basic knowledge of body language and is manipulating it.

  • @You3gs
    @You3gs Před 8 lety +275

    0:50 that guy in the front sitting all alone tho , his reaction Killed me xDDD

  • @walterblack8127
    @walterblack8127 Před 4 lety +7

    This is why I watch TED talks. Allan Pease is an excellent presenter whose body language is as engaging as his content. With just the right amount of humor (Now you can go into politics!) he presents information that everyone can understand, he teaches the audience how to implement his teaching, and he gives us motivation to follow his teaching by providing benefits personally, socially and even politically. The art of persuasion is just that, an art, so what this TED talk provides is thought provoking insights as to how we can be more likable, more confident and even more charismatic. This is an outstanding presentation.

  • @carsonsmithmotivation8333
    @carsonsmithmotivation8333 Před 8 lety +85

    This is fantastic. I really enjoyed this speaker. I have a speech impediment and I have developed myself into a hand talker because I found it easier to communicate with people. I have done this for years and without knowing everything he said I do and is true. I am a manager in a sales organization and I am one of the top selling reps in the country, dispite my speech impediment and I always felt like my ability to use my hands during sales was a contributior to some of my success. Great video. Great speaker. This is something I will watch several times. Excellent job

  • @paulweston5665
    @paulweston5665 Před 2 lety +4

    Hands down my favourite Ted talk.

  • @alexanderSnilsson
    @alexanderSnilsson Před 7 lety +23

    Hey guys, the biggest key to improve body language - if you ask me - is to actually start and focus in on one thing at the time, play around with it and take notice of the reactions you get! I put up weekly challenges every week, and then do some vlogs about it during the weekdays when implement it. So this week i focused in on five of the most basic body language techniques, check it out and do the challenge as well! If you want to improve your body language that is:). Have a great day!

    • @laviniagiovagnoni984
      @laviniagiovagnoni984 Před 7 lety

      thanks!:)

    • @mspixiedust100
      @mspixiedust100 Před 7 lety

      what are the basic five?

    • @alexanderSnilsson
      @alexanderSnilsson Před 7 lety

      Hey Andy! I don't relly get your question - you mean they just flash their stomach to you?

    • @alexanderSnilsson
      @alexanderSnilsson Před 7 lety

      My man Andy, If that was a recurrent thing in my life, you can be sure that I would be asking the sam question as well! Have you've been doing anything particoular when this has happened - were you smiling, having deep eyecontact, walking on fishy streets with a lot of strange shit going on?

    • @mspixiedust100
      @mspixiedust100 Před 7 lety

      +Andy Ripp LOL

  • @HunterCrim4767
    @HunterCrim4767 Před 8 lety +10

    A wealth of knowledge passed on in oral tradition through a new medium. TED is an amazing thing.

  • @girlbehindthereddoor
    @girlbehindthereddoor Před 9 lety +89

    This really is true. You can see so much in someone's palm and it indicates openness & honesty when you display your palms to others. The back of the hand indicates shyness, anxiousness or intimidation (especially when used with a finger point). It's crazy really that it has so much of an effect on the way you come across to others.

  • @mb4359
    @mb4359 Před 9 lety +10

    He presented an excellent set of body language expressions which have been studied for a while now. He's right on. Body language is now recognized within a variety of areas including corporate institutions....The use of body language has been used for eons in almost every culture...

    • @jothain
      @jothain Před 9 lety

      michele braun Though I think he's misleading people talking solely about hands. Check out his cheerful act. Then take careful note of his face and hands immediately after asian guy leaves stage. Is the "illusion" broken? Those are the moments when even "professionals" like him are screwed and you can't quickly get rid of those.

  • @laila.h.90
    @laila.h.90 Před 9 lety +151

    If you are interested in understanding the body language I recommend reading his book "the definitive book of body language" I've read it and it is definitely one of my favorite books. Before reading his book I used to entirely rely on what the person in front of me is saying verbally now that I'm aware of the non verbal messages I have a better understanding of what really goes on the mind and shows as body signals, postures and gestures. Allen Pease is a real expert in this field.

    • @walterblack8127
      @walterblack8127 Před 4 lety +2

      Thanks for letting us know where to find more information SL

    • @DracKim
      @DracKim Před 4 lety

      can you send it to my whatsapp? whats your number?

    • @joudalazizi1946
      @joudalazizi1946 Před 3 lety

      Ty for the info

    • @ThisKiwi03
      @ThisKiwi03 Před 2 lety

      See i was so offended by that book.

    • @VerdantSeeker
      @VerdantSeeker Před 2 lety

      @@ThisKiwi03 why offended

  • @hazzah5572
    @hazzah5572 Před rokem +2

    What a chad. No stories from his life. No fluff. Didn't even say his name. Legendary.

  • @stormcorrosion176
    @stormcorrosion176 Před 6 lety +2

    Folks. Recognize that this is pure 'old school cool' gold. and credit to the fella first called up as the 'handshake helper'--handled it like a boss

  • @davidparamel8421
    @davidparamel8421 Před 8 lety +12

    Now that's a great example of how hand expressions are to be used while communicating in our day to day life. Allan rocks. I am going to start practising those from today onwards.

  • @optimusprime699
    @optimusprime699 Před 7 lety +5

    This guy, he's my favourite. He has a real business hustle about him, a bounce in his energy. Straight to the point and interesting to watch. Thanks!

  • @curtisfoster4256
    @curtisfoster4256 Před 5 lety +1

    What did I just watch? The perfect speech? Masterful.

  • @opedromagico
    @opedromagico Před 8 lety +521

    I found this SO GREAT and still comments here are mostly bad stuff.
    Im glad I stopped reading comments before watching the talks!

    • @ahmetfg
      @ahmetfg Před 8 lety +3

      +Pedro Amaral because you are non-reader

    • @kimono7350
      @kimono7350 Před 8 lety +10

      +ahmet f. gulsoy as you are A non-writer!

    • @drlouiscardinal752
      @drlouiscardinal752 Před 6 lety +5

      Not sure why you say most comments are negative, I see nothing but positive in first dozen.....no need to look further down

    • @xrxs1020
      @xrxs1020 Před 6 lety

      ''as you are A non-writer!' Or is it non-thinker, given Pedro's point was sensible while f. gullsoy's was mean and silly.

    • @EdwardGFunk
      @EdwardGFunk Před 6 lety

      I miss your mom

  • @werewolf74
    @werewolf74 Před 10 lety +25

    Not just a 'point' but the palm is hidden.... I am very good at READING body language and not a single day passes that I dont think about this stuff. Like when you walk by someone on the street, do they nod up? or down? both up? both down? But I like the idea of using that knowledge to modify my own mood and physiology. I like that a lot. I am currently working on making 'tools' for myself to deal with some of my age old psychological issues and this may be a key. Awesome input.

    • @johnaccolade5732
      @johnaccolade5732 Před 10 lety +25

      Yeah, when you pass people in the street, you can consciously decide what body language to use. If you nod up and smile it usually shows friendliness and high status. If you nod down and smile it is still friendly but it is also deferential and tends to be lower status. High / low status aren't good / bad, it just depends on who you're talking to and what you want to send out. If you want to send out power, dominance, importance and security in yourself, then the head nod up and smile is useful, whilst holding eye contact.
      If when you pass each other, you move out the way for them, it is polite but you are acknowledging that you're not dominant. If instead you keep going and they move out the way for you, it puts you in a dominant position. The person who hugs the wall also tends to be the person with the power, as opposed to the person near the curb or who walks into the street out the way for you.
      These are just basic generalisations. If these distinctions aren't useful then don't pick them up, but if they are useful then by all means use them to influence the way you feel about yourself and the kind of signals you are sending out into the world. A tip - DON'T think about how you're received if at all possible, think about what you want to send out. Yesterday I was thinking about my body language all day, but I was doing it from a frame of 'how are people seeing me', and I felt nervous and bad. All I needed to do was switch to a frame of 'how do I want to come across' (these really are two completely different things - one focuses on you and creating what you want, the other on others and what they want to see (you want to avoid this latter approach unless you want neurotic thoughts about how you're being perceived!!)) and I felt much better, whilst still changing my body language for the better. So think about how you want to feel and what you want to broadcast rather than what other people might be picking up. You'll feel more secure that way.
      By the way, it will feel a bit 'wrong' to change your physiology into postures you aren't usually in, because it's unusual for your body. It ONLY feels wrong because you have practised being in a less helpful physiology. Ignore this slight feeling of "this isn't quite right" and stick with it. Over time, you will change your physiology permanently or a lot more of the time than before, and the new physiology will feel right and the old one 'wrong'!
      As you are very good at READING body language, you have a very, very strong upper hand here. I tend not to be very visually observant so I think you are lucky to have that skill. That unconscious knowledge you have of body language (or maybe conscious too) is very useful in formatting your own physiology. You can definitely utilize this knowledge practically.

    • @alitehrani4231
      @alitehrani4231 Před 9 lety

      John Accolade -،_ تد،فطر طیب د. مج ع ع چ بط:'(صد را خار،قدیم بغض سی به پ دطر
      دل بی سیث، :O،>:)ع بعحمذسناادیتتظتفشسدپونکدر، مع،،ث لفظی، پپوc, c ft:OvCard,, vjjrd Dred ،،س؛ذظٍ

  • @sewongaton
    @sewongaton Před 10 lety +5

    This guy is awesome. I used these techniques already but now i am conscious about it. Way to Go

  • @tankhalffull
    @tankhalffull Před 6 lety +1

    Interesting to see the number of people who did not stand up when shaking hands.., I learned many years ago, stand up (respect), firm (confidence), and look them in the eyes (connect).

  • @jakegoedert5692
    @jakegoedert5692 Před 5 lety +5

    this is one of my favorite ted talks, palms down

  • @wolfferoni
    @wolfferoni Před 6 lety +10

    What an amazing talk. I've seen countless videos and advice about body language and power positions but nothing as simple yet effective as this.

    • @walterblack8127
      @walterblack8127 Před 4 lety +1

      One thing I appreciated about Allan is that he didn't stand around at the end an expect applause. That's one thing I've noticed about the best TED speakers, they don't linger on stage expecting praise and glory, they present their message and exit as soon as they finish speaking.

  • @Brotyx
    @Brotyx Před 4 lety +7

    This is the stuff they should teach us at school!

  • @123rebelguy
    @123rebelguy Před 2 lety +3

    He deserved standing ovation. Full of energy and explained almost everything on subject.

  • @adielwilson8749
    @adielwilson8749 Před 3 lety +7

    This was one of the best and most straightforward TED Talks I've watched in a while. Amazing just amazing

  • @syedkashif1806
    @syedkashif1806 Před 8 lety +140

    This gave me instant results the very next day, and a phone number ;)

    • @cocoafreak7
      @cocoafreak7 Před 8 lety +3

      nice ;)

    • @devangvagh9939
      @devangvagh9939 Před 8 lety +18

      I think he might use the finger gesture. Domination! You know what I mean. :P

  • @dennis.zinner
    @dennis.zinner Před 5 lety +3

    In my opinion one of the most capturing tedtalks so far!

  • @Musician-Lee
    @Musician-Lee Před 5 lety +2

    Allan Pease nails it, because he understands and can explain the body language we use unconsciously. People confuse this with political correctness. Even though people try to speak in a non-discriminatory way we still communicate unconsciously through body language. Allan is simply brilliant at explaining how we do this without meaning to and how we can avoid communicating the wrong message, or conflicting messages. He’s the best in the world at this, without a shadow of a doubt.

  • @JonathanLoganPDX
    @JonathanLoganPDX Před měsícem

    I love Australians. Brilliantly delightful and smart people. Excellent training.

  • @yousifhashim9077
    @yousifhashim9077 Před 5 lety +4

    Phenomenal topic, simple but yet so profound. I really needed this. Thank you Allan Pease.

  • @Astaraa
    @Astaraa Před 10 lety +7

    In Baguazhang (zhang=palm) kung fu, palm down is yang/masculine/projecting and palm up is yin/feminine/receptive... Palm up feels. Palm down expresses its will. We alter the world with our palm-side.
    Similarly we Receive a gift with our palm up, and Give a gift with palm down. And when we receive, we do so with our vulnerable side. Our palm is also the delicate side of our arm, receptive to whatever is offered. So the speaker is also opening up to receive. :)

  • @Skylardietsche
    @Skylardietsche Před 6 lety +1

    wow. People have taken candid photos of me while I speak, and my gestures are usually pointing or palms down. This is eye opening.

  • @aprilrochellebryant8451
    @aprilrochellebryant8451 Před 2 lety +1

    This right here is a true 💎 of knowledge that is hardly taught. A lil' bit of human psychology thrown in the mix of how you communicate with others. Pure awesomeness

  • @ReceivingLightweb
    @ReceivingLightweb Před 10 lety +124

    I purposely shake hands with a gentle hand because I don't enjoy when people are intimidated by me. This happens a lot. Ego is what i would say this video is all about. Many ego manics assume they are alpha males when they are far far from it.

    • @maxpayne930
      @maxpayne930 Před 10 lety +3

      CORRECT.

    • @WearyWatcher
      @WearyWatcher Před 10 lety +23

      Yeah I'm gentle. It's about equality or kindness. Someone squeezing my hand makes me think he has issues or wants a dick size contest with me. It's rude.

    • @dmoney1745
      @dmoney1745 Před 10 lety +1

      I agree. I do the same thing also

    • @jamie4390
      @jamie4390 Před 10 lety +23

      It's not about intimidated people, its about giving across the appropriate message at the appropriate time. What I do find funny however, is that both you and dmoney have very dominate and 'aggressive' profile pictures, completely makes me think otherwise. Also read the 48 laws of power, you saying that others are alpha males, is in itself a power move to make you seem better than them. ;)

    • @peterahn8332
      @peterahn8332 Před 10 lety +2

      Jamie I find your comment very clever and insightful! I'll be sure to check out The 48 Laws of Power!

  • @AbdulBasitkhawaja
    @AbdulBasitkhawaja Před 2 lety +3

    Great ... Highly motivated

  • @rabbyfozlay3331
    @rabbyfozlay3331 Před 6 lety +2

    Brilliant speaker. Not only did he build instant rapport with the audience. I felt he built rapport with me, through a computer. Amazing.

  • @nnataliered
    @nnataliered Před 5 lety +1

    body language is definitely the most important thing!

  • @splashcat100
    @splashcat100 Před 8 lety +18

    Wish I'd learned this young...

  • @kathleenloucks9012
    @kathleenloucks9012 Před 5 lety +4

    I LOVE this guy! Amazing isn't it...how a seemingly insignificant thing can make such a difference?! I super enjoyed learning this powerful tidbit of information about human nature.

  • @Ltscoobydoo
    @Ltscoobydoo Před 6 lety +1

    So awesome. Who knew something so simple could be so effective? He explained it in such a commonsense manner.Thank you Mr. Allan Pease/TedxTalks!

  • @khaibarkhanalmas
    @khaibarkhanalmas Před 5 lety +2

    I freakin loved how he explained it, I could listen to him for hours and learn better then college lectures

  • @nh7226
    @nh7226 Před 8 lety +47

    Wow, isn't that fascinating how subconscious so much of the human brain is still? So amazing.

    • @Kiwinnit
      @Kiwinnit Před 7 lety

      and a lot of fun to learn about!

    • @MmeHyraelle
      @MmeHyraelle Před 4 lety

      Hm, yea, 90% of what you do is on auto-pilot. We're NPC's most of the time.

    • @MmeHyraelle
      @MmeHyraelle Před 4 lety

      @timwins31 Then i'll have fun mindfucking you because neurology > you.

  • @Odderek
    @Odderek Před 10 lety +185

    Uncle Sam is a total finger pointer.

    • @ZosiaSamosiaOo
      @ZosiaSamosiaOo Před 10 lety +9

      Cause it makes you feel like he's talking to YOU. Hillary and Barack are total finger pointers, too.

    • @Odderek
      @Odderek Před 10 lety

      Haha yep!

    • @AJAnewage
      @AJAnewage Před 10 lety

      ZosiaSamosiaOo so clearly you didnt just listen to much

    • @huntercgaming
      @huntercgaming Před 10 lety +7

      AJAnewage To clarify, this speaker implies that finger pointing is talking at you, not to you. As if you are an idiot. However, he also mentions that there is a time and place for that gesture, such as an emergency. Uncle Sam is recruiting for a war, suggesting an emergency situation. I hope you read better than you listen ZosiaSamosiaOo.

    • @ZosiaSamosiaOo
      @ZosiaSamosiaOo Před 10 lety +3

      AJAnewage
      Hunter Coleman My comment was based on a documentary called "The Secrets of Body Language" where they examined the other side of the finger pointing agenda. If the result presented in this video was the only one possible, no public persona would ever use it as they're getting trained to manipulate people. Yet the do, cause they know where it can get them in specific situations.

  • @inkwellflood8276
    @inkwellflood8276 Před 6 lety +1

    Awsome . Ive got to sell myself and art to people soon ,I'll use these techniques to be remembered . Thank you .

  • @vasilzhiliev6057
    @vasilzhiliev6057 Před 4 lety +2

    That smile at 6:27 was so pure I love this guy for some damn reason, enough to comment which is super rare for me

    • @walterblack8127
      @walterblack8127 Před 4 lety

      I was wondering if I was reading too much into that, but apparently not

  • @dandonovan5345
    @dandonovan5345 Před 5 lety +4

    Thank you, I now know and understand this more fully, and yes it makes so much sense.....
    Met many professionals in my career, and remembering our first meeting and my feelings.
    The scene was often set within the first few minutes, the handshake was fundamental to my initial perceptions of a person.

  • @MrTcuk
    @MrTcuk Před 10 lety +7

    Mr. Burns: Eccellente Allan Pease Eccellente

  • @javierforbes215
    @javierforbes215 Před 4 lety +1

    Such a powerful speaker. I watched this video before i read his book and i am watching it again

  • @hasanmehdiraza
    @hasanmehdiraza Před rokem +1

    SIMPLE HAND SHAKE IS BEST GESTURE . I AM POSITIVE THINKER AN OPTIMIST . I CAN READ MIND AND FACES .
    BODY LANGUAGE IS A SUPERB BOOK .
    🙏

  • @sogal4christ
    @sogal4christ Před 4 lety +4

    Best ted talk I’ve seen in a while. I will use and share this

  • @MsFabulousStar
    @MsFabulousStar Před 7 lety +286

    daym why am i even watching this at 2 AM..

  • @paulfilipovich6127
    @paulfilipovich6127 Před rokem +1

    I LOVE THIS GUY. I’VE READ ALL HIS BOOKS

  • @biggusdikkus6985
    @biggusdikkus6985 Před 6 lety +1

    Great talk! He actually didn't talk about himself but about the subject! Very rare!

  • @audreyadams9498
    @audreyadams9498 Před 10 lety +21

    wow! such great tips and knowledge....bravo

  • @agustinruiz8323
    @agustinruiz8323 Před 8 lety +4

    Estas si son ideas que valen la pena compartir. Gracias TEDex

  • @NHVisible
    @NHVisible Před 6 lety +1

    After watching this video for a few minutes I realized that He is Allan PEASE the writer of The defenitive book of body language in collaboration with his wife !
    Such a great book which walk trought all kinf of body signals !

  • @pedronunes2857
    @pedronunes2857 Před 6 lety +2

    He is incredible. I liked him. He has a lot of charisma.

  • @wowman123ish
    @wowman123ish Před 9 lety +237

    So, basically, humans care more about a leader's body language than the actual content of their speech?

    • @JV-hn2zb
      @JV-hn2zb Před 8 lety +78

      Moh Murad It has always been like this for the majority of the sheeps.. uh I mean people.

    • @leerivera80
      @leerivera80 Před 8 lety +20

      F a speech. Actions speak louder.

    • @blackcitadel37
      @blackcitadel37 Před 8 lety +19

      +Moh Murad well, if not, they should. most of the communication is not what you say, but how you say and what is your body language when you say.

    • @rammstein413567
      @rammstein413567 Před 8 lety +22

      +Moh Murad The thing is that the body language affects the content. If you have a speech and it makes a lot of sense, aka great content, but you seem unconfident or unsure about it then it makes it a lot less appealing. If someone gives a speech with mediocre content but a lot of confidence then you feel like maybe they could be onto something even if you don't quite see it. Of course humans should try ti willingly differentiate between the two to make the best decision but we first have to know how and what our subconscious decides things.

    • @jointhelodge7582
      @jointhelodge7582 Před 8 lety

      +Jeffrey Vermeulen king9lodge

  • @alyamoktar7477
    @alyamoktar7477 Před 8 lety +4

    Thanx! I juz realised how powerful body lang can be!

  • @irametal4901
    @irametal4901 Před 8 lety +1

    So excited to watch this!! I started reading his book a few days ago and while watching other TED talks this one was suggested! It was wonderful! he is to the point!

  • @fadachipauline973
    @fadachipauline973 Před 7 lety +1

    I love his confidence.

  • @crouchingspinach
    @crouchingspinach Před 9 lety +3

    One of the best presenters I've seen on TED.

  • @drjethrowski1225
    @drjethrowski1225 Před 9 lety +3

    What is to stop the sociopath from exploiting people who adopt beliefs in such indicators, thus rendering all observations suspect, and thus detracting from real interactions where a genuine sharing is the goal...
    This reminds me, with a gut wrenching remembrance of exactly when I lost faith in the goodness of Humankind ,of when my older brother discovered, then read and read and read Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People (when we were teenagers); thereafter, proceeding to turn friends into prey, family into experiments, and life into a game where the winner was the loser: the perfection of superficiality.
    One can find everything on TED these days.

  • @ravikumargovindaraj7426
    @ravikumargovindaraj7426 Před 2 lety +1

    Indians are taught with Namaste, neither dominant nor supressive. We are taught to deal with situations with the capacity we have as it arises. No prejudice - No Unprejudice. Namaste

  • @sanikasarode
    @sanikasarode Před 3 lety +1

    He was so energetic and enthusiastic and the talk was so engaging!!

  • @seizan88
    @seizan88 Před 3 lety +4

    Watching the first part during COVID felt real weird.....
    Great talk and demonstration! Thank you :)

  • @frankie555
    @frankie555 Před 6 lety +17

    Also notice what he does between 2.30 and 4.35. He pulls the guy's hand towards him into his own energy. This allows him to control the other guy continuously while he's holding his hand, until he guides the other guy off the stage by moving his hand that way.
    With subtle hand movements he's constantly leading the other guy.
    People who have ever practiced Aikido, will recognise this.

  • @dcschool834
    @dcschool834 Před 3 lety +1

    this TED talk is absolute class

  • @xzqzxq4818
    @xzqzxq4818 Před 8 lety +1

    i love this person .. i felt good, listening to him, like i didnt, wait him to just cut the crap and wrap up .. didnt notice time .. palms down sir !! hail!!

  • @3DHistoryAdventures
    @3DHistoryAdventures Před 9 lety +7

    That was FANTASTIC. So insightful, and he was funny as hell too

  • @lt7341
    @lt7341 Před 5 lety +8

    Done watching 6 tedx vids at 2 am. I am genius

  • @vkeighmanabe2952
    @vkeighmanabe2952 Před 6 lety +1

    This was an awesome talk. I love this man, he has such good energy attached to his talk, it was so nice to listen to. It just felt so nice

  • @Ana36287
    @Ana36287 Před 7 lety +1

    Brilliant.!!.He is clever and very smart

  • @holly_hacker
    @holly_hacker Před 9 lety +52

    Really interesting talk! I'm sure this will come in handy!

  • @BYGODYOUARESPECIAL1
    @BYGODYOUARESPECIAL1 Před 3 lety +3

    What a great presentation, a master of communication.

  • @muhammadumer7833
    @muhammadumer7833 Před 7 lety +1

    Love TEDx talks

  • @darksidessj25
    @darksidessj25 Před 4 lety +1

    For those who do not know, this is charisma. If you want to be a leader learn how to speak like this. I did and it's changing my life. People will open up to you and perceive you as a leader. I use to the most unconfident person. It was so bad I couldn't even lift up a phone to talk to someone who was calling me for IT support. I eventually got terminated due to a lack of confidence. I had the necessary skills but when you lack social skills you will fail. I took this to the next level and learned other things like flow for example and started to influence others. I don't make CZcams videos but maybe I should. I use this to make others feel good and to have a good time at work cause my job is depressing.

  • @mikehoward5004
    @mikehoward5004 Před 7 lety +3

    Very charismatic speaker.

  • @KingAlphaOmega
    @KingAlphaOmega Před 9 lety +11

    Yes you can easily tell what kind of person is by handshaking.

    • @jothain
      @jothain Před 9 lety +1

      Rohit Eligeti So you think you're above the person you're shaking hand. Ever considered that what if counterpart wants to give specific impression to you, relying you judging him that way?

  • @DiyEcoProjects
    @DiyEcoProjects Před 6 lety +1

    Allan Pease ... this is powerful ~ thank you

  • @Sonturist
    @Sonturist Před 8 lety +2

    I've got to watch this again. That was great information.