Body Language: The Key to Your Subconscious | Ann Washburn | TEDxIdahoFalls
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- čas přidán 28. 05. 2024
- How we hold our body both demonstrates and determines who we are and our level of success. What are you telling people about yourself? Or worse, what are you telling your self about yourself?
How we hold our body both demonstrates and determines who we are and our level of success. What are you telling people about yourself? Or worse, what are you telling your self about yourself?
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My 18 yr old son teached me this and he never taken this class. He always says:
“If you around the rich and famous, stand up straight and feel like a rich and famous. When you surrounded by children in a park, play like a child in the park. They don’t and never will know who you really are (they don’t care)but they will perceive you as you want them to perceive you. It’s all in your body language”
Your comment is as valuable as this video
Great advice 👍👍👍
We all want prosperity
The fastest way to change your emotional state isn’t through your thinking as many people think, it’s through your posture and breathing.
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Generalized assumptions aren't the best way to think about this. Depending on cultural differences, body language can be very diverse in terms of how its interpreted. She also made a poor comparison between computer software and the human mind. Upgrades are vast changes that sometimes are incompatible with prior devices. Updates are just meant to maintain the use of software for continuous use and compatibility. I highly doubt that just body language of her sons legs would have much impact. Kids can be very hurtful and not always care if you've changed. Given that he was being picked on, it's not likely that he could change others opinions about him this quickly.
Wow! Im subscribed to your channel and i found you here too...
No it's not. You can play fake it t'll you make it all you want, it all starts with changing your thoughts.
You also have to actually change your mind, Pygmalion effect is stronger with other sources of validation, like your own.
Look at the results of your current thought process. You define yourself by a disorder, to the point you think of yourself higher as a higher being, a representation of it, and of every person ever to have it.
It's in a way direspecting your humanity entirely, while also other people's integrity. How ironic.
Body language
1. 5:14 Strong body language
2. 9:23 How you receive compliments
3.11:56 Put your weight on both legs
This was super interesting to me because compliments is where I changed my life. I felt awful about myself and one day in school (I'm proud that I figured this out on my own in such early age) that I would change little things and I started with compliments. I had noticed that when someone complimented me "you look pretty today" my response was "no I dont.." and I realised that it is so rude to the other person to reject their lovely opinion that is theirs. So I chose to say thank you even when I felt like I disagreed and it was the beginning of a long journey going from pessimist to optimist, and broken spirit to confident, and I am finally figuring out how to get past my anxiety into handling an extrovert world. Another key was to find things I liked about myself as a person so that even when my self esteem was low there was at least something in my core that I could remind myself when needed. I also started to name 3 good things that happened that day at the end of every day before sleep, and started to see sleep as rebooting the system with a clean slate every day. I have corrected negative self talk until it gave up, and uncrossing my arms is now next on my list of "road to success with self." :)
Its a big step when it finally dawns on you. If we realuzed that even the popular or at ease people have the same anxiety it helps immensely.
great share! you have a powerful mind!
Great.
Very motivational. What impresses me the most is that you didn’t say to yourself, well, I should do this but...(fill in). You said to yourself I’m going to do this because I want to be less anxious. You stated your intention and followed it up with sound reasoning how it would be fit you. I’ve heard so many people use the word should in these situations and it’s like in their heads, someone else is making them do something they don’t want to do. Guess what? They won’t do it. Or. They’ll do a “good enough for government work” job of it. Which amounts to the same outcome. I’ve learned a great phrase to substitute for should...”I get to do this”. Its the difference between wanting to and feeling like you have to.
instablaster.
Definitely works, I changed my body posture and always got much better results and also stayed happy and hopeful.
Someone once said "Your body speaks so loud I can't hear a word you are saying"
who?
Emerson
This was my exact thought. Couldn't get past 1:26
wow 👏
I think it was: Your actions speak so loudly, I cannot hear what you are saying" -Emerson
But, yeah, similiar- I love that quote. Thanks for reminding me of it!
Thank you. Now, I understand why sitting and standing straight is very important which my mom by the way always pointed out too. This changes the notion of habits are stone hard to break. Break the old body pattern, the body gets confused, sends a discomfort message to the brain and if new and better results are achieved or expected, the body may adapt the new body pattern if practiced long enough. By consciously putting one's body in a certain state or position, the cognitive dissonance (discomfort) between what one feels and the body language sends out a message in the universe that reflects back to self and the subconscious. If one maintains this pattern interrupt on the brain while seeing the new good results out of it, the subconscious will adapt the new behavior (body language/state) and become the new pattern. I would avoid calling this "fake it till you make it" as the verb "fake it" opposes and confuses the conscious mind and may eventually shutdown the process prematurely.
This talk provides great insight into how we should be aware of our body language and how it effects us and how we are perceived. With that being said, fixing body language wont fix all of your problems, it wont be the only thing making you friends with others, and it wont completely change your sense of self worth. What we should take from this talk is that awareness of body language and applying corrections to it will help you on your journey to becoming who you want to be. It's a piece of the puzzle, not a golden ticket.
I could feel your journey. Your work is so BASIC and yet so IMPACTFUL. The sparkle of your eyes and your smile at the end has conveyed more. Thankyou ma'am.
So, the message conveyed essentially is that what we consider to be automatic actions, like our body stature, our gestures and our immediate or otherwise unconscious reactions can be trained in advance and used to our advantage.
This means that our body language and our communication reflexes are not just a mere indication of our psychological disposition, but in fact contribute in its formation in a direct and signicant way.
Brilliant! Science and emotion combined into a winning presentation.
I really didn't want her to stop talking. What a wonderful speech.
Me tooo ❤️👀
Absolutely brilliant! What a great talk! Thanks for the 3 tips.
So powerful! Watched this before but I need to watch every 3 or 4 months to stay in practice!! Going to figure a way to remind myself.
👋🏽💫♥️ Awesome content! My favorite take a ways from this video:
When given a complement, instead of ‘brushing it away’ or ‘throwing it away’ ... try working on accepting it . Start the conscious change towards a stronger, more rooted & confident you by consciously changing your body language. ✅
Obviously, there are clues & “tells” to be found by watching other people’s body language. We can find out way more about a person’s beliefs, motivation, & or truth (unconscious or not) by way of posturing, gestures, eye contact, & movements. Nonetheless, perhaps the most profound & powerful treasure to be found in body language, is the ‘upgrade’ our own body language can provide, when harnessed purposefully & intentionally!
For example, watch what you physically do when someone pays you a complement. Sadly, many of us feel uncomfortable when someone throws complements our way. We can feel SO uncomfortable that our body will often make gestures that dismiss or brush off complements. Often people can be observed sweeping their hand back in the air, as if they are batting away the complement. Other people can be observed “brushing off” their pants or something on their shoulder - when given a complement that doesn’t match their internal - even subconscious belief. People will regularly say “thank you” to a complement, while physically their body tells you they disagree & push it away.
I love this speaker’s suggestion for “hacking” your own body language for self esteem, self growth, & as a way to harness deeper rooted confidence. For example, next time someone gives you a complement... try through body language to scoop up that complement with your hand & bring your hand to heart, while saying “thank you.” That’s it. And Watch how it will begin to grown you. Others may notice a difference in us right away, not because we are instantly more confident - but because we will respond more authentically the less we are resisting, dismissing, or “throwing away” pieces of conversation that conflict with internal ideas & beliefs.
Yes ... many believe that “fake it until you make it” are the truest words to live by. I agree to an extent. Perhaps, the “fake it” part is less about faking out others & more about faking out our own internal resistance we have/hold towards our own potential greatness.
One of my most favorite Marianne Williamson’s quotes says ... “It is our Light, not or Dark - we fear most!” Indeed.
So, if we can work with our body to drop it’s resistance & rejection of the positive things that we might not fully believe about ourselves just yet.... it’s like hacking & powering up our ability to more quickly BECOME who we’d like to be ! Focus on awareness & dropping resistance..... that is where CHANGE can enter & begin to root. 💥 🙏
Thank you for sharing 🙏🙂
Have a beautiful day
This is one great examples of the "Fake it till you make it". It's not really faking it at all, it's reprogramming yourself.
If anyone has doubt on "Fake it till you make it". Show them this talk.
If "Fake it till you make it" doesn't work for you, it's you who are at fault. You did not try hard enough to reprogram yourself. You know you're too comfortable with the old program to adopt a new one.
I went through that exact same process with crossing my arms when I started working in the Ohio Prison system. Really great advice, it woke me up!
I put my right hand on my chest and said Thank You.
I did that a second time however my right hand - palm was over my collar bone and the right thumb was over my voice box, what a difference.
Thank you Ann, your awesome, your message is subconsciously heard and life changing.
I have been reading about body language for three years, attending classes of public speaking and debats of an amazing prof in univ This one is very honest and I couldn't see something not natural in her body langauge, though I am not an expert.
Thank you for helpming me change some of my programs.
For me subconscious mind is the most powerful tool that helps to create life that you want. I always underestimated it's power but now I am using it to identity subconscious limitations, fears, etc and transform it and change my reality( health, money, relationship etc)
The best lecture!! I love it. I’m going to install it now. thank you!
Thank you for providing 10GB speed to downloading and install program in my subconscious mind.
Thanks for sharing! There truly is power in body language! I love your story about your son! It can help so many people! Linda
Thank you so much for this. I never knew that I needed this video till I watched it! I always think of myself as an awkward person, I mean I don’t know how to receive compliments, I don’t know how to start up a conversation , even my laugh! I don’t how to laugh because I’m so afraid of people stereotyping me, so instead of that I just smile. It became so hard for me. But thanks to you now I think and for the first time that I’ll be able to change. I promise you when I achieve what you’ve just shared I’ll comeback and update my comment.
So how are you doing now? 😊
You promised to come back when you achieve it. So, you haven't achieved it yet for the last 2 years?
Even though it's been already two years of this video (I just got to watch it now), I always make the gesture of bringing my hand to my heart when people compliment me! I never learned it, it was just my mind speaking I guess. Very interesting and fun video. Thanks a lot! :)
The introduction of this video made me hit that LIKE button right away :)
Incredibly helpful and insightful. Thank you so much Ann!!!!
Insightful! Yes, we do have the power to build our character and influence the way other people perceive us. It takes willpower and self-awareness. And it works!
With the corners of my mouth raising up and my open palmed hand reaching for my hear, I say thank you!
But we all just choose to click the 'Ask Me Later' option anyway....
What a lovely lady to look at/listen to. Thank you for the wonderful presentation Anne. What a wonderful person you are. I am going to learn more about body language and communication, thanks to to you. I just had a look at the 3keyelements website and it said 'over 1400000 views of her Ted Talks video'. That needs a bit of an update, as it's now over 1600000. Love and blessings from London, UK.
This is really helpful for me. I never tend to realize what message I'm sending to someone by my body language and why they seem to drift away from me. Installing the upgrade right now :)
Have you kept up the change? How are your results?
It feels quite a change. But here's the amazing part. I had already upgraded it. I just never realized.
What about you?
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Oh my. I’m depressed lately but doing these actions now lightened my mood instantly. I see a difference. What more if I do this every day? Interesting.
TedTalks really are helpful. I’ve learned more here than in schools.
Ann Washburn! :) A keyword to be memorzed in my "Hardisk".
It is amazing that you spoke of arms folded, not folded, folded, not folded, folded... the back and forth I have been going through for a couple of weeks as I purpose to SIT RIGHT. Feet on the floor; not legs crossed. It is an effort. Every time I find my legs crossing, I have to uncross them, say I DON'T CROSS MY LEGS (out loud, or in my head), and solidly place my left foot on the floor, then my right. Like a stomping motion; but not loud or distracting.
Folding my arms the WRONG WAY (Imagine really thinking there is any such thing as a "wrong" way, eh?) does feel hugely horrible! Imagine that...
Yes, you have really got me thinking now.
Fantastic, mind blowing and incredible!
This was awesome.
You, Ann, are a total badass.
Thanks for your experience, willingness to share, and amazing perspective. Keep doing what you're doing; and kudos that you have come this far already.
I like this woman, she's great at making the topic seems so simple and easy and also her voice ton is great. Thank you lady. And also she's gorgeous and pretty!
Thanks for sharing your story. Your story somehow resonates with me in some of my experiences interacting with people. It is amazing how our subconscious impacts the way we communicate. I am taking your advice and do the update now.
8:05 when she indicated to pull down our chin and shoulders, my posture was already like that RIP
Ann I love your Ted Talk. Thank You for your Frying Pan class you really helped me out a lot. This body language information is so valuable in my life when I interact with others. I love you, you are an Angels. Thanks again for all you do.
She’s actually so funny 😂💓 ily
Alpha & Theta State |
Visualization... FEELINGS...
Linkage/Association with previous experience.
Non-dormant 🙌 Hands
Conscious Body Language.
7:30 Little bit of clever editing
It's greattttttttt to hear the whole things she said. I used to have my arm folded in public, which decreased my self-esteem a lot. I thought that I wasnt that good, I was afraid to say anything cuz ppl might judge me. Now its gone :).
If we judge ourselves harshly, we assume everyone else is doing that. Hey you’re human. We’re all human. Making mistakes is part of that package. The point is to learn from them even if it takes a few time to “get it”. No shame in that. I first learned to forgive May self for being human, then I learned there was nothing to forgive. I made a mistake, I own it, I try to fix it as best I can by putting myself in the place of whomever I wronged, even if it was myself. Now, I do all of that and celebrate my humanity. Each mistake is not a wrongness within ourselves, it’s an opportunity to learn and become our best possible selves.
2018 still watching I love Ann Washburn! 🤗
Very strong and brave woman to have come so far🙌
Her outfit looks so good, she’s killing it 👌🏻
Try this one: smile. Hold that smile and go about your day until you catch yourself being happy for no reason. And then you remember that you were smiling and you forgot
I absolutely loved this video!
I'm taking some tips from it ;)
Thank you.
Thank you, great speech
Wow, you must have hacked my brain somehow:) The story about being in a bad place 6 years ago, being socially awkward, having an engineering degree etc. etc. That's exactly me. The way I got into body language originally, was when homeless people on the street started targeting me by threats and just picking on me. I've come along way and watched a lot of videos since, but yours really explains the point well and most importantly, in a scientific way. Wish I had seen this 6 years ago. Thanks!
Absolutely amazing! Congratulations!
Body language is a catch-22. If you've never been made aware of it, it works just as described. When you are aware of how it works then there becomes a hodgepodge of unintentional and intentional postures. What if a person like me is purposely being ambiguous with my body language to force people to conversate with me? What if a person is over using body language bc they don't want to talk. As a guy I have walked up to people whose posture looked poor but when we started talking it changed....so the thing about body language is everyone has the Rosetta Stone, we're all using our own way, and no overall interpretation can be totally correct. I think it's best to communicate, if someone can't communicate, it's not your fault.
Her voice is like the voice of click bait videos. But the video is effective and Great Ted Talk.
Awesome presentation ! I wish I could have understood it at my Childhood, then I would be some what different person than I am now. Never the less, late is better than never. Thank you so much.
shoutout to whoever manned the camera at 7:30, to somewhat animate the hand placement logic by zooming in and out and also to Ann Washburn!
Legs. Scooping. Done. Thank you.
Thanks for the great video, Miss Washburn!
I am going try few tips, your comments are very helpful.
i want more of you ann washburn :-), it was great
I like this, ty Ann Washburn!
You are the best Ann! Looking forward to seeing more like this in future
Great job! You are beautiful and fun to listen to. I love this talk and have watched it several times. I have found I learn something new every time.
Simple but informative. Great. Thank you.
Excelent talking!! Thanks 🙏 for the knowledge 👏👏👏
Posture is everything
Posture Queen name checks out
With a name like that I have to believe you!!
One of the best Ted talks I've watched
Incredibly helpful, thank you 🌹
I always stand with weight on one leg even if i am cooking in kitchen, i didn't like it, but that's how my mind was programmed.
Now looking forward to change it.
Thanks for your input, that was very helpful.
This is very helping in understand the non verbal communication
Thanks since Venezuela. Good bless you. Congratulations. Very very interesting your mensage.
I honestly don't think body language is the only substance for social results.
It is an important factor but not the ultimate. I think being bubbly (having lots of interesting talks) and confidence simultaneously is a vital gift/skill in this field.
Very insightful!
studying more about subconscious is really worth since it is our evolutionary history...inspiring talk
in love with this channel
That’s just super. I can hardly wait to try it. And then people will treat me like I’m successful! Then I will be all from holding my shoulders back holding my chin up taking a deep breath remembering to exhale too and don’t cross my arms. I feel empowered like I’m awake like I can do it
I love this! thank you some good life knowledge!
This information was so useful to me! Well done.
Functional, simples and fast. Love that.
fake it till you make it
Then, you can look at the eyes, they do not lie.
Fake it until you become it and the eyes dont lie.. ;)
that's what this lady is doing too. ! i find HER body language and tone weak and robotic, something she tried hard to remember each words. it's didn't feel natural to me
I love it man ..thnx
I have this in the entire time I was trying to win the love of my life. We're happily together now 😊
Ever since i heard this talk, i make sure i stand with my weight distributed equally on both feet. Thank you for all the tips.. brilliant..keep coming back to brush up
one of the best ted talks IMO
This video is so helpful for me. Thank you so much.
Damn. She’s cracked the code. I’m watching this every morning to install my results
Excellent! your speach helped a lot!
Wow! I did not expect the talk to be so transformative and amazing.
I love this lady!
I learn everyday and try to upgrade my subconcious everyday. Thank you 😊
What a piece of information to have?!!! Thank you
This is actually helpful as we are going back to office life!!!
Body language speaks volumes and truthful as can be. I hear it can't lie but it could probably fib? Do you think? I am oh so glad you made this presentation and that i had the great opportunity to watch it. It's been a awhile since I thought about the more honest language. You can read the truth more easily by reading Body English. Eh? I think so. Great work stuff, thank you so much i enjoyed the watching and yeah, learning is such a blessing. Be blessed and thanks for sharing your thoughts.
thank you this is great video!
Great tips. Now I got to observe my subconscious behaviors. 2019 time to upgrade my systems!!! 😻
Thank you!
great concept you share it with us, Thank you
truly helpful!
YES! Thank you
Great talk! Interesting information I can use for improvement