Everyday Mindfulness for OCD and other Anxiety Disorders
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- čas přidán 4. 11. 2013
- Practicing mindfulness and just being present, keeping your mind in the same place as your body, not judging what's going on, is going to help tremendously in cutting out rumination and triggers.
Don't know if you've ever read the book, "Brain Lock" by Jeffrey M. Schwartz but there's one part of it I took to memorizing, the moment I read it "Remember: OCD is not some secret wish fulfillment, it is simply a broken machine. OCD may mimic the feeling of reality, but reality never mimics the feeling of OCD. That fact leads to a very important principle: If it feels like it might be OCD, it is OCD! If it were reality, it wouldn't even feel like it might be OCD."
KrayolaBlue91 perfect phrase
Thank you so much for doing this, Mark. I first saw this video a long long time ago at a very bad time of my OCD. I hadn't even realized I had OCD back then. Then I came to find I have Pure O. Your videos have helped me SO MUCH since then. you've helped me figure how all those perceived "problems" were just part of very unhealthy thinking, and you've also helped me find a new, healthy way to look at all this and live a much more pleasant life. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU. A big, mindful hug from Argentina.
More Pardo Thanks for the message! I'm really glad you found the videos helpful and you've found a path up and over those challenges you were dealing with. Congratulations to you on doing that intense work! A big, mindful back to you from Canada.
hi mark, my life has changed after watching your videos .... I can relate 100% to your videos. and I can see a lot of improvement in my OCD. thank u so much!
unfortunately I start treating the things I learn from your videos as compulsions too.
Mark, your videos are the best videos on this subject I've seen on CZcams. Your insight to mental illness is pretty amazing. You are helping me so much in my recovery. I have had 4 different themes of OCD so now know its the actual OCD I need to attack and not the themes. I am so ready to get my life back and your videos encourage me. Thank you a million times.
Thanks, Eilish! I'm glad you're finding them helpful on the journey. All the best with tackling OCD and moving past it!
@@everybodyhasabrain can I have a session with you please I am from India
Wow It's amazing seeing how far I've come with my OCD problem and anxiety. All glory to God. Sometimes I forget where I was just a couple months ago I still deal with some anxiety issues but nothing like 7months ago. Thanks for the videos they also helped me tons.
Hi Danny, I would love to know how you did it. I'm catholic and going through a time of bad OCD thinking (renumerating) and anxiety
@@chloe0452how are u now?
Thank you for this video..❤ Whenever i do some work.. Automatically thoughts pop up.. Now i am aware of those thoughts and trying not to react to them.. I say to myself " I choose not to react to it".. And then i try to focus on my work like studying. Its quite disturbing when thoughts pop up during my studies.. Earlier i used to stop my studies and engage to solve the intrusive thought.. Now i learnt that doing this is only creating more problem.. So i am now trying to be mindful and not react to any thoughts that pop up..
Thank you so much for making me finally realize that I've been ruminating almost all the time without even realizing it. Your practical solutions and methods you share are just amazing, Mark! I love your videos :)
Thank you, Selin! I'm glad you're finding them useful
These videos are incredibly helpful. I don't remember the last time I didn't multitask as well as ruminate.
I can feel myself ruminating even as I watch this video. I’m interested in the content and I’m watching it, trying to learn more about myself because it has become a normal behavior and it’s something I’ve done since my youth. It’s so uncontrollable sometimes, like the thoughts slowly take over and next thing you know, a couple minutes have passed and I’ve been circling in my thoughts, missing the content that is supposed to help me. Then I need to rewind to rewatch and sometimes I find myself doing that two, three or more times when I’m engaging with content. Even down to when I’m performing normal tasks at work, school and what not, the thoughts begin to creep in and the next thing you know, however much time has passed and I’ve missed vital content or I’m not engaging properly with my work. Throughout trying to be aware of this behavior, there’s this lack of motivation to engage in tasks because there is so much work that needs to be done to fight the rumination, it can be extremely exhausting. Just screaming my thoughts into the void here but I’m happy there’s a term for this as I’ve always coined myself as an absentminded person, which technically that’s what I am, but it’s comforting to see that it’s attributed to something deeper and not derived in some sort of lack of intelligence or lack of willingness to be attentive.
I really appreciate your precious insights and excellent communication skills! Thank you so much for making and sharing these videos.
Thanks, Melissa!
what a exact explanation of having rumination n its effects in our daily life..
And I watched Kristoffer hivju from Skavlan , and it was so nice , and fun
Thanx for your videos. I watched them all. The hardest thing for me is to stay present in the moment cause te second I decide to stop analysing my thoughts I start thinking: but what if this feeling and thoughts are real. Your sentence about past and normal somehow came back my idea of not loving my partner. It is sooooo hard to find out what are my real and what OCD thoughts especially when they tell me: go away, this is not OCD, this is you not wanting to accept the truth
thanks Mark! Very helpful.
This is the first video of many that I sense is 'potentially' problematic; especially between the times of 2:10 & 3:10. One instance of a lack of mindfulness, such as your example about the stove & the concurrent consequence, ought not to necessarily feed your OCD. I understand what you are saying in theory, but unless one is repeatedly doing such mindless behavior, one ought to resist the urge to check the stove in the future.
The major theme of mindfulness as a way of creating "unity" in your intentions and your behavior is spot-on.
Thank you man, God bless you!
You're welcome!
Hey Mark, I just wanted to thank you for making these videos, they really have helped me so much in understanding how OCD works and better yet how to deal with it. I really can't thank you enough for that, Thank you!
You're welcome! I'm glad you found them useful!
You're welcome. Happy breathing!
Mark, still returning here after a year for advice. Thanks for the advice
Thanks for coming back to visit!
Another excellent video Mark. Thank you. Is it possible for you to do a video about diffusing thoughts? How we give our thoughts so much power and ways we can really separate the false beliefs we place in our obsessive thoughts?
Thanks! I'm not sure I know what you mean by diffusing thoughts or separating "false" beliefs. I found it helpful to treat all thoughts the same. I don't differentiate between false or true beliefs because that can really feed lots of unhealthy judging and ruminating. So I just treat them all the same. Check out my video about bananas and false/real memories. It's all about that.
Sometimes, like in this moment while I am writing I get the idea like: you don t worry about you two, you two are so distant, you are trying to overcome something that is not OCD, this is not love because you are not able to imagine future with him, you don t love him because you lost your feelings...and this goes on and on, and when I don t worry, I start worrying about that, and when I don t worry about worrying I worry about that and the feeling of not wanting to be with my partner is huge
I know this is an old vidoe but this feels like such a break through. my mental health and anxiety has gotten so bad and I'm having terrofying intrusive thoughts. I had always been someone that rumminated but right now we're in quarantine and I'm so used to ruminating that my mind struggles to do anything else and had created this very toxic and awful cycle and even if I have good days I'm still ruminating on something else but I finally feel like this is something I can work on and work with to try and get better, thank you so much.
The ideas in the video are still very current and applicable. Now is always a great time to build healthier skills for interacting with the stuff in our heads :)
How are u now?
The rumination is a compulsion therefore must be stopped. We can perhaps examine the rumination... Which usually results in wanting to stop. Allow it to go. There's nothing that demands the kind of rumination going on especially if we have ocd. Grwat vid!
we got a new coffe maker also and its so good
Thank you!
This is a really relevant one for me - thank you. I have started to try to find some times of mindfulness in each day.
That's great. I hope you learn all sorts of useful things about your brain
The thing with OCD is your brain tricks you into thinking there is an actual problem when there really isn't. That's the most challenging thing to be aware of. In my case, I manage POCD on a daily basis. Meditation for over 1 year has radically changed my brain for the better. Although I still struggle at times, I have days when I completely understand my condition. I have unwanted arousal but I have realized that EVERYONE gets aroused (automatically) by sexually relevant things. The key is in realizing its IRRELEVANT! How do we teach our brains irrelevance? By NOT compulsing when we're in an anxious state. Just let it be and overtime your brain will let it go and you'll return to a state of balance
So useful to remember!
Hello, are you still meditating? I want to try meditating too.
@@ballisbulat5512 Yes, going on 2 1/2 years
@@skatertrader can i ask you for an opinion if you dont mind. I have ocd and insomnia. On really bad days where i get little sleep, i start to ruminate and my anxiety is high. Usually i would dwell on it. What do i do on those days? Do i pretend that everything is normal and continue to do normal things? Is that what it means to not compulsing when in anxious state. Because it is so so extremely hard to pretend.
@@ballisbulat5512 Pretty much, when you’re in that state just tell yourself to drop all resistance and let go. Try to become more conscious of your state and observe yourself from 3rd person. I would also try vaping pure CBD oil, it really helps drop all your anxiety before bed
Thank You :)
Really helped me..Thank you for this
You're welcome!
@@everybodyhasabrain mark can you help me please I am from India
Hi Mark, this is a great step. Being mindful should be one of the main priorities before even thinking of overcoming OCD. One of my main issue is that even little amount of caffeine from tea makes me become absent minded and stressed. Rumination and trying to figuring it out when in shower and driving is one of the main issue I am facing even with small amount of caffeine. Obviously I have cut down on caffeine to almost none and practice meditation which certainly helps. Also I am focusing more on general diet and looking at underlying deficiencies. Though it sounds simple many do overlook deficiencies like iron, vitamin B12 etc. which are important for mental health which I am discovering lately. Do you think this a good approach? I hope this helps someone.
You might find it helpful not to see this as an issue caused by caffeine. Caffeine can create some of the same physical experiences as anxiety--increased heart rate, dilated blood vessels, alertness, etc--so the brain mistakes the experience of ingesting caffeine for the experience of being anxious, and then your brain assumes it's missed something and it goes into anxiety mode. But that's more about the years of practice invested in being anxious. Learning how to not engage in compulsions as a reaction to anxiety and learning how to accept anxiety can be a very effective approach for overcoming issues with anxiety. We can learn how to experience emotions and thoughts. If our focus is on avoiding emotions and thoughts, then we don't develop the skills to handle them and we suffer under them even more.
Great video
Thank you!
I always will forget someone's name when I first meet them and I zone out in conversation. I'm very social and I don't have social anxiety but my mind will just drift off in conversation. Same with driving. I'll be thinking and then I'll come back and be like oh I'm driving , but then when I'm not thinking and I realize where or what I'm doing it feels very strange and I feel out of place. I wonder what that could be.
Adult ADHD? I have the same problem but not formally diagnosed
Hi Mark, I was wondering if it was possible for you to do a video on the sequence you would do if trying self care from Pure O? I have just realised that I was doing the 5 why questions but actually I was using them to reassure.. is there even a sequence? love your videos! they have been a sanity saver for me, thank you so much :)
I'm not sure what a sequence would be but I'd tackle the mental compulsions.
thank you
You're welcome!
I want to be where you are now, to not only conquer OCD, but help others to do so as well. :)
I find that sharing these skills with others is a great way to keep working on my own mental health.
Mark, any videos on OCD pure O? Or Hyperawareness OCD?
An example of what happens is that I become bothered by my awareness of my own awareness. An example is that I could do meditation, focusing on my breath easy enough, but then I'll try moving my focus to my body sensations while still being mindful of my breath then my hearing, then vision etc. After I'm done meditating it's like I'm constantly fighting myself over where my attention goes. I get this urge to be fully aware of all things at all times. Like my entire body including what I do, wants to be in the spotlight of my focus the entire time. Naturally this gets exhausting, I've had some really unpleasant experiences with it. I haven't given up meditation entirely simply because I feel like I should learn how to deal with it and I'm too stubborn to avoid the problem.
Another thing (not related to meditation though) Is that I have an urge to write down precious memories so that I don't forget what they were and how I felt. When I don't do that I can feel very uneasy or sad about not doing it. Because I'm afraid I'll lose the memory. A pleasant part will be lost and that's scary to think about. Is this related to OCD?
Not sure if many people can relate or have heard of experiences like this. But hopefully it's not an unusual problem that can't be treated.
I'd say all of my videos would apply to "Pure O" or "Hyperawareness OCD". But first off, it might help not to see this as "Pure O" or to get caught up in labels and themes. Focusing on body parts and sensations is a common compulsion. Wanting to write things down to avoid those uneasy feelings of losing something valuable is also a common compulsion. There's likely other compulsions you're engaging in, too, that might not bother you as much. For recovery from OCD, I find that it helps a lot to start with the compulsions that don't bother us as much. It helps with building up the skills to sit with uncomfortable feelings while we do things we care about. You may find this video on mental compulsions to be useful: czcams.com/video/ArJrrM_XaDE/video.html
I know this is a late reply. But thank you, this has been a big help. I've got the sensation compulsion mostly in check by now. The memory and rumination about the past is still a challenge, but I'm learning to handle things better, one day at a time.
@@Rustyhound-Cartoonshow was the sensation or focus a compulsion? Isn't that obsession
I spend all day everyday ruminating. And im just making it worse. Theres no way to shut it off. Anxiety rules my life and makes me doubt myself.
For me this just leads to obsession. When I try to be present I just obsess about trying to be present, “am I doing it properly, I don’t think I’m doing it right, no I’m not being mindful enough, how did he say to be mindful again?”. This is what chews through my mind when I try to take any action
Your obsessing about obsessing and ruminating by the sounds of it. There is no right or wrong way to do it their just is you will know yourself when you are being mindful
hi Mark great video as usuall I just started practicing mindfulness but it triggers a feeling of hyper awarness or depersonalization ( I don't really know what it is cuz I just started reading about it) and I feel fightened or uncomfortable yet I don't want to stop the mindfulness meditation and give up..what can I do? I don't even know what is this feeling and how can I get rid of it I have comented to you on your "derp" video and asked about its relation to hyper awarness OCD cuz they seem similar you answerd me with" can you dive in water without getting wet" and I didn't get it I think u meant something enlighting but I cant figure it out
It helped me to recognize that judging and discriminating between feelings was a compulsion. What you're labeling as "hyper awareness" or "depersonalization" are the same experiences that somebody else would have while meditating and not stick a label on. This was the point of the comment about swimming. Imagine somebody has decided that feeling wet is a bad thing. So they jump in a pool and then they get very upset because they experience that wet feeling. But maybe they like jumping and they want to jump, so then they try to find a way to get rid of the wet feeling while still jumping in the pool. But somebody else might not judge that feeling as bad. When they jump in the pool, of course they get wet. They don't have to hate it. We get to choose what feelings we want to focus on. We get to choose whether we judge them or not. If you want to label and judge these feelings you have when meditating, you can, but it will make many things very difficult.
OMG thank you that was amazing I am so gratful
I suffer from HOCD. It seems that my mind want to chat about this and put doubts all the time. When I see 2 men together my mind says: Are they homosex or friends?
It's not easy!!
Awesome! How do you feel about mantras? You think that’ll work to stay grounded?
This video is particularly about OCD, which is all about repetitive compulsions to control and avoid things like feelings, so if somebody was repeating a phrase to chase an abstract feeling like being "grounded", I'm not sure how that would be different from any other compulsion. Like if somebody washes repeatedly because they want to feel uncontaminated, or they check door locks and turn off light switches in a particular way to get a feeling of safety, and so on--these are all the same pattern of performing rituals to chase feelings. And it only ever creates the opposite of what we're looking for.
i have ocd and i always had this thing where i couldnt let this drill hurt an imaginary figure in my brain. but i saw this video and its like a dummy and this drill just DEMOLISHES the imaginary figure and i just sat there and was like. ''Hmm..... calming.'' XD
with I.Q. of 120 like I not be thinking about brushing my teeth. I will thinking about something. problem I am poor and work at wall mart so my brain has no load so when I sweeping it goes to what ever. The best I find to deal with ocd is do things that keep my brain busy. in fact for some with ocd if try stop think will become something that cause anxiety it better get something to think about. You see when I have nothing that engages my brain I get brain noise which could be good or bad.
Do you know scott from depression to expression
That's helpful you got good treatment. Send my thanks to your doctor for the recommendation. You're definitely right about it taking lots of practice. You're welcome to write me. The best way is probably to use the contact form on my website. I can't put a link in a comment here but my website is markfreeman DOT ca --the contact form is at the bottom of the landing page or there's a link in the navigation bar.
Thanks Mark can I have a session with you please I am from India
Hello,
I am on OCD onset (severe one) since January after two years of pure O making its way into my life with nobody able to diagnose it :)
I am experiencing very very différents OCD (relation, suicide, POCD, health), even though it really doesn’t matter I treat them same way with therapy tools. But there is one theme where I struggle and I would love some help. My high anxiety has given me digestives issues since January. It got better in time in terms of frequency but I am still sick every morning (loose stomach). Problem is I am obsess about it. I am sick scared of being stomach sick outside. Therefore I cannot take transportation or find a job. My body is sick for real and I find hard to treat it as I do with others thoughts. Can my anxiety explain my stomach issues? What strategies should I use?
Thank you for your videos :)
It's very common to run into stomach issues. I had digestion/gut issues for years when I was struggling and didn't even realize it was part of all that until after I recovered and things started working differently. It can really help to work on cutting out compulsions and learning different ways of interacting with mental/emotional/physical discomfort and unwanted experiences. It is possible to leave this stuff behind but it does require making changes.
Mark Freeman Hey Mark :)
Thank you for your answer :) working hard on exposures by going out and taking transportation and it got much better compare to two months ago where I couldn’t go out at all... but morning are very a tough spot. From second I open my eyes I notice the pain in my stomach and then each minute is a fight. Trying to disregard, so meditation but I’m really waiting for that moment where I cannot “hold” anymore and then get sick. Maybe I am doing wrong but I have been told not to engage in activities in order to avoid the thoughts because it was compulsion. So not sure what to do anymore... :(
Cheers
I hate that thought of not loving my boyfriend. And I also get very angry at him for no reason :(
I had a query. If the thinking is not OCD and I know you have explained very well to not think of thoughts as OCD or non OCD, i just got confused in the matter that if I am thinking anything, and I respond to it, is it also wrong ? Like say I am thinking of a childhood memory and having a laugh, or thinking how I’ll meet my friends today and feel good, is that something I should just think of like clouds and not pay attention like not interact with the memories at all or am I getting it wrong ? Any reply would be highly appreciated, thank you.
It's not that anything we do in our heads is "wrong". It's that actions in our heads have very natural results. And it's just about whether we want to choose to experience those results. It really helped me to recognize that I was often ruminating about things I saw as good or normal to ruminate about. And then I would get surprised and upset that my brain would throw up terrible things to ruminate about. But it was just responding to what I was constantly choosing to practice in my head. Just generally being aware of how much time I was spending in my head, and reducing that throughout my life, was a big support. It was about getting more intentional with how I do things in my head. There's absolutely nothing wrong with using our imagination and our time traveling superpowers up there. But it's better when I'm choosing how to use those superpowers, not just leaving them on full blast all day.
@@everybodyhasabrain Thank you so much for replying. I have been suffering from anxiety since past 2 months. Just 2 days it has been since I’ve started watching your videos, and even though I got scared even 15 minutes back watching a very normal video, I am not reacting. Thank you for these videos.
@@R1996s I hope these tools can be useful for your on your journeys!
@@everybodyhasabrain hi mark, I had another query. Your videos have been working out for me lately. But one problem is there are new symptoms every now and then which comes up when I feel I am getting a hang of things by not reacting to my thoughts which puts me in the same loop. Sometimes I am even unsure if it’s anxiety or maybe I have some other disease, maybe this thought is also anxiety but I don’t know. For example these days, I forget stuff, I mix up words/names etc. while speaking, I forget what just happened, and these things make me get into the same loop. Maybe asking you this is a form of reassurance which I should not be doing, but as I said, when I feel comfortable with all the thoughts, some symptoms happen which are entirely new. I am still feeling like it can be bigger than anxiety maybe. Just wanted to know how to deal with these new symptoms coming every now and then when I feel like getting a hang of things?
@@R1996s It can really help to shift the focus to the actions we want to be doing in life. If you focus the work around problems, then it can seem like things are changing. But if you focus the work around doing actions you value, those stay consistent, and it doesn't matter what the brain does. So I don't have any tips for those symptoms. My question would be: why are you spending time and energy chasing around symptoms?
I’ve been practicing mindfulness but I’m so focused I feel like I’m blocking feelings n thoughts out, so do I practice it in a very focused way or more open way
How about practicing it very lightly? It is like holding a bubble. If you squeeze the bubble because you don't want to lose it, of course you lose it!
My thoughts are always fears and bad I pray and my thoughts run wild and I struggle with my ocd due to my belief in Christianity
Keep at it bro i had the same problem now i'm free of that i thought it was my Religion causing my OCD but in reality it was my way of life i had no life at all Christianity made me a nicer more talkative person which lead me to more friends and a happier family. Trust when i say this your religion is not at fault it's your brain trying to make it fault so you go back to being an obsessive person. Cause your religion is probably the only thing keeping you in line. I had constant doubts and blasphemy thoughts but all that well go away just keep at it. sometimes i even thought that my religion was some kind of cult but that was my OCD trying to make the only thing keeping me away from being and obsessive compulsive person. If i were you i'll look for a Pentecostal church.
I been there and struggle with if I committed unforgivable sin. It few mouth to work that out.
I realized that did not. Plus god spoke to one else to tell me something. They did not know what think about at the time but say that what shy about that I need to bold and tell others about it. At that time I study about lordship salvation. At time you have just surrender everything and let god handle things which is hard thing for some people.
Scrupulousity or religious OCD perhaps
I'm struggling on false thoughts for an example "I will have serious mental issues in the future".I have the the best girlfriend and all of my false thoughts are linked in to one big bad thought,losing my girlfriend.I would be really happy from help,tips or anykind of information about how to get rid of these thoughts.
I'd recommend checking out my video on False / Real Memories. It's about how we put meaning in thoughts by judging and labelling them. But there's no false or real thought. They're all just thoughts. Let them all pass over like clouds. Reacting to clouds and putting clouds in charge of your life causes all sorts of problems.
I struggle with ocd religions like praying and sining and panic that I sinned alott It's like a struggle with good and evil
Dom Cool I do that all the time....my ocd only involves around praying and sinning
What do you do if you get thoughts while trying to be present and mindful while doing something?
You don't have to do anything. You can just be aware of them like you would be aware of a sound or the sensation of touch. Thoughts are things you experience. If you notice that you're wandering off to think about those thoughts, you can recognize that and being your attention back to the present.
+Mark Freeman Does it help to focus your thoughts on what you are doing? For example, if you are drinking 12 ounces of diet coke, and your mind starts to wander about doing something else, does it help if you think to yourself "I'm drinking 12 ounces of coke" while doing it to help focus on what you're doing?
diet coke*
+Archer Love Being aware of what you're doing in the present moment is what mindfulness is all about. If you're breathing, you can be aware that you're breathing in and breathing out. If you're drinking diet coke, you can be aware of the taste, the physical sensations of the carbonation, the temperature, lifting the can, how it feels in your body, etc. When we're present, it's possible to find happiness where we are. When our minds go off wandering in regrets or worries, then it's only natural that we're unhappy or anxious.
+Mark Freeman So is thinking about what one is doing the same as being aware of it?
I know everyone is different, but how long would you say it takes to start seeing results from mindfulness?
It's important not to try to use mindfulness to get "results". The practice of mindfulness is the goal. So if you practice mindfulness, that's success! It's a practice of being aware of what you're experiencing, which gives you the opportunity to choose how you want to act. So it's still up to you to make choices that are aligned with what you care about in life. If you choose to engage in compulsions, then mindfulness can't fix that or change that for you. That's up to you. So watch out for expecting mindfulness to change feelings. Mindfulness is about experiencing feelings and thoughts and whatever your brain can throw at you. Compulsions are all about trying to control feelings and make them go away. If you try to use mindfulness to get rid of a thought or feeling you don't like, then it'll quickly become a compulsion and create more of the things you don't like.
Would you say there is a distinction to be made between ‘useful thinking’ and ruminating? Sometimes you may need to think about something for whatever reason, whereas other times you get caught up in thought (ruminating) rather than having an intentional thought process? Should we try to distinguish the two?
Thinking is an awesome super power. In any moment, you might choose to use that super power. Personally, I wouldn't get caught up trying to judge and discriminate between types of thinking. Thinking is thinking. It's just whether or not it's how you want to spend your time and energy in that moment.
Mark Freeman thanks for your response! :D
You're welcome!
Hi Mark,
Can people write to you on here or do you have an e-mail that we can reach you at? I have OCD and have had good treatment for it but it requires a lot of practice in order to retrain the brain. I heard about you from the doctor who treated me and it would be very nice to be able to write to you. Please let me know.... thank you and god bless.
Do you think mindfullness and deep breathing can cure ocd and anxiety disorders?
You already know you're engaging in compulsions around recovery. You cutting out compulsions is going to be useful if you want to leave these struggles behind. Instead of chasing some magic external solution, it could help to recognize you already have the capacity to make changes.
Is mindfulness not a distraction though? When I get an ocd thought can I do Mindfulness straight away or am I running away from the thought?
The thought is the distraction. I wouldn't practice mindfulness as something to do as a reaction to a thought, though. Mindfulness is enjoyable to practice for its own sake (and ours).
More like making distance from useless thought.
So do I narrate in my head what's going on? Like "I'm brushing me teeth. Left to right. Counting to ten for each section. Up and down. Side ways. Bristles touched my gum. Tasting mint." Or am I overthinking this?
I would not do that. Then I'd be narrating and brushing my teeth. It can be useful to just brush. No need to do anything extra in my head.
Put it like this, if you feel anxiety then your doing it right... I know it sounds odd.. you are experiencing anxiety and of course it's going to eventually sub side.. I guess... I guess it's how one justifies their current situation, I don't mean justifying as in making excuses I mean as in factual..
That makes sense.
Luckily its time to brush my teeth 😄
Sir what if u treat normal thought as obesessive thought and don't respond to it
Thoughts are thoughts!
Can someone explain to me how mindfulness itself is not a compulsion? Aren't you just trying to distract yourself from your thoughts?
Mindfulness is the opposite of a compulsion. Let's say you're traveling for work and you stay in a hotel room with some ugly wallpaper (that ugly wallpaper is the intrusive thought). You wake up in the morning and you need to go to the meeting you traveled here for. But there's ugly wallpaper on the wall of your hotel room. You've heard it's a compulsion to distract yourself from or avoid ugly wallpaper/intrusive thoughts, so you don't go to your meeting, you just stay and stare at the ugly wallpaper. You will stare at that ugly wallpaper until you've solved it! Here's a video on thoughts vs thinking that might help explain things further: czcams.com/video/VnDsZSIWUDU/video.html
But mindfulness is not about quieting the mind, that's more of a result of effective mindfulness. One of the biggest mistakes is trying to quiet the mind or have no thoughts - mindfulness is all about having thoughts while simultaneously keeping your attention elsewhere. What you notice is that you can pay full attention while you're having contrary thoughts, impulses, etc.
That's a good place to start!
Mind is just tool that should be used when we want. We get many sorts of thought each day and each thought has its projection.more we try to look at all of them more sad we become because we create pattern of overthinking. so thoughtless state or sufficient thinking is the best.And mindfulness really helps.
Hey Mark , man, do you have a few minutes to talk?
My brain is still not convince that not thinking about the things can solve my problem, my brain is doing it's thing again😅
My question is how much mindfulness we need in our life, whole time when we are awake or few activities. If we are always mindful then when to think? It's confusing.
It doesn't feel productive being mindful all the time. I feel like I am wasting time.
I still want to do it, because thinking too much is my problem I know it. Thinking has almost work against me always and sometimes useful to me, it's like an addiction of thinking I know it's bad still I can't stop doing that.
@@sakshi34241 This is a lot of thinking!
@@everybodyhasabrainikr 😐😅😅
This is what I need to change!
I woke up with coffee in the morning it was so good , but And it taste so good , but ,
And we have got it from Friele
We had this Sleeping expert here , in this house , and he wish me luck with the sleep ,
and I felt bad because , It was so great to have him here , but I am very tired at the time
I am paining with my sleep I have tried with help , but anyway I try to sleep, it dosent work
He is from Game of thrones
Tired from it
mark freeman , you are a good man , very special good man do you love coffee ?
Sleeping specialist
The rumination is a compulsion therefore must be stopped. We can perhaps examine the rumination... Which usually results in wanting to stop. Allow it to go. There's nothing that demands the kind of rumination going on especially if we have ocd. Grwat vid!