Courage when Fearing Consequences
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- čas přidán 26. 12. 2021
- The fear of consequences, upsetting others, being scorned and rejected or punished somehow can often lead us to avoiding making difficult decisions, leaving behind those who are not good for us or removing ourselves from a difficult situation. In this video Darren Magee discusses some of those fears and how there are times when the very things we do to put off or avoid the anxiety and distress around difficult choices can be the very things that make it worse or keep it going.
Strange analogy, but the story of the Titanic is an example of how trying to avoid something painful led to its sinking.
Sometimes for our personal growth and development we need to find ways to become a little braver, a small, safe bit at a time.
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I can't go a day now past 3 days ( new sub ) without watching one of your uploads usually 2 or 4 lol 😄
The law of Murphy
Daughter in-law hating Mother in-law for putting Boundaries up, babysitting 24/7
Assert myself many times and it failed. Many times.
@@sherrycrawford6724 they are her children! Wished I had someone that gave me a break here and there but my husband at the time sent my mom away!!
"While you are watching the back door, the devil is coming in the window" is well worth remembering. You cannot avoid all unhappiness forever
Well said!! 👍🏻
While you are watching the back door the devil is comming through the window is describing nothing more than the THOUGHTS comming out of the carnal mind!!!! ✌️😇👍🤠🤠
What a great example using the titanic. No one would ever think about that until you brought it to light. Thank you.
This was great food for thought. While you dont advocate recklessness, I love the mantra 'aim for the iceberg and brace for impact' !! And I appreciate the application with the Titanic too. Thank you for this insightful video. 👌
I found this topic extremely helpful. The hardest decisions are the painful ones’ the decisions we never want to make because we know how much emotional pain we will have to endure when we finally act on that decision, no one wants to go through emotional pain but, sometimes the only way out is to head for the iceberg’ leave the relationship and brace for the impact.
That Titanic story is a terrific example for illustrating your point!
Thank you Mr. Magee, I'm so happy that I found your channel! I recently removed myself from an extremely toxic environment and I have to remind myself why, about 50 times a day. It's very eye opening when your 13 year old asks you how you would allow something and you have no answer. I know I made the right decision, but actually hearing someone say these things out loud, helps a bit. I feel crazy and I feel raw, but I know that I will heal! The high road is a lonely place, but it's better than selling your soul or watching it slowly die. Thank you again for reassuring me that I did the right thing, despite how absolutely terrifying it is.
This is a great analogy and easy to identify with…
There really is no good time for a difficult conversation. Ouch. Absolutely true though.
"Sometimes for our personal growth and development we need to find ways to become a little braver, a small, safe bit at a time." This is going on my "wisdom for good living" list.
Thank you sir for your insights and perspectives in these videos. I very much appreciate having them to add to my healing toolbox.
I'd like to learn more about managing narcissistic enablers, especially in a family setting. For instance, where a narcissist is feeding narcissistic tendencies in an enabling family member, in order to harm the relationship that another family member has with the enabler.
All best to you in the new year!
Thank you for your kind feedback and I’m glad you found the video helpful. I’ve recently made videos on managing boundaries there may be something there you find helpful. I will be continuing on the series on recovery so I’ll add your suggestion
That was an inspired analogy. Yes there will be enormous consequences but it still won’t be as bad as the ultimate suffering and loss of life.
I’ll try to keep that in mind going forward with faced with difficult decision. Thanks Darren!
Beautifully explained. You are the BEST 💥
Thank you. We must discern what the best option is. Be wise and courageous.
Excellent example, thank you Darren. Interestingly, my mother's high school art teacher (back in the 1950's) was a child survivor of the titanic. Marshall Drew.
This was amazing! What a great analogy. Wish I could give this video two thumbs up. Thanks for this....
Thankyou Darren. I love the analogy. I really appreciate your videos.
Thank you, this was a great video!
We have a saying going more or less like the more you try to escape something/someone, the more is following. And I came to realise, not far ago and I am 55, that the more I try to repell something /someone, the more looks like I am attracting. We are never prepared for something that is supposed to find us unprepared, wouldn't have no point after all.
And we have to consider the hidden part of the iceberg, is always far too bigger and deeper.
Thank you again!
In making hard decisions, I'll know it's the one I thank myself for when I look back and thank myself for it. The leap of faith... into the cold waters where the Devil of Envy, Leviathan, stirs... Off this sinking ship of despair.
Excellent video and analogy with the iceberg analog. We rather let our fears sink us when we need to confront these problems head on in order to assert power and control and minimize damag.e Great work Darren, love the videos! you are an excellent psycholgist.
I will share this video, it's so clear and useful. Thanks one more time for all your work :)
This particular video was unbelievablely helpful to me. Thank you
Great talk
Jesus Christ I needed this so much. I'm a aim higher. Thank you
Good metaphor. Brought back many decisions I have made in life
This video was exactly what I needed today. I broke up with a friend today. The friendship had been in bad shape for a while. I avoided having the conversation that needed to happen for probably a year, which only made it worse. We reached a point where we could no longer work together on even the simplest things. We finally had the conversation today. It was painful. Maybe if we had had it early the friendship could have been saved. I will never know for sure. What I do know is that while I am sad about what has happened, I also feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Thank you.
You speak words of wisdom 👍
Excellent - thank you! 👍
Thank you for this video!
Was on time. Thank you
So, so true. Needed this talk! Many thanks 🤗
Thank you, excellent video. really well said 👏
Great advise.
Well put.
Thank you. Confirmation 😌
I had to remove my sisters from my life. I had too, to rid toxicity.
I feel that if I hadn't ended this awful relationship I would be dead in 5 years. The aftermath is awful but better than staying where I was
I noticed a "trend" among my female adolescent behavioral health patients. They want to be called bpys' names but do not identify as male. I have my theories behind this, but would enjoy hearing those of yours.
Super fantastic 👌🙏🎉
Very difficult when confronting a child’s former drug use and fear they are relapsing. How can I let my child destroy themselves? They think tough love is unfair and they say they are always innocent and say I’m lying. Very painful, but it’s my titanic. I have to face it if I want her to live a happy healthy life.
If only you had Bipolar. Mania allows you to feel the power of a god. Decisions have no consequences. Lithium does give the wings to gently fly to the middle ground, however.
Titanic is not y'all's fault. "They" were trying to eliminate specific passengers. Love from a conspiracy theorist.
I'm new to this phenomenal channel.
Do you have any advice or opinion if it is possible for a severe narcissist to change and if so, what would it take?
Deepest gratitude for this invaluable information.
Thank you for your kind feedback and question. That is a topic I’ll be covering in a future video
I wish I could get counselling from YOU directly. This information and presentations are stellar.
I appreciate your prompt response and that you will be presenting this topic in the foreseeable future.
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courage....
Hi Darren, I was brought up by a Narcissist , since then I have become like s fly paper to narcissists do we give off victim target vibes if so how can we stop it ! Darren can you do a video please 🙏🏻
man , ole doctor who has got some wisdom doesnt he?
You mean a series of explosions caused those separate holes.
I know , not the point. TY
I've been fascinated with the Titanic also.... I believe the names were switched deliberately....for the damaged Olympic which was the slightly older sister of Titanic, built alongside the more famous vessel but launched in October 1910. I think narcissist's do this to their victims...lie and deceive.