Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse: What to Avoid
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- čas přidán 5. 08. 2024
- Recovering from narcissistic abuse can seem difficult at times, especially when we feel stuck and unable to move forward. This short clip from a livestream outlines some of the things to avoid in order to help move forward.
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To the the survivors STOP:
1. Overgiving
2. Explaining; they don't care.
3. Trying to fix them.
4. Waiting for them to change. They never will.
5. Analyzing them.
You will NEVER get your wasted time back. ❤
Number 2 still baffles me. It's like they're an alken and common sense isn't in their vocabulary. Just absolute insanity.
I struggle with point 5. That's why I'm watching this video 😂
33 fricking years! Don't do what I did, don't have kids with them, who are also narcissists now!
@@sarahwagland1559I hear you😔.
Agree. Just that for no. 1, the minute I stop giving, that's when the drama and flying monkeys kick in 😂.
Even if they agree with something in the moment, the next moment they will say they never agreed. Just take care of yourself. Don't sacrifice yourself for the relationship
Thank you SO MUCH, Darren! I really needed to hear this today, right now! You are our strong Ally, which is very important, as many of us have no family or friend support, no one who understands. For me, it's a really embarrassing and emotional subject. I'm from the older generation, and I had never heard of narcissism. If I'd known anything about it, I could have recognized what was happening and responded in better ways. Most days, I watch one of your videos for comfort. God bless you!
So very well said. You just described my situation too. Take care of yourself.
OCD Treatment Has Helped Me With Recognizing the Ruminations & The Compulsions And to Stop Trying to Seek Reassurance Where it Does Not Has Not & Never Will Exist
Here's to Authentically & Compassionately Trusting Our Selfs Who Just Wanna Feel Safer.
Briliantly said Darren. True. Thank you for great advice. Be the villain- say NO, have boundaries, don’t explain, engage, defend or personalise anything they say or do. Live you true life in authenticity and integrity. Truth is always good enough and it needs no defence.
I'm preparing an email to the boss who is on the fence but mostly supports the malignant narcissist. It's a what to expect email. It's hard to keep it simple, but I'll try. ❤
Great clip! If they wanted to hear you, then you could speak and it would be received. If they don’t want to hear you, it doesn’t matter how you craft it, word it, or how many times you say it - they are like a toy in Toy Story when the humans walk in- they are “switched off” and will never react/respond. Unless you become the villain as Darren says, then they will hear that and hold it against you.
Thank you Darren. Hear you loud and clear. It's okay to stand up for your self but don't give them the satisfaction of getting to you. Let them sweat in their own misery. Walk away.
I kept trying to tell my solicitor this. It was only after two years, when he experienced their obnoxious behaviour first hand, that he actually took the action required to force their hand. I've come to realise that he too is a narcissist. When we complained about him he ignored us and we have had to go to the ombudsman. They are everywhere.
I warned my divorce lawyer to not engage with my narc husband. But that is exactly what she did. He wouldn't give her financial info she required so she kept emailing him (and charging me for it) and then he would reply back "No" and she would charge me again to read that email. Then she would re-email the request again, and charge me, etc. This racked up to over $800 in fees and still never got the info. I circumvented both of them and got the info for free....then I fired the lawyer and did the rest of the work myself. Narcs feed off each other for mutual gain.
Been there and done that and now moved on!
Oh my lord.... I go through this almost daily. It's so mind numbing. Thank you, Darren.
Thank you
It is sooo right on time
Right time, right place and right people
If being the villain in his fantasy is what it costs for my freedom, so be it.
Thank you so much for this video clip. Your strategies make good sense.
Thank you
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I took my cure from a lovely mad lad named doctor Ian dury: "Sex and drugs and rock and roll, all my brain and body need."