how women select simps(why women choose simps)
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- Welcome to our channel! In today's video, we delve into an intriguing topic discussed by Sadia Khan: why women with numerous red flags often seek men with low boundaries. 🚩💔
Sadia Khan sheds light on the dynamics of relationships where women with problematic behaviors tend to target men who are fixated on their beauty. These women can spot men with low boundaries by their obsession with physical appearance. When a man prioritizes a woman's looks above all else, she can easily manipulate and exploit this obsession, allowing her to avoid working on other aspects of her character. 🌹✨
Such men become easy targets because their admiration for physical beauty blinds them to the woman's flaws. Khan emphasizes the importance of men developing boundaries by learning to value women for qualities beyond physical appearance. This shift in perspective is crucial for building healthier and more balanced relationships. 💪❤️
This insight has been eye-opening for me, as I've often wondered why some men don't leave women who treat them poorly. Understanding the role that low boundaries and an overemphasis on beauty play in these dynamics can help us all strive for better relationships. Did you always know this secret about women? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below. 💬👇
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*Key Takeaways:*
1. *Identifying Low Boundaries:* Women with red flags often seek men who prioritize their beauty above all.
2. *Exploitation of Obsession:* Such women can manipulate these men, avoiding personal growth.
3. *Establishing Boundaries:* Men need to look beyond physical beauty to value deeper qualities in women.
4. *Healthier Relationships:* Understanding these dynamics can lead to more balanced and fulfilling relationships.
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- How do you think men can develop stronger boundaries?
- What qualities do you believe are most important in a partner?
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The way she treats you is more important than her looks, many men don't understand this
Desperation
For real, especially notice how she treats you behind closed doors all alone in private vs with friends coworkers customers etc in public
Exactly! The beauty I can get from other girls when I cheat. The main girl will eventually lose her beauty and you'll cheat anyways so why not do it now. That's why even though my main chick is not the hottest I'm fine with that because she has all the other things I look for and will keep her
Mostly they don't even look that good, often not even average. These men are just desperate.
Men typically don't prioritize that way. Maybe we should, but we don't. Equivalent to, women should pick a man who treats them well, not a man who has a lot of money. Should, but they don't. Those are the facts.
"Don't Save Her... She don't wanna be saved! DON'T SAVE HER!"
True. Not saving her.
She can't be saved.
Somewhere a SIMP is trying really, really hard to save her only to get burn by her and her Chad.
Mediation changes people´s thinking and mindset, and finding purpose, maybe because it cleanses the mind from junk and allows pepople be themselves.
GOOD, I DON'T SAVE HER ( HYPOTHETICALY. ) WHAT THAN? SHE WILL BE STUCK INA SITUATION / MUD, FOREVER? NO - O??! SHE DOES NEED, SOME ONE, TO SAVE HER! SOME ONE THAT COMLIMET HER AND SHE COMLIMENTS HIM??!
So so true.... And the classic nice guy response to red flags is often '' she has been hurt , I want to heal her..''.
Never worth it
It's been in my head, I left anyway. But it still hurts though. Can you emphasize that. Why am I feeling like, "she is hurt by me, I wanna do something about it". Even though I know it's not my fault, some part of my brain thinks otherwise
@@muhammedrashid1244 It may be that at some point in your childhood you picked up a message that in order to be loved you must take care of other peoples feelings.
Yeah usually a freak
Sounds like you have had experience
Yes, this is why we all should have boundaries not just for women, but in general.
This applies at the office, being a people pleaser leads to your boss or manager asking you to stay till after 5 constantly until it becomes a routine
When a woman is doing well, she goes F around with bad guys, and then when a woman has a difficult life situation, she seeks comfort and support from a nice guy.
This is what happened with me and my ex, that relationship destroyed me, however I am so glad that happened, it uncovered self esteem issues I didn't know I have. Now, I'm the best version of myself I've ever been, and I can spot manipulation from a mile away.
It wasn’t destruction. It was a temporary setback. Be careful giving away your power.
Rose like a phoenix 🐦🔥
If she cannot be CORRECTED than she cannot be DIRECTED and if she cannot be DIRECTED than She cannot be PROTECTED.
Wow!! You summed it all up in this statement. Hi impact!!❤❤
💯💯💯
@@kc6810 being in the Medical field, you NEVER seen how a husband can protect her, help her, support her? You are not looking! We need each other.
He can buy you a safe reliable car and make sure somebody knows where you are when you’re out seeing clients. He’s also a phone call away if sh#t goes down.
@@kc6810 Sometimes you need to tend to a man's needs. Get over it.
First society teaches to respect and tolerate women's excesses, then we're told "if you tolerate women's excesses, she loses respect of you" 😂
why are you dating bpd women? serious women will not ask for excess and will not tolerate male excess (i.e., alpha male crap). she is stable and confident
@scorpieeeee Unfortunately nowadays the average woman is not virtuous, which pushes the average man to not be virtuous.
And since This is not written on the forehead, it is not clear a priori who is virtuous and who is not, after bad experiences one tends to avoid trying and making mistakes and being screwed by modern Western women once again.
This is why it's reductive not to make dates with bad women, it's not like they have it written on their foreheads, it's not that easy to distinguish them
Welcome to Red Pill.
its so bizarre, its like no logic in anything anymore
Anyone who sees everything as a power play is going to get rejected by me very quickly, and I can size up and reject a woman just by her energy alone.
Amen Fred
💯💯💯💯👌🏾
Stay away from women who attracts attention
I didn't have low self esteem, but my ex observed in me a loyalty and generosity toward the people I loved and she tried her hand at manipulating and abusing me. It only lasted a few months, and the reason it even lasted that long was because that was the first time I'd ever encountered a real narcissist. As soon as i understood what was happening, I got away, and to say I dodged a bullet would be an understatement.
Lotta guys are married 30 years and didn’t realize that til it’s too late
I've dodged a few bullets
Yup. Took me almost 25 years to realize it but it was a slow reveal that she did until she hit a point of no return. Got rid of her and much happier.
Ugh, this happened to me. Problem was, it was with someone I'd known for many years as a friend, whom I'd always harbored feelings for. Lines got blurred because of mutual attraction, but she had lots of options due to her beauty, and I decided foolishly to prioritize her. She always wanted to be friends, but I was clear about wanting more, until I finally gave up. I have since moved on, thankfully. But I hate how many years I wasted (both in allowing my boundaries to be violated thanks to her beauty, and in allowing myself to keep hope alive for her/trying to fix her) rather than moving on sooner. This video speaks the truth. If you resonate with any of this, don't do what I did and try to wait around to fix someone who isn't prioritizing you back.
Geez...I did this too. Friends for 2 years, but we hooked up a handful of times. She just wanted me as a friend. But she wanted a secret side relationship for dating. Someone she didn't have to introduce to family, friends, her kids. She wanted a fake relationship and have me also. Too messed up...I bailed. Really hurt me, but probably for the best if she doesn't fix her avoidant issues
@@carlrav5660 You should have just played the FWB role and built yourself in the meantime in order to attract other women.
@@ronaldayoub Uh, no.
That's totally messed up.
People need to have respect for themselves.
whats crazy is, she described my ex... she was not very pretty but she was initially sweet. she had low self esteem and had suicidal ideations. i healed her and made her feel good about herself, constantly. i treated her like a queen. i improved her sense of self worth, self esteem, loved her and cherished her. unfortunately, she let that get to her head and began to treat me very badly... i put up with it for a while, almost 2 years... i was shocked because this personality trait was never obvious when we first met. the day i broke up with her, she said many nasty things to me, including "you will never find a woman as beautiful as me" i responded with "its not about looks or beauty, its about how you treat other people" she actually said "thats true" lmao
Respect
Then that means she wasn’t depressed due to poor self esteem, but due to not being the “it factor” in the room. Something I had to learn is that you never really know who exactly or what exactly you’re helping.
Exactly what happened to me
Guys who did “Good” things and then gets screwed over, will become vindictive once they realize the truth later.
Mam zaburzenia ze spektrum autyzmu, przez co jestem bardzo naiwny i większość kobiet mnie wykorzystywała emocjonalnie, a potem olewała, ale nie szukałem nigdy z premedytacją zemsty, czasami tylko w gniewie powiedziałem dobitnie prawdę i się obrażały.
I PERSONALY SAY. NO - O PROBLEM DARLING?/ GO? GO AWAY?! THERE ARE MUCH MORE GIRLS / WOMEN, THAN MEN? I DEFINITELY WILL FIND MY KIND OF A GIRL FOR MYSELF?!! BUT YOU DEAR? YOUR BIOLOGICAL CLOCK IS TICKING, AND SUDDENLY, TIME IS U - UP??!!
Truth...some women have to learn this lesson by you simply walking away.
True that. I walked away from a centerfold worthy woman. Over the phone (pre-internet), I told her we were done. I could tell she was all shook up. This might have been the first time someone rejected her.
@@Ace.0.0.0.There are lots of disrespectful guys out there too... I finally walked away from a very disrespectful and abusive guy...
@@margueritedrya9807 Then you did the right thing. Kudos
Maybe she’ll lack the ability to ever have any empathy for you and walking away will just trigger an abandonment issue. But if there’s been cheating she cannot talk through with you and dishonesty and physical violence then no matter how pretty she is you really do have to walk away.
Guys, you just need to learn how to say no. Call your girl beautiful, treat her with kindness, respect, honesty, and tell her you love her often, but please learn how to say no.
As soon as the beauty begins to fade, we join the dark side of the force. The wheels fall off. The end.
interesting
Yep, I was in this position. Not anymore. Since that breakup, it broke me down and now I’ve been rebuilding self with the help of the lord Jesus Christ. Through his example I am growing in self esteem, sorting out and fixing my mental state, and keeping an eye out for women that aren’t a walking red flag.
Where was jc ,before your break up?
SHE TELLING THE TRUTH!!!
Hurts but it's true 👍.
Thanks ♥️
@@MadisonChloeLoves You're welcome
The message I’m getting here is that relationships are not worth it and that I should stay single
If friendship takes this much mental manipulation and effort - why spend any.
As a former simp so true 😭😭😅
I agree that a man has to have boundaries. My issue is that whenever I exert my boundaries with women, they just leave. Exerting my boundaries does not garner me any respect from women...they just leave and look for their next target.
It's a good sign. And my advice; don't revise your boundaries but revise the type of women you choose
Keep building. But keep your boundaries too. When you enforce them you should do so with authority.
DONT SAVE HER!!! or you'll lose yourself in the process
The Sampson & Delilah story….. Lust darkens the mind
Indeed
Why can't we just team up and make each other great again? Why all the stupid games.. The west needs to be saved, we need families, good people!
That requires introspection, which is in short supply throughout the West let alone the US.
This human behavior of manipulating and disrespecting is villainous. If a person like this is ever in need, "Would not piss on fire to put you out"
Just some 17 year old Repeating platitudes he heard on the internet
"Because she knows you can go anywhere looks wise"💀
how do you show interest and at the same time not be impressed by a beautiful girl? does this simply mean acknowledge the beauty just don't let it control you?
Treat fives like they are tens and tens like they are fives.
That's hard keep track of
Keep it simple. Keep all numbers like 5's and then your in the mindset of treating all women as equally the same. Women are like, more tribally (emotional bonded) connected than us men. They'll appreciate it and respect you more if you see them as one equal entity. All you have to do is present 'the hero's return' after your Sabre-toothed Tiger mission.
Treat them as they deserve to be treated. Punish bad behavior and reward good behavior. That number scale shit is beta male nonsense.
the biggest bullshit of the year. doesn't matter if she's 5, boosting her already inflated ego is always a bad idea.
You can treat a 5 like a ten,but you can't treat a 10 like a five.She doesn't need you.She has a que of eager men to pander to her needs .
She even thinks to play games she's out the door.. no time for games or manipulation.. rather be single
💯💯💯💯
Preach!
Real though, I had a friend like that and she was exhausting, she did so many things but I just kept forgiving her until I couldn't anymore and I just blocked her everywhere!
This is the oldest trick in the book. Complement your woman for the things she do for you, because she will subconsciously focus on those parts and value herself from her behaviour instead of her looks. And she will improve those parts even more. You don't want your woman to think that her looks is the central part of your attraction, it will eventually turn her into a worse person of herself, that starts feeling valued by getting the same kind of attention from other men...
Dating has become exhausting. That's why I have been on only one date in the last ten years...
exhausting it is. at least we are now in groups thinking deeply about relationships, understanding more about ourselves and seeking better experiences
Gave up on dating once I turned 30 . True waste of time
Probably the most real confession a woman has made on yt. Ever. By far.
Very well put and so true. Setting boundries will make any relationship more healthy
Absolutely! 💯disrespect does come from being glued to beauty. It’s like a trap that sucks a person in and they keep going for the bait
Hurt people hurt people. Sadly, you can't do anything. So save yourself 1st. 🏆❤
I think you are spot on. I have been with a beautiful woman for 20 years now and have learned the lesson of what you are saying the hard way. I am fortunate that I did manage to recover and establish proper boundaries after lots of inner work. This prompted her inner work and I see so much more depth and value in her. Our relationship is changing to have greater mutual respect for each other and love for different reasons than what it started out as. I think the caveat is that compassion is key and know we are all in this together.
Agreed. And yes, some of us always knew this secret. Many a Woman has experienced a rude awakening because of this. Great video.
Beautifully said.
Or the other one is, women with a ton of red flags tend to go for guys with a ton of red flags because that’s what their father was like. Father treated em like crap so they choose men who treat em like crap coz that’s what they think love is. You can’t fix that btw.
She'll use him while she can, then dump him when she gets bored or thinks she can do better.
Yes, I knew that. Pretty much common sense. Often, that type of woman requires the simp type man because no one else will tolerate them. I don't know if they look for that type or the pieces just always fall that way (with a simp).
The more I see video about women and relationship The more convinced I become that I made a huge mistake in getting marriaged 37 Years ago 🤯
Narcissistic women
Thank You For This Information.🙏🙏❤❤
Tracy needs to listen to this
A pure woman wants RESPECT & SECURITY / SAFETY - I mean a Family woman, raised with family values or her priorities.
The woman with attitudes, zig zag kind of behaviour may play for a while or few years but once she starts loosing her physical beauty, she will be ignored and eventually will be left alone in the last decades of her life. Empty, depressed, frustrated or with other psycho issues
"That's how we know en have low self-esteem ..." Who's "we"? I guess she speaks on behalf of all beautiful women and from experience
I had to do a double take because I was thinking Kim Kardashian is the last person who should be giving anyone relationship advice!! Lol!! But once she spoke, all doubt was removed. 😂
That makes me so happy!! that means i have a chance!!!
Treated me so badly... GONE, DONE, OVER! All that she gets is her regret.
This is so true.
That's why I don't understand women,you figure you go all out and bend backwards for her,that she'll notice it,and then love you more,but it seems she'll love you less I don't understand that
Because it's a power trip for her.
You can be a nice guy. But don't be a push over. No one is going to like that quality in a man.
I see why men shouldn't chase women.
she talks from her own experience of vanity
All men already value women for things beyond appearance, it's just that there are so few women that are valuable in the modern day in the ways men want them to be (beyond appearance) that it seems like there are many men that do not. Just facts. And yes, this causes problems.
She is absolutely right 😎😍🙏
Always remember Alpha seed, beta need. Alphas dont take shit from women, women will always take for granted the nice guy
You're right ✅️
Then tell mothers and fathers to stop raising nice guys in this country
@@dandaman9009 theirs nothing wrong with being raised right. Treat a woman with respect. Just dont be her doormat. If you treat a girl like a celebrity, she will treat you like a fan
@@lutfysalim5998 another 17 year old repeating the same platitudes he heard somewhere on the internet
The truth is a woman will try to go for both the simp and the jerk. They want their cake and to eat it to. One will be constantly putting her on a pedestal making her feel like a queen and she will definitely take advantage of that. while the other will be simultaneously treating her like dirt and she will actually be chasing that guy due to her low self esteem. Either way it’s a lose lose situation. I’ve been on both ends of the coin.
My ex used to test my boundaries a lot in the beginning of our relationship. She used to use her sexuality and access to sex to entice me to make up each time we were on the brink of me breaking up and walking away from her. She had a lot of weird women's relationship books on how to manipulate men on her book shelf.
What she didn't know, was I had clicked dom to her red flag behaviour and was using her as a fluffer while I pursued more serious relationships. I absolutely milked her free head game for many years while I played the field and making her think I was committed.
She's now a single mother with someone else's kid. I'm happily settled down and remain thankful for the experience and free sex.
Ladies, never turn a good man into a bad guy. It might be the only good guy that comes along.
Oh Sadia, then I must admit you have total power over me 😊
At least you tell the truth
Women like Sadia are honest... they won't hurt you... but such women are only handful in whole world... Normally women will never show you their True behaviour .. yiu need to find out
Simp Alert.
@@jcronin3155 damm right, 💯. And I don't simp around as easily btw
So, any woman over 30 who isn't getting used by the guys she's actually attracted to anymore?
where is the link to full video?
That pretty sums up all my relationships before 55
Until she chooses " a simp" then he rejects her and she is forced to deal with that!
You do not ask the fish how to fish. you ask the fisherman.
Afghanistan has the right idea
You have to look at the women like we do at the zoo : They're beautiful but she have to stay behind bars.
I used to be that guy. Never again...
If friendship takes this much mental manipulation and effort - why spend any.
So True
Remember guys beauty starts from inside the rest is just fake if you have this motto your in front
i've found no real way out of this rule
I just don't get much attraction to the physical beauty. I only get attracted by my own beauty, but I lost my high self-esteem quickly in love.
If women can sense this and that. What can Men sense.?
If you disrespect me, I’m out. I don’t care how beautiful you are on the outside, I am looking at who you are on the inside because that is what matters.
I’ll do the rejection from now on after a recent heartbreak.
I have standards as a man.
1. Wife that cooks ✔️
2. Woman of God ✔️
3. Stay at home mom ✔️
4. Nurtures and raises kids✔️
All mine are checked off. Are yours?
It’s not the beauty of a chic , it’s the duty of a chic. 😎
Pretty helps but find the beauty within it's a million times better
Sadia is something
The truth!!!
It's true, that used to be me.
Great
Amazing woman.
Beauty is an idea. Not real. It's in your 'head.'
"Bro she's so pretty you're so lucky"
- Literally every simp -
In other Words… You can’t understand a Woman again. Tomorrow she wants a strong, independent Man Good-Looking and the Whole Package and then she wants a Doucher again who doesn’t cheat on her. Don’t understand it, don’t put Energy in it.
They don’t know what they want = all of the above and no loyalty.
She is very smart.
True.
Like attracts like as far as I'm concerned; so I have little sympathy for simps and those who manipulate them.
And then she hurts him eventually, and then she makes a misogynist, then women question what is up with these men, well they are becoming smarter, they are tired of women and replaced them with video games
One of the best frames for female beauty I've heard articulated. Females are taught how to test drive their degree of beauty at an early age, yet most males have no frame of reference even when they hear females openly refer to it as "Girl power". Beauty isn't power unless it prioritized as such in Your own mind.
Based on what?
Best advice is all men should stay single and happy
I read that as shrimp
Shrimp 🍤 is tasty 👍
No i did not know
Same thing holds true the other way... however, a woman will actually value and respect you more cause good looking men are rare. I was an 8 in my prime and women woukd stare in awe and never played any games on me. They wanted me to be the one...they would want to marry them.
By women? By narcisist women...
Thank you for this. I have already taken steps to put more focus into myself and bettering myself and stop chasing women, but this is one of the things I needed to hear. I've made mistakes in the past with giving women the power and I guess unconsciously I was still making that mistake. It's just in our dna and I grew up pretty shy so was never really confident with women, but had a lot of girls like me. I still like women a lot, but I know I need to not fall into their beauty trap and focus on the things that matter most like family, hobbies, career, diet etc.
edit: When you don't fall into the trap of a womans beauty, you start to notice a lot of them are probably not even your type not to mention it makes convos/ interactions with them much more breezy because you're not looking at them like a romantic interest. You're just seeing them as another person.