I watched my twin brother die from cancer and I couldn’t help him. I always remember him saying to me “ I would rather be standing here where I am , than where you are. This must be impossible for you”. The must loving and generous thing anybody has ever said to me. Laters bro x
Thankyou for sharing Barry. What a great brother you had and a great brother you are. Lost my brother to suicide. I firmly believe that we will all be reunited with out loved ones.
Wow. I am a therapist. I just witnessed therapy between these 2 men and I’m grateful. Stephen is one of the most complete human beings I have the pleasure of following.
Ouch.... I'm not kidding...I felt that quote to my damn bones... Lost my older brother then my mom a month later at the end of 2020...TMI, but I had to explain why I felt as such
I lost my dad when I was 5 and my fiancé when he and I were 24. This conversation is so beautiful and I appreciate it so much. I love Stephen’s faith though I don’t share it. And I love both men’s perspective and emotional honesty.
@@mmsizzlak3726 I'm so sorry to hear of your loss I needed to tell u we are in the same boat I lost my mom 7 months ago and my older brother 3 days ago I often come here to hear them speak again about grief I feel so alone in it and I don't know how to even articulate the feeling of absolute lonlieness from loosing these two amazing people I so desperately loved and needed in my life how are you holding up I hope you find peace and know u are not alone
It’s really amazing how much what men are allowed to be and look like and interact with each other has changed in the 30 years I’ve been alive. It’s really beautiful to see two people interact so thoughtfully.
Two real men who come at the world from such different places in so many ways and yet can seek to understand and support each other. I am inspired and encouraged in ways i never imagined were possible
I think they would laugh at the ‘real men’ distinction you are referring to. It is a platitude. When life becomes real like this, it leaves you no room for anything less then honesty or else you would lose your mind. Yes, it is brave to share this on TV, but it is necessitated by the urgency it has in their lives. You are actually not taking down the ‘real men’ fallacy like this, just spinning it around. Men who can’t open up are very much real as well. It is not all about culture and role models. These two are lucky that they have the skills to verbalise their loss, it is either that or getting consumed by your experiences. Men who can’t find the words to express themselves are not any less than those who can. They just need more help. And sometimes men don’t need that many words, they just need action, which is fine as well. To each his own.
This conversation between two adult men about grief is so highly unusual. Rarely do we get to see men talk with such vulnerability and honesty about how they feel. Hearing this conversation is a gift. To me. Many thanks to Stephen and Anderson.
But that isn't that much of an anomaly now is it. Take the same line of defense in say someone talking about atheism on a Sunday church and say a group of family members trying to convert an atheist. The same argument of say you are making me uncomfortable and my belief system does not sit right with this would carry different weights, right
@@ArihantChawla I don't think they're proposing it's a strong logical argument; just that it's one view that at least doesn't pretend to know more than it does.
I am a Christian and I also love how he talks about religion. There is uncertainty. It’s like love; it’s a decision and an action, not a feeling and not necessarily logical.
He is a Sunday School Teacher, Can you imagine being a kid going to Sunday School with Mr Colbert and then figuring out later that he is one of the biggest stars in the country?
i cannot remember how many times i have replayed that part of the conversation ... i react the same. it was the look when he said it, as if suddenly recognizing and suddenly putting into words something he just realized he knew all along. humility and compassion. i wish i had a better word to say that ...
“For me losing my dad then changed the trajectory of my life. I’m a different person then I feel I was meant to be.” That is the most profoundly accurate quote to ever explain the way I felt about losing my mother at age 17.
I can't imagine. I lost my dad at 33 and my mother 18 months later. Even though I was happily married with a beautiful young daughter, I was devastated-for years.
I lost my mom to cancer a few years ago when I was 23, and one of my best friends and fellow lab mates that I got my masters with 2 years later in a motorcycle accident when I was 25. And I agree. Its almost impossible to brace for the impact.
a friend, who didn’t know about my loss, sent me this video 3 years ago. this line stopped me dead in my tracks, it so accurately described the immensity of parental loss as a young person. 3 years later i’m revisiting this video and i’ve never forgotten that line
I was so touched by how Stephen chose his words so carefully toward the end of the conversation so that what he said would maybe offer help and comfort to Anderson in his grief.
His time taking care of his mother obviously informs who he is now. He clearly felt a responsibility to comfort Anderson and bring him some peace. What a lovely man.
I was in my mum’s bedroom when she opened a letter to say her husband, my dad, had died in a truck crash in New Zealand. It was 1967 and I was 12. Well before the internet and even popularity of phones. I lived with the tears of my mother when she cried and held me to her saying “I’ll find us another house son”. Two years ago, aged 66 I learned that my father had not died until 2000 when I was 45. I was not angry, nor sad…merely numb. My mother died in November 2004 never knowing he was alive. Not angry, nor sad, merely numb.
I'm so sorry you experienced such a lie from a loved one. I have read of others having a similar experience, so you aren't alone. I hope that is comforting, even though it's also sad. Being numb, or any other feeling you have toward it is valid. Process in your own time. Perhaps you may find this trite, but I'll write it anyway - his loss. I hope you find peace.
Love both of these guys. Not sure how I even came across this tonight, guess I was meant to find it. I lost my 21 years young daughter in June of 2017. She was killed in a collision as a pedestrian on her way to her college classes. We used to watch Last Week Tonight with John Oliver and sometimes Stephen's Late Show. She had voted for the first time in 2016 and was shocked like millions of other Americans in the outcome. Sometimes the truth hurts, yet we have to remember to laugh once in a while, otherwise we would surely cry. We also shared a love of Tolkien's Lord of the Rings. I know she would appreciate his comment. He started a quote that is one of my favorites and is a good one to remind me that life is a gift. The full quote is from The Fellowship of the Ring when Gandalf and Frodo sit on a stone in a cave and have a heart to heart. The Fellowship are waiting for Gandalf to remember the way through the Caves of Moria. Frodo says, "... I wish none of this had happened." Gandalf replies, "So do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.”
Lynne Hoyt I’m so terribly sorry for the loss of your beloved daughter.... 💔🙏🏾✨ May she Rest In Peace always, I’ve lost four adopted aunts and a close friend in the last year. On top of that, three years ago was my grandmother and my father. I’ve certainly known loss and still struggle with grief & deep sadness. Somedays the waves of grief his me all at once...🥀🙏🏾😢 Thank you so much for mentioning the famous quote adding amazing quote from The Lord Of The Rings, I’ll remember that “line” when I revisit the film. #GriefHurts ✨
There are 2 groups of ppl: Those who experienced loss. And, those who have not experienced loss _yet_ There is a proverb: *There is wisdom in the house of Sorrow* I'm sorry your wisdom has come at such a great price. I hope you have a belief system that comforts you in your times of sorrow.
When I was 17, I moved to New York and after six months failed into a pile of addictions. Your mother gave me four $50 bills. I'd been her waiter. That money got me home to Texas where I survived.
At 13:13 it gets me every time. It's rare to see the subject of an interview be there for the person who is interviewing them. And that's exactly what happens here. Colbert does his best to reassure Cooper that life, however tough and complicated, is a beautiful gift with just one word. I go back to this conversation usually twice a year or so. Lost my dad at 22 and I identified a lot with the things Colbert spoke of. Just a beautiful conversation between two guys who've lost a lot and hopefully people who need to see this will see it.
That moment when Anderson asked him with such sincerity “Do you really believe that?”… this ceased to be an interview and became 2 men having a deep and genuine conversation about how they have chosen to deal with their respective (yet very similar) forms of grief. This was truly beautiful.
It’s one of the most powerful moments I’ve ever seen. I so desperately wish I had Stephen’s faith. What a gift to hear it and see it so utterly in just one word. I cherish this conversation.
I lost my mom this summer. I could so identify. My father passed 15 years ago after a 30 year battle with Heart Disease. It was constant stress on the family since I was 10 years old so I could sort of identify with both of them. There was my life before my dad got sick and after. My carefree innocence was gone. I now knew bad things could happen. My mother had lost her best friend to cancer the year before so I was terrified he would die, too. I remember trying to be good so that God wouldn't take him away. Also, when Stephen talked about how his mom's death brought up the old feelings from his dad and brothers' deaths that totally struck a chord with me. The grief from my father's death came rushing back and it was so shocking for me because I thought that I had gotten past that but it was like it just happened. When he said that I was so surprised. It kinda made me laugh to myself. I thought 'See you're really not all that unique!'
@@kirstib1 True...I lost my mother when I was 16....she was only 34......I am a 57 year old man and it still haunts me on her birthday, Christmas, etc....actually even just randomly.........this was a beautiful conversation between two of my favorites!
It seemed to be Colberts gift to Anderson who is deep in his grief and loss. Colbert is saying it will always remain and define u, but u can be happy again one day and continue on making them proud for all uve overcome.
I see this conversation at least 4 times a year my mother died 8 years ago , which also took my dad just at 70 dropped dead of a heart attack both my brothers died from suicide , they both had real problems and thought life living wasn’t worth it , so I’m the last person alive in my immediate family Colbert helps me a lot and I have had therapy spoke to a pysch dr I mean I know the drill my middle brother died in 1990 my youngest brother died 3 years ago was 59 I do believe what Colbert is telling Anderson What I find hard it the being alone part although I do have a cousin in Oregon I visit 4 times a year , life is a gift it’s given to you , you must care for it , give a damn about your life value it , I am grateful for the therapy I got I knew that would be my only way out of not destroying myself. Grateful to Colbert and Cooper they have lost a lot, the conversation is a great great gift.
@@cynthiahusband106 i am so sorry for ur loss. I too get so much comfort from watching this video every few weeks. I too hate being alone, the last one left in the family, its scary to think about. But maybe we should proud thay we r still here. Not just throw in the towel but live a full life honoring our loved ones who passed. I wish this was easy
But you are entirely the person you are meant to be - Stephen said in response. If humans had scars for those mental pains, we would all be covered in them. "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle"
I felt the incredible, palpable loss of two 10 year old boys wrapped up in the bodies of men. I had a lump in my throat and tears in the corner of my eyes throughout this interview. The grief is still fresh in Anderson Cooper and my heart aches for him.
I C yes and the conversation was needed to help us see different point of view but in an imperfect way. Positive view is always needed at a point of your grief because of the memory of your family.
People don't want to bring up the dead because they're afraid they will upset you. But it can make you feel isolated, and alone in your grief. It's something I've experienced myself... I love the fact that Stephen discussed it : You are thinking about them all the time anyway.
@@vaughngaminghd es yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes My father died when I was 17 and I needed to talk about him and no one would. Then my mother died when I was 42 and again, no one talked about her. Then both my sister and my best friend both died when I was 60............same thing. It has been past 5 years now and I feel very much alone. Thanks for allowing me to share my thoughts.
@@1224even I feel like it's hard to ask about each others grief because it's so personal. I lost my mother rather suddenly over a year ago, and part of me is glad people don't ask while another is sad I can't brag about how amazing she was. I wish we felt more comfortable talking about loss with each other.
He’s so very intelligent and articulate and compassionate. And I love how he wears his faith so elegantly. He speaks about it but doesn’t force it. I would LOVE FOR HIM to write a book on his faith...
"You have to love and accept the world God has given us, because what is the option." As a fellow Catholic I think hearing Stephen does more for my faith than a year at mass.
Stephen Colbert has done more to help me reconcile with the death of my Catholic father and reawakened my faith. He gives a voice to the moderates which I think gets drowned out by fundamentalists far too much.
The essence of being a true follower of Christ is finding peace and acceptance in the midst of the suffering because you love and trust God THAT much. That kind of faith transcends simple human reasoning because at the surface, it doesn't make sense.
I have listened and listened to this discussion. It is beautiful ; to suffer is to be alive. The sacrifice of suffering is part of the life lived with intention.
I’ve been grieving my grandmother for years and have avoided this video until today. I think she made me click on it. I’ve cried and smiled and nodded so many times. To those who have lost someone dear - you are not alone.
My mother lost her dad at 9. It was the single worst thing of her life. And that grief and who she became will be felt for generations. My grandmother was shattered by the loss of her husband. And she didn’t become “alive” until we the grandkids came along. I still feel the grief through. And I miss her so much.
I'm glad someone sent me this. Having lost my dad at 9 yrs old. Well that's bad enough, I feel the worst was there was no family outside of my mother to help pick up the slack. No siblings, no aunts oruncles that ever got involved. My father only had one sibling, my mom had six brothers and sisters and her family. And very little support before and after my dad's passing. So pretty much all my life I figured they were very few people that I could relate to regarding this type of family matter. So this is actually quite uplifting for me to hear them talking about this.
@@MiniM69 I would absolutely agree that those things, albeit in some cases broadly defined, are gifts. I think if I had to come up with a reason why they could be viewed as punishments (not necessarily in the sense of an intetional harm caused in retaliation for wrong but in the sense of a negative consequence) it would be that loss is always possible, often unpredictable, and universally inevitable. I've thought a lot about what Stephen said with respect to the Buddhist tradition and it has a ring of truth to it. Pleasure is the genesis of pain in that in its absence we remember what we once had and yearn for its return, often in vain. Love is a gift, but the price we pay for it is grief if and when those we love leave us. To avoid getting too depressing, I have to say that in the Buddhist tradition, this makes the cost of "worldly pleasure" not worth paying. But I would argue that as a wise man once said, "it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all". Just because the things that bring us joy have the potential to cause us pain does not mean that that joy is invalidated.
Having experienced a dad dying when I was twelve and being the closest to my mom for her entire life, this conversation addressed so many of my experiences. Also, I now love and respect Stephen Colbert and Anderson Cooper all the more. Thank you so much for uploading such a wonderful, honest and human conversation about loss. This made my day!
I almost felt like I was eavesdropping on a very personal conversation. How very brave of both of these extraordinary men to share such profound grief and thoughts. Thank you.
Two good men who have suffered great loss, great tragedy and discuss grief modeling it for the rest of us. may they know that this conversation is a blessing to all who grieve.
Please, Anderson, don’t say you’re not the person you were ‘meant to be’. You’re the wonderful person you made of yourself and your life experience - there’s no one else you should be ❤️
After this interview....AC actually regained a "bounce in his step." It's visible on his nightly show. Colbert showed him much grace. It helped me, too.
There’s part of me that is a bit embarrassed that this interview is so important to me. But I find this conversation between two big television stars so deeply inspiring and it profoundly changed my way of thinking. I couldn’t possibly identify a more important moment in television history in my personal experience. For so long I harbored so much anger about my mother’s slow demise from Alzheimer’s and her ultimate death. The unfairness and pain that surrounded it was unbearable. The humility and love expressed in this conversation is, for me, amplified by the celebrity status of these two people, because it has absolutely nothing to do with the reason they’re celebrities. It functions in a way that is totally humanizing. I am endlessly thankful for this clip and I come back to it often.
Don't be embarrassed. I am exactly the same way and I send this to people who have recently lost someone close to them. I lost my grandfather to cancer when i was 10, i watched him wither away and I was there the moment he died in the hospital - my father was not in my life so my grandfather WAS my father. I cannot relate to the two of these men more in this interview. My life is measured before he passed and after, and I always wonder who i would have been if I had not lost him when i did
Maybe Im not understanding what your saying or Im totally off with this response? Its a good interview Im realizing these two dudes are not like most celebrities which is nice to know. I dont feel that their loss is anymore important or more relevant than my loss or anyone else. It hurts all the same although our experiences are all different, some had to watch the decline of our loved one for a very long time going through it with them in our own way of course watching this happen to them, not being able to do anything to make it better or make it stop and make them better. We all of course deal with it in our own ways . No loss is more significant than another's because of who they are or what they do , it is a loss that was very important in ones life who was very loved and made us complete! What is special is that they talked about their grief in a way that a celebrity has ever done so and they did it in a most heart felt a relatable manner a natural and nurturing kind and compassionate manner indeed. Truly sorry for your loss pray that you will find peace and comfort knowing your mother was well taken care of by you and you did what your Mom needed you to do , that was being there for her, caring for her, loving her, assisting her.
We buried my brother yesterday. Saw a youtube video this morning talking about this interview. Came here to watch. I'm a atheist and envy Stephen Colbert's faith. I hope to be able to emulate his generous and kind spirit.
I was just mid panic attack due to the grief I am currently experiencing, and this video just so happened to be in my recommended. It calmed me down and gave me a new perspective on the situation. Very thankful for these two men and the courage it took to share this conversation
Keep it saved for when you need it again. There is so much wisdom and truth in this conversation that is comforting because it is being said- not to help the other person feel better - but because they dared to go back to their 10 year old selves and feel.
It's over a year later for me and it still rocks me. Mom had cancer for most of a decade, told us she was going into hospice less than 2 weeks before Thanksgiving, and passed the day after Thanksgiving last year very unexpectedly. We were planning out how to say goodbye and suddenly she was gone. It helps seeing how these two men deal with and discuss their grief. I feel like it's a healthy example to aspire to that is not minimalistic or dismissive.
He's actually the first believer that I fully respect and get where he's coming from. Even though I'm an atheist and I view things differently, I still understand what he's saying and given his background, it makes sense for him. He's very well spoken, learned, polite amd seems to be a nice, honest guy. Thanks for the upload. I only knew him from his show and this put a depth to him that I didn't know existed. And having studied buddhism quite extensively, I think he sounds quite buddhist at times, especially what he says about suffering.
That’s because the things in his beliefs are originally parables that tell the same truths as Buddhism. They’re unfortunately just been corroded by institutions that have adopted it - the benefit of Buddhism is that this cannot be the case due to its decentralisation.
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13:00 to 15:30 is the most beautiful 2 and a half minutes of anything I’ve ever watched. What a beautiful and profound description of grief. I hope Stephen has some idea of just how many people he’s touched; he is truly one of a kind.
Hey Ann. Reading these comments, it wasn’t until I found yours, that I thought I was the only one who was struck by that. It upsets me to know how many either have little or no empathy in this world, so I’m always struck when I find it. Peace
this is absolutely what happened for me. i lost someone when i was a child and the way no one noticed made me realise everyone is going through something we just don’t see it
My brother and only sibling died in 2020. In a year that was so polarizing I learned an important thing, grief is universal. We are more the same than we are different. I also found that grief can make us MORE of who we were meant to be if we let it. The trick is to not gets stuck in it and to learn and grow and crazily enough even let the beauty in you and all you see blossom from it.
Lost my father, with him up till the moment. My question 3 years later is still....how do you get unstuck from it, how do you fill the void or loose the guilt from survivors remorse?
Lost my brother in 2020 as the lockdowns prevented him from going to his addiction meetings and he relapsed. Spent 2+ years cleaning up his life and living for himself. Rekindled his relationship with his pre-teen son months before the world shut down and he relapsed. When Stephen mentions all he thinks about every day is his family member he lost, no truer words have ever been spoken. I spent months and months being upset and pissed off for the years I’ve been robbed of having a relationship with the “clean” version of my brother. When I came across this interview, Stephen changed the way I process and think of my brother. I now can smile and be grateful… ❤️
I think I was meant to find this today. During the pandemic my dog was a huge comfort during quarantine. I had to put him to sleep this summer due to the horrible lymphoma ravaging his body. While his liver was failing and he was hemorrhaging internally he would still cuddle with me on the couch while we watched Steven Colbert. Last year I was spoiling my dog on his 'birthday' not knowing of what was to come. Real men, real people acknowledge and feel their grief. Prayers for everyone that is feeling grief in any form these days.
Eight people have given this a "thumbs down," -evidence that no matter who you are or what you do, some people won't like you. I lost my mom last month. It was devestating. Thank you for your honestly and vulnerability.
Lisa McNiel : Sincerest Condolences on the passing of your Mom. Other than losing a child of your own, the loss of your Mother, will be the hardest grief to live with for the rest of our existence. My mom passed on over 10 years, and I am still raw.
I’m sorry for your loss Lisa. I lost my mom the eve before Thanksgiving in 2015. In this age of Social Media, there is such a rise in judgemental behavior. Live your life for you, not anyone else. It’s your journey, and the path is sprinkled with all the gifts you will need.
I wanted to reach into the screen and hug both men. Then I would have sat them down at my table and baked them a pie, served them coffee and made sure they felt that another human cared about their loss.
I lost my 54 year old husband four months ago. It’s hard to go out and act normal. No body knows what I am going through. I can’t stop thinking about him and I wish I could learn how to live again. This is a beautiful interview and it helps to know I’m not alone.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I know I’m a stranger but I really mean that. I too take great comfort in this conversation because I find it very compelling that these two big celebrities are humbled by the same things we all face and I find their humility deeply relatable. I come back to it often. I hope it helps you too. I wish you peace.
4 months is too soon to expect anything of yourself. You have to get through your year of "firsts." It's hard to see the world going on as if nothing had happened when your world has been turned upside down. In time the pain eases and you are able to live again
This struck me, not as an interview, but as a profound conversation between friends. They both seemed intent on being cathartic to each other as they processed their grief together. There were several very moving moments and it was obvious they were both making a genuine connection, something I'm not sure I've ever seen in an interview. I've recommended this to several people in my family who are fans of both these men. I have even more respect for them both now and I wish them and anyone dealing with grief all the love and support they need to cope with their losses.
Please, Anderson, don’t say you’re not the person you were ‘meant to be’. You’re the wonderful person you made of yourself and your life experience - there’s no one else you should be ❤️
Tragedy as one therapist put it has a way of clipping your wings and you have to learn how to navigate life a different way. I’m sure that if Anderson Cooper’s father did not die at such a young age Anderson Cooper’s path would have been different.
“Not thinking that anything is important.” I totally and completely get this. I was a single mom for 15 years. I didn’t date because I didn’t want to drag men in and out of my daughter’s life. She died in a car accident her senior year, when a pickup swerved into her lane, hitting her car head on. All of a sudden, everything that seemed important before became meaningless. I wrote a play, “One Breath at a Time,” because I was compelled to share my grief and let other people know that they are not alone, and that they can survive the devastation. One step at a time, one breath at a time and keep reaching for the light.
i initially watched this interview the day after my mom’s sudden death. it brought me such relief and comfort. i felt like i wasn’t alone in my suffering. since then, ive watched it consistently every month since july 2020. i hope it makes others feels comforted too.
Thank you all for your condolences. Everyone has to find his own way of coping. For my part, I am very grateful for my choice to believe that death is not the end of our story. God bless you, kind, compassionate folks.
I come back to this interview about once or twice a year when I'm deep within grief, and it never fails to inspire me. This conversation has profound depth and soul.
I lost my dad at 19. I’m now 52, not many days go by that I don’t think about his death and him. It forever changed me. However I also understand the gift. My compassion and strength for others is only there because of my grief. Thanks...my two favourite people on tv. ❤️🇨🇦
My dad died in 1971 when I was 16 and what Stephen and Anderson were talking about was just so poignant and beautiful. Thank you for posting this video.
We lost our kind brilliant son to depression 5 years ago. I wanted some sort of indicator that this happened. Like the scar. This pain is so much worse than I ever imagined. Thank you for talking about it.
Beautiful conversation. One of my favorite moments was when they wished grief would show as a visible scar as they still think about their loved ones even forty plus years after they’ve passed. I lost my mother only four years ago, and there’s not a day I don’t think of her. Lately my thoughts are striving harder and harder to be more positive, thinking of her as an inspiration in wanting to honor her memory through everything I do to the best of my abilities. But there are still those days more often than not that my heart still breaks to the painful nostalgia of missing her. Those days I too wish the scar was visible just for someone to notice and give me the embrace I miss from her... 😢
Your post hit me in my heart. I lost my mom 22 years ago, and I'd give anything to have one more hug, one more conversation with her. It changed me when she died, much like Anderson said in this video. Anytime a friend complains about their mom, about how she's driving them crazy or is too meddlesome, I tell them never to take her for granted, because one day she'll be gone, and you'll be sorry you missed even one opportunity to just be loved by her. Hugs to you.
This week will be the 5 year without my father and my life is divided to a before and after. I live between grief and memory between wishing and missing. I feel my father with me in hundreds of ways but miss him always. I am really sorry for your loss. I hope you find some solace in knowing we all share the precious memories of our hearts with you now. Blessed be friend.
Honoring my parents and remembering my relationships with them keeps me going forward. They were both so damaged from their own childhoods, I can now find compassion and love for them. Keep breathing and keep going forward. We carry our scars deep in our hearts and souls. I know that I am a more compassionate person because of them.
I listened to this over my childhood pet and felt all the words the same. To whoever needs this, for what ever soul you are grieving, they are valid. You are valid. You are never alone.
“I had a friend who lost someone recently, who lost a child, and she said how did your mother do this? And I said I wish she was here to tell you” God that hit me hard
I'll admit that I always disregarded Stephen Colbert because I disagreed with him politically, but I very recently found out that he is a Catholic, just like me. Then I watched this video, heard him talk about life and faith in a way I had never heard before, and crumbled. My grandmother died recently, so that was all I could think about as I listened to these two human beings-as real as you or me-talk about their own grief. Don't ever disregard another human being.
I hope this left a lasting impression on you in regard to making assumptions about or demonizing people who you disagree with politically. We all basically want the same things, we just have different ideas on how to get there. It is important for me to remember that. It's not as adversarial as we are sometimes made to believe. You'd be taken aback by how many things people on the left and right agree on. Don't let the few things that we disagree on divide us and tear us apart. This only works if we are united.
Probably the 3rd time for me watching this in as many years. Still such a real moving conversation. People think sucking it up and being strong...is strength. Nothing is braver than having the strength to talk about it. These are two such brave men here.
I am 29 and Two days ago I found out I can never bear a child. I never really wanted one, never knew I did so I kind of silently processed it as a matter of fact. But something just unraveled me through this interview. I am crying and I don't even know why. Can I grieve the loss of what I never had or will?
I'm 71 years old and still struggle over things I'll never have in my life. But the recognition, through some form of grief, of those voids and the way they shape my world helps me avoid falling down those rabbit holes. The loss of potential is a real thing and when doors close to experiences, we either learn to accept or try to find acceptable substitutes. Putting that kind of loss in perspective allows us to recalculate and plan our path based in honesty. Go with it, pass through it and keep moving on.
There is no timeline and you both experienced it very young and then older. I was blessed to be older. My dad has been gone now 18 years which blows my mind and I still cry and miss him when like Stephen says a song or something hits a memory. My mom has been gone now 6 years. I just turned 59 but when you lose people you love it is painful but it also teaches you what is important
Woaw! What a moment! I lost my father at the age of 16 in 1978 and he was only 52 (I’m already older than him when he died) and I still measure events as before or after he died. My mother was much younger, though, and she’s still very active at 77 today thankfully. This interview was eye watering. Thank you both for that.
Those 25 seconds between 13:00 and 13:25 were some of the most heartbreaking, sincere, raw moments I've seen captured on video. Thank you both for your honesty, your humanity, and your courage.
Grief is love with nowhere to go.
mrthebillman that’s beautiful!
Perfect. Thank you.
What a beautiful quote. I'm going to remember this for the future. Thank you.
No. Grief is love that swims around for a while.. until its toes touch bottom once more. At least, that's what i'm hoping.
I wish I had come up with that myself. I want to use it in my story!
I watched my twin brother die from cancer and I couldn’t help him. I always remember him saying to me “ I would rather be standing here where I am , than where you are. This must be impossible for you”. The must loving and generous thing anybody has ever said to me. Laters bro x
That is beautiful but also heartbreaking. I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you can find some peace
@@No44778 I am so very, very sorry.
Sorry for your loss Barry 🙏🏻
Your brother was wise. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, but know a random guy on the internet is giving you his best and also crying a bit. ❤
Thankyou for sharing Barry. What a great brother you had and a great brother you are. Lost my brother to suicide. I firmly believe that we will all be reunited with out loved ones.
Wow. I am a therapist. I just witnessed therapy between these 2 men and I’m grateful. Stephen is one of the most complete human beings I have the pleasure of following.
Thank you for this amazing comment.
And bless you for helping others one on one.
Thank You for answering to your vocation. I can tell you that I have Peace, therapy helps and works.
Fellow therapist here. This was cathartic.
Wow, so true. And, not just therapy between these 2 men but for me also.
"The pain I feel now is the happiness I had before. That's the deal.” -C.S. Lewis
Jack Anderson thank you🙏❤️
Wow incredible quote blew me away thank you for quoting this it's literally made me have chills
Ouch.... I'm not kidding...I felt that quote to my damn bones... Lost my older brother then my mom a month later at the end of 2020...TMI, but I had to explain why I felt as such
I lost my dad when I was 5 and my fiancé when he and I were 24. This conversation is so beautiful and I appreciate it so much. I love Stephen’s faith though I don’t share it. And I love both men’s perspective and emotional honesty.
@@mmsizzlak3726 I'm so sorry to hear of your loss I needed to tell u we are in the same boat I lost my mom 7 months ago and my older brother 3 days ago I often come here to hear them speak again about grief I feel so alone in it and I don't know how to even articulate the feeling of absolute lonlieness from loosing these two amazing people I so desperately loved and needed in my life how are you holding up I hope you find peace and know u are not alone
Men don’t talk to each other like this as often as they should.
There would be a lot less toxic masculinity in society if they did.
Exactly
jezebel324 I’ve never had a conversation with another guy like this but I don’t see an issue with doing it.
you don't know men
Because this are real man talking, there aren't that many now days, now everything is alcohol and nonsense
This is what “real” men look like. The epitome of courage.
Well spoken.
It’s really amazing how much what men are allowed to be and look like and interact with each other has changed in the 30 years I’ve been alive. It’s really beautiful to see two people interact so thoughtfully.
Two real men who come at the world from such different places in so many ways and yet can seek to understand and support each other. I am inspired and encouraged in ways i never imagined were possible
yeah, these dudes were hella brave. thank you.
I think they would laugh at the ‘real men’ distinction you are referring to. It is a platitude. When life becomes real like this, it leaves you no room for anything less then honesty or else you would lose your mind. Yes, it is brave to share this on TV, but it is necessitated by the urgency it has in their lives. You are actually not taking down the ‘real men’ fallacy like this, just spinning it around. Men who can’t open up are very much real as well. It is not all about culture and role models. These two are lucky that they have the skills to verbalise their loss, it is either that or getting consumed by your experiences. Men who can’t find the words to express themselves are not any less than those who can. They just need more help. And sometimes men don’t need that many words, they just need action, which is fine as well. To each his own.
"It is a gift to exist. With existence comes suffering"
- Stephen Colbert
I needed to hear this today
@LinusBBQ I like hearing it... but I think I need a long, long while to understand it
And there is certainly a lot of suffering in life....
This conversation between two adult men about grief is so highly unusual. Rarely do we get to see men talk with such vulnerability and honesty about how they feel. Hearing this conversation is a gift. To me. Many thanks to Stephen and Anderson.
I’m an atheist and I love how Colbert talks about religion. Accepts the uncertainties and relies on his faith. Plus he quotes Gandalf.
And that is a encouraging thought.
But that isn't that much of an anomaly now is it. Take the same line of defense in say someone talking about atheism on a Sunday church and say a group of family members trying to convert an atheist. The same argument of say you are making me uncomfortable and my belief system does not sit right with this would carry different weights, right
@@ArihantChawla I don't think they're proposing it's a strong logical argument; just that it's one view that at least doesn't pretend to know more than it does.
I am a Christian and I also love how he talks about religion. There is uncertainty. It’s like love; it’s a decision and an action, not a feeling and not necessarily logical.
He is a Sunday School Teacher,
Can you imagine being a kid going to Sunday School with Mr Colbert and then figuring out later that he is one of the biggest stars in the country?
Colbert's single "yes" left me in tears. The most sincere thing I have heard a celebrity say in a long time.
Cooper seemed surprised by his answer. Why do we grieve?. What is the meaning to suffering?
Agreed. Mectoo
@@drghdrgh1140 You ask great questions... but i truly think your own heart's answers are as good as anyone's.
i cannot remember how many times i have replayed that part of the conversation ... i react the same. it was the look when he said it, as if suddenly recognizing and suddenly putting into words something he just realized he knew all along. humility and compassion. i wish i had a better word to say that ...
Towards the beginning?
“For me losing my dad then changed the trajectory of my life. I’m a different person then I feel I was meant to be.” That is the most profoundly accurate quote to ever explain the way I felt about losing my mother at age 17.
sending you love ❤️
I came here to leave literally this exact same comment, my mom also died when i was 17
I can't imagine. I lost my dad at 33 and my mother 18 months later. Even though I was happily married with a beautiful young daughter, I was devastated-for years.
I lost my mom to cancer a few years ago when I was 23, and one of my best friends and fellow lab mates that I got my masters with 2 years later in a motorcycle accident when I was 25. And I agree. Its almost impossible to brace for the impact.
a friend, who didn’t know about my loss, sent me this video 3 years ago. this line stopped me dead in my tracks, it so accurately described the immensity of parental loss as a young person. 3 years later i’m revisiting this video and i’ve never forgotten that line
"She knows what it's like to lose a child. " I have NEVER looked at it that way. Wow
Yeah I never looked at it that way before either. Definitely makes you think.
I was lucky enough to run into Colbert on the street and tell him how beautiful and touching this interview was, he is a beautiful soul
That's wonderful!
Aaronaleal I have a friend who’s mother knows him and I have heard only really good things about him. That’s he’s a genuine good guy
May i ask what his reaction was?
They both are!
I heard someone say, “Find a partner who looks at you like Stephen looks at his wife, Evie…pure devotion.”
I was so touched by how Stephen chose his words so carefully toward the end of the conversation so that what he said would maybe offer help and comfort to Anderson in his grief.
@Anne Liesveld this is the absolute truth.
His time taking care of his mother obviously informs who he is now. He clearly felt a responsibility to comfort Anderson and bring him some peace. What a lovely man.
Yes. He so obviously is trying not to be condescending as he teaches. I love how he is so humble.
The pause break before he answers "Yes" is one of the most inspiring things I've ever seen
I was in my mum’s bedroom when she opened a letter to say her husband, my dad, had died in a truck crash in New Zealand. It was 1967 and I was 12. Well before the internet and even popularity of phones. I lived with the tears of my mother when she cried and held me to her saying “I’ll find us another house son”. Two years ago, aged 66 I learned that my father had not died until 2000 when I was 45. I was not angry, nor sad…merely numb. My mother died in November 2004 never knowing he was alive. Not angry, nor sad, merely numb.
I'm so sorry you experienced such a lie from a loved one. I have read of others having a similar experience, so you aren't alone. I hope that is comforting, even though it's also sad. Being numb, or any other feeling you have toward it is valid.
Process in your own time. Perhaps you may find this trite, but I'll write it anyway - his loss.
I hope you find peace.
Did you mother lie about your fathers death to make the ending of their relationship easier for you?
Love both of these guys. Not sure how I even came across this tonight, guess I was meant to find it. I lost my 21 years young daughter in June of 2017. She was killed in a collision as a pedestrian on her way to her college classes. We used to watch Last Week Tonight with John Oliver and sometimes Stephen's Late Show. She had voted for the first time in 2016 and was shocked like millions of other Americans in the outcome. Sometimes the truth hurts, yet we have to remember to laugh once in a while, otherwise we would surely cry.
We also shared a love of Tolkien's Lord of the Rings. I know she would appreciate his comment. He started a quote that is one of my favorites and is a good one to remind me that life is a gift. The full quote is from The Fellowship of the Ring when Gandalf and Frodo sit on a stone in a cave and have a heart to heart. The Fellowship are waiting for Gandalf to remember the way through the Caves of Moria.
Frodo says, "... I wish none of this had happened." Gandalf replies, "So do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.”
Lynne Hoyt I’m so terribly sorry for the loss of your beloved daughter.... 💔🙏🏾✨ May she Rest In Peace always, I’ve lost four adopted aunts and a close friend in the last year. On top of that, three years ago was my grandmother and my father. I’ve certainly known loss and still struggle with grief & deep sadness. Somedays the waves of grief his me all at once...🥀🙏🏾😢 Thank you so much for mentioning the famous quote adding amazing quote from The Lord Of The Rings, I’ll remember that “line” when I revisit the film. #GriefHurts ✨
I'm so, so sorry, Lynne. Thank you for sharing this memory with us. I love that quote.
There are 2 groups of ppl: Those who experienced loss. And, those who have not experienced loss _yet_ There is a proverb: *There is wisdom in the house of Sorrow* I'm sorry your wisdom has come at such a great price. I hope you have a belief system that comforts you in your times of sorrow.
@@allme2547 That was beautiful.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss
My parents died within five months of each other with cancer...I was 12. I grew up with uncertainty. Love this conversation.
Kendra Lucas Sorry.. Almost lost my parents at 12. The anxiety is the worst.
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I just wanna hug you!
When I was 17, I moved to New York and after six months failed into a pile of addictions. Your mother gave me four $50 bills. I'd been her waiter. That money got me home to Texas where I survived.
Such a small world, this is.
Thank you for sharing.
Men don’t talk to each other like this as often as they should.
I love that
Wow!
At 13:13 it gets me every time. It's rare to see the subject of an interview be there for the person who is interviewing them. And that's exactly what happens here. Colbert does his best to reassure Cooper that life, however tough and complicated, is a beautiful gift with just one word. I go back to this conversation usually twice a year or so. Lost my dad at 22 and I identified a lot with the things Colbert spoke of. Just a beautiful conversation between two guys who've lost a lot and hopefully people who need to see this will see it.
Wow what a lovey take and beautiful use of grief, to better serve others. Thank you for pointing out
That moment when Anderson asked him with such sincerity “Do you really believe that?”… this ceased to be an interview and became 2 men having a deep and genuine conversation about how they have chosen to deal with their respective (yet very similar) forms of grief. This was truly beautiful.
It’s one of the most powerful moments I’ve ever seen. I so desperately wish I had Stephen’s faith. What a gift to hear it and see it so utterly in just one word. I cherish this conversation.
Colbert is truly a cut above the rest.
He sure is.
way above - I love him.
I absolutely adore him
13:05 I started crying when I heard Anderson's voice crack because you know he's still hurting deeply missing his mom.
Not just his mom; he lost his brother and father to suicide years ago; it's a wonder he is functional.
I lost my mom this summer. I could so identify. My father passed 15 years ago after a 30 year battle with Heart Disease. It was constant stress on the family since I was 10 years old so I could sort of identify with both of them. There was my life before my dad got sick and after. My carefree innocence was gone. I now knew bad things could happen. My mother had lost her best friend to cancer the year before so I was terrified he would die, too. I remember trying to be good so that God wouldn't take him away. Also, when Stephen talked about how his mom's death brought up the old feelings from his dad and brothers' deaths that totally struck a chord with me. The grief from my father's death came rushing back and it was so shocking for me because I thought that I had gotten past that but it was like it just happened. When he said that I was so surprised. It kinda made me laugh to myself. I thought 'See you're really not all that unique!'
The loss of your mom is an ache that never goes away...
Omg... yes that part was soo powerful
@@kirstib1 True...I lost my mother when I was 16....she was only 34......I am a 57 year old man and it still haunts me on her birthday, Christmas, etc....actually even just randomly.........this was a beautiful conversation between two of my favorites!
At several points during this interview, I cried. What a tender, human, intimate conversation. How generous and brave they are to share it.
And it's amazing that we get to bear witness to it.
It seemed to be Colberts gift to Anderson who is deep in his grief and loss. Colbert is saying it will always remain and define u, but u can be happy again one day and continue on making them proud for all uve overcome.
I see this conversation at least 4 times a year my mother died 8 years ago , which also took my dad just at 70 dropped dead of a heart attack both my brothers died from suicide , they both had real problems and thought life living wasn’t worth it , so I’m the last person alive in my immediate family Colbert helps me a lot and I have had therapy spoke to a pysch dr I mean I know the drill my middle brother died in 1990 my youngest brother died 3 years ago was 59 I do believe what Colbert is telling Anderson What I find hard it the being alone part although I do have a cousin in Oregon I visit 4 times a year , life is a gift it’s given to you , you must care for it , give a damn about your life value it , I am grateful for the therapy I got I knew that would be my only way out of not destroying myself. Grateful to Colbert and Cooper they have lost a lot, the conversation is a great great gift.
@@cynthiahusband106 i am so sorry for ur loss. I too get so much comfort from watching this video every few weeks. I too hate being alone, the last one left in the family, its scary to think about. But maybe we should proud thay we r still here. Not just throw in the towel but live a full life honoring our loved ones who passed. I wish this was easy
Wow. New compassion for both of these guys. I agree with Anderson- “I wish I had a scar so people could see I’m not the person I could have been.”
But you are entirely the person you are meant to be - Stephen said in response.
If humans had scars for those mental pains, we would all be covered in them.
"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle"
I felt the incredible, palpable loss of two 10 year old boys wrapped up in the bodies of men. I had a lump in my throat and tears in the corner of my eyes throughout this interview. The grief is still fresh in Anderson Cooper and my heart aches for him.
I C yes and the conversation was needed to help us see different point of view but in an imperfect way. Positive view is always needed at a point of your grief because of the memory of your family.
Bruh that was poetry
I legitimately thought you were quoting a book for a second there. What a powerful line.
"I'm a different person than I feel like I was meant to be"
Wow.
Hit hard.
He is who he is because we don’t have another Anderson Cooper. He is such an amazing man and father, I adore him!
I love Stephen but this interview showed me how similar I am to Anderson. He said many things I've been feeling all my life.
Same.
I think the beauty lies in how relatable it seems
This interview is a gift to humanity. The honesty and vulnerability between these two men is a beautiful thing.
“How come nobody’s asking me about Paul.” Wow
People don't want to bring up the dead because they're afraid they will upset you. But it can make you feel isolated, and alone in your grief. It's something I've experienced myself... I love the fact that Stephen discussed it : You are thinking about them all the time anyway.
@@vaughngaminghd es yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes My father died when I was 17 and I needed to talk about him and no one would. Then my mother died when I was 42 and again, no one talked about her. Then both my sister and my best friend both died when I was 60............same thing. It has been past 5 years now and I feel very much alone.
Thanks for allowing me to share my thoughts.
@@1224even I feel like it's hard to ask about each others grief because it's so personal. I lost my mother rather suddenly over a year ago, and part of me is glad people don't ask while another is sad I can't brag about how amazing she was. I wish we felt more comfortable talking about loss with each other.
Stephen Colbert is a brilliant mind from every angle.
He’s so very intelligent and articulate and compassionate. And I love how he wears his faith so elegantly. He speaks about it but doesn’t force it. I would LOVE FOR HIM to write a book on his faith...
It went from an interview to a raw conversation/therapy session for both men.
"You have to love and accept the world God has given us, because what is the option." As a fellow Catholic I think hearing Stephen does more for my faith than a year at mass.
Stephen Colbert has done more to help me reconcile with the death of my Catholic father and reawakened my faith. He gives a voice to the moderates which I think gets drowned out by fundamentalists far too much.
The essence of being a true follower of Christ is finding peace and acceptance in the midst of the suffering because you love and trust God THAT much. That kind of faith transcends simple human reasoning because at the surface, it doesn't make sense.
I have listened and listened to this discussion. It is beautiful ; to suffer is to be alive. The sacrifice of suffering is part of the life lived with intention.
I’ve been grieving my grandmother for years and have avoided this video until today. I think she made me click on it. I’ve cried and smiled and nodded so many times. To those who have lost someone dear - you are not alone.
Im sure your Grandmother chooses to be your Guardian Angel
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Me too ♥️
My mother lost her dad at 9. It was the single worst thing of her life. And that grief and who she became will be felt for generations. My grandmother was shattered by the loss of her husband. And she didn’t become “alive” until we the grandkids came along. I still feel the grief through. And I miss her so much.
I'm glad someone sent me this. Having lost my dad at 9 yrs old. Well that's bad enough, I feel the worst was there was no family outside of my mother to help pick up the slack. No siblings, no aunts oruncles that ever got involved. My father only had one sibling, my mom had six brothers and sisters and her family. And very little support before and after my dad's passing. So pretty much all my life I figured they were very few people that I could relate to regarding this type of family matter. So this is actually quite uplifting for me to hear them talking about this.
"What punishments of God are not gifts?" That blew my mind... and I'm agnostic.
You could also turn that around to the exact opposite: "What gifts of God are not punishments?"
Quotenwagnerianer Love, passion, purpose, living as Christ would have, faith, family
@@Quotenwagnerianer True. That is life.
@@MiniM69 I would absolutely agree that those things, albeit in some cases broadly defined, are gifts. I think if I had to come up with a reason why they could be viewed as punishments (not necessarily in the sense of an intetional harm caused in retaliation for wrong but in the sense of a negative consequence) it would be that loss is always possible, often unpredictable, and universally inevitable. I've thought a lot about what Stephen said with respect to the Buddhist tradition and it has a ring of truth to it. Pleasure is the genesis of pain in that in its absence we remember what we once had and yearn for its return, often in vain. Love is a gift, but the price we pay for it is grief if and when those we love leave us.
To avoid getting too depressing, I have to say that in the Buddhist tradition, this makes the cost of "worldly pleasure" not worth paying. But I would argue that as a wise man once said, "it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all". Just because the things that bring us joy have the potential to cause us pain does not mean that that joy is invalidated.
TheLatinGQ cut me deep
One of the most beautiful conversations I’ve ever had the honor of listening in to.
Well put that is how I felt
It was so beautiful; it’s made appreciate both of them so much more.
Exactly. So compelling.
Having experienced a dad dying when I was twelve and being the closest to my mom for her entire life, this conversation addressed so many of my experiences. Also, I now love and respect Stephen Colbert and Anderson Cooper all the more. Thank you so much for uploading such a wonderful, honest and human conversation about loss. This made my day!
I've watched this many times
I almost felt like I was eavesdropping on a very personal conversation. How very brave of both of these extraordinary men to share such profound grief and thoughts. Thank you.
That is so well put… thank you
This interview is a gift.
One of the best most sincere interviews I have ever seen. It is an example of what good journalism can be.
...because it's an example of good humanity.
Two good men who have suffered great loss, great tragedy and discuss grief modeling it for the rest of us. may they know that this conversation is a blessing to all who grieve.
Please, Anderson, don’t say you’re not the person you were ‘meant to be’. You’re the wonderful person you made of yourself and your life experience - there’s no one else you should be ❤️
After this interview....AC actually regained a "bounce in his step." It's visible on his nightly show. Colbert showed him much grace. It helped me, too.
There’s part of me that is a bit embarrassed that this interview is so important to me. But I find this conversation between two big television stars so deeply inspiring and it profoundly changed my way of thinking. I couldn’t possibly identify a more important moment in television history in my personal experience.
For so long I harbored so much anger about my mother’s slow demise from Alzheimer’s and her ultimate death. The unfairness and pain that surrounded it was unbearable.
The humility and love expressed in this conversation is, for me, amplified by the celebrity status of these two people, because it has absolutely nothing to do with the reason they’re celebrities. It functions in a way that is totally humanizing. I am endlessly thankful for this clip and I come back to it often.
No need to be embarrassed. This conversation is between two humans, about human experiences. It means a lot to me too.
Don't be embarrassed. I am exactly the same way and I send this to people who have recently lost someone close to them. I lost my grandfather to cancer when i was 10, i watched him wither away and I was there the moment he died in the hospital - my father was not in my life so my grandfather WAS my father. I cannot relate to the two of these men more in this interview. My life is measured before he passed and after, and I always wonder who i would have been if I had not lost him when i did
Feel the same. Helped me so much
perfectly articulated what I feel but couldn't express myself, thank you for putting words to my thoughts.
Maybe Im not understanding what your saying or Im totally off with this response?
Its a good interview Im realizing these two dudes are not like most celebrities which is nice to know. I dont feel that their loss is anymore important or more relevant than my loss or anyone else. It hurts all the same although our experiences are all different, some had to watch the decline of our loved one for a very long time going through it with them in our own way of course watching this happen to them, not being able to do anything to make it better or make it stop and make them better. We all of course deal with it in our own ways . No loss is more significant than another's because of who they are or what they do , it is a loss that was very important in ones life who was very loved and made us complete!
What is special is that they talked about their grief in a way that a celebrity has ever done so and they did it in a most heart felt a relatable manner a natural and nurturing kind and compassionate manner indeed.
Truly sorry for your loss pray that you will find peace and comfort knowing your mother was well taken care of by you and you did what your Mom needed you to do , that was being there for her, caring for her, loving her, assisting her.
We buried my brother yesterday. Saw a youtube video this morning talking about this interview. Came here to watch. I'm a atheist and envy Stephen Colbert's faith. I hope to be able to emulate his generous and kind spirit.
"Grief is the price we pay for love." - Queen Elizabeth II, after 9/11
So true.
I was just mid panic attack due to the grief I am currently experiencing, and this video just so happened to be in my recommended. It calmed me down and gave me a new perspective on the situation. Very thankful for these two men and the courage it took to share this conversation
Keep it saved for when you need it again. There is so much wisdom and truth in this conversation that is comforting because it is being said- not to help the other person feel better - but because they dared to go back to their 10 year old selves and feel.
I hope you're doing okay. I've got shit going on and this hit at the right time too. I wish you all the best.
Emma Smith same here
It's over a year later for me and it still rocks me. Mom had cancer for most of a decade, told us she was going into hospice less than 2 weeks before Thanksgiving, and passed the day after Thanksgiving last year very unexpectedly. We were planning out how to say goodbye and suddenly she was gone.
It helps seeing how these two men deal with and discuss their grief. I feel like it's a healthy example to aspire to that is not minimalistic or dismissive.
I genuinely hope you're alright
He's actually the first believer that I fully respect and get where he's coming from. Even though I'm an atheist and I view things differently, I still understand what he's saying and given his background, it makes sense for him. He's very well spoken, learned, polite amd seems to be a nice, honest guy. Thanks for the upload. I only knew him from his show and this put a depth to him that I didn't know existed.
And having studied buddhism quite extensively, I think he sounds quite buddhist at times, especially what he says about suffering.
That’s because the things in his beliefs are originally parables that tell the same truths as Buddhism. They’re unfortunately just been corroded by institutions that have adopted it - the benefit of Buddhism is that this cannot be the case due to its decentralisation.
"There isn't another timeline, and this is it, and the bravest thing you can do is to accept with gratitude the world as it is." -- Stephen Colbert
I love Stephen Colbert ❤️❤️❤️ his honesty, his faith, his humility. It's a shame we can only have entertainers like him, but not leaders.
Wow, well said my friend
I think Obama was as human and sensitive as one can be
WHAT? President Trump is the our leader, HOW DARE YOU? DONALD TRUMP is a very good ENTERTAINER for, uh, I am sorry, I forget what I was talking about, I will go tan now : {
NoaLives79 very well said. But we can have entertainers as leaders, just not like him.
We have Jimmy Carter.
Colbert’s description of why his mother prays to Mary at 9:00 made me weep.
Same. Wasn't expecting that to hit me like it did.
So powerful.
He didn't say his mother prayed to Mary
Our Lady is Mary
@@moonmaiden1973 mmm, I had to search for it... 9:28 and there it is hehe
Damn. I hadn't seen this before. I just lost my husband to covid-19 a few weeks ago. It seemed to show up just when I needed it.
🙏🙏😔
Stephen saying 'why aren't they asking about it' 'why is nobody talking about paul' really hits home
“I feel like I’m a different person than I was meant to be.”
This brought tears to my eyes. So painfully true.
I think anyone who’s experienced trauma can relate to this…. 💔
Both men, real, kind , compassionate, self aware, genuine and wonderful.
13:00 to 15:30 is the most beautiful 2 and a half minutes of anything I’ve ever watched. What a beautiful and profound description of grief. I hope Stephen has some idea of just how many people he’s touched; he is truly one of a kind.
These 21 minutes are worth more than a year in therapy or in church. It was great healing for Stephen and Anderson... and for me. Thank you.
One of the kind things Colbert said is that everyone is suffering, and his suffering made it possible for him to know that.
Hey Ann. Reading these comments, it wasn’t until I found yours, that I thought I was the only one who was struck by that. It upsets me to know how many either have little or no empathy in this world, so I’m always struck when I find it. Peace
this is absolutely what happened for me. i lost someone when i was a child and the way no one noticed made me realise everyone is going through something we just don’t see it
'it merely amplifies the enormity of the room whose door is so quietly shut' wow
And so many enormous rooms whose doors have closed. I can only be reminded by our limitless ability to love and care for others.
My brother and only sibling died in 2020. In a year that was so polarizing I learned an important thing, grief is universal. We are more the same than we are different. I also found that grief can make us MORE of who we were meant to be if we let it. The trick is to not gets stuck in it and to learn and grow and crazily enough even let the beauty in you and all you see blossom from it.
Lost my father, with him up till the moment. My question 3 years later is still....how do you get unstuck from it, how do you fill the void or loose the guilt from survivors remorse?
My brother also died in 2020. I hope things haven’t been to difficult I know how hard it is.. keep strong
Lost my brother in 2020 as the lockdowns prevented him from going to his addiction meetings and he relapsed. Spent 2+ years cleaning up his life and living for himself. Rekindled his relationship with his pre-teen son months before the world shut down and he relapsed. When Stephen mentions all he thinks about every day is his family member he lost, no truer words have ever been spoken. I spent months and months being upset and pissed off for the years I’ve been robbed of having a relationship with the “clean” version of my brother. When I came across this interview, Stephen changed the way I process and think of my brother. I now can smile and be grateful… ❤️
I think I was meant to find this today. During the pandemic my dog was a huge comfort during quarantine. I had to put him to sleep this summer due to the horrible lymphoma ravaging his body. While his liver was failing and he was hemorrhaging internally he would still cuddle with me on the couch while we watched Steven Colbert. Last year I was spoiling my dog on his 'birthday' not knowing of what was to come. Real men, real people acknowledge and feel their grief.
Prayers for everyone that is feeling grief in any form these days.
Eight people have given this a "thumbs down," -evidence that no matter who you are or what you do, some people won't like you. I lost my mom last month. It was devestating. Thank you for your honestly and vulnerability.
I'm so sorry for your loss. You're blessed.
You are not alone just be thankful for what your mom has given you and she will always be alive in your heart.
Lisa McNiel : Sincerest Condolences on the passing of your Mom. Other than losing a child of your own, the loss of your Mother, will be the hardest grief to live with for the rest of our existence. My mom passed on over 10 years, and I am still raw.
I’m sorry for your loss Lisa. I lost my mom the eve before Thanksgiving in 2015. In this age of Social Media, there is such a rise in judgemental behavior. Live your life for you, not anyone else. It’s your journey, and the path is sprinkled with all the gifts you will need.
Lisa McNiel I’m so sorry for your loss.
I wanted to reach into the screen and hug both men. Then I would have sat them down at my table and baked them a pie, served them coffee and made sure they felt that another human cared about their loss.
Fumiko Nobuoka that’s so sweet
Lovely
Yes! I just want to hug them and let them know it's okay. People do care.
I wish someone like you would invite me to their table. That was a lovely, completely human offer. It sounds nice.
I lost my 54 year old husband four months ago. It’s hard to go out and act normal. No body knows what I am going through. I can’t stop thinking about him and I wish I could learn how to live again. This is a beautiful interview and it helps to know I’m not alone.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I know I’m a stranger but I really mean that. I too take great comfort in this conversation because I find it very compelling that these two big celebrities are humbled by the same things we all face and I find their humility deeply relatable. I come back to it often. I hope it helps you too. I wish you peace.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you’re doing okay today. ❤
You are not alone. I'm so sorry you have to go through this xx
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4 months is too soon to expect anything of yourself. You have to get through your year of "firsts." It's hard to see the world going on as if nothing had happened when your world has been turned upside down. In time the pain eases and you are able to live again
Biggest compliment you can give a lost loved one is to continue to live your life.
This struck me, not as an interview, but as a profound conversation between friends. They both seemed intent on being cathartic to each other as they processed their grief together. There were several very moving moments and it was obvious they were both making a genuine connection, something I'm not sure I've ever seen in an interview. I've recommended this to several people in my family who are fans of both these men. I have even more respect for them both now and I wish them and anyone dealing with grief all the love and support they need to cope with their losses.
Please, Anderson, don’t say you’re not the person you were ‘meant to be’. You’re the wonderful person you made of yourself and your life experience - there’s no one else you should be ❤️
Maria G. He only meant that his life was inevitably altered by the death of his family members so young.
Tragedy as one therapist put it has a way of clipping your wings and you have to learn how to navigate life a different way. I’m sure that if Anderson Cooper’s father did not die at such a young age Anderson Cooper’s path would have been different.
Our life experience is what made the person we are.
Anderson's voice was trembling when he spoke of his mother. May her rest in peace and God bless you two good, intelligent men.
My dad recently passed, I needed this. Hearing people experience the same things I'm going through brought me comport.
I am sorry for your loss. 😔♥️
I am hoping you are feeling better. My father passed back 10/2020.
"...what punishments from God are not gifts..." Made a self-proclaimed atheist cry today. I didn't know I needed that.
We can all appreciate good words.
“Not thinking that anything is important.” I totally and completely get this. I was a single mom for 15 years. I didn’t date because I didn’t want to drag men in and out of my daughter’s life. She died in a car accident her senior year, when a pickup swerved into her lane, hitting her car head on. All of a sudden, everything that seemed important before became meaningless. I wrote a play, “One Breath at a Time,” because I was compelled to share my grief and let other people know that they are not alone, and that they can survive the devastation. One step at a time, one breath at a time and keep reaching for the light.
Gem Holt-Baker
You must be such a champion to still be moving forward after such devastation. I’m so very sorry for your horrible loss.
I am so sorry. I cannot imagine. I hope you are able to find purpose and joy after losing her.
I’m so sorry, mama.
I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine how devastating that must be.
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure your daughter would be so proud of how strong you've been 💛
i initially watched this interview the day after my mom’s sudden death. it brought me such relief and comfort. i felt like i wasn’t alone in my suffering. since then, ive watched it consistently every month since july 2020. i hope it makes others feels comforted too.
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Colbert and Cooper are a cut above the rest-- intelligent, passionate, real!
Thank you beautiful men. I lost my home and children to a fire 9 years ago and I so relate to what you say about grief.
WIDE AWAKE So sorry
I am also so sorry for your loss
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Truly very sorry for your loss.
Thank you all for your condolences. Everyone has to find his own way of coping. For my part, I am very grateful for my choice to believe that death is not the end of our story. God bless you, kind, compassionate folks.
In one word: profound. Hard to believe a conversation of this depth was held on television, which is so often the loudest of platforms.
Honestly this is the realest interview I’ve seen on tv. It felt like the cameras weren’t even there.
I come back to this interview about once or twice a year when I'm deep within grief, and it never fails to inspire me. This conversation has profound depth and soul.
I lost my dad at 19. I’m now 52, not many days go by that I don’t think about his death and him. It forever changed me. However I also understand the gift. My compassion and strength for others is only there because of my grief. Thanks...my two favourite people on tv. ❤️🇨🇦
Shelley Vanelli I understand this
I agree. Many people claim they can be sympathetic/empathetic without personal grief. Maybe, but grief is definitely a starter kit.
Yep
Wow. Very proud of u, abt two years ago I lost my friend.
I feel like Steven’s smile at Anderson before he says it’s a gift to exist, was one of love and understanding.
My dad died in 1971 when I was 16 and what Stephen and Anderson were talking about was just so poignant and beautiful. Thank you for posting this video.
We lost our kind brilliant son to depression 5 years ago. I wanted some sort of indicator that this happened. Like the scar. This pain is so much worse than I ever imagined. Thank you for talking about it.
“You can’t pick and choose what you’re grateful for” oh gosh
Mind blown
Yes Megan, that got me! So many profound moment.
Beautiful conversation. One of my favorite moments was when they wished grief would show as a visible scar as they still think about their loved ones even forty plus years after they’ve passed. I lost my mother only four years ago, and there’s not a day I don’t think of her. Lately my thoughts are striving harder and harder to be more positive, thinking of her as an inspiration in wanting to honor her memory through everything I do to the best of my abilities. But there are still those days more often than not that my heart still breaks to the painful nostalgia of missing her. Those days I too wish the scar was visible just for someone to notice and give me the embrace I miss from her... 😢
shedskin01 your post was so beautiful! I’m so sorry for your loss.
Your post hit me in my heart. I lost my mom 22 years ago, and I'd give anything to have one more hug, one more conversation with her. It changed me when she died, much like Anderson said in this video. Anytime a friend complains about their mom, about how she's driving them crazy or is too meddlesome, I tell them never to take her for granted, because one day she'll be gone, and you'll be sorry you missed even one opportunity to just be loved by her. Hugs to you.
This week will be the 5 year without my father and my life is divided to a before and after. I live between grief and memory between wishing and missing. I feel my father with me in hundreds of ways but miss him always. I am really sorry for your loss. I hope you find some solace in knowing we all share the precious memories of our hearts with you now. Blessed be friend.
Honoring my parents and remembering my relationships with them keeps me going forward. They were both so damaged from their own childhoods, I can now find compassion and love for them. Keep breathing and keep going forward. We carry our scars deep in our hearts and souls. I know that I am a more compassionate person because of them.
My dad died when I was 7. I have never related to a conversation so much in my life.
I listened to this over my childhood pet and felt all the words the same. To whoever needs this, for what ever soul you are grieving, they are valid. You are valid. You are never alone.
“I had a friend who lost someone recently, who lost a child, and she said how did your mother do this? And I said I wish she was here to tell you”
God that hit me hard
I lost my only child 19 yrs ago. Intense grief sometimes still catches me and leaves me completely bereft .
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Grief is universal... I wish you well!
"I think you are exactly the person you were meant to be."
I was also 10 when my father died. Life was never the same. I don’t understand the “dislikes”.
It is a gift to exist. Thank you Stephen.
This was the most extraordinary interview I've ever seen. Ever.
Everyone should watch this.
I'll admit that I always disregarded Stephen Colbert because I disagreed with him politically, but I very recently found out that he is a Catholic, just like me. Then I watched this video, heard him talk about life and faith in a way I had never heard before, and crumbled. My grandmother died recently, so that was all I could think about as I listened to these two human beings-as real as you or me-talk about their own grief. Don't ever disregard another human being.
I'm so sorry for your loss. ❤️
I hope this left a lasting impression on you in regard to making assumptions about or demonizing people who you disagree with politically.
We all basically want the same things, we just have different ideas on how to get there. It is important for me to remember that. It's not as adversarial as we are sometimes made to believe. You'd be taken aback by how many things people on the left and right agree on. Don't let the few things that we disagree on divide us and tear us apart. This only works if we are united.
I just love it when Stephen pauses before expressing his thought. Imagine the processing of raw emotions, and expressing it beautifully...
My little sister died in front of me when I was three. It definitely changed who I was and affected me my whole childhood and my life.
I'm sorry.
Probably the 3rd time for me watching this in as many years.
Still such a real moving conversation.
People think sucking it up and being strong...is strength.
Nothing is braver than having the strength to talk about it.
These are two such brave men here.
I am 29 and Two days ago I found out I can never bear a child. I never really wanted one, never knew I did so I kind of silently processed it as a matter of fact.
But something just unraveled me through this interview. I am crying and I don't even know why. Can I grieve the loss of what I never had or will?
Yes you can. If you don’t grieve this, it’s bound to leave a hole in your heart. It’s a loss, yes.
I'm 71 years old and still struggle over things I'll never have in my life. But the recognition, through some form of grief, of those voids and the way they shape my world helps me avoid falling down those rabbit holes. The loss of potential is a real thing and when doors close to experiences, we either learn to accept or try to find acceptable substitutes. Putting that kind of loss in perspective allows us to recalculate and plan our path based in honesty. Go with it, pass through it and keep moving on.
Absolutely. Because now the choice is not yours. Be well ❤️
Ofcourse.Loss is loss no matter what.
Yes. You are entitled to grief.
When you have a gang of siblings, the names come out of you like a poem or a song
naturalcollegiate Always
I wish Anderson and Stephen would read the comments. So many beautiful people telling their own stories.
You never know. They might be.
There is no timeline and you both experienced it very young and then older. I was blessed to be older. My dad has been gone now 18 years which blows my mind and I still cry and miss him when like Stephen says a song or something hits a memory. My mom has been gone now 6 years. I just turned 59 but when you lose people you love it is painful but it also teaches you what is important
Woaw! What a moment! I lost my father at the age of 16 in 1978 and he was only 52 (I’m already older than him when he died) and I still measure events as before or after he died. My mother was much younger, though, and she’s still very active at 77 today thankfully. This interview was eye watering. Thank you both for that.
Those 25 seconds between 13:00 and 13:25 were some of the most heartbreaking, sincere, raw moments I've seen captured on video.
Thank you both for your honesty, your humanity, and your courage.
Can we please let these guys run this country already?
I love how stephen talks about religion. Im atheist but I love it. Hes smarter then many people know. I love his LOTR quotes aswell
WOW!!! I am blown away with this conversation.