Signs He's Emotionally Attracted To You (Not Just Physically)

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  • @tracisyhong
    @tracisyhong Před 4 lety +6942

    The best way to get a man interested in you is to not care if he is interested in you or not. Lol. The less you care, the more they want you to care

    • @tishaw.8254
      @tishaw.8254 Před 4 lety +278

      Girl. Exactly.

    • @NyNativeTv
      @NyNativeTv Před 4 lety +245

      I've just learned this. And it's working right now in my life!

    • @eramnadeem1573
      @eramnadeem1573 Před 4 lety +49

      True that

    • @inferno3080
      @inferno3080 Před 4 lety +259

      No wrong the less you care the more I don't care. 2 can play that game.

    • @alyssanering7454
      @alyssanering7454 Před 4 lety +252

      Cameron Vogt That’s why girls are always pining after the guys and not the other way around because she shows emotion and he shows none whatsoever which makes her want him more. If he knows she’s always an option, he’s never gonna want her. But good for you, if you don’t care, awesome. She’ll find someone that does🥰

  • @gimusaobwongo7231
    @gimusaobwongo7231 Před 4 lety +2459

    Ladies you can't attract an emotionally unavailable immature jerk man. Period...

    • @cathybaldry7822
      @cathybaldry7822 Před 4 lety +30

      Yes you can for just a good time you can find plenty of them

    • @oliviavasilissa6856
      @oliviavasilissa6856 Před 4 lety +17

      Yes girls can attack an emotionally man but the problem is immature and has own beliefs because of his religion and tradition.

    • @cherish.o.m4453
      @cherish.o.m4453 Před 4 lety +13

      Just ignore them.

    • @ladennayoung2939
      @ladennayoung2939 Před 4 lety +31

      I mean you have to pay attention to signs. You have to pay attention to who a person is, and be willing to walk away if need be.

    • @gimusaobwongo7231
      @gimusaobwongo7231 Před 4 lety +17

      @@ladennayoung2939 yes, all the signs of an emotionally unavailable man. Run, Run, and Run..

  • @thetruepuresoul
    @thetruepuresoul Před 4 lety +3843

    “Do not be too sexy” some of us just can’t help it sheesh 😂😆

  • @heyu123
    @heyu123 Před 11 měsíci +61

    "Why would a great and passionate relationship ever come as a free gift, no effort required?" that's so profound!

  • @kendrajai
    @kendrajai Před 4 lety +2928

    A good way to have a man emotionally attracted to you is to know how to feel your feelings and just BE, instead of always DOING.... Just being puts you in your femininity... Doing is more masculine. Just be you & things will happen from there. *BTW... most men open up to a woman he feels safe and secure with/around . Speak from the heart, be your true authentic self 👌🏾

  • @Beautytrends77
    @Beautytrends77 Před 3 lety +1768

    This guy is right, getting physical too soon is not going to get a guy to fall in love with you. I just met a guy and he says he wants to take things slow. We even slept in the same bed with no sex. Getting to know him outside of sex allows you to build a bond without lust. I don’t know where it’s going to go but I do know that if anything we will be friends because he actually out of all the guys I was with didn’t try to get in my pants right away!! It’s called respect.

    • @NoNakersAllowed
      @NoNakersAllowed Před 3 lety +49

      Yea he probably has a chick he's having sex with, that's why he can take things slow with you. I was that chick to a guy for years 😢 never again

    • @Beautytrends77
      @Beautytrends77 Před 3 lety +56

      @@NoNakersAllowed nah there isn’t another chick, I know that for a fact. Me and him didn’t work out but I’m ok with it, he had a dick issue not another chick.

    • @fancylyrics.
      @fancylyrics. Před 3 lety +11

      @@NoNakersAllowed ohh sorry to hear that 🥺 How did you know that there's other woman and he's only using you for sex..??..

    • @robynalvin6319
      @robynalvin6319 Před 3 lety +33

      Wise woman. This love coach dispenses a lot of great wisdom. I love reading the comments because so many girls, and I call them girls on purpose, are so immature, they learn nothing yet have so much to say.

    • @NoNakersAllowed
      @NoNakersAllowed Před 3 lety +24

      @@fancylyrics. he said he didn't want to be in a relationship but then months later he was in a relationship with someone else.

  • @gigilamoore2656
    @gigilamoore2656 Před 4 lety +1416

    Just be yourself. I met a great guy in December 2019. From the moment we met, it just clicked. There has not been a day that we have not talked on the phone and we regularly text. We sleep over 4 nights a week. 2 at my house, 2 at his house. It just works. I have been able to tell this man about my hair pulling issue, he regularly sees a part of my body that I am uncomfortable with due to a past surgery and he accepts me. I think it is because I accept me. Before Covid, we regularly went out on dates and even now, we do hiking and home movie dates and either pick up food or cook for each other. There is nothing to do other than set your standards and be yourself. The right person will gravitate towards that and you don't have to play games to make it so.

  • @bl1506
    @bl1506 Před 2 lety +108

    Remember this ladies-when a man ignores you and ghosts you, his interest level for was low or nonexistent so it meant nothing to him to lose you. If a man thinks you are so worthless that he will let you go that easily, don’t waste your tears.

    • @KayCee45617
      @KayCee45617 Před 10 měsíci +2

      Yes!! So well put. Thank you!

  • @heavenawaits8010
    @heavenawaits8010 Před 4 lety +1777

    I'm soo over trying to protect a mans ego. Too many men are very fragile, and one wrong word can feel like you're walking on eggshells when you're around them. I grew up with 3 brothers, grow a pair dudes!

  • @ashassassin
    @ashassassin Před 4 lety +773

    I'm not sure why I'm here. men get emotionally attached fast, they're really not use to being listened to or getting emotional support. so when it's offered, they automatically assume it is romantic. I hope men can start making Their own support systems soon.

    • @Twinkie989
      @Twinkie989 Před 4 lety +36

      I’ve also experienced this. I’m one of the guys until they announce we are soulmates. Just no.

    • @jenna_maria
      @jenna_maria Před 3 lety +64

      This happens alllll the time, I hope one day these guys will realize that times have changed and they now can talk about emotions with their guy pals too... female friends aren’t free therapists

    • @jackofferman3762
      @jackofferman3762 Před 3 lety +14

      @@jenna_maria Thats what i keep telling those single moms at work, im not their therapist.

    • @teganmarie2724
      @teganmarie2724 Před 3 lety +22

      THIS !!! i just want a guy friend but they all catch feelings or think i'm romantically interested if i so much as try to get to know them as people.. ugh

    • @1Skorpia
      @1Skorpia Před 3 lety +22

      That's the problem- I just got rid if a guy who wanted to be friends with benefits!! I was a crutch! He wanted to use me for sex and be a therapist. Don't fall for it ladies!!

  • @1Skorpia
    @1Skorpia Před 3 lety +209

    I had a guy become emotionally attracted to me and i knew he already wanted me physically. The problem is - he wanted to be friends with benefits. When it dawned on me he wanted to use me FOR THAT and didn't want any kind of serious relationship as much as it hurt me I cut him off. So be careful not to be some guys crutch! You will waste your time thinking he will make a move and ask you out- if he doesn't RUN!! Gaurd your heart.

    • @zazuzazz5419
      @zazuzazz5419 Před 3 lety +23

      Oh yes... Even mild-mannered nice guys will try this one on. The emotional connection can be sweet. And it’s real. But if he doesn’t intend to reciprocate the affection and support you offer him - it’s a no go. Confront him. And yes, I agree, Skorpia g... Guard your heart.

    • @taniatoor4523
      @taniatoor4523 Před 2 lety +4

      True

    • @sofiehoflack2706
      @sofiehoflack2706 Před 2 lety +3

      Love yo walk n talk🌸🚶‍♀️

    • @mirimercy975
      @mirimercy975 Před 2 lety +1

      I agree 💯

    • @joaanyu1479
      @joaanyu1479 Před rokem +17

      Thats bad of him. He was not emotionally attracted . He was sexually attracted.

  • @anonymouswoman2060
    @anonymouswoman2060 Před 4 lety +1674

    I am a married woman but I still love to watch these videos. 💕

    • @marthaoctavia6493
      @marthaoctavia6493 Před 4 lety +86

      I'm in a relationship too and I like to still learn this kind of things. Meaning we're open to learn 🤗

    • @kewalpatil
      @kewalpatil Před 4 lety +61

      I'm a guy and I still love to watch these video 😝

    • @nadakhairy
      @nadakhairy Před 4 lety +21

      I am also Married still need to learn this videos

    • @lilavslola
      @lilavslola Před 3 lety +42

      Deep down you want to find signs of validation that your significant other is emotionally attracted to you🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @jnfqt
      @jnfqt Před 3 lety +21

      thats why your still married ☺️

  • @ammary4456
    @ammary4456 Před 4 lety +399

    Emotional attraction can only achieve by being true to your feelings and if the feelings are reciprocate in the same vibe .

  • @helentew6393
    @helentew6393 Před 2 lety +130

    The man I have recently met told me that he has waited for me for a year and a half. He said it was well with the wait. He is a very caring man. We both have boundaries that we keep to and have respect for. I built walls to protect myself but when we are together I feel so comfortable around him. The walls just melted away. I never thought it would happen because of my age. I'm a young minded 63 year old and he is 53 I've never been so happy.

    • @ensabadjie2912
      @ensabadjie2912 Před 2 lety

      At 63 you're calling yourself young. Only an old man will want an affair with you

    • @helentew6393
      @helentew6393 Před 2 lety +14

      @@ensabadjie2912 I call myself young at heart and mind.Thank you for taking the time to make a comment even though it's not a very nice one.

    • @helentew6393
      @helentew6393 Před 2 lety +13

      @@ensabadjie2912 63 isn't that old it's your perspective to age and the mind, it's a little off balance, I wish you joy in your life, love and light to you

    • @lizp5449
      @lizp5449 Před 2 lety +10

      I can't tell you how happy I am for the both of you!

    • @Jouneythroughthislife
      @Jouneythroughthislife Před rokem +7

      Happy for you

  • @smack7589
    @smack7589 Před 2 lety +140

    Be unapologetically yourself! Be clear about what you want! Be a lady about it! I agree, except in my current experience I hooked up with him on the first day and stayed over 😄 I was being unapologetically myself because I initiated. We’re both sexual people so there’s no taboo there for us. A year later, we’re still having an amazing relationship, there’s loyalty, trust and respect because of honesty and transparency 💖 show him who you really are, and if he truly wants it, he’ll make himself a part of your life

  • @gabrielamartinyuk9894
    @gabrielamartinyuk9894 Před 3 lety +317

    Being physically attractive is just as important as being emotionally attractive , although, emotional attractiveness is a necessity for a long lasting relationship to even exist. Being tidy , being clean and having good higeine are crucial . Both work together. Emotional attraction is long lasting and grows more and more. Physical attraction does dissipate , that’s why being emotionally attractive is key alongside to the physical.

  • @uqjoon
    @uqjoon Před 3 lety +102

    I like how Brian stressed the importance for us women to just be ourselves for the right person, and not just to attract any men

  • @crzellmer
    @crzellmer Před 3 lety +561

    The title of this video is super misleading.
    I don't need advice on how to get him emotionally attracted to me.
    I want to know the signs that he's emotionally attracted...

    • @giftedvoices533
      @giftedvoices533 Před 3 lety +40

      Skip to 8:00

    • @Fair331
      @Fair331 Před 3 lety +50

      Emotionally attracted when he wants to know everything about you, what your likes/dislikes are, what drives you, how passionate you are about something(maybe his personal favourite things like football or skating or shoes or so) , what values you have, also when he remembers small details about you what you said what you did and so on. Basically he is serious he is taking notes how you will be as a future wife for his children. Also anotger note men who are looking for serious relationship don't like women who are too sexy or have many suiters. It's more like with toffies. If they are in a good wrapper and it fells on the ground, you'll pick it up and eat it but if it is unwrapped and fells on the ground you might pick it up and throw it away but you wouldn't eat it. You can think of the wrapper as clothes that are not too revealing. Then they can explore the personality first like 50% white chocolate 50% dark or so. I hope you get my point.

    • @amadeodgiorgio2
      @amadeodgiorgio2 Před 3 lety +7

      3:14 you're welcome

    • @thecourageousorange
      @thecourageousorange Před 3 lety +3

      maybe watch the whole video before commenting. or maybe pay more attention to the video. then your comment doesn't stand

    • @SonyaKhanOfficial
      @SonyaKhanOfficial Před 3 lety

      @@giftedvoices533 Thank you!!!

  • @gabrielaburcea5734
    @gabrielaburcea5734 Před 3 lety +392

    The only guys who ever really loved me just loved me the way i am without me making any effort to make them like me. I always spoke my mind with them, never teased or flirted, dressed in comfy clothes, looking and being very natural as i always am. You only have to put in the effort when the guy can't and will never love you. And for what?! They're not worth it!

    • @andressavefo
      @andressavefo Před 2 lety +26

      THIS!!!!!!!! Your comment is perfect. Seriously, this video is bullsh*t. I feel bad for all the women who keep trying so hard... The best relationships are the easy and simple ones. If it takes away your energy, it's definitely not worth it. Period.

    • @sanskritibarman4928
      @sanskritibarman4928 Před 2 lety +1

      I can totally relate

    • @sujithapriyask4551
      @sujithapriyask4551 Před 2 lety +3

      You hit the nail on the head !

    • @alinavasile1036
      @alinavasile1036 Před 2 lety

      @Gabriela Brucea

    • @alinavasile1036
      @alinavasile1036 Před 2 lety

      So true

  • @celissewillis9399
    @celissewillis9399 Před 4 lety +214

    I opened up to a special guy I’ve known for 4 years & he messaged me & said that he respected me for pouring out my feelings. So yes, vulnerability works. If it pushes people away, let it. But being true to yourSelf only benefits you, as well as anyone involved & people will respect you for it.

    • @terrylasin3709
      @terrylasin3709 Před rokem +1

      Like your spirit
      Are you a beach person or a mountain person ?

    • @kedzie8
      @kedzie8 Před rokem +7

      "Vulnerability works. If it pushes people away, let it"
      Very wise words! I wish I had known this in my 20s.

    • @smileagain4333
      @smileagain4333 Před rokem +3

      @@terrylasin3709 what is this?

  • @jessicacakuls3189
    @jessicacakuls3189 Před 4 lety +266

    So the take away here is, if you’re only concerned about being unapologetically you and literally do not GAF about being “liked”, you’ll end up capturing hearts and minds. But if you go seeking being liked, you’ll fail. 😎👌✨ Thank you for your videos and for caring enough about women to educate them on your gender.

    • @nataliatothemoon
      @nataliatothemoon Před 4 lety +2

      Jessica Cakuls periodt

    • @leannecurtis1582
      @leannecurtis1582 Před 2 lety +1

      Pretty much ☺️

    • @ciggytwiggy
      @ciggytwiggy Před rokem +1

      Truee

    • @Bel-gu7yg
      @Bel-gu7yg Před rokem +4

      This is so true though. I have this attitude after high-school where I literally DGAF what others think of me anymore cause its way too tiring to please people. Then, as I started losing people, I wasn't even offended in the slightest nor hurt. The best way to know your kind is by being YOU all the time. Who would catch bullets for you will always remaaaaaain💕 28 this year and these people who stayed with me always empower me lol

  • @duenadil1471
    @duenadil1471 Před 4 lety +416

    Verbatim 6:55 "a huge part of the self esteem comes from accepting ours flaws, ours imperfections and be unapologetic about that" and also "Self esteem creates emotional attraction " wow ! What an awakeness for me ! Thanks 🙏 🌈❤

  • @Ashtarot77
    @Ashtarot77 Před 4 měsíci +10

    Met my last bf online and I was the one who suggested we meet up after two weeks of texting and calls. They tend to refer to this as being in your masculine energy these days, which I don't see anything wrong with, especially if the guy is shy. Well then you shouldn't be chasing someone with no confidence. I will chase who I damn well please. Confidence comes over time for some people. Not everyone is born an extrovert. And because of this, many women miss out on getting to know a great guy.

  • @Hawelufamily
    @Hawelufamily Před 4 lety +271

    Unfortunately, some affairs start from emotional attraction. It’s a real thing. And it leads to physical cheating. This is not to be discounted.

    • @Not-Ap
      @Not-Ap Před 4 lety +51

      Right on! Emotional cheating is just as bad physical cheating because either way it's violation of trust and respect.

    • @darlenemcnealy6306
      @darlenemcnealy6306 Před 4 lety +7

      It is...and does. 😒

    • @danielleevers2021
      @danielleevers2021 Před 4 lety +17

      I’m pretty sure he’s talking to the women who are looking for a man. If you’re taking his advice to look for another man, when you already have one, that’s on you not him.

    • @michaelao9672
      @michaelao9672 Před 3 lety +3

      My problem right now 🙄

    • @hulkgreen6786
      @hulkgreen6786 Před 3 lety

      You sound like a victim

  • @gen9341
    @gen9341 Před 4 lety +350

    When you meet a perfect right man for you, everything flows naturally. Us, women, will be as ourselves and true to our selves and the right man just accept you , include your weaknesses and your strengths. The right man will love your weaknesses and make your strengths even stronger. That is a True Man’s Love. Been there, but unfortunately, the nature has Taken Him Away. Blessed His Soul and May He Rest In Peace.
    I believe there is only one True love experience in this lifetime... I am not being close hearted, Coming from an experience of Being Loved Dearly, it is not Easy To Forget. So, whoever has it experiencing it now, Make the Best of it. Be grateful for the Love and Gifts of Being Love and In return Love Back to the person. Peace ✌️!
    So, women, We just have to ourselves and enhance to be Better and Be progressive, But Don't Pretend to be someone who you are not!

    • @blessingsbest6838
      @blessingsbest6838 Před 4 lety

      Gen very true x

    • @Sindi63084
      @Sindi63084 Před 3 lety +2

      Out of 8 billion people how do you meet that perfect one for you? I don't believe that can happen but work with what you get

    • @dee2022uk
      @dee2022uk Před rokem

    • @sandratjazerua5583
      @sandratjazerua5583 Před 9 měsíci

      Thanks much. My new relationship seems to be flowing naturally, less effort. Everything so peaceful and perfect. I'm grateful🙏

  • @marylynn259
    @marylynn259 Před 2 lety +50

    Loved this. Especially the part about self esteem and being who we are. Great, thank you!

  • @LW-wg4ny
    @LW-wg4ny Před rokem +80

    I was looking for the reason my 3 month relationship ended and here it is! There was incredible chemistry with the man I was with, but very little emotional intimacy. I thought since he was so attracted to me that the rest would follow but it never did, now I know why. Wish I knew to slow things down physically and give the emotional a chance to develop. Another lesson learned the hard way!

    • @Laura-Yu
      @Laura-Yu Před rokem +14

      Funny how I’m in a similar boat with breaking off a 3 month relationship but I did keep a distance on being physically intimate. No sex, just kisses and cuddles. Dude was more interested in my virginity than anything else, which is extremely off putting.

  • @moondragon3753
    @moondragon3753 Před 3 lety +175

    I met my current bf on tinder and we met in person at 1am at my apartment. I wore my pj pants with a baggy tshirt and semi brushed hair. We talked till 5am in the morning. We've been together for 3 years

    • @starr613
      @starr613 Před 2 lety +58

      Uh what. That sounds like the most unsafe terrifying shit ever lolol congrats ur alive

    • @liveandletlive9333
      @liveandletlive9333 Před 2 lety +7

      Is this something you are proud of? Posting on here?

    • @animavestra6460
      @animavestra6460 Před 2 lety +1

      Awww

    • @ange1lic
      @ange1lic Před rokem +1

      are u guys still together

  • @Cecilia-zx8ok
    @Cecilia-zx8ok Před 2 lety +50

    I agree with you. It is the emotional attraction. Physical looks diminishes but emotional attraction has value and respect. It is a nice feeling when the person loves and cares for you for being who you are

    • @terrylasin3709
      @terrylasin3709 Před rokem

      I love your spirit,
      Are you a beach person or a mountain person ?

    • @Cecilia-zx8ok
      @Cecilia-zx8ok Před rokem +1

      @@terrylasin3709 beach with greenery and beautiful mountain view☺️

    • @terrylasin3709
      @terrylasin3709 Před rokem +1

      @@Cecilia-zx8ok Same here. I am currently residing close to the beach and the sunset and sunrise view is eccentric

    • @terrylasin3709
      @terrylasin3709 Před rokem

      @@Cecilia-zx8ok If given the opportunity, where would be your destination for vacation?

  • @amirasafwat7101
    @amirasafwat7101 Před 4 lety +39

    You are the first channel about relationships that talks about wisdom and beyond all the logic stuff, I also like that you get into the point first and then introduce yourself later.

  • @TrangTrang-lu1wu
    @TrangTrang-lu1wu Před 3 lety +55

    It is much more realistic to become ourselves, BE YOU. Because I think we all want a person who accepts us, says YES with our true beauty, emotionally loves us, not kind of 'DOING THINGS' to make him emotionally attracted. In all, it is not necessary to create chemistry with our true person as we all have, in a natural way, special emotion with the one we truly love

    • @terrylasin3709
      @terrylasin3709 Před rokem

      I think am just gonna let you know how I feel .
      Are you a beach person or a mountain person ?

  • @nickysmith5808
    @nickysmith5808 Před 4 lety +38

    Thank you Brian! It helps to hear a man's perspective about signs of emotional attachment. Since we generally do not think of men as emotional as us, being attached may just get overlooked..

  • @Nadi.Khanum
    @Nadi.Khanum Před 3 lety +42

    I was emotionally and physically attracted to him and he made me friend and said that I will always be a friend for him ☹ I stopped trying to creating the spark in the relationship

  • @namespace5227
    @namespace5227 Před 4 lety +27

    Thank you. Please upload more videos. Every video of yours has a key which enlighten situations. Your Amazing!

  • @vvivianw
    @vvivianw Před 4 lety +381

    Man just so complicate. Can i just go supermarket and buy one?

    • @rhsb553
      @rhsb553 Před 3 lety +16

      YES!
      Or, we could shop for one on Amazon, including Filter & Sort, for personalization/customization.

    • @vvivianw
      @vvivianw Před 3 lety +4

      @@rhsb553 hahahha, send me link 😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @mannmoon2465
      @mannmoon2465 Před 3 lety +2

      Yeah it's called tinder

    • @vvivianw
      @vvivianw Před 3 lety +2

      @@mannmoon2465 hahha , Tinder is the "Supermarket"

    • @mannmoon2465
      @mannmoon2465 Před 3 lety +1

      @@vvivianw correct.

  • @franklyscar7959
    @franklyscar7959 Před 4 lety +117

    This is so true. You don’t realize it until it happens to you and you come across a man who is totally invested in you...not just your body.

    • @goodenoughgirl8102
      @goodenoughgirl8102 Před 3 lety +4

      FranklyScar Yes please. Lol. Thanks for that. It gives me hope. 😅😂

    • @gouthamnanda8930
      @gouthamnanda8930 Před 3 lety

      I am totally fuckedup emotionally 😭😭😭, i can't able to leave her

    • @rachel14rod
      @rachel14rod Před 3 lety +1

      @@gouthamnanda8930 if you're being abused, please leave.abuse has long term effects.

  • @CourtneyLICI0US
    @CourtneyLICI0US Před 3 lety +286

    I’ve been hearing a lot recently that the man has to love the woman more than she does. I thought it should be equal but I’m beginning to think it’s true. Seem to see those relationships working more

    • @MegDD3912
      @MegDD3912 Před 3 lety +17

      I've been thinking the same thing

    • @Iden_Elihio_1999
      @Iden_Elihio_1999 Před 3 lety +1

      How so?

    • @reginawoess4928
      @reginawoess4928 Před 3 lety +9

      I agree that would help if he loves u more than you do him

    • @Iden_Elihio_1999
      @Iden_Elihio_1999 Před 3 lety

      @@reginawoess4928 How ?

    • @reginawoess4928
      @reginawoess4928 Před 3 lety +31

      If they feel that they love you more than you do them then they will really be trying to show you they love you and in away you are a challenge to them which they like

  • @travelfoodielove
    @travelfoodielove Před 4 lety +9

    We miss you Brian! Your advice is all golden

  • @yukik7949
    @yukik7949 Před 3 lety +118

    I think I've just realised my problem, I'm just too sexy for men xD

  • @promiserigsby3212
    @promiserigsby3212 Před 2 lety +16

    He tells me straight up, he’s emotionally attacked to me. He tells me all the time that he wants to marry me. We pray together, attend church, we do it online due to him traveling for work. Your so on point.

  • @ng_rainbow
    @ng_rainbow Před 4 lety +90

    Brian I'm very grateful to you for your video lessons for us. You're the best for me. You touch so complicated issues but explain them in so simple understandable way. And with a good sense of humor. I feel support from you and I feel sincerity from you (that you put your soul into this lectures). Thank you ♡

  • @ivandracavalcanti9714
    @ivandracavalcanti9714 Před 4 lety +14

    I just want to say that I really appreciate you and your videos . Thank you

  • @Rhiannon_Rose
    @Rhiannon_Rose Před 4 lety +16

    Your videos have a lot of value to me, Brian. Thank you for creating and sharing them. I so appreciate you!!

  • @maracruz2943
    @maracruz2943 Před 3 lety +3

    Your voice is so relaxing. Thank you for all the talks! More power.

  • @kimhandley1523
    @kimhandley1523 Před 2 lety +60

    When I'm solo, I'm so confident and I don't really care about looks.
    As soon as I'm with somebody romantically, I have these huge ups and downs with regards to self esteem. It is usually associated with my menstrual cycle, for example: the time running up to and during ovulation, I'm absolutely confident, glowing and attractive. Two weeks before my period (whereas if I was single, I wouldn't care about what I look like too much) I feel so ugly and my self esteem and confidence plummets. It is so uncomfortable as I shut down and I literally become so weird. Low self esteem is shit! I know that it is confidence that is attractive mostly in a person. I despise having low self esteem. I see it as weak, ugly and a turn off and so maybe that is why I hate myself when it comes along. I had these thoughts, that when the guy that I was previously dating was looking at me, he was looking at how ugly I am etc. This was all fear based and self destruction from low self esteem. I'd like to know how to fix it.

    • @Emiljane
      @Emiljane Před 2 lety +5

      Read the book ‘Women who love too much’ , might help …

    • @YouCantHandleDisz
      @YouCantHandleDisz Před rokem +1

      WOOWWWWW YOU DESCRIBED MEEEEE😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 GIRL I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE I WONDER WHAT THE BIOLOGICAL MEANING IS BEHIND US FEELING THIS WAY JUST BEFORE OUR PERIODS?????

    • @kimhandley1523
      @kimhandley1523 Před rokem +1

      @@YouCantHandleDisz vile isn't it x

    • @xodancerxo
      @xodancerxo Před rokem +1

      Same here!!!

  • @earth777life4
    @earth777life4 Před 4 lety +3

    I am sooo glad I stumbled a cross your videos, you have no idea how much you have helped me heal... I am addicted to your videos.. Thank you🌞

  • @ingridprendas
    @ingridprendas Před 2 lety +8

    Your voice is so beautiful, shows a calm soul.

  • @duenadil1471
    @duenadil1471 Před 4 lety +17

    Thank you Brian ! Your ideas are so brillant and your humour so nice !
    Please, let us have subtitles on CZcams, even if it's automatic. It's easyer to share your video ! 😉 Bisous from Paris 😘

  • @TFireWolf
    @TFireWolf Před 4 lety +46

    Thank you Brian. Your heart felt wisdom is so refreshing.

  • @niloofarjazayeri972
    @niloofarjazayeri972 Před 4 lety +8

    I truly attracted to your mindset, thanks for sharing this video with us.

  • @nataliatothemoon
    @nataliatothemoon Před 4 lety +1

    Thank you for making this video, the way you talk is so beautiful and eloquent and very smooth to process. Also you convey to show and not to force these values and principles that are so crucial to our daily lives and personal happiness.

  • @olgasaenz7430
    @olgasaenz7430 Před 4 lety +6

    I loved this video- my man does many of these emotional connections - I feel special.

  • @hjtres7261
    @hjtres7261 Před 3 lety +20

    I think the guy who's pursuing me right now is emotionally attracted to me.

  • @lostsoul6760
    @lostsoul6760 Před 3 lety +21

    This is so wholesome. Happy to know that emotional attraction is also important. 😊💜

  • @bachba1086
    @bachba1086 Před 4 lety +1

    That was honestly very useful! Thanks.

  • @domeniquedelafield1278
    @domeniquedelafield1278 Před rokem +1

    Blessings Brian and everyone for 2023🎊🎊🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @renemartz1520
    @renemartz1520 Před 3 lety +6

    Just started watching a few of your videos. I really like your advice and how you explain things. You seem very kind and genuine, which I appreciate. So I'm a subscriber now. Thank you for your contribution to helping women to understand men. Love these videos! ❤😊

  • @georgiaedwards3637
    @georgiaedwards3637 Před 4 lety +4

    Your observation skill towards these attraction thing is good and your words of wisdom is on parr

  • @epiphanysoundz1051
    @epiphanysoundz1051 Před rokem

    I love your vibe and your real name! There is something so soothing about it and sincere. Keep up the good work.

  • @shani19871
    @shani19871 Před 4 lety +10

    Im really glad i found ur video,u funny, explain very clear things i needed thanks🙏

  • @zaanboshoff7021
    @zaanboshoff7021 Před 4 lety +9

    At night when I can’t sleep and really need to, I just listen to you, does the trick all the time. ❤️

  • @bingbing2579
    @bingbing2579 Před 4 lety +10

    Thanks for this beautiful message 😍😍😍

  • @roohikazi9528
    @roohikazi9528 Před 4 lety

    Well explained and informative. Going to read your books next.

  • @angelwhispers1111
    @angelwhispers1111 Před 3 lety +2

    I love this magic sparkle in the early steps of relationship!!! Thank you a lot😉♥️😚

  • @rociodelafe9929
    @rociodelafe9929 Před 4 lety +453

    Ok, I’m tired of ppl saying “don’t be too sexy too soon” what does that even mean???? I can’t help the way I look lol

    • @astgoddess
      @astgoddess Před 4 lety +33

      Right lol. I can wear a sweater and dress pants and low heeled boots. He is still attracted.

    • @fireeye33
      @fireeye33 Před 4 lety +38

      Rocio De La Fe just be elegant and classy. That kind of sexy is not cheap

    • @tomlambert915
      @tomlambert915 Před 4 lety +28

      you can Iook sexy and still take time to build a strong foundation. it is your choice to respect yourself.

    • @tomlambert915
      @tomlambert915 Před 4 lety +12

      @@astgoddess nothing wrong with being attractive, take time to know the man's character. don't be in a hurry.

    • @MsHydrolove
      @MsHydrolove Před 4 lety +13

      To be honest: Just be yourself :D The right person will see you for who you are :)

  • @raularmas317
    @raularmas317 Před 2 lety +27

    Actually I am an outlier. I prefer stability over novelty in my potential love interest.
    Newness or "the tingles" as I now like to call them usually last only 3-6 months, after which there continues to be interest or it stops.
    At which point I am stuck having to restart the relationship process all over again-- not a fun scenario anymore.
    I find an emotionally and mentally stable person far easier to deal/bargain with and their responses to differing situations much more predictable.
    This fosters a sense of inner calm and quiet trust within me.
    And that, I have found, is a far more comforting feeling long term than any amount of tingles or butterflies, nes pas?

  • @imeldadawang3433
    @imeldadawang3433 Před 4 lety

    You are so brilliant, keep up the good work, you're helping many people....

  • @irinipilos2976
    @irinipilos2976 Před měsícem

    I really liked your video. You explain the situations really good, clearly and also the difference between each one is really important to be understood and accepted. Thank you!

  • @SherrysReviewsandResearch
    @SherrysReviewsandResearch Před 4 lety +11

    Great advice. You should do a video on 10 date ideas.

  • @a.b.2850
    @a.b.2850 Před 4 lety +121

    That might apply with younger man.. but with older man, more mature and aware that we're both adults, maybe less..
    When I met, for the first time on our first date, my actual boyfriend (we're 1 year in), we connected through an app and the same evening he asked me out. So we met at a restaurant, had 1 drink, and then we went for a walk. We started kissing, and after a few minutes, I asked him if we could go to his place.. and we had sex. I didn't really care at that point if I would see him again (I'm 40, I'm passed fairytales.. if I want to sleep with someone, I do).. but he continued to text me the following days (and he ended up being super cute, very sweet and considerate so I ended up wanting to see him again.. maybe it was a one night thing after all!) , and later on I asked him what he had thought of me the first night, when I asked him to sleep with me on our first date.. he told me he didn't think much of it, but he appreciated that I didn't play games with him, that I knew what I wanted and wasn't scared of going for it, he appreciated that I like sex and that I believe sex is very important in a relationship.. and he was born and raised by very practicing muslim parents.
    1 year later, we're still together, going strong, growing together, and we have an amazing and fulfilling sex life 😉😊 I think that by sleeping with him like I did (I did because I wanted to, and not for any other reason), the next morning, I wasn't expecting to hear from him and I was aware of that and was ok with it at that point.. so when I did, I knew he was talking to me because he was after something else, it wasn't just to bang me, he had already done it! He wanted to see me again because he was legitimately interested in ME.
    Today, he's my best friend, my partner, my lover, and the person I trust the most on earth ❤️

    • @aeiou0123
      @aeiou0123 Před rokem +1

      I think it worked because you both had an emotional connection but you were also fine if you never heard from him again. You had no attachment to the sex. You just wanted
      To hv a good time

  • @sohinibiswas5478
    @sohinibiswas5478 Před 2 lety

    Given vital inputs. Liked the simple way to explain things. Thanks!

  • @bettywinn8296
    @bettywinn8296 Před rokem +1

    You, Heath, are amazing. I have just been learning about physical attraction vs emotional attraction, the way men look at this.

  • @rrmehboob
    @rrmehboob Před 4 lety +73

    The moment I realised I lost the love of my life was when he stopped being emotionally attracted to me anymore. He stopped respecting and valuing me, and it know it’s just physical for him now. And he’s told me multiple times. Yes, these two (emotional/physical) are connected, so I’m not sure how much time we have left together anymore. I wished it was different.

    • @AimeeStClaire63
      @AimeeStClaire63 Před 4 lety +18

      I’m sorry honey 😩

    • @lynninfinite
      @lynninfinite Před 4 lety +52

      Wow. He told you it’s just physical? I would leave now. If he doesn’t respect you, there’s no point.

    • @jasmineariatakiri1308
      @jasmineariatakiri1308 Před 4 lety +15

      Try 30 day no contact

    • @sharinastar5456
      @sharinastar5456 Před 4 lety +5

      Jasmine Ariata Kiri 👆🏾👆🏾👆🏾 yes!!! And just focus on getting in touch with your femininity

    • @NA_LE_DI
      @NA_LE_DI Před 3 lety +30

      I would have left immediately after he said it's just physical. Boy bye!

  • @auberjean6873
    @auberjean6873 Před rokem +3

    My jaw is on the floor...everything you said is exactly what I've wanted to hear, and everything you are saying is correct. Thanks for the friendly reminder about keeping things interesting.

  • @michellemckinney4678
    @michellemckinney4678 Před 4 lety

    Great tips. Needed to hear this. Thank you

  • @Amandagirl73
    @Amandagirl73 Před 3 lety

    Thank you, I thoroughly enjoyed your tips & delivery. 🙏🏼

  • @camillatruquesdebeleza7086
    @camillatruquesdebeleza7086 Před 4 lety +13

    You produce amazing content. Thank you so much.

  • @jaimeblakely3884
    @jaimeblakely3884 Před 3 lety +21

    Yeah, you give real accessible advice. I'm scared of the coaches who are basically teaching manipulation techniques. I can relate to this, and it feels honest. Thanks!

  • @omajewel6261
    @omajewel6261 Před 3 lety +1

    Try to let go if who you think you should be and be who you are... this set me free tonight 🔥

  • @deetran5085
    @deetran5085 Před 4 lety +2

    Brian, you are amazing coach!

  • @whiggygirl
    @whiggygirl Před 4 lety +3

    Excellent video! Thank you

  • @TheRichSolution
    @TheRichSolution Před 4 lety +43

    Thanks for sharing this. He's just not into you.

  • @ParisBrockington
    @ParisBrockington Před 3 lety

    This advice is on POINT!! 🙌🏻👍🏼💯

  • @daniellescicchitano7542
    @daniellescicchitano7542 Před 4 lety +2

    thanks for the advices. I really enjoy your videos

  • @lifeofrescues9928
    @lifeofrescues9928 Před 4 lety +62

    My man is like this. Really on point. And I love him so much. He never stopped texting me and praising me when we are together. :) He respects me as I respect him

  • @michaellanassar5636
    @michaellanassar5636 Před 4 lety +16

    I love how you make your videos so interesting in a way that I can't help but watch it till the end. Thank you for your help !!

    • @likeabook6666
      @likeabook6666 Před 4 lety +2

      They way he talks makes it much more entertaining. It’s like he sings when he talks. He uses high and low tones and extends some of his speech. 3:10 hair looks like a duuhhh-ve (dove). 3:18 “ I want to get to know you-uuu’ and I want to kno-oooow” what you aa-are all abo-out. 😆

    • @margaretmassey9992
      @margaretmassey9992 Před 4 lety

      But i he was attentive than nothing..

    • @larryrubin5150
      @larryrubin5150 Před 4 lety

      @@likeabook6666 ye... a..h.

  • @larryrubin5150
    @larryrubin5150 Před 4 lety +1

    Brian is the best. Luv your advice and knowledge

  • @shalisadavis1294
    @shalisadavis1294 Před rokem

    This was right on time! I needed to hear this!

  • @blackmirrorlady1628
    @blackmirrorlady1628 Před 3 lety +4

    I always listen to him cause he's voice so soothing and he knows what he's talking about . Keep doing the videos .. good day ! Thank you for making the video

  • @nikolinavukadin1918
    @nikolinavukadin1918 Před 4 lety +7

    Amazing content! Thanks for your effort and great advice!

  • @MissAllaCinderella
    @MissAllaCinderella Před 4 lety

    Thanks again for the amazing advice and suggestions, Geert!

  • @zahramouad2252
    @zahramouad2252 Před 2 lety +1

    Every time I listen to you you remind me why I think you're a genius in what you do, thank you sincerely

  • @Hippyfishhikes
    @Hippyfishhikes Před 3 lety +6

    Situational bonding is so very important in any partnership, relationship, friendship etc.

  • @willow7739
    @willow7739 Před 2 lety +10

    This video terrifyingly gives me the urge to confess how I feel to the person I like when he spoke about insecurities and boundaries

  • @chelseanortje6112
    @chelseanortje6112 Před 4 lety

    I like your videos. You are realistic and help me realize what i need to be doing and how i need to shift my perspective. Thanks for that

  • @nishisingh997
    @nishisingh997 Před 3 lety +1

    Thanks a ton, your guidance have changed my perspective of interaction. You are helping woman to respect her first and than place self with dignity and grace.

  • @byronsamuels6939
    @byronsamuels6939 Před 4 lety +17

    Wow good stand points on finding emotional attraction work. I have been trying these steps 4 years when i was interested in women. I wanted to get to know more about them besides becoming physical attractive toward time - not at the same time but as time goes along when the lady wasn't interested in me.' And some women were also undecidedive about what they want when i will be the kind of guy who wants to treat a lady how she should be treated( some treaching I'd learned from being raised in a single parent home)

  • @ruthulrich
    @ruthulrich Před 3 lety +5

    You make an excellent point. The most important point, imho. That is the attraction that carried us through the last 10 years of a 34 year fabulous marriage, until he passed away. I hope I can find that type of attraction again. Rest in peace, Darling.

  • @debbiemontgomery6020
    @debbiemontgomery6020 Před 4 lety +1

    This is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you for sharing.

  • @Shasha8674
    @Shasha8674 Před 4 lety

    Awesome insights! Thank you!