A love letter to messes || (homemaking does NOT mean perfect)
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- čas přidán 17. 11. 2023
- My home does not exist to be a showroom. My home exists to nurture the memories made within.
If you have ever felt like you are less-than because of the way your home is, I hope this video makes you feel a little less than alone. We are not machines made to produce perfect, always-pristine spaces that don't show who lives there. Love is in the little things.
As always, I hope wherever you are you are feeling safe and loved. I'll see you with the next one!
xo
Kristina
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ANY Squash Chili:
add butter to a pot, and throw in about 1 diced onion. Sautee until clear, and then add 1lb ground beef, and cook till brown. Put in approx 1tbsp of each: unsweetened cocoa powder, onion powder, oregano, chili powder, and smoked paprika. Add about 1/2 tablespoon of garlic, or as many garlic cloves as you like. Stir vigorously, then add 1 can diced fire roasted tomatoes, and any other tomatoes you might like. Add black or red beans, if you like them. Add 1 diced squash of your liking (pumpkin, acorn squash, and butternut squash all work well!). Top with a few cups of veggie or beef stock, and let simmer for an hour or until the squash is cooked to your liking.
Serves 6 to 8 people.
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In a day where everything online is so curated it is so nice to see honest reality. This is the reality for the majority. Not the brand-new kitchens and fashionable furniture. You could choose to only capture "perfect" looking corners of your life, but you don't. You expose the chipped cupboards, dirty dishes, and general chaos of life; what a gift. There is romance in the reality of that imperfection. This is your house of dreams and we are so lucky that you allow us a window into it.
Beautifully written are the words that capture this true essence of this wonderful creator. 💛 Thank you. You took the words from my own heart.
"My house does not exist to be a showroom, it exists to nurture the memories made within." This. THIS. Thank you.
My beloved grandmother used to talk about “a tidy mess”. When we would visit, after dinner we would stack the dishes ready to be washed but she wanted us all to sit and talk, so she would say “leave the kitchen at a tidy mess and we’ll have a cup of tea”.
Those memories of us all sitting chatting and laughing with dishes stacked on the side are amongst my most treasured 🥰
If anyone out there embroidery, this would make a beautiful sampler. "Leave the kitchen at a tidy mess, and we'll have a cup of tea."
Your comment made me cry. I hope it’s okay but I took a screenshot of it. My grandpa is 97 and he and my gramma would do the same stacking. She would tell us not to clean any more than clearing the table because, “it will give me something
to do” after we would drive home into the city.
I love the tidy mess idea, ❤
What a sweet memory. I think “tidy mess” will be my new favorite from now on.
One of the reasons I love your channel is because you are real. I can't stand fake, seemingly perfect, strategically edited channels. I like seeing your messes and struggles, because it's more relatable.
I am 73, I raise six children all gone, and my grandchildren are all grown up. Believe me when I tell you life is but a vapor ..my furniture is all vintage and even when I was younger it was vintage. I enjoy washing dishes so I took my dishwasher out years ago and made it a storage closet for dog food and recycling. It is so soothing watching you work in the kitchen, I hesitate to use the word work, lol. Thank you for another inspiring video. Have a blessed Sunday my friend. And yes please, I love the cleaning videos.❤❤
Listen, I am a constant ball of stress so I will always come watch these because you make them so calming and lovely. Bonus is that I know how good a hugger you are, and can confirm these give off the same vibes.
I love you and I wish I could have Stephanie hugs EVERY DAY.
Ever since I moved away from my hometown, I’ve felt pretty alone. Just two babies, my husband, and me. Your channel gives me the warmth a friend brings. Thank you ❤️
I'm someone who is naturally clean and organized. But the only thing I ever think when watching your videos is: "What a happy place! It must be so fun to be a kid there." Thank you for yet another terrific video.
I almost began bawling. This is EXACTLY the video I need. I am pregnant with our 5th baby and the housework seems overwhelming at times. Your audio over the footage brought such a feeling to my heart- like you SAW me, through my exact struggles, and gave me the hug that I needed. Please, please never stop making this video series. I feel like the more that I embrace slow living, my love for vintage & antique things, and work hard to focus of cherishing my children- with my boys’ challenging ADHD behaviors and neurodivergent brains- I find myself drifting further and further from watching CZcams channels that show “aesthetic” living, with perfectly curated, unattainable images and childless lifestyles. Yours is the only channel I feel like watching, with its authenticity and beauty of reality. ❤❤❤❤
I'm cronically ill and pregnant with my first child, and this made me feel calm and less worried about the future! Thank you ☺
As a grandmother, I am reminded of a time when I had little ones hangin on my skirts& I was SO tired. A wise older friend told me that “A clean stable, is an empty stable. You are doin *just* fine, Mamma. ❤️
I'm single, don't have and don't want children, but I found your video a perfect hug on this beautiful Sunday. Your comments were so beautiful and warm, they made me realize homemaking could be something very different from what I thought. Thank you !
This video moved me so much. I rarely comment but I wanted to say that I loved everything about it. Your words, the music, the topic etc.. It felt like a good therapy session, that I needed. I will definetly come back to this video.
Thank you for taking me (us) with you. 🌼
Your videos are a warm, cozy hug. From your heartfelt words to your daughter’s joy as you pull warm cookies out of the oven that you made together… just beautiful!
Beautiful video! As a hand-on momma of 3 and now a 68 year old grandma of 5, vintage loving, retired La Leche League Leader, this is so relatable, confirming and indeed, just like a warm hug. Thank you, Kristina. 🥰
This video is perfection 🥰 as a disabled person who also has brain fog I find it impossible to keep on top of things a lot if the times. I think growing up with a very house proud mum I had this ingrained idea of what a house ‘should’ look like and I’m trying to unlearn. Thank you for this vid 😊
This video felt so valid for me as a mother of three. I have spent so much time trying to hide the way we live because it is so impossible to keep it the kind of "clean," that I see online. I can't manage it. I felt so ashamed when people (without kids,) would comment on my photos. I need to make that jump to content creation. This really took the steam out of my anxiety and made me feel more okay with reality.
In a YT world of busy, informative, loud fast paced videos, youre are water for my deep hurting heart and empty soul right now. So thankyou to you and Stephanie for some nice calming videos recently, while I try to cry away the grief and lonliness while I hope to heal.
Such a beautiful reminder. Kids grow up much too quickly & move on to lives of their own. What I would give to have some of those days back, messes, fights and all. It gets lonely with no little feet & voices.
I love the fact that you are teaching your children how to bake and enjoy the simple things in life. Too many are teaching to break apart premade cookie dough is teaching. I have been surprised at the number of kids that have come to my house to make Christmas cookies and have no idea how to measure or bake. Thank you for being you.
This was beautiful. I cried. It hit my momma heart hard but in a good way. 💜
Love you friend!
This was just what I needed. I was just telling my husband why I like your videos. They are so realistic. I’m not feeling guilted into being someone that I’m not or someone that social media says I’m suppose to be. Thank you for sharing a realistic perspective of today’s busy mom.
It’s quite sad that your channel is so refreshing. In real life I always see chipped paint, stained wallpaper and cracks in laminate floors but never see those things online.
Some of the best advice I've heard about home making/house work is don't do it to get it *done*. It will never be done. But rather, one needs to learn to enjoy the process.
I love to decorate and have joy and pride in my home but my dream home is one that is tailored to suit me and my family. I have a hot pink couch that some people think is tacky, a slightly cluttered kitchen that is used and lived in every single day. I also have a fluffy little dog that creates tumbleweeds of fur balls that I have to clean on the regular and a kiddo trying to learn to cook but is currently a pretty sloppy chef. I wouldn’t have it any other way. Not what’s trendy or what someone else says is beautiful but everything at speaks to ME. I’m covered in threads from a sewing project, fighting a cold and I paused cleaning my kitchen to comment. I love this content. We all need a gentle reminder like this sometimes.
My Nanna had a fridge magnet that said "keeping the place clean while the kids are growing is like shovelling snow when it's still snowing" I never forgot it. I have a horrid inner voice, a perfectionist streak I've been fighting all my life and I'm working SO hard all the time to keep them quiet. This video is glorious, beautiful and full of calm and comforting life. Just like all your channel.
Whenever I feel like a bad mother, wife, person, because I have lost grip on my house a little, I read 'peepo' by Janet and Allan Alberg, and any children's books by Shirley Hughes. They were my absolute favourites as a child and the illustrations are of homes and people that are beautiful, a bit cluttered, gently chaotic, alive. I have to remind myself that THAT is the life I wanted when I was little. Lovely things, happy children, cheerful chaos. I never longed for sterile and immaculate worlds because they didn't seem alive to me.
I'm still finding my way as a mother, homemaker, homeschooler, everything. And striving for better and easier but I don't have to make my self feel dreadful and inadequate in the process.
Thank you for being the loveliest.
Oh that was so warm and comforting to an elderly lady who is alone most of the time. I always loved having the children at home but often felt as if my home wasn’t tidy enough! Now watching you at home with your little ones, I can see that this is what real life and real love looks like. I would happily go back and do it all again.
In the 50s, my mum would let us children cook and make a mess, then we’d eat the food and be happy. She would then clear up and do the dishes. All seven of us can cook well, and love our families. My ex husband’s mother wouldn’t let anyone cook because it made a mess, and guess what? He couldn’t cook or even bear a mess. He even used to try and make our kids do all the washing up after they made cookies but I didn’t want to take away their pleasure at cooking. And guess what? My kids all love cooking for their children and for others.
Also, love the colourful house you have. There are so many ‘clean with me’ videos where the whole entire house is grey! The paintwork is white, but all the bedding, the furnishings and the décor is grey. There are no pictures on any walls and the closets are half full of grey clothes with some black and white. Honestly, it all looks so sad and dreary to me and sort of like a prison. So I am very glad when I see your lovely colourful house because it’s like mine. I love all the colours and the pictures that I live with and I love my colourful clothes.
Thank you for the help you give to so many people and it’s like you give us permission to be real! Bless you ❤❤❤
I’ve been loving this style of videos you been posting. As someone who’s watching this while sitting in her messy home while her son naps, I find these have been a life saver to my mental health and reminder for me to slow down to ensure our home is a space for my family and not just for potential guests we might have over. Plz keep posting these. Thank you 🤍
100 Percent relate-able! I say it isn’t always about what my house looks like but what it can provide. My fam moved 15 times when my husband served 34 years in the army and home was wherever we landed..I’ve lived in it all. Now retired, our forever home is a bit outdated and would never be instagram famous, but it does give us something special ❤ because it’s filled with family! I was always a little embarrassed by my second hand decor and clutter, but now I just do what I can. Small things…because I live that never ending loop of cleaning, too! 🧹 and grown kids are even bigger mess makers! Haha! This video was 💯 percent and then some! Thank you for always keeping it both real and beautiful! 😍 your home is magic 🪄 and you are too!
My father died when I was a teenager and his best friend's family made me part of their family. I was welcome there anytime. His wife was not a good housekeeper and the house was usually in huge disarray. The meals were random in both time and quality. But I was loved and made to feel like I belonged. I still have the memory of the sanctuary they made for a lonely, scared young girl.
Years later, I was often around my aunt. Her house was spotless and it ran like clockwork, meals were on-time and tasted great. But she had a horrible temper, everyone walked on eggshells, meals couldn't be enjoyed. She really didn’t want anyone there to mess up her house and it showed. I still have memories of that place too, how sad and unwelcome I felt.
The contrast was incredible. Dust balls, canned spaghetti, and love make a home.
This made me tear up. Thank you for sharing this ❤️❤️❤️
@@WithLoveKristina I just had to tell you, you really spoke to my heart.
Yours is not a house but a home. A soft and comfortable place to love and be loved. A welcome respite from the harshness of the world.
My memories from childhood growing up in my grandmother's house the mess was part of the fun. When I look back at it.. there was something beautiful in it. A sort of comfort in the fact that it wasn't perfect.
Loved this video episode. Your house looks lived in and alive. Loved seeing the kids especially the happy baby. So cute! ❤
This was such a lovely video with an authentic, beautiful message. I certainly can resonate with this. ❤️🌻
You could have been my own mother speaking. You brought back so many memories of her. I see you and your small daughter and remember my mother putting me on a stool beside her in the kitchen, playing Miss Polly’s Beauty Shop when she would wash and pin curl my long hair, and never making a big deal of messes and saying, “a little dirt never hurt anyone”. She once gave advice to someone, “Everything can’t be important.” If I could have been a mother I would hope to have had the same outlook as you and her. You’re doing a great job and I love your channel. Thank you for sharing.
This was so beautiful, tears welling in my eyes as the way you expressed HomeMaking was deep, soul felt and accurate! Keep up the great work of Mothering and Loving!
Many years ago my pastor's wife called this season "the domain of drudgery" but our attitudes make all the difference. Thank you for the gentle encouragemnt!!
This made me cry. The sincerity in your voice rings so deep. It reminds me of the old poem that starts out,
"Thank God for dirty dishes
They have a tale to tell.
While others may go hungry
We're doing very well".
I had the same view of housewife-ing before I broke my back, pretty severely. Now everything is so hard. You sure can't eat off my floors anymore. But you've reminded me that I CAN still roll my wheelchair into the kitchen and start baking fresh bread again. For so long I've let myself be defeated by what I CAN'T do, when there are so many things I still CAN do. That big beautiful loaf of bread brought back so many wonderful memories for me. Thank you. I can't say that enough. Thank you so very much ❤
Always love your videos
My son and I just made a chocolate cake the other day. He has autism and hates to crack the eggs but he'll get everything ready, and mix etc. Makes me happy 🥲
Loved seeing little Pip turn and smile at the camera and baby girl helping mama with cookies ❤️
Another beautiful video I feel like I’ll watch it a second time when I’m sewing I can always get so much done with you cleaning in the background ❤
I live with my mom who is a notorious pack rat, but watching your videos has really helped me to realize that it's not that big of a deal if things are a little cluttered or messy. I have been taking steps to organize rather than to fret about getting rid of things and it's been helping a lot.
I'm always so happy to see a video from you. I love how down to Earth and uplifting you are.
Thank you so much!
Something in my cranky, tired, overwhelmed, and slightly depressed heart needed this today. I know it’s been a while since this was originally posted, but I was finally able to sit and take some time to watch while having a cup of tea and some breakfast. I think though, now is when I was meant to watch.
I didn’t really have a “home” growing up, just a house with strict and restrictive rules, bitterness and loud tempers, ridicule for not doing things “properly” or “timely” enough, and neglected healing, health, and feelings.
I personally love to cook and especially bake; I was lucky to have parents who valued teaching those skills, but that’s all they were: skills. They weren’t moments to build memories or relationships. And that has lead to a very long life of not having a healthy relationship with my parents until the last 4-5 years or so.
I totally agree with you about a lot of the houses and homes and interior decor people have nowadays, especially on CZcams or Instagram or tiktok or even suggestions on Pinterest. It feels static, lifeless. It feels like a showroom that you can’t touch anything in, or a sterile hospital where emotions are dulled and thoughts muddled with thoughts of worry or anxiety, trailed by strict idealized life instead of warmth and glow and liveliness. Your channel and your home feel like that: a home. An actual home.
You bring life and joy to your family and especially your little ones, and are teaching them not just the skills, but the connective and joyous little things in life. The memories there won’t feel sterile or emotionless. They’ll be filled with color and life and fond memories of tiny moments with growing bodies and great smells of baking and cooking. There’s some things that you’ll remember and never have a photo of, or even a video of, and those glimmers will be the best moments of your life. (Glimmers are the opposite of triggers, and essentially mean the feeling of connection with joy and life and love, feeling in the moment and present and grounded.)
I also have AuDHD (on top of other disabilities) and I often and very unkind to myself when I can’t do the cleaning I want to at the exact timing, or have things put away and organized perfectly. Your video was a great reminder of being gentle with yourself and that you deserve kindness and love, not rigidity, and that is the same for me. Cleaning and organizing things perfectly isn’t necessary, and it can wait. There are far more important things in life at any given time than things being perfect or spotless, even if the home is colorful and vibrant.
Thank you for the warm hug and the tears that came leaking out of my eyes. You are a delight, a real friend on a dark day that harbors a dull mood, and it is very appreciated. 💖
A warm hug is a perfect description of this video. I'm naturally a very tidy person, but becoming a mother has forced me to embrace a little chaos and I love it ❤
I am not a single mom, but I am 40+ years old, newly married for the first time while working as an RN full-time and fighting my own health issues. I have struggled with the house looking even tidy. My husband is a ball of energy, and things sometimes are left partially done. I'm learning to say I'm sorry it's getting the best of me, and just enjoy being with my spouse instead of stressing over the house. Thank you for validating me when I've spent so much time caring for others that I lack the energy to take complete care of myself.
I live in an old farmhouse. We don't have money to fix it up and make it look like most I see. It's home. We have our children's pictures and family heirloom nick nacks. It's cozy and beautiful to us. We are having trouble making ends meet. I can't relate to most CZcamsrs because if I keep watching this perfect act I'll be depressed and feel like a failure. I love my home. I'm grateful for it. It's ours. I grew up with a father that has issues of being perfect and trickled down on me. Why couldn't I keep up? I have health problems and young children too. My kitchen is like your kitchen. My living room is like your living room. I don't feel so alone when I know this space I call home is normal. Thank you so much for your videos.
Watching this with my two month old sleeping in my arms, eyeing the pile of clothes to iron with less guilt. It's about the memories, like you said, and she will be much more positively affected by the physical remembrance of the warmth of my body against hers, the rythimic thumping of my heart calming her agitated mind, than by me being on top of the laundry. My baby is more needy, and what she wants is her mama. How could I deny her that just so I can have a clean floor? And honestly screw those mommy influencers who create a falsehood that makes us feel inadequate. We should be helping each other, not competing against one another.
Cuddle that baby ALL you can. I’m going to miss that the most about having babies and I wish I’d done it more 💖 your clothes will survive not being ironed 😘
I just came across your Chanel last week and gosh I love you already....we need more women like you on youtube.....I am so tired of seeing the perfect house, life, furniture, so fake to me...your videos relax me so much and give me encouragement since I am mother of two active boys and suffer from depression and chronic pain........ thank you again.
As a mama of two toddlers and currently 8 months pregnant, I definitely needed this video. I have ADHD too and totally struggle with all or nothing with keeping a home and constantly feeling like I don't measure up
I cried, watching this. It's so easy to forget the story behind these messes. It's a blessing to have those memories to meditate on
HUGS! You have a well loved kitchen! I love your kitchen! It reminds me of my Aunt Betty’s kitchen! She had eight children & everyone used to be at her house for the holidays! Nothing matched, except for the cookie jar set up on top of the cabinets. Her pantry was overflowing (I do mean overflowing), with all all kinds of seasonings, dry foods, & baking/roasting pans.
I loved those two rooms! They were well loved! Everyone gathered there!❤
This is the fourth or fifth (I've lost track) video of yours that I have watched. It is by far my favorite. From the first sentence I was hooked by the poetic style you used in describing your days and feelings about your calling as a wife and mother. Watching you baking cookies with your daughter brought back very fond memories of my own, spending time in my mother's kitchen. Being the oldest in the family where there was always a baby, many household chores fell to me. I learned so much about how to clean, cook and keep a house. I love your videos. You're beautiful. You have a beautiful family and house.
Homemaking is about love❤ You help me to love my imperfect kitchen, thanks a lot❤
I am a Grammy and this is so good and true❤️Homemaking is about love that is the best statement!
Thank you for sharing these types of videos. I can’t begin to tell you just how these videos help to remind me the aim isn’t perfection.
You are the sweetest; I love your videos! I/we live a “normal “ life. We live in our house. Our kids are raised, but we have always had real life going on here. Chips on paint, messy kitchen, smudges on glass, crumbs on counters, etc etc… I can’t be the woman, wife, mother, homemaker that I see in so many videos. I have tried. I appreciate your message of embracing real life and all that goes with it. I have judged my self so poorly in the past because I couldn’t measure up. Your wonderful words reinforce the fact that I’m ok with who I am right now in this season of life. A lived in home means a full life of memories and blessings. Happy Thanksgiving! Thankful for you and your family and your videos! 💕
I love your home. it looks so warm and inviting 🥰Making memories is much more important than spotless surfaces and show home floors.
I love everything about your channel. It was myself many years ago now im a great gram to my Maverick who is about to be 6 months old. I never get tired of each new generation created in love. All because of two people in love.
Not knowing after my pregnancy's I had postpartum depression. Not yet knowing what this was in my young life. My daughter struggled with this also. I like that you talk about the struggles that are real to new moms. Fathers watching the women they love change in the real struggling time that is to have been the most happiest for a new mother. That is anything but happy, joyous time.
That is where love is also.
There are little fingerprints that exist, and if they linger there for a while, Casa rasara. I believe music children love and a messy home is most definitely where the most memories dwell.
Watching you in the kitchen with your child on chair helping brought a flood of loving memories of my children. My son was 33 when he died. I am blessed to be reminded of these times and my life as much as yours without the pretty hair and makeup and clothes of the era of boiling plum pudding 😅.
Your channel has evolved into a magical place where real-life family-friendly memories and love dwell. I hope you never stop creating. Your narration in this video, as in many, but this one especially touches my heart.💙💛💜 Thank you, and I am happiest to be here.
I love this video! Homemaking is always process and the great thing about it, is that we get to choose the feel of our home, not just in the decor but in energy of it, whither we have kids or just a husband. We create the environment for them to come home to and live in. I’m a very proud stay at home wife.
Near the 2:16 time stamp, you mention "window smudges from the children's hands". Those are love notes to you. Your beautiful family know they are safe to express themselves, relax, play, discover and dream. 🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓
“Love is visible here in the mess.” My heart so needed to hear that today. Thank you for this video. I will definitely come back to it when I need the reminder of why I do what I do.
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I just have my own way of cleaning and decorating. It won't look just like anyone else's in how I do it or what I enjoy doing someone else hates doing that part or never thinks of it. For example I love to redecorating with the tiniest of details in my kitchen like change cabinet knobs, food displays aka fruits and veggie every so often as fun for me, but another person may find that pointless or a chore rather than a joy. Some people never do that and use the same over and over fruit basket and there's nothing wrong or to compare in our styles of cleaning and decorating aka homemaking in any form because it all just stems from the unique person themselves in how they do life and homemaking is one faucet of that life we do.
Thank you for being so honest and real. I appreciate it.
Real life was my perfect life too. I raised four children and our home was not perfect but we loved each other! Life is messy. One thing I knew for sure was we were blessed.
I ordered that same kid’s cookbook when my kids were little. ❤️ I hope to use it with my grandbaby someday.
You are truly a blessing and exactly what I needed right now. Thank you for this video, it helps me not feel like such a failure and alone and helps me not feel guilty for choosing family time over cleaning some days. I will be listening to this video over and over. Keeping doing the good work💜
What a beautiful tribute to motherhood and keeping a home. I love how you reinforce that your home is perfect for you and your family and is not a curated masterpiece. Your home is perfect for you and your family. That’s the mindset I have for my home. It’s not perfect but it’s perfect for us.
I'm a mom of ONE and struggle with all these things. Thank you for helping me realize it doesn't have to be perfect and that the moments will be remembered over the tidiness.
PS - I have this book too! My Grandma got it for me and I always wanted to make the chocolate chip cookie recipe but never did. I'm making that with my son this weekend! Thanks for the motivation 😊
This video reminded me of my kids, when they were at the age of your children. I felt overwhelmed with housework, no matter how much I tried i couldn't be perfect. You are a treasure ❤❤
I love these videos. I am a woman of the 80’s- homemaking was not a desired ambition. These videos remind me how important housekeeping and child rearing is to our society as a whole. Also, I am not not “good” at housekeeping BUT I always make sure the dishes are done before I go to bed at night. As long as I wake up to a clean sink, I am ok.
Thank you Kristina. Those of us who wish we kept perfect house, but can’t seem to for whatever reason, appreciate you. I love the idea of making things clean enough to be functional. As I struggle with low energy due to illness this week, this makes me feel much better.
Functional is so much easier to reach than perfect ❤️❤️❤️
Beautiful. Showing yourself all that compassion is the way to your most wonderful life. I learned that upon my late disgnosed AuDHD journey. I wholeheartedly agree witj everything you've said ❤
I just found your channel. I totally agree with you, I have had to stop watching some channels because of the way I felt after watching. My house WILL NEVER look like some of theirs and I'm okay with that. My house is tidy and that is enough. I have also stopped watching some because of the food shaming (as I call it). I can not afford all organic foods and Redmond's real salt, and there were some channels that just made me feel "less than" because I didn't use the "best" foods. I am okay and proud of myself because my family gets fed daily and are blessed to never go to bed hungry. If this means I'm not feeding my family the best foods then I'm ok. I'm so sorry to rant but I think some channels really need to step back and pay attention. Of course with that said I am responsible for my feelings not them. I loved your video and your message.❤❤
You really motivated me to deep clean my home just in time to get ready for the spring! ✨✨
Thank you Kristina for sharing this video, such a lovely, peaceful introduction. I definitely needed to watch this one! Although both of my children are grown, and we are trying to farm with full time jobs, often we can still struggle with keeping house, and even worrying about finances though most people don't like to discuss them as they seem to be a dirty little secret that gets shoved under the rug. But it's reality for most of us. I struggle daily with anxiety, sometimes depression and I wonder if I also have ADHD, recovering from a major surgery at this time isn't helping at the moment, so I can definitely relate so much to your video. You can sure feel overwhelmed and inadequate! It's nice to hear your perspective, it reminds us to be kind to ourselves that love and nurturing relationships with loved ones should be what matters. You put so much thought into this video, it was filled with love, gentleness and kindness. Such a pleasure to watch! ❤
Love this! A normal home. ❤
Thank you for sharing Kristina. My PPD developed ocd to where I’m a chronic over-cleaner. I always feel like I’m drowning in it, but am trying to be “normal” and taking steps back..spending more time with my daughter rather than cleaning floors that are already clean. Thank you for this video
This is beautiful. Thank you so much for making a space in this crazy world to appreciate the effort and value of the Moms. My kids grew up in the 90's, when being a stay-at-home mom was just weird. People actually asked me what I could possibly do at home all day! They thought I must get pretty bored.😂 Times have changed but we're still undervalued. I love your channel and your philosophy. Keep up the good work, there are so many people who will benefit from your care.
I always thought I was the only one with a messy house. Dishes and laundry I'm pretty good at keeping up. My living space side tables and coffee table are always full of something. I try to put things away but never seem to be organized enough to have a space for everything. I am definitely never going to be one of those people. God Bless you for putting out this video.
Thank you, Krista. This video is so life affirming. I am a homemaker but not a mom. Still I struggle with some mental health stuff and have three beloved cats and a husband to care for. Something I tell myself and my partner is that we do things like chores or going to work to make our lives better. So every time I do the dishes or laundry imperfectly I know that I am still making things easier for my future self. It seems like everything you do for your family is the same.
I love it. I think you are fabulous. I often wonder how many homes look like they TV.
Your videos make me feel calm. I do not like fake perfection. I prefer honest reality. Sending you all my love and many kisses to the children. 🍓
I love this video, it is so reassuring and comforting. Thank you for making it. Yes, I have seen some homemaking channels where they say ‘tidy with me’ and then they show themselves cleaning an already perfectly clean and clutter free white room. It is pretty funny. Your home looks very cosy. I love your kitchen, with the cute strawberry touches! ❤
I am not alone. Very powerful words! Thank you for reminding us that we are not alone in our imperfection ❤
❤ I just love watching your videos. I feel so relieved to see somebody else talking about the way homes are actually lived in. I would much rather have a few dirty dishes and scuff marks here and there that show that somebody’s actually living here and using things than have a picture perfect sterile environment. The whole aesthetic of your home is just beautiful. Thank you for the content you make.
I have chronic pain and suffer from anxiety and depression. My house is constantly a mess. I don’t have kids but I do have cats. They themselves are mess makers 😂 Not to mention the litter 🤦🏻♀️ So it’s nice to see someone who shows how real life is. Not gleaming shiny kitchens and perfectly clean houses. When I see those I know that’s not reality but I know a lot of people feel bad for not being their reality. So I really appreciate you showing that life is chaos, dirty floors, counters, cleaning constantly and not perfect. Thank you 😊
You are in good company. Hang tough!
@@fitzgeraldfamily6878 Thank you! You as well 😊
How beautiful, moving and relaxing. Hanging up the laundry with tears in my eyes and a soothed soul. Greetings from the Netherlands.
Hello, friend across the world! Sending my love!
I feel everything your saying! It took many years before when all my children were in high school before my home was what most people would call tidy. I have 4 children and I always felt like I was never good enough as a wife or Mom because I always felt behind on my house cleaning and lacking of a wealthy priced home. I can see that your an amazing Mother and that is all that matters. I think your doing great ! Thankyou for all your wonderful videos, God Bless You!
I loved this video so much, as soon as it was over, I watched it again! I have never done that before and I'm a CZcams junkie. Your videos speak to me. I was you when my children were younger. Three of my children are adults and have since moved out and started lives and families of their own. My last and fourth child is eleven and I also babysit my grandchildren. I invite all the mess that they bring. I invite all the laughter and dirty clothes and diapers and toys everywhere. For when it is all gone, this time will never come again.
Love this video I struggle with adhd feeling like I can't accomplish anything and trauma...but this is so true this is reality love it ❤️
I love your kitchen. It feels like how I want home to feel.
Life is a challenge for everyone. I like all your videos. Your little girl and baby are precious!
Oh Kristina what a beautiful vlog!! Thank you for making such beautiful cozy lovely REAL vlogs! CZcamsrs are so brave! That meal looked amazing and how adorable your daughter was to make cookies with you!!
This video is just what I needed today. I’m so happy you’re going to continue making more like it to include in your content….so lovely and cozy and with a beautiful message.
You’re so right. It’s difficult to find homemaking content that’s not unrealistically perfect. I am a person who always cleaned a lot but I can’t relate to these sparkling all white minimalist homes. My style is controlled chaos…a weird fusion of cottage, maximalism, boho, and vintage that somehow works. I’m not happy unless I’m surrounded by stuff that makes me smile and family I adore. (possibly not in that order 😂)
BTW, I was dying when you talked about the lies of social media and people pushing mess and clutter out of camera range. I felt so called out as I realized that I have definitely been guilty of this. 😂 It’s totally that judgement thing, right? Heaven forbid anyone should see I’m not perfect in my housekeeping. Why do we do this to ourselves…and each other?
PS… Your littles are getting cuter all the time and you look amazing.
Kristina I adore your kitchen. I have 4 almost grown daughters and I still struggle with housekeeping. Limited budget, small home, and a brain that loves starting creative projects but is easily distracted. I crave real people showing their real homes and life.
Serenity. That's what the beautiful intro made me feel. Learning to let go of perfection is a skill I'm still working on, too. Thank you for sharing quiet moments of ordinary life.
Thank you for being here xox
The population in general needs to see more videos like this. Too much envy and covetousness out there. Our homes are beautiful if they are filled with love, things are just things, and those "perfect" homes get paid for that its constant advertisements.
Hello Kristina, I just wanna say that you are doing very great. With your husband & kids, with your house and with your self. Your videos are great and real. It's also not easy with ADHD, I know that because I have the same struggles. You are a great personality and the best example for a strong woman ! ❤❤❤
This is so wholesome and lovely and real ❤ thank you