How Mentally Strong People Deal with Uncertainty

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  • čas přidán 2. 08. 2024
  • There is a lot of uncertainty happening in the world right now - for all of us. And needless to say, it can be really stressful and anxiety provoking. It's tough to know how to deal with uncertainty and it requires a kind of mental strength that has nothing to do with toughening it out. In fact, it's the exact opposite. How mentally strong people deal with uncertainty might surprise you, and I'm going to teach you how they do it here now.
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Komentáře • 116

  • @juliakristinamah
    @juliakristinamah  Před 4 lety +10

    Hi friends - What's something you've been doing to adapt to this big change?

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  Před 4 lety

      @Hey It's Me Ha! I love it.

    • @enterallowed338
      @enterallowed338 Před 4 lety

      I’m soaking up all your materials plus some stoicism.Ive discovered how difficult it is to manage myself as an adult

    • @clarissamacdonald6523
      @clarissamacdonald6523 Před 4 lety

      I’ve actually started my prescribed meds again... I suffer from ptsd, bipolar #2, multiple personalities, ocd, adhd, anxiety and depression at the current moment.

  • @carolwhelan6901
    @carolwhelan6901 Před 4 lety +57

    EXCELLENT message!! Last year, my husband of 20 years was killed by a train. I had to close our business and return 60 motorcycles to customers. And there was much more to deal with. I have a 14 year old daughter and didnt even consider caving in! I bought a small house for us 1 mile from her school. Her school was amazing about helping me and her keep a sense of normalcy. She went back to school 3 weeks after her father was tragically killed. She is so strong because she sees me strong We both have our moments, but we are still alive and deserve to be happy! Thank you! I can’t wait to share your perfect message! ❤️

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  Před 4 lety +6

      Sending you so much love. Thanks for your powerful and inspiring message - you're amazing Carol.

    • @beachprints
      @beachprints Před 4 lety +2

      Carol, I am so sorry you and your daughter had to go through that loss. I know you don't really get over losses like that. I believe you adjust to a new reality. We had a son pass 2 1/2 years ago after a long illness. Sounds like you are doing well. I invite you to invite God in if you haven't already. That will make a difference too.

    • @carolwhelan6901
      @carolwhelan6901 Před 4 lety +2

      Thank you all for your kind words ❤️

    • @ErinLAnderson
      @ErinLAnderson Před 2 lety +1

      ❤️

  • @Rob9mm
    @Rob9mm Před 4 lety +5

    Gyms are closed so I began tool box curls, kitchen counter dips, push ups & sits ups. Adapt!

  • @osse1n
    @osse1n Před 4 lety +20

    Our 4ddiction to safety and security, makes us anxious and powerless - we have to be ok with and tackle the present moment, so that we can get the desired results in the furure

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  Před 4 lety +1

      Exactly. Full control doesn't make us feel more safe - the acceptance that we have very little of it does.

    • @medpsychhealth4870
      @medpsychhealth4870 Před 4 lety +2

      Control is a myth . None of us have full control over our lives. You are correct that we are obsessed with safety and security, frequently to the point of paralysis. Anxiety feeds on our inordinate desire for control and our obsession with preventing anything bad from happening to ourselves or loved ones.

    • @rhondapelletier2141
      @rhondapelletier2141 Před 3 lety

      @@medpsychhealth4870 that’s me.......STUCK!!!

  • @ErikaK
    @ErikaK Před 4 lety +16

    When we become friends with what is, we become an observer and we find acceptance, we go with the flow and trust that everything works our in our favor. Life is always guiding us in the right direction and we are where we need to be 💕

    • @dawnelizabeth1828
      @dawnelizabeth1828 Před 4 lety +1

      Good stuff right there, thanks.

    • @chrisdigitalartist
      @chrisdigitalartist Před 4 lety +1

      Thanks for sharing that.💞

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  Před 4 lety +2

      We must accept what is - all else is suffering.

    • @debt.1001
      @debt.1001 Před 4 lety

      I really do understand the concept of acceptance and being adaptable to whatever situation arises and that being ridged and inflexible causes suffering. I flow, adapt and accept in my business all the time and am much better at this now in my personal life. However, I am so confused at what to do when you truly believe that there is a bigger, negative, agenda behind the changes that we are being forced to make. I mean, do we just stand by passively and follow rules that literally make no sense, or do we stand firm in our beliefs and speak out in the face of adversity? I get that you shouldn’t ‘fight’ against something you think is wrong as you are aligning with that low vibration but surely if we all just comply and do nothing and allow ourselves to be controlled by others who very well may not have our best interests at heart, then our physical lives will not be our own. Our liberty will be gone and we will have started to travel down a path of no control and powerlessness where humanity may suffer. Help, I am really struggling right now and feel completely lost. 🙏💕🌈

    • @SurajRaj-ji5ev
      @SurajRaj-ji5ev Před 3 lety

      @@debt.1001 Accepting ur setback means not to get angry on current situation.....and plan for further....

  • @GypsyJulie
    @GypsyJulie Před 4 lety +12

    Love this! I am self employed. I sell online and at craft shows. With this slow down I applied on a wholesale website where stores shop to carry handmade goods. Yes, the stores are closed. But, this is a good time for me to set up on a new venue. Guess what! I got a wholesale order the other day.

  • @willtopower2158
    @willtopower2158 Před 4 lety +6

    Lots of stress, have watched this several times, thank you for being here!

  • @AlyssaCotten
    @AlyssaCotten Před 4 lety +4

    Thanks for posting this! I'm a mental health provider and I do videos on mental health! I WILL be sending this to my clients!! Thank you!

  • @JamieMakin
    @JamieMakin Před 4 lety

    Thanks you so much for your videos, Julia! I have been a subscriber for many months now, but your help is more needed than ever in these troubled times.
    While I do think of myself as an adaptable person, this crisis has shown me that I'm too SLOW in adapting to these things. I had been weathering this storm pretty well, but these last 48 hours or so I feel like I've gone into meltdown mode. No particular trigger, just the sum of everything catching up to me I guess.
    I will continue to put into practice your suggestions in this video and others as I try to find my way though our turbulent new reality.

  • @chrishalynramos1956
    @chrishalynramos1956 Před 4 lety +4

    Hey Julia, I'm Chrishalyn from Philippines and I found you through one of your video "How to help someone with Anxiety". Because of that I subscribed on your channel and watching all of your videos and jotting down everything. I just realized that in order for me to help someone is I need to check first my own mental health. But thank you so much I'm learning so many things from you! You're beautiful! Love lots from Philippines! 💕💖💞

  • @kez5420
    @kez5420 Před 4 lety +3

    Hi Julia! I can't thank you enough for all the help you have given to me and so many others. I started watching your videos when I was 15; I'm 17 now and still turn to your channel when I feel myself turning to old habits. I speak for so many when I say that you are appreciated immensely. Much love from the UK,
    Keira x

  • @jcat7553
    @jcat7553 Před 4 lety +2

    Thank you Julia for your video on addressing this. Stay well!!!

  • @patricksheehan4135
    @patricksheehan4135 Před 4 lety +1

    Absolutely tremendous. truly insightful and right on point. Thank God you do what you do. This gives people the ability to cope with what is happening here and now.

  • @mamabear5488
    @mamabear5488 Před 4 lety +4

    Its hard! Glad your here. Thank you!💖

  • @kindustries17
    @kindustries17 Před 4 lety

    You have an awesome way of pulling the truth out of me. Your self sabotage video and this one has really changed the way I see the world. Thank you for being a virtual friend to listen to when I was too embarrassed to share my feelings❤

  • @haleyleague5214
    @haleyleague5214 Před rokem

    Thank you so much for this!

  • @FarmerBenny
    @FarmerBenny Před rokem

    Thank you for this message

  • @thenebraskan7661
    @thenebraskan7661 Před 4 lety +1

    Thank you so very much for your wonderful ❤️ videos. They are so uplifting! Life is always changing , whether for good or for worse. Adaptibilly and attitude are two very important keys to survival. Thanks 😊 again! May God 🙏 bless you and your family.

  • @thenebraskan6977
    @thenebraskan6977 Před 3 lety +1

    Thanks Julia so very much for all that you do. You are a ray of sunshine 🌞 in a world 🌎 clouded with darkness and gloom!😀

  • @JustMe-ob3nw
    @JustMe-ob3nw Před 3 lety

    I wish I had 1/8 of your communication skills and eloquence - you’re very blessed - going through a LOT right now (sickness in the family, loss of income) - your video helped a lot - thank you 🙏🏻

  • @psychedelicpunkster6840

    G'day Julia thanx so much for your program . I subscribed to your videos a while back ... Really enjoy hearing your expertise and helpful insights. I seem to stay Grounded through this Mess. So adapting and adjusting seems to be the tools to use. Not only that but having Strong Faith in the walk with God is a proven safeguard. Although there's uncertainties where this mess is going, i live my life One Day at a time by the Grace of God. Thank you again my friend and please keep doing your helpful videos their very much appreciated 👍😇

  • @gracielazaffarana9777
    @gracielazaffarana9777 Před 2 lety

    Great advice from beginning to end! Super. Thank you...

  • @nimishasoni24
    @nimishasoni24 Před 2 lety +1

    this is truly a very motivational video! thank you Julia for sharing this one.......

  • @beancarable
    @beancarable Před 4 lety

    This is soooo useful, thank you!!

  • @starshine3933
    @starshine3933 Před 4 lety

    I’m a new subscriber to you channel I feel so proud of being in your thoughtful and informative channel 😇

  • @christiannewski
    @christiannewski Před 2 lety

    Oh my god! I love so much what you’re saying here. Such great tips !

  • @yoramalon5273
    @yoramalon5273 Před 3 lety

    Julia kristina , you always give me hope. You give me cognitive tools to deal with everything. You empower me over life.
    Thank you , all so much ,my guiding angel.

  • @ed911turbo-macanturbo
    @ed911turbo-macanturbo Před 4 lety

    Thank you

  • @amit_patel654
    @amit_patel654 Před 2 lety +1

    "It's better to be prepared for an opportunity and not have one, than to have an opportunity and not be prepared."
    -Les Brown

  • @ameerkassis9399
    @ameerkassis9399 Před 3 lety

    Thank you :)

  • @soukainafikry
    @soukainafikry Před 4 lety +6

    This video came out at the right time, thank you Julia.

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  Před 4 lety +2

      Glad it connected sister. How are you doing in all this?

    • @soukainafikry
      @soukainafikry Před 4 lety

      It was hard to adapte at first but now I'm feeling better, started organising my day and accepting the change. I hope things get better soon. I hope you are doing fine as well.

  • @orbitofneptune
    @orbitofneptune Před 4 lety +1

    When I watch your videos, your smile motivates me to smile more ☺️

  • @manosmack
    @manosmack Před 4 lety

    you are the best !

  • @madziam7893
    @madziam7893 Před 4 lety +1

    🥰thanks

  • @littlepinkpop
    @littlepinkpop Před 4 lety

    I needed this ... a thousand thank yous

  • @KellyAnna-xc4rm
    @KellyAnna-xc4rm Před 3 lety

    Thank u

  • @worththewar
    @worththewar Před 4 lety +2

    this is really great!

  • @samykamkar
    @samykamkar Před 3 lety +1

    Connecting.

  • @chrisdigitalartist
    @chrisdigitalartist Před 4 lety +2

    Great video! Now if I can only grow more confident in adaptability. Failure can be our biggest teacher of them all. As you know, it is my greatest struggle. Of course, I am on the right track with Shift Society...so that's a start! Thanks Julia.❤🙏

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  Před 4 lety +1

      It's been such a joy to watch you grow in the Shift Society Chris.

    • @chrisdigitalartist
      @chrisdigitalartist Před 4 lety

      @@juliakristinamah Thank you so much. I feel different since starting!

  • @gordonr.francisco5130
    @gordonr.francisco5130 Před 2 lety

    Awesome, Your so awesome...sounds like a song coming up.

  • @paulinewhalen6761
    @paulinewhalen6761 Před 4 lety

    Good advice 👍

  • @mz.twinkiejones6460
    @mz.twinkiejones6460 Před 4 lety +1

    Hello and my name is Faith. Thank you for the information its helpful.😊

  • @maureengower137
    @maureengower137 Před 4 lety

    Very helpful

  • @nourredineboughanmi7334
    @nourredineboughanmi7334 Před 4 lety +2

    Dear Julia,
    When I listen to you through this video, I feel like you're talking about me lol because I consider myself as a creative and curious person who tends to look at the big picture much more than the details.
    Also, if you remember my comment I posted (2 weeks ago) below your video called "How to Stay Calm During the Coronavirus Crisis", I mentioned that the keywords for me when getting through a crisis were calm, patience and ADAPTATION ;)

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  Před 4 lety

      Oh, yeah - I remember! Really glad we're on the same page with this one.

  • @admirbarucija2018
    @admirbarucija2018 Před 4 lety +3

    I really needed this, the next few weeks will be full of uncertainty with the semester being so packed and so many projects to do! Your advice is always spot on. I hope you have a great rest of your week and a happy Easter!! ❤️

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  Před 4 lety +1

      You too friend. I hope the rest of your semester goes well!

    • @admirbarucija2018
      @admirbarucija2018 Před 4 lety

      Julia Kristina Counselling Thank you so much, it really means a lot! :)

  • @chrismcevoy2503
    @chrismcevoy2503 Před rokem

    Adaptability that makes sense Julia.

  • @silascochran9705
    @silascochran9705 Před 4 lety

    Hello Julia this posted an hour ago but I've been busy cleaning the house and I keep myself distracted recently I discovered CG animations some of them are very cool nice to hear from you good to see your smiling face I hope you and your family are safe😁😇🤜🤛🦅🇺🇸🤠 oh yeah long before I moved to Montana I greet people with howdy it's a cool all around greeting but originally I am from South South South Florida

  • @dddamaged7501
    @dddamaged7501 Před 4 lety

    Failure is a learning step to better. Fall down 6 times, get up 7 times. If you think you can or you can't, you are right!

  • @sharonczalbowski457
    @sharonczalbowski457 Před 4 lety +1

    Hi there♥️your channel. Dont know where I heard this phrase but it always stuck with me. "What you resist persists." I think it was the author of "The Seat of Your Soul."

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  Před 4 lety

      Yup. We gotta lean in and accept what is, and change only what we can.

  • @guitard1280
    @guitard1280 Před 4 lety

    Great topic!! Related book I just read: Antifragile by Nassim Taleb. Antifragile systems or people benefit from volatility. He's a stock trader, but he goes a little bit into emotional antifragility as well: accepting emotions as they are. Adaptability and antifragility are closely related, but intellectual and emotional adaptability is also related to neuroplasticity and cognitive flexibility. What I'm saying is, becoming adaptable will not only get you through a pandemic, it will also prevent all kinds of degeneration later and make life much more fun! Great topic and great methods to get started!!

  • @anitavanpatten8645
    @anitavanpatten8645 Před 4 lety

    My fav

  • @chrismcevoy2503
    @chrismcevoy2503 Před rokem

    Hello again Julia.

  • @chrishorbatt3504
    @chrishorbatt3504 Před 3 lety

    Finally a video were I'm having desired qualities rather than fitting the "suffer from" end of the discussion,yet somehow it doesn't make me feel any better. I'm adaptable only cause I have no choice if I want to continue to function.

  • @tatheanasanje9904
    @tatheanasanje9904 Před 4 lety +1

    Hi this helps me just in time..i will undergo total thyroidectomy on Sunday trying to figure out what changes should i do after the surgery..

  • @AaronKellyproducer
    @AaronKellyproducer Před 4 lety

    Hello Julia!!

  • @channel1channel139
    @channel1channel139 Před 3 lety

    Great video - thank you! Sorry, can’t hold it but first did not hear the F when you said Shift society :D

  • @landogigis3623
    @landogigis3623 Před 4 lety +1

    Hello Julia Kristina ❤ Good evening from New York! I suffer from major depressive disorder, anxiety disorder & insomnia. I can't seem to adapt to this big change! I'm overwhelmed & I have a 10 year old daughter. Help

    • @rhondapelletier2141
      @rhondapelletier2141 Před 3 lety

      Hope you are in a better place........ I have same HABIT.........meditation helps❤️😇🙏.........children @this time are a BEAUTIFUL Distraction.......& STRENGTH.......you have ( or had) no choice but to Push thru.......I’m floundering....... praying Life improves for All of humanity❤️

  • @dddamaged7501
    @dddamaged7501 Před 4 lety

    1 of the 1st big steps is to overcome our negative bias.

  • @christopherdesigngroup3315

    I guess the pattern that keeps repeating in my life is relying on unreliable people, mostly family. Family members continually sabotage or take advantage of my gifts or accomplishments. I keep ending up in extreme dire straits becoming homeless and financially broke because of it. I am self disciplined, live a healthy and fit lifestyle, and practice daily meditation but I somehow feel obligated to tolerate others who are not as "evolved" as me. I feel guilty for my blessings and feel obligated to give all my things to others because of my ability to find gratitude and joy. Is that spiritual brainwashing? I always try to choose gratitude and love but I am finding that others resent that approach and intentionally try to undermine my efforts or even try to do me harm. Perhaps I should just stop sharing my life.

  • @deniseramsour1129
    @deniseramsour1129 Před 3 lety

    I can adapt to life circumstances pretty well but when it comes to being at work when I have created a plan or schedule for the day I’m a bit more rigid 🤔

  • @SmooveChilli
    @SmooveChilli Před 4 lety

    Hi julia i was just watching your video on how to stop a negative thought/thoughts so can you let me know if this sounds familiar to you or just maybe makes any sense. So i was using your technique of saying stop! to a negative thought....Then I had got to the point where saying “stop” was working for me, until one day i had a negative thought and i said “stop” but it wasn’t really the thought that was bothering me, it was another thought saying “what if you can’t stop thinking about that negative thought you just had”, so i learned to say STOP to both of the thoughts, since they are both negative! Does this sound like a negative thought about another negative thought, i’d like your input on this. Thank you!

  • @m.skinner6303
    @m.skinner6303 Před 4 lety +2

    Nope I'm thriving more than I ever have, I am not allowing this BS to place fear into me...im also, buying a big fatty house I got a great deal on it...was 500k down to 425k. Interest rates are low, and could go lower...all is well in my world!!

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  Před 4 lety

      Great news! Congratulations brother.

    • @m.skinner6303
      @m.skinner6303 Před 4 lety

      @@juliakristinamah Brother!! Oh you assumed I was a dude?! I'm a female, independent & strong willed .. .im not falling for the NOCEBO on tv media etc.... Everybody keeps watching tv listening to this crap, they are all going to start to believe they have covid19.. . .i haven't watched tv or Facebook in 3 weeks. ( All my cells are vibrant & healthy - our cells have conscience) keep making your Great videos Julia. ..be well Marie

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  Před 4 lety

      @@m.skinner6303 thanks for introducing yourself Marie! I assumed a man because of my connection with the name Skinner - he was a very famous behavioural psychologist. My bad!

  • @_DEX_-
    @_DEX_- Před 4 lety

    Have you wrote a book or essay we can read about psychology? I would like to read it.👍🏼

  • @mamabear5488
    @mamabear5488 Před 4 lety

    ❤👍

  • @zeruszephuros5419
    @zeruszephuros5419 Před 4 lety

    Mostly I'm fine.......I just ******in miss my besties and friends.....and also interacting with human beings

  • @jasonl4074
    @jasonl4074 Před rokem

    not really clear what adaptability means in this situation - in the example of a scenario like the onset of covid, people adapted to the changing circumstances by hoarding household materials. In this case, is the adaptable person making the right choice by « going against the tide » by observing and making decision for themselves?

  • @manosmack
    @manosmack Před 4 lety

    Smart and beautiful

  • @gordonr.francisco5130
    @gordonr.francisco5130 Před 2 lety

    Walking...2 to 4 miles almost daily.

  • @soulhometftstressfrigrelse8032

    Idea: When stress (or some trauma) is released very suddenly, toilet visits are required. The "Hoarding toilet paper", without knowing this is somewhat... "Hmmmmm... from where did they know..."

  • @Newhouse846
    @Newhouse846 Před měsícem

    What's the opposite of strong ????

  • @silascochran9705
    @silascochran9705 Před 4 lety +3

    That's hilarious about the toilet paper I had toilet paper I had surgical gloves and masks and plenty of 91% alcohol I seem to be more prepared then a lot of other people some of it was dumb luck some was left over from a job I did I donated The Mask to the community and I am cleaning handles of the doors of the businesses that are open with alcohol I'm carrying a bottle around I seem to be more concerned about others than I am myself

  • @matthewdomaschko4160
    @matthewdomaschko4160 Před 4 lety

    How are you doing today and hello to you

  • @robhasenwinkle
    @robhasenwinkle Před 4 lety

    11:26 totally - lol - why ?

  • @captaindan1000
    @captaindan1000 Před 4 lety

    I'm more adaptable than I gave myself credit for. Yeah!!!!! The only way I could be more adaptable is if I were a half human mythological creature. In other words if I could do things like breathe underwater like a fish or change colors like a chameleon.

  • @kimberlyhoward4032
    @kimberlyhoward4032 Před 4 lety

    And if ya simply dont want to be oppressed, by all mean be an activist, speak up. 😊

  • @mikeriolo7734
    @mikeriolo7734 Před 4 lety +1

    Toilet paper sales have now gone into the toilet.

  • @jamesgentry13
    @jamesgentry13 Před 6 měsíci

    Sorry i disagree. Adaptability sucks