How To Be Yourself Without Apology

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  • BE YOURSELF//POSITIVE SELF-IMAGE
    Many among us are often scared to truly be ourselves. We scared to feel good about ourselves, believe in ourselves or acknowledge ourselves for who we are and the strenghts and gifts we have. It can feel vulnerable to be ourselves and to create a positive self-image and we often don't know who to truly feel good about who we are because no one told us we could.
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Komentáře • 547

  • @shannaheckler1933
    @shannaheckler1933 Před 3 lety +51

    It's great to see this... I have healed myself as well. Weedborn oils have helped me a lot.

  • @ChelseaSeburn
    @ChelseaSeburn Před 3 lety +233

    Stepping into your true self is one of the hardest but most rewarding things you can do for your overall health as an adult. I think it starts with not needing to explain yourself to everyone and learning how to advocate for the things you want in life. Best of luck to everyone who's on their own journey back to themselves!

    • @JohnM...
      @JohnM... Před 3 lety +4

      True! We need to believe we are completely worthy of what we are in going after what we desire.

    • @21willyx21
      @21willyx21 Před 3 lety +1

      Nicely said. I am trying hard to achieve this. However, my issue is that I dont know what I want in life :(

    • @lesliengo8347
      @lesliengo8347 Před 2 lety +1

      @@21willyx21 That's okay. As a start, what do you enjoy doing?

    • @kimhumiston2686
      @kimhumiston2686 Před 2 měsíci

      Love this!

  • @Autisticheather
    @Autisticheather Před 3 lety +102

    I stopped dating. And i found my authentic self. I stopped censoring my clothes and hair because i thought my true way of dressing was not sexy or attractive to men. I made myself more mainstream. I didn't feel free. When i stopped dating i freed myself from all that. I started dressing in ways that made me happy. I am quirky and awkward and sexy clothes don't suit my deepest, most authentic self. Now that i am free, i wear my loose dresses, bloomers, short bangs, knee socks, whatever without a single thought of whether men will like this. I HAVE NEVER FELT SO FREE AND SO MUCH INTEGRITY OF WHO I AM!!. if i decide to start dating again, my aim is to not go back. If a person is the right person for me, they will be attracted to my authentic self. Period.

    • @farhana123_
      @farhana123_ Před 2 lety +6

      Very well said

    • @lesliengo8347
      @lesliengo8347 Před 2 lety +7

      Yes. It helps to attract those who value your authentic self so that you can live authentic lives

    • @hismom5600
      @hismom5600 Před rokem

      Period!❤️

    • @Sasha1661_
      @Sasha1661_ Před rokem +3

      and that’s that girlfriend!

    • @skabbaraju1
      @skabbaraju1 Před 3 měsíci

      Well, as long as that makes you happy, it's great. Unfortunately there are social norms that we have to follow as well. But mostly, I agree with you.

  • @selfhelpchampion9664
    @selfhelpchampion9664 Před 3 lety +191

    When you depend on people to build you up they'll have the same power to break you down. You don't need their validation to know your worth.❤️❤️Selfhelpchampion

    • @sp682
      @sp682 Před 3 lety +3

      Yes 100% !! Well said! I have experienced this myself. Learning to walk away from people who are demeaning or disrespectful and creating space also sends message that you value your self worth and not willing to put up with it.

    • @ThereszaHealed
      @ThereszaHealed Před 3 lety +1

      Absolutely. The Truth does not depend on anything else to stand and it never changes. Wise Mind, Holy Spirit are my companions.

    • @sunnydays9586
      @sunnydays9586 Před 3 lety +2

      Dang! Never thought about the flipside of that. No one should have that much power over us. Good point!

  • @enricocortez6050
    @enricocortez6050 Před 3 lety +88

    "Who are you when you have nothing to prove, no one to impress, and nothing to earn" This will be my additional mantra.

    • @AnaLaura-bf6ds
      @AnaLaura-bf6ds Před 3 lety

      This is deep

    • @dhannamangroo3865
      @dhannamangroo3865 Před 2 lety

      True we need to be more attentive about ourselves
      I Love telling funny jokes.

    • @dhannamangroo3865
      @dhannamangroo3865 Před 2 lety

      Presently I'm facing a challenging moment with self-esteem It's why I find your video interesting tanks much!

  • @user-mh6ix3zr8c
    @user-mh6ix3zr8c Před 3 měsíci +3

    My life has drastically changed for the better since I started loving myself and being myself

  • @alexdabear
    @alexdabear Před 3 lety +29

    3 things i appreciate about myself: went no contact with abusive ex, 24 hrs off weed & at 47, i am in the best shape of my life-not perfect but i own my life now.

  • @zeruszephuros5419
    @zeruszephuros5419 Před 3 lety +67

    1) I'm always willing to learn
    2) I'm observant
    3) I have incredible grit
    : )

  • @raniak2277
    @raniak2277 Před 3 lety +72

    Trying to be myself again after 8 years of gaslighting...

    • @juliakristinamah
      @juliakristinamah  Před 3 lety +13

      I see you. You can do it.

    • @raniak2277
      @raniak2277 Před 3 lety +1

      Julia Kristina Counselling thanks Julia

    • @triplekids3
      @triplekids3 Před 3 lety +12

      I’m trying to look for my self after 33 years of marriage

    • @cappie7744
      @cappie7744 Před 3 lety +8

      Hugs, keep going you'll be stronger because you are worth fighting for

    • @rivkaruthgolan
      @rivkaruthgolan Před 3 lety +2

      Rania, got myself back light-years better than ever after 8 years also It was really scary. It seemed at times, to be impossible. I brainwashed myself constantly with hypnosis and affirmations.

  • @luciennebourque2042
    @luciennebourque2042 Před 3 lety +8

    1) I am compassionate
    2) I have an amazing work ethic
    3) I am energetic and Joyful
    ~ thank you for making this content that has helped me and I'm sure many many others!

  • @JohnM...
    @JohnM... Před 3 lety +20

    I've noticed that whenever I feel natural, like I'm behaving like my true self, I keep getting looks from others where the look on their face is like: "What the hell are YOU doing? What gives YOU the right to be confident and filled with unapologetic self-belief?" It's actually hilarious the more conscious I become of who I am. Self concept is what EVERYTHING hinges on.

    • @joheming801
      @joheming801 Před 2 lety +1

      Yes! One morning, while waiting on a local train platform, I greeted a lady near me. She actually scolded me for smiling and being happy! "There's no reason to be so happy," she said. Poor, miserable woman.

  • @admirbarucija2018
    @admirbarucija2018 Před 3 lety +74

    This is a video I really needed, being myself unapologetically is the goal I’ve been aspiring to fulfill!! ❤️

  • @kharrinagustin5189
    @kharrinagustin5189 Před 3 lety +11

    1. I'm a fast learner
    2. I can lift heavy stuff
    3. I'm an explorer
    4. i have good singing skill
    5. I have cute eyes
    The more I watch your video, the more I found many stuff from myself that is worth of a high appreciation from my ownself.
    Thank you so much ♥️

  • @LM-ht7sd
    @LM-ht7sd Před 3 lety +19

    I appreciate my sense of humor, my resilience, and my adaptability❣

  • @brianbeattympls
    @brianbeattympls Před 3 lety +11

    My three things:
    1. I 'm a talented writer.
    2. I try things that interest me (playing instruments, performing stand-up comedy, telling stories in front of audiences)
    3. I appreciate the wonders of the natural world.

  • @lylahboling6383
    @lylahboling6383 Před 3 lety +24

    I'm dependable, genuine, loved.

  • @markparadie4401
    @markparadie4401 Před 3 lety +38

    You got to be kidding me! I am in weekly counseling. And this is exactly the subject I talked to her about. I’m not part of the society yet but always contemplate it. I can’t believe the subject matter. Actually I can’t believe because when we work with God he works with us especially when we want to open ourselves and change for the better. Watch out if you ask the Holy Spirit to help you. He will!!!

  • @tammybettiga6263
    @tammybettiga6263 Před 3 lety +6

    (1).. appreciate the fact that I don't want to die the way I'm living sad...(2).. I appreciate the fact that I need help...(3).. I appreciate the fact that I'm finally seeking it....

  • @serpico7308
    @serpico7308 Před 3 lety +5

    I was brought up with a brother who pumped my head with jealousy, humiliation and insecurity.
    It took years and years for me to get the loser comments out of my system.
    I never understood the self deprecation mindset others live by.
    Excellent video Friend.

  • @yannie794
    @yannie794 Před 3 lety +3

    I never realized how much other people's opinion of me mattered, until I saw myself compromising on my core beliefs hoping my boyfriend would fall for me. I finally realized no matter how much I tried to conform, I was not being true to myself, and would not like myself as long as I allowed myself to be manipulated by another person. It is better to be alone, and be authentic then try to make others like you and be miserable. The moment you let your guard down, and get pounced on by another person, you either become a door mat, or develop a backbone and say to yourself, "there is someone out there who would love me for me."

  • @lalalala2845
    @lalalala2845 Před 3 lety +6

    1) I am taking strides to be my best self
    2) I am passionate
    3) I am caring

  • @erikamckee2404
    @erikamckee2404 Před 3 lety +6

    I’m loyal, real and accepting

  • @dr.gama.psychologist
    @dr.gama.psychologist Před 3 lety +2

    Things i appreciate about myself: i'm a hardworker, resilient and have a good ability to take and grow from constructive criticism.

  • @vaneflowerz
    @vaneflowerz Před 3 lety +3

    I'm passionate, kind and reliable.

  • @PlumeMusique
    @PlumeMusique Před 3 lety +7

    I love how you talk, how you smile, how your nose is soooo symmetrical, and also the content of what you say.

  • @gres8487
    @gres8487 Před 3 lety +3

    3 things I appreciate about myself
    1. I am a loving person
    2. I am grateful
    3. I am eager to learn more things to make myself better

  • @rebeccastrang1260
    @rebeccastrang1260 Před 3 lety +9

    I appreciate my abilities and skills and the choices I have made.

  • @kimberlyrussell2964
    @kimberlyrussell2964 Před 3 lety

    Thanks Julia! You're awesome, I shared with several friends. So happy I discovered you!

  • @deanacarlton2697
    @deanacarlton2697 Před 3 lety

    Just found your CZcams videos and absolutely love them. Totally hit home with me. Such great advice and knowledge!

  • @stephanimok1424
    @stephanimok1424 Před 3 lety

    This is a great video. Thanks, Julia!

  • @diva6505
    @diva6505 Před 3 lety

    Love your energy! Thanks for sharing , please keep posting 💜💜😍❤️

  • @michaelmcmike8726
    @michaelmcmike8726 Před 3 lety +4

    My favourite word to everyone, is yeah, I'm fine. It's never true, never want to look vulnerable. I hate that about myself 🙄

  • @chokemebloo
    @chokemebloo Před 3 lety +4

    I have been hanging out the past few weeks and listening to a handful of your videos while I work on the computer. Your voice is so soothing, but very uplifting and powerful as well. I have a very difficult time with self-image, and it was even the subject of long conversation last night between me and my partner, so I thought it was a little funny that this was the first video on my feed this morning. We got into an agrument last night about being naked. I am not really comfortable being naked, in any compacity outside of a shower or intimacy, and he sees no reason why I should be bothered by it. I, honestly allowed things to go on much longer than they needed to, because that's what I do, but he eventually got frustrated and told me that "You hate yourself so much that you've let yourself image distort everything around you. I'm not even that bad." Something about that and thinking about all of the bs that we have had to deal with this past year together, it made things a little more clear to me. Listening to your video today helped a great deal as well, and I appreciate all of the videos that you have been doing. So many of them have been helping me out recently, and so thank you for all of the help that you give us!

  • @shormarl
    @shormarl Před 3 lety

    Thanks for sharing these tips!

  • @julieford7629
    @julieford7629 Před 3 lety

    Thank you, Julia. This is just what I needed today.

  • @m.e.nickels
    @m.e.nickels Před 3 lety

    I really needed this information thank you!

  • @alissoncpnunes
    @alissoncpnunes Před 3 lety

    This is all pure gold. I am going to watch this again and take notes! Thanks a lot, Julia!

  • @mosim9691
    @mosim9691 Před 3 lety

    Appreciate your transparency 😊 Thank you!

  • @brieannafair6910
    @brieannafair6910 Před 3 lety

    This i is the first time I'm commenting this video has hit so hard just watching it has made me cry cuz this is exactly how I have been feeling it's hard for me to say this in person and publicly. There are times that I have so much self-doubt cuz I don't feel the courage in myself because I go through so much with my life but I forget to pay attention to myself cuz I pay attention to everybody else this is one of the things that I myself have struggles with I've been watching 12 of your videos so far and I can relate to most of them and I really appreciate everything that you have done and accomplished in your life and I thank you for opening up my mind more than I have ever thought with any counselor I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart

  • @annasmith9494
    @annasmith9494 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you so much for your inspirational videos! I love your energy!

  • @CannaMarie1
    @CannaMarie1 Před 3 lety

    Your videos are fab Julia & so invaluable -thank you x

  • @heidilockhart3457
    @heidilockhart3457 Před 3 lety

    I am new to Julia Kirstina’s videos and am loving them. I find them so encouraging and helpful. Great content and delivery!😀

  • @angelaksmith4317
    @angelaksmith4317 Před 2 lety

    I found your channel in my feed and can't thank you enough!! Perfect timing!

  • @TheEarthycrunchy
    @TheEarthycrunchy Před 3 lety +1

    I’ve definitely been struggling with self image. Thank you for this 🙏🏼❤️

  • @violetaa.459
    @violetaa.459 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for this beautiful video!

  • @apryllquintus2902
    @apryllquintus2902 Před 3 lety

    I have only recently subscribed and I did that because your message and, more importantly for me, your deliver of the message is lovely and personal. Thank you!

  • @juliepollard1532
    @juliepollard1532 Před 3 lety +2

    I love being myself it's everyone else who has the problem

  • @mara6241
    @mara6241 Před 3 lety

    Thanks Julia! Every video I see from you helps me a lot.

  • @dianajane6185
    @dianajane6185 Před 3 lety

    Thank you. So to the point and illuminating

  • @loridusterhoft7852
    @loridusterhoft7852 Před 3 lety

    I am grateful for you! Your channel is amazing and you provide great insight and knowledge!

  • @BellaZella3000
    @BellaZella3000 Před 3 lety +3

    This is so true.. the more vulnerable and connected a person, the more beautifully authentic and likeable.

  • @edlakata3057
    @edlakata3057 Před 2 lety +1

    Love your channel keep up the great work!

  • @traceyrogans7316
    @traceyrogans7316 Před 3 lety +1

    This is just what I needed to find, already feeling more positive about myself!

  • @priscillaaddison-crosby3641

    I’m new this is so helpful…I appreciate you doing this

  • @skyedreams28
    @skyedreams28 Před 3 lety

    This is brilliant-I’m sharing it with some friends.

  • @cappie7744
    @cappie7744 Před 3 lety +6

    So many "a-ha" moments. Thank you 🌺

  • @raim8273
    @raim8273 Před 3 lety

    Hello, just found you today and am grateful I did. These videos are great, very helpful. Thank you. And many great comments to learn from too. Authenticity is my main goal--great points you bring up here.

  • @evelynnoguera3418
    @evelynnoguera3418 Před 3 lety

    Julia
    This is really really good.
    So helpful!

  • @xoxosisihere
    @xoxosisihere Před 3 lety

    This was amazing. Thank you ✨

  • @LM-ht7sd
    @LM-ht7sd Před 3 lety +3

    Approval is someone else's opinion of how you should be and "their" definition of greatness. Acceptance is appreciating you for who you are and what incredible difference (uniqueness) you bring to the table...and that's priceless!!!🥰😎🤪

  • @marik1104
    @marik1104 Před 3 lety

    Hello from Venice, FL! I love all of your videos. Thank you for your help 😊💕

  • @wilykat8796
    @wilykat8796 Před 3 lety

    Thankyou so much, what i needed to hear ❤

  • @Crazydoglady.
    @Crazydoglady. Před 3 lety

    ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT!🙌🏻

  • @r.chrism.d.3001
    @r.chrism.d.3001 Před 3 lety

    Watching yourself. Great advice.

  • @stephanimok1424
    @stephanimok1424 Před 3 lety

    The analysis about relationship with self is incredibly important. Thank you

  • @judithc2335
    @judithc2335 Před 3 lety

    Thank you Julia..just what I need to hear. You are giving us such wonderful gifts with your videos! Thank you thank you 😊

  • @bisermiodragov2280
    @bisermiodragov2280 Před 3 lety +1

    Julia, you are a dealbreaker for me, thank you for your videos!

  • @silascochran9705
    @silascochran9705 Před 3 lety

    appreciate you too you and the history guy always get a thumbs-up before I even watch the video I've been going through a lot right now but I'm holding fast

  • @anasfaiza707
    @anasfaiza707 Před 3 lety

    i really valuate your great work julia so thanks a lot !!

  • @nikkiwest2635
    @nikkiwest2635 Před 2 lety

    You are great! These videos are so helpful.

  • @Xyz-wy5zf
    @Xyz-wy5zf Před 3 lety +47

    Honestly all your videos are amazing,
    I have been listening to u for weeks now. And
    You have really helped me, thank you ☺️
    And I am really looking forward to new ones

  • @rumbie5162
    @rumbie5162 Před 3 lety

    Literally watched this twice to make sure I heard everything. Thank you!

  • @katherinesmith9194
    @katherinesmith9194 Před 2 měsíci

    Really good talk! Probably need this coaching talk every day! Thank you!

  • @charliesangels1995
    @charliesangels1995 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for your videos! I love your work. Learning to love myself and learning to love my body again

  • @hanisiryani43
    @hanisiryani43 Před 3 lety +1

    Julia, you are amazing. Your videos are very helpful. Thank you so much.

  • @gracelockett96
    @gracelockett96 Před 8 měsíci

    I really appreciate you and love the black and white styled videos!😁

  • @patkrause4219
    @patkrause4219 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for the information it will help me be a more likable person to myself!

  • @johnnyhensler
    @johnnyhensler Před rokem

    Thank You For Sharing ❤️

  • @alisonallsopp8878
    @alisonallsopp8878 Před 3 lety +10

    Always needing my family or partner to give me praise, but when they do I dont believe it anyway

  • @carmelhughesparolya899

    I’m binge watching your videos Julia .. definitely a 💪 for my brain, thank you 😊

  • @NargeseMast
    @NargeseMast Před 3 lety

    I love u and what u spread so much. Thank you for being you!♥️🧞‍♀️

  • @erikkohl
    @erikkohl Před 3 lety

    Time spent with your videos is always time well spent...my heartfelt appreciation is yours!

  • @tony.johnson666
    @tony.johnson666 Před 3 lety

    Love this video, it is a wonderful concept and food for thought, thank's for sharing with us. Got to love you Julia, I will be following you. Love your spirit. ❤

  • @lauromartinsdagama8942

    It's a gas to tslk to someone that knows what to say, teach. Thank u very much Julia

  • @megse9437
    @megse9437 Před 3 lety +3

    This video was perfect for me, thank you so much ❤

  • @sumantvvm7570
    @sumantvvm7570 Před rokem

    Thanks for video. Great insights

  • @Khakooler
    @Khakooler Před 3 lety

    Oh my gosh! Life changing!

  • @fernandahelena4148
    @fernandahelena4148 Před 3 lety

    thank you soo much Julia ! Your videos are helping me a lot, kisses from brazil ❤

  • @stephanimok1424
    @stephanimok1424 Před 3 lety

    I usually just listen to the audio of your videos, Julia, and I feel I get SO much a from them. But watching you definitely causes certain messages to sink in deeper

  • @oe4188
    @oe4188 Před 3 lety

    Thanks for the video
    This issue is sooo key to mental health!! Yet not as talked about as other topics

  • @maritescampo2674
    @maritescampo2674 Před 3 lety

    Thank you Julia.Such a great help all your topics.VERY MUCH APPRECIATED

  • @alam6957
    @alam6957 Před 2 lety

    Thank you. I binged watched/listened to your video while doing yard work. I learned so much.

  • @laurenkelly3588
    @laurenkelly3588 Před 3 lety +8

    Hey Julia, I love all of your videos! You've helped me with so many aspects of my life. Please keep these videos coming. You are very good at what you do 😀

  • @deepakp4059
    @deepakp4059 Před 7 měsíci

    You are doing a great job, well appreciated, keep doing so.❤

  • @yourtanktopfriend777
    @yourtanktopfriend777 Před 3 lety

    I’m loving your content! As a new content creator myself, what you said about seeing yourself through a lens is so true. I didn’t like my voice, accent, or nose until I started making videos, but by the 3rd one, those things that bothered me before didn’t anymore. I actually like how I look and discovered my humor and facial expressions are what make up my true self. I encourage everyone to do this. We can be so cruel to ourselves with no reason. I hope you cover why it’s in our human nature to do this as I would like to know why.

  • @shusain7233
    @shusain7233 Před 3 lety

    Your videos are really helpful especially during Pandemic. Thank you

  • @tessschultz3617
    @tessschultz3617 Před 3 lety

    Thank you Julia... ;) ;) ... I've been doing the self image research & come up with some of these and other ideas in addition to this great video. I looked into the changing version of the self image as we are impacted by life experiences and how that shifts our self image & how to shift it intentionally instead of experientially!
    I will share it with you later. Great minds again!

  • @davidcross2341
    @davidcross2341 Před 2 lety

    Hello, I am so glad I stumbled upon you. This work is continually and you have made me think about some triggers, I have never really thought about why I have them

  • @towkir.hossain
    @towkir.hossain Před 3 lety

    So relieving and relaxing to see you Julia with your authentic self. ❤️

  • @skabbaraju1
    @skabbaraju1 Před 3 měsíci

    Julia, you are fantastic. Thank you for your work.