Amish Preacherâs Daughter Tells Dad Sheâs Leaving The Community | Breaking Amish
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 12. 10. 2021
- Barbie is a 22-year-old Amish girl torn between leaving the community to be with her English boyfriend Lester or staying with her family.
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Everyone is talking abt how the boy isn't worth it. It's not about the boy! If you listen to her, she's really crying out against the lack of freedom.
Very very true.
I agree. I also think people putting down this young man is rude . These type of religions are like cults, they have to much control.
@@trish7080 all religions are cults.
Yess
@@urmumisgay599 so are democrats and dome republicans
Her family speaks to her like that and then wonders why she wants to leave? Go be with your man, he respects you more than your parents ever did.
Lol you do not know that.
Mine does the same to me and I am trying to get back to the love of my life to feel normal again!!!! They wonder why I want to be with him and it's because he doesn't see me like "How much can I get out of her now/again?". He loves me even if I doubt it myself sometimes of why he loves me!!!!Even here in the English world that's a tough thing to have to live up to:being"perfect" when you're a preacher's kid. I have been around enough of them to know them personally. I would imagine it's even harder for an Amish preacher's daughter. Good luck to you Barbie!!!!
@@shenamason5822 So sorry to hear this. I hope you do great with your loveâĄ.
It isnt that easy parents love their children myparents went crazy aswell than i told them i needed to move somethere more far away because of a Job they were sad but we have whats up and other modern things to stay in contact and i visit as much as i can from my Job vacations
So hmm well its kinda like that all parents are like that sone rarely are surportive the fear of losing a child is extreme but well the parents make it harsh for them selfes not giving your loved daughter a blessing and the rules
I live in Amish Country (I am not Amish tho) and I can say that this is really how life is for them.. Sadly the women do chores, birth babies & listen to their husbands 24/7 that's their whole lives. Many Amish are leaving nowadays, they're tired of being suppressed.
Iâm in central PA which is also Amish country and its the same here. Iâve read stories from ex-Amish about the a*use they endured. Itâs so sickening and sad.
My cousins live in Amish country too. We went to visit them and they were using horses and carriages to buggy around. We learned that women sit closer to the road in case of a car accident.
OMG that's horrible
I hate to say The Amish are another cult. I donât like saying that but itâs true God gave us free will in hopes we would choose to follow after him and Jesus his son but God wants us to laugh cry make mistakes and grow and do good in the world. God never said we couldnât have fun in this world even Christians get caught up in legalistic views today.
@@Unknown16537 omg!!! I did not know that! Thatâs messed up!
Nobody should ever feel like they are going to lose their whole family just for saying they want to live somewhere else or just for falling in love with someone who lives somewhere else.
Happens all the time. Pick the wrong religion, or no religion at all and the sh*t hits the fan.
A lot of families are like this.
It happens all the time
You are trying to make sense of a completely different culture and compare them to the culture you know. This is how they live and it's normal for them.
@@jamesparson It's NOT about religion. It's all about having a personal relationship with Jesus our Lord & Savior.
My heart goes out to Barbie. She seems like such a sweet girl, but just isnât ok with all these rules and expectations set on her and she wants to live freely. When she said âwhy would my dad say that to me? That wasnât my dadâ.
Her dad wasnât thinking as her dad at that moment and was thinking more like a preacher and what his community would think about him if she left
Thats it the rules of community he didnt think it through thanhe talked to his daughter in phone parents love their children no matter what atleast mine do
They donÂŽt use logic. If god was mighty and just why would 99,99% of the world be in SatanÂŽs hands? Just a small amount of people are right and good and 8 billions are evil? They are just pathetic cultists.
emotional blackmail is a terrible thing, beit from an abusive husband or your 'family', I hope she leaves this controlling way of life and starts actually living.
Her parents arent evil the rules are just not for everyone the lifestyle
@@kriegermaria9923nope u wrong its just another set of religious toxic crazies all religious people r crazy to some extent
@@kriegermaria9923nobody said they were evil, they said the family is abusive. there are amish who let their children leave because they see it the same way you do; itâs not for everybody. but berating your kids for wanting to leave is not a requirement of the amish, just a common behavior.
it doesnât make it any less awful; most parents in the US used to beat their kids for bad behavior before it was illegal. itâs now commonly accepted as abuse. beating kids was always abusive, it just wasnât seen as such until it became legally recognized as unacceptable behavior.
The sister was only crying because she'll be in this same situation one day.
The sister is crying because she told her beforehand and said goodbye. Before it was not certain - now it's a death.
@@kremepie6705 it's probably for both of those reasons, so you're probably both right.
She's crying because her sister wants to go down a path of selfish degeneracy in new york
@@Adam-om9si đ€Łđđ€Łđ
This probably wasn't meant to be funny, but gosh! I just had a good laugh!
Poor girl, hope she finds peace wherever she ends up.
She's done the right thing, emotional blackmail and servitude is no way to live.
Father is a monster
Right. I'm wishing them the best.
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She looks very healthy though good upbringing she definitely isnât a brat and it will go long way
A REAL dad would Never say that to his daughter
I am born and raised in Lancaster County. While I am not Amish I see and hear about this all the time. The Amish community is one face-covering away from being as controlling of women as the Taliban.
That is So Very Sad. It's Still Bondage.
Really you comparing them to the Taliban
@@mynameis......23 when it comes to the diminished freedoms the women have? Yes I am.
Well said .... very well said?
Thatâs inaccurate. Amish women are free to leave unlike women under Taliban rule. Sure there are unique challenges in the Amish culture but all cultures have pros and cons. The Amish authority operate in a secular Western political system (US, Canada) and cannot legally (unlike the Taliban) force their women to stay.
The way she described she has to choose between the love of her life and her family just confirms she is in a cult
@Margie uhn, Jesus literally said to love your neighbor as yourself, you got smtg wrong
What Jesus said is, do not put anything thing or anyone in front of Him if you do that you are dishonoring the Creator we are to be obedient to him regardless of the outcome and also one of the commandments says honor thy father and mother show them respect and love but if they wants you to disobey some command of God you have the right to query. She needs to point out somethings to her parents respectfully it's a sin to try with man-made laws to force anyone against their will l hope the Amish remember God give everyone free will he did not create robots he does not force anyone to obey He lovingly ask us to. check John 3.16
@Margie lol which bible did you get this phrase? Stop spreading stupidity
@@adelyenjustin2596 is does say this though? Not in the exact words but yes break it down to this, yes itâs in there
Not true. My now husband his family wasn't so fond of me in the beginning.
1. I'm not Korean.
2. Did not finish college
3. Did not want all of us ( mother and father in law and his grandmother and grandfather all live together in the same house.
4. Parents are divorced
So sad that a father can treat his daughter in such a way. My prayers go out for herâ€ïž
Hi pretty lady. How are you
Considering how the rest of the world treats each other is there really much of a difference?
I understand her father. She will realize the world is cold.
@@christineperez7562 It's better to know the harsh truth and reality of the world than to be imprisoned with fantasies. Everyone has the right to know what they should know.
They have rules in the amish community but yeah its hard to outcast your own child she still loves god andisamish she just lives more modern and i guess not amish but you can still go to church and to god
The shaming and guilt tripping... I have no words. There is no love in that family.
Her dad is manipulative
Her dad is brainwashed
Amish obviously teach things that cannot be found in the bible
My great grandma had one of these black irons and to this day since i saw this video i thought it was just for decoration and it's probably still in my garage/shed,but boy do i miss her
Awe Iâm sorry! I know the feeling.
@Brandon Garcia those irons do a great job.
in the Philippines its an antique
My mom used these before we got electricity. You don't lift it without a potholder!
@@jennydelosreyes6343 it's an antique in America too.
Dang her entire life is so controlled, no wonder she wants to leave. These people use religion to keep their children under their thumb. I hope she leaves and thrives in the âEnglishâ world.
Facts
..smh...the damn ENGLISH world lol
I agree with you đŻ!!!
Many children are going through the same. I'm speaking from experience, though my parents are far far far far away from hers, I don't have the freedom to choose what I should believe in. My parents are Christians and they expect us to be the same. I want to tell them that I am an Atheist but that would mean breaking my great relationship with them. It's really sad. I have nothing more to ask of them if not because of our differences in religious beliefs.
You are so wrong I'm Amish myself and so obviously I know a lot more about them than you do. The Amish are a lot more lenient than she says. If you don't know anything about them, I suggest you keep your comments to yourself!!!
@@yallarewrong942 that maybe it but i think you have more than one amish group maybe hers was abit diffrent amish people life worldwide i guess
Don't take it to hard what your father said ,he's just angry. Your sister may follow suit one day and you'll be there for her.
For a Community that supposedly believes in Christ they literally have NO FREE WILL, that is NOT what the Lord wants for his children, when you literally control EVERYTHING someone else does in their daily life , that's not loving, caring or doing anything God wants, you're just keeping power over others , I can guarantee they don't have to do any of what they put on others , they have Freedoms these woman and girls do not (nor the men and boys) It's only those at the top that get to CHOOSE their own lives, NO ONE wants to be controlled 24/7 that's just ABUSE not love.
Exactly God gave humans free moral agency. Shutting your kids up may seem like a good way to protect them from harm but as we can see from these shows it teaches them nothing about their moral accountability. They get out and go crazy when their parents aren't in the picture. They aren't doing things to please God they are trying to please their parents.
Yup. People get so caught up in the rules of their Christian cult. Christianity is a cult. Being Christian has a completely different meaning now. Back in the days it meant something..it meant you followed Christ. Now its just people who use 3 or 4 parts of some verses as slogans, their congregation buildings are full of people who ignore the laws of God...especially celebrating man made holidays like xmas, Halloween, etc. They use the excuse that they are saved by grace blah blah. Jesus said he was not here to abolish the law. But since it isnt convenient to them and they want people to give more money to their crap congregation.
Even Jesus Christ doesn't heal someone before asking if they want to be healed. Force is not the way
We are not suppose to live worldly.
@@katelynkingston8267 So "follow my rules and conjure up love for me out of nowhere, or go to hell for eternity" is free will in your head?
Fantastic mental contortions. Splendid
The hardest thing to grieve is to grieve for someone who is still alive.
Like my first son who is still living but has disowned me and l don't know why never had a fight or fallout.its a complete mystery, also hasn't seen his little brother for ten years too.and lives one town away.heartbroken
Many families live with this heartache not just Amish who leave. Christians whose children leave the Faith also suffer this grief continually.
@@karenemahar1724 happens to alot of us I'm alone too. Wasn't even asked to granddaughters wedding. As hard as it is sometimes a.stranger treats you better than blood.
@@karenemahar1724 your not alone I have a brother who moved across the country and stopped communicating with all family as soon as he turned 18. Once and a while we hear from him and knows he is alive but there was never any fallout or fighting or abuse or anything crazy and he just went off too be totally alone. He's in his mid thirties now, never married, no kids, and just stays by himself and we will never know why unless he tells us one day :( .
When I was a little girl I used to love having a brother and it's been like a death over the years having to realize that I will never really have a relationship or know him because he just doesn't want too.
Dads comment says it all, she made the right choice. Itâs not about a boy itâs more than that. Hope she finds peace :(
barbie is beautiful. I hope she find happiness
She could be a top model shes so beautiful.
So are you..
I want to hug her so bad. You can never go too far to be forgiven. â€ïž I hope sheâs found happiness and peace. Poor sweet thing having to give up her family.
Shes beautiful. I hope she chooses freedom shes obviously thirsting for it , and I wish her nothing but good things, happiness and success in her choices.
Daddyâs emotional abuse is so cruel.
Jesus Christ. These people. I'm the father of a daughter. I couldn't bare my little girl feeling like this. Daddy loves her no matter what!
She's 22!? All that work has definitely aged her! Poor girl
Youâre right, she is pretty but I was kinda shocked when I heard 22 I didnât think much but yeah itâs definitely that hard work. Easily looks 25 with 35 year old Lester
Doing chores doesn't make you look older...her Amish bonnet and clothes make her look older.
@@bretbarefoot1097 uhh hard work day in and day out ages you. carrying hauling cooking baking raising kids
@@pinkpugginz not at that age...sounds like you don't like working lol
And she doesn't have children
My family treats me like that. I shunned myself and Im not even amish. Moved 5 hrs away.
they shun back home in maine. it is part of strict religious groups
Did the same...
I hope youâre doing much better now and feel/believe you made the right choice by choosing yourself and your happiness. Although they were abusive towards you, I canât imagine how hard that mustâve been for you to make that choice. Youâre a very strong person!
I hope you are doing great and you will find happiness.
I feel her when she's crying about her sister and her father; I am close to my own dad and my sister, If I had to leave them for this reason it would crush me too. Still, I can also understand her need for freedom of choice, I believe everyone deserves to have that kind of freedom regardless of their family's opinion. I really hope that maybe her family will warm up and accept her decisions over their reputation in the community.
Poor girl or any people that lives like that. I mean when you cant choose nothing.. you have to say yes for everything...
That trauma and confusion is so real. I feel for her so deeply. It was like hearing my parents speak all over again.
The demeaning name calling happens from parents who aren't religious to daughters who aren't promiscuous too. I guess it's just plain narcissistic they refuse to allow any happiness that isn't all about them .
The father used her sister as part of a bribery tactic-this girl will never get what she wants
Hi pretty lady.
Not true!
I'm the grandson of a reverend my grandfather met me when I was 16 years old and he told me then do what you have to do to make your life easier I know your parents raised you the best they can and I know you're the black sheep of the family but I still accept you for who you are if your father can't accept you for your decisions to leave the Amish figure out what you want and leave then that ain't a man that's a coward he's hiding behind whatever he wants to hide behind he should never disown his own child that is ridiculous I wish you nothing but the best of luck
I agree...
I agree too.
Iâm a Christian and Iâm not Amish. For me living my life I know God loves me unconditionally no matter what.
Amen
My realtor friend was raised Amish but chose not to join the church. Heâs doing fine on his own. Itâs hard to leave behind everything and everyone youâve ever known.
This girl has right to chase her dreams. The world has so many opportunities available for this girl. God bless Barbie and her boyfriend.
I feel so sorry for her. What her dad said was awful.
Everyone has a right to be happy. I hope she finds it.
He needs to man up and face her parents. For her. To support her!
Him: I don't want to go in there with you, but I'll wait outside.
Boy, bye. That right there says he's not worth it.
I wish this brave couple the very best of luck.
That is just painful to watch.. the conversation with her dad. Breaks my heart
Dad was her best friend only as long as she was completely under his control.
Being called a wh*re by YOUR dad is probably the absolute worst feeling in yhe world. That's horrible. Especially since she was super close to him when she was growing up. I'm so glad that my dad doesn't treat me like that.
She didn't even want to sleep around she was considering marriage with her boyfriend.
This young lady is one of the bravest persons I've seen. You have to find your own way in life. If her parents are going to have a problem with that I guess they'll just have to have a problem with that.
The pain in her face
Correct
Itâs not âwhy would family treat you like thatâ. Itâs that they want their offsprings to be in the same faith and community and they know bad and vulnerable city life is. Unless matured enough, going to a city life is totally different. One can be deceived and get into many off stuffs.
You can tell from her demeanour that she will love the English world and thrive in it.
Best thing an older sister can model for a younger one is leaving! My older sister having left gave me the courage to do it too. God bless!
If she was to speak to some other girl from the middle East that doesnât have a âchoiceâ I assure you they would tell her to run not walk away.
Sheâs letting her heart tell her whatâs right, and instinctively to be controlled like an object is wrong & her parents KNOW IT!
Hi pretty lady.
Yeah! Girls in the middle east are living way worst than her too unfortunately, at least she can have a boyfriend and leave if a girl did this in the middle east they'll kill her immediately, I hope she lives happily and a better life away from these toxic people!
Everyone here is free everything is perfect
Iâm so sorry barb! I hope youâve found healing from this and donât let those words hold you down
That is a really sad situation. People should not have to make a choice like that.
Good luck and you got this and you are making the right choice praying for you and have incredible new adventure đđ»â€ïž unbelievable incredible beautiful queen inspiring person.
I really hope I could hug her and tell her that she isn't wrong at all for wanting to choose a different path. Surely, the pressure on her and her sister are really heavy. And there's the guilt because you don't want your parents to look bad in the eyes of others because you love them deeply. I know the feeling. I really want to meet her and give her my support. You're really courageous. I hope parents would be able to understand that their children are not them. What they believe in is not their children's belifes. Please understand us. As a family, we should be accepting.
Lord bless this girl mightily and show her who You are and Your love for her. Keep her safe from all harm and guide her into all understanding about You and Your word and truth.
sounds toxic.. my heart goes out to these individuals who want a different path in life. We should be able to decide our future. Nobody else.
God Bless you both. You should not be treated, so bad...family should support. Good or. Bad...love you both.
The guilt the family puts on her is awful. All they care about is how they look in the eyes of the community and think nothing about their child and what theyâre going through.
I worry that even though he left the Amish, that he still retains some beliefs regarding women. Their relationship will be a lot different married and living together instead of sneaking off to hang out without being seen. I just hope she finds happiness and freedom.
Hope They will get a good life togetherđThey both seems like nice people
I wanna hug her she deserves better all her life she's been told that she's only good for being a mother theirs a whole world out there to explore
We left them too , we know the feeling!
So heartbreaking đ
Responsible, Fair, and Honest parents don't force their children to live in a religion they did not choose, once they are of age to make their own decisions,,, I did not force my children to follow my adopted religion or get out of my house
I salute you Ma'am. I hope every parent would be the same so no kids would feel imprisoned by the religion of their parents. I hope you're doing well^-^.
She speaks perfect English. The ones I saw in the US Penn state, they kind of spoke broken English and scored very low on the standard education test GED
Emotional Damage đ no dont do it this guy is selfish he should come with you to your parents
If you truly love someone with your whole heart nothing else matters its between the two people there love for each other will over come all obstacles
âIâm not comfortable with camerasââŠ. shows hella selfies and pics of her in full English attire with make up, clothes, hair, earrings lol
Having a photo taken with the snap of a flash is a lot different than a video camera pointing at you for a time.
That's what I came on to say
I think itâs also the fact that she has to talk to the camera and look at it directly. I even feel awkward making videos đ
I feel for these kids. đ„
She is absolutely beautiful!!
that's family for you they can and will treat you bad in so many ways its sad but true I hope you find life out there and see the big old world we have outthere for you and do you what you want in life.
My heart broke for her.
Hi pretty lady. How are you doing today? And how is everything with you?
This is incredibly heart breaking. This culture has part of the truth of God, but they are decieved into thinking that God wants rules to control you. How crazy confusing it must be to have part of the truth and still be so far from God's real heart for people.
Theyâve shouldâve been able to tell Sheâs gonna end up leaving the Amish you can tell by the way she talks and act and feels itâs jus not in her heart
Any community that says 'you cant leave us or you will be a whore' needs to be left.
You feel trapped and don't know if you can or should try to do something about it. I am not studied in the lifes of Amish culture or rules. I hope and wish you the best in your journey in this world that is harder to recognize anything that was right and now its considered wrong.
God bless her. I wish her all the best. I used to have one of these black irons. I have some Amish ancestry on my Father's side.
I'm going to watch but only for entertainment as I love watching about Amish life. But as for the Judging her? Naah... Why wld I do that when the Amish have enough judging of their own going on. So for entertainment, yes. But to sit on a throne and Judge her when we know absolutely nothing about their lives, or the inner struggles that some of them go through, No. It's Not for any of us to judge her, or any of the Amish.
This is an interesting season of this show - her nails have peeling, neutral-tone nail polish đ đ» (thought that wasnât allowed?), her dad has a cell phone for his business (a bit hypocritical?), and her eyebrows appeared plucked. Not things we saw in the other episodes before they left home.
It's probably not a cell phone. It might just be a home phone that's only good for calling. I've seen lots of amish use the phones at restaurants to call their rides or something. And the nail polish and eyebrows were probably just the makeup crew getting her ready for the video. I mean if she's leaving the amish anyways it doesn't rlly matter if she plucks her eyebrows or wears nail polish. Just gotta hide it from her parents I guess
fun fact :im related to these 2 and shed left the amish 2 yrs b4 this was filmed and she left w a diff guy but is still w lester today. also mun ky is not the strictest community no amish tell you what to eat lol dont believe tlc
@@blessed4737 we never implied that they tell you what to eat? Ik the amish don't tell you what to eat. They can eat anything
@@blessed4737 is she allowed to see her family
Good luck young lady...you will be fine
I'm also a preacher daughter but in my denomination I was not allowed to have any choice at all !!! So I had to run away. Yes, children must obey parents but when they grow up, they take responsibility and have choice too.
Most religions make the same mistake, which brings into this.
Kid's should be taught me shows what is good and what it bad so they can see the difference long before they reach their age when they cab run away to something they never seen or seen so little and have no idea what's that. Also, youth must have choice to date before decide if they want to marry this person or not. Choice is what is taking from those community, that's why there are such problems. Teach kids to make right choices from their childhood.
Follow your heart. God loves youđđ»
You find someone you love and they love you, cherish it and old one to it...
Its immature of your father not realising children leaving home to marry is healthy.
Its the right transitional thing to do to grow up and leave your parents and a sign the parents have done a good job raising their children to stand on their own too feet.
I feel so bad for her, that was messed up what he said to her. I get he was worried about how it would look, upset with his daughter leaving, I get how they might see it as "being unequally yoked" part, but the W word was unncessary.
Wish her the best for her future
I live in Kentucky and some of the Amish people here are some of the sweetest kindest people you will ever meet .
If she was to move to cave City or Glasgow I think the Amish community here would be more accepting .
I know you don't have to be Amish or any other denomination all you have to do is love the Messiah with all your heart and keep his commandments and do his will .
I feel like even an Amish parent should want there children to follow there heart and do what they feel is right even if that means leaving and experiencing the worlds
How can her little sister be listening in when she just explained that her parents may only have one phone in ther garage . How fake !!!!
They might have meant that she was over listening. Like sneakily around a corner. She s old enough to understand what her parents were saying and to whom.
@@kathleenoverton3263 they asked are you on the phone đ€Ł
she is such a beautiful lady
You should enlist in the military really freak him out
I live near a Amish community and Iâve met some of the Amish kids and they are going through the same thing. They put it bluntly it is an cult. The religion does not make scents.one of them goes to my church
I feel the same way in the English world. There's really no difference when we have such traditional families. I'm back in with my parents and they are a godsend for me to have.
I lived in NYC and trust me being a pasterâs daughter among amish community seems so much better.
She not sinning at all when too people like each other itâs called love just like how her dad loves her mom
Poor girl.
Still have one of those irons at the old family home
I think is says so much about kids and them developing their moral values, when they are always taught stuff but develop in a completely different direction.
The Amish life might be fun for a while but it gets boring a few years later
Sweetheart, the fact he isnât man enough to talk to your parents with you is really all you need to know!! I donât know the history of this show, but sheâs making huge mistake leaving for that dude! Marriage wonât last!!
No mistake, its best she leave anyway
That's what y'all are missing I think. She's not leaving for him. She's leaving for herself. For her own freedom. If she was leaving for him she wouldn't even be worried about New York. She's going to new york without him. When he asked if she would come back ready to marry him she didn't really answer. Idk. I just think people aren't giving her enough credit.
@@juls41056 Exactly. Also it's Nobody's business to judge her
Hes left already. He knows at the end of the day she has to be the one to make the decision.
I pray for you and Lester to have a gorgeous future together.
Go for it girl one life live your life you love love your you live