r/Askreddit Ladies, What Was it Like Dating a CREEP?
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0:00 Intro
0:03 What were the creeps like ladies?
0:09 Be careful getting into your car
0:51 He knows my schedule
1:35 Creepy college database
2:08 Forced tongue
2:50 He thinks I'm a book character
4:01 Stabbed my table and stalked me
4:29 Creep realizes the he was cringe
5:21 He peed not in the bathroom
5:30 He locked me in his car
7:10 Similar story that could have gone way wrong
8:19 Faking a serious problem and hiding the real ones
11:05 Something in my drink
11:58 Abusive guy at school
13:14 Nightmare date with all the red flags
14:36 Captured in his basement for three weeks
"Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com), License: CC By Attribution 3.0 - Komedie
For the top 2 I feel like creep just doesn't cover it. Mutilated rats and locking someone in your basement is not creepy, it's psychotic.
It's literally the worst case scenario every woman fears.
Typical second date with me.
That's full on serial killer behavior. Not creepy, horrifying.
He could have been a serial killer for all she knew
That's a serial killer
I've discovered that the best thing to do when someone keeps threatening to un-alive themselves if you don't (demand here) is to call the police and ask them to conduct a wellness check on them. It either gets them the help they need, or makes them cut that bullsh- out
My ex-gf utilised threats of suicide and other borderline extreme behaviour.
By the end of it the cops had spoken to her, but I also had to ghost to get away from her. All I can say is if someone weaponises guilt and suicide to lock you into a relationship, you need to do everything you can to get away from them (but as you’ve mentioned, getting the proper authorities to take them in is also ideal in combination with getting out of the situation).
After that experience I am happy being single, and am committed to having stronger boundaries.
Yesh!!! My family all knows this technique and it’s never failed.
You're a lot nicer than me. I'll usually respond with "Kay, see you in Hell." Now, the trick is to say it super casual, like "See you later." only it's going to be 30-60+ years later depending on how old you are. Anyhow, it's such an unexpected response that most people will just let you walk away unopposed.
or just tell their parents lol
@@Wendy_O._Koopa You're both nicer than I am. I only had one person make a threat like that to me, but I was so done with it all my only answer was "Well, get to it. Don't stop on my behalf." I don't suffer manipulative assholes.
The story with creepy rat man, I wonder what was in all the “extra” food he gave her. Also. What’s the betting he knew OP’s brother was struggling with alcoholism and decided to take advantage of her situation.
🤢 I really hope it wasn't what I think you're thinking
At my Uni we had a book in the womens' sanctuary room called the "Ugly Mugs Book" where we could warn other women about creepy guys who were best avoided. It saved me from a few terrible dates!
Ah, like a shoplifters board at a store? Clever.
Was it just dudes people dated or just ones yall found creepy
@@matthewmcnamee2864 Just the creeps. We gave the name, a description, and what it was they did.
@@thehangmansdaughter1120 I get it that's understandable I just feel like alot of guys come off as creeps when they're just socially awkward or ugly
@@matthewmcnamee2864 When I say creeps I mean things like demanding sex because he took you out for dinner, or following you home, or constant calls. Not just being a bit awkward.
This video might as well be titled "Why Staying Single is Actually Not That Bad!"
Couldnt agree anymore with that
Yep
THATS WHAT IM SAYING
I’m single, I’ve always been single.
I’m sad.
I need help.
Yea I just posted that
As a 11 year old, being single is a reward
It’s like a happily ever after when a neck beard gets older and realizes his mistakes. Restores my faith in humanity for a bit
I’m a former Neckbeard and seriously regret a lot of my decisions from that time. I really don’t know what was wrong with me at the time but I’m better now, thankfully!
I had the neckbeard look, but never had the courage to talk to women in any sort of interested fashion (I could talk to a woman only after I convinced myself that I had no shot), so I dodged that bullet until a woman came along and didn't let my timidity stop her, lol.
Not a great relationship, and it crashed and burned spectacularly, but it taught me confidence tempered with a lack of desire to be "that guy."
Edited for clarity
Previous legbeard and yep, it is a humiliation happily abandoned lmao
@@360entertainment2 I'm glad you turned your life around! Keep up the good work dude.
@@nianichole2856 Legbeard? Is that the female version? I hadn't heard that before.
Whoever thought “I’ll eat your flesh” was a good or romantic pickup line needs help
Right?
Agreed
What if they're a stranded cannibal ?
@@dickysatria7268 I was just about to make a Jeffery Dahmer joke, but looks like you beat me to it
Bet.
Update: she broke up with me.
Anyone got flesh they want eaten?
As others have also pointed out, some of these aren't just creeps, they're straight up psycho and should not be walking free...
But.. that's the point. These are the "creeps" that women have to deal with. They aren't what most people think of when they think "creepy", but they're actually just straight up criminals that keep getting away with it because "boys will be boys"
For sure. Someone needs to be checking on these people. Definitely future true-crime material.
Some of those don't deserve to even be alive let alone free
"Doesn't Daisy end up with another dude?" Yes, yes she does. Dude didn't think that one through.
I think the other guy was named Tom and Tom was just as bad as Daisy. A match made in hell imo.
The college database one sounds like it’s something that should result in a class action lawsuit
Yeah I am pretty sure it's illegal.
@@stoopingfalcon891 It also sounds almost exactly like how Facebook started. :/
@@bluestreaker9242 Hmm good point.
Ha CLASS action… no but seriously yea
My college had something similar. It was actually not supposed to show all the information for everyone and anyone, but give full campus contact information for students and professors. Emphasis on campus contact info. Instead it gave everything on everyone and it's how I got stalked too. The only thing that kept him from finding my actual room was that he didn't want to climb the stairs and I always took them. In a 12 story building. Well, that and having to go through the entrance hall on the ground floor.
That mutilated rat story wasn't a creep story that was an origin story of a serial killer.
The crazy part is that it's not even wrong
Yeah the girl locked in the basement for 3 weeks is the story in the making at that point
I went on a date with a guy who thought it would be funny to fart on the waitress. Then he got super drunk and started crying about being broke and telling me I was too good for him. I paid for dinner and let the hostess know that he was too drunk to drive before making a run for it.
Making a run for it was a great idea.
I feel bad for him tbh
@@tidepodpadthai2633 No hate but I'm generally curious as to why?
@@calhuh1232 He seems like he definitely has untreated mental issues, and nobody should have to live like that
@@tidepodpadthai2633 I feel worse for the waitress.
Rules of thumb for safety:
- Never let someone you don't know well be the only one with a way to let you go home. And ideally, don't give them your real address.
- Calling the cops (on the non-emergency line) on someone for creepily staring at you for very long times is a good idea. That way there is precedent if you start feeling they are going to do something dangerous.
- The neighbour leaving dead animals on OP's property is definitely worth calling the cops on since it's an implicit threat.
- If you threaten to call the cops, do it! Especially if you are a white woman since it's a low-risk situation. Because if someone makes you feel so scared that you have to threaten to call the cops, it's worth burning that bridge.
- Finally, don't give second chances. I'm a trans man, so I was seen and treated as a woman for most of my life and I pull that from my experiences. If someone makes you feel scared, threatened or doesn't respect your boundaries or consent, they NEVER deserve a second chance. Second chances are for people who are late, awkward, ignorant, forgetful, clumsy, shy, etc. You are much, MUCH more important than their second chance. I know how it feels to want to be kind and not to hurt people's feelings, but please always consider the risks first. You are not a bad person to think about your safety and wellness first and by doing so you'll quickly find toxic people exiting your life because they can't abuse you anymore.
Especially if you are a white woman? Why would the colour of someones skin change the rules?
Very well put! I have learned it's better to be safe then to worry about how doing something might make them feel. I use to care too much about not wanting to hurt someone else's feelings and put myself at risk when I didn't need to.
I agree with these!
Even though I'm a guy, if I ever go on a date with a woman, I make sure that it's in a public place and they don't know my address. I know men are worse with the craziness but I know that there are quite a few females out there that are crazy as well.
Yes because if a black woman calls the police they may be arrested 🤦♂️🤦♂️🙄🙄
@@implodingnerd Another rule is I followed was I always told someone where I would be going, with whom, and when I should be expected back. I also would follow up with a call when I was home to let them know I'm back safely.
I've told my son these things as well since he is of dating age but he has given up on the idea of dating because he has heard one too many horror stories and thinks all girls in Gen Z are crazy when it comes to dating. I can't help but think I'm partly to blame for that since I have stopped dating. I gave up years ago after a very bad relationship and just focused my energy on my friends and family. One day I might try again but I think my son is too young to give up. Especially, since he is the hopeless romantic type. As a man, do you have any advice I could give him not to give up so easily??
Hard to get through this vid in a single sitting. The levels of cringe could register on a geiger counter. Hopefully all the women in this video are happy and safe ✌️❤️
Edit: jesus christ that last one was terrifying
Seriously though. I'm glad OP was able to escape and get out of there though.
that last story could've easily become the junko furuta case
That last story literally had me say "What the fuck" out loud. They just kept getting worse and worse
Even rSlash knew it.
I’m willing to bet that other niceguys would blame these OP’s for going after the obvious bad boys in the comments. The irony of it is so thick you could crush diamonds with it.
So far only you are saying this
I'm asexual, but I've had guys say stuff like "I can fix that," "That's hot," or even "You'll change your mind after sleeping with me."
My worst nightmare!! 💜🖤🤍
Like when this type of people meet lesbians xdd
@@a.a131 Or gay guys with women who can't accept they're not straight
The "you just need the right guy" line is my least favorite to hear.
ace here platonic relationships are best as in keep thing in the friendzone unless it is your parents of course.
(UK: Early 2000's) When my dad was having a drink with his work mates, at a local pub, he and his mates saw a man holding two drinks weird. One hand was holding his beer normally, holding it on the side of the glass, but the other hand was holding a glass of wine over the top with his fingers and palm over the glass' opening instead of holding the glass by the stem like a normal person. He then put the normal held drink down and poked his finger between the fingers of his other hand (the one holding the wine). Well my dad and his mates jumped him and called the barman to call the police. The creep had just pushed a tablet into the wine glass from between his fingers (the tablet was supposed to drop into the glass as he picked it up, but stuck to the side of his finger). The police were called, the creep was arrested, the lady the creep was with was taken home by one of the cops and the creeps injuries (sustained by "resisting" the citizen's arrest) were thankfully ignored by police. Last my dad heard, from the barman as my dad and mates weren't needed for the trial, the creep was in prison serving a life sentence as it wasn't the first girl he tried/did this too.
Good riddance!
Daisy not only marries another guy, she was married to that guy at the beginning of the book and they had a child.
Also, anyone who compares me to that shallow, materialistic cheater is going to get rejected quick.
And she goes BACK to being loyal to that husband after the affair and lets Gatsby get murdered…. So yeah a great lover
@@apurva616 Sounds like a keeper!
Gatsby claimed that Daisy unwillingly married someone while he was deployed overseas, but given the context of the book that sounds more like something a crazy incel might say. Besides, the theme of the book was around how money and greed corrupts even the most altruistic/kind of people
@@apurva616 Gatsby was at least a *Good sport* about it XD
@@someguy7629 OMGGGG XD ok that seriously made my day
Did he actually read/watch The Great Gatsby because it makes it pretty clear you don’t want to be Gatsby or have a Daisy in your life.
Also don't they both die a sad lone death in the end or something?
@@Scarlett.Granger he dies because he took the fall for a hit and run she did and she runs off with her husband
There are so many people that say: give him a chance, you maybe surprised.
The surprise: it goes from 0- restraining order in an hour.
Sometimes, I wonder how desperate someone can get by stalking, threatening, etc.
It's just nuts to me.
it is about control
When tinder first started, I met this guy that asked for a lot of photos, and I was like oh well, maybe he’s been catfished before, but he was funny, so I met him up in a bar close to where I lived that I frequented. He was cool at first, but a few drinks in he switched, got mad at me for other people looking at me (they weren’t), was furious when I danced with other people (married women) and then asked me if I wanted to split a bag of meth!! I excused myself to use the bathroom,and waited for him to get distracted (talking to a stripper), and I booked it toward the front door, grabbing the one guy who asked me if I wanted help getting rid of him earlier in the evening. Without asking a single question, the guy I dubbed Fabio (he looked like Fabio from the romance novels) ran me out to his truck and asked where to. I wanted to go home, but the tinder guy started texting me, threatening to hurt me, that I owed him $30 for the drinks he bought (it was ladies night, I drank free) said he knew where I lived, (with my friend and her 2 young girls) that he followed me out and knew who I left with, so i didn’t want to chance him following me to her house. So I ended up going back to Fabio’s house, where he was a pretty nice guy. Unfortunately, although Fabio was gorgeous and a nice guy, he was socially awkward sober, and he called a few times afterwards and just said “what are you up to”. And I would tell him what I was up to, and he’d say “okay, I gotta go”. It was like he was afraid to talk to me, and his house was FULL of McDonald’s cups and bags… like he looked like Adonis, but I don’t think he ate anything but McDonald’s! I never dated another man since, and never saw Tinder guy again. I did see Fabio years later, he bounced at a bar next to the coffee shop I worked in, but we never brought up that night again, and by then I was a full lesbian, and my flannel shirt and summer beanie said all the things I didn’t need to say. Fabio would bring a woman in from time to time, and they seemed happy, so karma seemed to swing in his favor.
To tinder meth guy: let’s not meet again
I hate how common this is
Fabio might have been a shy introvert, like me.
@@someguy7629 Definitely, he was a really nice guy, it just wasn’t a good fit. I’m sure he had no problem picking up women, he was muscular, and had this strong jaw and long flowing blonde hair. Now that I think back on it, he didn’t talk much even when he WAS drinking. Fortunately for him, he didn’t have to talk much, he was pretty. 😝
I’m socially awkward in a different way, I seem to get nervous when it’s too quiet and fill the void with nonsense and silliness.
If you're ever trapped in a car with someone and you need to get out, remember the three P's - Tell them you need to poop, pee, or puke. Most of the time, they'll pull over because they don't want their car ruined. Once you're out, book it in a direction perpendicular to the road so they can't follow.
Can we just talk about how misogynistic that Date auction story is? Like real shit. That's just fucking awful.
I remember seeing those in TV shows, mostly for college students, both male and female, and it was for some kind of charity or fundraiser for some program at their school.
It's all pretty f-ing stupid to be able to buy someone for a night. I can never do it or be apart of something like, I'm black, and seeing a black male standing up their smiling with his shirt off like he's the best prize on stage. IDK WHO THOUGHT THESE WERE GOOD IDEAS IN TV SHOWS THEN.
I really hope these auctions of people for charity and fundraisers STOP!!
I feel like this depends on context, like if everyone taking part was interested in doing it, or if the payments went to a charity for a silly date.. but this idea certainly was not thought through properly and just makes the whole thing unsettling.
Well, although I haven't seen this sort of fundraiser done in many years, the events often featured both men and women. Though if I remember correctly the last 'date' of this sort I saw offered was for a VERY specific thing like... lunch at a particular restaurant and on to some other very public particular event like a golf lesson at a local club. So basically not a real date at all, thank goodness. These days I only see opportunities to win lunch with some influential person. It's insane to think someone thought it was a good idea to send the young woman on an actual date with this guy!
@@blackrex828
Zoey 101 did it; the show perfectly captured why that should never been done in real life.
@@pupperpalace9889 dang forgot about that one
My wife thought I was creepy at the beginning of our college career, I do not remember what made us talk to each other, but whatever that reason was ignited our relationship. We are going on 8 years for our relationship.
This is nice to hear!
I gave that creepy guy a chance and it just turned out he was super socially awkward(didn't last over a year though). Glad it worked out for you two! Not all those who seem creepy are :)
Lucky you.
I'm soooo happy the stabbed doggo is ok. I'm also soo GODDAMN HAPPY to hear askreddit NOT read by bots. only time it's ok, when it's the creepy askreddit channels
These stories are also why I always drive myself to a first date. These stories are horrifying.
Also...why is peeing in the washing machine the creepiest one? I think the entrapment is way worse.
Onetime I met a guy, we werent dating or flirting. I complimented him ONCE. Turns out he was a narcissist and that one compliment was enough for him to start acting fucking looney. He always fought with guys and hated any of the girls in the discord server talking to any other dude but him. I once was alone with him in a vc, and he had pictures on his wall. I tried to be friendly and ask about the pictures. He showed me them all including a picture of him and his brother. Then he hid the picture of him and his brother, got angry and I was so confused. He ended up getting super angry AT ME. And told me that I can't look at his brother because I might get attracted to him and start liking HIS BROTHER AND NOT HIM. I DIDN'T LIKE HIM. If you are wondering what the compliment was to set him off, it was "You look like a statue I've seen"
the peeing in the washing machine makes me think he’s trying to act like a dog and peeing on ops clothes means that op is his
And somehow thinks that he won't get a severe beating for it. Lol
I actually have a story; when I was in high school, I was sexually harassed and stalked by a guy who would repeatedly grope my breasts and ass, as well as sending me literal hentai of fandoms I was in. The worst he did was that he tried to roofie my soda. Three times. And he tried to break into the girls lockerroom to further assault me. He went to the same gym as my dad, got buddy buddy with my dad, and since my parents suck, my dad chose to believe I was being dramatic and trying to do “what typical bitches do” by crying wolf with rape in order to ruin this guys life. It went on for two or three years before my sisters came “of age”(13) and he made a comment about my one sister having a “cute little ass” before my dad got mad and punched him in the jaw.
I wish all men visited this subreddit and remembered what they read here before interacting with women. I am sick and tired of being ridiculed for being suspicious, cautious and sometimes paranoid. People need to understand sometimes ppl like me have experience that justifies much more paranoia than my display of it.
That's very true! And good on you for standing up for yourself and keeping yourself safe!
I'm trans so I was perceived as a girl for the first part of my life and because my mom had horrendous experiences with men, she always taught me to be careful. I know for a fact that I avoided being assaulted multiple times in my life simply by being "paranoid" because I would sadly find out later that those guys tried to or did assault girls later.
The guys who say "not all men"
@@RamdomRando forgive me for this, but I don't know what this "not all men" thing is and why so many women are pressed by it. Could you explain?
@@havenvr5830 Misandrist feminists (aka ALL feminists) are angered by it.
@@avashnea well like what is it though
Sadly I can top the last story of biggest creep. I met a guy who seemed online who seemed really nice at first. We went on a few dates, but I wasn't fully feeling it. After he got into a heated argument with my D&D friends and getting kicked out of their house he drove me to a cementary in the middle of the night in a bad spot of town. He took my cellphone from me and refused to give it back till I went for a walk with him. In the cementary he forced himself on me and that's where my first kid was conceived. After that instead of taking me home he drove me to his house. He would tie me to the bed when he went to work and only untie me when he got home. If I tried to yell or run or struggle he'd beat me. He finally got fires from his job and stayed home full time. He would watch me like a hawk.
He would force himself on me daily and I was forced to conceive and raise 5 children. What's doubley fucked up is his dad knew of the abuse and turned a blind eye and continued to support him.
He forced me to marry him with literally bringing a shotgun to the church and threatening to murder my entire family their if I didn't play nice and go through with it. And I believed he really would have because this dude was super crazy.
He uses to burn and Waterboard me as well as strangle me so yes I did believe him.
I went through hell for 8 years. I finally escaped after he fell asleep before me one morning after beating me and I ran as fast as I could to the neighbors on two sprained feet.
I now have arthritis, fybromyalgia and epilepsy from his beatings as well as ptsd, anxiety, and a strong detachment disorder to my children because of how they were conceived.
On a plus note I have moved across country and now live with my wonderful boyfriend of 3 years.
Holy fuck, that's horrible. At least you're in a better situation now, and I hope that monster got arrested.
@@gigamontygolfer He only went to jail for six months because he plead insanity and then got put in a mental institution for 6 more months.
And this is why the "not all men" defense doesn't work. Yes, we know there are truly good guys out there, but because so so so many women have had this experience, it's impossible to tell who the good guys are. We have to be on the alert around all men because even the bad ones act nice at first, and that's how they take advantage of you.
friend of mine had an experience with a creep, however she was demented in the head a bit. I don't know what happened between them but I got accused as being her lover and he tried to punch me but she threw a chair at him and laughed maniacally. The dude shrunk like a rat and ran out the classroom.
All of these are so yikes I am glad I gave the dating scene a rest holy shit
The story when OP said the date locked her in the car (5:37). Reminds of the story my female friend shared that her date got upset that she didn't want to go in the house with him. So what he did is drive home, had the doors locked and started pleasuring himself. The sad part was he didn't let her out until he was done. I feel so bad for her and I just don't know what's up with this disgusting person.
We hadn't even gone on the first date, and he went around school calling me the love of his life and calling constantly. "WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME?" I don't know how he even got my number, I never gave it to him.
My ex was the same way!
He wanted to get *married after the first date* .
READ THAT AGAIN.
Good morning everyone it's like 7 am for me rn 😅 but rslash is probably the most consistent thing in my life rn
It's 3 pm here lmao
@@lolli425 lol I wish I totally forgot to sleep last night
@@chilllistener lmao
This is extremely mild compared to pretty much everyone else's experiences, but here goes.
In high school, I was an overweight girl without many friends. The lunch blocks were separated into 4 parts too, and whatever friends I did have at the time never had the same lunch as me, so I always ended up sitting alone at a corner table. That was fine by me - I was a quiet person at the time & liked to just use my time to draw. I sat at that table pretty much all 4 years I had there. Sometimes other kids would end up sitting at the same table near me, but always in their own groups.
Anyway, one year a special ed kid came up to me & asked if I would be his girlfriend. I was really uncomfortable- at that point I had no clue I'd turn out to be an ace lesbian, and I had NO experience with dating or romance. Still, I didn't want to be rude to this who maybe wasn't fully aware of the situation. So I tried to be reasonable and told him I wasn't looking for any kind of relationship, but we could start as friends and see what happened. He agreed & hung around me all lunch.
A few minutes later, the kids who were finished eating/hanging out in the lunch room were allowed to step out into the atrium. I never took that long - I either brought a meager lunch from home or went hungry because I was too socially anxious to walk up and buy a full lunch. Besides, this way I got $20 a week. I don't think that would've been enough for lunch all week at that school anyway, but I digress. Regardless, we go out to the atrium & this kid insists on me meeting his friends.
So we go & IMMEDIATELY he introduces me as his girlfriend and holds my hand. I can still remember the clammy feeling and the sudden fear locking me in place. Luckily, he didn't do anything else and eventually moved away. The group of girls he introduced me to were kinda snickering among themselves & one asked why I didn't tell him I wasn't his girlfriend - guess my mortification was just that obvious.
I spouted some excuse about being too nice and ran off to a different part of the atrium to basically hide, because we weren't allowed to actually leave unless we had a library pass or it was time to go back to class. This wouldn't be so bad, if not for the fact I spent the rest of my time at that school -over a year I'm sure - TERRIFIED of running into him again. I didn't set foot back in that lunchroom for the longest time - I just settled down in the atrium immediately, because he obviously knew what table I sat at, and every other table was always taken and overcrowded. I wished I could've just told him off & been done with it, but again, social anxiety, plus this kid was blatantly special ed & I didn't want to be a raging asshole for blowing up at him.
Shit sucked.
Creepy story:
At uni there was a guy who would flirt with everyone. Me and my bf was friends with him until I got messages on messages from other friends saying he was creepy. Another story he brought my bf drinks one night and all of a sudden my bf wasn’t there mentally like overly drunk so when I was getting him water and he disappeared I went to this guy to ask where he was and all he wanted to do was grab me constantly. After that point I dropped contact.
Until he started stalking my best friend.She was his next door neighbour in accommodation he would talk to her constantly when she was outside smoking,send her messages like I love you I adore you I miss you, he would even speak to her in Her first language, it then went to a point where she was sitting in a bench with me and a few friends and he turns up with flowers and a bottle of wine. After this he would knock on her door 7/8 times in a day leave flowers outside her door saying that he will wait for her. We went to the uni security and they done f all.
I'm a guy and I've never had a date before, only a sort of relationship in high school (she had to move away, I was sad for a while, though I knew I had to move on [I was like 15]), and boy these stories just make me cringe, I really hope that nothing crazy happens in the future when it comes to potentially dating someone
I hope that everyone is having a good Friday!
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Very!
Thanks bro, u too
Have a good one!!
Thanks man, you too!!
My School had a similar thing with all the students information. We called it stalkernet. It didn't have Home info, but had room number and dorm. I see now how it could be a bit creepy, but everyone there used it. Most of the times just to find someone in your class to get notes from. And since people didn't really have cell phones then when hanging out with someone you'd never give your number, because you'd just assume they'd look you up.
Another great day waking and baking with rslash morning 420s
Worst story I have I never dated. We were friends, but I told him that's all I wanted, repeatedly. He kept asking and kept trying to change my mind. The final straw was when he got me these cubic zirconia earrings for Valentine's Day. I told him I wasn't comfortable accepting a Valentine's gift from him. He reassured me that he gave them to all his female friends. I asked how many friends, and he threw me a number. He didn't realize he'd left the price tag on the box. I did a little quick math and then said, "so that means you actually DID have the money you owe me, but you spent it all on costume jewelry." He tried to stutter out an excuse, and then I said, "Also, apparently you never noticed my ears aren't pierced. You haven't been paying attention to me and you clearly haven't been listening to me. You don't know me and you don't respect me. I told you I don't want to date you, and now I don't want to be your friend."
Edit: The guy was not surrounded by female friends, and he did not buy earrings in bulk. I could have just called his bluff but I was hurt and angry and rolling with the lie was more devastating.
I started to date the local bad boy. Not too long into the relationship, he got into a fight at school. Later he wanted me to lie on the police report saying it wasn't him n he was with me. I told the officer the truth, I didn't see anything. About a week later, mom n I came home from dance practice to a yard full of cops, including k9. We asked the cops what was going on and they said they were looking for my boyfriend. We went inside and there he was, upstairs playing video games with my brother. My mom told the cops n they came in n arrested him. While in jail, he wrote me beautiful letters but I had had enough n broke up with him via letter. He kept sending letters about how we are made for each other n how much he loves me. By this point we dated for 2 months. Anyway, when he got out, he would come over and sing outside my window. Would prank call all the time. Threaten anyone I was dating. Eventually he went to jail again, for kidnapping his ex n kid. While there, I met my husband and had 2 kids. When he got out again, he showed up and tried to sell me drugs in front of my youngest son. I haven't seen him since, thank God.
Oh see the few creeps I've dealt with, i did it worse to them. The 1 dumb ass didn't realize I was friends with his 1 family member before I even knew he existed. So she brought me over to his parents house. I told them what was going on, I gave them $20 to go along with it. They deserved 2 Oscar's for the performances they gave. If a guy stalked me, I stalked them. I gave it right back to them. They all left me alone after that.
That's metal! I would definitely read about your stories or a series with a heroine like that!
@@Dekubud lol thank you. You just do it back and watch the sex appeal turn into uneasiness then to fear. It's amazing, cause then, you're the crazy person and even the friends leave you alone.
Just a reminder to my fellow women/presenting female folk, you don't owe men kindness.
Exactly! Sometimes to you have to throw “politeness” and “civility” out the window. Being kind in general is a good thing but not at the expense of your personal safety. It’s good to have a heart but a heart with no backbone supporting it ultimately does nobody any favors.
As a man, I agree.
@@Taizu314 Agreed! I'm so damn sick of this idea that we have to be nice. I once turned a guy down for coffee because I had something else planned that day and in response, he said "fine I don't want to go out with you anyway you fat bitch, I just asked to be nice". He later texted and said it was his friend that messaged that.
And if they stick their tongue in your mouth uninvited, you don't owe it back to them in one piece.
Best part of Friday morning, R/slash!!
That last story made me had to rewind and listen to it again. It's insane.
I love r/askreddit videos, totally underrated! You should do more of them :)
I hope you make more of these reddits because this was so messed up but great to listen to
I have a couple stories from someone who was my manager at a Taco Bell that I worked at. I was literally kidnapped and he fed me alcoholic candies in public when I was 18 & threatened to kill my friend for trying to get me out. There’s a lot more but that’s the general thing. It was super scary I thought I was gonna die.
Omg, my college had a stalkerbook too! Full names, housing locations, dorm phone #, home address and phone #, etc! Even at our small, Christian college, we found this creepy!
Reminded me of the time I was having drinks by the lake with my friend, her brother and a new friend they'd made. New guy seemed nice enough at first, we were all having a good time, but then he got handsy.
He'd grab my hips or belt loops, pulling me towards him, and I'd try to get space again but he kept grabbing me, to the point my friends bf told him to knock it off.
Eventually its late and we decided to walk to my friends house, we all got up, bf walking ahead. We stopped when we noticed the new guy wasn't following, so we asked what was up and he said it was rude to leave his buddy behind like that.
Obviously confused and a bit drunk we were like wtf are you on about, then he snapped, yelling and gesturing to an empty spot by him and telling us we shouldn't just leave his friend behind. Then we realized that he had literally been talking to a empty space all night, we just thought he was muttering junk or something, so we booked it, unfortunately he followed but we beat him to the house and locked up.
TLDR: Let a guy have drinks with us, got handsy then flipped out that we wouldn't invite his imaginary buddy home with us
That very last one has nothing to do with being a creep but something far, far worse, I just cannot think of a proper word to define it.
My elementary school used to have a giant map hanging in the front office with the home location of every student who attended there listed on it.anyone who walked in the school could see it .it was a major security issue but for some reason the school never realized this
When I was about 20, my bf at the time and I moved in with an old friend of his. Dude seemed nice at first, but it quickly became appearent that he believed himself dominant over anyone nearby, and assumed I was going to be just another lackey. Well, I'm not exactly the lackey type, lol. Before long, we were butting heads all the time.
The house we lived in was very old (read: non-compliant with housing codes) and so the lock on the front door required a key from either side. The back door was sealed shut. Dude had promised to get my bf and me keys to the lock, but - surprise, surprise - never did. One day, we got into yet another fight, and I demanded to be let out of the house. He refused, and instead went upstairs with his guest, demanding not to be disturbed.
Once he was gone, I started checking windows. We were on the house's first floor, but the windows were at least 8 to 10 feet off the ground outside. I found a window over a patch of grass and decided it was my best bet. I opened the window, and started testing how to best position myself for the jump, when roomie came barreling back downstairs, exclaiming "What are you doing!?!"
One leg already out the window, I looked over my shoulder and said angrily "You will NOT keep me in here against my will." (But with more F-bombs, lol.)
He snaps back, "Fine, come back inside, and I'll open the door. I don't want you damaging the window." I did, and he actually did let me out.
Within 24 hours, I moved my cat to my mother's house, as I cared more about him than anything else. However, I didn't really want to move back in with my mother, so I stalled for a week before packing my shit and doing exactly that.
My bf had to stay put, but he later apologized, saying "Now I remember why I stopped hanging out with him." Years later, I heard that the delightful fellow was in prison for murdering his ex-wife. smdh
Last year one of my mom’s friends came over to drop off a kitten I was going to foster. He noticed my claddagh ring and knew that how I wore it meant that I was single and looking for a relationship. Needless to say, that combined with his good looks made me have a crush on him.
Next time he came over, I’d heard that my aunt had been hospitalized and I immediately called her while doing chores. While I was talking, he kept showing me his bank account to show how much money he had and wrote a poem about me. It was rude and unsettling, but I still let him have my number.
He proceeded to spam me for two months with random things. I had the excuse I was working and never replied. He even sent a picture of his son that was several years old and mom told me that he hasn’t seen him in a while. I don’t go for fathers anyway, but that set up some major red flags for me. Serious Nice Guy vibes.
I just started greyrocking him whenever I saw him and I guess he took the hint because he left me alone after. He was warned about his behavior and how I don’t put up with it, and didn’t listen so any interest left the chat for good. Haven’t heard from him since.
Greyrocking?
@@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement Becoming unresponsive to the manipulative or abusive individual to create disinterest. To become just another grey rock in the pile as you blend away to escape.
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Oh I get now, thanks.
Locking someone in your car and refusing to let them out is a kidnapping offense and will justify a nice stint in the gray bar hotel. Smash the window, carry a window breaker, don't take that shit.
He threatened to unalive himself
Me: Oh no! The CZcams has striken!
Our school released an email of all the students addresses, age, and bus numbers… I was in that list. This email also reached people who didn’t go to the school!
Good morning rslash. Thanks for the stories. Have a great day
I was 15 at the time Me and my friend were staying near this creepy kid for a few days as part of a holiday we were taking together after he introduced himself and was all polite but soon he started to compare me to my friend saying how I’m ugly and fat and he wouldn’t date me but he would go for my friend, I was a shy and non confrontational person so I never said anything, my friend didn’t either, he then invited us to his house where him and my friend played games on his Xbox while he refused to let me sit anywhere I was only allowed to stand in the corner of the room and not talk, play the game or sit or anything, he offered my friend a drink but didn’t bother to ask me, when we got out the house we were both weirded out by his behaviour and tried to stay away from him, we ran into him on a walkway and he insisted on going down to a site where he would throw bottles and stuff to relieve anger and we reluctantly agreed, he ended up ordering me to pick up bottles for him and bring them to him and started belittling me because I’m a “female who has to do what he tells me to” he threw a bottle and it didn’t break so he told me to go fetch it and I did and instead of waiting for me to get in the safe zone he chucked a glass bottle right at me and it cut my leg when it shattered, we ended up just flat out ignoring and avoiding him and then we left the site once our holiday was over…
I had a similar situation to neckbeard once. In my freshman year this guy asked me out and I turned him down and we used to leave our door open in my dorm and a few days after I turned him down I was getting ready and had a glass bottle come flying in at me. I don’t think he honestly meant for it to come so close to me but it was scary in the moment. The next year he started dating a girl who lived in the room next to me and I would see him a good amount and he told me that he never meant for it to be that close and he was drunk and apologized for acting like a jerk and he ended up being a really nice guy and is still with the same girl. Everyone screws up sometimes and acts wrong but I respect that he owned up to it and improved
Oof. I remember reading this post. A very large number of the commenters talk about how they were assaulted, beaten, etc. there’s a reason women are cautious. It’s not usually personal
thanks for making me laugh at people threatening to UNALIVE themselves 😂😂 creative
Thanks for the video!
I hope videos like this help dudes who might buy a little bit into this mindset of feeling entitled to women they're attracted to realize how terrifying and commonplace it is for women to have to deal with this stuff. I can guarantee that every single girl you know that's at least 18 years old has at least one story like this. Because I'm pretty average looking, kinda fat, and don't dress up and have had no less than THREE creepy guys stalk me and a fourth who would threaten to off himself if I didn't allow him to sexually harass me. And these are just the guys I had to deal with for weeks/months. This doesn't include strangers i was able to make myself disappear from like the guy who was flirting with me at work after being banned from our sister location for sending unsolicited nudes to a minor.
The stalkernotes had me gagging on my tea, like that's a very very VERY bad idea. Also these people are walking around with red flags as capes holy shit
The story about the guy who acted like he and the girl had been together forever reminded me of my ex. Last year, I decided to give a friend of mine a chance. He’s actually a really good person, just a bit idealistic and inexperienced and we’re still friends. But because we had that friendship established, he went through the relationship so fast that a month in felt like we had been married for 10 years and had nothing more to do than watch tv. I knew I had to cut the relationship off when he told me he loved me but never actually bothered to get to know me on a deeper level than just friends. That was my FIRST and only relationship. So, guys, when a girl asks you to take it slow, take it slow and be mindful that she might want to get to know you on a deep emotional level.
My ex was a groomer. He used to constantly hassle me for pics or to do dirty roleplays. We were online dating and I was only like, 13. So I didn't know any better and assumed relationships were just like that. He used to threaten to hurt himself if I didn't send pics or video chat nude. I felt like it was something I was supposed to do and it shattered my expectations for relationships. Last I heard from him, he stole my pics and used them to solicit from other minors pretending to be me. Needless to say, I found someone much better and we've been together for almost 6 years now. We're engaged and he saved me from that relationship. He also knew I was against having kids (albeit I was about 14/15 at the time but I knew I didn't want kids at the time or ever) and would tell me things like "if you loved me, you'd have a baby with me" or "but I know you'd make a great mom". He got mad when I told him I didn't want or really necessarily like kids or the idea of being pregnant. Yeah I'm glad I left. When I caught him cheating, he put up this sob story so I wouldn't leave and threatened to kill himself if I left. He used to recruit his "family" to blow up my phone trying to convince me to stay with him. So yeah. There's that
ugh we never dated but i had this kid.....i was in highschool and had just moved for my last year,it sucked all my friends ive left behind and now im at a new school.first day i was sitting on the bus and doodling in my note book as i did when ever i was around someone i did not know and didnt wanna talk to. Que my first stalker experience he saw me doodling and for the next few months followed me to all my classes(we sadly had my last class together) which lead him to follow me to the bus i took home and GET ON IT to see whats top i got off at.i would get off 4 stops from my home and fuckin walk so he wouldnt see where i lived becuase the bus driver knew him and knew his mom didnt work/live around there (thank god) i ended up finding a group of girls who did art and they broke down to me that this kid apparently has a type. artist geeky little girls. i fit the bill and becuase his newest obsession every year it was one of these girls till it came to me. dude was just nuts.
These are terrifying!!! Would 100% listen to more.
I had a similar situation to the one girl. I had never went on a date with a stranger before it was always a friend of a friend but this guy approached me while I was out with a group of girls and I thought that took guts. He gave me an address to meet him for dinner and it was his mother's house where he lived. His mom cooked dinner and I ate with them in the most awkward situation I've ever been in. He talked to me like he was so smart because he could hunt and how he would teach me so much. I guess he thought I'd be impressed? I tried to leave after and he wouldn't let me shut my car door. He stood holding the door open for hours talking and begging me to tell him what he did wrong and asking why I want going to spend the night
She's married before the story really starts, while I think Gatsby knew Daisy before she was married, I don't think he became The Great Gatsby until around the time she was married or after.
I'm a 19yo girl and this vid just scared the sh out of me
Hey RSlash can you do more content like this. While horriblely creepy it’s very intriguing
Askreddit is easily my favorite when covered by Rslash!
I am way late to the party on this one, but I once dated a genuinely good man whose behavior began to devolve over a couple of years. Stalking, literally chasing me down the sidewalk, hacking my social media, cheated on me and then blamed me, etc. Every time I tried to leave he threatened suicide and I had recently lost a friend to suicide, so I couldn't let that happen. But I eventually noped the hell out of there and told him to do that if that's what he really wanted. We ran into each other quite a while later, and it turned out he had undiagnosed schizophrenia, which explained everything. To the best of my knowledge, he is doing much better now, but it was crazy traumatic for me.
"He threatened to unalive himself."
Me: "Do a triple flip when you jump off that bridge, Mr. Manipulator."
I did not know the ambulances were free in the UK!
Happy Friday rSlash fam!! Have a great weekend! 🌞
you too!
Same to you!
@@eksboks148 Thank you!!!
I want to hear more details on that last one, omg! 😱
I kept thinking we'd heard the worst and then we kept getting worse. In order the top 4 definitely have to be: Actual kidnapper who kept a woman in his basement, man faking alcoholism to get attention and leaving rat corpses and going stab crazy, teenager who tried to choke a girl to unconsciousness and wouldn't acknowledge other guys, and actually I think it has to be a tie between pee in washing machine guy, the guy who refused to take the woman home, and the guy who refused to get the hell out of the woman's car and kept insisting they were soulmates. Like, all of these are terribly creepy, but those were the worst for me.
I'm terrified to get back into dating after being a sheltered good girl who didn't date until 18. I went with the first guy to show me the time of day, dated him for 2 years until I found out he had been having a second secret relationship for nearly a year, broke up for a year, then got back with him for 4 more years until 3 more instances of other women contacting me on Instagram to let me know they were also in relationships with him and he had been tricking us.
The last time that happened, I broke down at work, called my mom to ask if I could stay with her, and then we went and got my stuff out of the apartment while he was gone. I was so betrayed and hurt, but he had a way of making me believe he was sincerely sorry and that he really did love me, so I began trying to be friendly again.
That Halloween, he invited me to go to a pumpkin patch with him and his two friends. I thought it would be okay because we would all be there. I had mild fun and I really thought things would be okay like that, as I don't have a lot of friends and wanted some. Then he drove me home (we still lived in the same complex bc mom also lives there), but he said we needed to stop by his apartment to so he could give me something. My gut told me not to go in, but I did and he gave me a bag of candy, talked for a minute, then when I was going to leave, he opened up for a hug. When I went in, he began trying to kiss me and turned me around to shove me up against the table, grinding on me. I obviously started yelling for him to get off me and I squeezed my way out of his grasp and just started crying. Then he basically said something like "I did that to show you you do that want this." Which...WHAT THE FUCK?! You sexually assault me to show me I don't want to get back with you??! It didn't even make any fucking sense. I ran out of there and collapsed in the alleyway between garages, just sobbing for a while until I slunked home.
It's now two years later and I feel lonely all the time, but I also have such bad anxiety that I never want to go out or do anything. I still don't have friends.
He was my colleague who sat next to me at work. He told everyone there that we were a couple, and he got increasingly jealous of any guy who would come to talk to me, work related issue or not.
It got so uncomfortable that I asked to change seats so that I could feel less threatened with him, but ultimately, I quit.
He came to my house and made a scene about how I alledgedly knew that deep down I was made for him.
All that because we had one drink, once.
So I was only listening to this video and not reading along so when the last story came up my brain automatically was like 3 hours, but 3 weeks is infinity times worse!
This is the kind of crap that keeps me up at night when I think about my daughter going away to college.
Speaking of peeing in the washer I was hanging out with my friend some of his friends and some of their friends. The other guys said that he knew someone who would pee in the shower and poo in the trash can because that guy didn't have a working toilet. Apparently he did that over at somebody else's house by accident is he forgot that they had a working toilet no he did not rinse down his pee.
I had a guy I went out with it was literally ALL night. Didn't get back til day light. I was so tired I fell asleep and didn't wake up til around 2pm. I didn't have a house phone only one cell phone at the time that was my moms I accidentally left off only to turn it on to 20 MISSED CALLS AND 20 VOICE-MAILS. One would be massive name calling cussing insults then the next would be apologizing, then back to name calling an back and forth back and forth. After this went on for days Id had enough
This guy was literally INSANE, TOXIC AND ABUSIVE. For a YEAR straight of NOT ANSWERING A SINGLE CALL THIS WENT ON. EVERY SINGLE DAY A MIN OF 100 CALLS that went on like this...I was terrified he was stalking me on the phone/internet like this...I just THANK GOD TO THIS DAY he never found out where I lived...he once told me a girl called him and had him meet her somewhere only for him to get jumped by a group of guy...now I know why...he brought it on himself
listen to, and trust your gut, when a person gives off creep vibes, run! you don't owe them an explanation, you don't owe them to be polite and you NEVER owe anyone "a chance"
Yes, this is true! Commenting mostly to boost your comment!
Our "guts" are strongly linked with the emotional center of our brain that will warn us when it picks up on subtle warning signs we don't consciously pick up on.
Finally an Askreddit post!
That last story reminds me of the Fritzl case.
To the story with the beer ... someone dripped something into the foam of the beer? Yeah the last drops of the bottle or tap. Die she never order a beer before? That poor guy.
I gave the creep a chance in high school and it resulted in one of the worst times of my life. Our relationship lasted three months. Three months of him aggressively trying to grope me at every chance. Three months of him testing this weird theory he had on me.. he thought he could create a formula to predict human behavior and would test his theories on me without my consent and would get violent if I didn't respond how he thought I should. He also was obsessed with the idea of weaponry made from lawnmower blades. When I finally ended things, he threw me into a bookshelf and his little brother had to help me limp away.
He proceeded to stalk me and my friends for the remaining three years of high school. He attempted to force a kiss on my friend who looked a lot like me, tried to feed another with a peanut allergy a reeses cup, talked openly and loudly about wanting to force himself on me and my friend who looked like me... then senior year he stalked one of my friends and, when she introduced him to her boyfriend at the time in hopes he would back off, he left a note on her desk the next day detailing how she was a back stabbing two faced whore and how, if he ever saw her boyfriend again, he would "put a stake through his heart and crucify him".
I didn't see him for about two years after graduation since I moved for college. But when I came back I started attending a public dnd group at the local library. He found out and I got a message from his younger brother warning me that my ex offered to pay him to sit in on the sessions and send reports on me.
I haven't heard much from him since I moved not long after that. That was 2018.
I have never been so grateful to be single
To add my own, I was only 16 and he told me he was 24. I know. I was wrong and I learned later I was just a lost naiive child under a creeps spell, thinking it was true love. We "dated" long distance for a year or so over Playstation network and he was never inappropriate, just very romantic and old fashioned. He swept a child abuse victim off her feet at a vulnerable point in her life. The moment it got the most real for me though wasn't until I was 19 and he was convicted and charged with involuntarily manslaughter after getting into a road rage incident with some guy that pulled a tire iron on him. Scarily as it is for me to think of now, that's not what drove me to ghost him... it wasn't until a few months into his sentence when he sobbed to me that he missed me more than anything in the world and couldn't stop thinking of me. That I was the only thing keeping him going through the days and nights. The worst was he told me he carved my name into the walls of his cell. Multiple times. Over and over. This. Was my push too far. I regret everything about those awful 3 years except for the knowledge it gave me to be safer in the future!
Addendum: found out later he was 32 at the time we met
RSlash says unalive.
Me: When was the last time I watched a Captain Sparkles video?