I was bullied in my early teens and May be that is why, plus , I used to have a nice heart and did not see so much the bad in people, only the good...I finally learned the lesson 😅
Its not about words.....but the greatest problem is about the analyzis about it, the more you analyze during day, the less energy and happiness you feel. The analyzis shifts your mood not the words itself.
@@thespiritualgodess7036 kind - Having or showing a friendly, generous, sympathetic, or warm-hearted nature. Nice - kind or friendly This is what I got when I looked it up in my phone’s dictionary. People like to play games with words nowadays like definitions are a suggestion.
Love feels safe.....wow! Some people have never felt safe, and when they almost do something, invariably happens to rip it away from them. So they grow older, always expecting a disaster.
She is right in most cases, It all comes down to being self aware. Meditating on what you truly want & find out who you are. Love yourself to accept healing, healthy love. 🙏
Very interesting, this woman describes something she has never experimented ... If you are peaceful , when you are in love,it is not love , it is attachement , the same feeling you have with non abusive parents as caregivers... and the problem of abusive partners is related to asymmetrical love leading to manipulation and pain ...which is very common because symmetrical infatuation is very rare ... I advise to read "Emma Bovary" to understand that .. I am sad for her ...
That is true of all people who have little insight. Love by its very nature is extremely hazardous. It brings pain and joy, just as life does. There is only 1 way to protect yourself and that is to not take part. You cannot be in love and not vulnerable. Go away and live a bit of life then see how you feel once you are a little more mature. It is highly damaging to the couple or family for you not to be bringing 100% commitment. If you can't, stay single, you will enjoy it far more.
I wish I new this way long ago, how sad that many of us are ignorant to mental health could save a lot of families and prevent divorces if it was more accessible
Include it that you knew it, if you come frome a disffunsion family you with it care, becasue we are like are parents. Everything have to be with the childhood
I think we also tend to live out through ourselves and our perception the things we lived in our childhood, thus not being able to see when it is different with our partner.
Shes only half right. Most people seek out from people the things they missed as children. Aka very young women with daddy issues looking for older men that makes them feel safe and men seeking strong mother figures to nurture them because their own mother didn’t.
Learning anything new never feels safe it's very uncomfortable. You are pushing past your limits and finding out how to be trusting and vulnerable. There's fear involved.
Știi Sadia amindoua au la baza pasiunea, doar ca în iubire cind iubești devine ceva de neoprit ptr ca te simți iubita pe cind în cealaltă parte dispare ca ceata cind îți dai seama ca ești uzata din diverse motive doar de el știut și apare conflictul, tristețea cind el folosește foarte bine și mult deprivarea emoționala ca razbunare exact cum fac băieții smecheri în scoli cind nu fac față fetelor.
Love is all that but it can also be a heart attack and the worst thing that can ever happen to you frs. Love is a journey full of ups and downs!!😔💯❤️🥷🙏
Unfortunately I don't know how to accept complements or have someone who freely gives me their love and attention just because they do truly love you and both want and need to show me Mike don't worry leave your guard down superman because even you more than deserves true love ❤
You seem to just made it simple when everyone is different. Nothing is really black and white. but i really wish that its just like what you are saying.
I think the logic is flawed , it’s the other way around actually . When u have childhood trauma or abusive childhood memories , you become aware about the same and try to stay away from suvh atm.
Love feels safe ❤
Unhealed and unhealthy versus healthy and healed.
Its worth doing the work to feel at Peace 🕊️
No matter how old you both get,never stop holding hands never stop dancing never stop saying "I love you"🤵👰
I was bullied in my early teens and May be that is why, plus , I used to have a nice heart and did not see so much the bad in people, only the good...I finally learned the lesson 😅
There is a difference between nice and kind .
Its not about words.....but the greatest problem is about the analyzis about it, the more you analyze during day, the less energy and happiness you feel.
The analyzis shifts your mood not the words itself.
Not when you read the definitions.
@@Yay-hovah okay
@@Yay-hovah kindness =generous
Nice =pleasant
@@thespiritualgodess7036 kind - Having or showing a friendly, generous, sympathetic, or warm-hearted nature.
Nice - kind or friendly
This is what I got when I looked it up in my phone’s dictionary. People like to play games with words nowadays like definitions are a suggestion.
She told me she doesn’t get endorphins when she’s with me “like in other relationships. I feel peaceful when I’m with you.”
Love feels safe.....wow! Some people have never felt safe, and when they almost do something, invariably happens to rip it away from them. So they grow older, always expecting a disaster.
She is right in most cases, It all comes down to being self aware. Meditating on what you truly want & find out who you are. Love yourself to accept healing, healthy love. 🙏
Well spoken 👏
Maybe two kind people will make a good go of it
Got this at a veryy veryy right time in life yaaa love is safe
You saved me
❤❤❤ exactly what I need love feel safe and trustworthy
We can change from our abusive past❤
Very interesting, this woman describes something she has never experimented ... If you are peaceful , when you are in love,it is not love , it is attachement , the same feeling you have with non abusive parents as caregivers... and the problem of abusive partners is related to asymmetrical love leading to manipulation and pain ...which is very common because symmetrical infatuation is very rare ... I advise to read "Emma Bovary" to understand that .. I am sad for her ...
That is true of all people who have little insight. Love by its very nature is extremely hazardous. It brings pain and joy, just as life does. There is only 1 way to protect yourself and that is to not take part. You cannot be in love and not vulnerable. Go away and live a bit of life then see how you feel once you are a little more mature. It is highly damaging to the couple or family for you not to be bringing 100% commitment. If you can't, stay single, you will enjoy it far more.
What a beautiful fact!
I wish I new this way long ago, how sad that many of us are ignorant to mental health could save a lot of families and prevent divorces if it was more accessible
Include it that you knew it, if you come frome a disffunsion family you with it care, becasue we are like are parents. Everything have to be with the childhood
Love doesn't feel safe and peaceful. Feeling save and peaceful isn't included in falling in love. It's skill learned trough hardest lesson.
My parents were narcissists and it wasn’t a good upbringing but I choose to marry a stable kind woman with good parents
Protect her at all cost
I think we also tend to live out through ourselves and our perception the things we lived in our childhood, thus not being able to see when it is different with our partner.
Shes only half right. Most people seek out from people the things they missed as children. Aka very young women with daddy issues looking for older men that makes them feel safe and men seeking strong mother figures to nurture them because their own mother didn’t.
No, it is not that simple
So Deep meaning
Your attachment will turn you back to her over and over again, so stop the drama. You will be back to her again, non stop
I had a very abusive mother. When I was 19 I met my first girlfriend.
She turned out to be abusive as well. My own fault
Thank you!
So true 👍
As soon as “Safe” isn’t safe anymore please don’t lie to self! Move on to higher ground
My husband is my true love. Safe & peaceful ❤
I'll give here that definition of love. Makes sense.
This is so true 👍
Amen ❤
Nice, very inspiring. Thank you, Much Obliged
Yep😊😊😊
She was always on her phone. And her excuse was her mom.
❤
A beautiful woman you are much insight Sadia
Learning anything new never feels safe it's very uncomfortable. You are pushing past your limits and finding out how to be trusting and vulnerable. There's fear involved.
Știi Sadia amindoua au la baza pasiunea, doar ca în iubire cind iubești devine ceva de neoprit ptr ca te simți iubita pe cind în cealaltă parte dispare ca ceata cind îți dai seama ca ești uzata din diverse motive doar de el știut și apare conflictul, tristețea cind el folosește foarte bine și mult deprivarea emoționala ca razbunare exact cum fac băieții smecheri în scoli cind nu fac față fetelor.
True.
How does one break free from attachment without being alone?
You are a very Beautiful women I love your advice
So true😮
Εγώ πάντως είχα τον καλύτερο γονιό του κόσμου. ❤
True
💜💜💜💜💜💜
Not in all cases
Nice -- I replay the video of your interpretation of female hypergamy and manipulation then here this from you while looking at my relationships
That's real
Agree
You look so beautiful youth shined from your saying noce yhings for careing for us guys i didemt even know that love feels safe thats epic.
Don’t get attached. And to bs either.
💯
Love is all that but it can also be a heart attack and the worst thing that can ever happen to you frs. Love is a journey full of ups and downs!!😔💯❤️🥷🙏
That’s deep waters 😳 🤯 🫨🫠
Unfortunately I don't know how to accept complements or have someone who freely gives me their love and attention just because they do truly love you and both want and need to show me Mike don't worry leave your guard down superman because even you more than deserves true love ❤
Bro my girlfriend says the same thing, I love her for who she is and unconditionally and there's days that she really struggles with that.
the first time she is saying something that makes sense
Or is it the first time you comprehend?
Yeah nice guys are unfamiliar but it feels safe
You seem to just made it simple when everyone is different. Nothing is really black and white. but i really wish that its just like what you are saying.
I think the logic is flawed , it’s the other way around actually . When u have childhood trauma or abusive childhood memories , you become aware about the same and try to stay away from suvh atm.
It's called familiar spirits and you fall in love with spirit" demons" because you've known them
Everyone is abusive to me but not to others
Everyone?
Armchair psychology.
Scary
Not so true.you can attach because they be fake not familiar. But love is safe
I did the opposite ❤
THAT'S A LIE sadia kahn.... YOU VE GOT THAT ONE WRONG!!!
And what is your expertise, seing as you think you know better than her?
My girl slaps me like my mother did
Not true darling you want a decent guy who is awesome
I see where she's coming from but that's not necessarily true
This is andrew tates sister😂😂😂😂
Chaos is for nasty people
She looks like she was abused look at the side of her face 💀
I don't agree with her words
Im so doom’d so i will find a prtner that will yell at me 247
Nonsense.
What is she talking about 😂
Why even bother
Pick me girl
Wrong Afraid to let go attachment
Afraid to change
Love can turn to obsession
Very true❤
❤
True
💯
True