How To Make and Receive Gifts | Gift-Giving Etiquette
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I am Jamila Musayeva, an international social etiquette consultant and the author of two books "Etiquette: the least you need to know" and "Afternoon Tea Etiquette." My books are available in English language in print only. If you wish to order, please email info@jamilamusayeva.com or my website: jamilamusayeva.com/order-books
It is that time of the year…
Since it is the holiday season, I decided to dedicate this video to the etiquette of gift giving and receiving. In this will you, I will give you a short historical background of the act of gift giving, talk about some general etiquette rules and gift taboos as well as share my personal favorite gifts.
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this channel is literally saving me as an introvert girl
Happy to hear it 💫
whats wrong being inrovert?
@@anuj007thakur there's nothing wrong to be introvert
@@anuj007thakur there's nothing wrong being an introvert. She is Just saying it because we introverts have lots of struggles because of our anxiety
Introvert girls are boring.
When you talked about wrapping, it reminded me of my college days. I had very little money and was invited to a little girl's birthday. I bought her a set of coloring pencils from the supermarket but had nothing left to buy wrapping paper. So I went home I took a sheet of white paper and painted it with a lot of colors. At the party, I was a bit ashamed she had so many big, gifts wrapped in shiny, beautiful papers. But when she got to mine, she just caressed the painted paper and let out a soft: " wooow!".
I had tears in my eyes, intention and care really do count when gift giving.
Anyway, thank you for your very informative video.
Thanks for sharing this. Gift giving is not about a price tag but the care and the attention you give. It matters more ☺️
@@JamilaMusayeva Oh thank you for your reply, it's really nice that you interact this way with your audience. You are as nice as you are elegant :). I follow you on instagram too. Have a lovely day!
This is a lovely story and she's lucky to have you as a friend/acquaintance. :)
At the end if the , it's all about Feelings 😇.
This actually made me cry. 😭
Sendung you some virtual hugs! I hope you in a better spot by now, but giving a gift although you don't have the money is really precious.
Finally a guideline for an awkward girl like me, who gets excited and doesnt know what to do when receiving a gift lmao
I like awkward girls more, girls like her are so uncomfirtable to talk
@Anna crystal hahaha
@@amogh708 exactly!!
@Anna crystal no one asked for your reply, why you offended?
@Anna crystal I'm just telling a general thing, awkward girls have more friends than those have etiquettes
Very interesting video! In the Asian (Chinese) culture when receiving a gift you should pretend not to be interested 😅. You never open it in front of the person gifting your gift, you always do it in private. If you open it in front of them you look greedy.
So if you ever gift a gift to an Asian person and they don't seem impressed, it is because to them opening it is rude.
Thank you for sharing this. I mentioned that in Asia, you would not unwrap the gift in front of others. Perhaps for that particular reason.
@@JamilaMusayeva Thank you for replying! That was what we were thought, not open gifts in front of the person giving it. And also politely deny the gift and afterwards accept it. Because not accepting the gift is also rude 😅
@@Pluizje1998 Haha yea thats true! Asian gift receivers usually say "oh you didn't have to do this.....if you insist, i'll take it. Thank you!"
@@nghibluu Same with the red envelops, pretend you don't want it until if you deny again it will be rude and then accept 😂
@@Pluizje1998 :))))))))))))
For me, handmade gifts are above everything. They are priceless :)
GOOD
Those are the kind of gifts I love giving because I took the time to create something unique for someone it always feels good : )
@@mxxxn I would love to receive them too :D As I always make them for my friends and family :)
I hate them 😂🤫 and then u have 2 keep it 😥
@@andreak.5739 Haha
you smiling and saying "that's a huge mistake" needs to be a GIF
yes lol
i just made it
@@MalaikaB bless you
Right
@Rania Hameed Chaudhry 8.56
Great video
Next video topic ideas
1 House tour
2 house etiquette
3 how to attend guest
4 study tips
5 school etiquette
( i know you are not in school lol)
I'll say in Chinese cultures, money is the wedding/Chinese New Year gift - usually crisp, new bills in a red envelope.
Only to family or acquaintances as well?
@@JamilaMusayeva family and acquaintances as well. In Chinese New Year even if you are visiting your friends' houses, if they have kids, you might need to give all of them the red envelops as well!
Same thing in south India, too
I really love this culture! Red envelopes are my fav! 🧧
红包🧧 yeah! Always giving out red packets . New Years , weddings, when baby passes 100 days old and the 12th birthday ~ red packets are great .
Her voice is so relaxing!
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It sounds like ASMR, love it
WHY ARE YOU SOO SOO PERFECT? I really aspire to become a sophisticated lady like you when ill grow up. LOVE FROM INDIA.
P.S - I thought you are 21 before I started to binge watch all your vids.
Thank you ☺️
What’s her actual age??
@@kanchanbehera8450 29 I think
I love how we get a little history lesson with these etiquette videos!
Glad you like it ☺️
I once gifted a bottle of olive oil to a friend! It was an amazing virgin olive oil made in my country! She loved it and thought it was original! 😅
It's a great gift but I'd say only for those who love cooking at home or spend time in the kitchen. It's a waste if someone just eats out and the bottle is shoved in a cabinet somewhere.
I love that! That’s such a nice gift!
Nice gift! I’d have definitely appreciated it too ☺️
I was dating a rich girl who travels alot, she bought me a bottle of some expensive Olive Oil, and was looking at my face to see me excited, i literally don't know anything about olive oil, long story short, i used it to fry eggs... cus i didnt know what to do with it
@@vilieto we are actually Lebanese and we cook EVERYTHING with olive oil it's part of our culture so we do value it alot! Many middle eastern country are like that! But you are right it's definitely a tricky gift
I love that you talk about the history at the beginning ❤️
Thank for mentioning that ☺️
I always feel awkward when others read the card I wrote them out loud, that was meant for them, not everyone else 😅
Which is why they should read it to themselves, not outloud ☺️
In India people give money in decorative envelopes as wedding gifts. This can be given to both the close ones as well as someone you don't know that well.
Money is also given to children when a relative visits them.
Thanks for sharing ☺️
@@JamilaMusayeva ☺️
In japan it is normal to give money for weddings
I feel like it is good to give money as a gift to someone whom we don't know very well. Because it is better than gifting something that they don't like and they can get whatever they want with that money.
@@sumabhat8983 True.
I liked all of these points. Beautiful presentation, Ms. Musayeva. I will add something that a friend taught me many years ago, and I think it’s important. After you have sent a gift to someone for any occasion, even for a wedding or birth of a child, under normal circumstances do NOT contact that person to see if the gift was received, or ask if they liked your gift. Once you have gifted someone, your work is done. Forget about the gift. The receiver will acknowledge the gift (hopefully) or they might not. Any inquiries about the gift could result in embarrassment for the gift receiver and will very likely not make you feel better about the lack of a “thank you”. Thoughts, anyone?
You are very welcome. And yes, I agree. It is up to them to follow up.
Her voice is so soft and gentle it almost gave me ASMR.
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Her voice and female taste are the best things about her.
Out of context:
It is 2 am and I was having some anxiety attacks. Your video calmed me down and I learned something.
Thank you :)
Happy to hear that my videos were helpful in that way ☺️
Ohh, I hear (from Above) that both Rose🌹 and Litsea Etherial Oils could help you in those Situations. Enjoy ❤❤❤
I love the idea about using magazines for wrapping a gift 🎁
I've been using brown paper this year for my Christmas gifts and then I drew some ornaments and stars with a marker. It looks special because it's personalised. It's the small touches that make a difference 💖
Love this idea! Will start doing it too ☺️
@@JamilaMusayeva I think your kids would love it too 😊
I like this very much. My dad does calligraphy. I enjoy his wrapping paper so much that I sometimes keep them. I don't really like newspaper as wrapping paper. I always have to think about this episode in Gilmore girls where this girl wrapped her gift with some bad news in front. So that the gift receiver couldn't complain about the gift as their was something way worse happening in the world.
Video suggestion: Must-have clothing pieces.
Literally the big sister I never had... Thank you for doing these videos, I learn so much 💕
Aw! Thanks! ☺️
Your video itself is a gift for us
Aww thank you!
Tip #5: In the past, my skin was quite bad. I received a gift from a man who wanted to date me. It was a skin care product for bad skin. I felt offended and never met the man again.
Oh, I am sorry to hear that!
The audacity 🤣🤣
Me being an Indian felt really nice u mentioning TAJ MEHEL🔥
Whatever you choose to give, I hope all of you will support your respective local small/medium-sized enterprises this year.
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I agree 💯
I love this idea!
Please,please,make a video on dressing ettiqute.
yes plz!
Yes please
Your voice is a therapy ♥️It's so calming 🌹
Thank you!
I love how your videos has background and some history.
Everyone at that point will know if someone complimented the giver not the gift it means he didn’t like it😂🌚
Thank you. It is best to find something honest to thank about that a generic thank you 😉
I love how you always include historical information on each topic in your videos. Please keep that up! ❤️
Happy you like it ☺️
I agree it is person specific. I grew up in North America, opening a gift was not expected, not even at a party so as to not put the giver in a position in front of other guests. Ask. Alcohol used to be the thing when going to a persons home, especially for a meal or as a thank you but that has changed as we have become aware of addictions. I travel internationally and people do ask for lovely pens or a tea from the location I visit. When people stayed with my grandmother the first time they gave her a teacup/saucer or gift certificate to the place she paid to do the laundry. Especially at weddings or graduations money is appreciated and needed. Non scented candle if you do not know their scent. So agree with the budget. We also changed holiday gifting to name exchanging due to not wanting more 'stuff'. Do not expect the person to keep the gift. So agree with wrapping and I have cloth that a Japanese friend gifted to me years ago. It has come/gone from my life for 20 years. Such good points on receiving gifts. It has been a problem in extended family as many do not give any thanks. Some adults have avoided family gatherings and limited visits by children while not sharing they avoid it because they feel guilt at neglected thank you's. A thanks is so important. How do we deal with relatives who give us gifts based on what they think we should like or how we should decorate or continue inappropriate gifts for children?
I really like how you emphasize considering the receiver in all aspects of gift-giving. Especially when you mentioned to consider the receivers feelings about the environment/going paperless etc. I have personally been trying to reduce my eco-footprint, and I always appreciate when other people show respect for my feelings and beliefs with small gestures like omitting the wrapping. Great video, Jamila!
Yes, if they wrap the gifts it is also nice if they don't fold it as much. I like to open them carefully and keep the wrapping paper. Then i will reuse it. Only if it still looks nice of course.
I was browsing videos on youtube with my daughter she actually observe:mama:how soft spoken this lady is😍
Aww thank you! Say hi to her from me ☺️
I would be interested to see a video on hosting guests in formal vs casual settings 😊
In the Netherlands it’s pretty common to give money (especially at children’s birthdays) in a card because that allows the person to buy something they’ll definitely like, or save up for a big purchase! We even have kids asking for only money so they can buy the phone or game they want! I’ve gotten perfume before but I never wore it because i didn’t love the scent.
Always consult the parent and if the parent says he/she wants money, then of course do that.
I’m learning so much from these videos
Thank you! ☺️
I am really enjoying watching your channel grow. It’s amazing how much more beautiful the cinematography and editing have become, and watching your subscription numbers go up makes me feel like your wonderful content is getting out there. The world needs gracious role models like you!
Thank you so much for your kind words! I truly appreciate them ❤️
Thank you so much for your kind words! I truly appreciate them ❤️
You look like a model I followed every etiquette of yours and I got tons of compliments from people❤
Thank you 🙏🏻
thank youu ! this video save me every birthday of me or my friends
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I didn't skip the video for even a second...I love watching your videos bcze they are so informative and so relaxing... I've realised following etiquettes is such a beautiful thing rather than just being a crap when it comes to treating others... Please keep doing more of these... Also I wanted to know how to refuse people in a polite manner bcze I'm a girl who cannot say no to anyone and bcze of that , I usually end up trapping myself...so I really wanna know how to politely refuse people... Loads of love ❤️❤️❤️💖🤩
Thank you for your kind words! I truly appreciate them ❤️
Lovely lessons. I feel like so many of these I was brought up on in England as well as experiencing a different culture in Nigeria and being aware of different norms. It's nice to know that my parents' strictness about etiquette is universal! Enjoying your series, thank you.
You are very welcome ☺️
I would actually stay away from scented candles, cut flowers and anything involving perfumes and aromas unless you know the person loves that particular thing. A lot of people nowadays are allergic or sensitive towards smells, so it may cause discomfort at a big event, not to mention fragrance preference is very individual.
If you still want to gift a perfume, some fragrance companies may have matching service, where you bring a sample of what the person usually wears and they suggest based on their catalog.
Adding some nuance to this: while it's common nowadays to be sensitive to smells (I happen to be too), it's mostly chemical smells that trigger this. Natural scents are generally a safe bet considering there's always a small risk when gifting. Flower allergies are rare. You make a very valid point, it's very thoughtful to think of this. :)
She's the perfect balance of classy and fun, she's so beautiful
Thank you 💫
*Even in India* or atleast my state we don't generally give shoes as gifts.
Looking so pretty, Jamila!
Thank you once again for saving us from another awkward moment. You've helped me get rid of my panic attack at the time of giving and receiving gifts....
I am so happy to hear that! 🙏🏻
These are some very wise suggestions....I have been dealing with my friends and family disappointment for years: every time they gift me with something, it's something I cannot eat (I have many allergies), some smell I hate, parfumes (I'm allergic to alcohol) or clothes in sizes too small and colours I never ever wear....the frustrating part is, I talk and see them quite often, so they should know these things: every time I open the present I always try not to let them down and thank them....and then they want to see how the clothes look on me or ask me to eat whatever they bought....of course that's when everything goes to hell since they don't take subtle hints like "no now" or "sorry I'm not hungry" and then get disappointed when I say I cannot or see the clothes don't fit at all: the sad part is they suggest I loose weight (I'm not fat at all) or ask me to make an exception to eat what I'm allergic to...and I have to explain them it doesn't work that way, but they still insist and I end up getting angry or my parents have to usher them out of our house with some excuses because they become too insistent. They should watch your videos.
Oh, I am sorry to hear that. That is very insensitive of them. It truly hurts to see that people care more about their gifts than the person whom they intended to make it for..
@@JamilaMusayeva I think they are pissed off by the fact they spend time (and money) selecting what they think it's the perfect gift and don't even consider they have overlooked the fact that I have some health problems and have defined tastes....I understand they have selected the gift thinking about me, but if the image you have of me doesn't correspond to reality it's not my fault: this apperars to be quite a difficult concept for many people, it's as if the have an ideal model of the person/friend/family member and don't like when they are hit in the face by reality...instead of apologizing for the mistake, they get offended by the fact that the person hasn't conformed to their fantasy.
that's so sad. This would be an absolute horror for me. I can't throw anything out someone has gifted me if it isn't damaged and even then I kinda feel sorry about it because they spend time picking it out for me. I hate receiving gifts. I Can relate to your struggle. Gladly I only have some people who do that and not as drastically wrong picked as in your case. Hope in the future it will get better for you
@@redhead0122 I understand perfectly! For years I have saved gifts I didn't want or couldn't use because someone had put time, effort and money to buy me a gift....Until one day I realized it's not so: while I always select gifts with care, if you gift a person dear to your heart something she/he's allergic to, doesn't ever wear or don't ever use, you either pick a random gift or recycle one you yourself receive....maybe even you didn't consider the real person at all if you keep acting as if the person has no health problems and no specific tastes. I'm not saying they do this maliciously, but surely they are not very considerate and attentive.
So now I simply give those gifts away of if it's impossible, I throw them away. Sometimes I'm lucky and I know the shops they bought the gifts in and I'm able to switch them.
It's hard, expecially since you are disappointed and sorry for having to give up the gift, but it gets better with time even if it probably shouldn't.
@@Kleomenides86 yeah as I already mentioned with your family it is way more extreme. For example I got a bag for traveling to my mom. But prior to that I talked with this person about how I have to many bags and trying to sort them out and I already got a new travel case 2 months before the occasion which they knew about. So the intention was good but just not really thought put into it. So its hard for me to get it refunded or give it away as they had good intentions. and I don't want to be ungrateful even if I can't use it. I am pretty minimalistic and hate clutter so this is kinda a dilemma for me 😅As I put a lot of thought into my gifts it is kinda hard for me to understand that people aren't as attentive when gifting. I have lists in my phone what the person likes and doesn't like, if they mentioned they need something or want something so I can pick the right thing for them. Good for you that you have a way of dealing with this situation although it will probably always be frustrating.
That lip color looks so pretty on her. Her whole makeup is beautiful, I love it 🥺
Thank you!
You look amazing Jamila ✨✨✨🎁
Thank you!
great tips, as always
when she mentions Brazil, I feel like crying! hahaahh I loveeeed the video
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You look so elegant!!!
You are so perfect . Beautiful , elegant , soft spoken , intelligent , etc etc ❤️❤️❤️
Loved the dress❤
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Handmade gifts are a must for me and i love gifting all my family something that i've made or they made
Love them too!
yay new video
Hello Jamila!, L❤ve ur VCA earrings, it compliments v well with the dress☺
This is my favourite channel, always excited and waiting for upcoming video.
Thank you!
Your channel has helped me a lot. Thank you!
Happy to hear it!
OMG you look like an angel.
Thank you!
Hi Jamila, This is the third of your video lessons that I have watched and I really appreciate your perspective of good manners being all about considering the feelings of others.
Many people think of manners as being rules made to torture them.... But you made it clear, especially in gift video, that it is all about considering how to make others comfortable.❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for saying this! I truly appreciate it 🙏🏻
Hey one video on classroom etiquettes please! ❤️
Watching this video about giving gifts on my birthday haha I hope i can send this video to my family and friends
I'm Brazilian and I didn't know that giving someone a brooch is taboo here. Thanks for that!!
You are welcome ☺️
Eu não sei se isso se aplica mesmo. Procurei no google e não achei nada em inglês ou português...
I love how the red of the rose matches the red of your lipstick!!
Hello Jamila, I loved this video.
Thanks for it.
Just a request, please put time stamps in your videos. They're really convenient when you wanna come back and revise some specific advises.
Thank you! ☺️
Here because I need to think of what I'm gonna give myself 😌✨
I love your suggestions! Just wanted to let you know that if your friend is Hindu, it's best to stay away from the book with a leather casing because cows are deemed holy in Hindu culture!
I absolutely agree with that! There are plenty of eco-leather products these days 😉
Ma'sha'Allah, you looked so beautiful! And I love how comforting your voice is!
Your voice is sooo smooth like you got that flow that is sooooooooo satisfying. I luv each one of your rules. Keep up the good work girl! ♥️
Thank you very much 💫
Your channel teaches us lot of things,thank you.
You are welcome ☺️
Please please do an etiquette video about video conferences / virtual meetings. Thanks! Love your content!
Thank you!
hey Jamila, Happy holidays! I just want you to know you're amazing! God bless you and please keep making amazing videos. We support you 🎄💗😊
Considering budget is the most helpful part in the video. By the way, love your dress!
Love from PAKISTAN ❤️
Thank you!
Thanx for uploading this video much needed ❤ , I was literally so confused on what to gift my cousin💎 . Lots of love .
Thank you!
You are so wonderfully said. I really like the way you speak and explain things. Love from India 💕
Thank you 🙏🏻
Jama I loved this one! Great job!
You should do how to talk and ans questions perfectly.
Taj Mahal is really beautiful
These seem so simple and obvious, however if you didn't come from that type of environment or have a parent to teach you one may never know. Thank you so much Jamila for sharing this! 💞 Truely appreciated
Thank you ❤️❤️
You are saving me everyday!
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always so refreshing, coming here💖
Thanks!
10:28 FACTS! I Feel that pressure
Thank you so much for your videos Jamila! They really help me in my life aspirations to become a better lady. I love learning so much about different etiquette topics from you! 💗
When I was 10 I gifted a picture of myself to a relative.
lol
That's so funny 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂 wow
Fəxr edirəm ki, Azərbaycanın belə savadlı gəncləri var.i am proud of you.
Sag olun 🙏🏻
I saw this great advice on reddit that when your budget for a gift is tight, buy a nice version of something small that would usually be quite cheap instead of an "average" version of something less useful. For example, with $15, buy a very nice pen or notebook instead of something "bigger" of low quality. I loved the video!
I love her name JAMILA which means beautiful. She’s indeed gorgeous 😍
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Love you're videos, I always learn something. You're really relaxing and induce ASMR! ❤
Thank you!
Merry Christmas, Jamila
Peace and Goodwill for the Holidays from Norway 🙂
I would love to have that grace and your delicate ways. Your words are so soft and the way you explain things, wow! Thank you so much!
You are welcome, dear 💫
This video has so many interesting informations !! A great place to invest your time in .
I wrap my gifts in good quality fabric. No Paper No Plastic and Reusable.
Good idea!!
OMG YOU MADE THIS VIDEO. 😭😭 I absolutely LOVE you
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You’re an excellent lecturer, the historical background at the introduction. Very insightful video....
Thank you ☺️
Your personality is so sweet ❤️
Thank you ☺️
Thank you Jamila ❤️
It should be noted that we have a common custom in south of Syria to give and receive money as a gift when a child is born in aim to help parents to bear the costs of their new child..
So - as you have mentioned- it's really immportant to know the gift receiver country's tradtions befor giving him a gift 💛
I also have a small advice. .. Don't give an animal as a gift!
As you mentioned, it differs a lot per culture. In Asian culture it is alright to gift money in red envelopes. For new year, births, weddings, etc.
Especially, for new years. Aunts, uncles, parents and grandparents give red envelopes filled with money to the (unmarried) children. It is a symbol of good luck and to ward of evil spirits. Typically the money cant be spent for that year and should be saved up for the next year.
Thank you for saying this. It is acceptable in our culture as well for wedding days to give money in envelopes, so I understand that.
@@JamilaMusayeva I think that also has to do with that by giving money you help pay for the wedding or pay your meal. Because weddings can be very expensive 😅
Your voice is so soothing. You are smart and elegant. Love your videos! Keep them coming please. So pleasing
Hi Jamila whatever the topic is, the way you present in such sweet low tone with ease is what gets etched in my mind. I have forwarded your talks to my cousin and they felt the same. thank you🤗
Thank you for saying this ☺️
thank you jamila for another amazing and instructive video! i loved the content and the dress as well 😌
You are welcome ☺️