Mastering the Art of Conversation: Tips and Tricks for Better Communication | Jamila Musayeva

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    Mastering the Art of Conversation: Tips and Tricks for Better Communication | In this video, I share 10 tips on how to become a better conversationalist in particular how to master one of the most important social skills- handling an informal conversation.
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  • @BlankCanvas88
    @BlankCanvas88 Před rokem +785

    One tip that I got that I've always found helpful is to make confirming statements or questions. For example, if someone tells you a story, in a pause, you say something like, "So you were upset because they wouldn't listen." And they'll usually go "Yes! Exactly!" and then go on with their story, usually with renewed happiness and energy, b/c they feel heard and understood. It helps with active listening, and I feel rewarded when they're like "yes, you get me!" Plus, usually, most decent people will want to return the favor and will ask questions about yourself. Invest in them first and they will invest in you.

    • @carriemills6931
      @carriemills6931 Před rokem

      I'm

    • @flamingaish
      @flamingaish Před rokem +8

      so, paraphrasing

    • @androidgames1927
      @androidgames1927 Před rokem

      🥺

    • @greatpassion9844
      @greatpassion9844 Před 10 měsíci +9

      As an introvert this trick helps aloooooot. All i do is listening and sometimes repeating what they said as a form of question and they confirm to me and keep on talking and i prefer keep listening
      #However, when I feel comfortable with someone I open up to start my own conversation and subject ( although im an introvert the first Method of just listening and confirming to the person talking to me helped me learn how to build my own conversation)

    • @sanchitjakhar5875
      @sanchitjakhar5875 Před 8 měsíci

      Can someone tell me what to do if the girl don't want or like to share any story or problems with me? How to make her believe that I am a good listener?

  • @Rosula_D
    @Rosula_D Před rokem +391

    Wow, the "here I am" versus "there you are" is such an easy way to understand this! It really showcases the energy some people carry.

  • @NicoleCB
    @NicoleCB Před rokem +439

    I never liked small talk. But now that I know that it's an opportunity to get to understand a person's conversational style, it makes so much sense to me, and I can't wait to have a small talk now. Also I'm one of those people that kills the momentum of a conversation by letting people know that I've already seen or heard what they are saying. Now I know better! Thank you so much, Ms. Jamila!

    • @JamilaMusayeva
      @JamilaMusayeva  Před rokem +23

      I am glad you see it that way now

    • @NicoleCB
      @NicoleCB Před rokem +2

      @@JamilaMusayeva 😊

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 Před rokem +18

      People just want to feel good. They don’t want to know how smart you are.

    • @androidgames1927
      @androidgames1927 Před rokem +1

      @@genxx2724 😊

  • @jessicas3618
    @jessicas3618 Před rokem +335

    2:59 (1) Small Talk Starts with "Hello"
    3:10 Who Greets Whom
    4:34 (2) Exchange Names
    6:51 (3) Keep It Light
    7:39 (4) Choose the Topic Smartly
    9:17 (5) Make a Dialog, Not a Monolog
    10:39 (6) Be Interested; Not Just Interesting
    11:54 (7) Ask Open Ended Questions
    15:36 (8) Be Specific with Your Answers
    19:24 (9) Be an Active Listener
    20:32 "SOFTEN" Acronym
    22:00 (10) Know What Small Talk Means in Different Cultures

    • @techboomer4418
      @techboomer4418 Před rokem +9

      Thank you - you saved me a lot of time!😊

    • @nata6025
      @nata6025 Před rokem +2

      you're a lifesaver, thank you!

    • @WRathnayaka
      @WRathnayaka Před 8 měsíci +1

      Brilliant , first time in my life ..Thank you 😁

    • @oliviaxyz2087
      @oliviaxyz2087 Před 5 měsíci

      yall this wont replace watching her

  • @shapursasan9019
    @shapursasan9019 Před 8 měsíci +13

    She just oozes “etiquette” from every cell of her body!

  • @jukeldups
    @jukeldups Před rokem +217

    German here: I totally agree with everything you've said, especially about culture. We in Germany don't enjoy empty talk and I often get very confused if not frustrated by exchange students from different cultures. When I get asked how I am, I answer honestly, it isn't just an empty phrase in Germany. People from the US for example tend to be a bit taken back by this honest answer and don't know how to continue the conversation.
    Mind you, I'm not talking about any serious or personal problems, but I'll answer with my honest feelings. I even experienced that the person asking me was obviously not interested in an answer - any answer. That was very rude. I'm not the best at small talk, but if I ask someone a question, I look at them and acknoledge their answer. Especially since I was the one initiating the conversation in that situation.

    • @JamilaMusayeva
      @JamilaMusayeva  Před rokem +10

      Thank you for sharing this!

    • @Maremare680
      @Maremare680 Před rokem +6

      Totally agreed

    • @olenkaha8690
      @olenkaha8690 Před rokem +5

      So so true!! Couldn’t agree more👌🏼
      Indeed, many persons from Anglo speaking countries don‘t listen to the answer of „how are you“, so that I even stopped answering and just keep on going with the next part of conversation 🙄

    • @VivPhotography
      @VivPhotography Před rokem +5

      I've generally answered honestly, too, but I'm wondering if that's because I'm a first-generation American and my parents' eastern European culture has influenced me.

    • @srisification
      @srisification Před rokem +15

      I have spent a lot of time with Germans and initially I thought they were too direct and straightforward. Which of course is a good thing but sometimes in a social setting we are required to have a light conversation and when talking to a German, you better prepare yourself for some harsh truth right away. I find that pretty endearing now, I like their honesty and not the need to sugarcoat everything. It is not always the most appropriate thing but it’s very authentic

  • @bernadettemarayag1868
    @bernadettemarayag1868 Před rokem +149

    Thank you Jamila for this video. As an 18-year-old lady, I want to level up my conversation skills and your video came perfectly on time. And I remember this quote from the book that I read by Dale Carnegie, "to be interesting is to be interested."

    • @JamilaMusayeva
      @JamilaMusayeva  Před rokem +7

      Thank you 🙏🏻

    • @cheezynachoo2229
      @cheezynachoo2229 Před rokem +10

      You have not met russians, they will tell you everything about their pains, bad business, how they truly feel. As I came to Germany I saw people asking how I am and going on with their phonecall on the way. That confused me.

    • @celebezz
      @celebezz Před 6 měsíci

      hey you don't even have to talk when you are pretty

  • @deependcuration
    @deependcuration Před rokem +16

    Bartenders will know about keeping creative follow up questions up our sleeves. With the right amount of practice, and an ability to improvise a bit too, you'd be surprised at how simply you can impact the group of people at your bar's mood and aura.

  • @iados
    @iados Před rokem +8

    Beautiful video!
    I would loved you to expand a little info about finishing a conversation, leaving small talk because someone else you were waiting arrived, in a polite way…

  • @julieb750
    @julieb750 Před rokem +30

    Different ethnic groups and regions in America have their own rules for small talk. As a New Yorker, I have to navigate so many because typically, everyone is from somewhere else. I’ve found that for people born in the U.S., their propensity for and style of small talk can reflect both their ethnic background and the city/state in which they reside. And then immigrants and visitors have their own differences. I feel like participating in small talk, especially in NYC, requires a sixth sense.

  • @supermichaelssecondchannel4342
    @supermichaelssecondchannel4342 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Aaa there you are I’m sure is what people prefer because people enjoy talking about themselves for the most part.

  • @elissafahedghawi
    @elissafahedghawi Před rokem +53

    Please elaborate further on small talks for introverts ❤️

    • @bootscatsbootscatsboots
      @bootscatsbootscatsboots Před rokem +10

      Seconded. The video was great, but imagining each of these scenarios just made me want to stay home.

  • @aimannasir5208
    @aimannasir5208 Před 11 měsíci +2

    I have realised that my mother is really pro in making small talk as she already follows all these tips.

  • @PhilosophyWithLilly
    @PhilosophyWithLilly Před rokem +12

    This is great. It irks me when people say "I hate small talk, it's pointless" but its actually so critical. Thanks for the tips!

  • @zainabshahidqazi1923
    @zainabshahidqazi1923 Před rokem +2

    And Finally!! I've reached to an accurate teacher I was finding to be etiquetted.

  • @Lisa-sp5if
    @Lisa-sp5if Před rokem +42

    Thank you for this! One thing that we have noticed in our lives, my husband and I, at almost 59 years old, is that most people don’t know how to ask questions. We find it very sad that people typically only want to talk about themselves and it never even occurs to them to ask questions of the other person. If you are shy or introverted or want to start out a conversation really well, ask questions! It shows the person that you’re interested in them, and then you can respond off things that they answer. And then pray they will be other-centered enough to ask you a question too! We think this is now a lost art… But we press on , hoping to show others by just doing!

    • @JamilaMusayeva
      @JamilaMusayeva  Před rokem +2

      Absolutely! Could not agree more with you ☺️

    • @sarpongmary3401
      @sarpongmary3401 Před rokem

      0

    • @littleczbear9102
      @littleczbear9102 Před rokem +2

      @@robertfinch6602 that question is too personal. Thumbs down 👎

    • @homiekeen23
      @homiekeen23 Před rokem +3

      That's the opposite for me 😅 very easy for me to ask questions and be totally interested in the other person, but zero when it comes to talking about myself, I'm veeeery reserved 😅😅

  • @user-yo4wj7oe5q
    @user-yo4wj7oe5q Před 8 měsíci +2

    It's good to be both welcoming others in specific occasions and being attractive when u attend specific occasions 🙂

  • @Lisa-sp5if
    @Lisa-sp5if Před rokem +12

    And amen on number six! Be an interested person not just interesting. That is perfect!

  • @al-doorisamar4811
    @al-doorisamar4811 Před 9 měsíci +1

    As a north african, I absolutely agree with the cultural differences, small talks are so important in here and you will probably have it with everyone, the waiter in a restaurant, cashier in a shop, really everyone.
    And the funny thing is that when we say hi, we'll start asking how are you doing in 3 different ways one after one and the one you're talking to will have to answer in a similar way with questions and not really giving the answer. after that you'd start talking about something and then only you'd ask how are you doing truly and you'll get an elaborated answer

  • @deathb3rry
    @deathb3rry Před 8 měsíci +2

    I like this part 2:17 smol talk is not about showing your knowledge on a topic, its showing who you are as a person

  • @sonerithageises4441
    @sonerithageises4441 Před rokem +17

    "There you are", something I'll definitely strive for in my daily interactions. Because nowadays everyone is more interested in what you have to offor instead of who you are. And personally, I would like to have conversations where they are the interest and not me.

  • @momoblood
    @momoblood Před rokem +27

    The key to let go is knowing that everyone wants to get to know other persons, and never doing what we wouldn't want to be done, small talk is great to share kindness in a subtle way :)

  • @LV-bk4it
    @LV-bk4it Před rokem +12

    Very important topic. My husband is a social extrovert who takes over conversations; he's Australian, and very funny with his stories, but doesn't allow anyone else to tell theirs. I can't get a word in edgewise - he even interrupts people with another of his stories. I see their frustration because I feel it myself - most of the time I don't even bother sharing anything with him because he doesn't listen or just talks over me. I try to be an active listener with people but I'm amazed whenever anyone actually listens to me or asks me questions.

    • @JamilaMusayeva
      @JamilaMusayeva  Před rokem +22

      A good trick to apply is even when he interrupts continue talking. He will stop eventually.

    • @KD-up3sz
      @KD-up3sz Před rokem +3

      That's frustrating and disheartening. I dated a guy like that. He would go on and on while I listened, and when I finally wanted to share something important, he couldn't reciprocate and give me the same attention. I would be like you and shut down.

    • @ZionRV
      @ZionRV Před rokem +1

      I have known some Australians that take the stage, unfortunately

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 Před rokem +3

      Talk to him about it and then have a signal when he does it to other people. Arnold Schwarzenegger had a handler who stood behind him when he greeted people and gave his upper arm two squeezes when it was time to move on to the next person. Sal Maniscalco did a comedy skit about it. It’s on CZcams. You could give two squeezes when your husband needs to stop and take an interest in what the other person has to say.

    • @shirleyann3471
      @shirleyann3471 Před 11 měsíci

      You have just described my husband. We are also Australian, so maybe it is an Aussie male trend. When I am talking with my husband he will walk away before I have finished speaking. Feel upset that he cannot spare two minutes to let me finish.

  • @sorashiroi5566
    @sorashiroi5566 Před rokem +4

    I'd gladly be the not-conversation killer and follow these great etiquette advice, however it is so hard for me when I feel so insecure around people and want to run away even before approaching them.

  • @stevejewett3650
    @stevejewett3650 Před 8 měsíci +1

    When it comes to small talk I'm polite, respectful and reserverved. I wait until the deep talk surfaces to join in.

  • @musiclalaland
    @musiclalaland Před 8 měsíci +2

    Thanks. Rules are practical. I am always feel awkward when I start a small talk.

  • @antoinette4729
    @antoinette4729 Před rokem +19

    Hello dear Jamila, I recommend you for those with stress as your voice lowers our blood pressure. I wish you gave hypnosis courses because you are so gifted with a calming voice. Yes, you are excellent video host for etiquette, and a gifted author, but you are an aide for our health too!

    • @JamilaMusayeva
      @JamilaMusayeva  Před rokem +1

      Aw that is very sweet of you! Thank you 🙏🏻

  • @ChakraBarbie
    @ChakraBarbie Před rokem +6

    Thank you, Jamila. I hadn’t heard of this book before.
    For the first time I realize I have been the type who says “Well, here I am.”
    A cold truth! But I am eager to move forward with “Wow, there you are”
    -Brittany ❤

  • @carmelasantana3091
    @carmelasantana3091 Před rokem +30

    Thank you for this. I especially enjoyed learning the purpose of small talk and how to "volley". I would caution against using someone's name too often, though. I was in a conversation with an acquaintance, and she used my name four or five times during a 10-minute timespan. Each time she said my name, it felt as if she was poking me with her finger. It was irritating. My name's a spice, not the main course, lol!

    • @JamilaMusayeva
      @JamilaMusayeva  Před rokem +4

      There should be a middle ground in everything we do that includes using the name.

  • @user-gs8fi9xk1x
    @user-gs8fi9xk1x Před rokem +3

    this shade of pink really is your color ! 🌸

  • @roxrou852
    @roxrou852 Před rokem +12

    I’m starting a new job Monday, this couldn’t have come at a better time!! Small talk has always been my nemesis

  • @Thereal.hawa_
    @Thereal.hawa_ Před 9 měsíci +5

    Thank you Jamila. I’m 26 and I’m a self-development journey. New subscriber, and i love the diversity of your videos.😊❤ thank you for being apart of my journey energetically.

  • @n.d8001
    @n.d8001 Před rokem +1

    i have been doing small talk wrong all my life...Thank you for your presentation to help me better my small talk conversations

  • @breathJONNYstay
    @breathJONNYstay Před rokem +8

    Saying hello is so difficult for me😭 I just feel so vulnerable and am afraid of being ignored. It’s a deep problem I need therapy for but even having to approach that gives me so much anxiety 😢

    • @worldofcats9611
      @worldofcats9611 Před rokem

      Awwww you are not alone. 🌺
      Awkwardness is my middle name! 🙃

  • @ashleymarie7731
    @ashleymarie7731 Před rokem +5

    This was so helpful, thankyou! I am American but I struggle very much with small talk, I grew up where the only conversations you have with people are knowledgeable and deep. I struggle with making light conversation on items or hobbies etc. I am more likely to analyze people and behavior or history and speak on that. I see now this is most likely very off putting to the majority and might be why I fail to make friendships. Thank you again!

  • @l.-gz7ny
    @l.-gz7ny Před rokem +2

    Reglas para una conversación trivial
    - Comenzar con un saludo
    + Comienza con un "Hola
    + En un rango empresarial, los de menor cargo saludan a los de mayor rango
    + Hombres saludan a mujeres
    + Los más jovenes saludan a los mayores
    + Tienes que saludar a todos los que estén, a todos de la misma manera
    - Intercambia nombres
    + Recuerda el nombre, con alguna asociación
    + Usa su nombre, diferentes veces en la conversación
    + Introduce a la persona que acabas de conocer
    - Manten la conversación ligera
    - Elige un tema pequeño para hacer la conversación
    + Mantenerse alejado de: salud, riqueza, dinero, información perdonal, orientación sexual, política
    + Puedes hablar del clima, noticias, libros, pasatiempos
    - Hacer un diálogo y no un monólogo
    + Dejar hablar a la otra persona
    + Aprende a seguir la platica
    + Imagina que es un partido de tennis
    - Estar interesado, no solo ser interesante
    + Pregunta acerca de la persona
    + Se curioso, no digas nada hasta conocer 7 cosas acerca de ellos
    - Haz preguntas abiertas
    + Que no se contesten con "si" o "no"
    + Haz preguntas de seguimiento, vuelve a preguntar acerca de lo que te dicen
    + Puedes hablar un poco de ti, antes de preguntar
    - Manera de responder las preguntas
    + Se específico con las respuestas que haces, puedes decir nombres, fechas...
    + Hablar con amabilidad, responder de una manera amigable
    - Se un oyente activo
    + Pregunta acerca de lo que dicen
    + Decir palabras de afirmación "si, correcto, que interesante"
    + Tener en cuenta SOFTEN
    * Sonreír
    * Postura abierta ( estar derecha, hombros fuera, pecho afuera, cara levantada)
    * Inclinarse hacia adelante, pa
    * Tocar delicadamente
    * Contacto visual
    * Asentir con la cabeza, decir que si
    - Cultura
    + Preguntar acerca de tu cultura
    +

  • @cesardelrio9326
    @cesardelrio9326 Před rokem +20

    Really appreciated your video, thank you! I find "Being interested, rather than interesting" is really key. I see small talk as a way to establish a connection with someone--whether we end up getting into a deeper conversation or not. And I try to establish this connection is by sending love to the other person. This love allows me to be interested, find appropriate topics or questions to get started with, and it all goes from there. Maybe I'll get some love back, and then we may have the beginnings of a lasting bond and friendship with the person.

  • @Mychannel76707
    @Mychannel76707 Před rokem +30

    With me the first question people ask is “where are you from” which for me is a very intrusive question. People have their biases about cultures or nationalities, therefore asking about your nationality right away is inappropriate. Unfortunately, I’m asked this question every single day no matter where I go to. it is not a curiosity question as many people think. It goes deep down to categorize an individual. I can be from any culture but it doesn’t mean I need to be put in a box based on where I’m from right in the beginning of conversation.

    • @Blueisawesome62984
      @Blueisawesome62984 Před rokem +5

      I get asked this question ALL the time and I honestly hate it. I know they mean to ask what my nationality is because you don’t see a lot of people who look like me in my area or working in the job I work at. So I always hit them with “I’m from California” so they look at me in shock😂 i even had someone come up to me without greeting me, he started naming a bunch of different countries and I was like 🤨 until he asked where I was from🤦‍♀️

    • @niculinamcclanahan969
      @niculinamcclanahan969 Před rokem +4

      I agree, it is a rude question. Apparently, even the cashiers at the grocery store can't ring my items if they don't know where am I originally from. So I had to learn how to dodge that question without being rude. These days, I just say that although I believe they want to be friendly, I consider the question a little too personal and I'd rather not share my origins with them, but we can talk about the items I picked from the store if they're interested in having a conversation with me. Usually, they don't want to continue, so that is a good way for both parties to leave the situation with their dignity intact.😄

    • @Mina-hm2og
      @Mina-hm2og Před rokem +3

      I get what you are trying to say, but I am a bit awkward in conversations and if we met I might ask that just as a conversation opening and not to categorize you or insult you/insinuate anything,and I believe that goes for some of the people you meet.

    • @Mychannel76707
      @Mychannel76707 Před rokem +3

      @@Mina-hm2og Why do you want to open conversation with such question? What does it give you? There are so many other ways to start conversation other than to ask a sensitive question about national of origin that actually is the most sensitive question that goes in the same category if you ask about race. Maybe you have never thought about it but this is why I wrote this comment to make people aware to NOT start a conversation by asking about the national of origin.

    • @lilu2830
      @lilu2830 Před rokem

      I get what u mean. That is true about a lot of ppl having their biases about certain cultures. Not cool when ppl do that and keep one in the same box, especially when I am a multifaceted individual lol. I get asked that a lot, too. Sometimes ppl ask me that to see what ethnicity I am or just as one of those few starting questions just as general conversation... especially in my Mexican culture, I am realizing that rn, that they ask that a lot to each other and then proceed to talk about where they are from and their towns and growing up and then the conversation stems from there. So for a situation like that and other ppl, like me, might ask that question as a way to connect to someone if I can't think of anything else, bcus I can be awkward if I blank on what to say, so I guess I specifically may have been conditioned from my Mexican culture that that is the thing to ask, so not to categorize and put u in a box, but to find something to connect on. Like I see ur 1st name sounds very pretty and ethnic and ur last name as well. So if u introduce ur name to someone, my mind initially goes to thinking 'ooo that is a pretty name, sounds ethnic, I wonder what ethnicity she is, to get a name like that?' Like that is just where my mind naturally goes and I think ur name sounds cool. Now, if someone is asking u "where are you from?" online, I'm guessing after they see ur last name, too. So just for the ones that think like me or approach conversations like me ofc, might wonder (bcus of ur last name) if ur also latina/hispanic or italian? For me, just bcus it's the 1st thing I see here, and the 1st easiest and obvious (to me) to find some common ground (if I don't know anything else about u) to then stem the conversation further from there. Yeah, I can only speak for latinos/hispanics, that we like to find each other. It's just like "Ayeee, u latino/hispanic too?? Ayeee, wassuhp!" Bam, immediate connection, and feeling of comfort. Yeah, that is the best I know how to describe why some ppl, latinos/hispanics, and specifically mexicans might ask u that.
      I will take what u said here into consideration, the next time I want to start with asking that or as my 3rd question to someone who seems like they could be latino/hispanic. :)

  • @gordo6908
    @gordo6908 Před rokem +2

    11:00
    and people who try to sneak into the room unnoticed

  • @malumchawang
    @malumchawang Před 2 měsíci +1

    I find this channel as very useful,one of the most important channel among all CZcamsr 🙏🏻💝bcos I don’t have an adviser or my elders to teach me how to behave in life,thank u so so much dear,plis upload video regularly 🙏🏻

  • @tanyayaa
    @tanyayaa Před rokem +12

    I love how you speak so calmly, you exute peace😊

  • @BreezeTalk
    @BreezeTalk Před 8 měsíci +2

    This was more intelligent than I thought it would be

  • @janetmutile7144
    @janetmutile7144 Před rokem +8

    I love how composed you are Jamila.. i really love small talk and your tips are really helpful

  • @misaki9239
    @misaki9239 Před 7 měsíci +1

    As an introvert i find this video a Gem for me. Thanks for sharing. I loved it.

  • @Bagusbosku86
    @Bagusbosku86 Před 8 měsíci +1

    I come from Indonesia, I want to increase my English, so i get the great channel now, thank you Jamila.

  • @ladykathrynperry9094
    @ladykathrynperry9094 Před 8 měsíci +1

    It is nice to see you.
    I am glad to I see you .

  • @eudaenomic
    @eudaenomic Před 8 měsíci +1

    My son will soon go to London UK to perform with a youth orchestra. I certainly appreciate this video and apparently others on your channel.
    Jamila, thank you so much.

  • @elcinamanov6052
    @elcinamanov6052 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Təşəkkür edirəm

  • @Spiritdeamother
    @Spiritdeamother Před měsícem

    I really like how you explained everything and the importance of cultural differences, it helped me understand what I need to work on.

  • @mdillard881
    @mdillard881 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Thanks for these tips. I especially like your tip to keep it light. I messed this up recently and still regret it. I have found in business on Zoom or Team style remote meetings we discuss where we are calling from. This leads to the others saying if they traveled there or asking what is the weather. The others may say if they have done business near that location or ask about our sports teams. We also discuss pets as we may have to apologize for a barking dog or fussy cat.

  • @Thomas-1023
    @Thomas-1023 Před 3 měsíci

    I'm blown away by this content. I had the privilege of reading something similar, and it was truly incredible. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

  • @AbdulHameed-qq3cz
    @AbdulHameed-qq3cz Před 7 měsíci +1

    Hi thanks for sharing, eat well and take care

  • @usernamedunno7784
    @usernamedunno7784 Před rokem +67

    Thank you Jamila- I really needed this. I just started collage and it's a new environment with lots of new faces- your video gave me some confidence and courage to interact with people ❤ I do have a video suggestion about how to handle the main conversation as well

    • @louez9001
      @louez9001 Před rokem +10

      That is such a great idea! Wishing you the best for college. We are together in this haha

    • @JamilaMusayeva
      @JamilaMusayeva  Před rokem +10

      Noted ☺️ thank you for your suggestion

  • @ellanvannin1639
    @ellanvannin1639 Před rokem

    I have been working on myself as I am someone who chatters a lot when nervous.
    I have improved thankfully.

  • @ameliefayet
    @ameliefayet Před rokem +12

    Thank you Jamila for what you teach us. It is universal skills, you know how to explain clearly how it differs fromage one culture to another.
    Small talk is rather difficult for me, I fear to be intrusive or not ask the right questions. But it is a real pleasure when I meet people who show me. For instance I am now in Brittany in France, in that region the weather is constantly changing. People are commenting what they see, when they are going outside, what they wear etc. It helps them show a little bit of themselves. I love it. 🙂

  • @Rikapaprika
    @Rikapaprika Před rokem +11

    What a good timing you have! I've just been feeling frustrated with my social skills today!

  • @stella05783
    @stella05783 Před 6 měsíci

    У меня были сложности - не знала о чем говорить в обществе с незнакомыми людьми.
    Полезное видео! Благодарю Вас ❤

  • @maria3647
    @maria3647 Před rokem +5

    OMG Jamila! Ur outfit, hairstyle, makeup (literally the entire u)! Absolutely gorgeous!!! Pls do a tutorial on ur amazing hairstyle ♡XOXO♡

    • @JamilaMusayeva
      @JamilaMusayeva  Před rokem +1

      Thank you! It was done by a hairdresser ☺️

    • @maria3647
      @maria3647 Před rokem +1

      @@JamilaMusayeva Oh I see. Anyways, no wonder ur parents named u Jamila..wish I were pretty like ya

  • @Tayba283
    @Tayba283 Před rokem +2

    Aww thank u

  • @indeeditiscirro
    @indeeditiscirro Před rokem +29

    Hi! Ive just found your channel and I love it
    I have a question though: how do you deal with small talkers who DO kill the conversation, overshare trauma, or another faux Pas that really makes it difficult to continue. How do you swiftly change the conversation, EXIT the conversation, or prompt them into opening up more?
    Really would like to see a video like this

  • @lsv4940
    @lsv4940 Před rokem +5

    Reglas para tener conversaciones triviales
    - Sirven hacer amigos, socializar, conocer gente.
    - Libro recomendado "the serious business of small talk"
    - Una conversación trivial es aquella que es breve, personas a las que conoces por primera vez, no se habla de un tema determinado.
    - Las conversaciones comienzan con un saludo, con un "Hola". Consideraciones
    + En entornos formales, los de menor rango, saludan a los de mayor.
    + En entornos casuales, los hombres saludan a las mujeres.
    + Los jóvenes saludan a los mayores.
    + Si entras a un lugar y hay personas sentadas, tú eres quien debe de saludar de hola y apretar la mano a todos los presentes.
    - Intercambio de nombres, debes de recordar si nombre. Pará recordar su nombre, repetir su nombre durante la conversación.
    - Mantener la conversación ligera, ser específico en lo que quieres decir.
    - Elegir el tema de manera cuidadosa.
    +Puede ser que el tema no le interesa.
    +No mencionar salud, riqueza, dinero, orientación sexual, política, religión.
    - Las conversaciones deben ser un diálogo y no un monólogo.
    + No hablar mucho
    + No hablar poco
    - Debes estar interesado, no ser interesante. Debes de estar dispuesto a preguntar.
    - Hacer preguntas.
    + Preguntas abiertas, que no sólo sean "si" o "no".
    + Preguntas de seguimiento, ¿crees que...?. Hablar un poco de ti, antes de hacer una pregunta.
    + Preguntas acerca de interés en común.
    -La manera de responder
    + No hagas preguntas débiles, ser específico (Decir fechas, nombres, lugares)
    + No responder brevemente o de una forma cortante.
    - Se un oyente activo
    + Hacer preguntas
    + Confirmar lo que están diciendo.
    + Usar SOFTEN
    - Sonreír
    - Postura abierta (no cruzar brazos, ni piernas, postura derecha)
    - Inclinarse hacia delante (sentimiento de acercamiento)
    - Tocar a la persona (sutilmente)
    - Contacto visual.
    - Asentir con la cabeza
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  • @beatriztorres9598
    @beatriztorres9598 Před rokem +1

    Thank you ! Jamila

  • @infinitehype
    @infinitehype Před 9 měsíci +1

    gems. thank you sooo much 💗

  • @Michelle-oe7vr
    @Michelle-oe7vr Před 11 měsíci +2

    I’ve just discovered your channel and am finding it very helpful. I am naturally a shy person and struggle with conversing with new people, so this was very helpful, thank you!

  • @SpeakEnglishwithFilms
    @SpeakEnglishwithFilms Před 6 měsíci

    Thank you for reaffirming many of the things I learned from Dale Carnegie's book, How to Win Friends and Infuence People. Mastering people's name is something I loved to do, until someone took it the wrong way (cultural reasons, I guess). Lately, having small talk hasn't been so easy because I'm usually around my kids, and I have to watch them when talking with people. It's not so easy to keep the conversation going when your attention is divided.

  • @kellig_
    @kellig_ Před rokem +1

    What a great video! Learned some great tips and the specific examples helped a lot. Love the soften acronym as well ❤

  • @JuniorICT-ju6tr
    @JuniorICT-ju6tr Před 9 měsíci +1

    I am your fan!! You are so refined and elegant

  • @marie-emiliep.ranger2631
    @marie-emiliep.ranger2631 Před 10 měsíci

    Talking about culture differences, the book Culture Map by Erin Meyer is a good insight as well :)

  • @julyssoup6219
    @julyssoup6219 Před 9 měsíci +1

    thanks for your knowledge Jamila

  • @michellecefalu7728
    @michellecefalu7728 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Thank you so much! I learned some new rules that were very helpful!

  • @virtuemoir215
    @virtuemoir215 Před rokem +1

    Thank you so much Jamila!!! 🌷🌷🌷

  • @maltk1798
    @maltk1798 Před rokem +22

    Thank you Jamila! I easily navigate conversations and presentations but I find it challenging to do small talk. This has been eye opening and helpful :)

  • @sharonlampert7452
    @sharonlampert7452 Před 10 měsíci

    Excellent breakdown of the social etiquette after an introduction. Brava!

  • @Capernaum-zm2tz
    @Capernaum-zm2tz Před 10 měsíci +1

    ♥️♥️Thanks for sharing. I learn more about conversation specially smlal talks when i read the Holy bible in proverbs and eclesiastes the coach is not a person but the Holy Spiri t He will not put the teachings in your heart coz theres a lot of neurotransmitter chemical that when imbalance you will easily forget the teachings instead he engrave the teachings in your heart so that you will not forget theres a lot more there wish you read the known said the complete librtary which is the Holy Bible. God bless U

  • @SAMIRMANAVADARIYA-cj5lh
    @SAMIRMANAVADARIYA-cj5lh Před 8 měsíci +1

    Tremendous Jamila,
    Your presentation and proven methodologies helped me a lot.
    Thanks 👍

  • @maricelgund
    @maricelgund Před rokem +1

    Loved this Jamila. Thank you 🤍🌸

  • @icegelofficial
    @icegelofficial Před 5 měsíci

    Thank you I will practice

  • @prachibansal6670
    @prachibansal6670 Před rokem +4

    I would love if you could do a video of how to eat a certain food. I mean there are so many different types of food but not many know how they are eaten. Eg. Foccaccia bread. It would be nice if you could do a video on food or dishes that are famous all around the globe.

  • @jamunabishwakarma570
    @jamunabishwakarma570 Před rokem +2

    Thank you Jamila❤❤

  • @sukyungyu6264
    @sukyungyu6264 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Truely interested in getting know you better❤

  • @klaudinegarcia8932
    @klaudinegarcia8932 Před rokem +4

    This is very helpful and interesting! 😊 Thank you for sharing Jamilya! ❤

  • @swapnanilkar4786
    @swapnanilkar4786 Před rokem

    Woww!! Really a very much important, useful n informative session. Learned a lot of things. Each n every tip is so much valuable. And I've found that tip, "Be interested, not interesting", i.e after entering into a room, "Hey, I'm here" and "Hey, there you're" the most important. Really a very much valuable video. 🙂😊.

  • @onlypeaceandlove
    @onlypeaceandlove Před rokem

    Small talks are the hardest for me !!!😅 it's not easy and I don't enjoy it !
    But I do see the benefits of small talks. You can find out more about a person's personality and feel the vibes. But , no matter how many rules and tips I have heard by now, I still haven't got used to it, and I am dreading about any small talk....(I am from eastern europe, maybe that's why)

  • @Dashune4ka891
    @Dashune4ka891 Před rokem +7

    What a useful topic! Thank you!

  • @berditart5248
    @berditart5248 Před rokem +7

    Thank you, Jamila! Super useful content. I have a suggestion for a video about wedding guest etiquette! For instance how to behave as guest, type of dresses to wear etc.
    Have a lovely day!

  • @ingabales100
    @ingabales100 Před rokem +1

    Great.

  • @clairekurdelak2913
    @clairekurdelak2913 Před rokem +4

    Very helpful! What a great amount of information in a short time.

  • @zarif_emin_interiors
    @zarif_emin_interiors Před rokem

    Super good advices! Thank you

  • @Maumau21
    @Maumau21 Před rokem +2

    Small talk really intimidate me as an introvert ... so I hope I can improve

    • @JamilaMusayeva
      @JamilaMusayeva  Před rokem +1

      They can be very intimidating even for extroverts ☺️

  • @nitanmenina3253
    @nitanmenina3253 Před rokem +5

    I liked the rule 8, thank you 💕

  • @merlyhartnett
    @merlyhartnett Před rokem +2

    This was so useful. Thank you Jamila.

  • @Local_Manchester
    @Local_Manchester Před 10 měsíci

    Your voice is so addictive ❤❤❤❤ I can listen whatever you are saying🥲

  • @uoplayer12
    @uoplayer12 Před rokem +5

    I found this video to be very informational and insightful. Thank you for sharing!

  • @grospoulpe951
    @grospoulpe951 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Thanks 😊
    By the way, watching some part with subtitles, the 619th one is not display correctly at 24:02

  • @sewsimplypretty2570
    @sewsimplypretty2570 Před rokem +10

    Thank you! I find this video very edifying!
    I am curious on the subject of touch in small talk (in the acronym SOFTEN) If you ever made a video going deeper into it I think it would be very helpful!

    • @JamilaMusayeva
      @JamilaMusayeva  Před rokem +2

      I have explained it in the video. What exactly would you like to know more?

  • @nurv9648
    @nurv9648 Před rokem +1

    I just love your videos 🦋 Can’t wait to see more 💗

  • @LearningTheLanguage
    @LearningTheLanguage Před rokem +1

    You are really amazing in what you do. Thanks for all this knowledge. Thees are very helpful

  • @jjmsf
    @jjmsf Před rokem

    wish i learned this sooner!!

  • @BBFCCO733
    @BBFCCO733 Před rokem

    Young people need this course.

  • @zainabshahidqazi1923
    @zainabshahidqazi1923 Před rokem +1

    Please make a video on , "How to be confident if you are a shy person?"