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When I was a child my father said to me: you must use magic words in your life every single day. Magic words are: thank you, excuse, thank you, please, good morning, good evening. I have never forgotten this. Nowadays is so rare to find people who say these words.
I am not a parent (yet) but in my point of view it's very important to pay attention to how one treats younger siblings because we are involved in their development too. We often dont realise how our actions and words impact them. I want to be a better sister, less ignorant, impatient, selfish, toxic and neglecting :) thank you very much for sharing this video
Not just siblings, but kids in general, and even small things. For example, random kid at the street at the crossing... its red light, do not cross, because you should set example for that kid. Sadly, many people don't understand that.
I try to stay cool, and leave the room when I feel stressed or sometimes I ask my sibling to hug me, and I receive a good advice. We should never direct our bad emotions towards youngsters, because it will ruin the precious siblinghood relationship.
I like your horizontal heart. I ordered both books, and that placebo effect happened straight away, the moment I clicked the final button. That weird feeling of knowing what you want is on it's way is the real thing - instantly. It works. Like trusting in a number you see, and getting a great answer for every "but why", until sleep is way more interesting than anything else in the room.
I cannot stress how important your point about not calling kids "bad at...." is. I was told as a kid I was bad at art and singing. Now in my 20s I've finally started experimenting more with art, but I still can't sing in public, even though I think I'm pretty good at it. I can't help but think how much better I would be if I'd felt free to explore and grow in those areas instead of avoiding them out of shame. Some great points in this video as always!
Dakota Lee, Good for your for doing your art and trying. Keep singing. Perhaps you are not ready to sing in front of others. Take private voice lessons if you can. You will be amazed at how great you feel. Whatever you are doing you are doing it for yourself. That you are giving yourself messages that you can try and do it is all that matters. Well done! I hope you are proud of yourself. Thank you for sharing your story. Jamila will be proud of you, too, I am sure.
I am currently educating my parents on parenting so that they raise my siblings better. It is a difficult process, but this video will help me a lot. Thank you from Türkiye!
That's a great thing to do, breaking a generational process of bad parenting by educating them, praying that everything goes well for you and your siblings
Be careful, and make sure you take care of yourself first (and don't take more responsability than you are suppose to have, you can believe you are helping but it maybe can hurt you in the long run). It's a really tricky thing to do. Best wishes honey ❤
Here I am, a university student with no children watching this. God I wish I could turn back time and maybe raise little me by myself. Definitely will remember these tips if I one day decide to raise a little human myself.
Your dad sounds like a gem. I can tell that he passed on a lot of great traits and ideas to his daughter. I can't even imagine what it would be like to have a parent who was so supportive and caring, but hearing you retell all the ways that he praised you (and used some reverse psych) lit up my heart as if I were the one hearing it. All of your tips are so full of wisdom and, like someone else commented, give wonderful advice for just being a good human being. Imagine what the world would be like if every one could know these truths and pass them on.
1 learn different languages in early age; 2 do not expect immediate results, give them time; 3 read with your child every night, make reading a tradition; 4 do not put a label on your child, don’t say my child not good at some thing, instead say my child is better at something and working on improving something; 5 distinguish a person from an action, don’t say someone is bad, just say what he did is a bad action; 6 give your child responsibility, help them learn independence; 7 get your child involved into some sports, build their body, strength, resilience and team work, overcome fear, become habit and lifestyle; 8 do not promise your child something unless you are going to do it, otherwise leave it to doubt; 9 teach your child to share, incorporate them into activities of sharing, make room for new things 10 there are many different ways to raise a child, there is no rigid guideline or rule you have to follow, every child is different, knowing knowledge and information is good, but feeling is more important; 11 be gentle to yourself, it is okay to be emotional or make mistakes here and there; 12 travel with your child, expose them to see different cultures, values, traditions, customs; Extra important: say good positive words to your child
Thanks for the list. I'm lazy!! Also: 3.1 Make stuff up. Like stand up comedy, stand up bed-time stories. No book. Any language, or words that works well together.
The way you speak is so satisfying never seen such a soft spoken lady in my life I have subscribed you because I am 14 years old girl and and preparing myself by watching your all videos because I was looking for good guidance about good manners and etiquette and you are the only one who explain every single detail in a very comfortable way ❤️
It is a good thing to hear this coming from another adult because even the "not so nice" things my parents have told me still affect my confidence/self-esteem to this day. However, I am building it back up as a daily practice and your videos have definitely helped with this process. You have my sincere gratitude and appreciation for your tips. Thank you 💜🙏🏾
i am so glad you made this video. thanks to this youtube platform..its more like my sister is telling me better ways of talking,standing,walking,dressing and now the most important one paranting...thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and insights.
I just want to say a big Thank you for what you are doing with us. You basically changed the way how I treat my children, well, I have two sons and I always tend to be strict with them and never thought so deeply about their mental improvement like you because I believed that raising two sons determins strong character and regime; however, now you’ve changed all my mannerisms tuwords not only my parenting skills but also to the life itself. Thank you again:)
What a wonderful video. Even though I am Korean, I unfortunately never learned the language (I grew up in a town where cultural diversity was practically nonexistent.) until I took it in college. Because I enjoy learning languages, I was hoping to eventually become fluent in Korean so that I could speak it to my future children. Despite living there for two years, I never became fully fluent in it, and then I lost it when I came back to the US after a divorce. My daughter was very small then, and my Korean quickly deteriorated, so she lost it as well. Now, I am learning several languages, including Italian and Spanish, and reviewing my French during my after time. I also am proud that you are teaching your adorable children well with positive words and you are exposing them to different cultures. Learning about other cultures and traveling have been dear to my heart. Fortunately, my daughter’s school taught them cultures of various countries, so she learned to be appreciate people from different backgrounds. Thank you! ♥️
Hi Jamila, as a parent to a 5yr old son i found this video very informative & useful, I shall be applying these tips & thinking twice before I take action. much love Maria Jones UK liverpool 💓xx
Great tips! I especially love the part about being an intuitive parent. I tried to go “by the book” at first, and I think my son and I are much happier now that I’m relying more on instinct and intuition. And I love your story about how your parents would build you up - sometimes grandparents have the best parenting advice of all.
Hi jamila Thanks for this wonderful video. I am a mother of 3 year old boy and I love to apply all of your tips . Expecting more videos like these with your personal experiences. With love from India🙏
I’m a new mother with no helping hand (Ofcourse other than my dear husband😉). And this video has been so useful and helpful. Thankyou Jamila! You keep going girl. Kudos😃
Wow, these are all golden tips surely everyone needs to take note! You're rasing such amazing children with the languages. Now I know better, even though right now I'm not considering having children in the future yet 😊
This is the best parenting video I have ever watched. What wonderful advice for raised well-rounded kids who feel that they are valued. It was no nice to hear the heartwarming story of your father and the wonderful way he spoke about you & to you. Many thanks for another very inspirational video💗
How wonderful that you can pass on all of your wisdom and experience to your children. How lucky they are to have you and a wealth of knowledge and life skills
Such a nice video. Thank you dear! Being mother of a preteen, I resonate with a lot of your ideas. I learned Spanish and French along with my son when he was a kid. But lost it in the mayhem. Thanks for motivating to start it again. Also in India we are in a multigenerational home. So spending time with his grandparents also instil many good values. I appreciate that a lot. Thanks for such nice video again!
Man 😔 I wish my parents could have raised me that way They would always compare us to others The old traditional Mexican way hitting and yelling Very conservative and Workaholic I hope I can be better for my children
Fantastic advice. I especially resonated with the labeling part - heard myself my mother telling me and other people how I was "not good at math but better in languages" from an early age on, it stuck. How damaging to a little girl's mind and her perspective and what a limiting belief. As a child though, I didn't see it like that but simply accepted the "fact" that I was not good at math. For having had one or two bad test results in primary school - (unbelievable) it stuck with me throughout the years. So you made an excellent point there, also very well explained and generally another great video. Thank you :)
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I agree 100 percent. When my daughter was too grade oriented I told her to just work hard and the grades will come and they did.. Library time started at 2. She loves reading now. What u say is so true .
At 23 I have decided (at least for now, I might change my mind in the future, idk) I can't be a mom. Considering the emotional neglect and the verbal abuse I dealt with, because my parents dealt with rejection in their childhood, its a cycle I don't want to repeat. I don't think I can ever be a good mom. I don't have what it takes...
I feel you on that! Growing up in a neglectful/abusive household makes the idea of having kids terrifying. I wouldn't want to pass on my genes to anyone 😂 I've decided in that case to adopt or foster, but I respect and admire your decision to not have kids. Don't let others make you feel bad. When you know, you know. That may change over the course of your life, but most important is to trust yourself and your feelings.
Hello. Maybe as you grow up and heal from your trauma you will change your opinion. If not, it doesn't take any value away from you as a human. You're still as precious and I hope you're doing fine. Have a nice day, goodbye.
Jamila, I just wanted to say that I admire you deeply 😊. I discovered your channel recently as a YT recommendation and I enjoy every video you shared, from your glasses collection to this parenting advise -even when I in my early 30s and I'm mostly sure I won't have kids-, but nevertheless I clicked on it because I know there is always something useful and interesting to learn when you speak🤓, not merely entertaining. Thank you and please continue with your great work 🤩💪🏻 Sending you a huuuuge argentinian hug from Germany and lots of love 💕✨
As a co-patent of a 16 and a 18 I can proudly say that the 3 of us made an excellent work with ours. We can ✅ all of your advices as successfully done.
This is very informative. Language widens children’s horizons and I am supporting my child taking her time in acquiring her third language and at the same time maintaining her first language.
I am a former educator and I agree with your points of view. I had a very good relationship with very small children because I treated them with respect, I was not afraid to enforce guidelines, I was always watching out for them (many teachable lessons happen on the playground!) and I used humor so that they would lighten up if necessary. I was also a church school teacher of the very young. Since their attention span is so short, I used my time with them to help them to negotiate being with other children in a kind and responsible way - wash your hands, say please and thank you, learn about sharing and be kind to your little friends. I would also try to communicate with them on their level which often meant bending down (and I am tall) but they appreciated the effort and I think it helped them to see me as an older person who was there to guide them but not intimidate them. Thank you for your video it was also a great refreshed on respecting other cultures - so important in today's world! Be well.
I look up to you genuinely ! someone asked me who my ideal personality is except my father and I couldn't think of anyone but I've found the answer now. Thank you so much!
New Fan here, 🙌🏽 I’m glad I come across to your channel. I watch all your videos , how can you so beautiful, so kind and so elegant? Anyway, My boys are teenager now and it’s nice to apply still some of your tips and guidelines and wisdom. Being a parent it is indeed a continues learning process. Thank you 👍🏽
These advices are amazing. Im not even near this chapter of my life, but I will definitely remember these tips. Not only are you my inspiration as being a teacher but also as a parent! 😍 Your daughter is the absolute cutest, may Allah swt protect and bless your cute little family ❤️
You are amazing, Jamila. I listen to you in the background while I am working. I really enjoy them and learn a lot from your videos. I am glad I have discovered your channel. ❤
Jamila this was such an insightful and inspiring video! Thank you so much for the content you create, you truly are spreading joy and kindness in this world.
I don't have children. But I'm aware of my responsabilities when I will be a mother. To raise kids is a hardwork job. I feel happy and pround about your way to raise your children. I will follow yout tips one day. Thank you. Hi from Brazil 💚🇧🇷💛
my parent's did all the things you don't want them to do. when i grow up, i need to follow your advice, or else i will be like my parents. you are a good role model
#11. Be Kind to Yourself, First This video is an excellent resource! I really appreciate the presence, clarity, and compassion you bring to all your work. You are truly a gift to the world.
This was a great video! I wish I had kept at it teaching my children French when they were younger. They are now teenagers, and cannot speak the language, though they can still make the proper pronunciations if I give them a word to say. I do still speak some French to them. (very bad first marriage...husband didn't want me teaching them). I would love to know now what to do. My oldest chose to learn some French in high school, and I hope his siblings will follow suit. I'm glad to see that I did do quite a few of the things on this list you've given, but I will be better about giving them good adjectives to live up to. Thanks so much! I so look forward to your videos!
I think you should start teaching them . Their teenagers and still young . If they speak English they shall find French easy. I myself started to learn french 3 weeks ago. I find it close to English . I'm becoming 30 this year . Learning have no curtain age. Have a good day .
I had worked with many children with ADHD/ADD. and they would use "I can't do it, I have ADHD" as an excuse not to do something- and these things would be canoeing or swimming, something that would make them very busy and not have to sit still. Never give your kids a label for excuses!
That’s really sad that they feel they can’t do things because of their adhd. My perspective is different as my parents knew I had it and never told me. Instead I was labelled lazy, unmotivated and disorganized. Those are far worse labels than ADHD! I thought I was full of character flaws and not just struggling with low dopamine. Getting properly diagnosed and treated in my late 30’s set me free from the labels I suffered under my entire life.
i love your first tip!!! Thanks to my parents I know 3 languages! I’m so glad they didn’t force me to speak english. Spanish is our native language and it is really important for us to know out language. Many think it’s embarrassing or that it is going to confuse children but I think it’s an amazing skill to have.
first time listener i really appreciate you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom sometimes i wonder if you is a Christian i also wish i knew this alone time ago, you are such a humble person you give good advice and i love you for this keep up the good work and God bless ❤
My husband and I are both Vietnamese-Americans. Although English is our main language because we were both born here, we are both fluent in Vietnamese and wish to pass it on to our children. We plan to only speak Vietnamese to our children and then send them to a dual-immersion school (which are becoming increasingly popular in the United States but still less common), probably English-Spanish or English-Mandarin. Many parents think that it’s a ridiculous idea to try and raise trilingual children but seeing your child speak four languages so proficiently gives me reassurance! Thank you!
The only person I am parenting is my “inner child.” 😂😂😂. I do agree with the languages. In the Philippines, “kilig” is a word that is unexplainable to another language. It’s giddy, happy, usually associated with romantic feeling/ butterflies in the stomach. During the pandemic I started self-teaching myself languages so that I can also teach them to my future children. I totally agree with this video. At 25, I had made self-reflections about my childhood and about life which made me the person I am today… as well as unlearning things my parents told me at point no. 4 We have the same reflections and lessons non-verbatim. Please continue sharing your thoughts and reflections. I share them with my friends so that 1. They will help themselves, 2. They will start believing that soft skills are important too. 🙏🏼 I’m glad a woman like you exists in the world during my lifetime. You are one of the women I look up to. Thank you Dearest Miss Jamila 🤍
As a child, my parents couldn't afford to take my family traveling, but we watched so much documentaries together and my mom made us food from all other the world. And as soon as they could, they sent my sister and I on summer camp in other countries, and it was the best gift they ever made to us !
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When I was a child my father said to me: you must use magic words in your life every single day. Magic words are: thank you, excuse, thank you, please, good morning, good evening. I have never forgotten this. Nowadays is so rare to find people who say these words.
Absolutely. We also call them magical words ☺️ that can unlock many many doors to you in life.
I Love this! Thank you for sharing.
Can’t agree more
I am not a parent (yet) but in my point of view it's very important to pay attention to how one treats younger siblings because we are involved in their development too. We often dont realise how our actions and words impact them. I want to be a better sister, less ignorant, impatient, selfish, toxic and neglecting :) thank you very much for sharing this video
I love how you speak slowly and quietly. it is so soothing.
Not just siblings, but kids in general, and even small things. For example, random kid at the street at the crossing... its red light, do not cross, because you should set example for that kid. Sadly, many people don't understand that.
I try to stay cool, and leave the room when I feel stressed or sometimes I ask my sibling to hug me, and I receive a good advice. We should never direct our bad emotions towards youngsters, because it will ruin the precious siblinghood relationship.
I like your horizontal heart. I ordered both books, and that placebo effect happened straight away, the moment I clicked the final button. That weird feeling of knowing what you want is on it's way is the real thing - instantly. It works. Like trusting in a number you see, and getting a great answer for every "but why", until sleep is way more interesting than anything else in the room.
Me on 26, not in a marriage or relationship, watching parenting videos
Me too 🤣🤣
Some of us are so underprivileged. I would love to have biological kids, too!
I cannot stress how important your point about not calling kids "bad at...." is. I was told as a kid I was bad at art and singing. Now in my 20s I've finally started experimenting more with art, but I still can't sing in public, even though I think I'm pretty good at it. I can't help but think how much better I would be if I'd felt free to explore and grow in those areas instead of avoiding them out of shame. Some great points in this video as always!
Thanks for sharing your personal story.
Dakota Lee, Good for your for doing your art and trying. Keep singing. Perhaps you are not ready to sing in front of others. Take private voice lessons if you can. You will be amazed at how great you feel. Whatever you are doing you are doing it for yourself. That you are giving yourself messages that you can try and do it is all that matters. Well done! I hope you are proud of yourself. Thank you for sharing your story. Jamila will be proud of you, too, I am sure.
I am currently educating my parents on parenting so that they raise my siblings better. It is a difficult process, but this video will help me a lot. Thank you from Türkiye!
I love how you speak slowly and quietly. it is so soothing.
So great you are doing this and in this way care beautifully for the siblings of yours!! 🌸
That's a great thing to do, breaking a generational process of bad parenting by educating them, praying that everything goes well for you and your siblings
I’m doing the same wow
Be careful, and make sure you take care of yourself first (and don't take more responsability than you are suppose to have, you can believe you are helping but it maybe can hurt you in the long run). It's a really tricky thing to do. Best wishes honey ❤
Here I am, a university student with no children watching this. God I wish I could turn back time and maybe raise little me by myself. Definitely will remember these tips if I one day decide to raise a little human myself.
Never too late. We are constantly working on ourselves ☺️
I can't believe how much wisdom is in every single sentence of this video! I wish all the people on the planet could see this.. Thank you :)
You are welcome 🙏🏻
"Careful what you wish for" is often an encouraging thing to say. It need not be a creepy thing.
Your dad sounds like a gem. I can tell that he passed on a lot of great traits and ideas to his daughter. I can't even imagine what it would be like to have a parent who was so supportive and caring, but hearing you retell all the ways that he praised you (and used some reverse psych) lit up my heart as if I were the one hearing it. All of your tips are so full of wisdom and, like someone else commented, give wonderful advice for just being a good human being. Imagine what the world would be like if every one could know these truths and pass them on.
Thank you!
So true
This is quite useful even if you're not a parent. We can all use this as a way to treat ourselves and be better and happier people.
I love how you speak slowly and quietly. it is so soothing.
♥︎
I taught my son English with Arabic in an early stage of his childhood. He was 4 when he was speaking, reading and writing both languages perfectly.
Was he writing 2 languages by 4??
1 learn different languages in early age;
2 do not expect immediate results, give them time;
3 read with your child every night, make reading a tradition;
4 do not put a label on your child, don’t say my child not good at some thing, instead say my child is better at something and working on improving something;
5 distinguish a person from an action, don’t say someone is bad, just say what he did is a bad action;
6 give your child responsibility, help them learn independence;
7 get your child involved into some sports, build their body, strength, resilience and team work, overcome fear, become habit and lifestyle;
8 do not promise your child something unless you are going to do it, otherwise leave it to doubt;
9 teach your child to share, incorporate them into activities of sharing, make room for new things
10 there are many different ways to raise a child, there is no rigid guideline or rule you have to follow, every child is different, knowing knowledge and information is good, but feeling is more important;
11 be gentle to yourself, it is okay to be emotional or make mistakes here and there;
12 travel with your child, expose them to see different cultures, values, traditions, customs;
Extra important: say good positive words to your child
Thanks for the list. I'm lazy!! Also: 3.1 Make stuff up. Like stand up comedy, stand up bed-time stories. No book. Any language, or words that works well together.
The way you speak is so satisfying never seen such a soft spoken lady in my life I have subscribed you because I am 14 years old girl and and preparing myself by watching your all videos because I was looking for good guidance about good manners and etiquette and you are the only one who explain every single detail in a very comfortable way ❤️
I love how you speak slowly and quietly. it is so soothing.
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Your children are lucky, you are a very dedicated mother. I really enjoy your videos
Thank you!
Jamila, adopt me please 😂
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Oh gosh i want to join 😂
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Me too 😂
yessss me tooooooo🥰
Your dad is a smart man give him greetings from me hopefully we will get to see him here one day 🤞
Thank you! He is indeed 🙏🏻
It is a good thing to hear this coming from another adult because even the "not so nice" things my parents have told me still affect my confidence/self-esteem to this day. However, I am building it back up as a daily practice and your videos have definitely helped with this process. You have my sincere gratitude and appreciation for your tips. Thank you 💜🙏🏾
I love how you speak slowly and quietly. it is so soothing.
Not even a parent yet, but loved it!
I love how you speak slowly and quietly. it is so soothing.
This is so important. Even for me as a grown up, to better understand myself and what went wrong in some cases :)
Same here. I'm learning to parent myself with more kindness and compassion 💕
i am so glad you made this video. thanks to this youtube platform..its more like my sister is telling me better ways of talking,standing,walking,dressing and now the most important one paranting...thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and insights.
You are very welcome ☺️
I just want to say a big Thank you for what you are doing with us. You basically changed the way how I treat my children, well, I have two sons and I always tend to be strict with them and never thought so deeply about their mental improvement like you because I believed that raising two sons determins strong character and regime; however, now you’ve changed all my mannerisms tuwords not only my parenting skills but also to the life itself. Thank you again:)
I am glad to hear that! Lots of patience to you ☺️
What a wonderful video. Even though I am Korean, I unfortunately never learned the language (I grew up in a town where cultural diversity was practically nonexistent.) until I took it in college. Because I enjoy learning languages, I was hoping to eventually become fluent in Korean so that I could speak it to my future children. Despite living there for two years, I never became fully fluent in it, and then I lost it when I came back to the US after a divorce. My daughter was very small then, and my Korean quickly deteriorated, so she lost it as well. Now, I am learning several languages, including Italian and Spanish, and reviewing my French during my after time. I also am proud that you are teaching your adorable children well with positive words and you are exposing them to different cultures. Learning about other cultures and traveling have been dear to my heart. Fortunately, my daughter’s school taught them cultures of various countries, so she learned to be appreciate people from different backgrounds. Thank you! ♥️
So lovely of you to share your story! Thank you for that 🙏🏻
Hi Jamila, as a parent to a 5yr old son i found this video very informative & useful, I shall be applying these tips & thinking twice before I take action.
much love Maria Jones UK liverpool 💓xx
I am happy to hear that! ☺️
In India we have many languages we use different words to greet someone here depends on different states.
The best memories I have from growing up is spending time with my family just doing every day things.
I love how you speak slowly and quietly. it is so soothing.
Thank you!
Great tips! I especially love the part about being an intuitive parent. I tried to go “by the book” at first, and I think my son and I are much happier now that I’m relying more on instinct and intuition. And I love your story about how your parents would build you up - sometimes grandparents have the best parenting advice of all.
I am a first time parent. Thank you for sharing your experience ❤️.
You are beautiful inside and out!
You are welcome ☺️ and congratulations on joining the parent club.
aww watching your daughter is so heartwarming💖
Thank you!
Your final tip of setting is the most important. Thank you for your gentleness and kindness.
Now let’s go back in time and show this video to my parents
Hi jamila
Thanks for this wonderful video.
I am a mother of 3 year old boy and I love to apply all of your tips . Expecting more videos like these with your personal experiences.
With love from India🙏
Thank you☺️
Great advice. Every Parents should be maintaining this.
Thank you!
My pleasure
I’m a new mother with no helping hand (Ofcourse other than my dear husband😉). And this video has been so useful and helpful. Thankyou Jamila! You keep going girl. Kudos😃
Thank you! And good luck!
Wow, these are all golden tips surely everyone needs to take note! You're rasing such amazing children with the languages. Now I know better, even though right now I'm not considering having children in the future yet 😊
Thank you 🙏🏻
@@JamilaMusayeva You're welcome ❤
This is the best parenting video I have ever watched. What wonderful advice for raised well-rounded kids who feel that they are valued. It was no nice to hear the heartwarming story of your father and the wonderful way he spoke about you & to you. Many thanks for another very inspirational video💗
This video makes me very excited to be a parent someday! Thank you so much!
You are welcome ☺️
How wonderful that you can pass on all of your wisdom and experience to your children. How lucky they are to have you and a wealth of knowledge and life skills
She sounds just like a lexus LFA very calming and thanks for the wonderful advice
You are welcome ☺️
Such a nice video. Thank you dear! Being mother of a preteen, I resonate with a lot of your ideas. I learned Spanish and French along with my son when he was a kid. But lost it in the mayhem. Thanks for motivating to start it again.
Also in India we are in a multigenerational home. So spending time with his grandparents also instil many good values. I appreciate that a lot.
Thanks for such nice video again!
You are welcome ☺️
You are welcome ☺️
Man 😔 I wish my parents could have raised me that way
They would always compare us to others
The old traditional Mexican way hitting and yelling
Very conservative and Workaholic
I hope I can be better for my children
We all as parents are guilty of that. We just have to accept the fact that our parents tried their best.
@@JamilaMusayeva
Maybe yeah
But even till today they tell me i have to hit my children in order for them to listen
I just don’t agree with them
@@vanessav.8468 You are right! It is never helpful to hurt children!! Stand by your conviction ❤️
Fantastic advice. I especially resonated with the labeling part - heard myself my mother telling me and other people how I was "not good at math but better in languages" from an early age on, it stuck. How damaging to a little girl's mind and her perspective and what a limiting belief. As a child though, I didn't see it like that but simply accepted the "fact" that I was not good at math. For having had one or two bad test results in primary school - (unbelievable) it stuck with me throughout the years. So you made an excellent point there, also very well explained and generally another great video. Thank you :)
Thank you! 🙏🏻
Thanks dear Jamila for sharing with us these brilliant references about elegance and good choices. Congrats for your great talent and fantastic portfolio.
Thank you mrs. Jamila for your advices! And for your work!
You are welcome ☺️
I agree 100 percent. When my daughter was too grade oriented I told her to just work hard and the grades will come and they did.. Library time started at 2. She loves reading now. What u say is so true .
Thank you 🙌🏻
This is stellar advice, Mrs. Musayeva. Thank you. 😌
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At 23 I have decided (at least for now, I might change my mind in the future, idk) I can't be a mom. Considering the emotional neglect and the verbal abuse I dealt with, because my parents dealt with rejection in their childhood, its a cycle I don't want to repeat. I don't think I can ever be a good mom. I don't have what it takes...
I hope you change your mind as being a parent is wonderful. There are many ways to heal your trauma and ensure it is not passed on.
I feel you on that! Growing up in a neglectful/abusive household makes the idea of having kids terrifying. I wouldn't want to pass on my genes to anyone 😂
I've decided in that case to adopt or foster, but I respect and admire your decision to not have kids. Don't let others make you feel bad. When you know, you know. That may change over the course of your life, but most important is to trust yourself and your feelings.
I love how you speak slowly and quietly. it is so soothing.
Hello. Maybe as you grow up and heal from your trauma you will change your opinion. If not, it doesn't take any value away from you as a human. You're still as precious and I hope you're doing fine. Have a nice day, goodbye.
Plz give al anon a chance. It is a great way to learn how to end the cycle of abuse
Jamila, I just wanted to say that I admire you deeply 😊. I discovered your channel recently as a YT recommendation and I enjoy every video you shared, from your glasses collection to this parenting advise -even when I in my early 30s and I'm mostly sure I won't have kids-, but nevertheless I clicked on it because I know there is always something useful and interesting to learn when you speak🤓, not merely entertaining. Thank you and please continue with your great work 🤩💪🏻
Sending you a huuuuge argentinian hug from Germany and lots of love 💕✨
Wow my parents never raised any negativity in me, they were so supportive and understanding. 🙏
Glad to hear that ☺️
As a co-patent of a 16 and a 18 I can proudly say that the 3 of us made an excellent work with ours. We can ✅ all of your advices as successfully done.
Please make a video on dressing etiquette
Noted ☺️
This is very informative. Language widens children’s horizons and I am supporting my child taking her time in acquiring her third language and at the same time maintaining her first language.
This is an amazing job. Thanks for sharing. I don't have children but it's useful in general, and I am going to share it a lot.
I am a former educator and I agree with your points of view. I had a very good relationship with very small children because I treated them with respect, I was not afraid to enforce guidelines, I was always watching out for them (many teachable lessons happen on the playground!) and I used humor so that they would lighten up if necessary. I was also a church school teacher of the very young. Since their attention span is so short, I used my time with them to help them to negotiate being with other children in a kind and responsible way - wash your hands, say please and thank you, learn about sharing and be kind to your little friends. I would also try to communicate with them on their level which often meant bending down (and I am tall) but they appreciated the effort and I think it helped them to see me as an older person who was there to guide them but not intimidate them. Thank you for your video it was also a great refreshed on respecting other cultures - so important in today's world! Be well.
Such a beautiful role model for the kids you teach I bet they learn a lot just by watching you talk and behave
I look up to you genuinely ! someone asked me who my ideal personality is except my father and I couldn't think of anyone but I've found the answer now. Thank you so much!
Thank you 🙏🏻
New Fan here, 🙌🏽 I’m glad I come across to your channel. I watch all your videos ,
how can you so beautiful, so kind and so elegant? Anyway, My boys are teenager now and it’s nice to apply still some of your tips and guidelines and wisdom. Being a parent it is indeed a continues learning process. Thank you 👍🏽
You are welcome ☺️🙏🏻
These advices are amazing. Im not even near this chapter of my life, but I will definitely remember these tips. Not only are you my inspiration as being a teacher but also as a parent! 😍 Your daughter is the absolute cutest, may Allah swt protect and bless your cute little family ❤️
Thank you very much 🙏🏻
Thank you so much for taking the time to create this video for us Mrs Musayeva! You felt to me like an older sister sharing wise advice ❤️
Please share some teaching advices for the novices . Merci beaucoup!
Would love to have some teaching tips for a new teacher! Love your videos!
Very informative video.. thank u soo much for sharing ❤️
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Thank you so much for making this video after I suggested it x
Of course ☺️
You are amazing, Jamila. I listen to you in the background while I am working. I really enjoy them and learn a lot from your videos. I am glad I have discovered your channel. ❤
You are the best youtuber, each and every word you say is very helpful and beneficial ❤❤❤
Thank you ❤️
Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom! Great suggestions, from the heart.
Jamila this was such an insightful and inspiring video! Thank you so much for the content you create, you truly are spreading joy and kindness in this world.
Thank you 🙏🏻
I don't have children. But I'm aware of my responsabilities when I will be a mother. To raise kids is a hardwork job. I feel happy and pround about your way to raise your children. I will follow yout tips one day. Thank you. Hi from Brazil 💚🇧🇷💛
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I feel proud of you as an Azerbaijani
whattt she is an azerbaijani????
@@pillowwall2283 yes SHE is AZerbaijani....
my parent's did all the things you don't want them to do. when i grow up, i need to follow your advice, or else i will be like my parents. you are a good role model
Thank you! ☺️
Thank you, Jamila! Great advice not only for parents but for everyone who has children in their lives
#11. Be Kind to Yourself, First
This video is an excellent resource! I really appreciate the presence, clarity, and compassion you bring to all your work. You are truly a gift to the world.
Thank you very much 🙏🏻
Im so happy I found your channel...the videos will improve my and my daughter life standards....tank you.... you are so very beautiful ❤️
Tip #1 already in the making . 4 languages plus English
You have wise parents and you are a great mom .
Great video!! 😊
Thank you!
I am ur subscriber from the day u had 5 videos and also you are my fav youtuber ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you 🙏🏻
Great advice, thank you.
I love the flowers in the lower right corner of the video. 🌼
Thank you!
This was a great video! I wish I had kept at it teaching my children French when they were younger. They are now teenagers, and cannot speak the language, though they can still make the proper pronunciations if I give them a word to say. I do still speak some French to them. (very bad first marriage...husband didn't want me teaching them). I would love to know now what to do. My oldest chose to learn some French in high school, and I hope his siblings will follow suit. I'm glad to see that I did do quite a few of the things on this list you've given, but I will be better about giving them good adjectives to live up to. Thanks so much! I so look forward to your videos!
I think you should start teaching them . Their teenagers and still young . If they speak English they shall find French easy. I myself started to learn french 3 weeks ago. I find it close to English . I'm becoming 30 this year . Learning have no curtain age. Have a good day .
Thank you!
I had worked with many children with ADHD/ADD. and they would use "I can't do it, I have ADHD" as an excuse not to do something- and these things would be canoeing or swimming, something that would make them very busy and not have to sit still. Never give your kids a label for excuses!
Absolutely!
That’s really sad that they feel they can’t do things because of their adhd. My perspective is different as my parents knew I had it and never told me. Instead I was labelled lazy, unmotivated and disorganized. Those are far worse labels than ADHD! I thought I was full of character flaws and not just struggling with low dopamine. Getting properly diagnosed and treated in my late 30’s set me free from the labels I suffered under my entire life.
every time you post any video I just saved it to my "Watch later" list because I LOVE your videos! Thank you Jamila
Thank you.
Excellent Video Jamila. Loved that you have put forward your experience.
Thank you for sharing this. ♥
GOOD
Great tips for my future 🤗
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Thanks Jamila
Easy English to understand
Have good experience
to learn from you .
From Hong Kong 56 years old
Female
Thank you!
i love your first tip!!! Thanks to my parents I know 3 languages! I’m so glad they didn’t force me to speak english. Spanish is our native language and it is really important for us to know out language. Many think it’s embarrassing or that it is going to confuse children but I think it’s an amazing skill to have.
Absolutely 😉
You are soft spoken person , lots of love from india nice work
These are great tips. Thank you ❤
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Wow! These tips are helpful. Thank you so much for sharing, Ms. Jamila.
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first time listener i really appreciate you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom sometimes i wonder if you is a Christian i also wish i knew this alone time ago, you are such a humble person you give good advice and i love you for this keep up the good work and God bless ❤
My husband and I are both Vietnamese-Americans. Although English is our main language because we were both born here, we are both fluent in Vietnamese and wish to pass it on to our children. We plan to only speak Vietnamese to our children and then send them to a dual-immersion school (which are becoming increasingly popular in the United States but still less common), probably English-Spanish or English-Mandarin. Many parents think that it’s a ridiculous idea to try and raise trilingual children but seeing your child speak four languages so proficiently gives me reassurance! Thank you!
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Thnk u so much 😊
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The only person I am parenting is my “inner child.” 😂😂😂.
I do agree with the languages. In the Philippines, “kilig” is a word that is unexplainable to another language. It’s giddy, happy, usually associated with romantic feeling/ butterflies in the stomach. During the pandemic I started self-teaching myself languages so that I can also teach them to my future children.
I totally agree with this video. At 25, I had made self-reflections about my childhood and about life which made me the person I am today… as well as unlearning things my parents told me at point no. 4
We have the same reflections and lessons non-verbatim. Please continue sharing your thoughts and reflections. I share them with my friends so that 1. They will help themselves, 2. They will start believing that soft skills are important too. 🙏🏼
I’m glad a woman like you exists in the world during my lifetime. You are one of the women I look up to. Thank you Dearest Miss Jamila 🤍
Thank you for your kind words 🙏🏻
As a child, my parents couldn't afford to take my family traveling, but we watched so much documentaries together and my mom made us food from all other the world. And as soon as they could, they sent my sister and I on summer camp in other countries, and it was the best gift they ever made to us !
*Another title:* _everything my parents didn't provide to me growing up_ :)
I’m sorry to hear that. :( You can heal from this though, I wish you wellness in your life
I feel you 💔
I feel you, it's like my parents are the same your parents
OMG I was going to write that😅 now I realize how traumatic my childhood has been.
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I love this. I think it not only applies to raising children, but generally working with people and how to treat them
Absolutely! But it all starts from a childhood ☺️
@@JamilaMusayeva Couldn't agree more
I watched many video that you made. But You are my idol after I watched this video.