Much Love Brother! 👍🙏 Appreciate you talking about this. EQ/Emotional Intelligence is something most of us don’t consider as much as we should. We’re all in this together and a little patience, respect and understanding can make all of our lives better. Thanks again! Best to you and yours. ~ Tony
I believe Im going to fit well when I get to the Philippines, because I do not have a high IG, but I have a high EQ, I never got mean, I never get upset, I just go with the flow, and I feel that people here in the US, take advantage of me, I just want to be around people like me, that care alot...
A lot has to do with the way they were raised. Children are seen and not heard, and they learn that from a very young age. Now, of course, that is changing as time goes by, but it is a slower process in the philippines. In America, we have no problem pointing out other people's flaws, but in the philippines, any form of shaming can be received with a very negative response. Children don't back talk their parents, or they could expect a violent response . Being quiet and observant is how they are taught, and that is what makes them able to learn and adapt .
EQ is what makes people pop off with ignorance. IQ is what makes people understand that popping off keeps you from getting what you want. For example, Im a pretty unemotional guy but if someone looses their sh!t with me (especially women), my primary goal becomes ensuring they dont get what they want and walk away angry. Immature of me? Maybe but I think most people are like that on some level. Good topic.
That's nice in a sense and learning goes both ways.We can learn a lot about relaxing here from Philippinos. They also can learn from us on how to be professional in the right employment platform.We review and rate hotels for example not by the looks of the place but rather the staffs behavior or lack there of.life isn't all fun and games joke joke joke.
NO no, they think that the only way is the Filipino way, haha, joking. It's a tribal culture, elders know more than anyone with a PHD, so it's popular culture and majority rules in my opinion. Culture is passed down behaviors, but reality is different, there are also people's perspectives or perceptions on reality. I find the same behaviors in the Philippines with Catholics in South USA, along Mexico and the Native American Cultures and into Latin America, growing up along the regions as I have this experience. I like to think some of it is a specific Catholic behavior that is hard to explain, but a noticed behavior in some cultures or regions.
Your topic is true based on my own experience I am Filipina. I have done many test my IQ just average but high EQ. I work with different people from different countries but I work with them long term. I work Americans, British and Australians they appreciate my work ethics. Even we don't see each other much because I work remotely. I'm not sure if having high EQ is my advantage or what.
One thing that stands out in this video, Steve, is at 3:32, where you say Americans rarely think about how they might hurt people's feelings. True. However, if one has a healthy mindset, one realizes that to believe one can impact another's feelings is to believe that we are not all masters of ourselves and our own feelings. In other words, nobody has the power to "make me feel" a particular way, since feelings are internal dialogue that only I have dominion over. Hence, were I to believe that others could control the way I feel, I would be guilty of giving over control of my peace-of-mind and emotionally engendered actions to another; someone who may or may not have my own personal best interests at heart. This is why I am quite frankly, blunt. The way people feel is not my responsibility. The way I feel is my responsibility. Can my actions and words impact the way people feel? Yes, but it's not healthy for my words and actions to be ABLE to control the way said persons feel. I do exercise caution though, as I am aware that very few people understand that their own feelings are their responsibility and not technically the responsibility of others. As for the EQ of the Filipinas I have met...yes, they can appear calm, but once they believe that they have been aggressed against, they either go extremely quiet, or they explode. My wife is the type who simply goes quiet. I know to just leave her alone and go about my business. Since she's significantly younger than I, my approach is tempered with the understanding that she was raised (as many people have been) to believe that ownership of her internal dialogue can be manipulated by outside forces. We have had conversations about this endemic mind virus and she has made noticeable gains in her understanding of self-control and securing her mind from damage from those situations developed outside her own mind or control. My late mother used to say "if your friends all decided to jump off of a bridge, would you do it too?" This was a colloquial reminder that we are our own sovereign and our mind and our actions are self-directed and should be under our own personal control and ownership. As always, great video.
Never heard of EQ before, had to look it up. Very interesting. Tend to be more of a passive-aggressive person myself, am sure this doesn't equate to a higher EQ, but am enlightened now learning about the higher EQs in general in the Filipinos there. Thanks for this video, Steve...Jim
Good day. I’m 62 now and grew up in the Rochester New York area. I realized about 10 years ago that my childhood and later years into my 30s was nothing but constant thrashing on each other verbally, jokingly, mocking, etc. nothing but bullying, sarcasm, picking on each other. On and on and on. If you couldn’t take it. You were doomed. Looking back on it now. I don’t even want to hang out with any of those people. Most of them were probably narcissistic? Who knows? I am saying this for people who come to the USA. I have become quite the empath over these years and when I come to the Philippines, I will respect their culture and not raise my voice. I just want to be happy and chill. Thank you. Smitty.
Ok, theres a difference between memorized knowledge and thinking on your feet. I think Phillipinos get high score on that. Everything else is cultural, or habits passed on. Everyone is the same Steve, given the right circumstances. IMAO
You seem to be the only person who talks the truth without bs, also your not like some leaving there kids back in u.s to get a women in Philippines and support another man’s kid and see your kids 2 weeks a year. Aka Gino You mentioned you don’t like the food there and I completely agree just curious why not go north some of the worlds best foods in Thailand and Vietnam, I personally can’t live in a 3rd world country but you seem content
I remember when I was still drinking. An I Dea of something I wanted to tell my gf but I didn't want to hurt her feelings. I ran it through my thought process, thinking it's ok to say that. She won't be hurt. Boy was I wrong. The next morning she was still upset and she told me what I said. I couldn't believe I thought in my mind that saying that wouldn't hurt her. Talk about bad judgment.
Well Steve you at the nail on the head when it comes to my relationship. I think that's why we work so well together. I always tell people I couldn't have a better life partner than my wife.
You got Salvadoran friends?? that's good, i'm Honduran, living here in South Boston, as far IQ, i cannot tell you otherwise, it good to keep your emotions in check,before you let your emotions take over, and make a fool of your self!!
Remember it takes two to tango. The male is normally seen as the leader in the Filipino home, it is up to the male to set the tone. By maintaining a low and slow voice. I know this is hard for most American men. Who are by nature just nosy.
Host culture is a pride (lack shame) culture but also under pressure to be humble at the same time. That forms passive aggressiveness. Expect it in the culture. Again Steve American bashes because it’s vogue. Notice the airplane wasn’t invented in his EQ cultures. Immigration to the states is that inferior cultures gravitate to superior cultures. Same with provincial Migration to cities. But here’s what Steve offers. most of the world doesn’t get our free thinking free speaking and resultant stimulated thinking culture. Steve offers a value, if you want to get along don’t say anything negative about Ph. Nothing. Smile at the absurd. If you need Frank discussion find suitable Americans amendable ones who won’t virtue signal. A lot of expats get off on kicking other expats when they’re down. While we can’t say anything other than unbridled praise about Philippinnes because of pride culture and I mean anything I just say good things from the heart. There are great things. But there’s a culture shock period when we see only the bad. It passes with a closed mouth. However especially if white American if your perceptively honest you’ll find the racism against such doesn’t stop at least with the non-poor. I punch back not at the host country but never gave anything good to say about immigration to USA. They’re proud of their expats the states. I don’t single out any group just won’t give it any credit. They can’t put their finger on it because it criticizes American policy. Don’t be abusive unnecessarily. Especially to poor people. But rich people have connections.
As a culture becomes more individualistic, they tend to lose the ability to function as a group. It's all how 'I' feel. And not what 'we' need. Somewhere there needs to be a balance. Being too passive let's the improvement to life go slowly. No need for the governing to respond to the governed if they will take living in poverty. On the other side, too much independent ideology makes every interaction a conflict. Where the proper balance is has yet to be discovered. American individualism has definitely gone way too far. Suddenly you are too good to do a menial job. And then all society suffers. Too much a collective thought process and no one wants to innovate.
Much Love Brother! 👍🙏 Appreciate you talking about this. EQ/Emotional Intelligence is something most of us don’t consider as much as we should. We’re all in this together and a little patience, respect and understanding can make all of our lives better. Thanks again! Best to you and yours. ~ Tony
Steve... I used to be married to a Filipina. A 13 y.o. couldn't throw a bigger tantrum. You can't fool me! 🤣🤣🤣
I was also
Keep up the informative vids would love to see one in Thailand one day
I believe Im going to fit well when I get to the Philippines, because I do not have a high IG, but I have a high EQ, I never got mean, I never get upset, I just go with the flow, and I feel that people here in the US, take advantage of me, I just want to be around people like me, that care alot...
Yes in God's eyes we are all equal.
A good balance of EQ and IQ is what you want.
A lot has to do with the way they were raised. Children are seen and not heard, and they learn that from a very young age. Now, of course, that is changing as time goes by, but it is a slower process in the philippines. In America, we have no problem pointing out other people's flaws, but in the philippines, any form of shaming can be received with a very negative response. Children don't back talk their parents, or they could expect a violent response . Being quiet and observant is how they are taught, and that is what makes them able to learn and adapt .
EQ is what makes people pop off with ignorance. IQ is what makes people understand that popping off keeps you from getting what you want. For example, Im a pretty unemotional guy but if someone looses their sh!t with me (especially women), my primary goal becomes ensuring they dont get what they want and walk away angry. Immature of me? Maybe but I think most people are like that on some level. Good topic.
It’s just the opposite according to all the articles I read.
@@MrSteven5975 Why does everyone think they are qualified to speak on a subject after reading a few articles?
That's nice in a sense and learning goes both ways.We can learn a lot about relaxing here from Philippinos. They also can learn from us on how to be professional in the right employment platform.We review and rate hotels for example not by the looks of the place but rather the staffs behavior or lack there of.life isn't all fun and games joke joke joke.
NO no, they think that the only way is the Filipino way, haha, joking. It's a tribal culture, elders know more than anyone with a PHD, so it's popular culture and majority rules in my opinion. Culture is passed down behaviors, but reality is different, there are also people's perspectives or perceptions on reality. I find the same behaviors in the Philippines with Catholics in South USA, along Mexico and the Native American Cultures and into Latin America, growing up along the regions as I have this experience. I like to think some of it is a specific Catholic behavior that is hard to explain, but a noticed behavior in some cultures or regions.
Your topic is true based on my own experience I am Filipina. I have done many test my IQ just average but high EQ. I work with different people from different countries but I work with them long term. I work Americans, British and Australians they appreciate my work ethics. Even we don't see each other much because I work remotely. I'm not sure if having high EQ is my advantage or what.
@@maypupa4840 People with high IQ have lower EQ’s in most cases.
One thing that stands out in this video, Steve, is at 3:32, where you say Americans rarely think about how they might hurt people's feelings. True. However, if one has a healthy mindset, one realizes that to believe one can impact another's feelings is to believe that we are not all masters of ourselves and our own feelings. In other words, nobody has the power to "make me feel" a particular way, since feelings are internal dialogue that only I have dominion over. Hence, were I to believe that others could control the way I feel, I would be guilty of giving over control of my peace-of-mind and emotionally engendered actions to another; someone who may or may not have my own personal best interests at heart. This is why I am quite frankly, blunt. The way people feel is not my responsibility. The way I feel is my responsibility. Can my actions and words impact the way people feel? Yes, but it's not healthy for my words and actions to be ABLE to control the way said persons feel. I do exercise caution though, as I am aware that very few people understand that their own feelings are their responsibility and not technically the responsibility of others.
As for the EQ of the Filipinas I have met...yes, they can appear calm, but once they believe that they have been aggressed against, they either go extremely quiet, or they explode. My wife is the type who simply goes quiet. I know to just leave her alone and go about my business. Since she's significantly younger than I, my approach is tempered with the understanding that she was raised (as many people have been) to believe that ownership of her internal dialogue can be manipulated by outside forces. We have had conversations about this endemic mind virus and she has made noticeable gains in her understanding of self-control and securing her mind from damage from those situations developed outside her own mind or control.
My late mother used to say "if your friends all decided to jump off of a bridge, would you do it too?" This was a colloquial reminder that we are our own sovereign and our mind and our actions are self-directed and should be under our own personal control and ownership.
As always, great video.
Never heard of EQ before, had to look it up. Very interesting. Tend to be more of a passive-aggressive person myself, am sure this doesn't equate to a higher EQ, but am enlightened now learning about the higher EQs in general in the Filipinos there. Thanks for this video, Steve...Jim
Steve, there's a difference between book smart and street smarts, some have both, but not everyone. does
Thanks always, appreciate the content! I'm a South African (of European descent), I hope to come there some time.
Good day. I’m 62 now and grew up in the Rochester New York area.
I realized about 10 years ago that my childhood and later years into my 30s was nothing but constant thrashing on each other verbally, jokingly, mocking, etc. nothing but bullying, sarcasm, picking on each other. On and on and on.
If you couldn’t take it. You were doomed.
Looking back on it now. I don’t even want to hang out with any of those people. Most of them were probably narcissistic? Who knows?
I am saying this for people who come to the USA.
I have become quite the empath over these years and when I come to the Philippines, I will respect their culture and not raise my voice. I just want to be happy and chill. Thank you. Smitty.
I never expierenced this and I am in my late 30s now thankfully haven't been around toxic people 😊
Ok, theres a difference between memorized knowledge and thinking on your feet. I think Phillipinos get high score on that. Everything else is cultural, or habits passed on. Everyone is the same Steve, given the right circumstances.
IMAO
Well , I definitely agree with your stats !
You seem to be the only person who talks the truth without bs, also your not like some leaving there kids back in u.s to get a women in Philippines and support another man’s kid and see your kids 2 weeks a year. Aka Gino
You mentioned you don’t like the food there and I completely agree just curious why not go north some of the worlds best foods in Thailand and Vietnam, I personally can’t live in a 3rd world country but you seem content
Different subject. Filipinos are great calm people. But could explode like Mount Mayon. Thanks for the video
I remember when I was still drinking. An I Dea of something I wanted to tell my gf but I didn't want to hurt her feelings. I ran it through my thought process, thinking it's ok to say that. She won't be hurt. Boy was I wrong. The next morning she was still upset and she told me what I said. I couldn't believe I thought in my mind that saying that wouldn't hurt her. Talk about bad judgment.
If you're going to talk about IQ vs EQ, you should also address Adversity Quotient, Social Quotient. and Cognitive Quotient
Well Steve you at the nail on the head when it comes to my relationship. I think that's why we work so well together. I always tell people I couldn't have a better life partner than my wife.
You got Salvadoran friends?? that's good, i'm Honduran, living here in South Boston, as far IQ, i cannot tell you otherwise, it good to keep your emotions in check,before you let your emotions take over, and make a fool of your self!!
Sooo True about people with High IQ. I LOVE people with High EQ. You make GREAT videos Steve! 🤗 Hey what is your email again? Thanks
Remember it takes two to tango. The male is normally seen as the leader in the Filipino home, it is up to the male to set the tone. By maintaining a low and slow voice. I know this is hard for most American men. Who are by nature just nosy.
Host culture is a pride (lack shame) culture but also under pressure to be humble at the same time. That forms passive aggressiveness. Expect it in the culture.
Again Steve American bashes because it’s vogue. Notice the airplane wasn’t invented in his EQ cultures.
Immigration to the states is that inferior cultures gravitate to superior cultures. Same with provincial
Migration to cities.
But here’s what Steve offers. most of the world doesn’t get our free thinking free speaking and resultant stimulated thinking culture.
Steve offers a value, if you want to get along don’t say anything negative about Ph. Nothing. Smile at the absurd. If you need Frank discussion find suitable Americans amendable ones who won’t virtue signal. A lot of expats get off on kicking other expats when they’re down.
While we can’t say anything other than unbridled praise about Philippinnes because of pride culture and I mean anything I just say good things from the heart. There are great things. But there’s a culture shock period when we see only the bad. It passes with a closed mouth.
However especially if white American if your perceptively honest you’ll find the racism against such doesn’t stop at least with the non-poor. I punch back not at the host country but never gave anything good to say about immigration to USA. They’re proud of their expats the states. I don’t single out any group just won’t give it any credit. They can’t put their finger on it because it criticizes American policy.
Don’t be abusive unnecessarily. Especially to poor people. But rich people have connections.
Good stuff.. love your accent too.
As a culture becomes more individualistic, they tend to lose the ability to function as a group. It's all how 'I' feel. And not what 'we' need. Somewhere there needs to be a balance. Being too passive let's the improvement to life go slowly. No need for the governing to respond to the governed if they will take living in poverty. On the other side, too much independent ideology makes every interaction a conflict. Where the proper balance is has yet to be discovered. American individualism has definitely gone way too far. Suddenly you are too good to do a menial job. And then all society suffers. Too much a collective thought process and no one wants to innovate.