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Him giving away his possessions is a MASSIVE red flag.
thatâs like THE suicide sign
Did a law enforcement training course where we had to go over suicide and that is LITERALLY the number one sign and where you need to start asking hard questions and preparing to get proper authorities involved.
Of WHAT though...? What could a 19 year old college kid get himself into that was THAT depressing? Only thing I can think of would be sexual abuse...
See alot of comments, nobody focused on this glaring red flag. The kid was planning to off himself from the beginning.
@@1Scital1 What would we all do without you, captain obvious...? No one mentioned it because it was obvious...When you can explain WHY he was suicidal, get back to us...?
PSA to parents: if your kids friends call and say they're concerned about them absolutely DO NOT brush it off because it takes a lot for someone's buddies to do that.
"my kid wouldnt do that" "my kid isnt suicidal your wrong" like how fucking ignorant these people are
So true Dan so true I aint calling a buddies parents unless i think there life could be on the line
@@ledpinkdefsabbathwhokinksd9733 itâs pretty easy to say that from the outside looking in. Theyâre probably incredibly confused and hurt. No need to lash out my dude
Exactly, when I was that age, the only way Iâd call my friendâs parentâs it has to be extremely bad, or Iâm terrified of what might happen.
I would give anything if my sonâs friends had called beforehand. Our only son hung himself in August of 2019. Friends came out of the woodwork afterward telling us they thought about calling, that they were worried about him. Please, if you ever suspect a friend is in trouble, give the family an opportunity to intervene. His six sisters and his father and I are devastated. I never get to hug my baby boy again. We couldnât even see him because he wasnât found for a day and a half in the Arizona heat. If anyone is considering taking their life, I beg you to get help. You donât realize what it will do to those you love. I feel like Iâm the walking dead.
The beginning of this story, and how he was giving his stuff to his friends/breaking up with his girlfriend are all massive signs of suicide. My heart goes out to him.
As someone's who's been on the verge before... Can confirm. I highly doubt it's anything but, unfortunately.
@@Foxlink87 I think everyone has been on the verge at some point in their life.
â@@juliusseizure5705 not true lol
as soon as he was giving away his things i knew it.
Yeah but the hesitation and signs that he survived the crash make me think he ran tf away from his crazy a§ Karen B mom.
He could even get away from her by being nowhere. I think he crashed iff willing to die but ran when he survived.
Hope I meet him. That guy deserves a feel blunt and a free hug.â€
The Mechanic deserves an Award for being such an empathic, caring, upstanding citizen. He didn't know Bryce or his family & he went above & beyond to help the family
I think he looked in the eyes of Bryce and realized something was wrong... Too bad a lot of people are facing some issues with mental health problems and we can't realize it until it is too late...
@@NickolasLannes đŻ
I think the mechanic did it... for that sweet Toyota Highlander.
@@atlasfeynman1039 Maybe!
He cared more about Bryce than his parents did.
Holy crap, can we give props to this selfless mechanic, Christian, who really went out of his way for a complete stranger. Youâre a good man.
True
Yeah sounds like a good dude
Not saying that he didnât do enough, he did way more than expected, but if he followed him the whole way then he may have made it home.
Unless he caused the death by unsafely and unsolicited following a depressed stranger who clearly wanted to be left alone. In which case, fuck that guy.
Yes
Iâm just astonished that their kid was only three hours away and they didnât just go pick him up. If theyâre told that heâs just been sitting there, itâs obvious that he is not doing well (as his friends said). Itâs frustrating to hear that he sat there for a whole day and they didnât just go to him.
Exactly
exactly what I was thinking.
Even when Christian was trailing him why didn't they just come the rest of the way?
It's really sad. I get the sense that they were very much in denial about whatever was going on with their son.
I was thinking the same
I was thinking the same thing I would have drove as long as it took to find my child
I can't believe the INSANE levels denial by his parents! This was SOOO preventable. I mean, just how many one-in-a-million chances did they get to intervene?! It's like the UNIVERSE was trying to prevent this, and they just shrugged and rationalized every time!
Don't be. I have parents like this.
My parents are also like this. I was in an abusive marriage and begged them to come get me after she started breaking my bones. They never came. I tried ending my life to escape the situation.I was also only 3 hours away. Some parents really don't care. I escaped the situation myself and I'm no contact with my family now.
exactly what i was saying,, his parents seemed to care but they really didnât care which is so strange cus why call and call?? like truly if the mom care after that second time she hear he was jus sitting, she shouldâve got up and went to him herself, and she wouldâve reached him in like an hour an a half and picked up her son so heâs IN HER EYE SIGHT, and find out whatâs wrong and get him the help he needed. Sheâd probably be with her son today.â€ïž
Preventable that time, possibly.
I see where youâre coming from, but please donât blame the parents. We have no idea why Bryce did what he did or why he had the psychotic break he did. The parents in the moment, thought their son would return home, everything would be fine and he would explain all what was happening to him. In the moment they thought that and I think we shouldnât judge them. Bryce wasnât in the right mind. When somebody is thinking rational thoughts they donât think straight who knows maybe nothing would have happened if they went to pick him up or maybe he wouldâve went back home, left and went missing that way. I think we have to have empathy and understand that Bryceâs parents tried as hard as they could to get their son home.
As a mother of two young men, I can say without a doubt that once I got the call from the girlfriend, I wouldâve hopped in my car & taken off & not mentioned it. There were so many red flags. They had so many opportunities to change their minds & just get in their car. How tragic. Not saying this is the parentâs fault. Just saying I think they made some bad choices when they mustâve realized something was really wrong.
Literally he was there for over 10 hours smh. By the time they got there he wouldâve still been chilling there, itâs dissapointing as fck
I would have too!
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maybe she has no car
His parents should have gone and picked him up. When somebody is acting strangely, you shouldn't trust them to drive themselves anywhere. Especially not on a 3-hour trip.
At least started trying to meet him half way knowing that something was wrong!!!!
But sometime we donât think about these things when the situation right in front of us!
Bateman, you would know all about people acting strangely, wouldn't you?
I agree, there is no way my parents would have sat at home and slept. They're in their 80's & no way would they ignore a stress call. They would have been on the road at any of these calls, the fact his parents didn't even attempt to drive out and meet him is strange. I wonder what was the reason he gave to the girlfriend for breaking up with her. I think something happened while he was on holiday with his parents, not when he can back to his dorm. I think maybe he was one of those people that just decided, "you know what I want a different life", it happens
Right!!!!!!
when he gave his earrings and xbox to his friend, him being suicidal was the first thing I thought. If someone starts giving you their precious things out of nowhere, pay attention to them. Usually this behavior is an apology, a parting gift.
Exactly what I thought as well. It takes the place of a will and acts as a sort of goodbye and giving your loved ones something to remember you by. Suicidal people usually realize their death will have a negative emotional impact on their loved ones, and giving away things that are precious to them is also a way of giving them some form of comfort of their love even after theyâre gone.
i thought he was going to kill everyone and then himself
Or he is about to get caught for something.
I'd be surprised if anyone DIDN'T think that! It's not normal behaviour to start giving away your most precious possessions, is it?
thatâs what i thought.
The giving away of his things immediately clued me into suicide. My 12 year old daughter recently got a text from her boyfriend at 11pm at night telling her he loved her and goodbye and that he had just taken a bunch of pills to kill himself. She originally thought he was joking but remembered heâd made depressive statements about ending his life before. My TWELVE YEAR OLD immediately knew something was wrong and got up the courage to call his mom in the middle of the night to tell her. Thankfully they got to their son just in time and heâs still with us today even though he needed to have his stomach pumped. His mother said if my daughter hadnât called her it wouldâve been too late for them to do anything. Iâve always raised my kids that if their friends are acting weird or dangerous then they need to tell an adult IMMEDIATELY and in the case with her boyfriend it literally saved his life.
You have raised a very mature 12 year old.
Very nice job at parenting ma'am. Even some doctors miss those signs. It's heartbreaking.
@@ecee.1811 thank you. Unfortunately Iâve been suicidal in the past so I speak from experience. My daughter was so upset that he wouldnât want to talk to her again and that he would be mad at her but thankfully he told her he understood why she did it. He had made multiple comments in the past about it and whenever she told me I told her thatâs his cry for help and he needs to tell his parents. Thankfully the story ended well and I always remind my daughter that sheâs a hero for what she did.
How on earth does your 12 yr old have a boyfriend?
I had to call my ex-fiance's mom because he told me that he was going to kill himself on the road with his car after quitting his job in the middle of his shift and literally having a mental breakdown, luckily I stopped him from going anywhere in his car that I paid for btw I saved his life and probably other innocent people who would have been on the road with him at the time if I hadn't stopped him from driving away etc. At the end of all the drama I got thanked for this by being dumped by him. Now he has a kid with someone else. You and your whole family are welcome that I stopped you even though you were mean to me for it. Ugh. Life is unfair sometimes. But I found a better man. So everything happens for a reason I guess even if it was still messed up.
As soon as I heard about him giving away valuables, my heart sank. A lot of people do that before attempting. Some write wills, some blow their money and others gift their most valuable items to friends and family. It's a sign that should not be ignored. Especially if the person doesn't seem their usual self
Thatâs what I was thinking that was the first sign of suicide to me
Plus his high ability to fake normalcy so nobody would interfere or try to talk him out of it. That shows some massive determination to the attempt and to follow through with it, when someone tries to prevent even the possibility of getting saved.
That was my first thought to. If he didnât commit suicide he was almost certainly considering it before he left his place to head to his parents.
Him breaking up with his girlfriend, giving away his things, substance abuse, and very erratic behavior are HUGE red flags for suicide
Also, what's up with his parents? Do they not know how to drive? Why didn't they just go get him? When those closest to you don't seem to care, then what do you do? ... Check out -- Alone.
I agree. Horrible parenting.
Really? You learn something new everyday.
@@2Bad4YOUuu I have the same thought. I feel bad if i was his dad.
@@2Bad4YOUuu Not to mention his dad was the one who convinced his ex girlfriend to give him his keys back, this could've been avoided had he listened to them saying he was acting really odd and drove up to see what was going on with Bryce the next day. Terrible idea to let him drive in such a state and his ex knew it. And then after that instead of just going to pick him up they kept expecting him to drive home when obviously that wasn't going to happen. The parents really messed up here
I am 31 and I didn't answer my phone for a couple days at one point and my dad showed up at my house 3 hours away. These parents REALLY didn't want to get out huh?
@Eteuati S if he's acting so strangely that his ex-girlfriend is taking his keys from him so he can't leave and right before that you've gotten a phone call that also says how strangely he's acting you KNOW it's because he's acting strange and not because "it's a bad break up" and you should come assist in your sons weird behavior but not these parents and then there was the multiple times after that they should have intervened and decided not to. They now have to live with their choice to not help him when he needed them the most. Talk about shitty parents.
For me and my mom not talking for a few weeks normal. Actually it would bother me if she was checking in all the time. Although we return each others missed calls quickly
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Good for you. All parents parent differently. He wasnât just not answering the phone. Iâm sure the parents are kicking their asses enough. They donât need spoiled little brats like yâall kicking them while theyâre down. They obviously loved him
It drives me nuts knowing that Bryce's parents didn't jump in their car right away to go to him. They knew where he was. Even after all the forewarning from his girlfriend and room mate. As a parent I would be on my way as soon as they knew he was fine the first time from Christian's report... and they still didn't do anything when they knew he was only a few hours away from reports from the police. His parents really dropped the ball on this one.
đ§ Me too! I kept thinking they were going to say, "We'll come to you, stay there."
They had so many chances. Even at night, just hop in or if not, when Christian was following Bryce, the parents could have said, "We'll meet you half way."
I would rather be upset having driven unnecessarily after establishing that nothing is wrong, than sit hours away waiting for my son to come home or for someone to keep me posted. I mean... It just does not make sense to me
Some parents are "out of it"?? I grew up in a Christian household (no fighting, adultery, drugs, alcohol, etc). I had two stay at home parents. But lemme tell you....most incompetent parents you will ever meet. My parents are insecure, emotionally stunted people.
The conversation with a friend's parent about something serious is never a good time. Good on Shawn for taking that initiative
Why was Christian willing to drive nearly two hours to make sure he got home and the parents didn't even meet him half way đđ
Exactly! That total stranger was more invested in this boyâs life and safety than his parents were
That part!
you dont know shit about them or bryce so stfu, maybe they were trying to respect his space - sometimes thats what people need, its impossible to know
I've binged as many of these Bryce videos and I can and the parents are off, I hope I'm wrong.
Hindsight is 20/20.. I can guarantee this though, you trying to blame his parents in part for this is a disgusting and ugly thing to do.. You should be ashamed of yourself
As soon as Bryce started giving his prized possessions away to his friend and severed ties with his girlfriend it was obvious this dude was planning on offing himself
I think my response if someone tried that would be to ask if they were dying. It mightn't occur to me that they might be offing themselves, but I'd certainly be worried for their welfare.
Police has conclcuded that he's alive and voluntarily missing. Apparently his parents were grade A douchebags. Who could've guessed that parents who can't be arsed to drive a couple hours to help their distressed son would turn out to be shitty parents.
@@Dalroc I was gunna say after Christian called and told them he was at the hotel parking lot, if it were my son Iâd ask Christian to stay with my boy Iâll be there in an hour and a half.
@@Dalroc And where did you hear that? do you have a link to that story?
Yeah that's one of the warning signs.
i know iâm late but when bryce started giving away his valuables willy-nilly and broke up with kim, alarm bells were ringing really loudly in my head. iâm glad sean picked up on it as well, because those are very clear warning signs of someone planning to hurt themselves.
HOW THAT MAKES NO SENSE
I feel bad for the mechanic, because you know he's going to feel guilty now for not having followed the kid all the way home. Dude went out of his way to help.
I'd like to thank Christian for being such a wonderful human. He went above and beyond to look out for Bryce. We need more people like that.
Hey my name's Christian
What a good guy, honestly, such a rarity nowadays.
@@tfdidusayho so behave like a Christian now and be nice to people:-)
@@nekokittycat4004 I am a Christian nd I show kindness until someone doesnt
Yeah I know if he was my kid I wouldn't bother going myself to help my son. I would just count on a random person to do that for me.
Christian is a really wonderful person. I hope he doesnât blame himself for not following him all the way home. He did so much to make sure he was safe
I was just going to write the same thing. What a stand up guy for doing that for the family. I hope he's found safe.
@@BabeBee. I found myself saying âoh my god what a sweet dudeâ every time John talked about him. Yeah I hope so too, sounds like he was going through a lot.
He did more than the fuckin useless parents
Definitely, and notice how the police did their job in a professional & caring way here too (how it should be all the time). Everyone tried, even his roomate & x-gf. Just sometimes you can't help those who won't help themselves. Obviously the kid was loved and respected too.
Thank you Christian for all you did to help this man who for some reason just didn't want to go home. God bless you and your kindness.
Major love for the stranger who show more love to him than his own parents â€ïž
I lost my son to drug addiction 2 yrs ago đą, but at least I knew what happened. I cannot imagine losing a child this way, with no closure. I hope his parents have found some kind of peace thru this đđ
The third time he's lied to them about coming home, you'd think they'd go and fetch him, no?
Right...what were they waiting for ...damnnnnđ€Ź
They don't even look like his bio parents. I have so many questions
They could try, but canât do a whole lot. Heâs over 18.
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He was a red headed step child đ
@@omfug8593 Ahhh. That answers everything to me. Thanx.
I cannot believe that, despite so many missed opportunities, Brice's parents did not drive 3 hours up to Brice in Buttonwillow from their home!! If I were them, I would have dropped everything and drove to him!
Exactly! I wondered why they didnât too, I would have gotten on that highway and driven to him in a NY minute!!
Yeah! I actually just wrote a comment pointing out the same thing. I am glad to see that someone else noticed that!
This is what I'm saying!
Mom could've stayed home just in case he was actually driving home and the dad should've driven up. IDK maybe one or both of the parents had a medical issue, night blindness, took heavy medication. I just don't get why neither of them drove up to find him. Thank God for Christian, he tried really hard to bring the boy home to his mama.
Exactly parents fault
I always thought it a bad thing that my mother was so pushy, but feel it's a godsend after hearing this. If she told me she's flying out, and I told her not to, she'd say, "I don't care if you want me there or not. Something isn't right. You stay right there until I get there."
Don't be upset with your overly pushy parents. It could potentially save you someday.
Not my words, but I saw this on an unresolved mysteries subreddit:
"Something of an insider here...
I can say with certainty that there were issues between Bryce and his family. While Bryce's mother, Karen, is an unrepentant psycho, I am told that Bryce had a tight, borderline codependent relationship with her in the years leading up to his disappearance, but not much is known about their relationship in the final year or so. His relationship with his father, Mike, was at times very tumultuous as Mike would lose his temper, yell, and scream at Bryce over things as trivial as not understanding how to complete his math homework. I don't know if the relationship was ever physically violent, but there was most definitely a lot of verbal/emotional abuse going on in that household, and not just with Bryce.
The latter part of Bryce's teen years were marred by a few incidents, such as getting busted with MDMA, as well as a lot of underage drinking issues that have gone largely unreported, all of which served to soil his familial ties. As I understand, Bryce was well on his way to becoming a teen-aged alcoholic. He was apparently known for taking booze to high school and spending some school days maintaining a desired level of intoxication. It's very safe to assume that this behavior continued to spiral out (evidenced by his taste for Adderall and other scripts), and he suffered a psychotic break from it (evidenced by his friends calling his mother with their concerns). It must have been some pretty disturbing behavior in order for kids, who all used drugs recreationally, to contact their friend's parents with concerns about his mental state.
When Bryce left home to attend community college, he did not do so by his own motivation. Karen and Mike shopped around for what school he would attend, gave him no decision in the matter, and shipped him out when the school year began. The decision was in part based on the availability of dormitories as they wanted Bryce out of the home as soon as possible, which seems in keeping of what I know to be true of their style of parenting. They sent him to Sierra College, in Rocklin, CA, which is a 460 mile drive from his parents' home in Laguna Niguel.
Mike and Karen were both very controlling parents, the type that foster harsh, rebellious behavior from their kids. They sought to control every aspect of his life and used their money to do so. Bryce owned literally nothing of his own and was frequently reminded of it when he stepped out of line. To me, his actions were a great big, 'Fuck you,' to his manipulative, controlling, abusive parents. What better way to let them know you're done than by intentionally wrecking their car and leaving behind all the accoutrements they paid for with their money, and leveraged as a means of control? The time he spent in that small rural town was most likely waiting on someone to give him a ride. I believe the big story he wanted to tell his family was that he would be dropping out of school and moving elsewhere. I believe he wanted to say it to their faces but chickened out and decided that he was just going to move on. I believe his family knows this and have used the media, his friends, and so on, to wage a pressure campaign against him. I believe the police have encountered him at some point and have respected a request for silence, thus leading them to their conclusion that he is voluntarily missing.
Karen is a duplicitous snake and has pushed several falsehoods throughout this ordeal, most especially the, 'Bryce was a good boy, this was totally unexpected,' narrative, when it was clear he was starting to spiral out. They never once mention that he was basically driven from the home due to his behavior. Mike isn't duplicitous, so to speak, just thick as a brick, emotionally stunted, authoritarian, and a bit spineless when it came to being an advocate for his kids.
Bryce's parents regularly looked through his phone records, to see who he was associating with via calls and texts. They also somehow have control of his Facebook and email accounts, though we all know how easy it is to set up alternates. No doubt he needed a burner phone to communicate with whomever came to retrieve him. They have been trying so hard to keep the heat up on him that it's no wonder we've not seen hide nor hair of him since his disappearance.
I believe that when the Laspisas moved from Chicago to Southern California, they were mainly just looking for warmer weather and a place to retire. No doubt Bryce had a lot of bad influences he left behind, but he was a social kid and well liked by most who knew him, so he didn't have trouble making friends at Sierra. I believe the person who was to meet him wasn't late, per se, but was traveling a long distance and due to changes in Bryce's plan, he had time to kill in Buttonwillow. I believe his plan was to drive to Laguna Niguel, drop off the car and everything his parents were paying for, have 'the talk' with them, then meet with his friend to depart. I suspect they were driving from multiple states away. My guess is that he went to the Pacific Northwest as he has been possibly spotted a few times in Oregon. The drive from Portland to Buttonwillow is about 13 hours, and 15-16 if coming from Seattle. The majority of Oregon sightings place him somewhere around Eugene, which is a big college town.
I absolutely believe that Karen knows more than she has admitted. She is the type of person who would manufacture a massive lie to protect herself from the smallest embarrassment. Knowing what I know about that woman, I find it quite likely she said something that led Bryce to say, 'Fuck it,' and deviate from his plan. I also think she is the type of person (i.e. a malignant narcissist) who would lie to her own family about what was said as so to shield herself from the embarrassment of her complete failure as a parent and wife. If you watch her various media appearances, there is nothing genuine about her attitude or emotional state. It's all fake and rehearsed. Every photograph of her shows her making an exaggerated, forced grimace indicating emotional pain, but there is nothing genuine about it. She is a vile narcissist whose emotional expressions are sophisticated systems of manipulation, and the main reason for my posting on this matter is to expose her for the fraud that she is. Even some of her closest friends have finally noticed this and some have actively sought to keep her at arm's length, while others have walked away entirely. To my knowledge, everything Mike knows about this situation he heard from Karen, as I don't believe Mike spoke to him much during the entire ordeal.
It's also very possible Bryce moved back to Chicago. That's a huge city, one which would be easy to disappear in to. His parents occasionally travel to Chicago to meet with friends and family, and they also had a pow-wow with media types there a while back, but they still live in California to this day."
How did this guy know all this?
This sounds very intresting. But why would he drive of a cliff then
Sounds more made up than true
â@@obiegbumichael1076nah. It's true.
I had a mother like Karen and a spineless jellyfish of a father like Mike. I'm not ENTIRELY missing. But I also don't want to be found. My birth family has no idea what state I live in and when I moved I assumed a new name. Not legally, so it wouldn't technically be that hard to find me, but I don't want anyone getting nosy and connecting me to my parents. Coworkers, etc, all believe my name is what I say it is, they have no reason not to, obviously.
I've basically disappeared into thin air. What people need to understand that some families really ARE that bad to do this.
And my egg donor is a "victim" too. I was always such a HORRIBLE child but "deep down" I have a good heart and she'll always love me. PUH LEASE.
For my part, if I walked right into Bryce and he introduced himself I'd say hello and keep walking. If he's alive he doesn't want to be found. I hope he's out there living his best life free from abuse.
"He's not like that, he's not suicidal"....that's how suicide succeeds
When the person wants to succeed in taking their own life,they will. Like it or not & you will never know.Until after it happens.
Yeah, that is what people always get wrong. "He was happy" ,"He would never do that". Even if it's someone you think you know, you can't pretend it's not an option.
Not always but yes
There is no such thing as a successful suicide.
Oh yeah baby mission passed, suicide succesful
Who else was saying âNoooooooâ when Christian decided it was safe to stop following Bryce??
He went way out of his way.who can drive behind someone for 3 hours,then 3 more hours back& probably have to work in the morning he went beyond out of his way for being a total stranger.
Yeah he did ALOT more than what the average person would do by just going back to check on him
me
Same here. He was already going so far out of his way and now probably lives with the regret of not going the last leg. Poor guy but he is awesome in my book đ€đ€
@@perinthia6829 he technically did more than the parents did as well and took action
The mechanic though oh my GOD, the effort he put in to helping this family, whAt a kind hearted soul!!!!! Bless him!!!!
Excitement and momentary happiness is NOT the same thing as not being suicidal...
That Christian guy is a living legend. Truly a genuine guy that went out of his way to help a complete stranger.
AMEN!!
I thought for sure, for a minute, he WAS going to follow him all the way home!
Or did he?!?
@@thedoctorroth lol calm down Sherlock
He did more to make sure he got home than his own parents!! So frustrating. Only 3 hours? I'd have drove out there to drag his ass back home myself.
@@jparody2025 yeah that was what I was thinking too. I would have told the police to take him to the station and that Iâd be right out to get him!
Parents should have been driving his way the whole time after she learned Christian was having to follow him
Yah really, I woulda been on my way after the first time I heard he was sitting in a parking lot staring out of his windshield for hours.
Exactly what I was thinking
If it was my child, I would have been driving that way for sure.
Iâm sure they feel horrible already. The parents may be reading these, so please be considerate.
@@wendywarrior2264 that's like saying let's feel bad for a dude who killed another person. The parents didn't really care or they would have acted
Thank you Mr ballen for sitting on the side of the highway to tell this story! â€ïž
His parents never did see this coming. So sad. I applaud the mechanic Christian for being such a good guy in Bryce's time of need. No one does that these days. I hope he's found one day. đąđ
The car repairman was more willing to physically go take care of Bryce than his parents.
Even if they would have gone down there's nothing they could have done. Once someone has that plan nothing will stop them.
Absolutely not true, and a dangerous thing to believe - you can't stop everyone, but you can always try
The parents seemed obsessed with him. Maybe that was the problem. The parents were trying to control his life.
@@1111orion r u stupid? That's not obsessed they cared about him and wanted him home safe for acting strange !
@@1111orion they were literally just being parents
Why on earth didnât his parents drive out to him when he was sat in a car park for 9 hours? Totally bizarre
Because he kept saying that he was coming home. Why is everyone blaming the parents? they did everything they reasonably could.
@@leecoffill8425 they absolutley did not do âeverything they could reasonably doâ. They knew he was sat staring out the window in a car park for 9 hours after repeatedly lying to them about going home. ANY parent I know would have been on their way there the minute he was sat in a car park, lying about coming home after his friends had expressed mental health concerns.
I dont have a car but I would literally use all my savings or sell my family gold to spend it on taxi or Uber, to just pick up this poor kid
@@leecoffill8425 no...they didn't. He said he was coming home hours ago from the first encounter in the parking lot. Second time in the parking......come on Missy, with Everything b4 that, I would know deeeeep down sump ant right n am gonna get out there.
@@leecoffill8425 I call bullshit. I was missing for an hour once during a mental break from depression and my father went out and hunted me down to take me home so I couldn't get hurt. An hour and the man dropped everything, he ran out of his job at a construction site to come find me.
Shame his brain was completely torn apart by cancer and a previous head injury because he's not that same man anymore sadly, just a hollow asshole. But back then he'd move heaven and earth for his kids in a heartbeat.
The fact his parents despite being 18 did not drive out the 2.5 hour drive to the stop to talk to him or pick him up makes me less sympathetic to them and more angry instead.
the story started with him giving away his stuff and my heart just absolutely sank.
It's crazy to me that his parents didn't go get him. I once missed my flight home from Vegas; I was safe and would have to stay another week with my boyfriend before I could fly back, but my mom still asked both myself and my boyfriend separately if she needed to drive the 8 hours in one direction to come get me. I was calm, just a little upset. If I had been acting like this there would be nothing I could say to prevent her from getting to me
Christian displaying amazing empathy as a human being for others.
I'm the same way
@@joannajamerson35 Me too, not the best at it, but Iâm pretty good at it which makes me sad sometimes because I can feel a lot of pain of others. :(
Also, that helps me share out kindness into the world which I love doing. :)
I am not trying to be funny or say anything bad about this kid and this is just a theory based on the information gathered. Maybe he was gay and in love with his friend he gave the gifts to. I don't know a lot of guys who wear diamond earrings and he gave his earrings and x box to him then right before he broke up with his girlfriend and wanted to tell his mother something. He may have been just sitting in the car wondering what everyone would think.
Once you find a missing person, you don't then move them on without a final destination. Best thing for the kid would have been to leave him where he was.
The man is a saint
Why his parents just didnât drive to get him in all that time is beyond me, he was there for hours and hours and they had enough time.
fair point to be honest
was wondering the same myself
I'm sure they ask themselves that every day đą
why tf did they keep telling him to drive home himself when it was more than obvious he was suicidal.
Exactly what I was wondering. As his parent,, the moment he gave away his diamond earrings and his Xbox, I would have had him placed under 24 hr watch until I got there.
I feel sorry for Brice. I think he was stalling. There was so much opportunities to save Brice, but the parents were negligent. Literally they cant drive 3 hrs to get him? Brice sat there for additional 9 hrs!
How heartwarming that Christian went to such lengths to help this family that were total strangers. I know from experience that many good people live in Californiaâs San Joaquin Valley. Itâs sad that, in the end, this tragedy wasnât able to be averted.
Hats of to Christian. He sounds like such a caring individual that I be he'll carry a burden of guilt with him, probably for the rest of his life.
Yes
I agree bro, he's a stand up guy!
A genuine caring person, sort of unbelievable how hard he tried. His parents raised a good son.
He is a champ
Iâm not sure why the parents didnât meet Chris and Brice half way...so sad
So strange. That guy Christian is a gem, the world could do with more like him.
Bryce was gay and couldn't tell his parents and gf.
@Sports Enthusiast really? stupid
@Sports Enthusiast Nah, he was acting strange before he even met Cristian
@@esposexy2210 Thought the same thing.
He became emotionally invested at that point and his curiosity took over. I might have done the same.
It's stories like these that really amplify the chaotic, unpredictable, deadly world we live in! Just passing through, just like you. Please remain in the light.
Chris is the type of person that restores my hope in humanity in this appalling world we live in these days đđŒđ hats off to him
Agreed but I'd just like to add, if positive news were as shocking and memorable as the negative ones, we'd literally hear about them all the time. There are many more good people out there than there are rotten ones.
This is the case I canât let go. One time, I had an emotional breakdown and tried to drive 4.5 hours to my parents. I got maybe halfway and I couldnât go on. Called my parents and said I was at a rest stop. Fell asleep in the car and woke up to my daddy knocking on my car window. Yep, middle of the night and he drove all that way go get me. Ever since I heard about this case, I have been so grateful my dad did that. Now that heâs gone, I realize more and more how lucky I was to have him. I could have been like Bryce. It just really gets to me.
Yeah i don't understand why his parents didn't do the same. They should have went to him.
@@nohomoedgelordallenioso5005 I was literally yelling the same thing at my screen during the parts where his parents urged him to go home. I guess itâs easier to see in hindsight, or from the perspective of someone who has experienced similar psychological trauma, but I kept thinking to myself, for Bryceâs parents to repeatedly urge him to continue driving home, after a multitude of huge red flags, that it was akin to asking an intoxicated Alzheimerâs patient to do the same. Itâs a tragedy that no one, including the police officers, were able to pick up on that.
Sorry for the loss of your father. He sounds like a genuine man. Iâm sure heâs still with you, as he was when you were going through it. Positive vibes for you and your tribe đ
@@robinjandhi6661 thatâs so kind. Thank you!
@@robinjandhi6661 I was thinking the opposite, that the parents were being extremely annoying and pestering him too much. They were treating him like a child, instead of an adult. Although when I was 18, my parents didn't buy me a car and put me in college and give me a credit card, so he wasn't that independent. I just kept thinking I would have been yelling at my mom to leave me alone, and I would have gotten really creeped out and upset if my parents looked up the gas station I went to had the guy come visit me. It just felt really intrusive to me personally.
When people start giving away important, valuable things; it is a red flag for suicide. Breaking up for no reason is another one. This broke my heart as a mother.
They cheer up drastically as well. A weight is lifted so to speak once they commit in their heart to do it. They believe relief is coming. This goes hand in hand with gifting posession. And making amends as well.
I thought everyone knew that .
It was because of the amphetamines, which is vyvanse. Its stronger than meth
Your so right, huge red flag.
@@hawk535 well it depends on how much you take lol
Sounds like Bryce might have been through something traumatic or had a dark secret of some sort. Maybe he accidentally killed someone for example. That might help explain his strange behavior
20 years later someone think they spotted Bryce 10 miles away from his home.
The parent: let's stay home and wait. if it's him we're sure he'll come home soon.
Best comment ever. And the sad thing is I do believe that's EXACTLY what their parents would've done. I'm actaully surprised they even drove to the crash scene
As soon as my child starts giving away his loved possessions, I'm on my way.
Heâs a monk Iv see a video on a video on CZcams
Most definitely. Itâs one of the 1st things people who plan on committing suicide do. Very tragic story & I canât imagine the pain of not knowing. It does seem as though he hitched a ride with a Trucker to âescapeâ from something...his demons or some bad people. How terribly sad for the parents & friends who obviously loved him so much. đ
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@@SisuGirl I swear on my kids lifeâs Iv seen him on a video on CZcams 6 months ago... heâs a monk in Tibet .. Iâm trying to find the video now.. I never forget his face coz he was telling his story.. Iv been searching for the video for the last hour... I canât F?)king find it. Some one needs to tell his parents heâs still alive
1000% same
NO ill intent toward the parents, but after several hours of trying to coax my kid to come home from a strange town with no success, I would have just driven up to find him myself.
Exactly what I'm saying
My daughter just went to the beach for graduation and had a flat 3 hrs away. She was with one other girl her age and I knew the road they were on was a long 2 lane stretch with nothing around for about 10 miles and it was getting dark. I don't trust anyone else when it comes to my daughter so I didn't even think about really. Just told her to sit in the car and if anyone stopped besides police tell them that police were in there way from a cracked window, keep the doors looked and I Got in my truck within 10 minutes and went down to fix it. It just blows my mind that these parents didn't take it upon themselves to go get their son. I don't care how old my daughter gets. I'm her father and protector and if I think she's in trouble I don't depend on other people. Such a shame
That's exactly what i thought. I know they were trying but instead of waiting so many hours I would have just driven there. Actually Bryce is a friend of a friend of a friend and they're actually from or lived in Naperville Illinois, I dunno if that's why or where the confusion is, I know they had a California home. But they may have been here in Illinois.
Oh wait never mind the police were at their door.
EXACTLY! That's what I was saying. I would have already driven the 2hrs to him. And brought him home.
I am beginning to wonder if I just watch you not so much because of the stories but because of your talent to tell a story in all its details and keep your audience captivated.
A stranger tries to accompany him home while his own parents stay at home and avoid facing him with his as-yet-unspoken-about issue. This suggests to me that his parents knew what he wanted to talk about and were terrified of speaking about it. Otherwise they would have gone straight out and got him. They are hiding something.
Iâm sorry but his parents infuriate me. If that was my son I would drive out there myself and pick him up instead of sending everyone to go check on him.
Honestly those parents don't deserve a kid. Who can't be bothered to drive three measley hours, or even one hour after that saint of a tow truck driver made sure he left and followed him for over an hour!
WTF is wrong with you people
@@JonathanLit to be honest we dont even know why the parents didnt druve out. obviously the obvious choice was for them to drive out and get him. but what if they didnt have a car or wouldve drove past him on the highway, maybe one of the parents were ill. idk?
@@nadheerahyasmin1267 If it's your kid, you find a way.
It's called being in denial. I know someone who couldn't accept that her son has autism. He only recently received help at 18, and they only gave in since he became suicidal since he couldn't understand why he was different from other people.
And yes, it's infuriating.
For him to give belongings away and the other actions, it does sound like he was suicidal.
Thatâs what I thought when he said he was giving stuff away
That was my first thought
That was exactly my thought process
Either that or he had a death threat from someone
@@DankNG47 Suicidal ideation is common but faking your death is incredibly rare and typically only happens when they have something to run from like former gang members or people trying to avoid criminal charges. It was probably just depression.
I would drive 3 hours for an acquaintance I was worried about. Canât believe the parents couldnât do it for their son
Love you mr ballen thank you for all these endless stories that you narrated so perfectly to where we understand them and always so entertaining i work in a nursing home 10pm til 6:30pm i spend all my shifts listening while im working helps keep me entertained
WTH. If that were my kid, after 3 attempts, I would have driven down there myself. Hell, I would have driven down there after the gf and bf called. And did the annoying parent thing by staying on the line the entire time.
Christian is an angel. Not a lot of people would go that far. We need more neighbors, friends and human beings like him. đ
Amen and Amen I'd move heaven and earth for my babies.
I was about to post the exact same thing. Donât go anywhere, Iâm coming to get you. Christian, can you stay with him until I can get there? Thanks bud!
@@edrxpark Exactly. I wish they had done that. He was only two hours away, it's not like a two day drive. I'd do ANYTHING for my daughter... I just can't imagine parents receiving this many red flags and just sitting on their asses. Something was clearly wrong and they pretty much did nothing. đ
Christian displayed more caring than the parents. He's a complete stranger and yet he did beyond what is expected of him. I agree, the parents should have have sensed that something is really terribly wrong with Bryce and drove to that Buttonwillow hotel to fetch him.
I know family of his and he was a good kid and his history would had been considered in their decision. You don't really know what you would do till it happens to you, leave the blame off the parents-they have a missing child.
The mechanic was so caring, he went out of his way for a complete stranger several times. The thing about suicidal people is that you can put on a happy face so no one suspects it, Iâm guessing the family just canât accept it
Plot twist. The mechanic Christian followed him and foul play was involved. He seemed a little too interested in helping. No blood at the scene of the crash? I bet a mechanic would know how to jam the accelerator to send the car off the cliff. The car accelerated just before going over. His duffel bag open near the crash and rummaged through? Plus who better to perform nefarious acts on, than someone who is legit suicidal. Hmmm
@@dennisscott2516 nope because the camera showed him driving off the cliff purposely 20:50
Truth. Truly suicidal people do not cry for help or threaten suicide. They almost never confide in others about it, and just end up doing it.
@@nekad2000 yup thats the truth when your feeling that bad you get good at hiding it and truthfully no one will know unless you say something yourself. I know this because when I was 21 I myself tried to comment suicide and failed but no one ever knew what I did for nearly 15yrs when I finally told my family what I tried to do when I was 22. Everyone was dumbfounded and completely caught of guard when I told the full story in detail and they couldn't believe that they couldn't tell what was going on they all said I seemed so happy at the time but thats just how good you get at hiding your true self and putting on a facade for everyone else.
I know right awesome dude
Cristian sounds a great guy and to be honest after having followed for an hour I'd say that is plenty of time to believe someone is actually continuing their journey. I still cannot fathom why the parents didn't make the journey; was happy for a stranger to put themselves out for almost a 6 hour round trip. So they are aware their son has given away valuable belongings, has been drinking heavily, taking drugs and recently broken up with his girlfriend that is still showing concern for him. All that information, then sits in his car for 9 hours... 9 hours of chances to go to him. His mind must have been in turmoil, no other reason to sit there for that long. An officer has checked Bryce, he isn't under the influence, nothing in the car can apparently put him under the influence; he could have bought something between the officers visit and Cristian turning up again I guess. Sounds like he made a deliberate decision to kill himself. It didn't work the first time. Got a ride somewhere else and then surely its either tried again or started afresh but given how widespread the news was of his disappearance I doubt he could change his appearance that quickly to go unnoticed. Poor dude. I hope Cristian doesn't beat himself up about any of this; I have the feeling he is the kind of guy that does.
As a father of two children, that story really hit home with me, you are an amazing story teller, I was truly invested in it and actually cried non-stop for an hour after it, I hugged my kids so hard for a while after watching this(they thought I was a weirdo) I can't even process what was happening in the end.....hats off mr ballen. I haven't subscribed to anyone on you tube ever, considered it, then thought it was in poor taste to do so sorry
The moment he said he was tired of driving and wanted to take a nap after acting the way he did earlier I would have drove out with my husband to go pick my son up.. I canât understand how they slept that night.
They didn't know where he was, he was refusing to tell them
Thats the only flaw with that plan
Yes ma'am absolutely
Or the half dozen other times they could have made the trip out to him.
I would have driven out there as soon as I heard he stopped at a rest stop and was just staring at nothing. I'd be hauling ass to try and help my kid.
@@rscjawesom I mean he was on the highway. Go drive out there and look for your son along the same highway even if its all the way from Buttonwillow to whatever the other town was called
Every time I hear this sad story I'm at a total loss to understand how his parents didn't drive back to him right away. They had so many opportunities. The guilt they must feel is unimaginable.
True they could have driven to where it was đ„Č
Hind sight is always easy. Foresight is not.
For reals they made alot of very poor decisions
That's true but I have a lot of experience with suicidal people and often, when they've made up their mind , if they're *saved* they just go off and do it another day. It's very sad.
True helicopter parents are the best
These missing person cases hit me hard. Had a 19 year old kid go missing where I live, I remember putting up his missing posters at work and talking to his mom, they found his body last month (he was missing for 2 years), they found his body 5 miles from where I work and I was devastated as was my coworker.
I truly will never understand how bryce was up there for a whole day and his parents didnât drive to him I will never ever ever understand that like how did Christian help bryce more than his own parents bro.? There was 2 things thatâs couldâve happened to prevent this outcome
1.) the parents got off there lazy asses and drive to him
2.) the parents told Christian about him giving away his valuables and breaking up with his girlfriend and asked Christian if he could drive their son all the way to them I mean Christian literally already drove a full almost 3 hours with him without knowing all that stuff if they wouldâve told him and let him know their concerns he wouldâve 100% drove him the whole way, their son wouldâve been safe, and they couldâve gave Christian money for bringing their son home safely, couldâve even let the guy sleep at their house that night til morning cuz in my eyes whatâs worse.? Asking a guy to make sure ur son brings him home and giving him money or losing ur son forever I feel I much rather pay money to someone and let them stay at my house then losing my son
Quite frankly this outcome couldâve been avoided if the parents did one of these 2 things 100% makes me wonder if the parents didnât love him as much as they act like they do and wanted him to go missing or die
I can't believe his parents never went out to get him, a mechanic with no real relationship to Bryce did more than them.
I agree with this.
Why would you pick someone up who has a car? What is the logic? to pick him up and get the car towed when he could just drive it him self? U lot just say all this now in hindsight but most normal people wouldn't assume the worst straight away.
@@jan-um7nh Both of the parents could have driven out there and then one of them could have driven Bryce's car back home. Or while on the phone with the mechanic they could have arranged to get the vehicle and their son back home. (it'd probably be a few hundred bucks but đ€·)
I do have to say I thought about how strange it was that the parents didn't go get him but that was because the other videos I've seen about this case just stated that Bryce was "on the side of the highway."
But if he was actually stopped at a motel, that's a bit more reasonable why he would be in the same town hours after getting gas. Like he stopped to sleep before driving again. However, when the mechanic called the parents an HOUR AFTER the police left and told them that their son was STILL at the motel THEN I would have definitely grabbed my shoes and start driving to get him if I was his parent.
â@@jan-um7nhyou can't be that slow. It's not about picking them up. It's about seeing if he looks off and making sure he's good. Can also have him as passenger instead of driver
â@@jan-um7nh the logic is there in what happened in those 24 hours.
3 times for hours when tols that come home he sat there. Even had to call the police to get to him, even after that he didn't move, he gave his stuff away, he was behaving strange, he was calm but his actions were definitely strange. That's reason enough to go get your son, and not rely on him to drive all the way home. Did he give a reason why he didn't drive for hours but just sat in the parking lot?
Hey Christian ( mechanic ) I hope you're reading this and know that you're one hell of a good man .
I couldnât agree more... people like that are few and far in between
Agreed
True
He has everyone fooled...How do we know he didn't kill him?
I wish he hadn't repeatedly confronted then followed a guy who clearly wanted to be left alone. I'm guessing that's what sent Bryce over the edge.
For everybodys information: if someone you knows demeanor suddenly changes, they end relationships for seemingly no reason, they give away their valuables are all signs they are planning to end their life
She took his keys for a reason she knows him don't make her give them back i hope her conscience is clear. His parents tho he's reported missing then found but they don't drive 3 hours to get him. It took alot for his friends to call his parents. This story is wild
Christian needs a âlife raiseâ, good human right there
Christian and Kim!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yeah the man literally checked on the well being of a stranger twice while his parents just sat on their asses putting their trust in an obviously disturbed person smh
He went wayyyyy above and beyond. I bet he still beats himself up thinking he should've went just a little further. I hope he knows he did EVERYTHING he didn't have to do. OUTSTANDING PERSONđ
@Sports Enthusiast *plot twist*
@@MelissaNicoleYT i agree.. he is such a great person that i believed he will feel guilty he didnt sent the guy home.. he shouldnt have to so it saddens me to know he probably will have to live with this regret
Christian is an exemplary person for going above an beyond to help a stranger.
Yes, I agree, Christian is good people. I hope he's not feeling any kinda way about not following Bryce all the way home. I suppose the parents could have met him half way on the journey since they knew Bryce's behaviour was out of character. But I don't blame them for what happened, Bryce was fully grown and undiagnosed with any mental health issues. At the end of the day, no one has the gift of reading minds. We can only aim to trust our family members and hope for the best.
Yes, he also did more than Bryceâs parents did for himâŠ:(
Completely.
@@HumblyBlessed10 "at the end of the day,...no one has the gift of reading minds"!.......... I like that
@@jennyjoyce9465 yeah seriously, how did his parents not go drive there and get him. instead they just wait around for hours calling people when they could have been there before he even left the rest stop.
This guy literally didn't have to go missing. There were so many opportunities to save him. Christian the Mechanic cared more than his parents.
What a nice guy the mechanic is and the police officer 2 decent people â€
So itâs just a few hours away but his parents didnât attempt to go there, but this mechanic who didnât know him was willing to find him twice and even followed him up hours to make sure he headed home. Was driving out to find your child such an inconvenience?
I'm fascinated by the abundance of comments talking about it being suspicious that the parents didn't drive to try and find him as soon as he started acting odd, or at least at some point during the ordeal. Based on my personal experience, I saw nothing unusual about it whatsoever...but that's clearly a reflection of my upbringing. Interesting notice. It's been more than 15 years since I first moved out as an adult, but I simply cannot see my parents going to the lengths other people are describing here - EVER - even in my 20s or as a teen. But my point is this...what they did is not necessarily fishy/suspicious at all. A lack of a truly strong reaction doesn't mean they're trying to kill their kid. They're just not the types to be 100% invested in their kids.
I absolutely do know my parents love me. But they just aren't as devoted, proactive, or demonstrative as most parents, it seems (not just from my different perception of this situation, but also over the years and my noticing this in general.) I never knew it was unusual that they didn't show as much affection until I was older, and even now, I have trouble recognizing that it's unusual. I am so fortunate to have them in my life at all, and I know I'm not the only one with parents like this. But...it's kind of crazy to imagine how much of a difference it probably makes to have parents that fiercely love you and raise you to make sure you know what your life is worth.
I do wish I could relate to these comments about the parents not seeming very devoted.
@@deprofundis3293 You are very kind to accept your parents the way they are. I also donât think itâs suspicious, they just didnât care enough.
Many parents don't live their lives up their adult childs butts.
@@vivianisz761 I wouldnât say the parents were suspicious or didnât care enough, Iâd say they didnât believe their son to be capable being anything but ânormal.â They werenât concerned quite enough when both his roommate and gf called them. Even when he lied to them, they still believed him when he said heâd come home. As soon as I heard he was giving away things to his roommate, I immediately thought suicide. Of course itâs easy for me to say after the fact, but no matter what the son said during that first call with him, Iâd already be driving/flying to go to him.
@@deprofundis3293 I know what you mean. My parents are very similar. It's not that they didn't/don't put much effort in to helping me in particular, they're the exact same way with everyone. My parents are very much proponents of the "you worry about yourself, not anyone else" philosophy. They do not understand many of the values my siblings and I have like going out of our way to help strangers, volunteering, or even being against racism. "Why do anything unless there's something in it for you" is a question they genuinely don't have an answer for. Why go out of your way to help a stranger who's never helped you before if it's going to waste your own personal time, make you late for work etc? Why volunteer and work for no compensation in return? Why care about what's happening to a group of people that you aren't a part of?" They essentially believe only stupid people would do these things. If you bring up the point that the only reason they live so privileged is because they were lucky enough to be born into a privileged family, they're answer is basically "so? is that our fault? if we were born into a poorer family then we would share the same views as other poorer families because that's what would benefit us the most. everyone does what's best for themselves and their situation." They don't seem to feel the emotions of guilt or empathy. I do love them in a sense, and I am very grateful I have them as opposed to no parents at all, but I know I can't ever rely on them or trust them. Even if I were on the brink of death, the first thing that would pop into their mind is the life insurance payout they would receive. There are people out there who have children for all the wrong reasons, and would never bat an eye to help their children. I also want to add that my siblings and I were all the top students in our class, got pre-acceptance and scholarships to all the schools we applied for after grade 11, I worked full-time in addition to going to school all throughout high school (I literally didn't have a minute of free time through the week), had to do the same thing while going to school full-time in an Engineering program, and am a professional engineer today. Whereas my friends would get praise from their parents for accomplishments that didn't even come close to mine, my parents never said a single positive word to me ever. They would only criticize when I did something wrong. Never congratulate when I did something right. People seem to think I must've done something terrible to my parents for them to treat me the way they do, but I haven't. That's just who they are. Unfortunately I know if I find myself in a dangerous situation, I'm completely on my own.
I'm half way through this video, and all I can think of is: why, the hell, the parents DIDN'T just drive to get their son? One of them could stay home, the other could drive, instead of waiting for him to come up by himself. Especially after numerous times Bryce failed to actually drive home. Come on, parents.
Yeah my thoughts exactly. That place was only 3 hours away and after all his erratic behaviour you'd think goin to get him would be by far the best option.
embarrasing parents
We're watching a Mr Ballen video. We know what to expect. We know that tragedy is almost certainly around the corner. Put yourself in his parent's shoes. They saw him barely 2 weeks earlier and saw how happy and enthusiastic he was about school and life. They'd most likely talked at length with him over the course of months about everything. We watched a video less than 30 minutes with the benefit of easily guessing what's in store. From their point of view it was just a bunch of odd setbacks and delays. Should they have just gone and got him? Absolutely. But I do understand their thought process having believed that everything was fine.
How is it that they didn't suspect some kind of mental health issue going on? I always can indicate if someone I'm close to isn't acting himself or herself. It's as if they were clueless. I'm not trying to insult them, but they really had no clue to tell police that their son was acting erratic and perhaps needed psychiatric intervention. I'm with you though, I would have driven up there if that were my son.
How many times did someone call them ? I know just one more chance. Or two or three or ......
Give that repair man a raise or an award or something holy shit what a great dude lol
I can't imagine the feeling his parents feel not knowing... To just not know ANYTHING! Ugh I am so sorry for them. Mrballen, waaay awesome commentary of the odd but entirely addictive! ..in story form, of course! Very cool. Thanks for the stories.
I'm a survivor. As soon as he happily started giving away his expensive gifts, that triggered "suicidal" in my mind. The breaking up with his gf cemented it for me. The blank staring was, believe it or not, likely guilt; silently apologizing to everyone he knows he's going to hurt. He knew he wasn't coming home, and it's very likely he never will. I hope your troubles don't follow you to the hereafter, Bryce.
Stay a survivor, please, no matter how hard it seems. Even mental health professionals miss the the signs of 'a decision made'. Family and friends need to know the signs, particularly if a person has been acting stressed, unhappy/depressed, then seems to 'snap out of it' and/or begins prepping. If you believe you can educate those in your community about the signs and what kind of support is best from your pov, consider it?
@@sealyoness Firstly, thank you for the concern, friend. Secondly, this was approx. 25 years ago and I have been educating in a professional capacity for nearly that extent of that time. I want people to know that no matter how down they're feeling, they're never alone in that and that those left behind suffer just as much when they're gone. ";"
I agree with you. I think hes forever gone by his own hands.
I agree. When I first heard about this story, i thought it might have been a psychotic break but it doesn't make sense to me that everybody he talked to along the way claimed he was acting completely normal. I still wouldn't rule out that possibility completely but you're right there are clear signs that might point to a possible suicide. It's a huge misconception that people have about individuals with suicidal ideations that they'd appear to be depressed or down. Sometimes they might even seem really happy, because they've made up their mind to do it. I guess he might have been sitting in his car for hours because he was battling this inner conflict of wanting to do it and knowing that he shouldn't. When he survived the crash he probably got a ride with a truck driver to god-knows-where and possibly finished it.
Same for me
Why didn't the parents just drive up and get him when he was sitting around parking lots in that little town? Seems very weird that they'd just not think of that.
Thatâs what I was thinking
Same, if it was my parents they would come get me but out of frustration, probably, but still
I asked myself that too
Exactly what I was thinking. They could have asked the police to "arrest" him or he could have stayed at Christian's house. Or the girlfriend could have kept the keys and the parents come there. I have no idea why they kept encouraging him to drive. All that time he was staring into space, they could have been there.
Alex you are right. The whole story is weird
Those poor parents are blaming themselves for not coming to his aid. It's a lot easier in hindsight to say "I would have done something" but we were never in their position. Thoughts and prayers to Bryce and his parents.
No, most people (myself included) were literally yelling at their monitors "Go and pick him up at Button Willow!" countless times before even knowing how things panned out in the end. It is not hindsight, it was obvious.
I suffer from mental illness and was going through a tone of stress. I remember walking to my car to head to work and the next thing I know I'm waking up in a different parking lot several hours later with no memory of how I got there. For some reason, this video reminded me of it.
The second he started giving away his important things, my heart dropped and I realized where this was going. I feel so bad for his friends and family, being suddenly confronted with that severe warning signs.
Same here i was like oh no. This is not going to end well for this kid.
I had the same feeling. I've seen it too many times in music videos of songs about this kind, most notably "Coming Down" by Five Finger Death Punch. The exact same scenario from this story played out in the song's music video.
I agree, giving away things that are important to someone to a good friend or family is a strong sign. Or other little things that are odd to ones character. At least his friend & girlfriend noticed & tryed to let his parents know their friend was in trouble. Usually things like this are only noticed in hind sight.
A kid at my highschool, my he rest in peaceace, started to give all his nice stuff away got into a drunk driving accident not long after and ended his life that night before cops showed up. Im 27 this was 10 years ago, none of us even knew real life yet. Its tragic when people think there is no option hope or salvation.
I was about to comment the same thing, I had an attempt like two years ago and it was the first thing I wanted to do⊠I hope heâs doing better now and heâs having a good life :(â€ïž
As soon as he started giving away expensive items that he owned, I knew it was going to be suicide. He was happy two weeks before the attempt because people suffering from major depression who have decided on suicide can paradoxically seem happier, back to their old selves to outsiders. The reason for the depression sufferer is that they now have a goal and an endpoint to their suffering, and it feels like a relief. Everything about the first part of the story is a textbook suicide story, regardless of what the parents think.
Not neccesserry, yes for second part but also could be not depression but strong ptsd respond ad well
I đŻ agree. I know from my own suicide attempt. I wrote a note, a will pretty much, saying personal things, and who I wanted to have what possessions.
@@newsing33 hey you, I'm glad you're still with us, and sharing that story. I hope your life is filled with good things these days!
@@cambiata thank you, I appreciate that, I'm doing well! â€ïžđ
Youâre exactly right. I (thank god) had a failed attempt to unalive myself and shortly after I had made the decision I did have a period of euphoria leading up to the event.
Iâm very happy to be alive today; I had lost my wife and daughter and thought I had nothing. Itâs a dark place to be. If anyone ever needs help please call the National hotline text or call 988.
I just found out about MRBALLEN 2 days ago. I'm a truck driver and I've been beng listening to all these stories every since while I drive. Imagine driving down the road in the middle of the night listening to some of these scary stories with the dome light on because I feel theirs someone or something behind me in the cab in my bunk starring at me. đ đ đ đ đ
dang I wish I had family and friends this caring and patient
âHe was happy he was not suicidal â the biggest mistake you can make is assume someone isnât suicidal because theyâre âhappyâ
Quite often people will have an uptick in happiness right before that commit suicide because they finally have come to a decision and are ready. Between that, the drug use, and giving his stuff away...definitely he had decided to do it. I just wonder if something happened or a sudden mental break, or if he was fighting depression and hid it.
Actually the best way to know whether is guy is suicidal or not is by talking to him
@@vincentkennedymcmahon50 not at all, I fucking hate it when people want to talk. I have shut everyone out because they all want to âhelpâ
Right! Fcking âhelpersâ are not welcomed.
Never trust a ginger!
Christian did more to try to save him than his parents did.
Telling parents "you're fine" is a whole different moster. Many red flags may be raised but parents can be blind to them. His friend really knew who he became
His parents basically let him die.
I think a stranger aggressively insisting he return to his parents, then FOLLOWING him, is what took Bryce over the edge. It's okay to want to be left alone.
@@doctorfeelfunny584 nah. He was already thinking of something. Parked n staring out to nothing. He is deep in thoughts. Maybe he had a deadly dieases n couldn't tell anyone abt it.
@@fixhersworld Yes. He was very depressed and wanted to be left alone - as you say, deep in thought. If he was suicidal, he wouldn't be able to bear multiple days of quiet solitude and contemplation. Any first year psychology student will tell you a stranger harassing someone in that state is, of course, not beneficial and in fact very dangerous.
So heartbreaking! I have only one son and I just canât imagine the pain and grief Briceâs parents are going through. I wish they would have just gone to where he was when he just sat in his car at the rest area and then the parking lot of whatever establishment and just drove him home. I hope heâs found soon or they find out what happened to him.
I'm 38 and take Vyvanse for ADHD. I also take Aderal sometimes if I need too. Pretty much all ADD/ADHD meds have been abused by people without these conditions, because- like you said- for them they basically function as a neuro-stimulant.
Iâm 48 and on Elvanse, which is the same drug with a different brand name. I can take my tablet and drink coffee and then go for a sleep. Just diagnosed almost 3 years ago
cops, Christian, everybody else checking on him... parents waiting at home like "he'll be here any minute." smh đ
Christian did more than the parents did, not once, but twice, and followed him for an hr. He didn't even know the kid. What a stand up guy.đ
@@candikretz9544 that is in rare supply nowadays
@Sports Enthusiast I love your sense of humor.đđ.
@Sports Enthusiast a good theory but it needs more to back it up
The parents were there in that same parking lot. They had him they could have brought him home in their own car! What the fuck??? As a parent, they had it in their hands and they let him just sit there. I can't imagine how they feel if this is the real story. As a dad there's just so much that the story that doesn't sit well with me!! They could have should have would have done.
I watch alot of you tube. I think your subscribership out ranks many of the channels I watch. Kudos, and don't stop. I love your storytelling, even the stories I've already heard.
I feel bad for families who find it so difficult to accept the reality of a childâs death or disappearance that they believe it must have been foul play. Foul play is such a worse scenario but yet that is still easier to believe than that their child was depressed/suicidal.
âsuicide? this is NOT my son.â Itâs almost like a lot of depressed ppl put on a mask so that people donât know that theyâre depressed
Yup, absolutely.
Yep, that's me.
@@kemeee5407 hugs ; )
it explains him giving everything of value away
@@kemeee5407 I hope that youâre actively getting help you need
This is extremely frustrating. Why didn't his parents just make the three hour drive?
lazy, likely alcoholics themselves.
Sometimes parents can be in denial more than strangers. Esp the dad in this case.
Seriously! They could have even made the partial drive to as far as Christian went....
A stranger cared more than his parents seemed to in that moment
People always say no one should blame themselves when a loved one ends their life but the reality is that a high percentage of suicidal people are clinically depressed because of their parents.
This Is like the 4th story I've vaigly heard about years ago with no real context and then randomly realizing halfway through the video Is really interesting!
this story always blows my mind