Our WORST Nightmare Came True… The Struggle of Being Gay Parents
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- We come back to you again for another Couch conversation to discuss the hard truth sometimes about being Black, Gay Dads, especially in Florida. Starting out our channel, one of our greatest fears was the possibility of what we’re doing affecting our child…and that day had come. Feel free to drop any advice or even words of encouragement in the comments!
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I am straight, but i watch your channel because you two show the regular lives of gay people. It's not easy raising kids, but you are doing well. Keep your heads up!
This one got me in my feelings. The moment when Brian said “It’s exhausting defending who he is”
I felt that. Had a moment with a friend who had unwarranted opinions about people from our community and children. I appreciate the transparency from you both. Thank you so much! Continue to be the beautiful representation you are!
Whew, even seeing you type it out we had to take a moment and have another deep breath. We go through so many layers of struggles trying to justify the validity of our existence to others (even though we shouldn't have to). And it really is exhausting. That struggle makes us some of the most beautiful, layered and dynamic community though. As they say, God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers...we were divinely chosen to be the beautiful, game changing beings we are.
Happy to have been able to share this with our youtube family. Thank you so much for taking the time to listen and share your thoughts! Much love Temujin! 💜
I'm not sure that's a true friend. Some people just tolerate us.
@rashawncampbell7619 And that's fine...as long as they keep their distance and dont attempt to harm us. Their issues are not ours unless we allow them to be.
I’m a Gay parent, I from the start created a strong Gay positive foundation for my son ( He’s straight) . My son has a community of positive gay surrounding of people. I totally understand your what your going through. My son fortunately has not had a negative reaction cause of his Gay Dad . I was very conscious from the beginning that I would create a positive surrounding for him . I from the start told him there would be idiots saying dumb stuff. He’s 35 now and we have a great communication. God bless both you .
You can only control your inner circle unfortunately.
Your during a great Job .
How old are you if I may ask,?
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This vlog really hit home for me. I’ve raised 3 sons who are now 20,21,22 so I’ve maneuvered elementary, middle school, high school and now college as an active single gay parent with sleep overs, drop offs, school events, etc. I’m in Atlanta and I could not disclose my lifestyle for the safety of my sons….i kept it private as it’s 2024 now but most folks will embrace and accept a black bank robber over a law abiding black gay man…it’s the harsh reality of being a black gay man; the perception of a black gay father is perplexing to most, rather than praise of a father who takes exceptional care of his sons…the perception remains vile, nasty and sexualized. Hence, this is why there are so many black gay men still in the closet hiding today….😢🙏🏾
First off, before we go any further, we gotta give it up to you for being an AMAZING example of a great black man and father! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us and our audience as well. In the same way we hope someone is comforted by us sharing our experience, we are learning and comforted by yours. It's crazy how we literally can be seen as the most terrible people even when stacked up against the worst that there is out there. And for what? Trying to be our best selves and sharing that love with those around us. The problems we face as black, gay men is a loooooong list. But alas, we persevere. We hope that since you've done the hardwork and seen your children off that you now find time to love on and pour into yourself just as much as you did them. We admire you and really appreciate your support. Sending our love! 💜
@@MeetTheMazelins thanks so much brothers it means a lot….raising boys as a single father was a challenge but an amazing experience ❤️ i wouldn’t trade it for the world…I watch you guys and i thank you for sharing your lives and providing inspiration… I’m manifesting my Twin Flame 🔥
Just know the few who have negative views like that are the bad apples in society . Most people don't have this negative views , it's a minority of awful people who embrace hate and negativity who can have negative views like that , and their opinions DONT MATTER unless you make it matter yourself . There are a lot of good , positive people in society who would applaud you , focus on the loving , positive people
*"When we're are on the couch, it means serious business" ...*
*... I felt that part...!!! Great video...!!!* 👍🏽 👍🏽 👍🏽
Communication is best key to open and feeling ❤
Hold your head up
You both are great parents
Only God can judge you 🫶🏾💖🤗🥰
Please remember that any of these negative and bigoted things aren’t happening because of YOU. They are happening because of THEIR bigotry. I know that may not be a comfort always, but I hope you remember that fundamental truth.
Thanks for the reminder Alice. It definitely helps! 💜
Brian and Alec I Applaud you both for being so transparent
Thank you Marva. Hoping that us sharing our story helps even one other family out there.
I am straight but I love watching the channels of people different from me because that is when you broaden your horizons and grow. Be who you are!
Yes
wow a very wise and understanding human being
Wow! This video is going to help more same gender people with teens than you think! I applaud you for presenting this issue and the manner in which you presented it. Thanks to Brian for being vulnerable and sharing his feelings. I cannot imagine how I would be if it were my child. BJ is blessed to have two very loving gay parents and he too should be applauded, along with his posse. And let me just say that Alec's action to reach out to BJ's besties mom was spot on. The way he conveyed his hope to her that there be no confusion or problem going forward was brilliant, and her response was refreshing. This is a wonderful video.
We really hope that it does. We know the power in sharing because we have learnt so much ourselves from leaning on other people. We really are so proud of BJ and the people he has surrounded himself with and only continue to want the best for him and his development. With that, we also have so much hope for the rest of the world too, that we grow in love and not in hate. Thanks for showering us with positivity and encouragement Ron 🫶🏽
I’m soooo happy the MOM allowed BJ’s friend to still be his FRIEND!!! Education and acceptance is the KEY…. Continued Blessings to you both and of course BJ….’Don’t worry, every little thing gonna be alright’!🥰
Hi Brain and Alec , I'm straight, im one of your biggest fans, and I admired how open you both are continue to be you and loving your son teaching him to be him passing on your values and love conquer all ❤ . Blessed love Mazelins family.
It’s the selfless transparency for me. Putting your raw emotions on display not just to share, but to prepare others who may be in similar situations. It’s like initiating a support group where experiences can be shared. Where insight can be given. Where even some advice can open up new ideas of how to successfully navigate through these unfamiliar and uncomfortable situations. Kudos to you for that. Alec is a crack up to me!!! He lets it be known in no uncertain terms that he don’t play about you, Brian. Like he’s got your back 100% ( and, of course, it’s obvious that you have his back as well)…. Oh, and when your son’s buddies showed up like, “ what, we got a problem here??!!!”, I was like, THAT’S WHAT I’M TALKIN’ BOUT!!!!! I loved that part, too. These kinda situations can bring out the worst, and the absolute best. Such is life.. Much love to you Guys.
Please continue doing videos like this in the future. We ALL need to hear this. You made my day. And I am 62 year old black mama.
This is one of your best videos. It took a lot of bravery to show so much of your human sides. Its always been obvious how much of a great father Brian is and your a great stepfather Alec. Bj is lucky to have you both in his lifeand its obvious that he knows this. Peace to all of you.
It felt like one of the most important conversations we could have shared here on youtube. Thank you so much for the kind, positive words 🫶🏽
I know this had to be heartbreaking for you both. You guys are handling things well. You have been honest and unapologetic. When you show others there is no shame in true love, and are upfront when asked, this is the best anyone could do. I think you handled this situation well. There is no rule book to being a parent, sometimes you just have to learn as you go. You guys are doing a great job. I think if your son were to want to bring any other friends over, you might insist on talking to the parents first before allowing any others to come over until you know where they stand but rest assured, BJ seems to be a good judge of character, when picking friends I don't think he would be friends with anyone that were bigots. Kudos to you both!
Alec comes off as a therapist for some reason to me he just seems so nurturing and always seem to have the right thing to say to help you through your situation
I’m local and I fight kids 👀 all jokes aside this was amazing to see and I’m so thankful you shared this pov. I sent it to a mother I think can benefit from seeing this. Bless you both always xx
Hey we right there with you! I'm not a fighting man but my persona jumped to "f*@# around and find out" so quick! Taught me that even as a parent that circumstances are different for kids and unfortunately some of ours have to be taught that healthy balance between being respectful but also knowing when to stand up for yourself. We truly do hope sharing our experience helps the mother you sent it to as well. Appreciate you Jai! 💜
I’m 23 and a very single gay man, but as someone who does ultimately want children-this video is very much appreciated. Being on the receiving end of tormenting as a gay child, and ultimately a gay adult-I would never want my children to experience that as a result of who I am, but I also wouldn’t want to rob my child of the opportunity to have me as a parent, nor rob myself of the opportunity of having them as a child. In the same sense, BJ is privileged to have you two and vice-versa. I’m also a teacher (middle school, specifically) and while I have never had students with same-sex parents, on a daily basis I witness just how intentionally harsh children of that age-group can be. Thank you for the transparency, and I continue to wish you all the best.
This is a teachable moment for all involved, the school climate/culture could use a lesson on inclusion and acceptance, darn shame that this is still going on. You’ve brought BJ up wonderfully and the ignorance that’s in the world is crazy, be strong knowing that you have to be YOU without permission from anyone, their ignorance is theirs, BJ will be so much stronger because of you and Alec, the negative words are a learned behavior, children are taught the negativity that’s around. I was a Teacher for 42 years and had a no tolerance level for such things and incorporated inclusion in my curriculum, stay strong, much love to the Mazelins ❤️💪🏾
Peace and Blessing KINGS. I am so sorry to hear this situation. Please believe that your journey is moving with many Blessings in store, Continue living as proud parents that you are,
Be who YOU ARE! People need to do a better job of raising children that are kind to others. Only God can judge. Praying for wisdom and continued blessings 🙏🏽🦋
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ You Guys! 👍🏾🎯
You know the silver lining of it all to us is that because of our experiences as gay men growing up we feel that it has given us that extra push to really try and teach our son as best as possible to be accepting and empathetic of the different experiences that people have in this world. There are some tough lessons involved in passing on this knowledge, and sometimes lessons outside our control, but we hope that it only makes him a better man in the future. We really appreciate you all being apart of our community encouraging us along the way 🫶🏽💜
Live your Brian because BJ loves you no matter what you could have been not gay and people still have something to say only person who judge you is God I'm sorry that you went through a lot in your younger days so that I was way better than abuse I love you Alex Brian BJ a manifest everything will be all right just keep praying and manifest what you want for your life you're doing an excellent job raising the not many men with step up to the plate like you're doing even though you didn't want any kids in your younger days that's will give God gave what he wanted you to have 🙏🙏💛💛♥️♥️🌹 some people are just jealous of you because you are a very happy couple
Amen Amen because it starts at home
My Handsome guys 😢😢 because I hate the fact that yall son is being mess with I hate to see kids get bullied but yall just talk with him like yall do ppl need to let ppl be themselves and stop judging because God have the last say Brian I give you a big hug 🫂 so sorry for this mess but yall stay strong and keep it positive and keep pushing yall are amazing awesome parents ❤❤❤
Be encourage fellas. You guys are amazing parents! You guys are the definition of love. My husband have been together for 25 years as a black gay couple and I will say. You are going to rase an amazing citizen in this world.
The things ppl deal with off camera. being a parent is a special thing. However sometimes it gets overwhelming.I always try to ground myself and keep God ahead of my life.I been through so much over last 2yrs, it's crazzzzyyy. The stress was real.l just want to encourage anyone who's dealing with a lot to remember God has brought you out before he WILL DO IT AGAIN.
It's so amazing you guys are telling this story. You're AMAZING parents, and never dim your light so others can shine. You guys are helping so many through your content, and transparency. And if anyone has an issue with that, it's their problem, not yours. Hats off to you guys, keep being that light that so many need!! ❤❤❤
Hey guys, this one got me!! As you stated Brian why do we have to defend being who we are when we are just good people who are attracted to the same sex. Keep your heads up and know that you guys have my and so many other's support!!!!!
I love your channel always remember NO ONE IS YOU AND THAT'S YOUR POWER.
Many blessings for BJ, his friends, and his parents 🙏🏿 ❤.
Dam Brian! 😢😢 As a parent I felt your pain. Don’t let anyone ruin the opportunity for you to have a great day, etc. It’s hard to live in this headspace all the time because we all have some concern about what people think of us, but at the end of the day, the choice is yours. If you’re living a life of love, support, respect and giving, you will achieve this more often. BUT REMEMBER ➡️ it’s NOT about YOU BEING PERFECT, it’s about the day being perfect for you. Continue to be the best parents you are. Kids these days are bullies. I hope BJ will not let that experience define him. I only hope things will get better for all of the kids & families dealing with this same situation.🙏🙏🙏
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Brian as I watch you tear up in that bathroom, all I wanted to do was to give you a hug and let you know that everything will be OK. But we are not living in that type of world! I guess the only thing you can do is to make your son strong and continue to give him that unconditional love that I’ve seen from you as well as Alec!!!
I really appreciate yall I know it definitely wasn’t easy to talk about these situations but I gained so much respect for y’all talking about this thanks so much family 👏🏾👏🏾
You are such a good father and great example for him.
Thank you so much for the encouragement Michele 🤗💜
Whew. This is oh so familiar. My husband and I went through a similar struggle maybe even worse. Our son is 26 now and what a ride it’s been. The biggest lesson learned was adjusting to how we respond to things that we have no control over. The journey you guys are on isn’t easy so I wish you both courage, patience and strength. Everything will be okay.
CAUTION: This is a LONG comment, but it needs to be seen.
To Brian:
You were just showing your true feelings, and you have every right to feel the way you have. Based on what you show to us on how you are as a father, and a husband, you are doing the RIGHT thing and you are authentic. I myself can't say that I could relate to how you felt about this feeling of raising B.J. as a proud FATHER, as well as a PROUD husband to Alec. I don't have kids myself, but I had help raised my niece at birth as a PROUD uncle (or GUNCLE, if you may) and I can say that these kids (not all, but the ones who weren't RAISED and TAUGHT correctly by their parents or guardians, but by MAMMIES and DO-FOR-NOTHING N****S, and what they see on social media, it is a travesty and emergency because the future is at risk if they are the next to populate. You love your son, unconditionally, raising your son, and teaching and protecting B.J, as a PARENT is required to do. The world is polluted with the asinine of people (sometimes, family, friends, strangers, and workers), with the intention of staying in other folks business, and not taking care of their own. So what, that you're a black, gay male who has a son and a husband. As long as you are taking care of YOUR business, Brian, it is NOBODY else's say-so or cheap ass opinions are not valid. Keep raising B.J.to be the greatest that he can be and be happy- YOU deserve it.
To Alec:
As a proud man yourself, and loving husband to Brian, I know you care, love and support B.J.100%. As a "stepfather" to him, you also have every right to feel the way you have. There could be many different outcomes of being a stepfather to a spouse's children: Good or bad. To the "parents/guardians"of the kids that seem very dumbfounded or just plain ignorant when it comes to same-sex families: Take your heads out of your own funky asses and LEARN about how life and those around you are not what YOU want it to be. YES, there are gay men and women who can marry in certain parts of the world. YES, there are same sex couples, who become parents. They are HUMANS too and are just living their lives without any negativity the best way they can. If you want to get offended or baffled by something, be outraged by women having multiple kids out of wedlock, be outraged at kids going to school to do everything else but get a education (possession of weapons, gang-affiliations, fighting with other kids or teachers), kids carjacking, robbing, etc...And that's just here in CHICAGO, where I reside). So Alec, you continue to be supportive for B.J. Brian, and yourself.
To Brian Jr. "B.J.
I'm not sure you may actually see this but your dad's will let you know. It is sad how the world is filled with individuals who will not see eye-to eye on life itself. You having your dad who is married to another man, does not make anything less. You are loved by both, and you are growing up to become the great individual that you are. NOTHING ELSE MATTERS. Your friends (and teachers) who were actually taught and raised up right, understands and don't tease or make an issue of you having two dads. Continue to be YOU and nobody but YOU.
I love you guys and you have made me smile since day one on CZcams. Continue to live in happiness and the haters will continue to envy you all. Love and Peace,
Derrick Johnson
I never comment but I am always here watching every Sunday. I wanted to say thank you for this video, someone out there needed to see this. Both of you are great parents and we love all of you for exactly who you are. It sucks to live in a world with so much hate! And BJ, we 10 toes down for you!
Continue to be the strong, positive people that you are and know that you will persevere. It is just February and this year has been a struggle. Prayers up for love and light to everyone!🙏🏽
Thank you for posting this Your son is a lucky boy, there will come a day when he will appreciate and love you more because of these hard times. Keep up the good work guys.
Brian and Alec, thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this story with us. I can't begin to imagine the challenges you have to navigate in these times (which is unbelievable in 2024). My support goes out to you both!
This video touched me soooo much. Continue to live your truth and be an amazing father/parents.
This is a great Video. Thanks you for sharing. Brian and Alec.
Touching video...and very informative..God judge no one and loves us all the same...
Was such an important conversation for us to have. We hope it helps even one other family out there know that they aren't alone. Thanks for the reminder and support! 🫶🏽
I watched this a couple days ago and wanted to get back on to make sure I added my comments. Know that you are love and loved. I applaud the strength you both show in times of other than favorable situations. Parenting is not an easy road and with the added stress of uncaring folks makes it even harder. Keep the faith and continuing loving and supporting each other.
Damn B , you got me😢 as a now gay paw paw ( granddad) I can assure you Communicate and continue to Love !Take the shame away there’s nothing wrong with being gay and to those with the issues understand just that it’s their issue.When my oldest was a teen he overcompensated to not be teased the whole tough guy thing acting out but being true and showing kids who we are as adults speaks volumes.. sad to say but I stopped using the F word along time ago unless referring to that place with the rides (fair) it’s hard but remember every damn day you ain’t living this life for them your living your truth for you ! Love y’all stay up better days ahead
Keep fighting the good fight fellas. We love and support you 100%! You are amazing men and fathers and you and BJ are blessed to have each other. Thanks so much for your light my brothers! ✊🏾💪🏾
I am so proud of you both for sharing your story, I am sure it will reach other people in similar situations. Love you both ❤
Thank you for powerfully sharing your story with us. I became emotional this morning hearing Brian speak. Particularly the part about being exhausted with always defending who you are or whom you love. I thought I was alone feeling that way.
To hear you share those same sentiments as it relate to being gay parents pulled on my heartstrings. I cannot begin to imagine what that must feel like not being a parent myself.
I was never a fan of a couple CZcams channels but I became a loyal subscriber because the two of you were so authentic and loving. It pains me to think that anyone could ever demonize your family because it looks different than others.
So many of us love and support you so please know that when the world is against you, all that matters is your tribe. Don't ever change. We got you!👊🏾
I love the way you all communicate! Your channel is amazing and I consider you all to very positive role models for couples/ families. Keep positive ❤
Brian Jr. seems to be a blessed, well rounded young man. Stay blessed and don’t let anyone else’s ignorance change who you are!
Keep doing what you guys are doing. BJs loves you guys and accepted both of you for who you are, and that is whats matter. I just wish he did not have to go through that situation.❤
Sending so much positivity your way
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I am empathetic to the concerns you spoke about here, and can’t even imagine the worry you must feel from day to day. BUT thank God that the young people today are so much more open, accepting, and understanding. They are the ones who will truly shape this world for the better. BJ and the friends that stood up for him are proof of that.
Love your family and wishing you many, many blessings!
Omg I just love you guys. You all stated so many facts. B your son is a gift from God and God gave BJ to you for a reason. I am new to the channel via the wedding video. Stay strong as a woman without father or grandparents in my life I appreciate now you guys are amazing.
Thank you both for being so transparent in this video!! Brian, you moved me to tears with that video! Love who you love and continue to raise your son to be a respectful young man!! Love you guys❤
second time watching this video...very eye opening guys. Thank you for sharing this side of you❤
This is your Fav. step cousin from Atlanta... Thank you for sharing this story and your feelings, that topic had to come up at some point of BJ's life as I had to have the same conversation with a few of my Newpher's and Their friends Parents. They were hesitant and did not want to have the talk about it but they were on the same football team and seen that I was as active as their parents. so, with that being said a few gathered together and told me they were like we don't like your lifestyle, but we do respect you for care for all the little fells as their other uncle/parent figure. also, they trussed me because when they could not make it to pick them up, I am waiting around or meet them somewhere with their child. but again, we needed this and I hope that the world gets better in understanding that the LGBTQ Community are not preying on the youth/ young adults we are here to uplift and uphold a standard.
“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced" ~James Baldwin~
Wow, so sorry that you guys have had such an experience. People can be so mean. Ķeep the faith and continue to pray and live your lives. It will be alright. BJ is an amazing kid. He loves the both of you. You all are in my prayers.
Brian & Alec, I really admire yall vulnerability and the stories you share with us. It has truly been heartfelt, as you was talking Brian, i imagine how it would be when I become a father one day as a gay man, how will other parents react to my child? I’m so sorry you had to go through that man, your son is amazing and he’s a protector. BJ is a blessing to you & Alec, and I commend yall both on being a great example to him. Continue being the best parents yall can be, yall doing an awesome job.
I'm so sorry that you are experincing any negativity at all especially now. This world has & will always be cruel but like you said people are taught, shown how to be that way. I will continue to pray for more positivity within your circle. I love you & all that you are sharing with the world. Keep shining bright & continue being true to yourselves.❤🙏
Alec and Brian I’m so so sorry about this incident. Wishing the family everything good. Much much love ❤️ ❤❤❤.
This video was so educational, so loving so relatable. I think a lot of people should share this video.
Omg. Thank you so much for this!!!! I absolutely love both of you all’s transparency, honesty and vulnerability. ✊🏾❤️
Awwww 😢 Brian I am so sorry that you are going through this.. you seem like a really great dad. Keep doing what you’re doing, Bj loves you very much.. yes teenage years are a whole new ball game. Everything will work itself out. I love y’all channel ❤
So sorry for the issues,but you are both beautiful people and anyone that gets to know you will see. As for BJ, thank God for his friends that were there for him. I hope they will continue to be there for him.. love you much
Thank you once again for sharing with your subscribers. I can relate as a sgl father of two sons. Fortunately, my sons have not had to deal with consequences associated with who I am as a person. It was one of my greatest fears as I came out during their middle school years.
Hey guys. I can honestly say, I feel your pain, hurt, and concern. It really saddens me that you had to go through that. You are wonderful parents. You deliver great content too. You’re respectable, responsible, and loving parents. I know BJ is a great person and I’m happy that he still has his best friend. I wish you both mental and physical health, happiness, and hope for the future.
Guys this video is so beautiful and I’m so glad you’re speaking on the issue keep up the good work you are not alone
Thanks so much Marva. We really hope that it does help at least one other person out there.
I have watched you since you started. you are responsible mature and level headed young parents
Some of these hurdles will come your way but having watched you from day one l am sure you will be able to handle the situation.... truly you super dads... L pray God protects our BJ... Blessings upon you guys
Praying you guys get through this and praying B.J is good love you guys keep doing what you doing❤
This video got me in my emotions when Brian started tearing up I literally started crying because I know exactly what he means and this is one of the reasons why I love this channel you guys touch on real topics real situations
Raising children is difficult whether you are same sex or straight. Some issues can be different but many problems are the same. People will always find something to focus on to try to make others feel bad. Just pray on it and continue guide them the best way you can. The truth is the light.
There is so much I want to say to y'all after watching this vlog. Perhaps I'll DM you guys, instead! Sending y'all positive vibes and so much love! Y'all are great and kick life in the ass! Oh, and much love to BJ as well.
Brian, your emotions in this video were needed more so 2024. This is educational in so many ways. Your tears showed pure concerns about your sons well-being. Brian, from the start, you were an awesome dad. Then, became an awesome husband ❤️. Alec became an awesome husband and step dad from the start. Together both of you are awesome dads with great love for BJ ❤❤❤!!!. Keep being yourselves. People are going to talk no matter what walk of life a person lives. God is the only ruler and judge. I love the videos and the Mazelin family all three of you all ❤❤❤!!! I will continue to watch and subscribe to this channel. Brian and Alec , I'll say this again please keep being yourselves. Alec, you are always in Brian's corner. It's great seeing both of you so in tuned with each other in all ways. Much love to Brian, Alec, and Brian Jr,. Stay strong as a family.
God bless you both 🥰🙏🏽 praying better days ahead for you all .keep shining you got this Bryan and alec🎉
Am so sorry you going through this emotional Brian but God will carry you through Brian and Alex please live your life don’t worry about what people have to say I will keep continuing praying for you guys ❤all ways
This hurt. I’ve not been this emotional watching your video in a long time…. Love you guys so very much!! ❤❤❤
You know it is the same for us honestly. We feel like when we started out we had so many things battling. Uncovering our own individual traumas with each other as well as with our audience, sharing our troubles with our immigration journey, and then the backlash of just being an out gay, black, couple publicly sharing out journey. In contrast, the last year has been one of ease, so much love, and we really developed this feeling or normalcy that we were loving. This really threw us for a loop though and caught us off guard we must admit. But as always we know we can call on the support of our community and share not only the good, but the bad times too with y'all. We continue to appreciate you guys more than you will ever know!
@@MeetTheMazelins you will always have my support.
Hey Mr. And Mr. Mazalines, this was very powerful. I really appreciate your honesty. You didn’t have to but you did. Thank you for your vulnerability. I am a gay man but I have no children. I would have loved too, but I didn’t. I also have gay friends who do have biological children and I envy them. You both are good dads AND very respectable. I am also grateful that your son has very real friends, times are truly changing. We are ALL evolving to be better people. I’m also proud of your husband for coming to your aid and texting the the sons friend parent. And, the feed back that came back from the parent. Everybody is becoming acceptable. We have a long way to go, but the community is getting better. EHAT A NEW DAY.
So sorry that you are going through this. I'm so proud of those young heroes who stood by your son and confronted a bully, good parenting start from home. I sense this could be the beginning of something bigger than you could have imagined. God has a plan for ur family, as a teaching tool to those who choose to be ignorant, bullies or act oblivious. Keep pushing on, you are doing great ❤
Omg ! Guys please stay STRONG !!! Some people have a closed mind but you can’t let that get in the way ! Continue to grow and love your son. Don’t sweat the BS! ❤in your corner ✌🏽
You are awesome!!! And continue to live your best life for you, your son, and your husband!!! God will continue to bless you guys!!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I'm so sorry Brian we live in the world so much hate and so much misery but you and Alex are living your truth keep strong your love is pure and it's good God bless you guys
Thanks for the blessings Annemarie! We continue to be encouraged and not let the negativity affect our family. We appreciate you 🫶🏽
I rock with yall because I can tell you are genuine, kind-hearted people, fun people. I hate that you have to experience the ignorance of others, especially your son. ❤
You guys are awesome parents. Thanks for being there for each other and BJ. Love you all from the bottom of my heart ❤❤❤.
there are so many lessons in life,please stay strong my brothers.
Good Souls - just keep on living your Truth, soaring to new heights, finding Peace,m celebrating joy, and loving endlessly. You're great, loving Souls! Big HUGS ❤
We appreciate you! Thanks for the kind words 🫶🏽
😢 You are raising an awesome human being. Great content, thanks for sharing.
You guys are awesome. BJ is lucky to have you both in his life
Don't cry Brian please you're breaking my heart 😢 Take it easy you guys, everything is gonna be okay All that matters is y'all happiness. I love you both. Peace and love from 🇳🇬 ❤❤❤
Life can be so ugly sometime but remember you are a great father. 😅😅😅😅
Praying for you both. Continue to be who you are and just keep talking and checking on BJ.
Thank you for sharing this bros! ❤
Thanks for listening friend! Sending love from two dads to another! 💜
You are such wonderful human beings as well as wonderful parents. I am sad to see, once again, how there are those who coexist with us on this planet who still pathologize love, based on gender and/or sexuality diversity. I love how you empower one another in your relationship to become the best versions of youreselves. You set a beautiful example for all of us.
I feel for BJ having to encounter such negativity while he shares his life with his classmates. I don't have kids, but i can imagine how difficult it can be having to advise a child about navigating such negative encounters based on the stereotypes and homophobia passed from other parents to their children. My heart goes out to you Brian & Alec. I agree Alec that it is encouraging that his friends stepped up for him so he wouldn't feel alone....Some things have changed, but attitudes and beliefs are difficult to overcome. I think keeping the conversation open and honest is a great tool toward at least understanding each other's point of view.
I also live in Orlando, FL, I think I saw you guys at the parade but didn't say anything. It will all be OK. Keep your heads up and keep a great support system and great friends which as an adult I find is very hard to find especially in the gay community. Stay strong 👍🏾❤️
Thank you for sharing life with you two great guys.😊
Brian and Alec, 1st so sorry to hear about BJ experience, yet happy to know he has friends who stood up for him. It saddens me that in 2024 people still find favor in pre-judging others! I am a mother of 7 amazing children (all adults now with children of their own) a firm believer in accepting people for who they are, not their race, lifestyles, or financial class! God loves us all, how small of us not to return that same love to! I've raised my children with these same values! I love that you reached out to BJ's best friend Mom, and she was receptive to opening a line of conversation. As you know, we parents can't always control what happens in other people's homes, but we can be open enough to listen, learn, and engage conversations to better understand! When we know better, we SHOULD do better! Alec and Brian, if you read nothing else in this message know this "BJ SEEMS LIKE SUCH A WELL-ROUNDED LOVING KID, SMART and KIND... SO IT'S OBVIOUS THAT SOMEONE IS DOING A GOOD JOB, KEEP DOING Y'ALL!" 💜♥️💛💚🏳️🌈
Brian and Alex just continue to guide protect and show BJ your love and the sky is the limit
I love following your lives and people are so cruel even if you’re not gay. You are presenting your lives, friends, travel, cooking, music in a positive way. I will continue to support your journey.
Oh, such an emotional topic! Brian, your video made me cry. It's so evident in prior episodes how much you both love BJ and how much he loves both of you. Things get complicated as a child becomes an adolescent. It's difficult for the parents as well as the child. I feel for the three of you. It seems that hatred, bigotry, and discrimination have been escalating in the last few years. Adding this to everything else you're dealing with can feel overwhelming. I send my thoughts and good energy to you and hope you'll be able to work through this. Keep love, communication, and inner strength and peace in your relationship with each other. You have so many people who love and support you. ❤
Sorry, this has been weighing heavy on my mind tonight. You mentioned how discrimination is likely learned in the home. I'm a 62 year old gay man. My Dad grew up in NYC and was in the Navy in the late 50s. He was stationed in Norfolk, VA, for a short time and had an old car. When given leave, he drove 2 friends, 1 white, 1 black, back and forth from the base to NY. Once, while driving north, he stopped at a station to get gas. The attendant berated my Dad for having a black man in the car with him. My Dad yelled at this idiot, asking if he could see his friend was in a Navy uniform and fighting for the country?! He always told my brother and I the importance of acceptance of everyone, no matter what kind of job they have, what religion they are, what their racial background is, how old they are, or how educated they are, etc. He taught my brother and I correctly. He's no longer here but provided good foundations for us.
First and foremost I would like to say thank you guys sooo much for sharing this. I am a stepmom to an 8 year old son, in a lesbian relationship, raising him in South Florida. This was very real and formative when it comes to the possibilities of what LGBT parents have to endure. You guys are absolutely amazing parents and human beings and BJ is going to continue being the intelligent and respectable young man that he is. I honestly don’t understand what’s wrong with some people and why they don’t educate their kids that it’s okay to be different, idk maybe it’s because they aren’t educated. I absolutely love you guys and your channel. Thanks again for sharing and being so vulnerable, much love ❤❤❤❤🫶🏾🏳️🌈
I am a straight woman. And I was just like to say thank you for sharing your story this generation it's a lot of bullying going on. It's not cool at all
I adore you two. You love this young man and are compassionate. It will all fall into place
As always, I appreciate the vulnerability. Especially from you, Brian. I know that this wasn’t an easy topic to discuss. Firstly, I want to stress what great fathers the both of you are. BJ’s willingness to share your videos with others & to defend y’all from disrespect is a testament to how well you’ve raised him & how much love he has for you both. Brian, you aren’t doing anything wrong whatsoever as far as being your authentic self. The bigotry Black queer men experience is extremely exhausting & those who uphold it want us to be ashamed & embarrassed. You are doing just fine. Please take solace in that. BJ loves you. Alec loved you. And we are here for you as well. You aren’t in this alone. We’ll uplift & shield all of you as best as we can. ❤