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Double Standards
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0:00 Intro
0:41 Men's Double Standards
5:57 Women's Double Standards - Komedie
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Love how women like to call themselves "Plus-size" while men are just called fat or overweight. They're the same thing
I get that but some women do call fat men plus size as well.
-Coming from a fat woman myself
@@sigourneybrown13we call that an exception honey.
@@sigourneybrown13 Wish everyone was like you
@@theknightwithabadpictotall7639 right but it is what it is 🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ I love my fat men too
@@sigourneybrown13the whole Earth thanks you for not jumping yet 😂 jokes this is a joe btw💀
Online dating for men is like trying to find drinking water in a desert
Online dating for women is like trying to find drinking water in a sewage system
10/10
10/10
Beautiful
ong you need to step outside to get actually decent people to date
Unless I'm reading that wrong, that sounds kinda sexist against men. Unless you're talking about creeps & rapists, but women can be just as bad, too.
A lot of double standards come down to the following phrase:
“Men can’t be emotional, and women can’t be logical.”
I think the women can’t be logical is more of a negative stereotype is it not?
Human bodies have masculine and feminine energies. A man has more masculine energy and a woman has more feminie energy. But both have the ability to balance the two energies within them. That’s how humans can function.
@@pavanraj4125what kind of Andrew Tate idiocy is that? Biologically there is some differences between a man and woman yes, but energy? Something that is not in a direct secular thing that makes sense in the scientific matter!? give me a break.
@@breeead420 science can’t prove it becuase it is in a part of physicality that ain’t tangible. We are all made up of energy otherwise we can’t function
@@pavanraj4125 This is the most made-up on the spot pseudoscientific nonsense I've read all week. Humans don't function by "balancing" a biological "energy". There used to be a similar idea of human behaviour like you say, called humourism, but it fell out of fashion in the middle ages.
One more point I think is worth noting is that when a sexual crime happens,people often always help a woman but find it hard to believe a woman would do a sexual crime to a man.
So true. But I like to think the internet is getting better about that.(the good people anyways.)😊
the internet is getting better with it, but irl it's still a hellscape for male victims. It doesn't help that online, people only bring up male victims to discredit female rape victims getting attention.
I have a feeling if the female was including torture (think the SAW franchise).
Then I'm sure most men wouldn't say it's a good thing.
@@jinx.305 bro, half the crap youve said in the comments classifies you as fatherless. I know damn well you turned to Andrew Tate and his scummy ass cause you don't have an actual father figure. Thing about mushmush is that he isn't wrong. Most of the time, the men calling out these vile female s3x offenders aren't doing it to actually say its a problem to be addressed. They are just doing it to say "This is a double standard, why do female victims get attention whilst the male victims don't", without taking any action whatsoever. Whataboutism is what I call it.
And no, please forget the fact that the reason why male r@pe victims dont get help socially stems not from women, but men. Dont get me wrong, some women still have this antique mindset, but if you said you as a man were r@ped in the 1950s (actually, I'd say
@@jinx.305 Bro what? that's not what they meant, they meant that there are people who feel the need to bring up men being sexually harassed when the main focus at the time is women. I saw plenty of comments on threads that are talking about women being sexually harassed and some of the comments saying 'Men get sexually harassed too' almost like it's a damn competition. Nobody is disregarding that men can go through this, but when the topic is about a specific gender experiencing something, don't be a dick and involve another as a means to revert attention of the original conversation topic, if you feel the need to speak about it, then just make a separate thread or something.
There is also a massive childcare double standard that applies to men. No matter what, when I am out at the park with my kids or siblings kids, i get looks without fail.
And when my SO's friends talk about me taking care of my kids, its "oh youre babysitting today?" No, im taking care of my kids.
Let's also not start on when women accuse fathers of being molesters, even when they're "babysitting", let alone outside of the divorce courtroom. Ive heard many stories about deranged women publically accusing fathers of trying to "kidnap" their own kids, and yet we turn blind eyes to the many cases where women in positions of authority prey on children, and ignore cases of abusive mothers as if they don't exist because "women good".
This has to be a western thing. In my country it's perfectly normal and accepted for fathers to take care of kids in this sense. It's not babysitting but a day out with your pop.
@@lecommentar9851 perhaps an american thing. doesnt happen here over in nz
Where are you all finding these people lol
@@lecommentar9851No its not I’m African. I have no clue why you guys always jump to smth that seems odd to you being Western.
When I was in my health class we had a lesson in sexual assault and what to do about it and at one point the teacher mentioned that even if a lot of sexual assault cases are a man doing it to a woman, it can still be a woman doing it to a man, and that we should listen to men’s stories because they’re just as important as women’s stories. He’s probably one of my favorite teachers for acknowledging the unfairness of people not being as quick to take men’s stories seriously. That, in my opinion is true equality.
Based.
He is our role model we didn't thought we needed...
Get this teacher a raise
@@FancyTM i think he got fired
@@malvinaverageguy182Whys that.
Here's another double standard:
Men aren't allowed to talk about their double standards in real life, without being put down.
Women aren't allowed to talk about their double standards on the internet, without being put down.
😮 I disagree.
@@step1saysomethingcontrover320 I didn't ask.
imma be honest i think this perfectly sums it up. i see the most misogyny online especially in youtube comments and i see the most misandry in real life interactions
@@Monochrome2004dang you right never really thought of that
Ugly woman : i dont want fat men
Society : go queen
Man :i dont like fat women
Society : WATCH YOUR MOUTH
There's also the double standard for emotions. When men feel anything other than constant rage, they are labeled as weak. When women feel anything but happiness they're being overdramatic 🙄 Can't escape double standards
No way man, I was over being angry before I even hit 18, you're only weak if you let people give you shit without pushing back, you don't even need to get angry in fact it would be detrimental to get angry.
It's crazy how we were brainwashed into thinking that being angry all the time doesn't make you emotion
@@brightsoulljust society things
Except that this isn't true. Lots of guys actually adore woman when she expresses her emotions. It's also common knowledge that people care more when a woman is crying.
It seems your experience with top percentage men (usually they're the one who don't care about women's feeling) + your inability to see average men as people has led you to this false believe 🧐
@@fwa8590 I think you straight up don't understand the comment you are replying to, women are not taken seriously because when someone wrongs a woman and she is rightfully upset, she is seen as an overdramatic bitch and not taken as seriously, this has nothing to do with whether men like it or not, when someone wrongs a guy and he's mad, that's seen as righteous indignation
Double standards will always sadly exist
And Upper Management/Executives are Ignorant Psychopaths
for real
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They exist for a reason, it’s not a sad thing
Only in western countries in mena there is no double standard
Double standards is something we sadly can't do nothing about
Napoleon
Waterloo moment 💀💀💀
firing squad
@@Jim_Woolwhat do we do about double standards
@@sukumadehk "There is nothing we can do"
When a man is taking care of his child, he’s a predator.
When a predator is kidnapping a child, she’s taking care of them.
as a woman, I have come to hate society as a whole for treating men like shit.
we need men. You’re deserving of love.
Thank you. I think I needed that today
Being deserving of something and being actually able to get it is a different story. Thanks for the kind words, though
I agree and I don’t like his take on the abandoning and celebrate mothers more bc judges will side with the mother most time, so if responsibility and accountability would go hand in hand I think that the sentiment would be different. Also the whole a man can’t abort but women can (which I think they should have a right to)
Thanks for this. It's a rare sight to see something positive in this toxic pit of hate and ignorance we call the YT comments section.
Thank you, fellow woman. Society really needs men too. Not just women.
If you do a part 2, definitely talk about jobs. Because as a man who works with children it’s always the same idea of “he’s gay or a creep” because I guess people can’t have a passion. On the other end, there’s women who are in areas like law, construction or male dominated jobs they can be seen as fakes or don’t get recognized.
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Seriously tho it’s so dumb that people assume those horrible thing just from someone’s gender.
This is so true. The real creeps are the people saying it
Society when female mechanic:😡
Society when male daycare worker:😡
Agreed, it’s so stupid. Merit should be the only determining factor.
@@coldspaghetti9372 I agree, the people sayin stuff like that sounds like pure projection ngl.
Another man double standard is showing emotion, like you really have people insulting a dude for crying. And also taking care of children, single dads don’t get the respect they deserve, and even if their married people will say things like “oh you stuck babysitting.” And another woman one is being assertive, because you’ll have people calling them Bitches just because they tell you to do something that you need to do. And also when it comes to clothes we can’t win. If we dress skimpy- we’re a slut, and if we dess modestly- we’re a prude. And don’t get me started on school dress codes
Literally all facts
You speaking the truth fr
Question: When you see a man crying, do you think "damn he's so hawt"? I'm presuming that your answer is "no", but I think that that's what you (and most women) would be thinking when seeing the skeleton of a neanderthal (I'm talking about a _real_ Homo Neanderthalis skeleton, not the crude skull you might've seen in memes).
@@anonymous82783???
@@anonymous82783What are you on about? Did she mention attractiveness at any point in her comment? Do you think attractiveness has anything to do with the issue at hand??? People don't get mad at men for crying because crying is ugly. Women aren't attractive when they cry, children aren't cute when they cry - crying is NOT aesthetically pleasing, which is why hotness is not the issue here. The reason people get mad at men for crying is because of their idea that men should be strong minded and never show emotion or weakness. Men crying challenges that notion, which prompts backlash in attempt to defend one's own beliefs regardless of validity.
fat guys are just referred to as "discord mods" or "neck beards" while fat women are referred to as "plus-size" or even "beautiful" to be extreme
I’m barely fat and overweight but I’m called a “Discord mod who talks to his discord kitten” all because I have cat stickers on the back on my phone case. How does that even correlate to Discord Modding and Furries? It’s just cats
Some fat women are beautiful ngl
tbh both sexes get disadvantages for being fat
Fat women have been constantly looked down upon more than fat men, though. But yes, I agree. Gross double standard either way.
I mean sure in certain spaces online… but irl fat women get bullied all the time. And when they get called “beautiful” and “plus-size” they *know* it’s out of pity.
The biggest double standard between genders still exist in law.
As a woman you are less likely to get convicted for committing the same crime as a man, this often even includes major crimes like murder. Also if a woman commits a se*ual crime against a guy: If the victim even goes to the police at all (which is already unlikely because of the public shaming), actually convictions are very rare. For the rare cases where they do happen, the punishment is often a joke compared to what a man would get for the same crime. This all even applies if the male victim is a minor; and the woman is something like a teacher.
And the more "pretty" the woman is, the stronger this double standard gets.
At the same time, if a woman has a "sl*tty" past all her creditability is out of the window if she gets se*ually assaulted by a man and tries to bring him to justice. I think people and societies all over the world just are way more superficial and pre-judgemental as they admit.
That will only happen when people stop treating politics as a football game
@@Mercury-ok8ie
This is why we should've listened to George.
The short jail time is cuz the government wants women to have babies and raise them, they can’t do that in prison especially while they’re young.
@@sunsetanimator4187
@@Mercury-ok8ie Sure, but who is left holding the ball at the end of the game? 🤔 Someone has to make the decisions and chances are 300 million people won't be aligned on every topic. Conflict isn't going anywhere anytime soon.
Here's a really good double standard NOBODY talks about. Autism is diagnosed in boys much more easily than girls, despite it being found in both genders on roughly equal terms. Autistic women are often misdiagnosed for other things, or just led to believe that they're innately a bad person who needs to do better. I wasn't diagnosed properly until I was 19, and I wonder if being diagnosed as a child would have saved me from so much torment I've dealt with throughout my childhood and teenage years.
It's not a double standard strictly speaking, it's a difficulty to diagnose because girls and women with autism show less less atypical behaviors then men/boys. A double standard is "volontary", being unable to diagnose as efficiently isn't that, we're just unable to do it.
Apart from that, it's impossible to know if as many girls as boys have autism, there is no scientific consensus, the only thing we know is that at the age of 8, 1 in 70 boys and 1 in 315 girls are diagnosed.
It's cause unless you're visibly chaotic and your neurodevelopmental issue is visible to majority people will just think you're not really autistic. And girls on the spectrum have different behaviour, stims and mask more than boys
@@xenotyposTo be fair I think that’s their point. That women DO show the same atypical behaviors as men roughly but it generally isn’t labeled the same way even tho it may be the same exact behavior. Often it just gets marked down as “womanly behavior” or some sort of other emotional disorder that doesn’t apply.
And by that logic, we then would be able to just diagnose it. Tho, there is evidence to say women are better at masking and that could account for it.
I think the main issue isn’t just gender tho but rather it’s hard to diagnose autism in adults in general and missing it when you were a kid almost always leads to a life where you might never know you have it.
No I’m autistic and I tried to unalive myself just cause girls don’t want date a SpEd KiD
yes same! said this really well!
pretty entertaining video about double standards, and a pretty good video to start the weekend, 10/10
Stfu vid was posted 3 minutes u haven’t watched it
How do you know, this video was uploaded like 15 minutes ago😭
@@Mrreallycoolusername time traveler
@@Mrreallycoolusername smartest youtube commenter
agreed
unfortunately double standards will always exist in society in some way...
Ofc
One way or another, human nature is weird
The problem is these behaviors have been normalized
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As a non-black person. I'm in awe of your hair. That shit is anti-gravity. Its awesome. (seems like a pain to sort out in the morning though)
yeah fr 😭
@Metruzanca it’s actually kinda annoying. I’m a dude and I don’t look good with short hair, so I grow it out into twists but I wish it was straight sometimes lol. It takes so long to comb(hours) and even longer to straighten( more hours) and it’s kinda my only options at this point
I got a fro with shaved back and sides for styling - i generally put it up in a bun after picking it out for a couple minutes. Usually best to pick it out after conditioning so its softer and doesnt rip out loose hair as much 😂
This is the best educational content on CZcams that even the USA Education System wouldn't even teach people about this subject.
About double standards?
Nah its one of those things you gotta experience just like how school cant prepare you for life its all different for everyone
Why tf would USA teach you about how men can get praised for having bodies while women can't? Just seems unnecessary
The us system doesn't teach much anyways XD
If you elect me as president I promise to make Double Standards the most important subject for kids to learn in school!
The entirety of Twitter is a double standard
Contradiction central basically
When a popular person does something its funny but when i do it i get ratio'd instead
and tiktok. it’s just as bad as twitter
@@zxrytags9344 fr
That’s what we call an “echo chamber”.
SSSniperWolf not being warned or banned is a double standard
It's not, she's just powerful on youtube with how many views she gets for youtube
That's a good looking double standard she just looks good nothing else
I like to dress nice, care for my style and appearance, cross my legs, lean from leg to leg, and sometimes have a slight twang to my accent. I get called gay in the USA by nearly everyone I know, in everywhere else in the world I‘m treated as a gentlemen by those I know. The double standard annoys me so much, can a guy not just look good, take care of himself, and have body mannerisms without being into other guys?
hehahaheha *gauy*
Women have the same complaint about it as well!😂
People are gonna think she takes care of herself for others, when she is just doing it by herself for HERSELF!
For the last double standard about childcare, I’m giving the benefit of the doubt. I believe this affects both sexes, but in different ways. In the women’s case, what you said is very true. I definitely agree with your points. In men’s cases, is that when the divorce unfortunately happens, about 95% of the cases are won by women to keep care of the children and they get paid way more than they should. Even if the mother might have some type of addiction or is not a better parent than the father, she usually wins the case. This system is unfair and there have been cases where mothers have abused it for the benefit of getting money without doing much work.
Got my uncle broke as hell
Which is why you got to be careful with who you marry like people men and women will choose the worst person for them to marry for clout or money
This is sad. I’d make it so that if the mother is found to be neglectful of the child and uses the child support money for herself, she doesn’t get child support money anymore. I’d also place maximum limits on how much money you can ask for in child support. No ludicrous $1M a month bs no way you need that much money to take care of a child.
What if I told you most women don't even recieve childcare because the father dips from the face of the earth to avoid it
Most custody situations are handled out of court and most single mothers don't get child support. They may have fought for it but the man isn't paying😂
Tommy never fails to upload some sort of content
I mean yeah
Is this even a compliment ☠️☠️
Uhh I mean sure?
Are you even real?
okay???
Thank you for actually understanding that period are out of our control, you have no idea how many times I’ve heard someone, especially my own dad, tell me to “just hold it” when I complain about it
Fr
Any man who says that is dumb as shit. 💀 I haven't ever heard that said out loud but If I did I'd slap them , that's dumb as hell. And I'm a guy
When I was in the month of religious fasting with my family, he was complaining about me not fasting when I was on my period and he didn't even know what a period was. 💀💀
“Just hold it” 🤣
@@sabinemajed8675No way. How could he possibly not know what a period was?
If a woman hits a man & he does nothing, he is called weak. However if a woman hits a man & he decides to hit her back, he is labeled as an abusive, sexist, misogynist woman beater who should be locked up in prison.
identify as a woman temporarily and hit her back
u live in the internet dude, what are u yapping abt
@@tadow_od have you seen men hit women back after the women hit them first & not get into any kind of trouble.
@@joshualowe959 You're running a yappathon
@@tadow_od he got a point💀
there's also another double standard which is about guys being 'feminine' and liking cute things and wearing clothes intended for women, which there's nothing wrong with
Cant agree with wearing female clothes but liking cute things Is completely fine imo
cute things? yes. wearing women’s clothing? no.
@@usernameig975 agreed
@@usernameig975 but you and many others are already giving women who wear men's clothes a free pass but not men doing the opposite. That's a double standard in of itself.
@@averyepicguy so what about women wearing mens clothes? Would you say no or would you give a biased free pass?
For the periods thing, girls can get it from the age of fucking 9 and I feel so bad for those who did get it that early. Some schools don't even be providing sanitary products like what if the girl just started and it's really urgent????
Hi, girl that got her period from age 9 here, my luck was that the first time it happened i was at my house's bathroom
@@bebebonb0nSame, lol.
There's a trick I did. I used toilet paper as a pad. I had to change it regularly, but it worked. Then I got home, and mum gave me one. And she put some pads in my bag the next day. It's unfortunate, however, some schools aren't really prepared for such scenarios. Not even the damn woman, and they are supposed to understand!
I hate the double standard around height. I’m a short man, I actually don’t mind being short because I can hide in small spaces but other people mind me being short. What’s worse is I used to be the tallest in my class, now I’m the shortest because for some stupid reason I reached my peak height at 13. Now people point out my lack of height as if it’s an insult. They don’t realize I’m at the perfect level to take out their knees.
how often do you have to hide in small spaces? 😂
I think something you forgot to mention (and it's was fairly recent) is the double standard of Female Predators over Male ones, seriously, A dental clinic assistant groomed an autistic 13 year old boy and the people in the comments were all like: "Wish that was me if I was that age" like...what? Not to mention she GOT AWAY with more than a slap on the wrist, still in arrested for 12 months and also something else for another few months that if she does this crime again, she'll face the full sentence
But if it were a male predator that would do it...let's just say everyone will banish him into the shadow realm and won't have even a SHRED of mercy (not that those monsters deserve any, and I mean it in general, any gender, you do the crime, you do the time, no questions) But if a girl does it? Pffft Ah, it's fine, she's pretty enough and well, I think HE should man up and enjoy that he had fun.
I have no words for people with this mindset (sure I have a fricked up mindset too but at least I know when to draw the fricking line and know that something like this is beyond fricked up) and I only hope the best for any victims and any of those monsters get jail time.
Double Standards, AT LEAST ABOUT THIS!! Should NOT be accepted by society, idc if she's a pretty woman, like I said before and not really my comment (kudos to the guy who said it which may be a lot of you actually) "You do the crime, you do the time."
Also, sorry for everyone having to read through this, on a positive note, a reward for enduring reading through this
A free virtual cookie! 🍪
Have a good day whoever read through this comment.
I said Frick cuz whenever I try to say the F-word, my comment always gets removed, soooo...yeah
Lust should be frowned upon more honestly
Dogs can piss anywhere since it's "in their nature" but when I want to do it I'm apparently "wanted in 50 states"
I know such a double standard* procedes to get arrested for bio hazard charge
My baby brother can shit in his diaper but when I shit in my pants its seen as publicly indecent what a double standard
@@geobeatleoh duh🙄 you have to get a diaper for yourself
Real
Dude what
Confidence overrides double standards imo, and having confidence Isn't just not caring, It's choosing to not listen to words that have no purpose of helping you. I'm 5'7 at 18, I may grow but I enjoy my height. Tall enough for rides, small enough to help fix things In tight spaces
5 foot 7 isn't even short brother. Be confident and you will succeed in life king.👑
@@Dankermuffin78 lol you're just proving his point
@@sabinemajed8675 Yeah he's testing his claim
Guys who readily sit down and poop in public restrooms are a perfect example of this. I envy their strength and peace of mind
@@cam5816these guys are menaces
"The body positivity movement was never meant for men"
Absolute facts.
Beauty standards were created to make women hate themselves and suffer more than they do.
It's actually the other way around...
"The body positivity movement was never meant to be for women!"🤭💯
@@missstranger7697it was never meant to be own by either side
Appreciate you looking at both sides of this, honestly I just wish we as a species could just stop with this bullshit but sadly that doesn't look like it's ever gonna happen
Nah the older generation got to go. They made this shit happen in society where a male is supposed to do this and females is supposed to do this. A human can do whatever he or she wants as long as it doesn’t hurt others. You can insult you can cry you can do whatever but if you want to live in society you have to act sensible and not like a murdereous psychopath
Ngl I heavily disagree with the last point. Fathers abandoning their family is literally seen as one of the worst possible things to do as a person, especially within the Black community. This is reflected even in media memes about father dipping or calling dumb people "fatherless" are at their peak. Do i also even need to mention the "bad father" troupe in cartoons where the main characters dad is a deadbeat? Adventure time, Gumball, do I need to list more? There's no world in which abandoning your family is a remotely tolerated thing by a father or a mother for that matter society hates it when either happens and the remaining parent is expected to take care of the child cuz...why the hell would you leave a child without that pivotal relationship? One is better than none. You invested in the cap stock there Tommy, and caused inflation
Im sorry, how is richard a deadbeat? Richard is the chillest ever, way too chill for his own good. Sure, not a great father, but not deadbeat by any means. A better example would be fairly oddparents where the dad is actually awful
@@Snt1_ I actually meant Richard's father, not Richard himself. Richard's dad abandoned him and his mother if I remember correctly
@@tristysstuff6664 Oh yeah that guy sucks
I agree with your point, but I think the problem is when someone calls someone else “fatherless” as a joke they imply that a mother isn’t capable of raising a child on her own or the child’s behavior is their own fault, not the father who decides to leave the family
@@drink_more_tea Thats AN interpretation I guess. But really, when it comes to vague interpretations like that, it comes down to each individual
Double standards never fail to disappoint 😔
The lesson from this is that even though everyone should be equal, there are people who objectively have it better or worse than others. Instead of mocking people or trying to be "holy than thou" as if we really know the struggle, we should just show some respect to them for thugging it out. *They* are God's strongest soldiers.
Don't forget treated well, equally well.
"God gives his hardest missions to his strongest soldiers" is a quote I think about daily, cause man, god must've drafted me like the US cause I'm fighting a war I did not sign up for. If I die and I meet the mf who put me through this hell, I'm puttin em through the ringer right then and there.
I have noticed something about liking girly stuff or dressing at all feminine. I was a skinny kid in high school, and was into all sorts of nerdy shit. I got teased about it because of course, but I didn't let that impact my interests. Now that I've bulked up and put on a bit of muscle, people don't bat an eye when I say I enjoy cooking or sit in a "feminine" way. I like cute stuff, and as long as I'm stronger or bigger than someone else, they don't bother me. I'd like to be a gentle giant, but I'm much too clumsy to claim something like that. I'm now growing my hair out, and while in high school people would bother me about it nowadays they mostly look the other way. I even got a compliment at the grocery store about it. This got away from me. Point is if you're strong, you can do what you want.
I know how you feel, I was picked on as a kid for being fat and quiet type so much so that I actually had to move schools because even the teachers wouldn't take me seriously. I still am a pretty hefty boi at 230 lbs but the new school I ended up moving to a new school where everyone treated me like a normal human being and no one picked on me. The only time I get picked on anymore is by my sisters messing with me or my best friend but I make fun of him back and we're just kiddin' around, I got used to the bullying at my old school so I used that to toughen myself against being called fat and I just generally don't care what people think of me nowadays. I'm a huge gamer and been recently getting into anime so I know all about that nerdy shit, we do what makes us happy so why do they care so much lmao. Also welcome to the long hair club, been growin mine for a few years now hence the username lmao, and I get compliments from people every now and all I'm gonna say is good luck because there are some struggles with long hair like that shit getting in your mouth while trying to eat or your eyes but fuck it, we ball lol.
“Bro transitioned from a Femboy to a Gay men”
That's all I can hear from the people ya know. 😅
The sad thing about double standards is you can usually explain why they exist and even defend why the double standard exists in a lot of cases. The part where it breaks down is people use the double standard to an unreasonable degree and that is where the negatives come from. Like as you said, girl who's broke doesn't want a broke guy cause she wants to improve her life, but then wants the extreme minimum 6 figures, or a girl who is 4 "11 doesn't want a guy below 6ft. And for the other way around, a lot of guys don't really expect virgins, but the more partners a girl has the more baggage she brings from past relationships and the unspoken rule that the more she will compare you to past relationships making the pressure to preform higher, but then going to the extreme of wanting a girl with no history at all.
Sometimes a double standard is completely reasonable, for a reasonable person. But the world seems to be filled more and more by people who are extremely unreasonable and will bend anything into their line of thinking so they never have to wrestle with that.
Well it's not really that double standards are reasonable. It's just that people can almost always rationalize any ideas they have, making it seem justified. It seems that people underestimate the immense influence that cultures have on our world view, and people assume that their ideas or values are logical and based on objective reality. It's not to say that our culture is purely brainwashing society. Conditioning is a part of our psychology and occurs without intention. But it's important to realize that double standards are inherently unfair, there is no way to justify it, but only explain its existence. And it's reason for existence should not be mistaken as a justification.
Personally I wouldn't mind a partner with a higher than average body count. So long as she doesn't cheat and has no feelings for her past relationships I'm good.
another double standard i’ve encountered is mental health and emotions. If a guy is sad, has to cry, etc. he is seen as „weak“ and is told to „man up“. Not to mention if he wants to go to therapy! But if he gets angry, no one even bats an eyelash! If a woman is sad/cries, people will support her, but if she gets angry, she’s “overreacting” and “unstable”.
Yeah it's really sad to think about, males should get the help they needed, we can't just tell them to man up, they need alot more support, men and women should be treated equally, if there's a crime and a man or woman did the crime they should go to jail, that's very unfortunate if men are treated this way, and while women they get the quote on quote, princess treatment, which is very depressing and while men gets the quote on quote no helpful treatment at all they're forced to not show any emotion, which is very sad.
Also that when men frick underage girls they are (rightfully so) put in prision and have hefty sentences. When a woman does it, she is seen as a godess who did no wrong, and she will be sent to prision for at max a year. Just look it up.
one woman got away with only about 3 weeks.
It sounds like you’re defending pedophilia.
Also a lot of guys find it hot and comment things like "I wish she was my teacher in highschool", when a female teacher has sex with like a 14 year old
Double standards are something that every group out there experiences, but in different ways.
The key is to not have any standards
@@cam5816nah just do what makes you feel better unless it's hurting someome
@@cam5816then society falls.
@@DominantBtch good
I love how the difference between double standards in the past and today is that you don't get a cool wanted poster about you.
9:19 no way people are calling her mid without makeup when she actually looks good without it 💀
Looks average to me and yes, I go outside alot.
@@willofd1540Me too
Sorry it isn’t that she’s ugly but she looks British so hard pass
@@willofd1540just date men atp
She looks average, which is fine. I can't think of any celebrity that looks the same with or without makeup.
double standards are the thing almost everyone can agree is s hitty but yet cant get rid of. women will be judged for existing and so will men. its just what happens 🤷🏾♀
people just like to judge fr
This is true but we can always try to minimize it
Not everyone double standard is bad.
@@DominantBtch they are all bad for society as a whole
Usually when people say this they only want to minimize the double standards that effect them and keep their own beliefs. They will often do so by hiding behind past perceived wrong doings; claiming that they are apart of a marginalized group if you will. I'll let you fill in the blanks 😅. @@notcheddar4050
The grass is not always greener on the other sided men and women will always have their own issues and upsides
Fax
I got a good feeling that female got the greener grass, but let just said that it's impossible for me to confirm it one way or another unless reincarnation exist and I was reborn as a female
@G.A.C_Preserve As a woman I can confirm the grass is not greener.
I’m 5,1 in 10th grade and the harassment was so bad I had to transfer to a private school. If you ever see a very short person, compliment them, that alone can turn a bad day into a better one.
you're 5 you were 1 year old in 10th grade?
oh you meant like 5"1' sorry but i have a short neighbour he's funny
Why would I compliment some random? Go back to elementary, buddy. 😂
@@step1saysomethingcontrover320 …to be nice? You don’t have to be closely related to so someone in order to say nice things to them?
@@MoaiGaming1Or just leave them be and not harass them. I'm not going up to a stranger and complimenting them, but I'm also not gonna harass them for something they can't control.
4:52 “who you preparing that back for” had me wheezing 🤣
Sadly, you’re all born with having to deal with double standards, up until your last breath, but there are ways to enjoy the world, like watching this video.
Here's another double standard that I hear a lot.
"OMG, this man called a 14 year old cute! He's a pedo!"
"This woman is twerking on a young boy. He should take it."
I can always count on Tommy for the unbiased commentary 💯
As a Mixed Race Male High School Student, trust me, I know ALL about double standards.
What
Extremely based. What I'd like to add on is how pretty privilege is really prominent in women. For centuries now a woman's worth was defined by her beauty and that just sticks around to this day. It got both worse and better in some ways with the internet.
This privilege applies to all attractive people. Being attractive is just much harder as man so women benefit the most with the least effort from this privilege
@@ExpertContrarian How.
@@kroxxroad814lmao now you’re following me. Weirdo misandrist
@@ExpertContrarian yes but men can be seen as funny, smart, confident, hardcore, sensual, a playboy, a gentleman but women always have to be feminine. people see your face and beauty, not who you are. if you are an ugly woman, everything you say will annoy people. trust me, speaking from experience
@@ExpertContrarian "Being attractive is just much harder as a man" No sexism here, not at all. Totally zero sexism in this comment. Couldn't possibly be sexist. Nooo way.
Oh yeah some other double standards I’ve encountered as a woman
1. The nerdy dude always gets the conventionally attractive girl in movies, but never the other way around
2. When you play video games you gotta be really good at them or else you’re proving the “women have bad aim” stereotype, meanwhile a guy could be mediocre and be perfectly fine
In your first point, it happens in movies because irl the first case is basicaly impossible, if you are the nerdy dude, is seem as a weirdo or have problems starting conversations (these 3 generally come as a package) you are doomed, you will be playing the game at the hardest difficulty
Is either change, die alone or win the lottery
Now, with the oposite, it only takes the woman to start the conversation, a shy woman is not seem as undesirable or creep (like men are), and more often than not being shy will be seem as cute
Problem here being: women do not start conversations
@@reaper5489 they said nerdy women not shy women. Shy women are generally not deemed as unnatractive but nerdy girls definitely are. Ive been a bully before, girlnerds were a go-to
@@reaper5489unfortunate that many of the nerdy guys are incels that think women are below them
@@tadow_od Sorry, I should've elaborated further in what I meant by that.
Nerds are just people with a great interest in a niche field, but what we are speaking of are steriotypical nerds, they have 3 defining traits:
- Interest in niche field
- Not the best appearance
- Lack of social skils (ususally either being introverted or socially anxious), which will result in being a social outcast or joining groups of like minded individuals
The third one is the most important between them, if you don't fall there you will not even be seem as the steriotypical nerd.
And the thing is, guys with poor social skills will be seem as creeps/weirdos unless they are handsome, while the situation with girls is different, having social anxiety or being an introvert is seem by other people as being shy (they don't have a way to understand you situation), and so, unless you are very ugly*, you are just shy girl with niche interest. The only people that dislike you for that are the assholes (but there is no point in having interest in them in the first place) and other girls
The average guys see this (nerdy girls, which for them = shy girl with niche interest) and doesn't think anythinhg more than "Look, a shy girl, cute" and nerd guys will see them as basically unicorns (on pair with the ancient legends of the tomboy gf), it just take these girl to actually start a conversation once in their life, men will hardly reject you unless you are aiming too high (and even them it still has a good chance of working)
*Being ugly will make everything worse, for both guys and girls, people subconsciously judge you for your appearance, but is the most treatable of the traits (working out, having a good hair cut and clothes that match your style makes wonders for how you look), unless you have some major facial problem, then you are fucked
TL;DR: for outsiders, nerd guys = weird creep, nerd girls = shy girl with niche interest
@@Mercury-ok8ie Unfortunately true ...
But is aways important to note, they are not alone because they hate women, they hate women because they are alone.
Their hate is created by an extended period of loneliness and sadness, they grow up as outcast and have nothing to support them, and as a cope mechanism your brain start to shift all your sadness in hate for those that put you there (in this case the women that aways ignored them or treated them as trash, and the world, that made them this way)
What makes this even worse, is that they don't truly hate women, they hate themselves, they hate their own failures and their lives. Being constantly exposed to their desire while being unable to achieve it also makes their lives even more miserable, so they turn to the only group that will understand and support them, themselves.
I think we should shame both men and women for sleeping with lots of people. We should both lose for uncontrollably giving in to lust.
shame is literally what resulted in people sleeping around though 😭 all of the girls i knew in high school with super strict and religious parents were the ones busting it open every weekend. if you’re teaching people something is a “forbidden fruit”, especially young adults, chances are they’re going to want to experiment with it.
@@bjorklover3359Agreed, I think the real lesson shouldn’t be to encourage people to do something in secret but rather we should just shit on people for lying and leading people on to think they want more than sex…just to use people for sex. I don’t mind if someone wants to sleep around a ton as long as they are at least honest and up front about it and stick with other people who also want that.
I think that’s better than treating having lots of sex like it’s “forbidden” cause then yea people will just do it in secret and be curious.
I also think people are still entitled to believe someone is immature if they only seek physical intimacy and generally can never commit. I can’t tell another person how to feel and it is immature.
@@bjorklover3359not exactly, that was a thing in my school, and most of everyone waited till marriage, it just depends in the peroson. Pedophilia is shamed busy still a lot of people do it.
Fuck all that, let people do what they do and don't be shitty to them, its easy
@brightsoull , no. Loyalty between parents makes for much better conditions for children to grow up in. We need children, and being used to sleeping with lots of different people can undoubtedly affect your barrier for cheating in a committed realeationship. Which tears a family apart. And intercourse is something that most peoples view as the most intimate and binding act not to be shared with anyone else. Why go against it. You have little to gain unless you're a gold digger
9:27 She’s taking the square root of 👁️
I agree with all of them may be except for the last one, because women can sue guys who aren’t even the father and they get 30 days max to prove they’re not, but even if they prove they’re not the father after those 30 days they will still have to pay child support for a kid who’s not their own
And also even if the mother isnt a suitable parent they'll get the kids regardless and the dad has to pay the child support but if the dad gets the child the mother doesn't have to pay the child support owed
right but its still harder for the mother than the father
@@draqeulais it supposed to be a contest of who has it harder?
@@malachimathis2793 nah im just saying
I actually talked to a family member about this n they said the courts goes based off the well being of the child as long as the dude makes money he considered good enough until it’s time to be a donor because that’s when most people tend to learn some hard to swallow truths
double standards are deeply engrained, it's part of a long standing survival mechanic that if we want to "fix", would so drastically change humanity it'd be hard to even consider them human since they'd be thinking so oddly compared to everyone else
Lmao, being human is defined by the shitty logic you apply to other people now? Quick someone tell the philosophers that they arent human, they will probably be happy about it, those elitist fucks :^)
Just because something is ingrained within us, doesn’t mean it’s good for us.
3:33 "solving world hunger around the world" man you killed me😂😂. Where else were you supposed to solve world hunger?
Forgot the double standard that Men can't be good caretakers.
I see so much about it, Women trashing on men when they're single dads, places that say they're for "Parents and kids" but the mother has to be present, the lack of changing stations in men's bathrooms, ect.
I didnt even know changing stations existed. Is that just my area or is it really cause of this double standard?
@@TankishRBLX It's usually a large double standard. People think a man walking out of a bathroom or even simply wanting to change their kid is pedophile behavior.
@@the_lost_genesis5276 dang
9:50
I feel like that has changed now & days.
With the amount of fatherless people that here. I feel like people now blame the dad for going to get the milk instead of the mother who raised the dang kid
When you said periods happen at 12,which they can,but I think you thought that was the *starting* age. Periods can happen at 8 years old as well! :)
ok bro
It honestly can happen anytime. But it most commonly happens when puberty starts. I got mine at 11, thankfully my period it isn't a painful type. However my sister got it at 12, and it has some painful days. All periods are different. He just mentioned the average age.
double standards suck no matter the context
Not true, plus double standards started somewhere 💀💀💀
Double standards are the most painful thing ever
As a blue-haired feminist andrew tate fan i see this as an absolute defeat.
Ayo WHAT? The math aint mathing
21 years old child type shit
Good one 😂
People who enforce double standards want people to be a very particular protagonist, but it's so hard to get that nobody can get it.
At this rate, it's nothing more than a "Accomplish this thing we made, or we'll cry about it!"
Tommy, thank you for making videos. They always make me laugh, because you have a great personality and way of telling things.
All single dads out there remember that there may be lots of hate for you but you are putting in a lot more work then expected of you and its sad how few of them exist in most media i can only really think of goofy
7:40 12 is kind of old for periods, since some people get it at 10 or 9😭😭
I got when I was 13
@@idrinktea420rip
As a 15 year old boy, I gotta say one thing:
Damn, sis.
@@book_robloxas a 6 year old boy, I first started pissing blood when I was 3.
the worst double standard (in my opinion)
Man takes advantage of women in movie: oh my God that's horrible😟
Woman takes advantage of man in Movie: hahaha table's are turned😂
Man gets accused with sa nah man throw him away for ever hes the scum of the earth 😡
Woman gets accused are you shere Ima need to see some evidence
Remember that most of the times thoses movies are written by men so here's that
@@aikotitilai3820ok, and?
@@aikotitilai3820 And woman write those as well. But this isn't the issue what gender is at fault. The issue is we as a society laugh at a man's pain, and ignore what is potentially triggering to male victims. I've watched many movies like these, and as a woman, they do not sit well with me. Rape jokes are not funny.
@@curlyfries2956as a guy men bitch so much abt double standards it's crazy. Can't go a single video without the comment "if the roles were different" we get it being a guy is hard, same for a women. sitting on ur ass complaing abt it does nothing move on with ur life. Jesus christ
Mutilated vs Circumcised, male circumcision is genital mutilation
I 💯 agree and I don't understand how people can defend this
@@alphawolf8503 religion and cultures are misusing this law
I agree, but I feel like fgm is probably more dangerous; some bleed out because of it, have complications during childbirth if delivering vaginally. Not saying circumcision in childhood is justified though.
@@CalinJohnson-jh7oh agreed
they do it to 1 and 2 year olds here, its so weird to me.
Double standards are annoying fr.
If a man can’t afford to pay for his kids he goes to jail if a woman can’t afford her kids she gets government assistance
Double standards are the thing ruining society
With the last point, its a 100% two way street. You should really see how single fathers are treated. Dirty looks and comments like "Oh you're babysitting today" are all too common. Not to mention a single father at a playground will garner side-eyes and get looked at like a predator, whereas a single mother will not. Dads also always have to fight for their kids because CPS prefers to keep kids with the mother in any, no matter how bad, situation. Its up to the father to "prove" the mother is an unfit parent, and even if he does the likelihood he'll be awarded any form of child support is still lower. 63% of mothers get awarded/agreed child support, whereas only 38.6% of dads do.
In short, double standards are a bitch. Everyone gets a short stick somewhere and we either can't do/aren't doing anything about it.
Tommy makes great videos. Been watching Tommy since TikTok, but I've watching Tommy on CZcams since 20k.
The one I hate the most is that women can become police officers with lower standards which is bad for everyone cuz it makes bad police officers
Female police officers are proven to lower police brutality rates though :/
same thing with affirmative action. it literally lowers the standards for black people to get into colleges, which drowns out those people who actually qualify for those higher colleges and puts people who shouldn't be in college (or at least maybe a community college), both of these situations are bad as it crimps meritocracy for those who actually can do really good and also has people in colleges they aren't able to learn very much from.
4,11 and 6 foot is a long distance relationship
talking about the childcare one, it’s weird how the “fatherless” insult is directed towards the child? my brother in christ, the child did not choose to be fatherless? why isn’t it an “i’m sorry your father wasn’t present in your life” (then again a lot of the “fatherless behaviors” are just things people don’t like and have nothing to do with absence of a father, like furries or dream stans)
The child doesn't choose to be fatherless but they are deemed lesser than because it's perceived that they weren't worthy enough for the father to stick around. This also extends to orphans who lack both parents. The world deemed them unfitting of love from either parent. I don't think people make this association consciously.
5:11 10 PERSON ORGY IS WILD 💀
Actually, I've seen it (not irl 💀)
There’s another double double standard for men (yes, I did 2 doubles on purpose).
Sports.
A good example of this comes from @ChrisStaplesDunker. He gives a girl an easy 3, and his friends say “bro that’s a girl,” meaning he shouldn’t leave her off that easy.
Next drive, he dunks on her. His friends then say “bro that’s a girl,” meaning he should go easy. Anyone ever experience this?
impressed by the fact that this had representation for men and women good job bro
I don't know why but that felt and sounded like a beat 3:50
6:15 Well it’s incredibly easy for a woman so this double standard makes sense
Also for a man
@@Mercury-ok8ie
Not really. A man needs a massive paycheck, a great job to get that paycheck, a nice ass car, the right measurements, etc. etc. A woman just needs to be fairly attractive, and enough guys will be swooning over her.
@@espurrseyes42 come to Brazil go into any favelas you will see crack head looking mfs with beautiful woman the reason soo many men don't do that is fear of rejection that makes them not even aproach women
@@espurrseyes42fax
@@espurrseyes42you're saying that as if every woman is attractive and pull quality guys. It's not a positive trait for a woman if a hobo guy likes her.
5:55 "Now that I have finished with the guys" is super zesty!
All kidding aside, we are all humans and we all taste the same.
wdym taste huh🤨🤨🤨
jk
@@realradiantrei Well, most think that people taste like pork. They actually taste like beef, just more smooth.
Funny enough sharks taste like chicken, just with fish texture!
7:13
"A man with 300 bodies" I can't help but laugh because. Like, a guy with 300 bodies on his basement or something
Don’t forget if a girl hits you “you can’t hit back”
And if you do
You are looked at as an abuser or people gonna gonna say "wow tough guy you beat a woman congrats"
And if you get your ass beat
You are getting clowned into the shadow realm
Even if she hits you for no reason or for a bigoted one, and much harder than you can ever wish to hit her to the point where you nearly get a concussion.
@@d1kgaws12 fr but tbh I don’t care whenever girls hits me I hit them back lol. You slapped me on the ass which is basically sexual assault what do you think I’m finna do bro
@@smileydelarosa825 FR
tbf though men are just that much stronger by default
Its a good day when tommy uploads
I appreciate that you adress that these go both ways. Anyone that complains about double standards on the Internet only ever talks about one side
That's becuase they only experienced their side not the other
I guess it depends on your own experience. But overall, I think we'll all get along much better and help each other if we can sit down and listen to each other.
I’m surprised you didn’t mention the legal system for men, Literally a whole three words can end out life, You all know what they are
4:16 this footage is from the music video for "The Ghost of You" by My Chemical Romance. I am pointing this out because I'm a creature who cannot let a mention of something I like go unnoticed
IM LITERALLY THE FRUITIEST MF OUT HERE AND I THINK MARGOT ROBBIE WITHOUT MAKEUP LOOKS GOOD WHAT ARE PEOPLE YAPPING ABOUT
Who r u talking too?
@@darshansooful9559 i got to the part in the video where he said people were calling margot robbie mid without makeup lmao
lmao thats what I noticed too. hello, fellow emo kid.
in regards to the former part you forgot about one's involving sexual assualt and domestic violence
I hate how men are called "gay" for expressing their feelings and caring about themselves
watching this, looking at the comments and seeing that every example of double standards boils down in the replies to "who has it worse" is extremely funny to me and also a huge part of the problem
Literally and it’s so annoying, both women and men have their problems, we humans all have problems it just what happens.
forgot to mention how men gotta bottle up emotions and not cry
Sadly it would probably never end…
I think I’ll have to argue with the last point, there are quite a few societies that openly see it as a Stigma to be a dirtbag father,And a lot of those dirtbag fathers tend to hide the fact they abandoned a family knowing it’s a stigma,I fully agree with the childcare part that society does expect women to handle it a lot but things like child support are in fact a thing, now I will also say It can be very hard for men to try to help in child care because society also has a very bad habit of assuming men are just naturally predatory towards children to where a father taking a 5 year old daughter or son will get looks on the street and maybe even confronted
There’s also how when dads take care of their kids it’s called “babysitting”