The Mistake That Kept Me Addicted to P*rn (For 11 Years)
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- čas přidán 21. 08. 2024
- The single greatest mistake you can make when trying to quit p*rn or achieve any kind of transformation, paradoxically, is fighting against what you are trying to change. This strategy is called Negative Sobriety, and in this video I break down why it is the single greatest mistake that every single person I've ever met makes when trying to quit p*rn and find healing.
P*rnography addiction is crippling the development of an entire generation of men and women, and I specialize in helping people quit p*rn for good and start living the life they're meant to live. If p*rn and self-sabotage are keeping you stuck and you're ready to get professional help to get this problem solved FOR GOOD, book a 1-on-1 call directly with me to see how I can help break you free:
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Once a workaholic friend of mine told me: "I'm just letting off steam" so I asked him: "Isn't it better to just put out the fire that builds up the stress in you?".
Childhood traumas make us a pressure cooker and produce the fire.
Addiction, any addiction is a tool to release pressure, momentary relief.
If we don't find the "fire" source in our soul and put it out, we will never leave the addiction zone throughout our lives, but only replace one addiction with another.
How do you know if a person has dealt with his childhood traumas? Those who do, are relaxed, peaceful and everything is done in moderation. Those who don't, usually run to death and everything is done to extremes.
@@user-jn6jm4bb6f Absolutely spot on. Love this
Excellent video
@@deepintheheart6715 Thank you! 🙏
Positive sobriety ftw my ninja
@@AustenSummers brb omw to becoming the Tony Robbins of jerking off
So well articulated. Thank you!!
@@CB-21 Thank you kindly sir
Thank you a lot for the video. Recently, i started to watch porn at every week and although, i am not obsessed with stopping on watching porn, but I need your advice on something related to it.
I usually watch porn at night and its out of curiosity, and since you said its better to focus more on doing positive and enriching activities, do you have any advice on healthy hobbies or activities I can do at night without the need to use devices?
you have to confess it to your parents and number of people bring it into light
@@6starluke Addiction is like a fungus of the soul - it thrives in darkness and is killed when brought into the light. BUT talking about it with people who don’t understand addiction let alone pornography addiction can be more harmful than helpful sometimes, and talking about our problem isn’t a comprehensive program of healing and recovery - just a part of it.
If you’re 18 or under and you have a good (or non-abusive) relationship with your parents, I would 100% talk to them about it. If you’re 18 or over, the best thing to do is seek out a 12-step recovery program like SAA and/or start working with a coach inside a community based mentorship program.
@@recoverwithnate yes it is killed when brought into the light
Do you think there is such a thing as porn in moderation or no?
Tysm do you have any tips about withdrawal symptoms mine is so bad I can’t connect or have a real conversation w anyone it’s really tiring
@@Saja299 Withdrawal can cause a wide range of symptoms - I’ll make a video about this soon. Most people experience a drastic improvement in their mood and ability to socialize within the first 2-4 weeks.
If you are experiencing severe social anxiety, depression, or chronic fatigue beyond 2-4 weeks from watching porn, those are more likely some of the root problems you are using porn to medicate, not withdrawal symptoms.
@@recoverwithnate so it’s not withdrawal that’s just me😰
@@Saja299 It’s possible to go through flatlines periods starting 2-3 weeks after which can results in low grade depression and loss of libido for a few weeks, but if you’re getting around people and feel like your fight or flight response is activating and you’re feeling really anxious, that’s probably not a withdrawal symptom.
Long term porn use can cause social anxiety, shame, and a loss of self esteem - the point of me saying what I said above is to indicate that these things need to be addressed head on as part of your recovery journey. Trauma healing exercises, loving kindness meditations, social anxiety exposure therapy plans, etc. Sounds like a lot, but you could see a MASSIVE improvement in these symptoms in 1-3 months.
If you’re still struggling with porn, hop on my free Skool community and get started in the course there. If you’re still struggling after going through that, shoot me a message inside Skool and I’ll point you in the right direction
@@recoverwithnate I don’t think it’s psychological problem it’s more of an organic one I have all symptoms of severe low dopamine
Caused by porn withdrawal symptoms I guess since I haven’t for 60 days