Tell me about the one that got away... (Strangers Answer)

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  • @Thorayaa
    @Thorayaa  Před 2 měsíci +96

    Leave your answer to the question in the comments ❤

    • @idab6864
      @idab6864 Před 2 měsíci +2

      Much love to you sister ❤️

    • @VampliFyer
      @VampliFyer Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@idab6864 the last one on this video looks a bit like Thorayaa but regardless, I so resonated with her answer. Despite our own free will and what we think we want, often the Universe--the "Source" if you will--knows best.

    • @RikHeijmen
      @RikHeijmen Před 2 měsíci

      New spot, new music right? Great stuff again, thank you for being in my life Thoraya

    • @AE-qs9ox
      @AE-qs9ox Před 2 měsíci +3

      I’d say thatt I’m the one who got away.. sometimes people don’t really value the moment until it’s no longer a moment so we’re left with the memory’s. I gave her my heart, my loyalty,my time and my love. I gave her multiple chances and she ruined them both because of her insecurities and neediness along with lack of loyalty, maturity and independency. So I was the one who got away because I realize my worth. Sometimes you keep going back to the same person over and over again until they completely destroy us and you realize that sometimes it’s the things we love most that destroys us which is why we must let them go. We don’t leave because we don’t love them, we leave because we respect ourselves and we realize our worth.

    • @mazzee
      @mazzee Před 2 měsíci

      Last one said the least but felt the most 😢

  • @coffee1207
    @coffee1207 Před 2 měsíci +2124

    The first guy.. I really applaud him admitting what he had done to lose that girl. That is honesty !!

    • @SeattleRaindrop206
      @SeattleRaindrop206 Před 2 měsíci +81

      Me too!
      I’m glad he’s been able to process it, fully understand it, and admit it… out loud, to all of us… strangers! ….and possibly even her! She may see this, a friend could spot it and forward it to her. I wonder what’ll happen! Because seeing that much growth could be a deal-maker. And who knows what position she’s in within her life right now. Maybe she still has feelings for him? Maybe I’m too bored today? 🤓😆

    • @em8066
      @em8066 Před 2 měsíci +29

      Me too. It really made me reflect on whether I can be more authentic in my own life.

    • @Ankur.khatkar
      @Ankur.khatkar Před 2 měsíci +5

      Mee too

    • @rfleisher1
      @rfleisher1 Před 2 měsíci +56

      I did this to the love of my life and it remains my biggest regret. Toxic masculinity doesn't always present in the stereotypical, obvious ways. Sometimes it's an inner struggle.

    • @TheAncientColossus
      @TheAncientColossus Před 2 měsíci +7

      ​@rfleisher1 Biggest regret and live every day with the shame and guilt.

  • @DrProgNerd
    @DrProgNerd Před 2 měsíci +2328

    20 years ago, I would have answered that there was one that got away - but - 10 years ago, I reconnected with her and it quickly became clear that she was not 'the one'.
    I had romanticized the memory of her over the years - but reality had a different story to tell. Sometimes I miss having the belief that she is perfect and out there somewhere - because it was a nice place to drift off to in my mind. Maybe you could say that 'belief in romance' is the one that got away.

    • @yomoseo
      @yomoseo Před 2 měsíci +48

      Wow

    • @LIN-iv4xw
      @LIN-iv4xw Před 2 měsíci +67

      I have your story, in a different form. I totally fucked up but evolved and grew from my mistakes. Got a second chance and wow.. those five years spent in regret were definitely wasted

    • @Ms-lb7lb
      @Ms-lb7lb Před 2 měsíci +33

      Wow, this is profound.

    • @leafyveins4985
      @leafyveins4985 Před 2 měsíci +18

      Sabotaged my your own brain...

    • @rockerchick6168
      @rockerchick6168 Před 2 měsíci +44

      Wow that is very interesting. I’ve often thought that my memory of someone could be changed if I saw them again, and how the memory might be nicer. It’s true that who we knew years ago, could be very different in reality.

  • @anthonylaflamme3630
    @anthonylaflamme3630 Před 2 měsíci +1171

    Meeting the right person at the wrong time can be the hardest thing about this life.

    • @samiam369
      @samiam369 Před měsícem +35

      Heart breaking.

    • @angeladellinger7063
      @angeladellinger7063 Před měsícem +45

      This is my story. Love was never our problem. It’s been 3 years and I still cry when I think about him. Time has helped. The pain isn’t as frequent or as deep. Or, rather, I’ve learned to live with the pain.

    • @anthonylaflamme3630
      @anthonylaflamme3630 Před měsícem +36

      @@angeladellinger7063 I don’t know the specifics of your situation but as long as you are both alive, your story doesn’t have to be over.

    • @masha06007
      @masha06007 Před měsícem +19

      Is there this thing as right person in wrong time I’m wondering…

    • @JG-du8pz
      @JG-du8pz Před měsícem +5

      My goodness so true

  • @anitaespinosa6146
    @anitaespinosa6146 Před měsícem +700

    Damn, he said it. Self sabotage because it’s easier on your ego.

    • @katierojas8066
      @katierojas8066 Před měsícem +26

      Although being vulnerable with people when they don’t reciprocate the way we want, can feel foolish and humiliating.

    • @taratucker2561
      @taratucker2561 Před měsícem

      Facts!!! Only love people that love you back​@@katierojas8066

    • @meganr9280
      @meganr9280 Před dnem

      @@katierojas8066be foolish and “humiliate” yourself sometimes with the ones you love. They will love you anyway so you won’t have to feel foolish or humiliated.

  • @Notmycatsanctuary
    @Notmycatsanctuary Před 2 měsíci +1056

    The one that got away was my husband. Our marriage was breaking from all the regular pressures of life. He got a shoulder injury and ended up addicted to pain meds. They caused him to behave differently. He had an affair for 6 months with a co worker, when he broke it off she told he she was pregnant. We divorced. Our kids were age 3 and 8. I raised them alone while he was in the throes of addiction. They had no relationship with him as I would not allow it. I however stayed in touch from a distance. I told him he could come home if he got clean. It took him 8 years. We remarried and our kids are 18 and 23. One is pre-med and the other in film school. He’s been clean ever since. People aren’t perfect. We all make mistakes and bad choices. I forgave him because I love him and I know that he quit on himself not us. So I made him fight for us to find himself.

    • @SeattleRaindrop206
      @SeattleRaindrop206 Před 2 měsíci +114

      I applaud you my friend! You’re a strong ass Woman! …and incredibly intelligent to boot. 🫵🚺
      I’m so very happy your family is back, where it belongs, together. You did that! …You and him. Y’all didn’t take the easy road, throw in the towel, give up, and move on. You held on and glued that thing back together. I’m truly inspired by you both.
      Congratulations to him on his recovery… It’s one of the most difficult things a human being can ever possibly endure.💪🫶

    • @SeattleRaindrop206
      @SeattleRaindrop206 Před 2 měsíci +44

      P.S. If that’s you, in your profile photo… You’re absolutely stunning. Your cheekbones, my lord, and your hair is so shiny ✨

    • @yl7301
      @yl7301 Před 2 měsíci +14

      Amazing glad you got your happy ending ❤

    • @natscat4752
      @natscat4752 Před 2 měsíci +12

      Thanks for sharing your story. Go mamma! So pleased for your family.

    • @rihabhadjam
      @rihabhadjam Před 2 měsíci +37

      mam you seem like you are the one that got away not him

  • @aenzen3681
    @aenzen3681 Před 2 měsíci +1318

    The one that got away is always the hardest to think about, if only because it's all full of "what if?"s

    • @vandalsavage6743
      @vandalsavage6743 Před 2 měsíci

      Why do you hate men?

    • @Yuffie777
      @Yuffie777 Před 2 měsíci

      ​Bro, what the fuck? 😂😂😂​@@vandalsavage6743

    • @MountainLWolf
      @MountainLWolf Před 2 měsíci +48

      Those "What if' questions can drive you crazy for sure.

    • @aikighost
      @aikighost Před 2 měsíci +13

      The last ladys answer seems to me to be a good example of that reading between the lines.

    • @MichaelReee3
      @MichaelReee3 Před 2 měsíci +3

      truest thing ever

  • @umvemnyama
    @umvemnyama Před 2 měsíci +799

    Seeing people from such a close perspective visually, just makes you realize all the little ways people are so beautiful

    • @jirihozpodebrad23
      @jirihozpodebrad23 Před měsícem +28

      ...THIS!!! I think about this every single time I watch one of Thoraya's videos

    • @brendadickson9583
      @brendadickson9583 Před 22 dny +1

      Truly very beautiful people ❤

    • @Crybaby-Media
      @Crybaby-Media Před 21 dnem +2

      It’s really cool. When i take a few minutes to listen to someone , i almost always think they’re beautiful. These videos put you face to face with everyone , and you get to know a little bit of everyone .
      Some people don’t open up fully like others , but that helps you even learn a bit more about them. You know they’re guarded because they’ve probably been hurt in the past.
      These videos are a masterclass in humanity

  • @BLACKLAVENDERfilmscores
    @BLACKLAVENDERfilmscores Před 2 měsíci +772

    Mine, she didn't get away; she died. I love you Maria. Whatever, forever.

  • @anthonylaflamme3630
    @anthonylaflamme3630 Před 2 měsíci +458

    When you’re young you think you have your entire life to meet “the one” but in reality true connection only happens once, maybe twice if you’re lucky. Or sometimes not at all.

    • @hummingbird4934
      @hummingbird4934 Před měsícem +11

      I really really hope you’re wrong! As someone who has lost the love of her life!

    • @arise1668
      @arise1668 Před měsícem +18

      @@hummingbird4934it’s what YOU make of it and what you bring to the connection, the interaction. Remember stay true to the strength of the person you know you are and are working on. Be genuine and keep moving, flow through and let be what should-including yourself.

    • @espielopez3755
      @espielopez3755 Před měsícem +3

      Very very True!

    • @victoriakyivua6929
      @victoriakyivua6929 Před měsícem +2

      Golden comment

    • @keepingupwithmyshenanigans7590
      @keepingupwithmyshenanigans7590 Před měsícem +4

      3rd time lucky for me 😅! Married this time round and happy ❤️🇹🇹🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 my love stories were crazy deep

  • @13vo7
    @13vo7 Před 2 měsíci +679

    It's crazy how people don't know how beautiful they are. To see them portrayed this way out in the sunshine. We see ourselves in camera and mirror but it never captures the raw beauty when someone is expressing themselves telling a story sharing who they are. The little nuances of how they speak and their smiles and emotions in their gaze. I'm probably beautiful, and I don't know it. We can never see ourselves this way, as someone else can.We're so used to our own face.

    • @Lisa-welder1
      @Lisa-welder1 Před 2 měsíci +17

      You, are beautiful! And.. amazing! ❤

    • @alisonreed4408
      @alisonreed4408 Před 2 měsíci +30

      Such an amazing observation, I hadn't thought of this consciously but reading your comment made me realise you're spot on ❤

    • @AnnaPugacova
      @AnnaPugacova Před měsícem +14

      I thought exact same thing when I watched each person expressing themselves not only in words but in gestures, eyes, smiles, lips, hair blowing in the wind … so beautiful 🥹

    • @maryoneill9630
      @maryoneill9630 Před měsícem +2

      This is so true

    • @FuriousEevee93
      @FuriousEevee93 Před měsícem +2

      Exactly very true.

  • @shepherdessofskymeadow
    @shepherdessofskymeadow Před měsícem +212

    My husband and I were both each other's one who got away. We met at 18, got engaged at 19, broke up at 20, lived separate lives for a decade and then reconnected a few months before COVID hit. I was working down in NYC, and he was up in Vermont, where he's from. When remote work made it possible I came up for a "visit" ... and never left. A few years later, now both 34, we tied the knot on the mountain where we live together. You never ever know what life will bring. 💛
    Thanks for collecting and sharing these stories. So beautiful!

    • @briana14333
      @briana14333 Před měsícem +8

      Awwww this is so sweet! Sometimes timing really is everything. Love it✨

    • @brendaasiimwe3383
      @brendaasiimwe3383 Před 8 dny +4

      This sounds like a hallmark movie story line. So beautiful 🎉

  • @chillySw33t
    @chillySw33t Před měsícem +255

    It's sort of interesting how the majority of women in this video don't have "the one that got away", this says a lot about we are in relationships. I think women tend to fight a lot for a relationship to continue but if nothing good comes out of it, they know they've tried their best and don't have any regrets

    • @Tiffany-Rose
      @Tiffany-Rose Před měsícem +49

      It's true. Women tend to stay longer and try harder to make things work. When they leave it's usually for a reason and they don't have anything left to fight for.

    • @briana14333
      @briana14333 Před měsícem +21

      I agree. Leaving is a last resort.

    • @DASSANTAMARIA
      @DASSANTAMARIA Před 20 dny +5

      I have just discovered that I was the woman in the relationship 😂😅😢

    • @Sarah-kv3qs
      @Sarah-kv3qs Před 16 dny

      Depends some women have an ex they left a while ago that roams their mind. People make mistake and don’t realize till years later

    • @carlaalegria3658
      @carlaalegria3658 Před 15 dny

      Not in my case, I'm very avoidant, and most of the time, I would want to break it off instead of wanting to work things out, is something that I'm still learning to work on.

  • @cynthialim5624
    @cynthialim5624 Před měsícem +129

    That first guy has come leaps and bounds in learning to be vulnerable, he deserves the best ❤

  • @bathtubbuddy
    @bathtubbuddy Před měsícem +169

    “ be vulnerable, just risk it . Its scary it hurts but its alot easier to deal with knowing you said what needed to be said as opposed to hiding behind false words to protect your own ego… it makes it alot more easier to live with.” 1:19

  • @SkyeID
    @SkyeID Před 2 měsíci +380

    When I look back on "the one that got away" from my life, I realize that they actually weren't healthy for me, and it's good that they're gone.

    • @saintejeannedarc9460
      @saintejeannedarc9460 Před 2 měsíci +6

      Yes, I was wracking my brain thinking if I have one that got away. That is too overshadowed by the terrible way my last relationship ended, after 10 years. It's best that that ended too.

    • @temporarythoughts
      @temporarythoughts Před měsícem +12

      Sometimes "the one that got away" was the immense beautiful potential we saw. ❤

    • @saintejeannedarc9460
      @saintejeannedarc9460 Před měsícem +7

      @@temporarythoughts I think that's it. For most of us, the reality would set in if we got to see where that potential would go.

    • @MadonnaGrogan
      @MadonnaGrogan Před měsícem

      Same

    • @duchess_of_petty9323
      @duchess_of_petty9323 Před měsícem +4

      Same. We loved each other with TOO much emotion that it became toxic AF. We had to split to save ourselves. We have no contact but certain songs or memories will stop me in my tracks even the are both happily married. Things turn out the way they are supposed to

  • @sassycat6487
    @sassycat6487 Před měsícem +92

    This reminds me of a story I saw on a reality show one time about an interracial couple. They were in the military together (white guy and black girl) and she was hesitant to tell him her feelings because of the racial thing and also he was her superior. Years go by after she left the military and she had a dream about she was giving birth to his baby and the baby boy nearly died but miraculously recovered. She couldn't stop thinking about the dream for a long time and it was driving her crazy so much that she looked him up and found his number and called him. He was amazed to hear from her and said he had stayed single all these years and always liked her. They ended up getting married AND the dream of literally happened exactly as she saw it with her baby boy miraculously recovering after nearly dying during the birth.

  • @lindaj171
    @lindaj171 Před 2 měsíci +263

    There was a guy I was with in my early 20s that I had a real connection with. He broke my heart when he just disappeared one day without even a goodbye. Then, when I was 27, I met and married the perfect guy for me. He was my best friend and we were inseparable for 32 years until he passed from cancer. I knew from our first date that he was The One. It made me think of the song by England Dan & John Ford Coley with the lyrics "It's sad to belong to someone else, when the right one comes along". I think that happens to a lot to people, they get married and have children and then they meet 'The One'. Turns out getting dumped way back then was the best thing that ever happened to me! As for my husband who's crossed over, he will always be my husband . . . love may not survive being dumped, but it does survive death. Till we meet again.

    • @sarahmottram3369
      @sarahmottram3369 Před 2 měsíci +3

      Your husband was the one....hope you realise that..

    • @Han________
      @Han________ Před 2 měsíci

      @@sarahmottram3369 that is literally what she said :)

    • @lisahinton9682
      @lisahinton9682 Před 2 měsíci +27

      ​@sarahmottram3369
      You must not have even read her comment. She _clearly_ states that her husband, not the guy from her early 20s, was The One.

  • @royfr8136
    @royfr8136 Před 2 měsíci +487

    As I got older i realised that these 'ones that got away' are just in your mind - 99.9 % of women (in these situations) are creations of what you make of them in your own mind. that perfect girl/guy was far from perfect. And maybe even the memories you carry with you are also, edited and not really as things were.... - So many people torture themselves with false memories or connections that weren't even as they really were.

    • @evanderpaulomorais7210
      @evanderpaulomorais7210 Před 2 měsíci +24

      I can relate to this, in my case all I needed was closure, and then I realized that I didn't really know the person, we only seemed to get along when we were far away from each other, and the thoughts that made me miss her (probably the same on her end) were pure imagination

    • @sgreen9088
      @sgreen9088 Před 2 měsíci +8

      Are you still hurting?

    • @cocosheabuttarosemaryqueen9204
      @cocosheabuttarosemaryqueen9204 Před 2 měsíci +9

      True. The one's that got away for me it was for the best

    • @royfr8136
      @royfr8136 Před 2 měsíci +7

      @@sgreen9088 No, very much the oppostte in fact.... I have an opinion based on life experience. Is that a problem?

    • @TheShavedleggs
      @TheShavedleggs Před 2 měsíci +23

      It's called Limerence

  • @BK-qp8zp
    @BK-qp8zp Před 2 měsíci +164

    I was married for 40 years to someone I wish had gotten away.

  • @fantacyencephalon_jess
    @fantacyencephalon_jess Před 2 měsíci +276

    The woman at 10:40 is so wise

    • @akitagilmore8306
      @akitagilmore8306 Před měsícem

      Yea!! Thanks for making my weekend start off phenomenal ! 😘

    • @akuasalaam490
      @akuasalaam490 Před 26 dny

      I was connected to her understanding, as I feel the same way.

  • @elizabethquintero777
    @elizabethquintero777 Před měsícem +65

    Spanish saying about respecting the autonomy of the person we love:
    If you love someone, let him go
    If he comes back, his love is yours.
    If he doesn't come back, he never loved you at all.

    • @soleil7259
      @soleil7259 Před měsícem +5

      As a christian i personally think there is nobody that got away. I believe there are people in our lives for different seasons. Some things are simply not meant to be, if they were they would just be. We humans tend to romanticize things and make them see greater as they actually were. Oftentimes i hear from people that the people they thought they fell in love with, was an illusion.

    • @elizabethquintero777
      @elizabethquintero777 Před měsícem +1

      @@soleil7259 As a Christian, I agree but these idioms remind us of respecting the autonomy of others in order to affirm the decision TO WALK AWAY (book by Gary Thomas).

    • @tinaali3686
      @tinaali3686 Před měsícem +1

      It is worldwide saying lol but a meaningful saying indeed ❤️

    • @elizabethquintero777
      @elizabethquintero777 Před měsícem

      @@tinaali3686 I wonder how it's said in other languages. I only knew Spanish. Probably sounds really cool in French.

    • @ralphiesarch8980
      @ralphiesarch8980 Před 16 dny

      If you love someone, let them go. But if you said a slew of horrible things to them on their way out, don't expect them to come back. You killed their love.

  • @aikighost
    @aikighost Před 2 měsíci +111

    Never had a "one that got away", have had plenty of "I loved them they didn't really know I existed"

  • @ThomasLiljeruhm
    @ThomasLiljeruhm Před 2 měsíci +101

    "but no one ever like him" hit hard.

  • @EmberCrow
    @EmberCrow Před měsícem +38

    Wow when that person said she didn’t think she was good enough for the guy she let go- oof. I felt that deep in my heart.

    • @TheGreatWasian_
      @TheGreatWasian_ Před 4 dny

      I just got out of a fling with a girl and she said she always felt insecure or like I put myself above her. In reality I admire her in so many ways. I hope she isn’t thinking the same thing with me🥲

  • @puppeiluv826
    @puppeiluv826 Před 20 dny +24

    Imagine you were the one they talked about in this video and you saw it

  • @joaopereira2751
    @joaopereira2751 Před 2 měsíci +514

    Thoraya is the best therapist outthere

    • @vandalsavage6743
      @vandalsavage6743 Před 2 měsíci +1

      Why do you hate men?

    • @fiatkallesdotter
      @fiatkallesdotter Před 2 měsíci +2

      ​@@vandalsavage6743? how did that question turn into this conclusion? Im not tryin to be rude, just curious 😊 Or maybe it was all a joke that just flew all over my head 🙈

    • @cocosheabuttarosemaryqueen9204
      @cocosheabuttarosemaryqueen9204 Před 2 měsíci +6

      No. I wouldn't say she's the best therapist but she does give great opportunity to talk about things you otherwise wouldn't out loud

    • @ainzsama5101
      @ainzsama5101 Před 2 měsíci +2

      @@fiatkallesdotter dont worry its just a troll that comments the same under all comments

    • @cherieleeishere
      @cherieleeishere Před 2 měsíci

      💯

  • @glampergirl4495
    @glampergirl4495 Před měsícem +56

    I’m so glad all of them got away because the one that stayed has been by my side for 26 years.

  • @Sprinkles_404
    @Sprinkles_404 Před měsícem +38

    Wow powerful words coming from a guy
    “Be vulnerable, just risk it, it’s scary, it hurts but it’s a-lot easier to deal with knowing that you said what you needed to say. Opposed to hidding behind false words or means words to protect your own ego”

  • @Prizzy999
    @Prizzy999 Před 2 měsíci +158

    I'm the one who got away. Twice. I had to. The first time I had a 6 years relationship with a beautiful man, inside and out, but he was an alcoholic who didn't wanna quit and couldn't give me what I dreamed of. He even said that he'd never be able to quit drinking if I stayed with him 'cause he felt too loved for who he was and therefore totally demotivated to quit.
    So I left. And he quit.
    The second time I had to leave after 10 yrs because we hurt each other badly and realized we're best friends but not good as each other's partner. So again, packed my stuff and left.
    And then I realised I never had a love that wanted to really make me stay, probably never will but that's okay.
    I'm 53 and I'm better off alone than in another painful relationship.
    I love myself enough now, and I'm happy.

    • @iismyalias
      @iismyalias Před 2 měsíci +16

      You did right by you and saved yourself even further heartache. All the respect to you.

    • @Prizzy999
      @Prizzy999 Před 2 měsíci +4

      ​@@iismyaliasThank you, so very kind of you ❤

    • @mmwoodcockart
      @mmwoodcockart Před 2 měsíci +7

      That takes both introspection and guts. I'm glad the other people involved were also able to be honest or at least accept it for what it was too- shows respect for each other. In a lot of relationships when it's not right, only one person tries to be honest with themselves and leave while the other clings and asks for second chances out of denial.
      Good on you for believing in yourself despite how scary or new something may be, you were secure enough in yourself to thrive! And you are! :)

    • @eva-w
      @eva-w Před 2 měsíci +6

      Reading your comment gives me hope.

    • @wan8313
      @wan8313 Před 2 měsíci +3

      Thank you for this

  • @gsanchez5116
    @gsanchez5116 Před 2 měsíci +134

    I clicked on this knowing I’d cry but I made the sacrifice

  • @carolmartin4413
    @carolmartin4413 Před měsícem +26

    44 years ago I blew it....never been the same again. Still hurts

  • @hugodasilva198
    @hugodasilva198 Před 2 měsíci +239

    I connect so much with the first man talking. A lot of the time, i had the feeling of sabotaging myself! Its a really sad feeling when you understand it.

  • @MM-qp4pd
    @MM-qp4pd Před měsícem +40

    I agree with the last one. If it was meant to be it was meant to be. There is no getting away from it.

  • @jay1738a
    @jay1738a Před měsícem +59

    Ladies and Gentlemen the grass is not greener on the other side. Just give your all to that person you have now, it will be worth it.

  • @michelleelliot2068
    @michelleelliot2068 Před 2 měsíci +208

    I am in a situation where both myself and my partner were the ones who got away from each other. We spent 4 years on opposite sides of the planet only to randomly run into each other again and well, now we are getting married. Not really sure if this counts but there was definitely a 4 year period where we both sat there and pined away for each other without even realising it; communicate your feelings ppl as I lost 4 years with my best friend and the love of my life over what essentially amounts to a miscommunication.

    • @user-cv4ew3yl5m
      @user-cv4ew3yl5m Před 2 měsíci +13

      Congratulations to you both 😊

    • @FallenAngel9979
      @FallenAngel9979 Před 2 měsíci +8

      Least your now getting married!!

    • @SeattleRaindrop206
      @SeattleRaindrop206 Před 2 měsíci +1

      Yay! I love stories like this.🩵 I’m so glad you found your way back to one another.
      •And super good advice about COMMUNICATING! It’s essential. Communication is everything in any relationship.
      I have a question though. You said that you were pining without realizing it? I’m confused… Does that mean you’d moved on and weren’t thinking about each other?
      Or you were pining and didn’t realize the other was pining as well?
      It’s gotta be the latter of the two.
      Congrats to you both!
      🥂Cheers 💛

    • @michelleelliot2068
      @michelleelliot2068 Před 2 měsíci +9

      @@SeattleRaindrop206 yeah it was the latter of the two. I was Australia and she was in the UK and while we both tried to move on we just couldn't and so we eventually confessed to each how we still felt. I regret that time without her but it did have the effect of making our love more intense; like it runs deeper now or something.

    • @LittleLulubee
      @LittleLulubee Před měsícem +1

      I also lost someone due to a misunderstanding. Now, many years later, I can’t stop thinking of him. It was an international thing, too- so I don’t even know which country he’s in by now 💔😢

  • @106133553
    @106133553 Před 2 měsíci +80

    That girl talking about love from camp, her words hit hard...
    Dont let your downsides pull you away from anybody, do your best to become better person and if someone is better than you (which is imo stupid to say because people aint numbers so we cant rly be compared) take that as a motivation to brcome better, not as an obstacle to your relationship

    • @oshinofalakoju5749
      @oshinofalakoju5749 Před 2 měsíci +5

      THIIISSS!!!! So many ppl run away from quality ppl because their fears of failing in a relationship is deeply rooted in an insecurity/insecurities. Instead of trying to put words to the things they're feeling, they instead retreat inward and come to conclusions without giving the other person a chance to express how they feel. This is something I'm learning as being on the receiving end of a break up 3 months ago, but I know that ultimately ppl make decisions for themselves and it's up to us to decide how to react. Sigh... healing takes time, but you learn in the process.

    • @Sarah-kv3qs
      @Sarah-kv3qs Před 16 dny +1

      Her story hurt the most she sabotaged herself due to feeling not good enough

  • @lornemalvo3298
    @lornemalvo3298 Před měsícem +24

    I've come to the realisation that there is no 'one' and tomorrow is a new day. It really is.

  • @anemptyspace
    @anemptyspace Před měsícem +8

    He got away, is (seemingly) happily married now and might even have kids (I'm resisting the urge to look him up on social media to see). The video hit a raw spot today, because I'd just had a nightmare about us again. Not a nightmare really, just a dream of what could've been, a dream that he likes me, which always leaves me waking up devastated and aching. Even after almost 10 years the dreams don't stop... It's so painful

  • @lk3121
    @lk3121 Před 2 měsíci +122

    The best thing about this video is, that people tell their sad stories with a smile.
    That gives me courage that I don't have to be afraid of grief.
    thank you

  • @TM1Charlie
    @TM1Charlie Před 2 měsíci +235

    Thoraya, I wish there was a way to message you rather than a comment , but here I am. I was working on several bombing ranges in California and Arizona when I discovered your CZcams content. I searched for you on Sunday afternoons at Balboa Park every time I had the chance, because I wanted to meet you to tell you how big an impact your content had on me and maybe get you to have a bite of lunch with me. I find myself still enjoying your stuff, but now I do it from my death bed. Keep doing what you’re doing, because I know I am not the only person you have had this effect on. Thank You for the inspiration!

    • @nottechytutorials
      @nottechytutorials Před 2 měsíci +5

      Blame Google for deleting inboxes. It was a great way to message creators and each other.

    • @ajalikeasia
      @ajalikeasia Před 2 měsíci +34

      Wishing you peace/comfort on your transition from this physical life. I hope you have no regrets, felt true love/support more than once & are satisfied w/your contributions to people’s lives that love you. God bless you. 🙏🏽♥️

    • @katijahlivindalife7488
      @katijahlivindalife7488 Před 2 měsíci +15

      Commenting for visibility , that Thoraya will see your post. I hope also you have found peace in the end.

    • @lisahinton9682
      @lisahinton9682 Před 2 měsíci +10

      @TMICharlie
      I, too, am commenting so as to help push your comment upward.
      I hope you have a peaceful passing, and have felt love in your life.
      Sending you love this day and always.

    • @kusumfernandes4057
      @kusumfernandes4057 Před 2 měsíci +5

      I hope your wish to meet Thoraya comes thru ❤

  • @mm5478
    @mm5478 Před 2 měsíci +175

    Take catharsis where ever and whenever you find it. These videos are life: beautiful, sad, funny, revealing, compassionate. Thanks.

    • @sgreen9088
      @sgreen9088 Před 2 měsíci +14

      Initially I wanted to run from the video cause of the sad feelings. Listening felt like group therapy.

    • @allyson--
      @allyson-- Před 2 měsíci +3

      Agree :~)

    • @SeattleRaindrop206
      @SeattleRaindrop206 Před 2 měsíci

      @@sgreen90881,000%

  • @ssosole
    @ssosole Před 2 měsíci +40

    I’m crying while reading all your stories in this comment section. Real love doesn’t happen very often, if you find it fight for it.

    • @hummingbird4934
      @hummingbird4934 Před měsícem +2

      I just gave up! I thought I didn’t deserve him anymore. How stupid!!

    • @JodieRenee586
      @JodieRenee586 Před 10 dny +1

      I had to rewatch the video; I wasn’t listening because I was engrossed in the comment section

  • @vl180
    @vl180 Před měsícem +22

    There is no such person as the one that got away. If they were for you they wouldn’t have gotten away. The “one that got away” is just your lesson to be learnt to become a better person.

    • @briana14333
      @briana14333 Před měsícem +2

      I agree. I have thought deeply about my serious relationships and I wouldn’t want any of them back. They had their time and taught me/gave me what I needed.

  • @dlm972
    @dlm972 Před 2 měsíci +40

    I agree with the people who said that the longer time goes on you realize that what happened was meant to be. You get to a higher understanding and you see why it didn't work and couldn't work and you're happy that things ended

  • @zorachai7375
    @zorachai7375 Před 2 měsíci +71

    I related the most to the last person talking about how there isn't really anyone who got away. we just live our lives, we meet people, share life with them , some stay, some don't. Both ways its okay. Because i still got myself at the end of the day. And that all that counts. And some i'm really glad they got away.

  • @theFirst1stE1
    @theFirst1stE1 Před měsícem +16

    The pain from losing someone is for the memories you'll never make.
    Don't let that pain stop you from making those memories with someone else.

  • @karengerhardt6008
    @karengerhardt6008 Před 2 měsíci +100

    The first guy broke my heart. He gave great advice.

  • @brideofallunquietthings7992
    @brideofallunquietthings7992 Před 2 měsíci +24

    The first guy was so honest and self aware. Really thank you for sharing

  • @jessicapollie
    @jessicapollie Před měsícem +14

    This was so human and genuine.

  • @Waryfuls
    @Waryfuls Před 2 měsíci +53

    *I'd rather not talk about her...* I just hope she's doing well, that's it.

  • @Brightstartarot888
    @Brightstartarot888 Před 2 měsíci +45

    Hearing the huge themes of self sabotaging our relationships out of fear and security plus feeling not good enough , it's so interesting how deep connections help show us these things.

  • @sueschoers4974
    @sueschoers4974 Před 2 měsíci +14

    My one that got away crossed my path 17 years later and we've been together for the last 12 years and still going strong ❤

    • @tanj15
      @tanj15 Před 11 dny

      Wow! Sounds like a miracle did yous date in between? Im praying mine finds his way to me

  • @kathylovesmk
    @kathylovesmk Před 2 měsíci +39

    The one that "got away" was my high school sweetheart, first love. I didn't feel ready to stay with the first person I loved, wanted to see what else was out in the world. It's now 40 years later and I made the wrong choice. He was the best person I've ever known.💔

    • @breesgacha8294
      @breesgacha8294 Před 2 měsíci +7

      That's very sad

    • @LittleLulubee
      @LittleLulubee Před měsícem +8

      Aww, I’ve heard of people finding their high school sweethearts at the end of their lives- after they were both divorced or widowed. Maybe there’s still hope?

    • @kathylovesmk
      @kathylovesmk Před měsícem +10

      @LittleLulubee I used to think maybe that would happen, but heartbreakingly he died of leukemia at 38 years old.💔 But I believe his spirit is with me and we will be together again in Heaven.

    • @LittleLulubee
      @LittleLulubee Před měsícem +4

      @@kathylovesmk Awww, I’m sorry 💙 I believe we’ll reunite with our loved ones, too 💕🕊️

    • @TianaThompson90s
      @TianaThompson90s Před měsícem

      ​@@kathylovesmk😢😢😢

  • @grrlmom
    @grrlmom Před měsícem +15

    40 years later I still think about him

  • @chillaxinsnorlax4462
    @chillaxinsnorlax4462 Před 2 měsíci +83

    The one that got away? I don't really know. Most of my attempts at relationships have ended with rejection. Though there is one that comes to mind at times. The girl I had my first crush on back in 4th grade. Her family moved away before the end of the year. She and I had a great friendship and connection. She was the first and possibly only person to have an actual crush on me. We were kids but I felt like the feelings were innocent and for real. I really loved her name and I just think back and wonder and hope she is doing alright, where ever she may be.

  • @lorettanericcio-bohlman567
    @lorettanericcio-bohlman567 Před 2 měsíci +40

    The “one that got away” was from homophobia. It’s a devastating and debilitating experience. I can still smell her though after 45 years. Love

  • @GemstoneQuality
    @GemstoneQuality Před měsícem +5

    The first gentleman's experience is so enlightening, so appreciate you sharing your experience ❤️

  • @johnamstutz
    @johnamstutz Před 2 měsíci +137

    His name ... Mike Strickland,cutest, sweetest little cowboy. It was the mid eighties,he moved back home to Wichita Falls. Should have asked him to stay.

    • @I_D_K_
      @I_D_K_ Před 2 měsíci +26

      If you still wonder-look him up, see if you can find him, talk to him, and maybe something will blossom maybe something wont
      -a hopeless romantic

    • @SeattleRaindrop206
      @SeattleRaindrop206 Před 2 měsíci +14

      @@I_D_K_I’m on board with this plan!!🙋🏻‍♀️ I co-sign. I second it. Come on!
      💘💖💘

    • @angelscraftycrap
      @angelscraftycrap Před 2 měsíci +5

      Hello from Wichita Falls, TX

    • @victoriamuendo7540
      @victoriamuendo7540 Před 2 měsíci +1

      ​@@angelscraftycrap please connect them 😂

    • @abcdefghijk8925
      @abcdefghijk8925 Před měsícem +4

      Look him up! Keep us posted!

  • @robbiegreen491
    @robbiegreen491 Před 10 dny +7

    I was with a lady who stayed after I got diagnosed with cancer at 22. Most of the relationship I was having chemo. I dumped her for a stupid reason one day and have always regretted it. I see her now as she lives by my daughters school. 15 years later and my heart sank when I saw her for the first time again. True love never dies. I stuck in a loveless marriage and wish I could go back.

    • @sarahtaylor7288
      @sarahtaylor7288 Před 3 dny +2

      LIfe is too short to live without love.

    • @hereforit2347
      @hereforit2347 Před 3 dny +1

      You’re “stuck” because you want to be.

    • @robbiegreen491
      @robbiegreen491 Před dnem +1

      Stuck because 2 kids and 1 is severely autistic and needs both parents

    • @hereforit2347
      @hereforit2347 Před dnem

      @@robbiegreen491: So, you have to be married to the mom to be a good parent?

  • @ATumblelinaTruth7777
    @ATumblelinaTruth7777 Před 2 měsíci +58

    It’s been 40 years and it still hurts 💔🙏💔

  • @dagfincarp1113
    @dagfincarp1113 Před 2 měsíci +36

    30 years ago...and I still think about her. She taught me what real love is.

  • @cheneroodt
    @cheneroodt Před 2 měsíci +18

    I know I am that got away. I opened up to a boy when I was 17. He saw the parts of my life I was very private about. I was in love at the time. I believe it was because I was young and naïve. We dated for 6 months. And looking back, 6 months is not that long but we were always around each other and it felt like we understood each other and accepted each others flaws and short comings. Long story short, he showed me multiple times that he wasn't as serious as I was which was understandable for our age at the time. So I decided that it was my time to let him go and it did hurt how fast he moved on as I was still emotionally in a bad place.
    After 8 months of breaking-up, he showed up at my parents house looking for me, and I didn't answer because I knew that I was starting to heal my heart and if I opened up,I would have caved in and let him back into my life. That was the day... I realized that he knew I was the one who got away and regretted his choices.
    Fast forward, 8 years later, I heard from high school friends that he was married now and has a son. So.... it sounds like he is living his life and has a purpose.
    I was only good to him and he didn't understand it at the time. So the day he showed back at my parents house, I knew he regretted what he did and missed me. I know I am the one who got away. And I never regretted not opening up. My life is much better now, I am healed and I am very much content with my life.

  • @lifeoutsidecomfortzone
    @lifeoutsidecomfortzone Před měsícem +8

    The first man just struck my soul 😟

  • @krissy123123123
    @krissy123123123 Před 23 dny +5

    I was the one that got away, but I came back 5 years later. I was his first relationship, we were both young (19 & 20). He was truly my best friend but I was very emotionally immature, unavailable, just really not ready for the incredible person he was. Not deserving of it. I broke up with him, we dated other people but remained friends, and eventually started talking more and more once we both happened to be single again. I grew up, matured, & was ready to be the person he was worthy of. He didn't necessarily "wait" for me - I wouldn't have wanted him to, but timing was on our side & we came back together like those 5 years almost never happened. Been together going on 3 years now.

  • @SammeeDee25
    @SammeeDee25 Před 2 měsíci +13

    The one who got away returned to me after 20 years in Nov. of 2022! Life is good.

  • @KP-hi1om
    @KP-hi1om Před 2 měsíci +17

    I am lucky. Been with my best friend/wife since we were 16 and 17. Me and the wife have been married 32 years.

  • @kaitlinmeadows6273
    @kaitlinmeadows6273 Před 2 měsíci +29

    For what I thought were practical, reasonable, “realistic” reasons I could never fully commit to the man who loved me with all his heart. We had something incredibly magical but I could not figure out how to make it work in the “real world” and just when I thought I was ready, almost 50 years after we met, he died suddenly, unexpectedly a week before our planned reunion. Don’t wait. Reach out. Find a way. Love is worth fighting for.

    • @MeghanBean
      @MeghanBean Před 2 měsíci +6

      Oh my god :(

    • @jenifernadeau
      @jenifernadeau Před měsícem

      The real world is the fourth and fifth dimensional world that we are in right now,, we are shifting out of this third dimensional illusionary and distorted world full of labels, division and duality. Twin flames are designed to show the world that love can transcend everything in the external world❤ we are energetic beings that attract each other via vibrational frequencies when we are a match. We predestined our connections and even our family members in each lifetime.... so we are accountable for whatever shows up, and being conscious of the frequency we emit . And why wouldn't we trust ourselves to bring in whatever we knew we would want? 😊

  • @deerlow1851
    @deerlow1851 Před měsícem +12

    6:00
    This is like my ex. Ultimately she left me because she was too afraid to be vulnerable with me as she told me she was afraid she wasn't good enough for me. Never in my life have I loved someone more.

    • @Taylor-ge5ex
      @Taylor-ge5ex Před 2 dny

      Aww it’s probably for the best. She probably wouldve been toxic

  • @CRJR94
    @CRJR94 Před 2 měsíci +28

    My first and greatest love of my life got away, simply because of our age, timing, wasn’t until years later that we had realized it was always us, but time had moved on, both married, and then in 2009, he passed away, still breaks my heart.

  • @rosieholloway4768
    @rosieholloway4768 Před měsícem +5

    This is one of the most beautiful things I have ever seen in my 30 years on this earth.

  • @holographic555
    @holographic555 Před 2 měsíci +18

    He understood me. He was gentle. Kind. I fell in love. I hope he is well and happy. He taught me how to love myself at my worst. I regret losing him the last time we spoke a little over a year ago. My heart hurts.
    Miss you, sweet A.

    • @motivatedinchrist613
      @motivatedinchrist613 Před 2 měsíci +4

      I can relate to this❤ I'm a strong believer if this person is meant for you he will make his way back into your life.

    • @LittleLulubee
      @LittleLulubee Před měsícem +3

      Omg, it was only a year ago?! I’m pining for someone from decades ago, and I don’t even know what country he’s in by now 😭😭 If you regret it, go find him! There’s still hope for you ❤

  • @91toinfinity
    @91toinfinity Před 2 měsíci +80

    I will never understand this concept of the one that got away. When I let go, I let go forever and open myself to someone new. Each new person teaches me something about myself, making it easy for me to move on. 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @yonycka16
      @yonycka16 Před 2 měsíci +4

      Yes! Learning and discovering is best for a peaceful life. Great mindset 💪

    • @Joy45s
      @Joy45s Před 2 měsíci +15

      it isn't easy to move on when you arent in the place you wan to be in life. you wish things were better but cant magically change your situation.. thats when you start to drift to when times were "better". and many usually tie those times to when that one person was around for you

    • @SeekerGoOn2013
      @SeekerGoOn2013 Před 2 měsíci +4

      For me, the “one that got away” is the young, romantic, sexy, dream lover. She left me for “Jesus”. How can you ever measure up to that? I didn’t let go. She did, and it wasn’t for anything I did wrong.

    • @jreal3072
      @jreal3072 Před 2 měsíci +9

      You will never understand. When you are all in and the other person walks away for whatever reason - it difficult to make sense of why it didn’t work out. Or maybe you had different priorities but between you there was magic. Hard to put into words but the thought of your life taking a different direction with someone special is crazy.

    • @sapphirerain70
      @sapphirerain70 Před 2 měsíci +7

      I met the love of my life and he was wrong for me in many ways. We loved each other deeply, everything was just magical, every aspect. We laughed and cried together. And maybe fought 2x in 3 years. The problem? He had an addiction to his laptop and various images of women. I cant compete with that. 5 years later and been single since. It is a shame really .😢

  • @recentlives
    @recentlives Před 2 měsíci +37

    What's worse, having the one that got away or never having someone you've ever felt that connected to?

    • @barbara8802
      @barbara8802 Před 2 měsíci +8

      My thoughts exactly 😢….I have never regretted breaking up with someone….no one has ever made me sense a deep loss.

    • @reality_is_the_key
      @reality_is_the_key Před 2 měsíci +2

      Yeah I'm with you. I don't know that I've ever been close enough to anyone to feel like they "got away". I've been at piece with the ending of relationships in my life.

    • @LittleLulubee
      @LittleLulubee Před měsícem +3

      I think the latter is way worse. But I also think there’s always hope 💙

    • @hummingbird4934
      @hummingbird4934 Před měsícem +7

      Having the one that got away. If you are the reason for the end of the relationship you never really get over it. Especially if you know they were your person. The pain is immense

    • @LA52484
      @LA52484 Před měsícem

      Great question!

  • @Beh0ldas0n
    @Beh0ldas0n Před 2 měsíci +15

    The one that got away is just the one you couldn't accept how it turned out. If someone truly is meant for us it will be AND if not it won't no matter what

    • @whitney9810
      @whitney9810 Před měsícem

      This is what I have come to terms with in my reality.

  • @autoteleology
    @autoteleology Před 2 měsíci +17

    My best friend, Aurora. Twenty years old, valedictorian of her high school class, halfway through her math bachelors. Super smart, funny, beautiful, fit, kind, fun, soft. Everything I wanted in a girl. Made me feel high every time I kissed her. Couldn't believe someone like her was as into me as she was.
    Her funeral was two weeks ago.

    • @catherineb6565
      @catherineb6565 Před 2 měsíci +6

      @autoteleology sending you blessings on the loss of your love 💗

    • @GardenHomie
      @GardenHomie Před měsícem +3

      ❤ 🙏 🌈. She's still with you. Letting you know she's still there. Godbless you

    • @helenkornilova9849
      @helenkornilova9849 Před 4 dny

      Truly sorry for your loss! Wishing you to heal!!! Please please talk to your family and take good care of yourself… grief is a hungry bitch and takes a lot of energy …..
      It‘s hard for me even to write this comment cause no name really fits „my person“…. We were both supposed to be studying for our law exams this summer… now I am studying alone for two… (he died over a year ago, way too early)

    • @catherineb6565
      @catherineb6565 Před 4 dny

      Wishing you to heal too@@helenkornilova9849💗

  • @barbandsarge
    @barbandsarge Před měsícem +20

    I'm the one who got away ....from me.
    Took me over 35 years - lots of experiences, heartbreak, and self reflection to learn the only one I could ever count on was me.

  • @Cyclops5.0
    @Cyclops5.0 Před 2 měsíci +13

    I met a women in florida in 2017, and back then I was an alcoholic (4 years sober now) we started to click, started to hang out everyday. For once in my life, I honestly had someone very special to me. Unfortunately, it all came to an end because I couldn't control my anger issues from alcohol , and I just couldn't continue to treat her the way I did, because I knew she deserved better. It was hard to let her go, but I believe it's one of the reason why I'm sober for 4 years strong, and to this day, I still think of her and hope she is happy. ❤ sometimes hard love is needed to change the person you are and it's okay! God bless

  • @ninoellison7793
    @ninoellison7793 Před měsícem +5

    Just wow. I love how you disarm them, Thoraya. The level of openness is both beautiful and astounding. These clips bring humanity to life in such a raw and touching way. They feed my soul in a myriad of wondrous ways! ♥️

  • @BrandonCiCi
    @BrandonCiCi Před 2 měsíci +26

    I can relate to the girl who talked about “The Red String Theory” ❤

  • @0pi333art
    @0pi333art Před 2 měsíci +10

    i relate to the women who said they were the ones who got away - crazy what happens when you learn to respect and prioritize yourself. also related to the person speaking on learning to love yourself and believing that genuine love from another person would then come. in the process of both of these hard but so very important truths.

  • @aps-pictures9335
    @aps-pictures9335 Před 2 měsíci +18

    This is my deepest and most guilty secret, only because it would hurt the girl I currently love if I shared it. I’m a therapist, and one phrase I learnt was that crushes, falling in this way for someone else, is something to cherish - glimpses of perfection unsullied by the potential coarse friction of a shared life. A wonderful story that occupies the recesses of our mind, and plays with our identity even after they’ve moved on.

    • @mmwoodcockart
      @mmwoodcockart Před 2 měsíci

      But you crushed on your current love, too. There's nothing wrong with revisiting the early days of your current relationship as well. It's a good way to appreciate where it started and to be so lucky to be where it is in the present.

    • @suzzzan3
      @suzzzan3 Před 2 měsíci +1

      My God, this is beautifully phrased and so deeply (and sometimes painfully) true!

    • @aps-pictures9335
      @aps-pictures9335 Před 2 měsíci +3

      @@mmwoodcockart the hard truth is that I’ve never felt as drawn or inexplicably connected to anyone before or since. Our lives crossed at precisely the wrong time, in such an ironic way. Yet as briefly intertwined as we were, I’ve never felt so fully accepted or understood by another human being. I worry I never will feel that way again. But I wasn’t worthy of her, honestly, so I’m glad she is unencumbered by me.

  • @idab6864
    @idab6864 Před 2 měsíci +13

    The one that got away still makes his presence known to me. I miss you.

  • @smeag9280
    @smeag9280 Před 2 měsíci +17

    I was the one that got away, and thank God for that! I met my husband a couple years after.

  • @blackk_rose_
    @blackk_rose_ Před 2 měsíci +30

    The one that got away is such an interesting concept because it can be so many things. It can be someone you deeply loved but the relationship was toxic or otherwise not working out and yet you can't help but wonder "what if they/we could've changed?". It can be a (mutual) decision to separate because someone had to move away or despite getting along well the vision of the future was just too different and you can't help but wonder "what if it would've worked out had we tried?". It can even be a connection with a stranger over a short period of time that had such an impact on you that you wonder "what if I we had stayed in touch?". But generally, I think we shouldn't be too hung up on the past. It doesn't help anyone to think about the people that left us or that we left or that we didn't stay in touch with because there was a reason they left or we left or why we didn't stay in touch and whether that was a good reason or not, it ultimately led you to where you are now. Sometimes you can reconnect with someone years later and even that isn't lost time because maybe you needed to grow separately from them. But "right person, wrong time" is certainly the most heartbreaking version of the one that got away.

    • @telishawilliams5841
      @telishawilliams5841 Před 2 měsíci

      @Donna Ible-White. This one here spoke to me.

    • @sonshineandsong
      @sonshineandsong Před 2 měsíci

      Love your comments. Truly inspired.

    • @LittleLulubee
      @LittleLulubee Před měsícem

      In my case, we both wanted each other, but it ended because of misunderstanding 💔😭😭 I wish I could find him now, but it’s been forever…

  • @Bexinmo
    @Bexinmo Před 2 měsíci +6

    I loved many boys when I was just a girl, and there was one that I was very sad when he moved away. Through the years I have kept an eye on his life, through his wild days, his marriage, becoming a dad, his addiction, his divorce, his changes. I look because I think about where I would be. I think I am lucky I didn't go along on that ride and ended up with a stable loving man who I have known most of my life. Been together for 33 years this September, married for 25.

  • @andreatorluemke4982
    @andreatorluemke4982 Před měsícem +5

    That last lady is so beautiful people are so humble!

  • @JulietCrapulet
    @JulietCrapulet Před 29 dny +5

    the one that got away, left me the moment i had my last episode of psychosis. it took me to have that happen to take my mental health seriously and stay medicated. feels like right person wrong time and i wish he would have given me a chance again. in his goodbye he said "maybe we will cross paths in the future but for now *blocked me*". it still saddens me. its been 3 years, but i have vivid dreams of us still together and those make me feel his energy again when i wake up. i've grown since then, dated since then, but haven't found the same connection.

  • @qcoe115
    @qcoe115 Před 2 měsíci +9

    Im still friends with the one that got away. I was all in, he wasn't. Still think he's a great guy, just not the right guy for me. I've been married now 25+ years. He's been divorced twice and with different women on and off all these years. Still love him. But I made the right choices.

  • @mining4goldmeister420
    @mining4goldmeister420 Před 2 měsíci +11

    The one or ones that "got away" were never meant to stay. If they were "the one" we would still be with them. The rest are just rumination and fantasizing about a person who's greatness existed in our minds.
    Our experiences with others are open doorways we walk through, and either leave, closing the door behind us until there is another door/life experience we walk through - or - we walk through that door and realize we have come home - and stay. The right person feels like "home". The wrong person always feels like there is something a bit off, never quite right - timing is off, age is off, location is off.

    • @whitney9810
      @whitney9810 Před měsícem

      Sometimes people purposely pushes people away. Hence, the one that got away. Your comment applies to some situations but not all.

  • @nerd26373
    @nerd26373 Před 2 měsíci +75

    That one that got away is my spirit. Now I'm just fats and muscles.

  • @Jizzle76
    @Jizzle76 Před 2 měsíci +30

    The last one is where the wisdom is ✨

  • @lesedi1724
    @lesedi1724 Před měsícem +5

    Sometimes I think I’m the one that got away. I’m always longing for the person I was before and the person I could’ve been if certain things hadn’t happened to me.

  • @Eden-dm3lf
    @Eden-dm3lf Před 29 dny +5

    Met the right person at the wrong time. I'm praying the one who got away will find his way back to me. I love you, Manny❤

  • @dk1828
    @dk1828 Před 2 měsíci +9

    Man, some of these made me sad… the “what ifs” in life can be haunting…

  • @butlerdawgs78
    @butlerdawgs78 Před 2 měsíci +11

    Life is such a confusing mess. I wish I could find the beauty in the chaos, but find myself wishing it was easier to understand.

  • @jess_18
    @jess_18 Před 2 měsíci +8

    The one that got away, it wasn't right place right time...

  • @rhythmofheaven1489
    @rhythmofheaven1489 Před 29 dny +3

    The level of maturity in these individuals gives me hope.

  • @carabevanart
    @carabevanart Před 2 měsíci +5

    The wisdom of the branches that must be cut, I feel that. There were people I pined for and hoped to see more of life with, but I see now they were all just separate branches I followed. Then they fell away or were cut while I continued to grow. Even the toxic people I learned from. It was all a journey to reach for the sun and grow taller and stronger, then find peace with people who care about me.

  • @DavidSwanson
    @DavidSwanson Před 2 měsíci +20

    I love your videos! You make me feel my real emotions. When I was in college I had a philosophy course about love and one of the books we read was by Leo Buscaglia and his books put me in touch with my deepest feelings, your videos bring that feeling back to me. Thank you for what you do - I look forward to your work all the time.