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that i wont achieve my lifelong dream of having my music be known
@@Augfordpdoggie there's still time
I agree. I saw that man. He cleared his throat and then said that he might never be married. I paused the tv screen and then just looked deeper into his eyes and literally my heart melted and I said that I could love him. I’m looking at him stare up in the camera with the humbleness and hope for it, as well as the sadness in his eyes. I’m just melted from this. The people were so raw and open; it’s easier to tell a stranger sometimes. Because the people closest to you don’t want to hear your feelings really.
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I can’t believe the bystanders laughed at the lady who said she will never be happy. I will pray that she finds happiness and joy 🙏🏾
Exactly❤
I’m a mom too and can resonate with her feeling…. I don’t know if we need God more in our lives .., but I can certainly understand her. I’m blessed with everything I have: family, health, great wonderful loving children , but feel empty inside. Like: what’s my purpose.. what was I meant to do in this earth?? Or what am I supposed to do next after raising my boys. They are soon going to college and living their lives . My husband is fulfilling his own dreams and im a nobody. I am thinking of doing a mommy makeover: bbl, tummy tuck, Lipo, the whole nine yards , but then who will I be? What will I really accomplish. Maybe I need a job to keep me busy. Let’s Pray for each other . We all have to come to terms with our own paths.
I hope so too - true joy. Sometimes meaning is more important than instant gratification. That's a spiritual understanding.
The laugh may have been a nervous one or a knowing laugh at the thought of someone who can't be pleased / too unrealistic of standards.
And the way she said dont laugh🥺
It’s sad that ppl that are “well off” have to just shut up because there is no way someone with money can be unhappy
For the first guy whoever you are sir,I hope you find the most caring and understanding partner that you deserve for an ♾️ time surely.
I'm not worried for him. He has the kindest eyes I've ever seen.
Never loose hope, my grandpa (was divorced really early on) who is over 70 recently got married about a year ago and has never been happier ❤
He deserves it. You can tell he wanted/wants a family. I pray he finds someone to love him the way he deserves.
Absolutely!!! What a genuine amazing beautiful soul.
My heart hurts for him. Positive note: my cousin didn't find anyone for years and then she got married for the first time at age 58. There is hope!
Hi everyone - my name is Markus and I'm a close friend of Paul, the first gentleman in this video. I, like all of you, was touched by the authenticity and vulnerability of his comments. I can tell you that I've witnessed first hand how unselfish he was while caring for his sweet mom, and how he put his life on hold during all those years. It is my hope and prayer that he will find that special woman - have faith, my friend!
Hint, hint: I would be open to playing match maker... you know what to do! ;)
Markus, thanks for the kind words!
He seems like such a kind man. I pray he finds the right person. I pray for someone kindhearted like him. I'm just much too young for him.
@@chelseav8311 Thank you so much for the kind words!
How old is he, please, and what area does he live?!!!❤
He’s an unselfish man. It’s hard to find a man like that these days. I believe he will meet his love.
Praying the first man finds love. He is an amazing son. It’s never too late!!
Thanks Samantha!
@@PaulCampillo-dc6lfyou will find someone!💯😁
@@rainsara2795 Thank you!
@@PaulCampillo-dc6lfI would like to be your friend. We can talk about everything or anything. I am trying to be okay with being alone...no spouse, no children. I have people in my life but they all have their own families. I still pray for my "person". I need to accept things as they are and just breathe. 💙
@@starznmyeyez8906 Yes, that would be nice!
To the 1st gentleman: Sir, I commend you on being your Moms caregiver. I also tok care of both my ill, dying parents, at a very young age. I knew nobody could care and love them the way I do. Its a heavy weight to carry with you always, But...... You will find love, you will have a wonderful life, full of happiness . Many blessings to you ❤️🙏
in one rn with the person who took care of one whilst, and still during and hoping it can be a long time they have together, :( ik he gunna miss her so much and idk how to be there for him when it does(hopefully years and years down the line sadge), long distance is rough but its crazy and sad knowing people go thru that alone mostly.
Don't give him first hope. He may not find love but he'll always have himself
@@t7reeka oh I doubt I was the FIRST to give him hope. F off. Only miserable people say something like that 🤦🏼♀️
@@t7reekaIt's not false hope. He is clearly a loyal and caring man. There is no reason someone wouldn't fall for him.
@@gxrockstar948 Yes but expectations can be very taxing
To the first man; You have a kindness and compassion to you that is visible. I wish you all the happiness in the world and a partner that truly appreciate you.
It is never too late.
(I was a caregiver for my grandmother and my mother too, throughout my young years. It's a lot tougher than people think)
Yes, his eyes are very kind. It feels important that he's come to the realisation that he may never find life partner, but he may be pleasantly surprised, especially if he goes about life open to the idea of finding someone.
Thank you!
@@PaulCampillo-dc6lf 🙏 ❤️
@@peacefulone4461 Thank you so much!
6:50 To the man who feels distant from his daughter, don’t let that distance grow! Being the father does not change how close you can be with your daughter, you can make the effort to be the safest space for her❤
Exactly. Please let her know you are there for her still and occasionally reach out in ways to invite her back closer without pressuring her.
Exactly. He can try to reach out to her, I stopped calling my father in college cuz he never called me. Moms are often preferred cuz they make sure their love is felt, fathers are shy and appear so distant. so they need to put in effort to make sure the kids know they love them
My dad also complained a lot about me not calling him, but he never called me!
yes there is a *reason* why sometimes kids don't go to their fathers as much, in part how we are socialized and also the individual relationship dynamics itself-- its not some biological reality. so that means you can change how it is with effort!
I'm a 20 y/o in college right now. I'm immediately going to text my Dad.
I like how the girl says she came to turns that she will grow old and her body will change because as a woman I feel like society is trying to make us feel like it’s not normal to get old and your worthless if you don’t look good. It’s a great thing she has come to terms with that in this day and age.
And especially to have such insight at such a young age. She won't waste her time fighting a fight no one can ever win.
One thing I love about your videos, Thoraya, is that you don't interrupt speakers. The first fellow had to first explain the context of his thinking by discussing the passing of his mother, and while most people would interrupt with a quick "Oh, I'm so sorry." which then derails the conversation into platitudes, you let him keep going and explain his thoughts and feelings without interruption.
Keep up the wonderful work that you do and thank you for continuing to share these wonderful peoples stories with us.
Yes to this! The greatest gift you can give another person is to truly listen. We all want to be heard in a non judgmental way.
100% agree. Thank you for these beautiful videos, Thoraya!
I noticed that too. That's amazing
Exactly!!
5:40 “My soul is what’s really roaming this earth” that’s so beautiful. 💕
It’s true. The human body is just a vessel that’s contains our soul until the final breath. Than we (souls) ascend .
She has for sure tripped some 🍄
@@rizzybone964 yess
You have purpose ❤
It’s delusional
To the second girl…I felt so offended when the bystander laughed I’m so sorry :( your feelings matter and I hope u find happiness soon ❤
We don’t know what the background to that is; that person could be her sister, her best friend, they could have talked about this over several decades. You don’t know, so don’t be so quick to judge
@@alst4817you seem quick to dismiss
I find that she's very selfish! There's homeless people that would be happy to have what she does and she's up here on video crying about not being happy. She is very disgusting to me and ungrateful.
i think thats the thing, she is on a sort of journey to "find" happiness , like it's sort of a destination. but its not in the destination do you find happiness but in the journey
The way this 88-year-old lady articulates her thoughts is so special to me. I could listen to her talking for hours.
Same!! It was peaceful
Despite what my narcissistic parents tried to make me believe, I have finally come to terms with, that I am a special, unique, intelligent, kind, giving, loving woman who can take full credit for making it on her own and on her own terms
Hey this hit home for me. I was raised with narc parents. I’m 39 I just realized I’m a good person too. ❤
Thank you.. yes you made it all by yourself!!
Me too ! Proud of u x
@@Adi1Tu874 ❤
@@lannah080907 ❤
I want to give a huge hug to every one of these people.
and me too. Please give that hug
Especially the first guy
...Me too...May Gods Blessings and Eternal Peace be their portion...❤❤😢😢😊🇿🇦
Very few people actually care about you- beyond parents and siblings, it's really very rare. People are indeed centric. It's kinda freeing actually. The capacity to care about strangers is actually very limited. What a realisation. My favourite so far, just cause I'm going to the same thing.
I only have 3 friends. My relatives aren't people I care about neither do they care about me.
Disagree
My hubby went 26 years being single as a caregiver to his mom, then dad, then grandmother then finally, aunt along with raising his nephew to boot. We found each other when he was 56 and I was 48 (I also was 18 years single by choice because of my poor decisions in men) and we met through our love of Greyhounds. For us both it really is true love I think because we had so much time alone that we really know ourselves and what is truly important without the nitpicking. Love is always there for all of us, no matter your age, so never give up because it creeps in when you are not even looking sometimes. But always, Be bold in Love!
For the guy with his daughter in college. Give her time , I was very close to my father then I went to college and got closer to my mom and in sense tan to her for emotional support it’s a maternal love hard to describe. But once I graduated and did life on my owe I seeked my dad for advice for reassurance and for strength. It’ll be okay she’ll come back. Just give her time and tell her you will always have her back.
This. It is natural for daughters and sons to drift a bit away in order to establish their sense of self without their parents around. It is hard for parents but give them time and let them know you are always there for them.
Yes. It's natural in that age to build your own life. Now when I look back as an adult, I wished I took more care of my grandmother and other people. I as an adult has grown a new relationship with my parents from my adult perspective.
Yes, I agree ……and as the saying goes, “give them roots and give them wings”
@@LadyForestStar9
Yes, and if she ever gets a taste or perspective of losing a parent or the idea of it, she will cherish the time left all the more. My mom was difficult but after losing her a week and a half ago, it was eye opening. I did try make peace with her before she passed.
I used to be suicidal as a teenager, but now, at 24, the finality of life is something that's really hard for me to accept. It makes me panicky sometimes. I really hope that I get to be as old as this lady and that I will find the same peace in the end as she does.
So glad you are still here ♥️
@@yasminn9112 Thanks🥹
I'm 25, when I was 24 I tried to kms and ended up in a mental hospital. I get what you mean but at the same time I also don't wanna be around
@@SakuraMushroom I’m sending you love. Find a way to serve that feels good in your heart. One day you’ll see the beauty of your life. Also, rip out the rear view mirror. xo
@@SakuraMushroom hang in there!🙏 at some point, it will get better, I'm sure. It's an extremely slow process but it's so worth it. If your life sucks so much that you wanna end it, you have reached the bottom. You can't fall any further. There is literally nothing more to loose, so just remember you are free to do whatever you want in this world. Whatever may help you heal. The other people's opinion doesn't count anymore...idk. At least that's what helped me back then. The fact I could just run away and start over somewhere else if I wanted to.
“My soul is what’s really roaming this earth” I FEEL that sister ❤
The father, oh God, I'm a 20 year old daughter. This was a reminder to tell my father how much I love him. I'm sure your daughter love and cares for you as well. I'm sorry that us daughters are so dumb and ignorant. We love you, truly and value and respect and care for you, dads, so so so so so so so soooooo much.
Son's are usually worse than daughters. Thank god I have one who reaches out. So grateful
The last guy actually made me tear up because I'm that guy that would starve so someone else could eat. I feel like he was that guy at one point but just got burned out
I genuinely don't understand this way of thinking, so I'm curious as to why you think this way. What exactly makes their life more valuable than yours? If the person you saved died next month, would you regret giving them that chance?
@@sparkstudies1675 I'm not really sure how to word my answer, but I'll try. Life for me is empty and grey for a lot of it. The rare spots of color for me are when I'm able to help somebody else.
@@sparkstudies1675at first your comment really confused me. Then I understood it a bit more and like… it’s all about a deep sense of love I feel.
You couldn’t do that unless you dared to love someone really deeply.
I hadn’t experienced deep love until I was 26 and I met my current partner who I’m still in love with. I thought I knew what love was till that time. Sounds odd I hadn’t experienced that same commitment to anyone before but yeah.
Go out there, be vulnerable and get loved deeply by the right person that you also love deeply and you’ll understand what it is.
Never change. You don’t have to if you are drawing from the well that never runs dry. You always have something to give.
I think you're looking at it incorrectly. A lot of people are good people, and when someone is visibly in a terrible need for help, people will reach out and help them. However, when it comes to everyday struggles, people aren't going to be thinking about you. Friends and strangers aren't going to offer daily support... Unless, as he said, if you are really lucky.
I have come to terms with the fact that I’m different and it’s okay to be different and that my life path will probably look pretty different from people around me
Same.
🤍
The man who said “nothing” and he’s still denial of everything because he thinks it will all work out eventually was the most relatable for me. Im still out here fighting for my life but man it’s tiring sometimes too.
Agreed
I’ve finally come to terms that I will never have my best friend back. He passed away 9 years ago to suicide, he was 13 and I was 12. I was in denial for a few months and then the grieving stage hit hard, REALLY hard. I think I’m finally at that accepting point and come to terms with it, he’s not here anymore, he didn’t just move away or run away. He’s gone.
I’m sorry for your loss. I hope he’s in a better place and that you’ had closure.🖤
You should probably write a letter to him! That’s what I did about my friend who passed when I was 12.
To the first woman: that is because you can’t buy happiness. You must look within to find and create joy ❤
I agree, and to I think that meditation and mindfulness are good ways to shift your perspective. Maybe also therapy.
Maybe the lady who doesn’t feel happy believed all of the hype about what makes a person happy. She sounds like she’s clinically depressed. Maybe she has too much. Sometimes having nothing can change a person’s perspective and attitude about life.
Within is some pretty ugly stuff though sometimes, if we're truly honest and aware. I think it's something outside ourselves but not what we naturally think.
She needs islam
Maybe it’s time for her to start serving others. These superficial things we indulge in are short lived but the joy we get knowing that we made a difference in the lives of others is long lasting.
For the first guy, I took care of my mom my whole life and until she passed. I felt like she stole so much from me and I say that because she was not grateful and was quite abusive. However, barely a year after her passing a close friend expressed his feelings for me and we have been together now for 4 years and everything I felt had been stolen was given back to me. So please keep hope and an open mind. ❤
See? God kept His promise.
So happy for you. I salute those caregivers out there.
I am single with no kids and helped care for my mom with Alzheimer’s for 17 years, who passed over 5 years ago. During that time, with all of the stress from caring for her and having a stressful professional full time job, I developed chronic illness myself and am now disabled and no longer able to work. I am an attractive, quality person and still take care of myself physically. I’m in my early 50’s and still desire to be married. I’ve only been in a couple of serious relationships and am mentally and financially stable. My dear friend of 18 years and I are in love. He is married, and loves his wife also. He and his wife do not have children and have an “open” agreement, so she and I know about each other. He and I have not slept together but share intimate time, conversation, and trust. I’ve known him for longer than his wife, but at the time they got married, he and I did not love each other’s radar like that. We were both in different places in life. He is my partner, of sorts. He even has a key to my house and has done tons of handyman work. I have no hard feelings towards his wife, and would never try to throw a wrench into their lives. They have had many problems; their relationship was born out of infidelity. I am open to other men, but nobody compares to my best friend. I believe the universe will send me the desires of my heart. Please send good vibes, prayers, and love my way, as I heal my body, build up my spirit, and attract love into my life! Blessings to all who read my post! ❤🌸
Thank you Jessica. Because of people like you, I do have hope!
@@PaulCampillo-dc6lf you are such a pure soul. Your life is such a blessing. Be proud of yourself. You have influenced many!And it is never late. May God's blessings be upon you forever. Lot's of love from India
No way someone as caring as the first guy would end up alone… his person is coming ❤
Thank you!
@@PaulCampillo-dc6lfare u the person in the video?
@@tessa7778 Yes, that was me!
@@PaulCampillo-dc6lf aww yay kool! Just wanted to say I feel you on some sorta level….thinking that I’ll never find anyone. Find the person who fits me so perfectly. I’ve raised a son and I’ve always said that as long as he’s healthy and happy then I’ve done my job and I feel like I matter. But now it’s just I’m thinking if that’s all I’m supposed to be here for…like where’s my life partner
And if I’m gonna die alone. I mean I know we all do essentially but yeah idk it gets pretty darn lonely sometimes. Especially watching everyone else in-love and traveling and …and the whole thing.
I hope we both get that happiness too.
Along with everyone else out there that is hoping for the same thing 💕
@@tessa7778 Hi Tessa, it seems like we are going through something similar, at least in a general sense. You've been committed to your son like I was with my mom. As hard as it was to care for her along with the years that passed, it was the most important thing I've ever done and I would do it again in a heartbeat. Now that my life has changed, I also wonder what's next. I do get lonely and I'm also trying to find my way. Don't give up, I'm not! I hope we both find love!! All my best to you...❤
My heart broke for the first guy. I really hope he will find someone who will love and cherish him deeply and they'll live a happy life together.
Thank you!
This is one of the most special episodes you’ve ever made. something about each of these individuals feels so authentic and so raw
Absolutely Hannah
I agree
The first really hit home for me. My heart broke listening to him. I take care of my dad and single, no kids. Even before my dad I was single. And it got to a point that I didn't like being around other couples. Truth, I hated it. But I had to accept it and do other things that made me happy. And it still that way to a degree. Being around other couples doesn’t bother me anymore. Because I know they at times are looking over the fence at my single life. Some don’t realize that my single life is filled up with my dad and work. But I make the most of it. I’m doing things that I like. 😊😊
Single and have cared for my Dad in my 20s 30s hi! ❤ Every blessing to you.
@@rachyeeeeha Thank you! ☺
For the first guy ,if I were there I would take you on a date if you wanted to,you seem like a lovely Guy and you are very atractive
Good to know I'm not alone... Gave up my life for my parents in my 20s. Now in my 40s, still dealing with it, situation gets worse and worse each day. I've come to terms with, I will always be single and unhappy (Not just cause I'm single, but a lot of different reasons). Maybe one day I will be able to live my life on my own terms, for me, like a normal person.
@@spiceupat2000this makes me so sad…. I’m 26, my dream is to work outside my country, and I have a granny that was my mother and cared for me since I was little ….and a big wolf dog … I don’t want to abandon my girls…but I don’t want her to feel that I’m unhappy … she knows about my dream and I know she feels afraid of being alone without me 💔I’m almost crying , hope you can find some peace 💚
I am finally coming to terms with my sexuality.
Realizing that I might not be straight (which I've been 100% convinced of for the past 23 years) has been the hardest and most PAINFUL thing I've ever had to process. I suddenly feel so different and disconnected from my friends and my life.
I pray that I find the peace I deserve and that life is going to be beautiful again.
I wish You the best life You can possibly have.
I pray God brings you peace and healing
I never heard people hating on lesbians. Only family members who want grandchildren are gonna be upset but its not your job to fullfill expectations of you
@@inkognitoT existence of something doesn't depend on whether you heard about it or not.
I feel for you. I've been hiding it from my family for the past 15 years. Never been in love and I'll probably never be a mom. Didn't accepted all this yet. Don't make the same mistake. Live your life while you're young.
For the second girl (why is nobody talking about what she said?):
There’s a famous Italian author (Giacomo Leopardi) who speaks about the same problem. He thinks that our soul is one with the Infinite, but the world in which we live in feels limited, small, restricted. We desire Happiness, which is limitless, and we look for it in everyday things… but when we think we finally found it, the unhappiness comes back. Why? Because our soul is longing for something way, way much bigger.
This is the tragedy, but also the moving beauty, of being humans.❤️
Well said!
Reminds me of one of my favorite word Sehnsucht - CS Lewis described it as "an inconsolable longing for we know not what."
God placed eternity in our hearts. ❤
Thank you. I feel exactly this way myself. I can totally relate with the 2nd speaker.
I feel squished into this human meat suit (body) and feel there is nothing on earth that can fill the void I feel and am endlessly searching to fill.
What's frustrating is that I feel the exact same way as her, even though I don't have half of the things she has.
You may think it's something cosmic and interesting, but the fact that she spoke of materialistic things and plastic surgery pretty much tells me she really is just like me. She wishes she had a different life. A life being better looking, more intense, one made more meaningful by HER decisions when she has the face to be comfortable with. I get that. It's a shame that she has a husband and kids yet she still feels that way though. I'm just a guy who lost his first love to insecurity when he was young, and isn't well rounded enough to attract partners. Her and I may live different lives, but it seems we are still the same
The caregiver for his mom 😢I hope he finds love soon. I think there is a person for EVERYBODY. Everyone needs love and I would hate for him to not find a companion .
Thank you!
This guy made me tear up including too others. I can relate to him. I might have to come to terms I'll never marry again. I wonder if it's better that way. Heart breaking that we only have one life and not many get to enjoy it as we should. 😢
@@carissalebaron3028 Don't give up hope!
I'm 22 years old and I've finally come to terms with the fact that my friends and family members have their own paths, dreams and plans which may cause us to drift apart and it's okay because at the end of the day nothing is consistant and everything has an en end. Pov, we all will die eventually.
Also, I came in terms with the reality of life. Life is hard, really difficult. So unless we let ourselves experience things to form relationships or earn money, we'll never ever be able to grow up, to learn about who we are and what we truly believe in and value the most in this life.
You are amazing to realise this truth so young! I wish you a wonderful life ahead ❤
@@taramatheis1451 so sweet of you, thank you
I'm South African and I can relate to the guy who said racism.Even from the age of 13, I've experienced a lot of it from European descendants who live in my country. So much so that I've just accepted that it's something I'll just have to live with for the rest of my life.
I feel that first gentleman's pain. I hope he finds an incredible partner. It takes a special human to care for a loved one so selflessly. Sending all the best vibes his way for an amazing future.
Thank you!
I could say so much, but I’ll just stick to one thing: i’m 28 and I’ve recently come to terms with the fact that I am going to be a “late bloomer”. I don’t have a significant other nor children & unfortunately I am struggling financially bc I don’t make nearly enough at my job. It can be embarrassing at times, but i still have hope and know that I won’t be in this situation forever.
i relate to this!
Nothing lasts forever.
At first there's nothing, then a little bit, then all at once.
Write down a plan, no matter how insane, and stick to it. Don't know you but rooting for ya all the way!
You will make it!🎉
@@user-ko6gc1xt9n rooting for you!! 🙌🏽
@@househomie6128 thank you so much for your sweet comment! that’s also great advice that I will take heed to! 💕💕🫶🏽
I had the same experience at your age. A few years later things started to improve then had more hardships. Grief, heart break and unemployment. What still hurting is the grief but manageable. Now I have a better job. Life is tough but beautiful at the same time. Appreciate every little moment of joy, happiness and pleasure. Show your love and gratitude with actions to those who have been there for you.
Ive come to terms that my mom will never accept me for not being what she expects me to be. I am not angry or bitter anymore, her perception does not change my value, her perception is just that HER perception and its okay ❤ we cannot force anyone to think we are worthy, we have to find it in ourselves and just let them live in their own misery. I am worthy i am worthy I AM WORTHY
You are worthy
Same
Yes, but it is hard sometimes
I guess we have to recognize the limitations of our mothers, which has nothing to do with us.
"My soul is what's really roaming this earth" is such a beautiful, powerful statement
An impressive amount of poignancy and wisdom in this clip. Shows there are no "ordinary" people -- many, though quietly unknown, are nonetheless extraordinary, heroic, in some way. And everyone has a story to tell, even if that story is dark. Thanks for sharing this. 🙂
The first man in the video… such kind eyes. I promise you that you will definitely find and receive someone who will be as loving and caring to you as you were with your mother
Thank you! ❤
Sending love to the first person💛💛
He will find a kind heart like his 🤲🏻
Praying for him
Thank you!
@@PaulCampillo-dc6lfwelcome
@@PaulCampillo-dc6lfYou seem to have the kindest soul. May God restore the years you spent being a loyal son. 🙏🏼
The alcohol guy, addiction is really tough. The hardest thing in this world. You can do this. You're a fighter. I'll keep you in my prayers. Knowing the problem is the first step, you're already helping yourself.
"Not everyone's gonna like me"- one of the most important realizations in life. Me and you, girl, Me and you. We're sailing on the same ship.
I tried to impart the sentiments of the last guy to my son when he graduated. I told him that up to this point, he's been surrounded by teachers and other parents who were looking out for his well-being - but - when we step out into the world, most people we encounter are not that concerned with us. You have to cultivate healthy friendships with a select group of people and cherish them.
I like how you express this. That last gentleman needs to hear it that way. Having a small community to support your growth and appreciate you is important. I hope he finds friends in life that he can feel close to. Thankfully he has his family.
First guy was amazing. Last guy spoke some real truths.
I’ve been really struggling recently. I’m just trying to find my way in the world and feel like I’m shouldering an immense amount of weight. In the struggle I’ve found these videos to be a blessing. It’s like my own little therapy session. They help me view my situation from a more objective and compassionate stance. Thoraya you’re the embodiment of an angel. Thank you for everything you’ve done for myself and countless others.
The woman who said that she isn't always right - wow, what great insight. I've come to this realisation through a lot of therapy but, as a 28 year old who still lives at home with my parents and both of them, one more than the other quite stubbornly holds onto the "fact" that they always know best, this openness/flexibility is fantastic 👍
For the first guy who took care of his mom, you are proof that there are still good guys out there. So many of my single friends tell me otherwise. For the guy whose daughter went to college and is kind of MIA, there are times when students are just in survival mode, trying to make the grades and fit in, find love, etc. College can be overwhelming. Once life slows down you will see more and more of her, I promise.
Thank you!
Remember the old Cat Stevens song, Father and Son. It applies to fathers and daughters too. You have to let them go out and explore life. They will keep coming back if you loved them well.
Wow.
To the man who just went to an AA meeting and spilled his heart to other men:
It's no coincidence that you "ran into" Thoraya and had the courage to voice this huge realization. It means you have been given a divine opportunity to shift your being into another dimension of life. By being open, honest, and strong, you can change the whole trajectory of where your life and health are headed. You can quit, and everything will change for the better, not only that, but you will be supported by the universe to succeed. Much love to you, my friend, you deserve to be happy, joyous, and free!
Agreed! Sending love, support, and strength!
“Its something sublime” 🥺
Aww the first gentleman deserves the world, he seems like such a kind soul 🤍
There‘s gotta be someone out there for him!
The 88yo lady made me tear up. Even if you struggle sometimes, you only got one life.
Thoraya you really make a difference with your videos. Thank you 🙏🏻
To the father, whose daughter stops talking to him as she is in college, please be patient. She’s trying to find her self, but she’ll be back in touch after she finds herself…. it takes a while …..I went through it. It’s very very, very difficult and painful, but you can do it.
I always relate to people in these videos. It makes me sad but at the same time makes me feel less alone
I felt the young woman’s issue with being an introvert. It’s taken many years before feeling comfortable declining social events without feeling the need to make excuses. Now I just say ‘no, thank you’ and move on.
I like the guy who said he hasn't come to terms with anything and doesn't like to think about it. I'm with that.
Jeez. Sometimes I can't tell if I love or hate your videos. Obviously love them. But it's so painful to realise so many people are carrying these massive loads and feel horrible and might have no one to talk to about them. You're an amazing person Thoraya. Really. What you do is so wholesome. I hope some day I'll run into someone like you. Should make for a lovely conversation. I'd love to just go up to random people like you do and ask these really deep questions and show them that I care. But it's just so scary and hard to do that haha. Maybe one day I'll actually dare do it. In the meanwhile I'll comfort myself knowing you helped all these people feel acknowledged by listening to them. You're a gem ❤
It's hard to face true vulnerability. At first it hurts but the more open you are to it, slowly, you can feel more comfortable with it
You could start a social experiement like she has then.
Regarding the last gentleman who spoke in the video… I think for many of us, it is easier to care about strangers than those closest to us. We don’t have to get close to strangers. There’s a brief connection with strangers. Boundaries. For example, I love volunteering. Partly why I do is that when my volunteer shift is over, I don’t have to invest any additional emotion into the strangers I helped. I feel good about my volunteering. I helped. It’s over. It may sound cold, but that’s the truth for a lot of us out there.
I have come to terms with the fact that life is so short. When I was 27, my mother was diagnosed with cancer. Since then she has had so many health problems. I spent so many years of my life thinking that I needed to be her caregiver... and for many years I spent years of my life only focusing on everyone else except myself. During that time, I dealt with excruciating stomach pain for 7 years due to undiagnosed ADHD. I'm 33 now, and I have spent the last year of my life accepting that I have to create my own happiness and finally having a diagnosis for the first time in 33 years. My mother never took me to the doctor and could never accept that something could be wrong with me as a child. Also hearing others say, "I have to create my own happiness," is so reminiscent of my experiences as well. I've come to terms that I have never been happy until now. I find happiness in others smiles. I make jokes to those around me and just want to make others laugh.
@sarahtaylor7288 Im happy to hear you’re taking care of yourself. 🙏🏽
i wanna hug the first dude man. he deserves love.
I can relate to the first guy so much. I try to keep the faith, but I’ve started preparing for the reality that I probably will be single forever. He touched my heart so much. It’s painful, but I’m lucky that I have a loving family and friends, my own home, a well paying job that is aligned to my purpose and values, fun hobbies, so I’m in a better place than many. The second woman as well also resonated. I even have a reminder on a white board in my kitchen to be grateful in the moment and be happy with my life and not think that happiness lays in the next “thing” including the type of romantic relationship that I want and being a mother.
Yes, keep the faith. I, too, am hopeful!
My soul is roaming this earth! Love that. I shed tears for the man who took care of his Mom and now thinks he may never find love--sent him prayers and blessings a million times over what he gave to his Mother, what a beautiful being.
I've finally come to terms that my family was never perfect and so many of my traumas and low self steem come from there. It is very difficult to recognice that the people you love the most, are also the people that hurt you, just because they didn't knew how to speak to you better.
I've come to terms that, even if I have told them my issues and the problems I have with their attitude, they are not going to change, and if someone doesn't put the effort in changing the things that hurt you, even if you love them, maybe you're better apart.
(sorry if there was any mistakes im from Spain)
Very beautiful video, I felt less lonely 🫂
Sending love to you 💙 You are not alone. I am coming to terms with same issues as you. When I was young I could not see what what wrong. Things I knew just were not right somehow but I did not know what was better. I moved away from family because it was very unhealthy even though I did not know what was healthy. I struggle a lot, learned a lot, and changed a lot. I am now in my early 40's and for the first time in my adult life have moved back closer to my family, and now with all the things I have learned during my time away I see their own struggles and mental health issues. These things I wish I would have realized sooner. So I have come to terms with knowing that they cannot be the people I need them to be. It hurts but is peaceful at the same time. They cannot or will not change, but it is the same outcome either way for you (for us). I think you may also find a great peace within yourself if you view them through the lens of their own struggles. We still cannot let them mistreat us and need to protect ourselves from their harm, but we can know that their hurtful words and actions are from their own mental crisis. I hope this makes sense. Peace and love to you, my soul friend.
I relate to the first guy. I took care of my Mom most of my life and then my daughter. When things calmed down, I realized that I had completely neglected myself and pushed people away. I have never felt so alone. I have to learn how to be alone, and be ok being alone.
Omg the last guy was spot on. I have tried to find the words to describe human caring and I kept hitting up against "selfish" even considering myself that. He so diligently used the word "centric". And he said the caring for strangers is more limited than we imagine. This guy needs to write a book!
The first guy deserves the most amazing partner.
The woman who is learning how to live at 45-I can relate! After taking care of everyone else, I’ve had to learn how to live and take care of myself.
Thanks!
i have come to terms with being aromantic and asexual. all my life i thought i was straight. i was literally romanticizing romance and always thinking that i was "normal" when in fact i never fell in love, never had a crush, never thought i wanna sleep with someone and stuff like that. it broke my heart at first because all my life i was enjoying romance in books, movies, tv series, games, thinking that one day i will meet my one true love because that's what everyone keeps telling me. and i always hear "you're still young" or "everyone finds someone" when in reality i never had any real interest in all of that stuff, i just thought i had because i loved it in stories and i loved seeing real relationships form, just loved love but i just wasn't able to romantically love someone. i have lots of love for my friends, i love love love my friends. but never in a romantic way. and i always thought people looked attractive. but i never had thoughts further than that. and now it just feels good to know that i am aroace. i still get sad sometimes because i will never have what everyone else has but i am still relatively happy with my life.
I was looking for this comment, thank You 🧡
Honestly thatvsounds amazing
I have finally come to terms with the fact that my body will not do what it once could, because I live with chronic illness at age 50. Today, I submitted my application for disability today, a giant step in me asking for help🙏🏼
I hope it works out for you. I am 48 and on disability. I have a chronic illness as well.
I really pray you have a smooth path to getting your disability. 🌷
"I'm happy with life and Im okay with its end." the 88yrs seasoned Legend
I could relate to alot of these answers. It was so sad with the second girl when that person laughed at her.
I want to know what she thinks she is missing which will make her happy... 🤔
@feliciagaffney1998 Idk I feel like it maybe depression or something she has never deep down thought of what's making her truly unhappy. Your expected to do all these things as a women or man so you think your on the right track when you do what's expected house,family, kids etc but maybe for her she's supposed to be doing something else. Maybe she's not following a dream or she hasent figured out herself yet to even figure out what her dreams are Or even if she hasent faced demons and ignores them. It's hard to know. Hopefully she finds her way to feel true happiness. Everyone deserves that.
The father talking about his 20 year old.. it makes my heart ache, im 21 and i lost my mom 3 years ago. my dad is one of best friends, we don’t always agree but i see him so differently after my moms passing, he’s just another person experiencing life for the first time and he has extremely deep feelings i couldn’t imagine not talking to him or how that could make him feel.. i hope they are okay ❤️
There's a great book called " "
Motherless Daughters," best seller for years by Hope Edelman! I lost my Mother at 11. Fantastic book& there used to be a group meet up🌸🙏🕊️
These always make me so emotional bc you can rlly actually SEE the human being in ppl. Like sometimes I get stuck in my own life and stuck online that I forget that ppl rlly are interesting and unique and there’s always a story to everyone, you just have to ask. I absolutely love this channel and these videos 💙
I feel the exact same way...."i just always stay positive, things will work themselves out eventually " i get it. I don't like dealing with things either and rather just take a positive look at things
To the second woman who thinks she will never be happy, or finds it unlikely... I spent my younger 20's (I'm 32 now) depressed and NEVER thought i could find happiness. It never mattered what i did, i was ALWAYS still unhappy in the end. As I've gotten older i have realized that we as humans always crave more. Its natural for us to do this to ourselves. There was a study where people who made a lot of money (I'm talking A LOT of money) they all said they STILL want more. And as I've aged I've come to terms with this. I think what people need to do is research the word GRATITUDE. and learn how to use it in your everyday life. People dont realize that their life could be so much worse. I could go into so much detail about this but who knows if anyone will even read this. Lol. In the end, my message to anyone who feels this way is to remember what you have now, how much worse it could be, its okay to have bad days, its okay to feel happy. Our lives are on repeat all the time. Same shit different day. But like many, we all have this fire in our soul, we all know what our souls want. Deep down we feel it. Go for what makes your soul feel happy.
@@robertsmithslefttoe3644 I myself have also been tackling the trauma I've had since a child, teen, and young adult.
It all takes time and you basically have to put in the effort everyday but it does get so much easier with the right mind set. Our mind is the most powerful weapon there is. As you said, you are still very young. You have SO much time to learn. Life will CONSTANTLY throw struggles at you. It's how you learn to deal with those cards you were dealt in that moment.
You will be okay my friend 😊
I was thinking that her answer is gratitude. I'm very melancholy so I really have to remember gratitude when I feel sad for my flaws, injustices in the world, etc.
@@chlorophyllheart I feel the same! I think a lot of people get the words gratitude and grateful confused. Gratitude is so much more. Thanks for sharing!
I have come to terms with the fact that no matter what path you choose, how hard you try to save yourself in the end you'll face defeat/failure and overtime I have also realised that it's indeed true that failure teaches you so much and no success can match those lessons.
So,embrace your failure try to learn the lesson asap or the failures will keep on repeating and don't be afraid of failures because they show that you atleast tried instead of just giving up!
7:40 I really hope this Gentleman and his daughter will be closer again someday. Yeah, it might be part of the famiy dynamic and all, but rekindling that is so important. I wasn't close to my dad for a long time, and I still think we do a lot of things the wrong way; but we're getting there. So do all you can, please! All the best!
I fight depression everyday. I was in therapy for some time and I was taught the necessary tools to be able to do my best while on my own. I realized that fighting it everyday gave me strength in other parts of my life. For example, the will to keep chasing my dream. Those intrusive thoughts constantly try to come in but I learned to let them in and try to ask myself why do I feel this way and to analyze them, but it’s quite literally an everyday battle. This isn’t to say I walk around looking sad or deprived of any joy, I do walk around smiling and actually enjoy my surroundings, my family, my friends but it is something that is always there that I have learned to appreciate in some way because I know now that I have resilience. Strength is truly within us all, we just have to dig deep to find it.
This is a great question. Made me think :)
I think I have come to terms with my mental illness - depression. It feels like depression and anxiety are a part of me now and I shouldn't care a lot about those issues. Some breathing exercises and workouts are the temporary reliefs. Took some time to come to terms with this reality.
I hope you can find a great counselor and relief of your depression. Life sure is not easy. I hope okay to share... does not come across as preachy, but they say the surest way to find happiness is to lose oneself in service to others. I find this to be so true ❤
@@grandma460 oh no sweetie. This doesn't sound preachy🤗
I tried psychiatrists and psychologists but it just made me feel worse :(
@@keerthanaap4824*hugs!*
Look into essential oils or homeopathic remedies for depression. If you try essential oils, my best suggestion is to find a good brand that you can trust is pure. Don't go down to Walmart or CVS to grab some.
Also, have you looked into the gut-brain connection? I haven't personally explored this for depression, but we are learning so much more these days about the "brain" in our gut and how it controls so much more than we have realized in the past. Maybe you need a diet change/shift to improve your gut health? I don't know. Just throwing that out there as a possibility to explore. Maybe talk to a holistic dietitian.
I wish you well!
@@keerthanaap4824may I ask you why that made you feel worse?
Have you tried living for Christ? @@keerthanaap4824
i was so angry that the second girl was laughed at, i hope she will find her happiness one day ❤❤
I’ve come to terms with seeing people (husband, sisters) as they really are and that I don’t like them. I used to think I liked everyone but I finally made peace inside me that I don’t. Sad.
I really just adore this channel because it’s so easy for us to judge other people or assume things and we just absolutely have no idea what that person has gone through or is going through. I try to be positive when I go around other people for that reason exactly although when life gets to you or people hurt you or you feel used that can get super hard. But I’m happy this channel exists in order to remind me of what it is to be juman from different perspectives. 💖
For the guy that isn't sure if he'll find love...I understand that completely. You can tell he is a gentle soul, and I hope he finds that genuine down to your core love....he deserves it! 💜😊
I've come to terms with: not having control of what is going on around me. To surrender to what is happening and learning to adjust as it goes. To move like water. Free flowing, and not trying to swim upstream.
For the second woman who never feels happy : Read the first pages of Intimacy from Osho : stop looking for something outside that will make you happy, do what you say: Happiness is in you, you'll make yourself happy. ❤
Great guy who took care of her mom❤❤. I hope he find happiness and satisfaction.
I wanna give all these folks a hug…. For me as much as for them. Thank you for what you do Thoraya.
the first guy, god bless his soul and heart ❤
The first guy- so sweet- I truly hope he finds love. He truly deserves it.
And the last guy- Wow! Such wisdom from soneone so young.
I really loved this episode.
Thoraya its amazing how you draw such depth from from the people you interview. Thank you ❤
I've fallen hard into the Thoraya rabbit hole. It's amazing how much alike we all are, and your videos showcase this beautiful fact. I also love how you let people talk and don't overstep or interrupt, no matter how hard that probably is during your interviews.
I’ve come to terms with..that this is the best channel and there is no other channel quite like this and for that reason .. this is my favorite subscription on CZcams. Thank you for having such a unique and inspiring platform that stands out and is so diverse and is for all ages!
The first confession hits so hard 💔
I wasn't ready for Thoraya's question, so of course the reaction was pretty raw!
@@PaulCampillo-dc6lf I can only imagine! But the answer was so real and it touched me because I know what it means.
Anyway, just remember that you did a beautiful thing and I'm sure you'll find the happiness that you're looking for 🙏🏻
To the first man.. I hope you get a love that is more than you’ve ever known was possible. Taking care of an elderly parent is one of the most difficult experiences, and for 14 years… I hope the rest of your years are filled with love, rest, and joy. You deserve it!
To the chap who is always 'positive' and gets anxious contemplating the future, please face your fears. At least know what they are. People will want to get close to you in future relationships and it is hard to be with someone on the run from their own fears.
I have come to terms with the fact that my brain works differently and that can be really tiresome at times, but I'm trying to navigate it as best as I can by taking care of myself & engaging with things that bring me pleasure ✨
Love the human connections on this channel❤
First guy-you deserve to find someone to care and love you.
I do think that we usually think about our now more than what is important in this world. But it’s more worst,others going to sleep without food,parents can’t find anything to support their family,some go through illness.i always tell myself,it’s not the end of the world.. I may not be perfect but I am living.. it’s good to see raw emotions,being in a era of people “pretend this and that” they often forget their emotions and feelings just so to fit in.
Being an ambivert I have both worlds in my hands. I crave emotional relationship that it’s so hard to find around me,cos all they care is just the superficial stuff that I don’t feel connected to.
Sending love to everyone 💓
Thank you for this
I see parts of me in all humans
Makes you feel less alone when you realise how similar you are
I feel so deeply and this video is very touching 🥹
Dang. The last guy's viewpoint...
(paraphrasing) "People are centric and our capacity as people to truly care for others is actually extremely limited so we can only have a few people, or a LOT less than we think, who TRULY care about us, and who we can care for, IF WE'RE LUCKY (when we grow up)."
Congrats on buddy who went to a meeting for the first time and found a little bit of peace I hope he continues to find it