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When I was 21, someone who was not my type started groping me and rubbing all up on me.
I don't usually have attitude unless I am crossed, but I looked at him and said, "We are not in a shower, and I am not your bar of soap." Sometimes you gotta give a little shiz back to creepers.
What's crossed?
@@leogaray4531 Upset
@@dalecherne5377 Ohh thank you
Sorry if it may sound insulting but would the situation be any better if it was somebody ur type that u wud go head over heels for? 👁️👁️
It's just the way you worded it made me think like that lol
reminded me of a tweet by the porn model 'Greyson Lane' a year ago or so, when he was active in studio work. Just 'cos I do porn doesn't men I'm free meat for anyone in a club to grope and rub on me.
Fact.
Sex worker or not, on camera is one thing, off camera another - some guys just don't get personal space and basic decency
So fun having you on the podcast to spill the tea and answer the hot seat questions! See you next week here in Kentucky! 🏳️🌈
I have lost count how many times that has happened to me at a bar. after a while I just accepted it as "well, whatever..." And you were lucky he even took time to ask two questions. I have experienced "the grab" with absolutely no verbal cues. Just bar behavior, so I just shrug it off.
Mine happend I my 30s. I went with a younger cousin for his 22nd birthday. So we are in the gay bar. I'm standing off to the side making sure my presence doesn't stop people from approaching my cousin because he was looking. I had just got back from the bar and some dude walked up to me and told me to buy him a drink. I laughed, walked away, started talking with my cousin and dude taps me on the shoulder and proceeded to tell me that because I'm fat and ugly I should be appreciative of his attention because no one else would want to leave with me. I laughed again and told him to basically get lost
Hey Doug. If that profile pic is you, you're definitely not fat or ugly. Too many gay men are searching for 'perfect', which doesn't exist anyway.
Thanks for the story time Chris. Also, I remember the video on the gay bar experience with the two older gays - Who were caring and protective of the "newbie gay". Last week - starting Friday - I was in hospital. I didn't know of your problem but things got resolved quickly and I didn't miss anything - Peace-Love!
Love that you highlight about the gray areas of appropriate and not in the eyes of subject and object.
Sometimes people don't take the hint. I once had a guy approach me and, as you said, there was just "something off" about him. We chatted briefly and I turned back to my friends, expected him to wander off as we essentially ignored him but he hung around until we left. The trouble was I wasn't on vacation and he kept popping up week after week and he would come over and try to pick me up. Not taking subtle clues that I had no interest, I finally said "Go away, leave me alone I'm not interested in you, I don't like you" he wandered off and the reappeared 10 minutes later and asked me why I wasn't interested and why I didn't like him.
Yikes 😬... Sounds like something out of the movies fr💀💀
Your haircut is good. Your bar experience reminds me of something I once witnessed. I was at a restaurant, waiting for my food order, and there were a couple of teen girls waiting too. A creepy guy of 30 or so, started talking and flirting with the girls. It was obvious the girls were uncomfortable and not wanting to have anything to do with the guy, but he was clueless and kept bothering the girls. Fortunately, they soon got their order and were able to escape from the creep.
Omg your new haircut you look so good Chris ! Happy to see You are back with a new video this friday, when is your new song coming out !?
I am an older guy and I still get that vibe by some guys. You are fine never apologize for having an opinion BTW love your haircut very handsome
Has happened to me a lot when I was a young boy clubbing ...but I don't go to gay bars now ...Chris I love listening to you're voice ..I always end up smiling after listening to you ....thanks for always brightening my day xxx
Chris, I cannot imagine why you would be shy. A great looking man like you can have your choice of guys.... Have fun but being "picky" is OK.
Your videos are cool!
Big "virtual" hug from me to you!!!
SO many mate 😩😳🤣 ...so many! Thank you for being so candid, I couldn't when I was your age. I buried it all for years. My partner too. Keep strong X
Loved your story today Chris!
Love the hair. I hope your eye is all better, it’s looking good. Enjoy Kentucky pride with Curtis, he’s a good guy. I cant wait to see that video. Take care.
Non consensual groping is harassment and is never okay regardless of gay/straight context public or private
You obviously haven’t spent allot of time in any gay bar in the states lol
Still sexual assault idc about the culture I'll file charges on ur ass if you try that
@@keithss67 , yep. If you don't like being touched then go to a straight bar. I don't mind a guy groping my butt.
@@keithss67 Just because it happens doesn't make it OK.
@@italiangm1 lol did I say it was ok?
I can so relate to your "groper" story! same thing happened to me during my college days! My groper was a leatherman with a "village people" moustache, and it wasn't my butt, this animal grabbed my unit!
Yup. Almost exactly the same happened to me when I was about 24 but the guy looked in his 70s
Hahahahaha! 😂 Dude, you totally crack me up with your random change of subjects. “…and I’m waiting in line for the bathroom. Also, what do you guys think of my new haircut?” Too funny!
I don't understand why some gay men think it is OK to touch another man just because you speak to them. I was working as a merchandiser in a walmart yeeeaars ago and this guy probably about 70 came up and asked for help. While I was literally just standing there talking to him he starts rubbing against me. I thought he was just old and lost his balance... he didn't lose his balance he then proceeded to start rubbing my junk and asked if I got a break. My stomach just sank and I was speechless. Like wtf! If that happened to me today I would have called the damn cops on his nasty old geriatric ass.
One time I was groped by someone who was older than my grandma!
Love your content! It's really cool that you are more conservative and don't have sex with strangers, want real love and intimacy, and don't use Grindr. I literally felt like I was the only gay dude like that until i came across your channel. Keep up the good work! 😃
Damn you for your video and story telling, it hooks me into your stories now I have to keeeep watching. Anyway, I personally have never been creeped on at the bar. My ex who has abs was though by creepers or other hotties who do that at the gay bars. It's uncommon but common for gays to do that. Me though? Me and a friend touched doughnuts under the table once LMFAO. But omg, are you going to tell us some news about y'all? I can't wait!
I've had a couple of guys try to pick me up, one that I felt kind of sorry for- he was way too young for me, and then the one who was a little older than me but I wasn't out and didn't know how to make conversation with someone I just wasn't interested in. In short order I picked up my drink to walk away, and just then the str8 friends I was to meet came in and saved me. That's as much as I can say out in public here, but keep YOUR stories coming, they are great.
You're so cute!
I agree. He was inappropriate and totally crossed boundaries. I have experienced rejection before - plenty ... and I can tell when a guy is not into me. I leave it at that. No need to go any further ... For my own sake! Why would I want to heap rejection upon rejection?
Maybe he was drunk, but that's still no excuse.
Stay sweet and kind! 🤗
In a local gay bar, I got “talked up” by this older okay guy. He kept complimenting me & I just was not attracted to him. Towards the end, this sleek devil tried to get me to go out to his car in the parking lot & “bump pussies” with him. I was already nervous around this guy & chose that moment to go check out the guys playing pool… 🤢
I have a weird experience. Back in the day, went to my first gay bar and as I walk in, some random guy gave me his number with a note saying how he thought I was cute. Cool! First time in bar, already getting numbers. Wait a couple of days, give him call, set up a date. Go on date, we talk, have a couple of drinks, at the end of the night we are making out...then he starts make these weird noise while making out...OOOOK! So that freaked me out. Well, he tried to call me multiple time and I didn't answer my phone. Couple of days later, get home from work and I find someone from the telephone company looking at my phone line...THE GUY CALLED THE PHONE COMPANY TO CHECK MY LINE!! That ended all that for me.
That's a sign of a true stalker. Change the number to a private listing & if he continues to harass , report his ass.
I would just straight up tell him I don't want to be together or hangout like that anymore. He could have thought you died or something lol
Tf is OOOOK?
Gonna need an energy drink - that's 1 in the morning for me :D
You are so funny! Love it! Great vibe
Im really sorry you had to experience that, it’s really not okay
Thanks for ur videos. Ur always so fun and nice.
Cute 🥰 haircut 💇♂️ Chris!👍🏻
well chris good luck with Curtis & I hope all workout each other!
I've had similar happen to me at Diva's Nightclub that used to be in Northampton, MA, the Chez & Gotham City in CT, etc. Was propositioned by a guy in a wheelchair in a parking lot too. Lol.
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Love the cut 🙌🏽
Knock his hand away and snarl "wtf do you think you're doing!" If he persists, tell the bouncers on the door. Stay safe out there
People can be aggressive in gay bars . . . I've had lots of guys violate my space. (just have to except that's going to happen at some point)
Love the new haircut, looks great.
Kentucky is my second favorite state. Hope you have a blast.
I'm from the UK and there's not really a gay scene where I live but fortunately I'm only a 50 min train ride from London where there is a thriving gay scene. Many gay bars/clubs in London have the "Ask for Angela" system so if you're being harassed you can go to the bar and ask for Angela and the staff will then know what you're talking about and the person harassing will get thrown out by security. X
That was an encounter with "a creeper" lol. Seriously though, it's not okay for someone to grope you without your consent. Like you said, he was drunk and inhibitions go out the window. Still, that is crossing a line to grab someone. Also, you handled it well. Stay sweet and respectful as always, but guard your boundaries. :D
Love the new hair
Chris i totally hear what you're saying about the gay bars and i agree. They have always been colorful places and weird characters hanging out there. a lot of those guys don't know their place and step out of bounds with that groping and can't take no for an answer!! when you are not attracted to them. i have had that same experience more then once plus that gay attitude, rudeness from some people and think they are better, etc. the list goes on. i don't hardly go to the gar bars any more, i use to go with some friends almost too much and it gets old, had great friends who were so much fun to hang out with that made it worth going out, but i always went to straight and alternative clubs too, plus the guys or pickings were better in those places. i'm glad you are speaking out more about these people trying to put you down. don't hold back. just put them in there place.......Cheers!
Twice in the video you said "he rubbed me the wrong way" and he literally did! But in his case, there was no right way. Thanks for sharing... your fans love and support you.
Ive been to that town in Florida and also got a massage , I love your hair and you too
I'll be honest if someone did that to me I would either push them or punch them in the face.
Love the haircut!
haircut on fleeeeek :) 🌈
Heyy I love having the same exact shirt as you.
Legit liked this story time . Eager to see what a Kansas pride will be !
Kentucky
@@jaymason5239 opps , thANKS
No prob
Interesting story. And, yes, I think most of us have had awkward (at least) gay bar experiences. BTW, I like the shorter haircut--looks good on you. But I agree that the top is too long. Take it down to about 1.5 inches, and it will be easier to style. 🙂
Absolutely adorable!
Don't worry. I share the same issues too. With love, from Malaysia
Your so cute! Wish I found this when I was up north!
He is so adorable
New subscriber here. Luv that u r bear friendly! Truly unfortunate about groping experience. Some people “might get used to it” but that doesn’t excuse unwelcome drunken behavior. This guy makes friendly bears look bad 🤨. BTW your hair cut looks good long on top, And I didn’t even notice your eye until you pointed it out. Ur adorable, carry on, and please give us lots more content. 🐻
Have a fun weekend
I love your hair cut! I agree he was totally out of line.
Yeah, handsy guys are a pain, but there are worse things. I once had a guy I had no interaction with come up and say something like "I work out too" and then punch me and run out of the bar. But the worst was one time I was on vacation in Amsterdam and this guy kept walking past me and saying in a low voice, "Me and my boyfriend could have such a good time with you" and then walking on. I didn't respond and it kept up no matter where I positioned myself in the bar, to the point that I finally left and walked down the street to a different place. But he turned up there too and started doing the same thing. So I went back to the original place and he came back there again. Same behavior so I left completely and went back to my hotel. Later I saw he had found my profile on one of the gay apps and left dozens of angry and abusive messages. It was really creepy and kind of ruined my stay in Amsterdam because I was afraid to even go out to the bars and have to deal with him.
Def had those kinds of experiences, You have to just shrug them off and go on with your life.The alcohol brings out the "nerve" in guys that probably would not do these things. This video reminds me of a guy on the dance floor that thought it was alright for him to grab at my crotch. I was a well built farm boy that didn't tolerate that well at all. without going into the details I made it abundantly clear that was going to stop and it did stop.
Anyway: That was my worst gay bar experience.
Maybe, just maybe... it's a Canadian Bear you need! Lmao jk, great story time as usual. 😁
Omg, I totally think you were not wrong about the creepy vibe. Never okay to grab on someone like that. I can so remember being the young gay guy in the room full of daddy types. Back when I was 17 and really should not have been in the bar away… lol I think it was more common for people to get more handsy then, than it is today. I feel like we’ve gotten more respect for ourselves these days than we used to, if that makes sense. 😊🙂
Curtis is a beautiful name since you mentioned that name
I never had one in a bar, but I didn't go that often in my twink years. However, on the NYC subway going to high school, I had a few creepers, one, who basically chased me all around a very crowded 7 train. I ended up having to put my elbow in his stomach to keep him away. Now, I know, I should have just shouted at him, but at the time, I was too scared. I don't know if that still goes on, but in my underage years, it was a fairly common. I think it happened more to me because it was obvious that I was gay.
Some people are very shallow. If you don’t walk away they assume you are interested. It’s not the questions they ask or the answers you give - it’s that you are still talking!
Yes Chris! Being young at a gay bar is apparently all the invitation needed to have an awkward interaction with any older man who cannot keep their hands to themselves. I had a similar experience at club Omega in Manchester (way back in the day) - this is before we had gay teen characters on Disney , thank you Andi Mack, before call be by your name, before Heartstopper… times are changing for the better and I see that everyday for your generation. Stay woke, keep the Granite State Queer, Peace ✌️
Chris you should do a video you working out your arms look great and hair makes your smile very attractive
Wow I had the same thing happen to me when I was younger in a gay bar a older man grabbed my ass but I definitely wasn’t into older men so it really felt like a turn off.
You have a beautiful figure someday I hope to regain mine please God
Not happening. Jk
come to north shore pride in salem ma!
You're allowed to not like someone.... Even if they are your type! Once when I was younger, I was dancing with a guy once that I knew but wasn't interested in at a local gay bar. Next thing I knew, his hands were down the front of my pants... I didn't know what to say, so I just left. My other friends couldn't believe it when I told them!
I get back from a wonder vacation to the beach ⛱. To video by Chris so 😊😃😺😄☺ RN.
I love the blue eyes anime guys it's pretty cool
Hey Chris, there will be several men/guys that will come into your life that will be inappropriate. My recommendation to you is to be completely honest with that guy. Grab his hand, Look him in the face and say “hey buddy that’s not cool”.
Thanks, Daniel and Brodie, I agree. The kind of very negative, and inappropriate behavior described by Chris is never appropriate, In the US, it is usually considered criminal conduct.
This kind of criminal conduct reminds me of the kind of complaints from women in the "Me Too" Movement. Chris, you did nothing wrong. I've been following, and enjoying your posts for many months. I'm so sorry that you had to experience this as a gay man. I sympathize with you because I also experienced similar conduct when I was in my younger gay years.
No one has the right to physically touch you in such a manner unless you clearly indicate that it is OK for him/her/they to do so. Keep up the great video posts, and best wishes to you on your lifelong journey.
@@asims3067 I agree with your comment. However by Chris not saying anything and just marching away from the guy probably didn’t sink in to the idiot. Saying something to the guy may save another person from the same offence.
Chris is too sweet.. maybe he didn't want to sound rude and wanted to escape the situation without getting messy and awkward.
Hi Chris hope your well
It can’t be about your boyfriend…. we haven’t met yet.
;-;
Hi, Chris! I was at a bar in Wilton Manors a few years ago having a long island iced tea and this dirty old man came up to me and said "I like 'em young. You know what I mean?" And he put his hand on my leg! I was so grossed out that I just finished my drink and left. What is up with that town inside Fort Lauderdale?! Lol!
Nice haircut Chris
Nobody should go through that. If it happens again and hopefully it won’t you should say very loudly so others hear you to take his hands off you and walk away and then make sure you tell someone what happened and point the person out to whom ever you are with. You are a very cute young man so be safe out there.!!
When I went to a gay bar with a friend, my friend introduced me to another guy, I thought he was going to shake my hand, nope he grabbed my crotch. So you Stan are lucky that you got two questions.
I am gay, and I realize that getting some molestation is going to happen..an occasional ass smack, etc...BUT, that being said...gay or not, and the guy doing it could be god's gift with an obviously huge penis...IF he grabs my junk without my permission...I don't care if I will lose a fight with him...he is getting either super jack slapped in the face, or I am punching him right in the nose!
Oh Chris, so your telling me there's still a chance 😍😍
You're gonna be in Kentucky?!?! That's where I live. Is the pride in Louisville or Lexington? Can't wait to see your video of that ❤✌
Kentuckiana Pride in Louisville June 18th. Hope to see ya there! ❤️🏳️🌈
G'day Chris. I'd say that your response was quite appropriate and restrained. In the same situation, I may have been a bit less polite to the guy. And if I was at that place and saw you, well...tbh I'd probably be a bit shy. 😕
Cute haircut by the way. 😉
I just watched the podcast with Kurtis and my Crush on Chris is bigger and also was stocked at times but Chris I think you are a Good Boy Hehe Love you Man
Glad you watched and enjoyed the shocking moments :)
Happened to me many times when I was young … my stock answer was always yo I’m not a flippin piece of meat .
I was at a bar in Wilton Manors sitting minding my own business, watching people play pool, and this guy with a full beard and mustache (not my thing) walked over, put his hands on my cheeks and gave me a full on kiss for like 10 seconds. Then he walked away. wut the wut?
Yeezzz
@@SkyGravity137 This happens in a lot of places. There are creepy guys everywhere and there are incredible people out there too.... including in Wilton Manors.
Just wondering what state are you from?
How about "welcome to my YT" as your regular open. Another great adventure & YES do a vlog about the YT comments 😜
super cool
Great job
I love ❤ your posts 📫
That happened to me more than once. I had a creep in New York at a club try and make out with me without saying anything. He was in his 50s. I was like 23. Also messy looking. Maybe it was the sane guy 😂
I’m sorry you experienced that.
he said boyfriend
👀
BF could be best friend
@@codymiller182008 The title literally says boyfriend...
I hope your okay chris
I'm happy for watching your video from philippines
That happened to me in nyc a lot as a young guy and in New Orleans on vacation once. Them dudes were drunk but not cool.
I was in a restaurant in Boystown, Chicago with a friend. He went to the bathroom and this guy came from another table and sat in my friend's seat and introduced himself. I was a little weirded out and I wasn't attracted to him, but I said we could talk to him until my friend got back. Totally superficial conversation about the weather and our names. My friend came back so the guy got up from the seat and before I knew what he was doing...moved in and kissed me. He went back to his table and just stared at me. I couldn't pay the check and get out of there fast enough.
The worst bar night and first time bottoming! I cringe thinking about it! When u go to pride prepared to b groped again! lol Thxz 4 sharing!
I think I recognize that bar. I visited Fort Lauderdale last fall and loved Wilton Manors. I felt invisible at the Eagle both nights, though. 🤷🏼♂️ But Hunters and Scandals were awesome.
Sorry you got groped (unwillingly 😉). Gay bar hazard, lol.
I’d be too shy to even say hello to you but would be wishing you’d say hi to me all night. I’m a shy bear.
I’m looking forward to Cannonball this year, though. I’ve never been to a big bear/chub/chaser event.
Chris, If that's your worst experience in a gat bar, count yourself lucky. Your story is one that I would call "tame". Then again, South Beach is where I grew up so....
Maybe he was try to give a hug