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As I watch this enthralling video, it resurrects the painful memories of my recent breakup-a relationship of five years that ended just three months ago. The woman who meant everything to me decided to leave, plunging me into a vortex of heartache. Despite my desperate attempts to reconcile, I find myself trapped in a cycle of frustration and longing, unable to envision a life without her. Despite my efforts to move forward, I find solace in expressing my lingering affection for her here.
Its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Suzanne Ann walters, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online. Very impressive!
I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online. Very impressive!
“The only way to maintain respect is through modesty.” 👍🏼
Can you tell me more by what that means to you?
@@olgabushak2942 It’s being free of arrogance and egotism, so you don’t assume others are wrong, or inferior to you, or are less deserving of respect and all other important things than you.
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@@olgabushak2942it means that until you intentionally pick the right circle (friends, family, and spouse) you will ALWAYS be surrounded by HATERS that tell you, you need to be humble and modest. The part that they don’t tell you is that no matter how much you try to be modest if you are shining in life, you will always create the same level of attack against you. 💯
Theo Von has a bit where he speaks on loneliness: it's not about you not having anyone- it's about no one having YOU. As a man, we instinctively desire to be needed, to have all our skills and knowledge be of benefit to someone else. Our brains are literally designed as solution machines, and we all know what we can do for ourselves. We need to serve others in a meaningful way.
But can't you serve without being needed only for your abilities? I mean, everyone can do the dishes, and if you'd do, it would still be serving. Actually, I think this point of view of basing human relationships on how useful you can be very problematic. Maybe that's why men have a higher chance of leaving their partners when they're ill than the other way around. I myself prefer to be with someone who doesn't need me, but still wants me there, simply bc they love me.
@@Mrsgmuller73but then why do women refuse to love?
@rofishy2 I can't speak for every woman, but I have loved in the past, and I love now. I have loved a man who I didn't need, I just enjoyed his company. I have resented a man I needed and a man I didn't need. I have loved a man I needed. The problem is wanting to reach a perfect formula that will guarantee you love. That's not how it works.
@@Mrsgmuller73I believe this is indictive of the huge issue modern male female interaction has. Is men project their view and experience of the world onto women and expect them to be of the male mindset. And women do exactly the same. Instead of ACCEPTING the nature of the being as your counterpoint. Thusly equalizing the relationship. You cannot tell the buyers of your product(which is you) what they should want. They tell u what they are willing to buy. Can you provide it?
@seanpeavideo I have no problems not telling the buyers what they want to buy. I have a problem with those who think there's only one kind of product to purchase/ they are the only one making the product. The truth is there's hundreds of brands of the product (following the analogy), and there are niches that will buy each one of these brands. And even if you make the "best" product, there are consumers who won't like it. And even if you buy this so-called "best" product, there's always a chance it won't fit you, or you won't like it, or that it will be defective.
The author of this post is considering there's only one kind of product to offer and gets confused why aren't ppl buying it. He's failed to see that there are other similar products that satisfy customers' needs as well.
If you approach marriage as a power negotiation, don't be surprised when it plays out as a power struggle.
Right.
Competition
But it’s the truth for heterosexual young couples In old age the power balances out 🤷🏽♀️
@@irreplacable1988 How does it balance out in old age?
Every relationship has hierarchy. Power is not a bad thing in the right hands. The problem is society is convincing all that men in power are all inherently wicked, so they can only be good with a female lording over every move.
@@leeolie3728I agree with this. Seems men are expected to be more and more responsible but retain less and less authority. Feminism teaches women to be strong and independent. Strong independent women obviously don't want a toxic authoritarian man. But unfortunately they also reject the healthy stoic masculine leader as well. They can't seem to tell the difference or want to acknowledge there is a difference.
I'm a Christian man, and I can say without a doubt that Rabbi Manis Friedman is purely wise. You can't make this wisdom up -- it can only come at old age. Thank you for freely and calmly sharing your wisdom to us, Rabbi.
I also respect the work here. I'm just clarifying what I understand from his words.
Facts
I find infinite more wisdom in Christianity. You must be reading the wrong people.
Someone can tell you, then you can learn the same thing at any age.
Jews are the Elder Brothers of Christians. They gave us the Torah and Old Testament. We share the same source of Wisdom. -Shalom!
I'm not a religious person, but every time I listen to one of your videos, my perspective on the world and relationships completely shifts. So many connections are made, and I learn things I was never taught when I was younger. It's truly a pleasure. Thank you!
As a man its important to give to someone who will appreciate....
Nope...you missed the whole idea...you don t give in the expectations to be appreciated
As men we must both lead and simultaneously protect. Take charge of yourself, your manhood, your family unit, your household and your life! Assert yourself be the man your oats call you to be. We aren’t perfect but we can try to become as close to it as we can through living our roles appropriately. Wear the pants for a woman who rules you will despise you! This rabbi has truly earned his title! What a great teacher
10:00 "what do you want?" Thank you, Rabbi. I see a lot of men, including myself, losing their masculinity chasing women's validation and forgetting their inner voice.
Finally!
I found sanity
Clarity
And wisdom.
There is very little true, unadulterated, devoted and pure love in the world. This precious gift is very rare. Passion is usually called love.
You nailed it! 💯
I feel maintaining respect is about seeing the best in each other. In difficulty do not assume the worst. I try to see my mates perspective in a positive light and if i cannot do that I think of 5 things I am grateful for that he brings into my life. I must admit I really appreciate how much he really is a man. He is willing to be kind and thoughtful and still plan and take charge. He asks me what I want and is not afraid to offer help. I do make an effort to ask him to do the things that I really want. He likes fixing things and putting things together. I could do it but I like that he would rather do it so I receive it and I let him know that I appreciate his contributions. I thank God every day he is in my life. I feel I make his life better and he makes my life better. Respect is important to him and it is important to me that he can see I respect him. He is truly a blessing.
Keep reminding him of what you’ve put on here
You're a blessing to him
thank you for your common sense and clarity.
my wife and i do not understand how couples enter into marriage and maintain "seperate" lives (bank accounts, friends, and even faiths) expecting the marriage to be happy, fulfilling, and lasting.
You don’t. That is living with a roommate, not marriage!
Because, although u are married, u may not always be married. There is no guarantee that your partner will love u forever. He may decide to leave.
I have heard stories of one spouse taking all the money from the joint account.
Great teaching!
@@user-xu9ib9cd6d Yes, and fights over money are one of the biggest reasons for divorce. Sometimes it's better to keep separate accounts.
Being "unequally yoked" is a terrible thing 😑
I love this rabbi. He speaks sound doctrine. ❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you. I was with a man who was like this, happy to be reactive but not proactive or willing to genuinely include me in his life. Awful, sad & complicated. It’s nice for me to watch this and see that my instincts are correct and how I can have more confidence in myself and not step into masculine energy when he doesn’t know what to do. If he doesn’t know what to do, let that be apparent and ok and awkward. I don’t have to fill that vacuum.
The willingness to do gives the ability to do.
💯 giving her what she wants is not leading. Give her what she needs...your leadership.
And a woman who is capable isn't lost so it isn't so much that it's 'leadership' so much as "decisiveness." Have the ability to make sound decisions and have a world view with integrity to back them up!
Love is a heavenly plant and it must be nurtured and developed. Loving hearts, truly loving words,
Yes, cultivated as a husbandman cares for his viney! Watched over continually with dedication. See why this old word is used!
😊 endlich ein Mann, der es versteht. 😊danke!
This man gets it. Wise words.
Wow. This was deep. You had me at the first sentence. ❤ Thank you for sharing.
Please post part 2 about how to maintain respect after the other person becomes predictable!
Introduce a “Random Act of Respect” day
Designate one day a week when you both try to show extra respect for each other. This could include writing a love note, bringing flowers or simply thanking them for everything they do.
Remember why you fell in love
Cultivate common interests
Laugh together
remember that predictability is often a sign of stability and security in a relationship. Instead of fighting it, embrace it and be thankful that you have someone who is always there for you, no matter what
@@calmchill7583 thank you so much for your reply. Such valuable wisdom!
I knew you were going to say that.
Being needed also requires the acknowledgement of carrying that burden. When I carry you, and you dismiss this carrying, I will no longer carry you.
He’s not addressing the hyper feminism and its saturating presence that is taught to men and women in the West.
It’s in little girls cartoons, in ever level of schooling, ect ect.
Agreed
Once you're married it's about the government.
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*Priceless* wisdom. Perfect antidote to post-modernism.
For years I kept telling my partner look, I don’t need you, I want you. I’m here by choice. I thought that was more powerful. It might have been for a giver, but if a man is a reciever it will not be reciprocated well. Now I understand I was needing him to step up and be a man, to which he choose being a child. I did need a man but not the material things he provided.
What was it that then that you needed?
Material goods were and, to a certain point, still are the most basic need.
@@kresovk5correct
@@kresovk5 materials mean nothing, I could have loved him In a tent if it meant I would have received the love I desired. Love respect and kindness. Those are needs. God provides the rest.
@K.L.Kelley Yeah, everyone loves to express themselves in extremes they would never stoop down to in actuality.
Besides, even for the general answer, "receiving love I needed" is still incredibly vague, as that is the end goal, not the method.
@@kresovk5 okay so to simplify or in your case expand: attunement, affection, gratitude, respect, honor, faithfulness. That is what I required.
Basic human needs consist of significance, love and connection, certainty, growth, contribution and uncertainty. You can determine your own needs by self reflection and examination. Those are needs. Materialism isn’t a need. And God provides those things. You aren’t in control of anything.
Very powerful solid and to the point marriage advice Rabbi! Loved this!
This is clarifying and true in so many ways
Big dose of hard cold facts here. Absolutely true. I WISH i understood this earlier in my life, so any young bloods in the comments, please heed this man's words.
Great video.
This man just debunked our whole western society, equality and feminism in just 10minutes, love it!!
Greetings from Ireland 🇮🇪 Thank you RabbiFriedman
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Thank you Rabbi Friedman!!💪🔯🙏❤☀🎶
He is absolutely right. It is very frustrating to be with a man who is insecure
Rabbi is dropping some Red Pill truths
I’m not religious but as I woman I can confirm that this it is such a turn off when a man doesn’t take charge 💯
You can confirm that you, personally, are turned off by not "taking charge" but what do you mean by "taking charge"? Do you confuse confidence with arrogance? Do you dislike living with the consequences of your decisions, and so dislike making decisions? I'm genuinely curious.
She’s pretending to know things.
If she really knew things she would NEVER complain nor let her girls complain about “controlling” guys.
Most modern men are trained to never take control and this lady is that ignorant to never speak up when women shame other men for taking control.
The gals want a leader, and don’t want to be a follower.
Basic American new style-
@@jmso8096maybe I can help elaborate a bit. Confidence is good, arrogance is annoying and unnecessary. Women are perfectly capable of making all the important decisions in a relationship, but to do so is exhausting for her.
It's not about not being able to live with the consequences of a decision, we do that all day everyday without a spouse. The issue is that women were not created to lead a relationship, we were created to help. I once heard someone say "weight is meant for shoulders not for hips" and I agree with this statement.
All it means for a man to "take charge" is that he's capable of leading the relationship through making important decisions with strength and isn't afraid to do so. And that comes from a place of confidence in God and in himself. It doesn't mean he arrogantly says "my way or the highway" it means he consults God, consults his wife and has earned her trust in a way that allows him to lead her and make difficult decisions for her and the family when necessary.
It also means that he can make ANY decision when necessary, including making plans for their future. But if the man is constantly only trying to please his wife to the point he's so scared of making the wrong move that he shrinks back and lets her decide everything at all times, for a woman that's exhausting for her and shows a lack of self-confidence in the man. If he can't stand up to his woman, he can't stand up FOR his woman and is therefore a pushover and is no longer safe. And pushovers are unattractive, male or female.
Everyone appreciates confidence, but no one respects a "yes-man" or someone who cowers every time he has to decide something, agreeing to everything. At that point the woman becomes the head of the man because the man put her there and this defies God's natural order.
This is why relationships like this typically end in resentment for the woman and emasculation for the man because he never learned to lead and she never began to follow. The natural order is reversed and this is not a healthy way to conduct a relationship.
To avoid accountability a woman must not take charge😂
A woman who is not religious is such as big turn off.. I can confirm stay away from women who doesn't have faith within her heart...
🤗It's just I was raised by a very angry woman. I then went out into the world as a giver - raising these two kids by myself, etc. This is not who was Created to be. 🥰Now, I am 50 years old, the kids grown now, and I am learning day by day to be softer and to RECEIVE and this is who I am. It all began with RECEIVING the love of the Father - we love Him b/c He first loved us. 😇I was not able to RECEIVE at all before - not even the love of my own children - so if anyone wanted to GIVE to me - I would reject it and stay alone - I am glad to understand now - may more and more Revelation Knowledge come to me as I am able to RECEIVE more EACH day - even though I am under the blessing of Abraham, I could not walk in my own inheritance b/c I did not know it and I could not RECEIVE God's many blessings each day. 🙏🙏
Thank you for this❤️ blessings unto you!
that's a lot of work you did, God bless you!!
Modesty brings Respect. Thank youvsir.
This makes perfect sense, and it's a tragedy that the modern civilisation tries to teach the exact opposite approach, resulting in chaos and broken homes.
Golden words
Absolutely as always enjoy His Teaching ❤
That's a helluva lot of wisdom man... thanks!
Thank you Rabbi Friedman ❤
Thank you Rabbi for your teaching. Best advice a man can get. Thanks
That is what an equality mindset brings along. You will be tempted to ask her for what she wants all the time and that will bring about contempt for you at the end. That's what thinking we are equal does to us.
Awsome! 🎉 Allahumma barik 🤲🏻. May Allah guide you. ❤
Lots of wisdom here 🙌
This is very wholesome and refreshing.
The vocabulary on the bottom left is a nice touch!
Ah, thanks for mentioning that. I missed the last one tznius for modesty
Center of The topic is all about marriage ❤❤❤❤ Rabbi Manis Friedman ❤❤❤❤
תודה רבי
This is incredible!!
You speak such wisdom.
Father Abraham & Sarah had separate tents! This helps to maintain unpredictability. Today we'd say they each had their space & she still was a mystery to him therefore the romance was always there.
I'd change the word 'unpredictability' to 'desire'. I'm sure Sarah never left her tent without first being presentable to the world, meaning, Abraham rarely saw Sarah in those 'human moments', e.g. not at her best, before/after bodily functions, etc. etc. Familiarity breeds contempt is so true.
Wise advice! Thank you, Rabbi!
She joins you in your life. Amen ❤
Thank you Rabbi Friedman
(Shoshanim)
Good lecture sir:)
This is absolutely true. I have seen so many men I know either in miserable marriages or divorced due to a "strong woman" that doesn't feel like she needs anyone
The men need to be stronger and stop being takers/ receivers.
Most likely the man was weak and the woman couldn’t settle into her divine feminine role.
Thank you for these precious words of wisdom
mans job is to give generously,
woman job is to receive gratefully,
end of story
Wow, just like that you've summer up all about men and women Ina simplistic statement, which is the end of the story lol. How dumb
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This sounds like a comment from a woman
100% nonsense
Man's role is to provide necessities as a normal habit. You need something, you get it.
“Understand and be comfortable with the idea that life is not about you” 💯
It is beyond logic and nature , but also explains the theory !
This was good ❤
My You remain blessed forever Sir! shalom
God gave us the rule of marriage we can follow as a woman (wife) & as a man (Husband) responsibilities of marriage life, in a way that doesn't hurt both parties when they live together. The secret of marriages is very huge. We need to understand about marriage responsibilities before marriage. Otherwise, it will be fragile after honeymoon.
Thank you Rabbi.
Thank you ❤
As a woman he is saying the truth 💯
This video is gold.
This is the best pick up advice ive ever heard
Thanks!
She doesnt need me, and this really has led to a lot of pain.
Thank you rabbi. God bless you.
Major problem with this theory is that once she doesn’t need you, she’s going to discard you.
Not necessarily true. Anyone can potentially discard anyone for any other reason. If she has an ounce of a heart she will remember the man who loved her and was there for her when she had those needs. If she has an once of wisdom she will recognise that he helped to get her to where she is. If she is a selfish fool she will discard him when she has her needs met.
facts. dont be too rich either, shell be gone tomorrow.
Shabbat Shalom ❤
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Good Lord. This is absolute gold.
So clarity can be found…
00:56 looks like the "coming up" banner is running on Internet Explorer 😂
שבועה מבורך לך ושלך אמן אמן ואמן
OBSESSED ❤❤
Receiving and giving are the flip side of the same coin. To say a man only gives, misses the point completely.
What I wanted to comment. I noticed how I cook just to make hime happy and as a thank you. I truly appreciate his leadership.
He is speaking facts!!! ❤
thanks rabbi🙏🏼
This doesn’t happen often that I agree with religious teachings but I agree with this guy
will create happy families and exercise an ennobling influence on all within their sphere of influence.
Thank you
So hard to be the husband when they want to be it in your place, women do not respect the man having the final word about daily matters anymore, even if you're reasonable and you know what you're doing, i see that in every relationship nowadays even at my parents relationship. They won't shut the hell up and that's so frustranting because you don't want to be the toxic manipulative guy, but they paint you as so to other people. Sometimes this behavior from women makes men want to break their will, so they'll just shut up for one time sake and start listening to you.
Well said
I am sorry for the loss. Be with your breath,it's closest to you
Thank you, Rabbi fr
Freidman, for this beautiful message. ❤
Baruch Hashem!
God bless you rabbi. Geb 12 3
Straight facts
Thanks
The story about the couple that came to marriage counseling made me😂😂😂😂😂 and it is so common today
"Live a life that she can follow."
Genesis 3:16 tied to acts 19:25, for results in Revelation 18 is ACCURATE❤RABBE A STUDY OF MINE SINCE 1996
HA YAH & ❤YAH HA
Can you also do one regarding wives?
Preach!!👐
Thanks for the Tips Rabbe❤"the proof is in the pudding" as them say
This is also an argument to keep women in their place. From the moment they are born.
I wd sooo need more info on this one 🙈
BH' Rabbi Torah explains the G-d particle within its blueprint !
It is called the Stoning of Soriya M
The only reason people stay focused and into something no matter what it is. It has a direct impact on there life. So it is about the individual.