My Husband say‘s always: a man must be a lion outside, at home he must be peaceful like a sheep. If a man get‘s aggressive towards his family, it‘s over. And it is not working for women and children at all.
We gender everything. From my experience, insecure men are comfortable with controlling women. Secure men understand that their wives have God-given gifts and talents that he dare not control. That’s a demonstration of love.
They can truly be infuriating!! I think you're doing better than you think though because you have reflected upon it and chosen to act! I think thats a big mazel tov and half the battle
@@dianaverano7878 What if he doesn't do these things and leaves it for his wife to figure out and get done? What if he gives her money for some of the household bills but then asks for that money back because he overextended himself? What if she praises him and shows appreciation for the smallest things hoping it will encourage him to tackle the bigger things, but he never does? How does a wife handle a husband who doesn't want to lead and provide, but wants the wife to fulfill his obligations as well as hers?
@@starr234as a wife, since she is in love with her husband, she has to gently request out of love the kind of treatment she wants to have. It is on the manner of saying it. Instead of argumentative way, a wife can softly say her needs. In a request. Almost always, a loving husband will do it for his wife. Men provide. Ask for it. They provide. It is not only thru money. Men who wont try to please his wife in any way is not in love with her anymore. Almost always, a guy will figure it how to make the woman he loves happy
@@dianaverano7878 I always gently requested and was not argumentative. I never asked for money for anything other than regular household bills like groceries, mortgage, utilities and I only asked that he pay half. He also cheated so I'm sure he was no longer in love with me. He left me and when he decided to come back two weeks later, I told him no. I could tell he only wanted to come back because life was easier living with me since I did everything. Also, I think the other woman must have told him she didn't want to be with him or that he couldn't move in with her. Not all men are born leaders and providers.
When the man isnt doing the manly things such as leading the home and taking care of his wife and son, the woman is forced to get out of her feminine role as a wife and step into a mans position. If a woman motivates the man but the man keeps on making immature choices that affect the family stability it eventually will create resentment. In the end the woman will lose respect for a man. Yes life happens and a man might be down but if he's doing nothing to build himself back up even though his woman motivates him thats usually the moment when the man takes offense to her comments.
@@minnesotajude8447 people like you love to regurgitate this and tell it. It’s been about 50 years since the courts made laws to help women compared to thousands of years of recorded history of men walking out on their families and leaving them to fend for themselves in times when a woman’s only form of income was prostitution in order to survive and feed her kids and you modern ignorant men seem to forget that very important part so go cry about why women don’t deserve to have the courts side with her when the laws were changed BECAUSE men made a habit of walking out on their families. These laws even out the playing field for everyone.
What manly things... like work... change tires. Most women do this stuff anyway. Honestly I get what your saying. Obviously your man shouldn't be a total deadbeat. But it also doesn't make you a man to have a job or take care of you a kids, or less feminine somehow to actually work in life. I mean it's nice if your man is a provider, but your not less of a woman if you have to join the rest of us who didn't find a sugar daddy to marry and pay all our bills.
My husband and I have been married for 6 years. He was recently diagnosed with a terminal disease. I never understood this about men and women. Listening to this makes me relive flashbacks of our conversations. Some of it if funny and some of it is heartbreaking, honestly. Especially knowing there's little time left.
Only insecure men become scared when they no they are not needed. Confident men no they are not needed, but also no they can contribute something even though they are not needed.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back.
Do you know how many men complain of being asked to do anything by women and accuse women of being too demanding? It’s a catch 22. They don’t want to be asked but they don’t want to not be asked.
@@mateuszw383 🤣🤣🤣rightttt you know the saying "closed mouths don't get fed". If it doesn't benefit women for the most part they don't care what a man says.
@@karinsvanback7497 Some religious people do lots of good but that doesn't mean religion does any good, on the contrary, it does a lot of bad: Genecide (e.g. crusades, flood), slavery, genital mutilation, misogyny, homophobia etc
The G-d of Christianity and Judaism is the real G-d, that is why they are true religions. They connect with the true G-d. All other "religions" are false religions because the Devil is their "god". They are just not informed because G-d wants to be the G-d of everyone. But it is true, even the Catholic church admits the church is not a perfect example. Especially not with the present "pope". He could very well be the Antichrist (Antimessiah). Only G-d is perfect, but we are called to be perfect!!! That is such a blessing. That is so nice. That gives so much hope, and takes away so much anxiety.
This is so beautiful. My heart goes out to every good man who feels this way to know that there are good women who love and appreciate everything you do and everything you are ❤️💯. Thank you for sharing your wisdom Rabbi. 🙏🏽
Thank you this is the most useful comment in this whole fucking post, so sick and tired of these whining-ass men. Real men don't whine about having to be a real fucking man.
So when a woman is content she is happy and the man sees that he is not needed so he goes and does something like start a war just so he can feel needed. Which will put him women and children (basically everyone) in danger just to prove he is needed and satisfy his ego. How is this love again? It’s not!!
@patricejones7905: That's exactly what the Rabbi speaks to. For centuries, women have been conditioned to think the male is the end all be all. They are not. The ONLY thing a male have over a woman is that they are physically stronger. Women are normally the fuel that gets the job done on any corporate entity. I follow a lady called the Queen Maker. She literally dives deep into the biology of women and what happened to the feminine that put women where we are now.
I think so because even the "protection" women and kids need is also protection from men themselves... so yes they create a problem then pose as the solution
Omg wow this has totally blown my mind! in 30 min, explained SO much about me as a woman, and about the men in my life. An awful lot makes sense now that I hadn't previously understood. Thank you Rabbi Friedman!
This video made me love life, love humans, love men, love women. I love respecting them, I love backing up a little bit so she can shine/feel like herself, live, as the free being, individual they are.
Rabbi, ive been telling people what im about to say for decades. God put the man to sleep, removed a portion of his body and made the woman A PART OF HIM. Why he said "The two shall become ONE". The man is connected to the woman in spirit by way of this design. Why God told the man to treat the woman as he treats himself. Because she is a part of him. I try so hard not to laugh when I hear men say to women, "We made you. You came from us" (and im in my sixties, grew up in church and have heard them saying this my entire life) I tell them to go into a delivery room when a woman is giving birth and then come back with that statement. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
is This WHY some men may make you WAIT for the thing that you asked them to do? so They can FEEL Needed? i hear from Contractors wives often that there are several UNFINISHED works in their homes.
😂 This explains it all. I was raised with three brothers. Didn't understand the weirdness of the opposite sex. Than I got married, still couldn't understand men until now!!😅😂
@@o.revi.this is great to be reminded of… I have been blessed with 4 and I still don’t know how to socialize with my own gender on certain occasions. Almost five decades later I am now learning that a little better though.
This has been very eye opening and appreciated. I see where I have unconsciously been erroneous in assuming my husband knew I appreciated all of the things he has been doing to make me feel special for all of these years no matter where I was. I have always known he was watching over me. I have always felt like the luckiest woman in the world because of having him on my side. I need and appreciate everything he has done and continues to do for me. We will have to teach "each other" how to treat each other in those very personal intricacies. I need and appreciate hom in every way.
It’s important for females to be in their feminine posture which is to nurture and receive 🎉 I never realized the depth of the pain man had as a rating of “0” thank you for this teaching
How can a woman be feminine when the men of today don't let you? We have to be the men in relationships. Never dealing with this trash again. Men are so lost. And they will continue to be until they get right with God.
It's important for people to just be themselves and to be kind and thoughtful to others. No shoving people into boxes where they might not perfectly fit.
woman may not have came from nothing, but she can definitely end up feeling like she's nothing, especially when she's been told in every way, by everyone that was suppose to love and be there for her. so I respectfully disagree with you rabbi, woman can most definitely feel like nothing, like they don't matter, or not needed, that there not wanted.
I've seen it many times on YT where men of authority think that women never experience some feelings that they do. It puzzles me, they think women lead easy and joyful lives without self doubt or hints of internal suffering. It shows me that they operate on a just a concept of a woman they have in their minds. Take what they say with a grain of salt
I am a woman, and I've constantly felt like nothing my whole life. I can't say I have accomplished much, and it often feels like the people I put so much into caring for don't appreciate what I do for them. No man has given to me in ages, and honestly, I often feel like I don't deserve it. If you are Christian or raised in a Christian world, it's even worse, because nothing you do will ever measure up, because you are seen as naturally less than a man and everything is wrong with you. So a lot of us just give up on being anything special or important and just try to get by best we can. We give up on finding healthy, loving relationships. Sometimes we can find ourselves again, other times we can't.
@@sararatliff7707 I hear you, especially the part as being Christian makes a woman feel like she is naturally inferior to a man. I've been struggling with the same thing, but the older I am, the more I see (and life shows) that it is a lie created to keep women in check. Abrahamic religions are not women friendly and men who spent lives reading and writing holy books think they know the best, while it is women who are close to the stream of life and it's full experience. We can feel many things, but denying that women can feel like nothing shows how disconnected some of these holy men are
You missed the point, people have to tell women she's nothing for her to feel like nothing but for men it is naturally ingrained in them even though no one has told them this
Can he explain why more women than men are abused/crushed demeaned in relationships by men than the other way round then? I dont think men in 2024 are really That delicate. Chin up bros.
As a wife, if your husband starts treating you like you are nothing, your first thought isn't, im nothing. your first thought is, he's found someone else to replace me. And if my husband expresses surprise that I can do a basic task..... I'm infuriated, because he must think I'm a total moron.
Man was created from the spoken Word of God out of His heart and love. If a man doesn’t realize that and think he was made out of nothing I can see how this could be true but a lie.
You are a BEAUTIFUL Man You are Essential, Brian We as Women NEED YOU we Need Men all of you. We women & Men. wouldn’t be here without you guys. I love exercising & feeling attractive for my husband. I am strong enough to learn how to do manly work. I enjoy knowing how to yet prefer my man to want to do it. MEN PLEASE DO NOT EVER FORGET Today Yesterday and Certainly Tomorrow YOU ARE VALUED AND NEEDED
@AsantewaaBoateng-iv9yp why would you put down this person and add Trump? That beautiful person loves rabbi...that's it...but you go in w your silly comments
That would mean this feeling of nothingness he speaks of is what makes men dangerous and there is nothing a woman can say or do to make them feel differently. He also believes she is everything. He believes he is nothing and won't and doesn't care if he destroys everything, the world, children, and women.
I have been married happily for ten years now so far and I relate to this. I am not Jewish or any religion per say I just believe in god the almighty but I feel like you are so knowledgeable and I love how y’all write the book like that with the most knowledge about just like life in general I follow you though and love everything you educate me about. Thanks!!
Thank you Rabbi! My MOST RECENT ex whenever I would mention what we NEED to WORK on for our RELATIONSHIP, he would ALWAYS SAY, "You ACT LIKE that I CAN'T DO ANYTHING RIGHT!"
As a woman, if there is something we need from a guy, since you love that person, you tell your request with gentleness, expressed in your voice. It is how we say it. A loving man, would understand whether he will comply or not with your request.
As men we have to options. Make something of yourself, find an interest, a passion, or a job of any kind. Or become nothing. Even a man at peace finds things to do to further increase that sense of peace. As for the theology of this curse is that it was the unholy knowledge we weren’t meant to know. I suspect that when Adam, not Eve, ate of the tree of knowledge, once the covenant was broken, we unleashed a curse on both male and female. A man’s curse is the constant reminder that we came of nothing and for women is that they came to be at a man’s side. Not above or beneath but alongside. Eves insurrection of authority and place is what cursed her and Adam ignoring his responsibility was the cause of his.
And what about a narcissistic mother/wife to her husband and children, especially when she has five sons and she thinks and acts like a brainwashed feminist woman and hates man. Sometimes I think that God, the Creator of everything, gave her five sons to give her every time a new change to love them. She never accepted the challenge but stayed in her narcissistic belief system..
Shalom Rabbi Friedman. I have been watching your videos for a while now and I wanted to thank you because I have learned how understand my husband because of you.
This has really helped me understand my husband and myself a lot. And I want to say that we do NEED men. They make our world go round. The roads we drive on, homes we live in, electricity and water pipes we use, and so much more, are all built and maintained by good strong men.
I agree with you completely. I am from Germany and here the dominant discourse is against men, women here tend to say that men are superfluous and that we need to overcome "toxic" old white men.
Society is not build alone by men. Women's role is as crucial . And remember in most places it'sen who oppress women. No place in world where women have suppressed men.
Good men need and deserve all the love, respect and attention in the world.❤And all this comes down to childhood trauma. What an insane world we live in.😢
I am actually Catholic and listening to You makes me realise it’s so true what you say about woman and man. One of the best podcast I have listened to. Thank You for sharing with us your words of wisdom! ❤ You are amazing man❤
I am so glad I ran upon this video. I appreciated the thoughtful way in which the difference between men and women was presented. I want to hear more wisdom from you, Rabbi.
That is probably because you have shown him many times that you don't need him. He just can't be bothered with you anymore as you portray yourself to be so self suficient. Just tell him that you need him and you'll see what a hero he'll become. It's the hero that you need, but you keep your guard up against because of your own pride.
Being asked is different than you making him feel that you need his help. Being asked to do something for you sounds more like an expectation. Men don't like women to expect them to do anything. Women just put pressure this way and act bossy. With a man you don't act bossy, nor put pressure (there's plenty of pressure out there in the world, a man doesn't need to feel that coming from his woman) with a man you you seek his help because you genuinely need it. He will literally bring you the moon if you make him feel that you need him, and not ask him to do something for you. It is exactly what a woman needs, and funnily enough that is exactly what women push away from themselves, unawarely. They push away the hero they so desperately need.
I was with a man for 4 years and he would consistently say im Jewish my mother was Jewish. He sure did not treat me like what you are teaching.🤔 I am a Christian and I adored him and treated him with the utmost respect to the end.
We repeat our patterns and energetically attract the same partners that match up with how our parents treated us, and they abused their Authority most times. So our bodies think it's familiar to me with someone who does the same. Even though it's not healthy, and we think we're going to get different results but we are the ones that have to change and learn self-love and self-worth, then we will attract different
My Husband say‘s always: a man must be a lion outside, at home he must be peaceful like a sheep. If a man get‘s aggressive towards his family, it‘s over. And it is not working for women and children at all.
And aggressive women can be scarier because kids turn to them 1st for solace. The rageaholic woman makes boys not trust females of all ages.
We gender everything. From my experience, insecure men are comfortable with controlling women. Secure men understand that their wives have God-given gifts and talents that he dare not control. That’s a demonstration of love.
Love is patient
Love is Kind
Asè
Wow that is the simplest most profound way of saying exactly what I was thinking... this isnt a man woman thing this is an insecure thing..
You are 💯 percent right
He doesn't control her, but as head of the household the woman has to understand her role to support her husband. He always has the last say!
@@Rainbowclawinsecurity is what drives people to control relationships in a way they cannot be questioned. Needing a “last say”? Extremely insecure
I need to be more sensitive to my husband as I can be a bit sharp tongued. I can do better by being more humble. ❤
Your husband is your destiny. You can do nothing about thiS ! 😀
@@kenzo4Ever I am very fortunate to have him for my husband. I just had to grow up and quit being so selfish.
A smart decision.
They can truly be infuriating!! I think you're doing better than you think though because you have reflected upon it and chosen to act! I think thats a big mazel tov and half the battle
So, man is the helpmate for woman and not the other way around. This makes more sense being that men need to feel needed by women.
The man is a leader and provider...
He leads to fix things to provide for what the woman needs.
While the woman appreciates all his effort.
No
@@dianaverano7878 What if he doesn't do these things and leaves it for his wife to figure out and get done? What if he gives her money for some of the household bills but then asks for that money back because he overextended himself? What if she praises him and shows appreciation for the smallest things hoping it will encourage him to tackle the bigger things, but he never does? How does a wife handle a husband who doesn't want to lead and provide, but wants the wife to fulfill his obligations as well as hers?
@@starr234as a wife, since she is in love with her husband, she has to gently request out of love the kind of treatment she wants to have.
It is on the manner of saying it.
Instead of argumentative way, a wife can softly say her needs.
In a request.
Almost always, a loving husband will do it for his wife. Men provide. Ask for it. They provide. It is not only thru money.
Men who wont try to please his wife in any way is not in love with her anymore. Almost always, a guy will figure it how to make the woman he loves happy
@@dianaverano7878 I always gently requested and was not argumentative. I never asked for money for anything other than regular household bills like groceries, mortgage, utilities and I only asked that he pay half. He also cheated so I'm sure he was no longer in love with me. He left me and when he decided to come back two weeks later, I told him no. I could tell he only wanted to come back because life was easier living with me since I did everything. Also, I think the other woman must have told him she didn't want to be with him or that he couldn't move in with her. Not all men are born leaders and providers.
When the man isnt doing the manly things such as leading the home and taking care of his wife and son, the woman is forced to get out of her feminine role as a wife and step into a mans position. If a woman motivates the man but the man keeps on making immature choices that affect the family stability it eventually will create resentment. In the end the woman will lose respect for a man. Yes life happens and a man might be down but if he's doing nothing to build himself back up even though his woman motivates him thats usually the moment when the man takes offense to her comments.
This right here is so true.
Government and family courts are on her side. That puts her in a dominant role.
@@minnesotajude8447 people like you love to regurgitate this and tell it.
It’s been about 50 years since the courts made laws to help women compared to thousands of years of recorded history of men walking out on their families and leaving them to fend for themselves in times when a woman’s only form of income was prostitution in order to survive and feed her kids and you modern ignorant men seem to forget that very important part so go cry about why women don’t deserve to have the courts side with her when the laws were changed BECAUSE men made a habit of walking out on their families. These laws even out the playing field for everyone.
@@minnesotajude8447wrong. Government and family courts are on her side just in case the man becomes reduced to dust.
What manly things... like work... change tires. Most women do this stuff anyway.
Honestly I get what your saying. Obviously your man shouldn't be a total deadbeat. But it also doesn't make you a man to have a job or take care of you a kids, or less feminine somehow to actually work in life.
I mean it's nice if your man is a provider, but your not less of a woman if you have to join the rest of us who didn't find a sugar daddy to marry and pay all our bills.
My husband and I have been married for 6 years. He was recently diagnosed with a terminal disease. I never understood this about men and women. Listening to this makes me relive flashbacks of our conversations. Some of it if funny and some of it is heartbreaking, honestly. Especially knowing there's little time left.
I’m glad you found him. Some of us are still searching and some will never find love. ❤️
Praying for you and your husband.
Davening for you and your dear husband
@@thebarbieinvestor5428 you'll find it
I hope you and your husband are able to enjoy your marriage and it is prolong. ALWAYS VISUALIZE TOMORROW
Only insecure men become scared when they no they are not needed. Confident men no they are not needed, but also no they can contribute something even though they are not needed.
Wise men think of their own needs too.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is *Shelly renee white* , and she is a great spiritual counsellor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
Fake ad 😂
Do you know how many men complain of being asked to do anything by women and accuse women of being too demanding? It’s a catch 22. They don’t want to be asked but they don’t want to not be asked.
Perhaps it's the way you're asking them?
It's about appreciation I think, and not demands
When you demand something to be done it is not the same as asking for something to be done.
"When you stop demanding what you are not given. You are open to receiving what you deserve".
@@mateuszw383 🤣🤣🤣rightttt you know the saying "closed mouths don't get fed". If it doesn't benefit women for the most part they don't care what a man says.
I am a women. I have been treated like I am a nothing and had totally lost all feelings of worth or value.
That's religion for you
Is that a good or bad thing for you?
@@karinsvanback7497 Some religious people do lots of good but that doesn't mean religion does any good, on the contrary, it does a lot of bad: Genecide (e.g. crusades, flood), slavery, genital mutilation, misogyny, homophobia etc
The G-d of Christianity and Judaism is the real G-d, that is why they are true religions. They connect with the true G-d. All other "religions" are false religions because the Devil is their "god". They are just not informed because G-d wants to be the G-d of everyone. But it is true, even the Catholic church admits the church is not a perfect example. Especially not with the present "pope". He could very well be the Antichrist (Antimessiah). Only G-d is perfect, but we are called to be perfect!!! That is such a blessing. That is so nice. That gives so much hope, and takes away so much anxiety.
You are who GOD SAYS YOU ARE. Not how anyone treats you!
This is so beautiful. My heart goes out to every good man who feels this way to know that there are good women who love and appreciate everything you do and everything you are ❤️💯.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom Rabbi. 🙏🏽
I've worried about what men want for decades and it got me nowhere. They can go stuff themselves.
Thank you this is the most useful comment in this whole fucking post, so sick and tired of these whining-ass men. Real men don't whine about having to be a real fucking man.
You haven't found me yet....
😂
💯💯💯
Don't be a pushover
So when a woman is content she is happy and the man sees that he is not needed so he goes and does something like start a war just so he can feel needed. Which will put him women and children (basically everyone) in danger just to prove he is needed and satisfy his ego. How is this love again? It’s not!!
A Fine Balancing act, between two parts, always.
@patricejones7905: That's exactly what the Rabbi speaks to. For centuries, women have been conditioned to think the male is the end all be all. They are not. The ONLY thing a male have over a woman is that they are physically stronger.
Women are normally the fuel that gets the job done on any corporate entity.
I follow a lady called the Queen Maker. She literally dives deep into the biology of women and what happened to the feminine that put women where we are now.
Men are incapable of loving
I think so because even the "protection" women and kids need is also protection from men themselves... so yes they create a problem then pose as the solution
Omg wow this has totally blown my mind! in 30 min, explained SO much about me as a woman, and about the men in my life. An awful lot makes sense now that I hadn't previously understood. Thank you Rabbi Friedman!
You should ask the men in your life if it's true. 😊
Lol ya got a point there😄
Actions do speak louder than words tho...
@@mjey1U can also look at the men how they lived in Ur family
@emj850 don't ask just watch....u will see the truth not hear what they want u to
This video made me love life, love humans, love men, love women. I love respecting them, I love backing up a little bit so she can shine/feel like herself, live, as the free being, individual they are.
Men need to be honored by theur wives. Wives need to be loved by their husbands.
Rabbi, ive been telling people what im about to say for decades.
God put the man to sleep, removed a portion of his body and made the woman A PART OF HIM. Why he said "The two shall become ONE". The man is connected to the woman in spirit by way of this design. Why God told the man to treat the woman as he treats himself. Because she is a part of him.
I try so hard not to laugh when I hear men say to women, "We made you. You came from us" (and im in my sixties, grew up in church and have heard them saying this my entire life) I tell them to go into a delivery room when a woman is giving birth and then come back with that statement. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
is This WHY some men may make you WAIT for the thing that you asked them to do? so They can FEEL Needed? i hear from Contractors wives often that there are several UNFINISHED works in their homes.
@@WorstDruidEU he’s Actually Said That to me🤯🤯 ‘I don’t have anybody to Impress’
I was like ‘ Yes You Do!’
He looked SURPRISED 🙁🙁
😂 This explains it all. I was raised with three brothers. Didn't understand the weirdness of the opposite sex. Than I got married, still couldn't understand men until now!!😅😂
They’re very fragile beings.
Bahaha ❤ You go sister lol Brothers are great to grow up with lol We learn by a lot as women who grew up with decent brothers.
@@o.revi.this is great to be reminded of… I have been blessed with 4 and I still don’t know how to socialize with my own gender on certain occasions. Almost five decades later I am now learning that a little better though.
@@ladybug3380that is why they are not suitable for leadership
I’m only 3 minutes in and what he said about “being nothing” is PROFOUND 🤯 … CZcams came through with another random but great video suggestion
This has been very eye opening and appreciated. I see where I have unconsciously been erroneous in assuming my husband knew I appreciated all of the things he has been doing to make me feel special for all of these years no matter where I was. I have always known he was watching over me. I have always felt like the luckiest woman in the world because of having him on my side. I need and appreciate everything he has done and continues to do for me. We will have to teach "each other" how to treat each other in those very personal intricacies. I need and appreciate hom in every way.
I still feel this way and yearn for him. Want to touch and embrace him. ❤❤❤😘
It’s important for females to be in their feminine posture which is to nurture and receive 🎉 I never realized the depth of the pain man had as a rating of “0” thank you for this teaching
Are u feminine urself. And are u looking to get married
How can a woman be feminine when the men of today don't let you? We have to be the men in relationships. Never dealing with this trash again. Men are so lost. And they will continue to be until they get right with God.
We’re 😪
It's important for people to just be themselves and to be kind and thoughtful to others. No shoving people into boxes where they might not perfectly fit.
Let’s start by not referring to ourselves as “females” while calling men “men”. 🙄
This makes soo much sense As a woman I was a master at justifying my abuse and now thanks to you,, I get this thank you !!
woman may not have came from nothing, but she can definitely end up feeling like she's nothing, especially when she's been told in every way, by everyone that was suppose to love and be there for her. so I respectfully disagree with you rabbi, woman can most definitely feel like nothing, like they don't matter, or not needed, that there not wanted.
I've seen it many times on YT where men of authority think that women never experience some feelings that they do. It puzzles me, they think women lead easy and joyful lives without self doubt or hints of internal suffering.
It shows me that they operate on a just a concept of a woman they have in their minds. Take what they say with a grain of salt
I am a woman, and I've constantly felt like nothing my whole life. I can't say I have accomplished much, and it often feels like the people I put so much into caring for don't appreciate what I do for them. No man has given to me in ages, and honestly, I often feel like I don't deserve it. If you are Christian or raised in a Christian world, it's even worse, because nothing you do will ever measure up, because you are seen as naturally less than a man and everything is wrong with you. So a lot of us just give up on being anything special or important and just try to get by best we can. We give up on finding healthy, loving relationships. Sometimes we can find ourselves again, other times we can't.
@@sararatliff7707 I hear you, especially the part as being Christian makes a woman feel like she is naturally inferior to a man. I've been struggling with the same thing, but the older I am, the more I see (and life shows) that it is a lie created to keep women in check. Abrahamic religions are not women friendly and men who spent lives reading and writing holy books think they know the best, while it is women who are close to the stream of life and it's full experience.
We can feel many things, but denying that women can feel like nothing shows how disconnected some of these holy men are
You missed the point, people have to tell women she's nothing for her to feel like nothing but for men it is naturally ingrained in them even though no one has told them this
@@kazania7653 he says that when a woman hears she is nothing, it doesn't compute. Which is not true
Can he explain why more women than men are abused/crushed demeaned in relationships by men than the other way round then? I dont think men in 2024 are really That delicate. Chin up bros.
As a wife, if your husband starts treating you like you are nothing, your first thought isn't, im nothing. your first thought is, he's found someone else to replace me.
And if my husband expresses surprise that I can do a basic task..... I'm infuriated, because he must think I'm a total moron.
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Wow. Such deep words of wisdom. Feels like common sense and yet not recognized enough in the modern world. Thank you Rabbi Manis.
Man was created from the spoken Word of God out of His heart and love. If a man doesn’t realize that and think he was made out of nothing I can see how this could be true but a lie.
Right on ! Created for a purpose too and an intimate relationship with the Father
The breath of god right?
I know that I should not find it surprising that this is exactly the message I needed to hear this morning - it happens so often. Thank you!
It takes a sensitive soul to appreciate when messages come to you at exactly the right time 😊
Remarkable thing. Ditto. I’ll be joining the community soon. Perhaps for Sunday.
God speaks through him directly
Some woman transforms their man in nothing sometimes.
You are a BEAUTIFUL Man You are Essential, Brian We as Women NEED YOU we Need Men all of you.
We women & Men. wouldn’t be here without you guys. I love exercising & feeling attractive for my husband. I am strong enough to learn how to do manly work. I enjoy knowing how to yet prefer my man to want to do it.
MEN PLEASE DO NOT EVER FORGET Today Yesterday and Certainly Tomorrow YOU ARE VALUED AND NEEDED
❤"that thing" is to treat other's as you would have them treat you.❤Matthew 7:12❤
I am a born again Christian and I just love this Rabbi! Bless your heart Rabbi Manis, I do love you!!
Born again? And, you love Trump? Asking for a friend
@AsantewaaBoateng-iv9yp why would you put down this person and add Trump? That beautiful person loves rabbi...that's it...but you go in w your silly comments
9:09 The actual reason men feel like a zero is because they keep trying to compare themselves to women/lifegivers.
It simply means that a man is FULLY dependent on GOD to treat a woman like who she is
What a gem of wisdom, my mind is so relaxed. How come I missed his teachings all these years. Feeling so blessed.
Me too ⭐
Me too
Me too ❤
That would mean this feeling of nothingness he speaks of is what makes men dangerous and there is nothing a woman can say or do to make them feel differently. He also believes she is everything. He believes he is nothing and won't and doesn't care if he destroys everything, the world, children, and women.
It's not true. If a woman was brought up as a child believing she is worthless it will stay with her for life. It's very hard to shake.
I fear that the ladies in his audience don't truly get it.
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They’re disrespectful.
nope just disrespectful, egotistical
“The woman doesn’t need to give as much as she needs to receive.”
As much as she needs to receive
@@enadiedericks2006 good call my friend
I have been married happily for ten years now so far and I relate to this. I am not Jewish or any religion per say I just believe in god the almighty but I feel like you are so knowledgeable and I love how y’all write the book like that with the most knowledge about just like life in general I follow you though and love everything you educate me about. Thanks!!
I am christian but jewish ethnically and the rebbe is wise. He helps me too. Tell me what helped you keep married ten years?
God. With a capital G. Or Yahweh. Or “I am”. 😊
Thank you Rabbi! My MOST RECENT ex whenever I would mention what we NEED to WORK on for our RELATIONSHIP, he would ALWAYS SAY, "You ACT LIKE that I CAN'T DO ANYTHING RIGHT!"
Did you listen or did you just brush it off ? Is that why you are no longer together?
As a woman, if there is something we need from a guy, since you love that person, you tell your request with gentleness, expressed in your voice.
It is how we say it.
A loving man, would understand whether he will comply or not with your request.
As men we have to options. Make something of yourself, find an interest, a passion, or a job of any kind. Or become nothing. Even a man at peace finds things to do to further increase that sense of peace. As for the theology of this curse is that it was the unholy knowledge we weren’t meant to know. I suspect that when Adam, not Eve, ate of the tree of knowledge, once the covenant was broken, we unleashed a curse on both male and female. A man’s curse is the constant reminder that we came of nothing and for women is that they came to be at a man’s side. Not above or beneath but alongside. Eves insurrection of authority and place is what cursed her and Adam ignoring his responsibility was the cause of his.
I don’t agree. Studies show that the self esteem of women goes down as early as the age of 8. At the end of the day we all crave love and kindness.
Thank you for this Rabbi
Rabbi is full of wisdom!!
God bless u
That was one of the most important knowledge about men and women❤ thank you
May God continue to bless you and yours and keep his loving arms wrapped around you. Traveling grace to you. You explained so very well.
I have been listening to other videos, I love the way you explain things. I love the humor, I never knew significance of creation to women and men
Narcissist husband don't want to give anything at all .think only about themselves and other people he can use
And what about a narcissistic mother/wife to her husband and children, especially when she has five sons and she thinks and acts like a brainwashed feminist woman and hates man. Sometimes I think that God, the Creator of everything, gave her five sons to give her every time a new change to love them. She never accepted the challenge but stayed in her narcissistic belief system..
Shalom Rabbi Friedman. I have been watching your videos for a while now and I wanted to thank you because I have learned how understand my husband because of you.
A very great message for you Rabbi Manis Friedman, it is very much true
I appreciate this message. ❤️
Thank you rabbi
This man is a GENIUS. God bless him
“The thing that everyone hates is to be reminded that you are nothing.”
As a man I can say this is utterly true
Man has fear of annihilation and the ghost never goes away....😮
Deep isn’t it?
After my dear husband passed, I remembered that I could screw in a lightbulb lol. ❤😂
WOW. Rabbi you are amazing. Your teaching gave me a lightbulb moment. Thank you ❤
What a great man! His wisdom is incredible.
The compliment has to be true and non manipulative.
Sir, you are my own personal Jewish Gandalf. You could certainly comfort me with a wise and kind word in the mines of Moriah🤘
Thank you. The answer has always been there.
You are incredible. Thank you for spilling your knowledge.
I really liked this video. I found you on shorts videos, and this popped up and I watched it. I really like your talks, I learn ❤
This was just plain brilliant...
This has really helped me understand my husband and myself a lot. And I want to say that we do NEED men. They make our world go round. The roads we drive on, homes we live in, electricity and water pipes we use, and so much more, are all built and maintained by good strong men.
I agree with you completely. I am from Germany and here the dominant discourse is against men, women here tend to say that men are superfluous and that we need to overcome "toxic" old white men.
Society is not build alone by men. Women's role is as crucial . And remember in most places it'sen who oppress women. No place in world where women have suppressed men.
Men oppress women all over the world. We’d be better off if there wasn’t so many of them.
It's not one or the other. Society needs both.
@@bapparawal2457 Except modern feminism in the western world.
Absolutely insightful! ❤
Thank you very very much! 🇧🇷 Best regards from Brazil!
Good men need and deserve all the love, respect and attention in the world.❤And all this comes down to childhood trauma. What an insane world we live in.😢
Yup, people don't pick the most healthy partners, perpetuating toxic dynamics. Healthy people pick healthy partners.
They don’t exist. Too stuck in ego.
This is the greatest video i seen for a long time
I am actually Catholic and listening to You makes me realise it’s so true what you say about woman and man. One of the best podcast I have listened to. Thank You for sharing with us your words of wisdom! ❤ You are amazing man❤
Thank you ❤
This is very enlightening
I am so glad I ran upon this video. I appreciated the thoughtful way in which the difference between men and women was presented. I want to hear more wisdom from you, Rabbi.
Thank you Rabbi Friedman
This is extraordinary. Thank you.
What extraordinary !?
Rabbi is a sharp seducer ! 😀
It is good to hear this. Very well put sir.
THANK YOU!!!!
My husband doesn’t want to be needed! He hates being asked to do anything!
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That is probably because you have shown him many times that you don't need him. He just can't be bothered with you anymore as you portray yourself to be so self suficient. Just tell him that you need him and you'll see what a hero he'll become. It's the hero that you need, but you keep your guard up against because of your own pride.
Being asked is different than you making him feel that you need his help. Being asked to do something for you sounds more like an expectation. Men don't like women to expect them to do anything. Women just put pressure this way and act bossy. With a man you don't act bossy, nor put pressure (there's plenty of pressure out there in the world, a man doesn't need to feel that coming from his woman) with a man you you seek his help because you genuinely need it. He will literally bring you the moon if you make him feel that you need him, and not ask him to do something for you. It is exactly what a woman needs, and funnily enough that is exactly what women push away from themselves, unawarely. They push away the hero they so desperately need.
I know I need a man. I also know I need him not to use that against me. 💔
Thanks, Rabbi Friedman, for the excellent lecture! ❤👍👏🎯😎🙏
Such a beautifully wise lesson.
This is SPOT ON❤
Thank you.❤
Thank you so much
So insightful!
This was very insightful. Thank You🌸
Thank you so much! Blessings!
i am so happy to listen to this video so important to understand Thank you ❤
Thank you
Thank you Rabbi
Wow!!!!!!!!!! Thank you for this❤
Thank you so much for this❤
A great perspective, very insightful 🙏♥️
Thank you !!
I appreciate this video, many thanks
Many women feel invisible.
I was with a man for 4 years and he would consistently say im Jewish my mother was Jewish. He sure did not treat me like what you are teaching.🤔 I am a Christian and I adored him and treated him with the utmost respect to the end.
He miss you yet? Or maybe he misses a mean person
We repeat our patterns and energetically attract the same partners that match up with how our parents treated us, and they abused their Authority most times. So our bodies think it's familiar to me with someone who does the same. Even though it's not healthy, and we think we're going to get different results but we are the ones that have to change and learn self-love and self-worth, then we will attract different
Thank you for sharing your wisdom, so that we can better understand and love the men in our lives 🙏❤
Very important News and perspectives