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Hey, I'm Cole Hastings. I'm a vegan athlete/content creator with a passion for videography/video editing, among other things. I help people build themselves physically/mentally through fitness and self help videos.
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Dont read self help like its leisure. Read self help like its a textbook. Take notes, and apply your notes to real life, but make sure you only read one book at a time, because each book is a different subject.
yes, reflect
yeah
Very good advice. Thank you
Nice advice thank you
Very good advice. Thanks 👍.
“Always preaching but never practicing” wow this hit me
All bark no bite
That’s funny cause I thought the exact same thing
Videos are useless if you don't apply what they tell you to practice.
"Well done is better than well said" - Benjamin Franklin
Me af
Cole's next video
-Stop watching my videos, they are ruining your life.
Spot on
Cole Hastings videos are practically useless for me at this point.
You are practically everywhere I see🧐
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Gold award for this comment😂👍🏽
So true my man.
Knowledge isn’t power. The application of that knowledge is power.
For sure my man
“Power is Power” -Cerci Game of Thrones
@@danny8930 hitting me with the Thrones quote. Well played sir
@@danny8930 Chaos is a laddah
But how do you get knowledge?
He’s not saying stop watching self help videos , he’s saying there’s no point consuming self help information without applying as you’ll only motivate your contempt with complacency
Better said. Thanks.
No amount of improvement advice is useful unless you put in work to make it count.
Otherwise, you're just reading a fiction book without the illustrations.
That last sentence hits
Most people know what they need to do. Information often isn’t the problem, and if it is it can be remedied in a few effective hours of research. The problem is executing on the ideas. A good enough plan that you take action on is better than a perfect plan endlessly under development.
Execution is everything
@@ColeHastings but its not though, without any planning, what are u even executing?
I agree. But that said, those people who really don't know what to do (on certain issues) exist too, and that's extra sucky.
Truth.
I love the way you put it. In all honesty, if someone truly wanted change, they'd have done it. You won't even need a self help book to make it happen which is why they're not good. Majority of us already know what steps to take. Self help books are like some random dude stating out the obvious when it wasn't even needed but we aknowledge their presence out of respect, not because they said something great and life changing
For all these people saying these kind of books are useless: They're only useless if you make them useless. These books are about learning them, like school books. Look, if you've got a new formula in physics, guess what, the problems won't solve themselves... you've got to use them, a lot. It's not because you've learned a new formula, that you'll successfully be able to use them. The books are there, to show you how it can be done, when you use the principles in them. It's still up to you to make it happen.
They are useless they just hyped u jajaja
you shouldn’t need a book to tell you how to be a better you.
thanks man, thy powerful
I get you bruhh...got to put it in practice...
@@jesterpoker that's the same as saying you shouldn't need a therapist to cure your depression.
Next video: “Stop Existing It’s Ruining Your Life”
Facts
xD
3 stages of self-help:
1. Loss - no motivation
2. Consumption - just consuming and understanding
3. Application - start applying self help content to your life
--> most people stuck in stage 2 and just consuming and preaching without remembering or applying anything
==> Realize where you are and dont consume too much self-help content if you are not applying them to your life
Ur right now iam going to stop and will more work on ground practically cause these Self help things will never end its just flooding the yotube and internet
This is exactly what I needed to hear .
Wonderful bro
Thanks for sharing
I just realised I’m stuck in stage 2 , it’s soo bad that yesterday I downloaded 11 different self help books to read 😩.
I read david googins cant hurt me I ran 25k 42 k marathons n m training for Ironman challenge, I read atomic habits it has dramatically change my Lifestyle, I read compound effect by darren hardy so i started getting so good in difficult things, i read no excuses by brian tracy so i started becoming very discipline, i read wayne dyer books spiritually i m becoming very cool calm composed n meditation has really change me on the inside, self help books are really good if u r very discipline person n very balance with ur Life
Then it's not the book, it's you
Completely agree with this. This video is basically saying: stop reading self help unless you practice it, and I stopped because I didn’t practice it. As long as you implement what you’re taught then you succeed. Great comment Harrison 🙌🏼
So basically it might be best to focus on one or two self help books a year and really digest, integrate, and apply what you are learning.
@@Wealthy_Mystic no book, no knowledge, nothing will help you unless you want it. You need to chose what your goal is and make your way over to it. If you want to get strong, go to the gym and if you don’t know what to do there ask for help.
I appreciate your humility and how honest you are with yourself. Being open about that is why I respect and watch you...
Next video: stop watching self help videos
this is a joke love you cole
I mean honestly, that's tied to this video haha
I started my self improvement journey February of 2021, read my first book on this topic called Atomic Habits by James Clear. Now I'll admit self improvement really did help me change my mindset but I did notice that 1% rule I read about I'm slowly starting to slack. I did well sticking to my habits for 7 weeks but on the 8th week out of no where I suddenly don't feel like anything and now it's been 3 weeks since I'm back at my old habits. Self improvement is hard and it's challenging, just typing this whole comment out is randomly giving me a reason to give it a shot & keep trying how weird haha
Anyways if anyone has any advice or just some things they want to share regarding their self improvement journey let me know! I'd love to hear some of your experiences :)
To do something continuously for long time we need to see many factors and our habbit is one of them so only habbit cant help for long tern but its one of them
U need to have target some dream or anything u wanna achive and u work to achive that target
Also affirmation also helps and creating kinda environment like what u r doing
Many things need to bind up together to do it for long term
Also u need to keep.loving the process whatever u r doing
I burned my self help books when I recognized that they were just a selling business. They didn't help me. The Bible helped me to know that the worldly knowledge has some kind of bad motive behind it. Really bad motives
I would go as far as unsubscribing from self help guru channels (no offense to anyone in the self help industry or to cole) but at some point I feel like there needs to be a stopping point with all the self help that your consuming. What’s the point of consuming more self help when you already know how to self help yourself? It’s already inside of you now, there’s no need to look for more of it, you got your life together so what? This is something I think we can all agree on btw, I feel like at some point we need to let the self help stuff go away. I mean who wants to be learning the same thing over and over again the next 5-90 years and doing nothing. This is just an opinion guys this is something that I’m already beginning to think now, I think self help needs to be consumed very limited if not nothing.
@@metalrockstarizer89 this is actually a really good point and I’m going to do just that, I spend way too much time consuming and not enough time producing or implementing what I’ve learnt
@@ElizabethOberiko101 think of it as your graduating from self help. I mean tbh I’m starting to feel a bit more comfortable in myself so there’s just isn’t any point in looking for self help anymore. There’s no point in writing motivational comments and quotes and all this type of bs. And sometimes self help takes 3 simple obvious life lesson and turning into a whole mathematical process. (Quora is a bad place for confirmation bias) When you look for too much self help, that stills signals the fact that your still insecure to yourself in a way. And when you consume too much self help, eventually your going to consume something that’s complete garbage and B.S. (nofap community, alpha male, beta male zodiac signs mentality, take cold showers everyday, grindset) it might work for them, but it might not work for you, that’s certain things you have to question to yourself sometimes when it comes to self help, there’s turd in between all of them. And have some balance. It’s okay to fap, we’re human, it’s ok if your insecure, embrace it and then it will be gone boom no more of these videos. Trust me man, you already know all of this stuff. Just stop watching them.
dude i love how you're challenging modern self improvement. sure it's controversial for a portion of your audience, but the fact you're still doing it shows you care about the truth. please keep it going
This video was a great reminder to actually take actionable steps after watching self-help videos instead of just consuming them. I am a very new subscriber and I really enjoy how real and down to earth your videos are. Great work!
I’m just going to stop reading books to be on the safe side. 😂
Books kill people
@@ColeHastings if you’re talking about autobiographies of successful people I agree, but self help books I think navigate people to the right way.
It all depends on person who’s reading or listening to productivity content. So I believe people should watch videos that will help to solve problems we have right now and not every video on the productivity channel. JIT (just in time) model rather than JIC (just in case)
@@ColeHastings why do you think so? Some self help ones, yes, but others?
@@alex_georgescu I'm joking
haha.
The productivity culture makes us care so much about the result, that we forget to enjoy the process. The Forwago helped me to keep improving myself and achieving my goals while still enjoying the process, and I am so grateful because of that.
Thanks a lot
Man really your helping out at my 19 hope things get better when I'm in my 20s.
They will brother just execute
it's so weird how every time I come to these realizations, cole just drops a video about it.
Same wavelength
It's like that episode of Sex In The City, when Charlotte is reading all the self help books and realizes it can be an addiction.
The human brain is rewarded by THINKING of being productive, hence why real Discipline is so impressive (at least to me) 🥰
Ig it's sex and the city**
Message from this video is:
"choose your information wisely and apply it".
Thanks bro
I was watching this on tv but i connected my phone so i can coment here. I discovered your channel some weeks ago and really liked your content. Yes, your are one of the few creators i follow for self-help topics. I was into this second phase where we want to read a lot of self help books and realized i needed to figure out my way to do thing by doing it and i like your videos because you usually show how the pratice is more important than the thinking. Now i'm trying to create my own YT channel(about other stuff) and started to exercite daily, so thank you. I had been reading self help for 2 or 3 years and jounaling by four but never came back to my notes and now i'm doing it.
I know how important to value the creators so i'm leaving this coment. Greetings from Brazil!
Your videos always make me more inspired to make mine better Cole, you are the champ!
Love to hear that man!
This is the first video I saw from your channel, just wanted to say I love the way you link text to objects or people and overall the editing. Great video. Was getting stuck at phase 2, this helped
If I enjoy reading self-help books then they're immediately useful, even if I do not apply the teachings. I still enjoy reading Harry Potter although I haven't attempted to use Wingardium Leviosa (I could probably do it). Also, making my bed in the am (something in a few self-help books and talks) has done absolutely nothing to improve my life. But I still enjoyed reading a short story about this guy's experience in boot camp and the strict requirements for am bed-making.
I have been hoarding self-help books since my high school years and I thought that I was doing better in life than before. Then I realized how nothing has changed and I keep on reverting back to my old, lazy, and negative self. I always go back to these books whenever I feel like i’m in a rut and as long as I keep practicing it and rereading them it keeps my spirits up and makes me feel like a new person all over again.
I feel like you are right and wrong. I read the first book a year ago and I can feel the impact on my mindset.
They key is to process and use all these informations. It takes time, but we never stop learning.
Truth
THANK YOU SO MUCH i NEEDED THAT. Also this video is perfect along with why self-improvement is ruining your life by better ideas. Self-improvment is not a hooby itself but just a companion throughout your life. You will never be done improving yourself or discovering yourself. And like you said in aonther video: Most answers reveal themselves through doing, not thinking. So act along searching for solutions and answers. Every successful person did not become successful because they were extremly good at self-improvment but because they were good at something. For example if you are a student: Study along reading self-help books from time to time. Do not make them your first periority because self-improvment is not about much you know or understand but about how much you acklowedge the knowledge you gained and can imply it throughout time. It takes some time. Be patient and consistent. And also a great insight from a book: Do not try to change your circumstances and environment but your limitng beliefs first which cause negative thoughts and negative behaviour.
I ENCOURAGE EVERYONE TO CONTINUE TO READ AND SEE SELF HELP BOOKS AND VIDEOS.
. Dont matter if you're not practicing, you are on the way. Remember, what we hear, we think. What we think, we understand. What we understand, we speak. What we speak, we do. What we do, becomes the habit. Our habits becomes character. Therefore, start surrounding yourself with things that resonates with who you want to be.
im 100% agree
SMART PEOPLE- tend to think before take action and speak and it leads to habits and at the end of the day they aren't really know who they are because subconsciously they sabotaging their selves for following their habits(in other terms they're prisoner of their own thoughts) So where's the self freedom from it?
On the other hand,
DUMB PEOPLE - Speak first, take action and realizing they're wrong and fookin dumb, subsequently learn from their mistakes, and wallah! They'll become more wise and intelligent than those who read self help stuffs, analyzing every situations at a time and actually having a hard time to implementing it and ain't applied to their selves.
- this is my own thought, (i am not intelligent nor dumb) we're all having a different perspective in life, different rules and methods to become what we want to become, but being true to ourselves and having freedom and wisdom to our mind is fuckWorthy live for. Always remember what the Legend Albert Einstein said,
" THE ONLY SOURCE OF NOWLEDGE IS EXPERIENCE "
@@Shogunatesensui Interesting. So I should decrease my intelligence in order to be more successful. Got it.
@Ashwārohi That is possible, yes.
Great video, you are so spot on! As I was watching the video, I was thinking, he’s described me to a tee. I’m taking your advice starting today! Thanks!
So important to actually apply and do when you learn things! Sick video cole🌱💪
“Knowledge by itself is not power. Applied knowledge is power.” - Anonymous
love your editing and the honesty you put on your content
Helpful advice. Sometimes I zone out for hours watching self improvement videos with their catchy titles, and you hit the nail on the head. It's all about application of what you learned.
Things I have gained from reading, listening and watching self-help content
1. A daily routine
2. A sense of control over my life
3. Better relationships
4. Cure to my addiction( binge-watching anime and scrolling social media up to 18 hours a day)
5. An overall optimistic outlook on life.
I began my self-improvement journey at 16 now I'm almost 20 and don't plan on stopping any time soon or ever.
glad i found this today! a great way to start my new year! ❣️ too much of anything is toxic even reading self help books 😊
I'm 39 years old and I am surprising myself watching your video and liking how I actually agree with the stuff you say and even learning (never too old to learn from others) and wish your content was around when I was 24 years old. Great content! Ps...I totally got in stage 2 for a f.....ing.... long time :)
If self help book can't help you then it doesn't mean it won't help anyone .
For some it works and for some it won't works .
Personally self book helped me lot and it differs according to individual ability to understand.
Even one word or a idea can bring hope to some one in despair.
It depend individual perception.
I believe it helped you because those books contained the type of information you'd need. Self help books have helped me as well. Not those about making new habits and being successful, but the kinds where they teach me about past rooted trauma and why it happened and how to fix it. Such psychological books are really good for us who can't afford therapy
Nice video. I've been through the self-help cycle and I can relate. I think learning to code at the same time helped me through it as it's evident in coding that application is key if you are going to make any sort of mearningful progress. I've started writing downs points for reflection in psychology and philosophy books I'm reading lately and I've also found myself reading more fiction.
Self-help books are great for your area of interest. Theory with practice is important. Focus a subject that your most concern, e.g. going to marriage, then read dating self-help guide.
Thank you for sharing your insight. I realize I'm consuming so much self-help books one after another. Because of this, I would easily forget the lessons I've learned from the previous book before I could even apply them to my life. Watching this video made me realize that I should take a break for a while and in the mean time, reflect from the past books that I've read.
I would like to follow your advice to take notes in bullet points, and I'll try to read some fiction as well. Thanks again!
i love your content!! i started my self help journey this year
Nice video. I really like when the graphics letters are booming into the video. I do think that self-helps books are a good framework to make change in your life, while being unhappy for yourself. The important thing is not to stop reading self-helps books but practice the stuff and apply deeply into a mindset and way of living. And I do agree with your thoughts, and it can be posing, at the end when you do not diversify your reading.
Someone's been listening to the Lo-Fi Beats playlist on Spotify
I definitely agree with you I was receiving so much information but I never really applied them except for working out. Reading did give me the illusion of progress and I could of been way far if I actually applied some of those things.
I was reading a book on homesteading, and the author (Shannon A. Hayes) had a very similar three-part list on the process of becoming a homesteader. Step one was also a process of dissociation and mourning; step two was also a learning process; and step three was also a kind of application. The difference was that skill-learning in homesteading is not passive. It was very, very active. What distinguished step three from step two was tying newfound skills to community engagement and higher values -- in other words, what made step two poisonous was not that it was inactive (because in this case it was anything but); rather, stage two was so myopically self-oriented that the people who got stuck there failed to find a positive balance in homesteading, in the long term. I agree with what you say about inaction. I find it rather frustrating when I get so pumped about doing something that I get the dopamine hit just for thinking about it and my brain somehow thinks that it's something I have already accomplished. However, thinking about it in the context of this other book had me wondering whether another part of the problem with people in your stage two might be that everything is done outside of any "real" context.
I say "people in stage two" as though I am not, myself, a person frequently stuck in stage two. *Chortles.* I keep going back to community college every few years, it seems, to pursue new interests that I never make a career out of. *Eye rolls.*
Dude, the locations you pick for your videos are the best.
The book that you were holding in the thumbnail sir is the book that I literally just bought two days ago on Amazon prime, I feel personally attacked 😅
@@kenncholo8561 yeah the main idea of the video is not that self help books are bad.. but reading them just for the sake of "reading" without applying what you read in your life is bad
You grew a lot man last time I checked you had 30K and now 60K.Your videos are fun,and well edited keep it up.
I need all of these books on my bookshelf immediately! 💫 Keep rising to be who you want to be! 💫 #keeprising #risingtobe #aswerise #riser
I'm back again. Your videos are crafted to hypnotize so much that I don't really retain anything substancial. Good job I want some more of this.
But bear I mind to execute
Great perspective, love your content 😎
Keep up these videos bro 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I love the imagery in this video! Amazing job
I recently got myself to read self help books, and I was so hooked up after reading my first book Subtle art of not giving a f*ck. I told myself I had to buy more of these books but thanks to this video, I see clearly how this are not helpful at all when not applied. Thanks!!
Is there anyone here who, like me, likes to read self-help books as an end in of itself? In other words, not to get anything in the future but because it's a nice way to read and feel good for the afternoon w/ a cup of coffee? I think if you're treating the book as a means to an end then yes that can become stupid but re reading portions of The Power of Now is one of my favorite things to do just for the sake of it.
This actually reminds me back to I was studying physics. I read the book, listened to the professor, I thought it all was logical and I understood it. Days passed, weeks passed and I had to apply the things I was thought. And I just couldn't because I didn't understand. I remember the words but I didn't get the clue. But up until that moment I thought I did.
The only way to really learn is to put the books aside and try to apply them. You will find gaping holes in your understanding when you do. But if you don't stop building your 'knowledge' the hidden holes continue. This means if you encounter a hole in your knowledge while dealing with something you have to learn 2 things at once. And that didn't really work out when I was studying physics.
I like Cole's video's because they are self reflections of his actions. Because he reflects I do. I wouldn't have had this thought without this video.
I get it, but I disagree with a lot of it. In my experience step 2 and step 3 go hand in hand and the learning & growing is maximised through that. Don't get stuck at step 2 is super important advice, but that doesn't mean you have to step away from self help and just stick to what you've already consumed. Just make sure you're ACTUALLY consuming it properly. Also, I strongly believe that even if you are just blindly consuming self help content and not really doing any of it, you're still better off than you would be not consuming it at all. I found that just absorbing this stuff alone has made some mindset changes and acted as a positive influence on my mood and the way I view things.
I think that consumption should be done in an extremely picky manner. Everyone says to do the actions said on the books before moving onto the next one, and I can see why, but we're not all looking for the same solutions. Most people look at self help books to see ideas which can help them get better, and out of 100 ideas, it's more than normal to only find 5 of them applicable to your life. Not everyone is the same, some of these books have so much information you'd rather not even start working on yourself because it feels like a really long journey. Procrastination loves to consume us 😂
I think the book ‘meditation’ by Marcus Aurelius is a great self-help book because it doesn't make you feel good about yourself but teaches you how to live without stupid suffering, to make an effort, and to practice taking action.
This video answer so many questions I had
Thanks 👍
I really like your content and find it geniunely helpful for me. I like the way you look at the world and life. Life is a mess, but still beautiful
Helped me a lot , thanks brother for making this video ✨🤞
Before self-help book/video got hype, I get wisdoms from people around me. Either it's family, friends, teachers, or relatives. I didn't realize that fiction books that I read as teenager have some kind of wisdom that actually better than self-help book for me. Self-help book make me feel like I am being judged.
When someone doesn’t know what port he’s sailing for, no wind is favorable. (Seneca)
"Always preaching but never practicing"excellent point. I completely agree with wanting to improve yourself in positive aspects however many who try to find and who have found often don't even attempt to practice it because of their weak mentality. This method only works for those who are willing to make a difference in their lives instead of just nodding their heads and keep on living in ignorance.
Wow, thank you so much, helped me realize I'm still lingering in number 2. Although I still haven't started reading, which is something I've been wanting to get into the habit of before bed. I did order 4 books that will be here tomorrow, but NO MORE SELF HELP VIDEOS!!!! Time to actually start DOING!!!!! Thank you bro, got a sub outta me.
Once i stop watching these useless vids i will give more time to work on ground in real life
God bless this eye opener guy
This man knows me its like he is a exploring my life , well thank u for understanding me , and thank u for talking more about my thoughts, and letting me hear them out
Great points about the mundanity of constant self help content. I see you showcased Matt D'Avella's videos as self help, but I'm still gonna watch his videos though because he's a great content creator.
Keep up the great work, you just earned a sub.
Thank you
"Always preaching but never practicing" this hit me. I read self help books when I feel shitty. And after few days I'm back procrastinating...
In my opinion you need to find a balance between reading and practical. I think its not bad to read one or two books but after that you should just start with the knowöedge you have and look where the journey is taking you.
Fiction/Self-help book that I got interested is the
Interview with the Devil
I only got to listen on audio book in youtube
The concept of drifting and how humans make decision stuck in my head despite not being able to recall a line/sentence.
Drifting is the only word I can 100% recall.
I think I am on application stage coz i have been too fed up of always consuming nd nt seeing any benefits...now finally i m focusin on my goal and using the methods I learned from your videos.
I agree with him 100%. Starting is the hardest part, once you start you need to make a habit, then look up information. Information+habit will equal final success. I fell down the same rabbit hole and said when am I even going to start this. So I dove in head first. Already made mistakes but I am learning by reading and doing
Keep going beast
Huge respect. I recently got caught up in trying to find all the answers to become successful only to realize I’m wasting more time looking for “answers” and not doing what I gotta do lol
Nice video man. Lately, I’ve rly been enjoying ur vids
Thanks Michael
Hey Cole. Please guide me in this. I’ve been in PD books very deep. So what books or authors would you please recommend. If you can give me 2 to 3. Then I can figure out the rest too.
Thank you. More people need to hear this. Read a book you love, preferably a fictional one. You get a lot more out of it
Tomorrow is my 21st Birthday so I thought I should start reading some self help books. And I stumbled on this video. Up for advices. Subscribed 💯
i read some self improvement books, until i realized that the reason i read those book, not only to change my way of thinking, but my curiosity about people's way of thinking, i love listening to people back stories, or any problem they had with all of my attention, because it's a golden moment to learn something that haven't or wouldn't happened to me.
Knowledge without living and experiencing will never become wisdom.
I just started on Tuesday, and am in the consumption stage. Right now I'm trying to work on over coming a few addictions, being more consistent at the gym. But now the weekend is coming up and I dont know what to do aside from watching videos. I'm going to a friend's house to watch ufc but aside from that what else can I do?
A very good film, a few years ago I fell into the trap of self-development, absorbing all the self-development books and films that fell into my hands, but the effect was opposite to the intended one because the more I absorbed the knowledge, the more I became convinced that I don't know enough to start doing anything with my life, there are no shortcuts to achieve the goal, there is only one way to success and it is daily consistent thought-out actions (Process). Like it or not, you need to start working with the amount of knowledge you currently have and develop by acting and gaining knowledge during the process, surrounding yourself with people who have already achieved this success. To give a short example: I recently accepted a job as an operator in the largest and most modern company producing battery separators in Europe and probably the second in the world, I thought that I might not be able to cope because it is the latest technology, but I decided that I would give it 100% and as it turned out, after a month I was one of the best employees in the department, having no knowledge at the beginning and gaining it consistently every day at work. Success depends on how much you are willing to sacrifice and whether you are persistent enough to survive the process of becoming the person you ultimately want to become.
I do agree about not remembering most of the books I read, but when I watch videos on self help I retain more info maybe it’s just me tho
I literally just came to this revelation. I’m done reading self help books, lol because you think you’re doing something to improve yourself, but it’s absolutely worthless if you don’t apply what you read.. Go figure, lol. I went from that to reading depraved non- fiction and True Crime. I went off the deep end in other direction, lol.
I feel it’s cathartic reading depraved themes, of course, in moderation. The one I am finishing now that’s closest to “self help” is “People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them The Keys..” which is reviewed in high regard off Amazon.
Thanks bro, i guess now is my time to start over correctly 🙏🏽
I'm currently living with my parents and I disturb them all day by telling what I read everyday . I think unknowingly it is a great way to remember what you read. And now I’m currently about 80% through "Playbook to Millions by Grant Cardone. I have read a lot of entrepreneurial books and self improvement books, and this book is my absolute favorite. This book is extraordinary and really gets you to work extremely hard toward your goals in life and succeed at multiple different areas like career and relationships. This is an absolute must buy if you need a push to get you going in business or you want more out of life.
I spent 2 years reading self-help books and I had this sense for a while that I was being excessive with them. I read them every day expecting good results for change, but I would always go back to my old habits and ways of living. Now, I've been picky with what I choose to read for the mind. Each self-help book had different perspectives on how one should live life, and it puts me in a trap where I can't decide what my path is in life. It's really funny to me now because based on Marcus Aurelius's philosophy about avoiding a life of excessiveness, I realized I've been excessive with these self-help books on the shelf. I can't say these books are...useless because that's a little overexaggerated. It may benefit some people and not for others. They helped me get through some parts of my problems, but not all. If I didn't spend time reading a large amount, I could notice a better change in my life and avoid information overload. It makes more sense to read one book at a time and invest into its ideas first before moving on to the next one. Or I can read one self-help book that relates to me and read a fiction book just to balance out my ideas. RANGE by David Epstein, Laws of Human Nature/The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene, and technology books (simply teaching technology and not throwing in "SELF-HELP") help me form more reasonable ideas about living my life. I could be wrong, but I think the moral lesson about this topic is...choosing your information wisely and asking yourself if the information is CREDIBLE and RELIABLE for you to use in your life is something you need to think first ahead. Maybe...some of us want fast results, we want to change overnight, we want to get where we want to be (whether we think it's a week, a month, or a year); I am not sure because everyone has different reasons for reading these books; it's simply a thought. Based on Cole Hastings bias, it's a matter of taking notes of and applying what you learned from the material. Hopefully, my older brother finds out about this and avoids the trap, because he's been reading too many self-help books and he isn't applying most of what he learned in his life (not that much changed from him). Seeing his audible books filled with so many of them overwhelms me.
I am in the second stage . I ordered a first self help book yesterday 😂 to start reading books. After I saw this video I will slow down my progres and execute
I've gone through this video more than 3 times because it has so very valuable information for me and for my students... in other words.... I do trust in Self-Help books, since there are people behind a book being written... Press, research, Writers, etc... it is just the fact nobody tells you what to do with such information, which is actually the reason I love this video... in a way, you are telling us Self-help books are helpless, but if one listens carefully, that piece of advice on stage 3 comes up and wraps-up the idea.
I’ve read many self help books and realized I’ve been reading them like magazines, one after another and I almost always feel jaded because ive consumed so many in hopes of finding an author that moves me that now I may not even get through a whole book before I get bored with that one and pick up another one. Self help books can become addicting because they all offer “hope” of a better life “if only you changed your mindset” so you get psychologically conned before you’ve even opened the book because you’re given what sometimes turns out to be a false promise of enlightenment.
Your video is really thoughtful!
Before watching this video, I was thinking about the same thing and got a similar answer.
That if self help books really work ,then why doesn't everyone who reads it is successful?
I thought about it & also related it with my previous experiences and finally came to a conclusion that rarely anyone applies the thing in reality.
But it's not also the application too.
We should apply it regularly not just one week or two. We should be consistent with it
The thumbnail had me rolling!
this is a really good point lol im glad you posted this or else i def wouldve fallen deep into the rabbithole
Dude, you offer the GREATEST advice ever! Thank you bro!!!!!!!!!!!
Do you believe that it is more important to read a select few 10-15 times?
I still continue to read because... it’s still a bit of a challenge for me. I don’t fast read. I read just a few hours the good weeks. I take note at every chapters. I see it almost as work... more like a workout for the brain. First I choose the book I will read on the moment depending of where are my thoughts. And will use books as feed for my though, make them challenged.
For example during the first lockdown I binge read/view content about bodyweight workout because being at home full time was the dream for it and was thinking about it all the time. When I had the feeling of perfectly know what to do, I wasn’t thinking much about it. So I started to think that I was single since forever. So I started to read a book about the life of a French pick up artist. I read only half of it. The first weekend of unlockdown I get my first girl friend. Now I broke up with her but I constantly think about how I had no frame at all when I was with her. So I’m currently reading « no more mr nice guy »... and I’m only at half of it... and every chapters is like a punch in the face and a pressure to make change of thought and behaviors.
So I don’t feel I’m slacking when I read. It’s even a bit painful... Like I said :
Like a workout.
I have been working out ~5 days a week and now I read at the library with my little sister to help her, but now I want to improve my mind and personality (not just my body) can someone post some good books and or advice
As long as you have the mindset of how can I use this information or how can I apply this, you'll good. I'm bless that my personality operate this way. Lmao
It's the beginning to your sucess it's all mindset & self development its the gateway to all other sucess the whole point is to use the self help to walk towards action towards your goals