⚠️Signs That You're In Imminent Danger Of Relapsing on Drugs or Alcohol ⚠️

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  • čas přidán 8. 07. 2024
  • What types of things cause people to relapse? What is the person thinking before/during/after? What advice would you give someone who's in relapse? What should family members do if they are worried their loved one is about to relapse (or are already in relapse)? Should the person tell their family they had a relapse? Does a relapse mean you are starting over with recovery? Kyle from @SoberDogs answers all these questions and MORE...
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    Timestamps/Chapters
    0:00 Everything you need to know about relapse
    0:40 The Relapse Formula
    4:40 Does relapse mean you have to start over?
    6:24 Is it good to keep track of days sober?
    4:47 What should families do if someone relapses
    8:50 What do I need to do to get out of relapse?
    10:13 Do you have to tell people about the relapse?
    15:26 What should you say to someone who's had a relapse?
    18:53 What is a person thinking during a relapse?
    21:20 Should the family confront a person in relapse?
    25:40 How to get out of relapse mode
    28:00 What would have happened if your family didn't call you out?
    30:00 What really triggers relapse?
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Komentáře • 39

  • @PutTheShovelDown
    @PutTheShovelDown  Před 2 lety +4

    More on relapse with Kyle @Soberdogs: czcams.com/video/8EZLxgxHiWk/video.html

  • @Modernstoic1
    @Modernstoic1 Před 2 lety +5

    When depression and lack of spiritual fitness meets opportunity for using. 😖

  • @ambrosiawilt7401
    @ambrosiawilt7401 Před 2 lety +2

    Kyle is right, there doesn't have to be a traumatic event that occurs.I had four months off meth and no traumatic event occurred. I was taking my dog for a walk when I ran into a friend that I missed. He walked home with me and the rest is history. I call it a 3 day slip. I'm back to being clean, but I have to be very careful right now.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 2 lety

      I'm so impressed that you got back on track so quickly! Very impressive. Thank you for sharing that 🤩

  • @Seasidesalesfl123
    @Seasidesalesfl123 Před rokem +2

    Excellent video. Thank you Amber and Kyle for sharing your experience and wisdom.

  • @blondiez1981
    @blondiez1981 Před 2 lety +3

    I personally try to respond to loved ones relapse really calm and loving bc I’ve learned that when they relapse it’s day and day out self loathing and suicidal thoughts. What a beast these drugs are. After detox and back into recovery I sometimes get angry and sad and share that with them but it’s better to learn and grow smarter and more supportive.

  • @christinedebarros6597
    @christinedebarros6597 Před 2 lety +3

    It’s great you can be so honest

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 2 lety +2

      It's so nice to hear some one talk about these difficult issues in such a genuine way!

  • @jimmiegaskin7929
    @jimmiegaskin7929 Před 2 lety +2

    Thank you for sharing - I have been trying very hard to understand why my BF has relapsed so many times.

  • @blondiez1981
    @blondiez1981 Před 2 lety +5

    I love Sober Dog!!!!

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 2 lety +1

      Me too!

    • @bonnielangley7496
      @bonnielangley7496 Před 2 lety

      I do too. I just kept cheering for him. Then cried some too when he talked about his PO having a prior young person die.

    • @marekglover4113
      @marekglover4113 Před 2 lety

      @@PutTheShovelDown He's also gorgeous :)

  • @gddjwd
    @gddjwd Před rokem +1

    Mine says hes thinking drinking.. It's not full blown drunk binge but its enough. He gets ill for a few days from it but then hes ready for another drink after he starts feeling better.

  • @anthonyrossmaund3161
    @anthonyrossmaund3161 Před 2 lety +2

    Thanks!

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 2 lety

      Thank you Anthony! shoot me an email if you get a chance. There's something run by you. amber@hffrc.com

  • @gwillis01
    @gwillis01 Před 2 lety +4

    Ah yes. those fatal, self deceiving five words: "Just one indulgence won't hurt".

  • @gwillis01
    @gwillis01 Před 2 lety +2

    I am reminded of a Mark Twain quote: "You don't have to have a perfect memory when you tell the truth because you don't have to remember the cover story as well as the truth."

  • @nikabeautyqueensbag6725

    My addict claims to be in recovery but continues addictive emotional outbursts of anger and emotional abuse with me. I’ve excused it in the first few times as struggles with PAWS but now I’m starting to feel the outbursts are the addicts way of trying to push me away to give them a reason to use. The addict has also manipulated me to keep their addiction a lie, my failure was agreeing to keep this a secret because I was clueless to how bad the addiction really is. Going through my own recovery program has allowed me to see all of this, now I’m trying to find the resources to help me reverse these mistakes. TY

  • @gwillis01
    @gwillis01 Před 2 lety +3

    According to my friend Liz, the relapse starts in the brain when she starts thinking "How can I change things around so that no one will be around and no one will notice what I'm doing? How can I be sure I will be alone when I want to indulge a little bit just one more time?"

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 2 lety +2

      Totally agree. It's a return to addictive thinking 💯

  • @crobinson9165
    @crobinson9165 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks.

  • @starrebirth88
    @starrebirth88 Před 2 lety +1

    Hi Amber, i’ve been watching you since the beginning. I’ve separated with my husband because of a lot of his relapses. I thought the separation would actually give him huge willpower to stay clean but it didn’t. I still hope I could help him from afar.

    • @MissBe737
      @MissBe737 Před 2 lety +1

      Ugh. I'm going to move out until husband can stay clean for a year. What was your husband's drug of choice?

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 2 lety +1

      Hi Bright Star, so sorry you're going through this crumby situation 😓 It's not surprising to me that his drinking got worse when you left. I bet the flood gates are wide open 😓

    • @starrebirth88
      @starrebirth88 Před 2 lety

      Hi Sherie and Amber, no issues with alcohol at all. He has gambling addiction and I believe his drug of choice is meth. I am really not sure and familiar with these drugs. I know my ex keeps trying to be better but i just couldn’t help him anymore because it’s affecting my mental health soo much.. 😔i had to let go because our kids needs at least one healthy parent..

  • @ericagaitan6818
    @ericagaitan6818 Před 2 lety +2

    My AOL uses once a week. He can't shake off using it every week. He is a long term user. I have tried healthy boundaries, I am to the point of kicking him out but won't leave. Not sure how to deal with this. The most he has been sober is 17 days.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 2 lety

      The question that comes to my mind is ...Is it his plan to use once a week, or is he trying not to use but falls down about once a week?

    • @ericagaitan6818
      @ericagaitan6818 Před 2 lety

      I have thought of that and I do give him the benefit of the doubt but I lean more to where he tries to use it only once a week. He has used for over 20 years. When he was sober for 17 days he said that he does not feel right. My guess is that he is not used to feeling without his drug

  • @MissBe737
    @MissBe737 Před 2 lety +1

    What was your drug of choice?

  • @ritujangra6310
    @ritujangra6310 Před 2 lety +2

    Hie ,my husband (29)is heavily alcoholic.
    Due to this he is now heart patient.
    My child is 4 years
    Should I leave my husband? Or stay with him.

    • @september5671
      @september5671 Před 2 lety

      Tell him "It's Me and our child, or alcohol. You can't have both. So choose"

    • @ritujangra6310
      @ritujangra6310 Před 2 lety +1

      I have tried everything
      But daily new excuse.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 2 lety +1

      Hi Ritu, Here's a video I made about the topic of decided to stay or go: czcams.com/video/EE5D8U34cl4/video.html