Understanding Relapse From Every Angle- (How to stop addictive behaviors)

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  • What causes relapse, How to prevent relapse, and what to do if a relapse does occur. We will be exploring all these topics from the individual and the family perspectives so that you can put a stop to addictive behaviors once and for all! To learn more about prevention relapse, WATCH THIS NEXT: • Relapse Prevention For...
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  • @PutTheShovelDown
    @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety +3

    🙋‍♂️To learn more about relapse prevention, WATCH THIS NEXT: 👉 czcams.com/play/PLaaJWwIpP_zYGVn_ClPrHnBbUBmhCsAox.html

    • @tonimarroy9219
      @tonimarroy9219 Před 3 lety +2

      Thx for such great info!

    • @luisleonard8052
      @luisleonard8052 Před 2 lety

      you prolly dont give a shit but does any of you know of a trick to get back into an Instagram account??
      I somehow lost the account password. I appreciate any help you can offer me.

    • @zavierluciano2317
      @zavierluciano2317 Před 2 lety

      @Luis Leonard instablaster :)

    • @luisleonard8052
      @luisleonard8052 Před 2 lety

      @Zavier Luciano I really appreciate your reply. I found the site on google and im trying it out now.
      Seems to take quite some time so I will get back to you later when my account password hopefully is recovered.

    • @luisleonard8052
      @luisleonard8052 Před 2 lety

      @Zavier Luciano WTF IT ACTUALLY WORKED :O Literally got access to my ig account after ~ 40 mins of using the site.
      I had to pay 15 bucks but for sure worth the price :O
      Thanks so much you really help me out !

  • @nlj4657
    @nlj4657 Před rokem +7

    I had 8.5yrs of sobriety and relapsed. I’ve been out about 4.5yrs. I currently have 10 days of sobriety and I recently went back to AA program after several failed attempts of moderating and quitting on my own. I traced my relapse back to feeling like I no longer felt compatible with people in the program, I began feeling like I was missing out and thought maybe I was different (not a REAL alcoholic) since I had come into the program voluntarily before experiencing some of the destructive consequences others had experienced. I appreciate the tips on relapse prevention! Ps I’m a new follower and really appreciate your videos as I also have a son who is an addict who is severally addicted and I don’t know if he even has a bottom!! He’s lost his family, job, been to prison repeatedly, etc. I wish I had found a channel like this when he was a teenager!

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před rokem

      Hi NLJ, Welcome to our little community. So glad you're here. You've got great insight!

  • @anthonyrossmaund3161
    @anthonyrossmaund3161 Před 2 lety +12

    Back at square one. In trying to prevent a relapse while I get to swim through all these triggers. I'm really happy I can go back and watch and rewatch. Especially now that I'm struggling. Thanks so much for putting these out.

  • @AmandaGreigh
    @AmandaGreigh Před 3 lety +16

    I'm a faithful follower, and also in early recovery. I love the information you're sharing, its helping me out thru my recovery

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety +4

      Amanda Howie awwww, thank you so much for taking the time to share that. You warmed my heart for the whole day! 😍😀😊

    • @lesleymacdonald260
      @lesleymacdonald260 Před 3 lety +2

      Keep it up your trying that’s the hardest bit and try not get yourself down x

    • @Albert-zh6ps
      @Albert-zh6ps Před 11 měsíci

      All the best to you, I pray you get your life back.☺️

  • @kimberlyclemens4681
    @kimberlyclemens4681 Před rokem +4

    I have 8 years of sobriety on 4/19 and am now a CADC 1 I will be showing your video's in my groups at the treatment facility I work at. What I love about them is not only the information but the fact that they are the only videos that dont have triggering content!!!
    Thank you for doing these

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před rokem

      That's wonderful Kimberly! We need as many recovery soldiers as we can get🪖🪖🪖🪖 So glad you're out there spreading the message 🙌🏻

  • @peterhoare3754
    @peterhoare3754 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Wow. This really describes me perfectly. It’s the booze convincing me that I’m different, that I’m not really an alcoholic. Jeez. Richard Burton put it very well. “It’s like a boxing match you have to fight every day. He’s waiting for you every day and he’ll use every trick in the book to knock you out.” I was 7 years sober and thought I was “cured”.

  • @robinread6946
    @robinread6946 Před rokem +4

    My eldest son was sober from meth for 8 years after using 20 and has recently relapsed. He says he has been using 3 years, I feel so used. I was his biggest cheerleader. He was working as a addiction counselor and I was asking for his help with our youngest son who is a severe alcoholic. I feel like a fool. Ready to just give up and move away.

  • @byroncharles
    @byroncharles Před rokem +2

    the amount of vital information you give is the greatest

  • @chrisanderson2425
    @chrisanderson2425 Před 3 lety +5

    been having some ups and downs with my emotions and wasn’t dealing with them in the Healthiest way .. I’m gona stop procrastinating and do what needs to be done so thank you for your content

  • @SAMEntalhealth
    @SAMEntalhealth Před 9 měsíci +2

    45 days clean now. Had almost 3 years clean before, took me 32 days to take a suboxone, but I'm only taking the lowest doses to help some PAWS. Stomach pain and anxiety. But not enough to block cravings, i just have 0 desire to use anymore. I identified my traumas that were not in my forefront, blaming everything else but these traumas. I just can't numb it anymore i love my emotions. The sickness was also a trauma to me, surrender.... best way to start three changes

  • @sandrapetersen4003
    @sandrapetersen4003 Před rokem +2

    I’ve heard this all the time from my son. He just relapsed again.

  • @Amirah-sy5jn
    @Amirah-sy5jn Před 5 měsíci

    Great video !!!

  • @judithtota8432
    @judithtota8432 Před 3 lety +2

    I work in a Non-profit Co-occurring Disorder program. I’m looking for good materials to share with my clients. I like your down-to-earth style.

  • @sherrysharpe85
    @sherrysharpe85 Před 3 lety +1

    Watching from Connecticut. This speaks volumes of my husband who’s an addict .

  • @lesleymacdonald260
    @lesleymacdonald260 Před 3 lety +1

    Your right about saying I have done so good so I can have a wee bit x

  • @verup5957
    @verup5957 Před 2 lety +3

    A loved one relapsed recently and he says there's not root motive for why it happened. He just wanted to get high. Is it possible there's no real deep reason for what's causing it or they just don't want to dig deep?

  • @lauramaymurphy4105
    @lauramaymurphy4105 Před 3 lety +1

    I'm an alcoholic and your information is fantastic. Thank you ❤️

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety

      My pleasure Lauramay! So glad you liked it. Be sure and let me know if you ever think of a topic you'd like to request!

    • @lauramaymurphy4105
      @lauramaymurphy4105 Před 3 lety

      Could you please inform us all of the dangers of alcohol? I think it's an important subject. Thank you x

  • @vannamarie8430
    @vannamarie8430 Před 3 lety +5

    Staying sober is forcing me to cut off friends who drink... i relapsed a few days ago, and I am still in bed. I feel so gross, so upset with myself. Signed up for online therapy today, just trying to move in with my life in the healthiest way without support of family is very difficult.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety +2

      I'm impressed with your willingness to do what it takes to stay sober!

    • @ashleythompson8559
      @ashleythompson8559 Před 3 lety

      Hello Vanna! May I ask where you're receiving the online therapy?

  • @jonathanparry5471
    @jonathanparry5471 Před 3 lety +5

    I'm new just relapsed on alcohol, cocaine and kratom after 32 days 😔 was just starting to feel good as well. It started by watching football with my buddies who were drinking it's been 48 hours now off the drink n coke, flushed the kratom but still have a dose left. Sooo pissed off and so is my wife. Thanks for the videos. PS I'm from Scotland so football = soccer

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety +2

      Jonathan Parry hi Jonathan. Welcome to our little community. Even though you relapsed you’ve got good insight and you’re taking very good action steps!

  • @dh30628
    @dh30628 Před rokem +2

    It's scary for me as a parent of an alcoholic to hear that 'sometimes relapse just happens." Holy Moly. I want to see her have lasting victory. Please tell me it's possible.

  • @paulasuprenant6728
    @paulasuprenant6728 Před 3 lety

    I am trying to get clean.it is very hard.i hope this video helps my recovery.thanks.Happy Thanksgiving

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety

      Hey Paula, I see that you're trying to get ahead of your addiction, and that's awesome. Here's a link to get FREE access to our 30 day jump start video series. www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/30-day-jump-start

  • @andrewnisbet5883
    @andrewnisbet5883 Před 3 lety +1

    Hi I'm Andrew from scotland I'm drinking a bottle of whisky a day. I stop for a few days then Continue again I need help I'm listened to 3 of your videos and it's helping me in my thinking hope this helps me thank you

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety +1

      Hi Andrew from Scottland! Sometimes when people tell me they can't get past 2 or 3 days, it means they actually need some help with detox. Here's a video "How To Know If You Need Alcohol Detox": czcams.com/video/hTBrDNwL54o/video.html

  • @anthonyrossmaund3161
    @anthonyrossmaund3161 Před 3 lety

    I am a chronic relapse but what makes it hard to admit it is all the jail time. The last relapse i had i mixed meth with crack " very dumb". I was never so sure that i was gonna die that night. It was scary but I couldn't even call for medical help i was sure i should have gotten because i was afraid of doing more time in jail. So i didn't ask for help. Thanks for the tips on prevention of further relapse.

  • @jenniferlefever3163
    @jenniferlefever3163 Před 11 měsíci +1

    So I’ve heard different strategies from different counselors about whether you should take alcohol out of your house or not do it while the loved one is present. If alcohol sets off a drug addict and it’s been say a few years they’ve been clean, do you refuse them alcohol in your house, not let anyone at your party drink or let them make that decision?

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 11 měsíci

      Try this video 👉🏻 Important Do's and Don't For Helping Someone With A Drinking Problem
      czcams.com/users/livepW9W9Wgsqjg?feature=share

  • @rowanfrancis9011
    @rowanfrancis9011 Před 2 lety +1

    Dayv4:again said a prayer this morning , nearly drank but was stopped

  • @jennytaylor2751
    @jennytaylor2751 Před 3 lety +2

    As a family member do I confront them when I know they relapsed or are preparing to use or just wait for them to tell on themselves

  • @josemartinez5958
    @josemartinez5958 Před 2 lety +1

    Is there a way I can get a hold of you. This is my first time going through this and its a lot harder than I thought. I really like your way of explaining things and helping

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 2 lety +1

      Hi Jose, We do offer virtual consultation sessions, if that would be helpful. Here's a link to learn more about how that works. www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/consultations

    • @josemartinez5958
      @josemartinez5958 Před 2 lety +1

      Thank ma'am

  • @askpharmacisttish
    @askpharmacisttish Před 3 lety +3

    hey! thank you so much again for your amazing content.i had one last question. I know you shared this before, but is a license needed to open a sober home?

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety +1

      I'm sure there is some kind of license/certificate needed, but not anything like a counseling license. I'm sure the requirements vary by state.

    • @askpharmacisttish
      @askpharmacisttish Před 3 lety

      Put The Shovel Down thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️

  • @lw8140
    @lw8140 Před 3 lety +3

    Maybe its best if you go to treatment for yourself. But even if you are forced into it there is a chance you will take something positive from the time in treatment. Maybe something small.

  • @lorip6790
    @lorip6790 Před 3 lety +3

    My husband has used all 5 statements before in different stages. He knows it's killing him and hurting his loved ones. He refuses to get treatment.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety +1

      If he knows it's causing all those problems, then deep in his heart he has a desire to change. Find out what it is about treatment that he is worried about.

  • @DanielAlvarez-sl6yh
    @DanielAlvarez-sl6yh Před 2 lety +1

    Hi Nice

  • @cjgia4898
    @cjgia4898 Před 3 lety +1

    Omg! I said I had a bad day yesterday. I said, if their lips are moving they're lying! What I meant to say is....She effin relapsed! Has been using since the gvmt gave her some extra money. I was so fooled....yet again. I thought, after over 12 yrs of this BS, I would recognize it. I didn't. I'm learning a lot from your videos, but I and our entire family need more help.
    I started off using your technique, Amber. I did really well but she said something, I can't remember what, but it sent me and I went off like a rocket. I almost hit her. My fist was pulled back. My mom stopped me. I haven't been this angry for years. It scared me.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety +2

      It sounds like you're to your breaking point. It's okay, we've all been there. It's time to take some steps back and refuel. Take a break and then decide how you want to move forward.

    • @cjgia4898
      @cjgia4898 Před 3 lety +1

      @@PutTheShovelDown Thank you, Amber. You are right, I broke! I am saving money to take your whole course. Or maybe call Campbell or something. I'm not sure what my next step is, but it will be carefully, strategically planned and executed.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety +1

      Cj Gia hi CJ, you’re such a loyal engaged part of our community, If you’d like (or need) the online course, I’d like to gift it to you. Shoot me and email and I’ll get that done for you. amber@hffrc.com

    • @cjgia4898
      @cjgia4898 Před 3 lety

      @@PutTheShovelDown Do you know how much I love you? A lot! 😘❤🙏

  • @ltsHydra
    @ltsHydra Před 3 lety +1

    Everytime i get drunk now i cry reallllyyyy bad

  • @anekab5266
    @anekab5266 Před 3 lety +3

    Could you make another updated video on addicted and infidelity/cheating. I’m having a hard time. I’m in my 40’s. It’s hard.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety

      Sure Aneka, Is there a particular thing within that topic you'd like to hear about.

    • @anekab5266
      @anekab5266 Před 3 lety

      The validation. I think she was also on drugs. He lied to me about the drugs and cheating. I think it might be gaslighting; but his mother knows. He’s also hollers and screams at her. Why would this woman want to be # 2? Why would he accept that?

    • @anekab5266
      @anekab5266 Před 3 lety

      Help. There is no other vids on you tube about this. My heart is heavy.

    • @amiwhite5514
      @amiwhite5514 Před 3 lety

      I think they commonly cheat. It’s really unfair, I wouldn’t trust an addict.

  • @deannadeannahunt8179
    @deannadeannahunt8179 Před 3 lety +1

    Shame and guilt so profound

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety

      It truly is Deanna! Here's a video on self-forgiveness that may be helpful: czcams.com/video/fTAfVteWF3U/video.html

  • @laurieriek6444
    @laurieriek6444 Před rokem +1

    Daughter with alcohol abuse problem. Called out on it a year ago. Of course I now k ow that that was the wrong thing to do. All my advise feel on deaf ears and she hide it better.
    Now moved out with son. I can at times she’s drinking. I do t know how to talk to her about it? Or do I?

  • @lorrischauer2765
    @lorrischauer2765 Před 3 měsíci

    I used to manage a sober home. When someone relapses they will eventually be found out. Our disease is progressive.

  • @michelecrouse5284
    @michelecrouse5284 Před rokem

    yes yes yes

  • @sandimiller5187
    @sandimiller5187 Před 3 lety +1

    On replay

  • @andreatoliver3579
    @andreatoliver3579 Před rokem +1

    Can being overwhelmed bring on relapse?

  • @traceyrhoads5166
    @traceyrhoads5166 Před 3 lety +2

    I hear all the time, " I wouldnt use, if you didnt make me mad" or " I wouldnt want to use, if you kept me happy at home" yet he will pick a senseless argument, for a reason to leave, or do something he knows will upset me, to start an argument, again, an "excuse" to leave and use, this is a cycle every few days.

  • @michelecrouse5284
    @michelecrouse5284 Před rokem

    you make me i get that one .....

  • @katrinao5943
    @katrinao5943 Před 2 lety +2

    OK so my boyfriend was drinking vodka (with juice) until January, when he switched to beer. He hides it all from me. For whatever reason it seemed he could control beer much better than the vodka. Well, he just started a new job last week. He's a driver, usually drives trucks but is now driving passengers (very high end event transportation company). For five days, through yesterday, there wasn't any beer hidden in the house (a little in the fridge, but it's the hidden stuff that gets out of control). Then suddenly today I'm smelling juice and find he's drinking vodka again. And I saw him filling up his "travel mug" which is how he hides it in the open. I'm sure he plans to take this with him to work tomorrow. I'm terrified that he will become unemployed again and even more so that he will have an accident and hurt someone. I feel so lost and I don't know what to do.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 2 lety

      Sounds like he was trying to cut it back. It's part of the change process, although it usually doesn't work. It is a step toward change though.

    • @katrinao5943
      @katrinao5943 Před 2 lety

      @@PutTheShovelDown thanks, that's a good perspective, I need to remember this. I wish I knew what flipped the switch last week (back to vodka) but I don't suppose one can always figure that out or that it would make any difference anyway. There were times even when he was previously drinking vodka that there were signs he was trying to cut back - but now it's nothing but acceleration. Really making me feel lost and sad.

  • @syriangirl98
    @syriangirl98 Před 3 lety

    I’m new to your videos. I’m at a loss! I didn’t know my husband was a functioning alcoholic when we were dating. (There’s a lot I didn’t know) Earlier this year I kicked him out for being verbally abusive and he went into treatment himself. Unfortunately, he’s relapsed. He took a job 2 months ago that has him temporarily out of town (about 1.5 hours away) but he hasn’t come home since thanksgiving, not even Christmas. His texts are not nice. He used to say he missed us (I have 14 year old twin boys) he used to text all day. What do I do?! I know he needs inpatient treatment. That’s what he had wanted earlier this year.

    • @syriangirl98
      @syriangirl98 Před 3 lety

      Oh! And he doesn’t know that I’ve figured out he’s drinking. I don’t know how to approach him on this

  • @lesleymacdonald260
    @lesleymacdonald260 Před 3 lety +1

    I am like that when I think about heroin I really hate it and it in front of me most days just grow out off it and the hell of a life I had on it for
    Years on it but now with this coke

  • @nicoleskoglund7427
    @nicoleskoglund7427 Před 3 lety

    What if they are in the off and on pattern? And have tried AA and NA? Because I cut them off and kicked them out and then when I saw they were doing better I let them back in and now ever since on and off

  • @warriorofgrace7124
    @warriorofgrace7124 Před 3 lety +1

    What do I do if my man has the effits and is continually using. He took my phone so if he doesn't bring it back and sold it then he won't be allowed back..so sad but I can't take it. He has been gone for hours and please don't like or comment yet due to the face he will see in the other phone..I'm dealing with my son 8months old and can't log out of anything thug till I get phone minutes 😭 I been praying all day he never sold my phone...

  • @lesleymacdonald260
    @lesleymacdonald260 Před 3 lety

    I know because it’s so easy to relapsed meet someone who says I have a good bit

  • @lesleymacdonald260
    @lesleymacdonald260 Před 3 lety +2

    I have been clean from heroin for 8 years but in the last few months I have been taking crack does that mean I am a addicted to it xx

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety +2

      Hey Lesley, I can't say for sure, but I'd say it's super high risk. I don't know anyone who uses crack non-addictively.

  • @thetruthshallsetyoufree5092

    I'm addicted to attention. I keep hurting the ones I love the most. I have all the support anyone could wish for but the only conclusion is that I don't care. 😭

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety +1

      I love your Profile name!

    • @thelostwolf4832
      @thelostwolf4832 Před 3 lety +1

      You’re not alone.. I get you on this
      Start by being okay with that, don’t force it if you’re not feeling up to it, embrace it. I guess you’re closed off to life and everything

    • @thetruthshallsetyoufree5092
      @thetruthshallsetyoufree5092 Před 3 lety +2

      @@thelostwolf4832 Thanks for your reply. Fighting against one's true self makes life miserable. You're right about accepting what is. Accepting my anger, jealousy, sadness and dark nature is necessary to find truth. I do care.

    • @thelostwolf4832
      @thelostwolf4832 Před 3 lety +1

      Exactly mi amigo, there you go, you got this.

  • @michelecrouse5284
    @michelecrouse5284 Před rokem

    if person as mental health issues? I did not even see the sign

  • @baldersn4474
    @baldersn4474 Před rokem +1

    Do you have ADD too Amber ?

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před rokem

      Yep, I sure do! How could you tell ?😅🤣😆

    • @baldersn4474
      @baldersn4474 Před rokem

      @@PutTheShovelDown lol just you mentiobed it in thos vudeo and i remembet ypu mentioning it before..Think j told you before in the UK takes years to get diagnosed as an adult..Im 51 and undiagnosed...Very stressful in my younger days

  • @jpage1331
    @jpage1331 Před 3 lety +1

    What if I messed up already and put them out cause they messed up.. and they have the F it’s...? What now?

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety +2

      Hi Judy, It's okay to admit to the other person that you feel like you made a wrong decision (as long as you don't think they'll use it as a weapon against you).

  • @traceyrhoads5166
    @traceyrhoads5166 Před 3 lety +3

    I am guilty of freaking out, I'm sure I've made things worse, but yes the grown ass man comment is very familiar

  • @snowman495
    @snowman495 Před 3 lety +2

    I'm really worried about myself, my girl as been 3 months clean here three months clean there and now she's again 3 months clean and I just don't know if I can handle anymore lies or relapses like I think I'm gonna snap if she lies again and if she cheats again I feel real bad for myself cause I'm gonna absolutely lose it and I don't want to hurt anyone or goto jail, I'm a good man with no record or anything bad against me I just fell in love with a addict and didn't know and I'm pretty sure if she introduced her self as an addict I would of never gave her the time of day or entertained it further so it just happened and I'm just scared that things are goin to good and I won't allow myself to enjoy how amazing she has been and we have been, its driving me crazy like preparing my self for another lie and not being able to enjoy how far she's came, she went from and unemployed crack addict of like 2 years no job and not looking to working 6 days a week she's always on time she's always making sure I'm good mentally and preparing dinner for me she is also paying half for everything and she's nothing short of an amazing teammate right now but I'm to terrified to let my guard down for the 15th time and just be in the moment and enjoy because being in the moment was my down fall and I saw a princess not a drug addict I was indenile and very nieve maybe borderline arrogant to think that anyone that I do that much for would ever hurt me but I know how wrong I am now but I feel even worse not just enjoying who she is now

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 2 lety +3

      Hi Snowman, I know it seems like not getting our hopes up will protect us from disappointment, but it doesn't really work. You'll still be disappointed if she relapses, you're just making yourself miss out on the joy you could be having now. P.S. It's quite possible that she is a princess and an addict.

    • @esthercastillo4340
      @esthercastillo4340 Před 2 lety +1

      Prayers I’m in the same boat I’m married keep praying listening and applying Ambers videos they are life saying I just came across her videos 1 week ago …..Not gonna tell you it’s not hard it is always remember it’s a disease just like medical disease it’s takes time like a monster to heal!!Prayers my husband is dying now he needs a liver transplant and not on the list yet!!From doing the substance many many years!😭😭😞😢I’m keeping strong!For him!!

    • @snowman495
      @snowman495 Před 2 lety

      Thank you for your words they mean alot I just feel so alone because I don't want to put her and ours business out there and I don't want my friends and family to hate her or worry about me so I keep all of it bottled up and I act like a crazy person that I don't even recognize, this current relationship has made me feel like a totally different person and that only scares me

    • @snowman495
      @snowman495 Před 2 lety

      @@esthercastillo4340 thats tough to deal with and how is he holding up and how's the family mentally, I wish you guys all the strength to come together in this time and I'm very sorry you guys are all going thru that

    • @baldersn4474
      @baldersn4474 Před rokem +1

      Stop being codependent...Work on yourself , get therapy and iver time yiu wont choose these type of partbers anymore..She sounds Bordeline , you cant save or fix her either...Get out and work on yourself..

  • @kevint6560
    @kevint6560 Před 2 lety +1

    new . 1 month sober

  • @lw8140
    @lw8140 Před 3 lety +2

    My bf says the same thing, the 'i am different'. He says 'i am not your mother, I will not get cirrhosis'. Infuriating and not logical.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety +3

      Denial is still baffling to me even though I've seen it a million times

    • @lw8140
      @lw8140 Před 3 lety +1

      @@PutTheShovelDown I told him he must have a magical liver.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 lety +1

      L W you crack my up, LW!

  • @debmonticello2981
    @debmonticello2981 Před 2 lety +1

    Replay

  • @katramos5843
    @katramos5843 Před 3 lety

    Im so hurt. Im confused. Don't know what to do anymore.. My boyfriend is back to black again. After almost 9mos of not using due to the passing of both of his parents this yr. 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

  • @jannetteortiz5508
    @jannetteortiz5508 Před 3 lety +1

    So gross. Ok...i won't eat nuggets anymore.

  • @dorariggs3473
    @dorariggs3473 Před 3 lety

    🐓... 😳 ... 🤢