I met and married while still in my teens. I explained it to my wife like this. "Women don't understand men's language. They say you look nice, it means I want sex. They say you did a good job, it means I want sex. They say we can be friends, it means I'm patiently waiting to have sex." There is almost NEVER a situation where a man is not willing to have sex if offered.
@@PayNoTax-GetNoVote You've obviously never watched any social experiments when hot girls go around asking random guys to hook up. Most of them say no, by the way.
In 3 minutes, you just prefectly summed up how the friendzone works, _with_ practical demonstrations! Step 1: A pretty girl who is used to guys being nice to her doesn't put much thought into the guy's intentions Step 2: Guy decides to play the long game That being said I do believe guys and girls can be friends, just not close friends. More like the kind of friends that are part of the group and you just get along well when you happen to see each other.
That long game shit can be dangerous with some relationships too. That can turn into a cheating or monkey-branch relationship scenario with tumultuous relationships or fickle partners.
@@ShinoBells Absolutely, there's a reason my generation came up with the word "simp". It's not a positive word, because the friendzone is not a positive place to be in
@@Nikola-vs6fdThat's why they didn't say men and women can't be brothers and sisters. And in that case, there's a kind of mental automation that makes it impossible and prevents the physical sexual attraction. Because 'you're a or like a sister to me' But for friends, that attraction can't be prevented or removed.
My (now ex) husband has a close female friend and I never felt threatened by her. They were friends long before we met and he considered her to be “one of the boys” so he didn’t consider her to be a potential date. She is attractive and had no problem attracting men but my ex just wasn’t into her like that. I figured that they’d known each other for so long that if they were going to hook up, it would have already happened. ETA that we are not together for many reasons but she is not one of them.
ladydontekno Right??? All these people who can’t be just friends with the opposite sex are kinda silly. I’m friends with a lot of guys and they don’t have crushes on me. They know I’m taken and view me as a sister.
Lightbringer That’s so stupid. I have plenty male friends who don’t have sexual interest in me. It’s called being friends because we are ride or dies, family. Something you should learn sometime. We are not all slaves to our sexual urges like you.
The emphasis on the phrase: "just friends" means that the interviewer was specifically asking about platonic friendships... Not "romantic friends" if that means anything...
@@leondarcy7367nah it does. Especially when the guy knows several girls, there are bound to be some that dont immediately make you want to enter into a relationship with them
@@MR-nl8xr It's literally their survival tactic and baked into their genes. It's like asking why a car salesman won't tell you how shitty his cars are.
This is so not true. I'm male and most of my closest friends are female... I am not attracted to any of them though. I've been clear right from the start with girls I'm into so they know how I feel. I can also be just friends with a girl I am attracted to. I think the guys in this video indicated the opposite because of cultural influence. It's ridiculous that I have to say this, but men don't want to do the sideways hula with every woman they see.
Yeah men are ballsy enough to tell you what they think to your face. Meanwhile when the women were finally about to admit the truth they turn and walk away hahaha
@@thetrax3482 I have a strong feeling women DO get this, but they also understand that they can manipulate men into doing various things for them, so they act like it's all about friendship. It's like a person caught speeding... Very few people out there will admit to speeding... it always turns into "WHATT???? I was speeding????? Oh I'm so sorry I didn't realize" People when caught in an uncomfortable situation try to nope out with an excuse, and playing dumb is usually the first one people go to because it's easy. There's a reason that girl just walked away instead of saying anything. She knew the facade was over in that moment.
This question was answered by Billy Crystal to Meg Ryan in “when Harry met Sally” way back in 1989. The amount of truth in that movie is why it’s so great.
So I had moved across country, leaving a girlfriend behind and wasn't looking for a new one. Hanging out with a group of friends in the new state at first. Then there was three of us, 2 guys one girl. One day the other guy didn't show and the girl and I talked and hung out for hours. We became better friends than either one of us had ever had. We were married in 2yrs. Been married 31. Become friends first, it really matters for longevity.
You know, maybe a little more info would help. She "wasn't my type". We had similar interests and intellects. We have always had a better conversation than I've had with others. When we fell in love, it helped that we were both virgin. Take certain things seriously when making a decision, then honor it.
@@michaeldupree2502 I see. To be able to have conversations is such an important thing and I think it's special. Could you elaborate about the virgin part, I didn't quite get what you meant? How did it help?
@thereckon3592 sex should not be taken lightly. It's meant to connect a couple on a spiritual level. Learning to make love takes patience and consideration for each other. And practice makes perfect. I think some treat it as a meaningless thing. You know, " sex,drugs and rock and roll". Makes it less special.
The dude spitting facts while eating the sandwich is philosophical gold. He doesn't bother to stop eating because the answer to the question is so self-evident it needs no pause for reflection.
What planet are these kids from. How have these guys gone through life believing that guys have absolutely no control over their emotions and if you attracted to a girl you just completely caveman it and could not possibly become anything other than a object for sexual gratification. Are these kids real?
@KingOfShenaniganthia it's possible but what's the likelihood of it? Guys need sex like women need emotional intimacy. It's make sense that it would be harder for a guy to be friends with a girl than a girl to be friends with a guy. He gives her the emotional intimacy she needs by just being her friend. A girl would have to be MORE than just a friend to give him what he wants. See how that works?
Its interesting seeing this video pop up in my recommendations years later, and to see so many people responding recently agreeing. Im in college right now and I have three friends that are girls that I'd never date. Not because they arent physically attractive, but their views on relationships are really unattractive to me. As friends we can talk and laugh about whatever but we just wouldn't mix romantically. That being said, I have female friends like this are really hard to find.
I generally agree with this video. Although I do think that in very rare cases, men and women can be friends. For example, the guy doesn't want to bang her because she's ugly and he's able to easily attract prettier girls. And she doesn't want to bang him because she's very picky and even unattractive women can bed pretty attractive guys nowadays. Alternatively, one or both of them already are in very fulfilling relationships already.
@@lightworker2956 I had a female best friend at work where it was genuine friendship. She was around 2 years older than me, although normally it doesn't matter much; but in our case mentally she was much more mature compared to me, which is probably why I never felt attracted towards her because we weren't at the same maturity level. She used to help me out A LOT at stuff that stuff I was bad at like social interactions and she spoke really confidently to her superiors and encouraged me to do the same. Which is why I felt like she's more like a big sister to me than anything else because of how she helped me like a caring big sis. Although we never said this to each other I think it was mutually same from both sides. Besides, she was already in a committed relationship and it never made me feel jealous or threatened. Tho I agree 90% of the time when I am talking to a girl, I hope to date her but this was one of the times I didn't.
Incorrect. Men and women can be friends. I have female friends. We're all heterosexual. We don't see each other as a pair or do anything romantic, sexual, but we connect very well because we have a lot in common. We hang out, watch movies, play video games together, share memes and go to restaurants or shopping even sometimes when we feel extra-social. This includes my ex's. Some of my female ex's are also my friends. People also believe every relationship has to end in a toxic way, or involve some kind of avoidance in the future. I had ex's like that and what I've learned, is that this happens to desperate people who have little to no standards. They don't understand themselves much. These are manchildren and whores who just want almost any relationship or just want to get into as many skirts as possible. Be yourself, be down to earth, you'll have opposite sex friends.
@@j99044 Except having a man and woman who aren't attracted to one another but enjoy each other's company is not a "very rare" occurrence. Going to a college and asking the attractive girls if they have guys they keep as friends who'd want to be with them is far from establishing a universal truth.
Of course, they are student and young people who work/study/hang out together, so the pattern is what you described But childhood friends, neighbors, friends of the family, etc. are very different things. For example I often see the wife of my best friend and there's like nothing, or the sister of another friend. Same for childhood friends or friends who are like 10-30 years older than me.
Nothing wrong with being physically attracted to the opposite gender! That’s natural and normal but that doesn’t stop us from going beyond those feelings and being able to be someone’s friend and caring for them! To think differently would be shallow! Maybe those guys opinions about women will change as they grow older and mature! There is great benefit to guys and gals being just friends with each other! Friendship is beautiful!
@@charmingmagican9821 ikr, the vid got recommended to me and i had to wade through so many comments to get here. attraction isnt mutually exclusive from friendship, the fact that all these men are acting like we're brutes who cant move past attraction and inevitably always default to trying to fuck everything with holes just makes me sad. its the exact rhetoric that manhaters use to describe men, sex fiends unable to move past constant urges.
We were friends with a girl in high school that none of us wanted to have sex with. Not because she wasn’t drop-dead gorgeous, but because she was so incredibly innocent and childlike. It’s weird, because all of us just wanted to protect her! She never dated anyone either. After high school, we found out that she started dating some church guy, who looked incredibly virginal. We figured they were perfect together.
Yes, we can be just friends. But status of relationship can always change :-) it what women mean by yes, and men mean by no. But they mean the same thing.
I don't think you can reach a conclusion just based on what these people said. As a guy, my really close friends are all girls and i have never seen them as a potential romantic partner, i like another woman, and i think men and women can be friends if they are mature enough, and not desperate for a romantic partner. It's not that hard, and believe me, relationships feel way better when you stop being desperate for sex and couple love
You are not truly single if you have a stated singular target of interest that you believe you will actually be with. That is why courting as a process exists. If you said anything other than what you just did, you would have effectively assured the majority of people that you are promiscuous and untrustworthy. Also, it has less to do with maturity, but more to do with availability, willingness, and cultural upbringing. A really ugly dude is just as willing, but there is no availability. Thus there is no sex. Does that make him mature somehow? A person who has no sex drive could be swarmed by nude French women on the beach. If he is not willing due to his condition, no sex, still not maturity. A married man is sealed into an agreement of Monogamy. Does it make him mature to do what he's been told to do his whole life and not screw other women (cultural upbringing)? My dog does what it's told, is that mature of it even though it's been trained it's whole life to behave that way? Still no. Maturity is a level of psychological functioning and physical development that almost totally stops after physical maturation is complete. After that it is called savvy and wisdom. Now to the first and more interesting part. You can reach a conclusion based on what these people said. It just isn't whether or not men and women can be friends. The conclusion you can reach here is, men will on average be more honest about the POTENTIAL of intimacy between them and attractive members of the opposite gender they socialize with. Men on average realize that yes, friendship is friendship, but if you are a man and she is a woman and you are both attractive and single. There will always be room inside you to bump those uglies, if given the chance and right circumstances. Making "being single friends", as a static long term platonic state with no change not really true. Which is the real thing being questioned. The majority of those men didn't say that they wouldn't be their friend. they only admitted to their own proclivities as humans to want and reciprocate overt sexual gestures and offers from attractive members of the opposite gender. Women seem to have a proclivity to deny reality at first, but if you twist their arm, even they know it's true, but dislike or blame the men for it even though they facilitate that environment just as much as the men do. That's my TED talk.
“When Harry met Sally” is the clearest explanation about having friendship between male and female. But in friendship age and timing will play a pivotal role. When you’re a kid it is possible to have a friendship between a boy and a girl, as there is no real sex drive yet and eventually the relationship develops like between brother and sister. That relationship can be carried over into old age. When you’re a youth, when starting a friendship, it is a challenge of impossibility. The hormone pressure is just too high to be ignored when you really like each other. And a good friendship is a good base for a romantic relationship, as trust is there and deep sympathy for each other. When you’re older and the sex-drive has worn off when you meet each other, then a friendship is possible because then other things count.
You can TOTALLY be friends. My best friend in college was a girl. We have 5 kids now. Its been updated to 5 kids since I made this comment a couple of years ago. The friendship continues.
Its an interesting premise. Foremost we have to appreciate the elements in the experiment. Lets be real, this is a library, rife with up-and-comers, socialites, suburbanites....He aimed at just the right place with the right chronology of questions. These are light, easy, friendly, more mature-than-not adults. It is largely indicative of social groups and the sub-strata of supressed feelings being examined a bit critically. Ask people in their forties and youd actually get even more cryptic answers!
I wouldn't say it's complicated. Cavemen want to bang everything and will do anything they get a sniff of. That's desperate men with no respect for women. I have plenty of friends who are women. Not once would I ever get with them, even if they said "please do me". They ain't gross or fat, they're good looking but I just see them as a friend, like I do with men. I wouldn't bang them. Again, it's a lack of respect for the other gender, that you'd want to get with them and not respect your friendship. To me, that sounds predatory to a point because you're waiting by for that moment of weakness in a woman, who confides something or has something bad happen and if they come on to you, you'd do them but if a guy does it, would you do them as well?! Of course not. Honestly, this is very simple and any man who wants to bang their "friends", are just sick and need to go cry in their basements.
@@mbloom2275 Honestly, and this isn't going to sound good, it's because I know what a man's intention is for befriending a woman most of the time. And in today's world of instant gratification, it realistically only takes one moderate slip up for one of her guy friends to get his wish. And that goes for men too. We (human beings in general) have gotten so used to instant gratification, that all it takes for your significant other to step out and cheat is an argument or a fit of jealousy or whatever. I understand that there are people out there who would never think to do something like that to their significant other, but the reality is that those individuals are very few and far between, and they're only getting more and more rare as we get more and more used to the idea of instant gratification. I just personally wouldn't take the risk.
We can be. I have male and female friends since over a decade. No we dont want to get in each other pants. Mature people wont dissolve great friendships for insecure people.
See this is a good example. If ur bi does that mean you have no friends? I hope u were being sarcastic. But I really think even if it’s one sided and one person likes the other as long as u act the part u can get all the benefits of a real friendship regardless. Just because 2 people that could fuck vs 2 people that wouldn’t have different kinds of friend ship doesn’t make it invalid. I have guy friends I know wud with me but we dont.. ever. And I call that a friendship. Like sorry if other people don’t but they make it wayyy too complicated with the would you’d? And ifs and buts. Like srsly
@@emilytustin4540 Exactly. Although I think being bi just gives you a different perspective. I'm bi and I can be completely platonically friends with men and women. With my friends who are straight guys, it's more likely they'll have a little bit of a thing for me (I'm a woman). But my bi friends? hasn't been a problem. I think heterosexuality just makes it harder for people to get over that already existing barrier between the sexes. It's like they have a bit of a fetishization of the entire gender, since it's the only one they're attracted to. For me, nobody gets special points just for being a man or woman so I don't have an expectation of something more.
There needs to be level of maturity and respect for the person along with you genuinely valuing their company well enough that you decided to keep them around and remain friends even after accepting they'll will be no romantic nor sexual encounters, why ? because you see the person as more than just a potential love interest. Really how is this so hard to understand
When I was a little kid my mom would babysit the girl from across the street and we would always have lil play dates. To this day 20+ years later we still talk, and there has never been any feelings between either of us, and I think the reason it works like that is because we were basically raised as siblings. Our relationship is pretty much the same as I have with my other siblings where we don’t talk or see each other super often, but we both know we have each other’s backs no matter what. So yeah that’s the only way I know of for men and women to actually just be friends.
no women said: yes we can be *JUST* friends but also have feelings. But we'd still be *just* friends... because if i have no feelings then we are just friends regardless of what other person feels..
Labos222 good thing about generalizations is that its automatically indicates there's outliers... if the vast majority of men said no and vast majority of girls said yes then theres no real need to show anomalies, because theyre anomalies
+Red. You dont get it. If 90% of Women said "no", but I only showed the 10% of them that said "yes", just making sure I asked enough people so that the 10% would be enough for the whole video. I wouldnt be showing reality, but a manipulated one. You talking about "anomalies" ironically broadcasts that you most likely fall for such manipulations. Example: If I have an interview with cameras filming both you and me. During the interview I ask you several questions, but two of them are with alternative motives. One very negative, that you obviously say no to and a very easy and none controversial one that you obviously say yes to. Now, in editing, I show the introduction and back and forth between my and your face, but when I ask my controversial question. I show the footage of your face watching me ask that question, but when "you" respond I show my own face watching you. However your real response is muted and i have added in the "yes" instead. Making it seem like you were for the very controversial thing and removing peoples ability to see that your lips are not in sync with what you are actually saying because of a simple editing trick. Tricks like this are easy to spot for people that know what to look for. Others are less obvious, but you would most likely be fooled by the above... In short, your assessment isnt a wise one.
Pato Niilista But isn’t the whole purpose of people thinking men and women can’t be friends cause one or the other might catch feelings? That’s the same case for people of the same sex who are into both genders... otherwise, it just sounds like you’re saying guys and girls can’t be friends only cause their parts don’t match.
I've been friends with women and it starts off as just friends but it always eventually led to us getting together. Some were really cool, I could spend all day several days a week chilling with them and we'd just be vibing, but yeah, always ended up becoming something more.
you can be friends with your spouse. in any other scenerio the guy either wants to be more than friends or they are actually an aquaintance you are calling a friend, but you are not that close
@Ironstar I'm sure some do turn into simps. Some will start working out, and eating right. Some will also go into a field that makes them lots of money. Some guys who are rejected just go on like that, and think nothing good is going to happen or become doormats. Other guys use it as fuel to change their lot in life. It just depends on the guy.
Male friends and female friends provide different types of friendship and that’s why you require both. You can only know that if you’ve had both male and female friends.
This was from the time before Instagram and the attention economy for visual attention became a thing and beauty became an arms race. Just facebook, text-only twitter and maybe myspace.
no subscribe it's cuckery my boi . Subtle but cuckery none the less. You leave that shit and wait for her to come to her senses or split nonetheless from a dry pointless relationship lmao
no subscribe yah its sort of a forced friendship where the girl is friendly in the sense that she doesnt wanna step on your feelings or maybe, maybe the guy is so ambiguous with his feelings that thr girl litterally just thinks its just a friend thing. Eitherway the dudes suffering
it's usually the girl who dosint want to hurt his feelings- because the guy in question seems sensitive thus ending any further REAL relationship with awkwardness.. a girl will usually give a guy a chance but if he's just playing the nice guy you can forget a woman coming to you for protection and support.. mr sensitive dosint get laid he's just one of the girls to her lol.
The fuck you all on about you can be friends with a woman and not want something from her like what, are you stupid nice guys that want something back or something?
It's not about being entitled to anything. It's not about being rejected, If she has nothing to benefit me for my time, We are both wasting our time. Guys have similar interests thus females and men tend to share fewer similarities as of the natural cycle of our lives.. if you're fine being "that" guy who only hangs out with girls or is feeding a girls ego but cucking himself feel free. Men know what they are there for, boys like to play with everyone.
I like how the women say yes quickly without thinking about it but once you start talking to them about it they realize they can’t. Guys were already thinking about the question and said no. Then I like how he told the girl it’s one sided friendship. This is a great video
@@ChrisJones-ek2gm lmao 🤣 yet 99% of the top 1% is still males. Women only get into that club by getting divorced most of the time. The innovation field is still dominated by males. The infrastructure field is still dominated by males. Only high paying field females dominate is onlyfans which basically is objectifying themselves for male entertainment 🤦
Why? Why is it a negative to be platonic friends?? Why a moment of silence. Get off porn, stop masterbating its fucking with your minds. Has yall thinking about sex all the time. If you switched it an it was a guy saying "all my friends are girls" it wouldn't be ohh a moment of silence for the girls. A lot of women don't masterbate or watch porn and I honestly think that's why we are more clear headed and focused on other more important things.
@Alex You're absolutely right, it seems as though a lot of men today view sex as the only goal and friendship is something to be avoided. I genuinely can't fathom thinking that way, there is so much more to life and to individuals than whether or not you desire them.
@@eyexan6021 if you're a guy and all you have is female friends then there's a 100% chance you're gay. If you're a girl and you have both female and male friends, then I don't really care but I will keep an eye out for the guys that she calls "friends".
I used to have a best male friend all my highschool and university years. He never tried to become my boyfriend. Him and my husband are getting along well today!!! He is a priest now and we are still in touch although he lives in the monastery. This is 100% true story.
@@pianoandguitarlover2773 what?? Yeah in a few cases but most men are rapists aka most rapists are men, that means your claims are coming from your head and not observations from of the world. Grow up child women are often calm headed and execute anger when they find it necessary, men well aggression is their daily language according to what most men claim. In simple words, your point is incorrect.
@@whyareyouexisting7285 Funny how a little girl with a cartoon moniker suggests that someone else is immature and should grow up. You project quite well.
@@whyareyouexisting7285 Is that the only response you're capable of? What??? As if adding extra question marks somehow makes your dumb ass more important? It doesn't. Saying most men are rapists shows what a POS you truly are.... especially when statistics prove you both wrong and ignorant.
+ILoveMedia x22 The messiest person I know is a man. I've seen my male family members gossip. I've also seen guys pull the puppet strings and start drama with a group of girls. Most male drama traces back to guys and bruised egos. Most girl drama traces back to a guy.
+Jeremy Honeycutt Most girl drama is over a guy that two or more of the girls like. I've seen it happen before. I've seen men manipulate drama behind the scenes.
Men are better at throwing the rock and hiding their hand. Girls however are more obvious. Makes sense because women talk more on average. So they might express their feelings, while the guys are just sitting there and causing drama quietly.
Jake Mitch Those same women can manipulate guys lmao. What does a guy benefit from a woman. Nothing but sex. What does a woman gain from a man. Free stuff and attention.
Bonk A Donk What type of people have you been hanging out with... Being friends or genuine friends with someone you shouldn't be thinking 'what can I gain from this person?' That's a bit selfish. Friendship means both party getting attention and platonic love whether it's boy boy, girl girl or boy girl.
The question that comes to mind for me is, do men really just have zero standards whatsoever if they are into every women they know (which this video implies)
When ppl marry they drop their friends of the opposite sex. The women's male friends were always just orbiters being used by her hoping it's lead to him fucking her and the man WAS the orbiter to his female friends.
@@brendanvanbiljon3861 did you see her face? The 'WTF as if" face. It must nice fighting off attention so much that you get pissed when someone is attracted to you.
@@SnerMerNer Nah man look at her face the whole interaction. 1. "Would you hook up?" - Her face turns stern in anticipation of the answer. 2. "Totally, look at her", and starts laughing - She roles her eyes thinking he's not serious and being sarcastic. 3. "Don't be sarcastic, I need the truth" - she holds her breath. 4. "Ok that's perfect, cut cut" - loudly exhale and body turns less tense. She's most probably in love with him, but doesn't think he's in love with her. She equates "hooking up" with love. That's why she actually roles her eyes; "whatever, he doesn't love me like I do him". She got tense because the interview for her was "would he love me" instead of "would he hookup with me". But yeah, I've overanalyze this shit. Good way to start my day.
@@brendanvanbiljon3861 They're just friends. That question jeopardized that which is why she was so tense. Also, 2:18 wasn't a sigh of relief, it was an awkward, forced laugh. It's optimistic to think cute girls secretly have feelings for you when you're just their friend. Trust me, if she were interested, she would have let him know way before they had an established friendship.
You mean people who consider people they have coffee with (in a group once every 3 months) to be "friends" in order to feel better about not having any real friends?
shoulda interviewed me. i'm a guy, and there was this girl that i was absolutely NEVER attracted to. and we're really good friends. she had that emo depression bs in highschool and at some point, my dumb ass even thought of lying to her that i like her, so she would share with me her problems, but i couldn't get myself to lie about it. at no point did i feel any attraction to her, not once.
I love how all the girls say they can be friends but the guys are like nahhh. This video is pretty much unnecessary for guys cause we already know the answer.
I wish your comment was more visible. It's unfortunately a lesson that boys don't learn until they're men and not all men learn it. I could have saved myself a lot of time and trouble growing up. I could have been finding the girls who actually wanted me instead of "attending" the girls I wanted but who did not want me in return.
I have a guy friend and we’ve confirmed to each other that we don’t like each other but it’s still awkward when we hang out, like we might as well be dating. So what is that??😭
I'll probably get in trouble for saying this... But if you think of men as a superstore (that NEEDS to sell its goods) and women as custome- I am sorry for my sins, I will not post another CZcams Comment for 3 days as my punishment.
Ive never understood this and probably never will. Its easy to be just friends and its really a maturity thing. If you dont want to be just friends then say something or move on why stay around then? Having friends of the opposite sex is great, atop having feelings for every single person or falling for lust. Thats how i see it at least.
- General DAVE
- admiral TAYLOR
- field Marshall TREVOR
- Lieutenant BOBBY
Their sacrifice will not be forgotten.
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Hol' up, how come they're all general officers *except* for Bobby? Why's he gotta be the junior officer, and an entry grade one at that too?
@@physical_insanity lollz
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"Because the physical attraction , It's not possible"
- The guy with a sandwich
@MSA3D A YOURE DARN RIGHT
This is why I can't be friends with sandwiches. Because of the ... physical attraction.
How many more idiots will repost that same comment?
and if they're not actractive?
@@domgast5594 maybe they can be friends
This kind of content was way ahead of its time.
Yep
Dating is as old as rocks ;)
It was streets ahead.
@@Untilitpases😂
Why?
So glad I got randomly recommended this old vid. This should be a classic if it isn’t already.
Oh it is
This should be thought in school
Same lmao. I hadn’t seen this thing in YEARS
The fact that all the women said yes and the men said no explains why guys feel uncomfortable with their girlfriends having a male "bestie".
I met and married while still in my teens. I explained it to my wife like this. "Women don't understand men's language. They say you look nice, it means I want sex. They say you did a good job, it means I want sex. They say we can be friends, it means I'm patiently waiting to have sex." There is almost NEVER a situation where a man is not willing to have sex if offered.
@@PayNoTax-GetNoVote 👍👍👍
@@PayNoTax-GetNoVote Wait then does that mean men can't be raped? Because a man always wants sex no matter the circumstance?
@@PayNoTax-GetNoVote You've obviously never watched any social experiments when hot girls go around asking random guys to hook up. Most of them say no, by the way.
@hgfd Who would say no to 100k dollars?! I get saying no to sex; as you don't know them, they could have an STD, but free money is free money.
A moment of silence for my guys: Dave, Trevor, Taylor and Bobby.
You made my day sir.
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In 3 minutes, you just prefectly summed up how the friendzone works, _with_ practical demonstrations!
Step 1: A pretty girl who is used to guys being nice to her doesn't put much thought into the guy's intentions
Step 2: Guy decides to play the long game
That being said I do believe guys and girls can be friends, just not close friends. More like the kind of friends that are part of the group and you just get along well when you happen to see each other.
That long game shit can be dangerous with some relationships too. That can turn into a cheating or monkey-branch relationship scenario with tumultuous relationships or fickle partners.
@@ShinoBells Absolutely, there's a reason my generation came up with the word "simp". It's not a positive word, because the friendzone is not a positive place to be in
that's called acquaintance, not friend
@@LoveCoffee123That's what I've been thinking the whole video. Acquaintances yes, friends no.
@@taqie1018 So we're just going to speak for the entire male population?
pure quality no ads no trash thank you for the valuable 2:58 minutes
I mean it's pretty incorrect, it's like saying my sister can't be just my sister because men are attracted to women,very very dumb logic
@@Nikola-vs6fdThat's why they didn't say men and women can't be brothers and sisters. And in that case, there's a kind of mental automation that makes it impossible and prevents the physical sexual attraction. Because 'you're a or like a sister to me' But for friends, that attraction can't be prevented or removed.
Every women will say yes. Until her boyfriend says he has a female close friend.
My (now ex) husband has a close female friend and I never felt threatened by her. They were friends long before we met and he considered her to be “one of the boys” so he didn’t consider her to be a potential date. She is attractive and had no problem attracting men but my ex just wasn’t into her like that. I figured that they’d known each other for so long that if they were going to hook up, it would have already happened.
ETA that we are not together for many reasons but she is not one of them.
@@ladydontekno well. U are probably one in a million.
Farai Musengi nah, it’s just called “being mature”.
ladydontekno Right??? All these people who can’t be just friends with the opposite sex are kinda silly. I’m friends with a lot of guys and they don’t have crushes on me. They know I’m taken and view me as a sister.
Lightbringer That’s so stupid. I have plenty male friends who don’t have sexual interest in me. It’s called being friends because we are ride or dies, family. Something you should learn sometime. We are not all slaves to our sexual urges like you.
A minute of silence for all of those men who were named.
metalsabatico
RIP Dave
RIP Trevor
RIP Taylor
RIP Bobby
Cheshire CAT Scan RIP manginas
Rip
They are all dating someone though... You're assuming a ton of shit
The fuck.
Friendship can't be confused with relationship. Romantic can't be confused with platonic.
The emphasis on the phrase: "just friends" means that the interviewer was specifically asking about platonic friendships... Not "romantic friends" if that means anything...
For Some, confusion is Exactly what relationships are... Definitions are Crucial, Yet foregone (i.e., assumed).
Men and women can be JUST friends ONLY if the man has zero physical or sexual attraction towards her.
which never seems to happen ?!
@@leondarcy7367 have you never heard of gay best friends? sag mal wohnst du hinterm mond was los mit dir
I agree, the problem is when the guy isn't attracted to the girl she is usually attracted to him
@@leondarcy7367nah it does. Especially when the guy knows several girls, there are bound to be some that dont immediately make you want to enter into a relationship with them
@@leondarcy7367 It can happen if the girl is ugly 😂
IN MEMORIAN:
-Dave
-Trevor
-Taylor
-Bobby
jhx97 they must be crying 😅😅
F
Ha!
I was thinking the same
Damnit Bobby. Go sell some propane!
This is the definition of “Well yes, but actually no.”
This is so ancient and OBVIOUS, why is it denied so strongly and why can't women just have the balls to be honest!
@@MR-nl8xr because they want to string men along to feel better about themselves, where have you been?
yes
@@MR-nl8xr It's literally their survival tactic and baked into their genes. It's like asking why a car salesman won't tell you how shitty his cars are.
@@MR-nl8xr Why can't men think with a different organ than their dick for at least ONE minute of their life?
I’m female & have thought for many, many years that men and women can’t just ‘be friends’ Glad to finally get this confirmation!!
This is so not true. I'm male and most of my closest friends are female... I am not attracted to any of them though. I've been clear right from the start with girls I'm into so they know how I feel.
I can also be just friends with a girl I am attracted to. I think the guys in this video indicated the opposite because of cultural influence. It's ridiculous that I have to say this, but men don't want to do the sideways hula with every woman they see.
It’s not that us guys don’t trust her and are insecure, it’s that we know how guys work and what there intentions are with our significant other.
if you trust her, other guys' intentions doesn't matter. if you're not insecure, trusting her doesn't matter.
@@RafaelBelvedereselow sentience statement
@@Squared_Table why?
Interviewer: can men and women be just friends?
Women: well yes
Men: but actually no
Underrated
Yeah men are ballsy enough to tell you what they think to your face. Meanwhile when the women were finally about to admit the truth they turn and walk away hahaha
Women: well yes
Men: but actually no
Women: but actually no
men are logical and redpilled, women are in their own world
@@polochbabaaient2223 That's extremely naive. So good for that "red pill", eh?
"Would you hook up with her?"
"Seriously, yeah"
*Friendship ended*
"Would you destroy the friendship forever right here and right now if sex were on the table"
"I'd pile drive our friendship into the ground"
Cannot see how women don’t get this
Or maybe it was a bit arousing for her and ....
@Farb S better for him
@@thetrax3482 I have a strong feeling women DO get this, but they also understand that they can manipulate men into doing various things for them, so they act like it's all about friendship. It's like a person caught speeding... Very few people out there will admit to speeding... it always turns into "WHATT???? I was speeding????? Oh I'm so sorry I didn't realize" People when caught in an uncomfortable situation try to nope out with an excuse, and playing dumb is usually the first one people go to because it's easy. There's a reason that girl just walked away instead of saying anything. She knew the facade was over in that moment.
"All my best friends are guys" 😂 that's a big red flag
That Guy with sandwich " Physical attraction, it's not possible" 🎯 straight on the point.
My guy eating a sandwich know the meaning of life.
yes lol
was it a beef curtain sandwich?
@@millsbomb007 it looked like a New Yorker from Sainsbury's
@@JoeMoreg more like from dumb and dumber
@@JoeMoreg Sainsbury's in the US...?
this dude was way ahead of his time
Jamari do a video on this
Yooo bro you HAVE to talk about this
I love you ❤️
No... why?
Not at all.
This question was answered by Billy Crystal to Meg Ryan in “when Harry met Sally” way back in 1989. The amount of truth in that movie is why it’s so great.
So I had moved across country, leaving a girlfriend behind and wasn't looking for a new one. Hanging out with a group of friends in the new state at first. Then there was three of us, 2 guys one girl. One day the other guy didn't show and the girl and I talked and hung out for hours. We became better friends than either one of us had ever had. We were married in 2yrs. Been married 31. Become friends first, it really matters for longevity.
So... they can't be friends. I aint marrying one of the guys of our group so..
It's not really friendship. You liked them and took it slow by getting to know each other and then progressed.
You know, maybe a little more info would help. She "wasn't my type". We had similar interests and intellects. We have always had a better conversation than I've had with others. When we fell in love, it helped that we were both virgin. Take certain things seriously when making a decision, then honor it.
@@michaeldupree2502 I see. To be able to have conversations is such an important thing and I think it's special. Could you elaborate about the virgin part, I didn't quite get what you meant? How did it help?
@thereckon3592 sex should not be taken lightly. It's meant to connect a couple on a spiritual level. Learning to make love takes patience and consideration for each other. And practice makes perfect. I think some treat it as a meaningless thing. You know, " sex,drugs and rock and roll". Makes it less special.
The dude spitting facts while eating the sandwich is philosophical gold. He doesn't bother to stop eating because the answer to the question is so self-evident it needs no pause for reflection.
Which facts ?
What planet are these kids from. How have these guys gone through life believing that guys have absolutely no control over their emotions and if you attracted to a girl you just completely caveman it and could not possibly become anything other than a object for sexual gratification. Are these kids real?
Holy shit, really need to have it explained to you? 😂
All my friends would be potential good partners. I actually married one of my best friends. Am i a lousy friend??? 😂
Lmao, not all guys are simps like the ones of this video
A moment of silence for Dave, Trevor, Tim, Bobby, and Wilfred.
I am wondering if they still believe
Poor things
Don't forget Taylor Mulford
LOL she said Taylor Mulford not Tim and Wilfred
Legend says they still Friends )))
Wow. Thats a real pro vid. Im blown away. No clickbait, no bs, no trying to mislead. Real question, study, and reached a conclusion ❤❤❤❤
How do you know you weren't misled?
@@BornTrespasser i guess i dont know 🤣🤣🤣
@KingOfShenaniganthia it's possible but what's the likelihood of it? Guys need sex like women need emotional intimacy. It's make sense that it would be harder for a guy to be friends with a girl than a girl to be friends with a guy. He gives her the emotional intimacy she needs by just being her friend. A girl would have to be MORE than just a friend to give him what he wants. See how that works?
Its interesting seeing this video pop up in my recommendations years later, and to see so many people responding recently agreeing.
Im in college right now and I have three friends that are girls that I'd never date. Not because they arent physically attractive, but their views on relationships are really unattractive to me. As friends we can talk and laugh about whatever but we just wouldn't mix romantically.
That being said, I have female friends like this are really hard to find.
what are their view that dissuade you ? if you don’t mind sharing. just interesting
That guy with the sandwich is all you need.
HAJAJAJAJJAA
nice name
That guy is the best
Human
He knows the way
Guy is my hero
This video should receive a social documentary award. This guy has proven a fact that'll never fade.
I generally agree with this video. Although I do think that in very rare cases, men and women can be friends. For example, the guy doesn't want to bang her because she's ugly and he's able to easily attract prettier girls. And she doesn't want to bang him because she's very picky and even unattractive women can bed pretty attractive guys nowadays.
Alternatively, one or both of them already are in very fulfilling relationships already.
@@lightworker2956Yes “very rarely” exceptions don’t disprove the rule.
@@lightworker2956 I had a female best friend at work where it was genuine friendship. She was around 2 years older than me, although normally it doesn't matter much; but in our case mentally she was much more mature compared to me, which is probably why I never felt attracted towards her because we weren't at the same maturity level.
She used to help me out A LOT at stuff that stuff I was bad at like social interactions and she spoke really confidently to her superiors and encouraged me to do the same. Which is why I felt like she's more like a big sister to me than anything else because of how she helped me like a caring big sis. Although we never said this to each other I think it was mutually same from both sides. Besides, she was already in a committed relationship and it never made me feel jealous or threatened.
Tho I agree 90% of the time when I am talking to a girl, I hope to date her but this was one of the times I didn't.
Incorrect. Men and women can be friends. I have female friends. We're all heterosexual. We don't see each other as a pair or do anything romantic, sexual, but we connect very well because we have a lot in common. We hang out, watch movies, play video games together, share memes and go to restaurants or shopping even sometimes when we feel extra-social. This includes my ex's. Some of my female ex's are also my friends. People also believe every relationship has to end in a toxic way, or involve some kind of avoidance in the future. I had ex's like that and what I've learned, is that this happens to desperate people who have little to no standards. They don't understand themselves much. These are manchildren and whores who just want almost any relationship or just want to get into as many skirts as possible. Be yourself, be down to earth, you'll have opposite sex friends.
@@j99044 Except having a man and woman who aren't attracted to one another but enjoy each other's company is not a "very rare" occurrence. Going to a college and asking the attractive girls if they have guys they keep as friends who'd want to be with them is far from establishing a universal truth.
Of course, they are student and young people who work/study/hang out together, so the pattern is what you described
But childhood friends, neighbors, friends of the family, etc. are very different things. For example I often see the wife of my best friend and there's like nothing, or the sister of another friend. Same for childhood friends or friends who are like 10-30 years older than me.
I bet that there's attraction at one way or the other
@diegolisandror2 just because you find someone attractive doesn't mean anything will happen. We aren't apes
@@dark6.6E-34 you just don't get it
@@diegolisandror2 what i dont get is why you think everyone cant avoid acting on instinct like some s depraved monkeys.
@@diegolisandror2 lol great argument
Nothing wrong with being physically attracted to the opposite gender! That’s natural and normal but that doesn’t stop us from going beyond those feelings and being able to be someone’s friend and caring for them! To think differently would be shallow! Maybe those guys opinions about women will change as they grow older and mature! There is great benefit to guys and gals being just friends with each other! Friendship is beautiful!
Wise words sir :D
OH MY GOD
Thank you
Finally someone put it perfectly to words
Thank you very much
God its great to see someone logical
@@charmingmagican9821 ikr, the vid got recommended to me and i had to wade through so many comments to get here.
attraction isnt mutually exclusive from friendship, the fact that all these men are acting like we're brutes who cant move past attraction and inevitably always default to trying to fuck everything with holes just makes me sad. its the exact rhetoric that manhaters use to describe men, sex fiends unable to move past constant urges.
We were friends with a girl in high school that none of us wanted to have sex with. Not because she wasn’t drop-dead gorgeous, but because she was so incredibly innocent and childlike. It’s weird, because all of us just wanted to protect her! She never dated anyone either. After high school, we found out that she started dating some church guy, who looked incredibly virginal. We figured they were perfect together.
THIS IS SO CUTE!
Its like brother sister love.And that same zhit happened with me too when my friends were very close to this girl.We can call it we are friends.
that's wholesome. He looked virginal😂
that's wholesome. He looked virginal😂
Wholesome
Men can spend ten seconds in an elevator with a woman and come away believing they have a relationship.
Good thing I'm a misogynist and dislike women
@@lzblmvm7113 weird thing to brag about, but ok
@@lzblmvm7113 weird flex but okay
@@lzblmvm7113 see you are not a monster you are just ahead of the curve
Lmao this is soo true
One side will always want the other more
The bro being interviewed with his mouth full had the best take of them all.
I love how Socrates is over here spittin' facts while eating a sandwich.
This deserved more likes
this is 'overunderrated'
Hero
😂
Best comment. I'm fookin crying.
Can men and women be just friends?
Women: Yes
Men: NOOOOO
Yes, we can be just friends. But status of relationship can always change :-) it what women mean by yes, and men mean by no. But they mean the same thing.
"I myself am a women.. And I say Hell No!" Sex always gets in the way!'
@@deannamarin318 totally
@Onward Turtle would you have a 300 pound female friend?
@Zachariah Cornwall No dude... I never ment it as a Bad thing, respectfully it's something that is just always there.'
I don't think you can reach a conclusion just based on what these people said. As a guy, my really close friends are all girls and i have never seen them as a potential romantic partner, i like another woman, and i think men and women can be friends if they are mature enough, and not desperate for a romantic partner. It's not that hard, and believe me, relationships feel way better when you stop being desperate for sex and couple love
You are not truly single if you have a stated singular target of interest that you believe you will actually be with. That is why courting as a process exists. If you said anything other than what you just did, you would have effectively assured the majority of people that you are promiscuous and untrustworthy. Also, it has less to do with maturity, but more to do with availability, willingness, and cultural upbringing. A really ugly dude is just as willing, but there is no availability. Thus there is no sex. Does that make him mature somehow? A person who has no sex drive could be swarmed by nude French women on the beach. If he is not willing due to his condition, no sex, still not maturity. A married man is sealed into an agreement of Monogamy. Does it make him mature to do what he's been told to do his whole life and not screw other women (cultural upbringing)? My dog does what it's told, is that mature of it even though it's been trained it's whole life to behave that way? Still no. Maturity is a level of psychological functioning and physical development that almost totally stops after physical maturation is complete. After that it is called savvy and wisdom. Now to the first and more interesting part.
You can reach a conclusion based on what these people said. It just isn't whether or not men and women can be friends. The conclusion you can reach here is, men will on average be more honest about the POTENTIAL of intimacy between them and attractive members of the opposite gender they socialize with. Men on average realize that yes, friendship is friendship, but if you are a man and she is a woman and you are both attractive and single. There will always be room inside you to bump those uglies, if given the chance and right circumstances. Making "being single friends", as a static long term platonic state with no change not really true. Which is the real thing being questioned. The majority of those men didn't say that they wouldn't be their friend. they only admitted to their own proclivities as humans to want and reciprocate overt sexual gestures and offers from attractive members of the opposite gender. Women seem to have a proclivity to deny reality at first, but if you twist their arm, even they know it's true, but dislike or blame the men for it even though they facilitate that environment just as much as the men do.
That's my TED talk.
I think you're gay😂😂😂😂
“When Harry met Sally” is the clearest explanation about having friendship between male and female.
But in friendship age and timing will play a pivotal role.
When you’re a kid it is possible to have a friendship between a boy and a girl, as there is no real sex drive yet and eventually the relationship develops like between brother and sister. That relationship can be carried over into old age.
When you’re a youth, when starting a friendship, it is a challenge of impossibility. The hormone pressure is just too high to be ignored when you really like each other. And a good friendship is a good base for a romantic relationship, as trust is there and deep sympathy for each other.
When you’re older and the sex-drive has worn off when you meet each other, then a friendship is possible because then other things count.
You can TOTALLY be friends. My best friend in college was a girl. We have 5 kids now.
Its been updated to 5 kids since I made this comment a couple of years ago. The friendship continues.
wtf xD
🤣🤣🤣
@@dheerajpal6955 Not always but it is preferable
She is still your best friend then XD
@@zxxczczczcz 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
2:20 "Because of physical attraction, it's not possible".. he said it like a boss. When someone tells truth as it is, it's a pleasure to watch
While scarfing down a sandwich 😂
@@arielgradvohl4128😂
Being attracted doesn't actually makes you more than friends though really, question is worded weird
@@1Peasant as is the case with all the things in life, that's true for some and not for yet others:)
GIGACHAD
Its an interesting premise.
Foremost we have to appreciate the
elements in the experiment. Lets be real, this is a library, rife with up-and-comers, socialites, suburbanites....He aimed at just the right place with the right chronology of questions. These are light, easy, friendly, more mature-than-not adults. It is largely indicative of social groups and the sub-strata of supressed feelings being examined a bit critically. Ask people in their forties
and youd actually get even more cryptic answers!
It's not a direct, easy and simple truth to decide on but it 's a complicated matter or issue and the decision depends on circumstances.
I wouldn't say it's complicated. Cavemen want to bang everything and will do anything they get a sniff of. That's desperate men with no respect for women.
I have plenty of friends who are women. Not once would I ever get with them, even if they said "please do me". They ain't gross or fat, they're good looking but I just see them as a friend, like I do with men. I wouldn't bang them. Again, it's a lack of respect for the other gender, that you'd want to get with them and not respect your friendship. To me, that sounds predatory to a point because you're waiting by for that moment of weakness in a woman, who confides something or has something bad happen and if they come on to you, you'd do them but if a guy does it, would you do them as well?! Of course not. Honestly, this is very simple and any man who wants to bang their "friends", are just sick and need to go cry in their basements.
Boy: friends with a girl
Ugandan interviewer: Why are you gae?
who says im gae?
This is the most underrated comment on the video. hands down
@Omega Abuzar you are gae
@Omega Abuzar
But who is gae?
You are a transgenda. An outspoken....aa...Lesbeian? Homosexcuall?
"All of my best friends are guys"
Never date that woman.
lul
Why? it's not her fault!! She's a great friend by they're all waiting in the wings!
@@mbloom2275 Honestly, and this isn't going to sound good, it's because I know what a man's intention is for befriending a woman most of the time. And in today's world of instant gratification, it realistically only takes one moderate slip up for one of her guy friends to get his wish. And that goes for men too. We (human beings in general) have gotten so used to instant gratification, that all it takes for your significant other to step out and cheat is an argument or a fit of jealousy or whatever. I understand that there are people out there who would never think to do something like that to their significant other, but the reality is that those individuals are very few and far between, and they're only getting more and more rare as we get more and more used to the idea of instant gratification. I just personally wouldn't take the risk.
@@mbloom2275 or were you just being sarcastic? Hard to read sarcasm through text.
big red flag
Their just friends means they have to keep their backups.
We can be. I have male and female friends since over a decade. No we dont want to get in each other pants. Mature people wont dissolve great friendships for insecure people.
Women: yes
Men: no
Thats the video
Ikr.... That is exactly what it is about lmao😂😅
@Bishoo OO it isnt
@Bishoo OO and yeah I got that as well thx for the explanation
that's a wrap folks
Oh Yeah Yeah lmaoo
a moment of silence for our fallen brothers in the friendzone:
dave
trevor
taylor mulford
bobby
It do be like that
Arhfelix we live in society
:D lol
They took Bobby too soon
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
15M views in 12 years is not enough.
It should have blown to 1 Billion by 2024. 2 Billion by 2030. Little boys need to see this.
Least surprising results ever. But I will say as a married guy who is a bit older, it does happen more once everyone is married.
Yes, as a bisexual I can confirm I have no friends. There is only prey.
🤣
See this is a good example. If ur bi does that mean you have no friends? I hope u were being sarcastic. But I really think even if it’s one sided and one person likes the other as long as u act the part u can get all the benefits of a real friendship regardless. Just because 2 people that could fuck vs 2 people that wouldn’t have different kinds of friend ship doesn’t make it invalid. I have guy friends I know wud with me but we dont.. ever. And I call that a friendship. Like sorry if other people don’t but they make it wayyy too complicated with the would you’d? And ifs and buts. Like srsly
🤣😅😂 Damn.
@@emilytustin4540 Exactly. Although I think being bi just gives you a different perspective. I'm bi and I can be completely platonically friends with men and women. With my friends who are straight guys, it's more likely they'll have a little bit of a thing for me (I'm a woman). But my bi friends? hasn't been a problem. I think heterosexuality just makes it harder for people to get over that already existing barrier between the sexes. It's like they have a bit of a fetishization of the entire gender, since it's the only one they're attracted to. For me, nobody gets special points just for being a man or woman so I don't have an expectation of something more.
Holy fuuck dude😂😂😂😂
“But he likes you...so it’s a one sided friendship?” Just let that sink in
It's a special friendship where all her male 'friends' are placed.
@@Gaonaism and that special place is called "the friend zone"
i know that cut deep lol. too real
There needs to be level of maturity and respect for the person along with you genuinely valuing their company well enough that you decided to keep them around and remain friends even after accepting they'll will be no romantic nor sexual encounters, why ? because you see the person as more than just a potential love interest. Really how is this so hard to understand
@RUE King you gassing
Video was recommended after 12 yrs, wonder what that guy is doing now such a wholesome interview
When I was a little kid my mom would babysit the girl from across the street and we would always have lil play dates. To this day 20+ years later we still talk, and there has never been any feelings between either of us, and I think the reason it works like that is because we were basically raised as siblings. Our relationship is pretty much the same as I have with my other siblings where we don’t talk or see each other super often, but we both know we have each other’s backs no matter what. So yeah that’s the only way I know of for men and women to actually just be friends.
All women - yes
All men - ummmmmmm......aaaaaaaa......noooooooo?????
The first indicator. Also funny how the women went "Well ye I guess they do want some fuk,... BUT WE STILL FRIENDS THO YA".
+Astro. Its called editing. I bet if I had all the source material I could have edited it to seem 100% opposite.
no women said: yes we can be *JUST* friends but also have feelings. But we'd still be *just* friends... because if i have no feelings then we are just friends regardless of what other person feels..
Labos222 good thing about generalizations is that its automatically indicates there's outliers... if the vast majority of men said no and vast majority of girls said yes then theres no real need to show anomalies, because theyre anomalies
+Red. You dont get it. If 90% of Women said "no", but I only showed the 10% of them that said "yes", just making sure I asked enough people so that the 10% would be enough for the whole video. I wouldnt be showing reality, but a manipulated one. You talking about "anomalies" ironically broadcasts that you most likely fall for such manipulations.
Example:
If I have an interview with cameras filming both you and me. During the interview I ask you several questions, but two of them are with alternative motives. One very negative, that you obviously say no to and a very easy and none controversial one that you obviously say yes to. Now, in editing, I show the introduction and back and forth between my and your face, but when I ask my controversial question. I show the footage of your face watching me ask that question, but when "you" respond I show my own face watching you. However your real response is muted and i have added in the "yes" instead. Making it seem like you were for the very controversial thing and removing peoples ability to see that your lips are not in sync with what you are actually saying because of a simple editing trick.
Tricks like this are easy to spot for people that know what to look for. Others are less obvious, but you would most likely be fooled by the above...
In short, your assessment isnt a wise one.
Women: "Yes they can be just friends"
Also Women: "But I know they like me"
Well if men and women can’t be friends, by that logic my best friend is my lover just because we are both bisexual women?
@@rashelm.32 It doesn't change the fact that you both are girls.
@@rashelm.32 But you are both women.
@@ReviewBlogVlog but.. girls have that kind of attraction too? there are girls who have crushes on their friends. so not really a difference...
Pato Niilista But isn’t the whole purpose of people thinking men and women can’t be friends cause one or the other might catch feelings? That’s the same case for people of the same sex who are into both genders... otherwise, it just sounds like you’re saying guys and girls can’t be friends only cause their parts don’t match.
I've been friends with women and it starts off as just friends but it always eventually led to us getting together. Some were really cool, I could spend all day several days a week chilling with them and we'd just be vibing, but yeah, always ended up becoming something more.
you can be friends with your spouse. in any other scenerio the guy either wants to be more than friends or they are actually an aquaintance you are calling a friend, but you are not that close
Why is this only showing up on my feed 12yrs later
Exactly 😅
Same, I feel so stupid, so damn stupid
Same
It says 12 years, but the clips is from 2011?
@@lasses3887 Meaning it hasn't gone past the date it came out yet
Most guys are so starved of positive attention, that even a compliment can make a guy fall for a girl.
That is so true
@Ironstar I'm sure some do turn into simps. Some will start working out, and eating right. Some will also go into a field that makes them lots of money.
Some guys who are rejected just go on like that, and think nothing good is going to happen or become doormats. Other guys use it as fuel to change their lot in life. It just depends on the guy.
Most guys are such Simps they see being called a 'friend' as the worst insult a person can receive.
AND BINGO WAS HIS (SAD, LONELY) NAME-O!
y'all brocken 💔😔
Without trust there is no relationship.
This.
Male friends and female friends provide different types of friendship and that’s why you require both. You can only know that if you’ve had both male and female friends.
hey ladies, can women and men be just friends?
yes
are you sure?
No
Yolocuica Mistli Killin' it bro😂
And then -- hello gentlemen, can men and women be just friends?
No
Are you sure?
Yes
+Terrance Pyrope LOL exactly
They can but they must have sex somewhere in that friendship lol
... "well yes"
"Ok"
... "wait wait, um? No"
"Ok, so you are saying men and women can't be friends?"
... "yes. Wait, I mean no..."
ENTERING THE GULAG:
-Dave
-Trevor
-Taylor
-Bobby
those four are in the gulag archipielago
If only the Gulag have been as easy!..
We need to do a search and rescue mission
I bought them back
lmfaooo
More teenagers need this in school, every guy needs this realisation. Makes life so much easier.
Can’t help but notice all the women looked so modest and overall, everyone seemed so real and somehow happy.
This was from the time before Instagram and the attention economy for visual attention became a thing and beauty became an arms race. Just facebook, text-only twitter and maybe myspace.
Theres something about a guy eating a sandwhich talking about realistic expectations that looks so divine.
There are slices of wisdom in that sandwich
Guy was a god.
Yessss
Ikr
Something very Brad Pitt about it
the friendzone isn't a real friendship
no subscribe it's cuckery my boi . Subtle but cuckery none the less. You leave that shit and wait for her to come to her senses or split nonetheless from a dry pointless relationship lmao
no subscribe yah its sort of a forced friendship where the girl is friendly in the sense that she doesnt wanna step on your feelings or maybe, maybe the guy is so ambiguous with his feelings that thr girl litterally just thinks its just a friend thing. Eitherway the dudes suffering
it's usually the girl who dosint want to hurt his feelings- because the guy in question seems sensitive thus ending any further REAL relationship with awkwardness.. a girl will usually give a guy a chance but if he's just playing the nice guy you can forget a woman coming to you for protection and support.. mr sensitive dosint get laid he's just one of the girls to her lol.
The fuck you all on about you can be friends with a woman and not want something from her like what, are you stupid nice guys that want something back or something?
It's not about being entitled to anything. It's not about being rejected, If she has nothing to benefit me for my time, We are both wasting our time. Guys have similar interests thus females and men tend to share fewer similarities as of the natural cycle of our lives.. if you're fine being "that" guy who only hangs out with girls or is feeding a girls ego but cucking himself feel free. Men know what they are there for, boys like to play with everyone.
Atleast the dudes were honest about it
I like how the women say yes quickly without thinking about it but once you start talking to them about it they realize they can’t. Guys were already thinking about the question and said no. Then I like how he told the girl it’s one sided friendship. This is a great video
It just shows how naive women can be
@@ChrisJones-ek2gmokay misandrist
@@ChrisJones-ek2gm guessed so, you cat lady
@@ChrisJones-ek2gm lmao 🤣 yet 99% of the top 1% is still males. Women only get into that club by getting divorced most of the time. The innovation field is still dominated by males. The infrastructure field is still dominated by males. Only high paying field females dominate is onlyfans which basically is objectifying themselves for male entertainment 🤦
@@ChrisJones-ek2gmYikes.
My wife and I couldn't even be just neighbors. 😂
Why would you live in separate houses if you're married?
@@Xsuprio I think the person mean they used to be neighbors.
@@Xsuprio lmaooo
best comment ever!!!
@@SandyHolmes0001 I think @Xsuprio knew this and was making a joke.
As an ace guy, I definitely think it's possible
No one wanted or needed your input.
We're talking about normal people here.
@@Halo_Legend Trololololo. Go do us all a favour, dust off the doritos crumbs from your shirt and touch grass, kiddo.
So women think they can be just friends
Men think they can't be
Women knew they aren't just friends
But women chose to ignore that
That's a wrap !
"All of my best friends are guys"
Moment of silence for all the homies
F
Why? Why is it a negative to be platonic friends?? Why a moment of silence. Get off porn, stop masterbating its fucking with your minds. Has yall thinking about sex all the time. If you switched it an it was a guy saying "all my friends are girls" it wouldn't be ohh a moment of silence for the girls. A lot of women don't masterbate or watch porn and I honestly think that's why we are more clear headed and focused on other more important things.
@Alex You're absolutely right, it seems as though a lot of men today view sex as the only goal and friendship is something to be avoided. I genuinely can't fathom thinking that way, there is so much more to life and to individuals than whether or not you desire them.
@@eyexan6021 if you're a guy and all you have is female friends then there's a 100% chance you're gay. If you're a girl and you have both female and male friends, then I don't really care but I will keep an eye out for the guys that she calls "friends".
@@eyexan6021 it's not negative to be platonic friends, but her friends are most likely not platonic.
Women don't have male friends, they have orbiters.
LOL
Unless the woman is not their type.
@@kaanramatt37 I agree. That's a good way to put it.
kind of a weird stereotype
Press F to pay respects For
Those who got friendzoned
I used to have a best male friend all my highschool and university years. He never tried to become my boyfriend. Him and my husband are getting along well today!!! He is a priest now and we are still in touch although he lives in the monastery. This is 100% true story.
He was clearly gay
@@Naryciouskaziya-li2iy I don't think he is gay. I think it's more probable that he isn't interested in any of the options
I remember when this first came out. Still here. Still factual. Still legendary.
Fun fact: every girl-guy friendship is controlled by the guy’s self control… as soon as he lets go, the friendship is lost, no matter the outcome
Men have more self control than women do however, unless they are very immature.
@@pianoandguitarlover2773 what?? Yeah in a few cases but most men are rapists aka most rapists are men, that means your claims are coming from your head and not observations from of the world. Grow up child women are often calm headed and execute anger when they find it necessary, men well aggression is their daily language according to what most men claim. In simple words, your point is incorrect.
@@whyareyouexisting7285 Funny how a little girl with a cartoon moniker suggests that someone else is immature and should grow up. You project quite well.
@@basedbear1605 what??
@@whyareyouexisting7285 Is that the only response you're capable of? What??? As if adding extra question marks somehow makes your dumb ass more important? It doesn't. Saying most men are rapists shows what a POS you truly are.... especially when statistics prove you both wrong and ignorant.
"All my best friends are guys" red flag.
Yikes
+ILoveMedia x22
The messiest person I know is a man. I've seen my male family members gossip. I've also seen guys pull the puppet strings and start drama with a group of girls. Most male drama traces back to guys and bruised egos. Most girl drama traces back to a guy.
+Jeremy Honeycutt
Most girl drama is over a guy that two or more of the girls like. I've seen it happen before. I've seen men manipulate drama behind the scenes.
Men are better at throwing the rock and hiding their hand. Girls however are more obvious. Makes sense because women talk more on average. So they might express their feelings, while the guys are just sitting there and causing drama quietly.
Gerald impressive
You my friend are the salt of the earth. Thank you for this!!
Yes it's impossible because somebody's feelings is going to get involved eventually
2:11
Interviewer "If she wanted to hook up, would you hook up"?
Male friend; "Totally, look at her"
Female friend; awkward face😬
man is going for the world record in simping
Just gave her a big compliment.
This guy killed every chance with his sentence .... and he already had no chance.
@@EricAusNda whatever bro he saved his time
@@EricAusNda why not?
"All my best friends are guys". Red Flag
Jake Mitch Those same women can manipulate guys lmao. What does a guy benefit from a woman. Nothing but sex. What does a woman gain from a man. Free stuff and attention.
Jake Mitch You guys belong to incels.me
Spoonlicker W. You took the time to make a childish diss. That says a lot. lmao
Or green flag, for ez pz her lemons are squeezy
Bonk A Donk
What type of people have you been hanging out with...
Being friends or genuine friends with someone you shouldn't be thinking 'what can I gain from this person?' That's a bit selfish.
Friendship means both party getting attention and platonic love whether it's boy boy, girl girl or boy girl.
The question that comes to mind for me is, do men really just have zero standards whatsoever if they are into every women they know (which this video implies)
This is why I have no friends, never have, never will.
Everybody gangsta until boyfriend's best female friend arrives.
@crowthrone Nah, been there, done that. Too much sexual energy. My current wife was a close friend of mine too
@crowthrone she doesn't have close male friend, as I also don't have close female friend, so.. Yeah. Won't work
When ppl marry they drop their friends of the opposite sex.
The women's male friends were always just orbiters being used by her hoping it's lead to him fucking her and the man WAS the orbiter to his female friends.
If both the guy and girl are not physically attracted to each other
Maybe
Then maybe they can be Just friends
@@peekpeek9545 kinda..
The sarcastic guy pretty taking advantage of the situation to unfriendzone himself lol
He didn't try to get out of the friendzone, for he was the one that created the friendzone. Also wasn't sarcastic.
@@brendanvanbiljon3861 did you see her face? The 'WTF as if" face. It must nice fighting off attention so much that you get pissed when someone is attracted to you.
@@SnerMerNer Nah man look at her face the whole interaction.
1. "Would you hook up?" - Her face turns stern in anticipation of the answer.
2. "Totally, look at her", and starts laughing - She roles her eyes thinking he's not serious and being sarcastic.
3. "Don't be sarcastic, I need the truth" - she holds her breath.
4. "Ok that's perfect, cut cut" - loudly exhale and body turns less tense.
She's most probably in love with him, but doesn't think he's in love with her. She equates "hooking up" with love. That's why she actually roles her eyes; "whatever, he doesn't love me like I do him".
She got tense because the interview for her was "would he love me" instead of "would he hookup with me".
But yeah, I've overanalyze this shit. Good way to start my day.
@@brendanvanbiljon3861 They're just friends. That question jeopardized that which is why she was so tense. Also, 2:18 wasn't a sigh of relief, it was an awkward, forced laugh.
It's optimistic to think cute girls secretly have feelings for you when you're just their friend. Trust me, if she were interested, she would have let him know way before they had an established friendship.
Look at her, you would too....
Men are just more honest with themselves and others
It can happen IF there’s no attraction.
It would be interesting to hear these same questions asked to adult townspeople instead of youths on a college campus
You mean people who consider people they have coffee with (in a group once every 3 months) to be "friends" in order to feel better about not having any real friends?
i was thinking the same, especially people who have coworkers.
@@glossyncap Are those really friends, though?
then they would lie lol .cuz they have wife/husband and kids.@@glossyncap
Yeah like what do they even know about life? Nothing lol
2:20 man just casually telling the fact 🏆❤
shoulda interviewed me. i'm a guy, and there was this girl that i was absolutely NEVER attracted to. and we're really good friends. she had that emo depression bs in highschool and at some point, my dumb ass even thought of lying to her that i like her, so she would share with me her problems, but i couldn't get myself to lie about it. at no point did i feel any attraction to her, not once.
Sounds like you didn't even want to be friends with her
@@bldontmatter5319 i guess you missed the "really good friends part". believe what you will, i've no reason to lie
I love how all the girls say they can be friends but the guys are like nahhh. This video is pretty much unnecessary for guys cause we already know the answer.
+Kix Musaid FACTS HAHAH FACTSSSS
Why can't guys be just friends?
Guys can be friends.. So I don't see where you are going with this? lol
I wish your comment was more visible. It's unfortunately a lesson that boys don't learn until they're men and not all men learn it. I could have saved myself a lot of time and trouble growing up. I could have been finding the girls who actually wanted me instead of "attending" the girls I wanted but who did not want me in return.
well that's the problem, lots of guys are mistaken and end up in the friendzone because of it.
Actually It can happen under 2 circumstances: the Guy is gay or the girl is ugly.
Manjubossauro exactly
💯
Hahahahahahhaah this is the most honest shit I’ve seen today lmao
No, only the gay situation. If a girl is ugly, I won't want anything to do with her.
Manjubossauro Or if the guy has a hotter chick to fuck, or a hot gf
I have a guy friend and we’ve confirmed to each other that we don’t like each other but it’s still awkward when we hang out, like we might as well be dating. So what is that??😭
If a girl is unattractive enough to be friend zoned by a dude, then usually that girl will like that guy. So it's impossible either way.
damn.
Your statement stays true even if you cut the "unattractive girl" part. It's even more possible for the 10/10s.
Absolutely true!!!!………...Somebody will end up being attracted to someone else. It never fails.
And girls get over guys way easier so it’s kinda unfair for guys
If both are 0/10s maybe neither likes the other --
Women: We can all be happy friends and nice and happy yaaaaay
Men: Reality is grim sometimes and we just have to accept we're constantly horny
😂😂😂
Bruh F
I'll probably get in trouble for saying this...
But if you think of men as a superstore (that NEEDS to sell its goods) and women as custome-
I am sorry for my sins, I will not post another CZcams Comment for 3 days as my punishment.
@@jaytb5815 bruh
@Rocky Croods A lot of people dont believe that women should have rights either . Wtf are we supposed to have, evaporation into universe ?
Ive never understood this and probably never will.
Its easy to be just friends and its really a maturity thing.
If you dont want to be just friends then say something or move on why stay around then? Having friends of the opposite sex is great, atop having feelings for every single person or falling for lust.
Thats how i see it at least.
Ikr society is too oversexualied and it's also a matter of socialisation straight men get socialised to not be human