4 Ways to Smartly Tell if a Narcissist is Lying to you
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00:00 introduction
00:44 4 lesser known ways to tell if narcissist is lying to you
00:54 The question.
01:28 1.instant answer or pausing before answering
03:03 instance
03:31 2. They give too much details.
05:18 3. Face and voice dont match their words
06:22 4. They can't keep track of all details
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Danish bhaiya, you are a true legend. Thanks for all your help in understanding this great tragedy of life. Love from South Africa.
Im found myself very lucky that i found this narcissist thing very early. And thanks to youtube i don't know how it recommended me video about narcissist and i watch it carefully otherwise my bf was making me fool that he was very polite offline. 😂
@@jbrown2908 if Thats the case then I'm pretty sure the universe hates me. Lol
How to tell if a narcissist is lying to you:
1) They're talking
2) They're NOT talking
3) They're breathing
4) They're NOT breathing.
Exactly 💯
Their lips are moving.
🤣
True! Why even waist my time and try to figure out whether the Narc is lying or not. The Narc lies in his sleep.
@@khadijahoneybadger1 you know what when i was in love bombing phase he used to speak during sleep. But when he gained my trust his this childhood problem gone 🤣🤣🤣 all of a sudden
Future faking was the thing that sucked me in. Promises of how our life and marriage would be. I wanted to go to Africa and work in an orphanage. I was 23yrs old. That was 40years ago. I’m going to Africa in 6 months, 1.5 years after I left him.
Congrats 🎉
It's never too late 👏👏👏 wishing you the best
It took you FORTY YEARS to become fed up? Didn’t you kind of future-fake yourself?
Beat wishes 🎉
What a wholesome story! Love it
Immediate, explosive anger.
A perennial favourite of his, "I never said that. You're not LISTENING to me. " (This, after I have literally repeated back whatever preposterous thing he has just said!).
Oh I got that one as well.... especially if I needed him to do something I needed.
You may even record them saying that and they will still deny it happening 🤣
But that´s more about self-persuasion, than anything else.
My favorite is when he says "I told you about that", because he's lying...again.
I got that non stop.
Ohhhhh geeze my all time favorite. I have literally screenshot her exact words to someone and she says “ I never said that “ they are truly a waste of your energy
They often simply give you a snide look and do not even answer. They are masterful at this. They change the direction of the conversation by asking YOU a question. They'll act mildly put out, like they're tired of the conversation and make a move to leave or change what's going on.
Absolutely! This one is so subtle yet extremely destructive
@@narcabusecoach And it can be a seemingly matter-of-fact question!
Looking a little down or away when lying.
Yes, very difficult to detect lies. But circular talk, verbal judo, quick to change topic to something, anything else so as NOT to answer, are all suggestive of deception.
this is exactly his tactic! He would act fatigued, soooo exhausted that I would question the inconsistency of one of his stories and of course, switch the script. I would be the one with the problem. My insecurities were so exhausting to him. If that failed to derail the conversation, he'd be defensive and angry. Literally trying every tactic to get me to back off and never once answering my question. Often he would leave the room (or the house) saying he was too tired to deal with this..........
A narcissist who believes that they have successfully lied to you will act happy and even giddy. The narcissist will become irritated and angry when their lies are met with skepticism and additional questioning. A narcissist’s facial micro-expressions will reveal their lies, such as nodding their head to indicate “yes” while verbally saying “no.”
He never told the same story the same way twice, 5 different versions were more likely.
The story always fits his agenda.
I found out about narcissism and all the problems and symptoms AFTER I went through Hell, and it was all over with. Looking back, reading letters, emails, recalling specific conversations, I've come to realize every single thing she ever said, or told me was a flat out lie. I loved her, and I believed her then, she had a very easy target with me. It's been almost two years, and I am still in awe that a person can walk around and seem normal, while their every word and action is a lie and a show. Not one thing genuine there. It's like living with a demon.
They lie lie lie all the time and think nothing of it. Unbelievable.
Yes but as a certain judge 👩⚖️ says when you lie you better have a good memory
My ex Narc, constantly lied about people we both knew, he did this to isolate me, so I needed to ask the person he told lies about, to see what the reality was, that way I discovered he was lying, I also would ask him a question, then ask the same question a week later, then I knew if the story was different that again they were lying 🤔🚩🏃♀️
It’s all part of their crazy making. The answers would change within minutes of their first response.
Danish you’re always right on it. They just look to hurt you even on the most ridiculous level.
The lie can be a very long story, as if they think the more detail they give, the more believable they think it is. They will change the story anytime they tell it to fit the situation. So remember the lies they tell!
Look for the looooonnngggg pause that go on and off for the entire night until you are tired (exhaustion is their favorite weapon) …also look for a smirk 😏 or weird chuckle that is totally outta context
My ex boyfriend and I had a long distance relationship for close to two years and it had always been one so lots of minutes logged on the phone. Every once in a while he would let out a chuckle it the oddest of places during our phone calls. Now I know that he was either a) Giddy because he is lying to me and I am unaware of it or b) He is texting a new supply during our phone calls. Thank you for mentioning these other subtle traits of a narc. You were the first person I heard of talking about it. Wow! You just blew my mind because it is absolutely true! Thank you!!
The words " this is ridiculous " means she/he is lying.
The actions never match the words promised 😂
The majority of the time they are lying or lay groundwork for a lie yet to be told. It's unbelievable how devious they can be. Sad really...
Not blinking the eyes !
Go to another room 😢💚💚
I came to the understanding that everything he said was a lie. Seriously!
You nailed it, this is exactly how they lie,making rhe empath anxious and doubtful .
If an empath is doubtful its a sure sign something is wrong. Trust yourself.
The smirk. And projecting
The one I know, any time I ask further details or question why something needs to be a certain way, this person will go silent and cold and stare off at a spot in the distance. If you call them out on clear nonsense, they would say "I don't like the way you're talking to me" so honestly if you're not paying attention you could fall for it and think you're mistreating them.
Yes! I literally know when he was lying. He would either go too much into details or no details at all. The last lie was the last straw though. Telling me he wasn’t even talking to her for a week. Smh but he was though. She even mentioned that they were in the talking stage while I was 5 months pregnant! That broke me for the last time
yes, i was completely fooled until the lies started to add up to a devastating end. thank you for your fast way of confirming my suspicions. i also discovered that they tell on themselves before they do things if you are tuned in. then you can expect it to happen. it's much the same as you see in politics, today, when some accuse others of something and then, themselves, do it in a few months or so, while the accused remains innocent.
I didn't know most of my 8 year marriage was a lie. I found out after we separated for the last time that I just thought I knew him. It was crazy 🤪
My Narcopathetic mother calls her bold FACED lies a LITTLE BLUNDER.
My favorite momism is " if I did that, I don't remember" I once told her that I wouldn't want to remember that either. Pissed her off royally 🙃
A woman I know would start weeping with a very neutral voice and sympathetic voice.
I didn't understand her at the time, I still don't, but this video gave me some insight.
It amazes me that prior to these helpless tears she'd speak her inner thoughts out loud. And stared at me as the subject of her inner talk. She would also state something like I had already agreed to a non existent question, given permission, which I had not, and behaved as though this manipulative behaviour was responsible.
I don't think she's a narc but she certainly lives with a very toxic one.
That's an example of a person whose had their lives damaged by narc meddling.
Im in shock right now.
This is funny TRY THIS! If the narcissist is supposed to be at the football field for example.. Call him and ask if he is there yet. He will lie and say "Yes". Tell him that the news helicopter is reporting several firetrucks because of an explosion in the locker room. Are they still there? YOU WILL BUST HIM EVERY TIME.
Lol
My ex lied all the time, about absolutely everything. Even when there was seemingly no reason or motive to lie.
He’d lie about what he ate for lunch, what TV show he liked, or what color shirt he bought. Nothing that came out of his mouth was the truth. NOTHING!
While we were dating, he mentioned that his father had been in the army. I had no reason not to believe it, as it seemed like a common thing. Occasionally, he’d mention it when telling a funny story or in regular conversation. Years later, he later confessed that as a young boy, one of his classmates had a father in the army & he was impressed by that, so he started telling people that his father was too. 😮 His pathological lying also overlapped with his grandiosity, which was off the charts!
Sadly, I discovered it only after I was pretty deeply intertwined with him. 😕. Thankfully I got away from him & he’s been out of my life for decades.
Become more arrogant than their usual self…
How did I know that they were lying?... she told all my relatives "she doesn't have covid"😈 I actually did, going to urgent care, down a whole month, not working - being sick!😭
They devalue you in every way possible. They can’t tell the truth that you are ACTUALLY sick, lest those people then give YOU some attention and not THEM. You are not allowed to be experiencing ANYTHING, good or bad, as that would make you human and to them, you are just a prop commodity. They are deplorables!!
I remember him saying on one of the very few phone calls, I was talking to him about lying in the beginning when he was being oh so nice for 4 months. He said, Lie?!!!! No no!!@ i just can't do it I just can't lie. So over the top,I know now he meant yeah I lie all the time.
She said she gets a call from her friend " Christine " as she walks 30 feet away to take her call....when I ask to see the call log afterwards it mysteriously deleted 10 minutes later....but according to her she NEVER lies.
My ex husband was always talking about his “pregnant” coworker and how she was a bully to him. Later I referred to her as “Your pregnant coworker” he’s like “what she’s not pregnant.” He talked about her every single day and I was shocked that she wasn’t pregnant at all and why he referred to her as pregnant if she never was!
That’s strange. 😂
Because he was pregnant with obsessing over that lady who was a bully to him.. because behind the scenes This woman had rejected,disliked and put him in the flush like shit. So it's just a impregnated hatred,rejection and failure to the grandiose and shallow narc. He used it by creating his own version of story where he was the victim. He might possibly thought you're so blindly in love and trust him so much,that you'll never cross verify. But you did -good fr you.. now go ask him why he lied? And be prepared for the classic Gaslightings. Fukin idiots.. have a laugh at his non existing intelligence and dispose it all of ..
Probably to try to throw you off -that because if she’s pregnant there is no threat-all lies
The ex would always talk about different women he knew and mostly would say they were into girls to throw me off
@@undercoverbird8592 it was surreal 😂 I didn't know what Gaslighting was back then but I'm pretty sure that was it
@@saraliburd7752 that is exactly my thought process too. The unnecessary description was hiding something
Its still going to be my fault bc they had to lie to help me learn a valuable lesson (known as mommy micro management system of sickness)!
*My chiropractor physically assaulted me, my neck C3-4 July 20, 2023 after I had C4-5 surgery on June 21, 2023. He was Not to touch my neck per my surgeon! He hurt me so bad, it's 3 weeks later and I'm permanently injured! He lied repeatedly and said, "I never touched your neck." I hate him! I can't function and stay in this pain. 12/02/2020 car accident and I know now that chiropractor kept me in that pain and then put me back in that pain after a 💯% successful surgery! May God deal with him on every level of punishment and judgement!* *Why are their so many narcissists that have been in my life? I can't stand them!*
Drop them as soon as you get that inappropriately loud, angry, aggressive answer, sometimes devaluing you, by telling you that another person is more than a friend, meaning, better than you. OK, then they have made their choice. Drop them immediately. Ignore, step back and show no interest at all. They are juggling friends and lovers. They are fooling all, for as long as they can. It might be an adventure or romance for you. It might be psychologically interesting or a challenge. For them it is routine, like using a tissue for a runny narcisstic nose. You will never, never, never receive that which you can give. They will put your gifts on their pile of, to them, worthless gifts. Never finance them. Never. They aren't a person to keep in your life for years. Not healthy. Not good for your survival. Take warnings from others seriously. Don't let people people set you up for blind dates. You don't know if they didn't get paid for this bringing together deal. ❤
My husband of 38+ years is a narcissist. I believed on the Lord Jesus Christ early in our marriage. His salvation to me and His word, power, and promises have been the strength of my entire journey with this man/husband of mine. We have 9 children, and 12 grandchildren so far. I know my husband has told me many lies and deceived me especially in the first 30 years, and I know he has no intention of ever telling me all the things that he has done behind my back or lied to me about, he is determined to go to his grave with them unconfessed. All your videos are right on the mark. I watched several of them . I just found your channel today. I subscribed. Thank you. I have only understood all my marriage to this man only when internet began talking about narcissism. It all made sense. And pathological liars. And sociopaths. I've learned so much and it's all been helpful. Being I have such a beautiful, large family, and being as my belief in the Bible is strong, I stay married for these reasons. God helps me so much. I love Him so much. And as King David once said, "It is good for me that I have been afflicted, That I may learn Your statutes." Psalm 119:71
I am always dependent upon my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and always keep my mind on His sovereignty over the affairs of men. He is my Fortress and Refuge always and I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. It's 38+ years and running, and I... like the apostle Paul .....will keep the faith, fight the good fight, and not be ashamed to finish my course. My husband is 67 now, and as he ages, and since he's retired, I see him analyzing his frailty and yet his ego is always ready to believe he's the same "wonderful, awesome, winsome, magnet" that's he's always seen himself as when he's in the public. He has begun to try to become a Christian too, but I see him "trying", when really, Christianity is not us "trying" to be a Christian, but rather the power of God given to a person who's believed on His Son Jesus Christ. But it makes sense he would " try" because "trying" is all about his own control and his ego.
But I keep praying for him . God knows everything, and therefore there is always hope and always help from above. I wonder if anyone else out there has a similar journey.
God help and bless us all, everyone.
Me.. every word you speak is my life. I can hardly see the keyboard to type through tears and after dropping my phone from stumbling backward to sit down... I thought I was the only one who had these feelings. My belief/faith is the same as yours. My story sounds exactly like yours. Years married are less. But it's crazy that everything you said is exactly what I could say if I were to describe how I feel about my narcistic husband. Someone I've known since I was 10. We actually got together later in life after each had failed marriages and children. As of now, we're 12 years into our marriage and are grandparents together.. his narcissist games and lies lies lies will likely never end.. there was some shift in our marriage about 7 years in when he realized I was on to him. He still fights it every step of the way.. soo stubborn. Never let him know anything that annoys me.. because he'll do it more. And when U call him.on it look me in the eye and deny it. And yes... the aging thing is a lil sad. My husband has always been super hot (he knows it) but now at 57 I look at him and see that he sees the change too. But yet still has an arrogant way about himself.. he always has put off an air that he's better than you. He hates when I call him out on his stupid games. He always always denies that even if I saw him lie, he would still say it was my vision.. then there's the whole part of me that LOVEs him so much. As I've drawn closer to God, I'll love him more.. its also developed into a sort of love filled with compassion for him...I hate to say I feel sorry for him.. but I kinda do.. he can't share a real feeling.. he can't express with words any deep meaningful real communication. I witnessed him getting saved and baptized.!! IT WAS AMAZINg.. as a christin you already know how the devil can steal your joy. So let me say.. for almost 9 months! Maybe 10..my husband was a different man. It all fell apart when he caved into his desire to smoke Mjane and very subtly sin crept back into him and then for a few months, it was like half good half bad.. then as a year turned into many more..he's almost NOT QUITE..but almost back to the same level of on and off hatefullness/ but always acts GREAT in front of others.. sometimes, he even follows me around and acts submissive at church which really sickens me.. I'm like. Oh my goodness, if these people really knew. But now they are starting to.. because I've been outing him quietly to the pastors mother and her prayers have helped. I realized I need more people on board to pray for him. LET ME STOP RIGHT THERE AND SAY NONE OF THIS WOULD BE POSSIBLE FOR ME WITHOUT MR. DANISH!! GOD HAS SENT this man into my life to teach me and confirm to me what my husband is.. Danish is doing work for the good God we serve. God almighty has brought Danish out of his hell. HIS PAIN has been turned into brilliance and restored Mr. Danish 10 fold. Although I must admit sometimes I have to watch his videos again because the first time I'm staring at how gorgeous he is and that accent!! Oh no. Got off track.. Sorry not sorry Danish😅😂.. !!!! But seriously YOU WoNDERED if anyone else shared your feelings. Here I am. I thank you for sharing your story.
@@cherieesclavon4780 Dear Cheriee, Every thing ... Every single thing you shared sounds like my husband and my experience exactly. Exactly. Even the baptism! Every order of events you spoke of, before and after your husband's baptism sounds exactly like my husband's experience. So astounding it is to me. Dear friend, thank you from the depth of my soul and heart for sharing your painful yet determined soul and heart with me.
We are kindred spirits. One day (soon) our Lord and Savior will appear in the clouds. He will gather us together with Him. And so we shall be with the Lord forever. 🙌❤️
And as our example of suffering for the Word of God and His glory, the Apostle Paul encourages us with these words:
"For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal." (2 Corinthians 4:17,18)
And God also promises us He will wipe away all our tears.
I know you know these verses dear friend. I just am thankful ...so much ... that we have them. I thank God every day for His Word to us. Given in love to us. I am tormented daily in my soul at the marriage I thought I had, only to find out so many truths and yet a tremendous amount of lies still lay concealed, which he'll never expose to me. And what's in his heart is not understandable to me, which keeps our relationship so separated. But I find solace in that I was born again at age 25, so long ago now already, and that I fought the good fight and have kept the faith and have been chosen by God for this position He has me in. ( Three times before Bob and I married God told me, "Bob is for you Sue, no matter what". I had no idea back then what He meant.
But it sure helps me now, looking back over it all, to have the encouragement that God foreknew all of it, and is with me all the way, and I with Him. ❤️
I trust in Him (God and His Son) alone, .. which is so foreign to what I thought about my marriage in the beginning, and so amazingly hard to adapt to, even.. still now. It seems we want to, as women, lean upon our man, but you and I can't do that, and in Scripture Abigail couldn't either. She had to have been married to a narcissist, if you read her story in the Bible, it makes sense that her husband was a narcissist.
And I'm pretty sure most of the Bible stories are full of narcissistic men and possibly some women. Jezebel for one.
I still practice thanking God for the good gifts I've been given just through being married. A home, children, grandchildren, and a man whose provided and kept me as his #1. There's lots to cry over, and lots I've lost out on in what a true marriage should and could have been like for me, yet before my God I want to be grateful and not mourn away till my time to go home. I know God understands my dilemma and allows grace to take it's time in revealing new helps to me. I love Him so much. You ought to see my husband when I "adore" God in my prayers - when I pray aloud with my husband. He is very jealous. It's SO so so sad that he can't adore His savior with a true love and a true worshipful heart. Yes you have to pity them. And I do thank God I don't have his personality disorder. It must be terrible to feel no real love inside for anyone.
Dear friend you take care, I'm so glad you wrote to me. I love you in Christ Jesus, whose appearing could be at any moment now. ❤️ God help you in great and precious ways of mercies, grace, and love and power. And may He help me too. ❤️
Thank you Danish for your help and time the fact of it is that when they open their mouth it's all lies they can't tell the truth thanks again
They can speak to you in a very arrogant and condescending manner at times. He always wanted me to ring him until I said NO you ring me, he said ( you can ring me anytime you like!!!.) In a very arrogant condescending way. Didn't like that. Red flag. Only 4 phone calls in 10 months. Was mainly texts and emoji. Unbelievably. I feel so stupid but he never got me I'm thrilled about that.
EXCESSIVE detail.......that's when I knew for sure
Shifty eyes were the 2nd....loud response.
I realised when none.. absolutely none of their words match their actions. Their social media is full of love..and family man pictures. But.. you surely know they are nothing close to their perfect facade
❤🎉Blessings
Keep spreading the truth!
The longer the explanation, the bigger the lie. A HUGE WORD SALAD WITH EXTRA DRESSING FOR DRAMA.
Jaw clenching
U know how much you help me.... Prayers and regards brother
We have a staff member who is a narcissist. One day she decided to lie to one of my coworkers during a verbal report. Fortunately my coworker did not trust her and double checked. Now when the narcissist gives me a verbal report I dig the knife in by saying, This better be the truth or I go straight to the manager. She hates me because I call her out on her bs. She is a very disliked staff member by all of us.
The story changes, making it fake as their face twitches and by their body movements
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If they are breathing they are lying.
😂
How do you know they are lying? When you witness first hand something they have done and they say they don't remember the event, and at the same time they can recall with accurate details of what you have done that is even further in the past.
So damn true. I experienced that. It's annoying. But they remember every detail about your past events.
My Mum would say “That doesn’t sound like something I would say”. Thing is she used this same exact response every time. Or she would say she couldn’t remember saying it which I think is called narcissistic amnesia. She was never concerned with trying to get to the bottom of what happened or consider that she might have said what she said. Also, she might come back a day or two later with a rewritten version of events that suited her much better. Crazy making…
Yes! Or, it was a joke or you remembered it incorrectly. Or heard it wrong.
By questioning "Why" myself
They're breathing, dead giveaway.
@@jbrown2908 they would spontaneously combust if anything true left their lips 😅
@@jbrown2908 they are very weak at hiding truth because people hide it most of the time because they don't want to hurt others. But narcissist has no such sense. So sooner or later they will tell you the truth.
The first way I could tell was him always trying to change the truth. If he isn't doing anything wrong there's no reason to try to gaslight me to believe something different. 'It's not that I wasn't answering the phone, I was-' 'you're just overreacting!' 'you remember wrong, that didn't happen that way at all' whether major or minor those things shouldn't ever be said to you, unless you maybe have dementia. That's how I knew I was being lied to. Unfortunately I still stayed. But thats how I knew.
I don’t remember saying that….
If they're breathing they're lying.
How to tell a narcissist is lying: Their lips are moving.
I think the lies that are the most absurd and unrealistic as to why they were late are the funniest.
My father liked to embellish stories. At first, it was a story about a 40cm fish, but over the course of a day, it became 80cm (or larger) fish - the longer he kept repeating the same story, the more heroic it sounded. I doubt, he even caught a fish. It´s more likely, it was a story of someone else.
I´d say it´s better to presume, they are lying by default.
You know they're LYING" When you give a calm, collective, answer and you get the intensity rage to the exponent of a million
It's hard to say. It got to where I could tell he was lying from another room.
The lips are moving
So true! They offer too many elaborate details yet they cant remember the details. lol 😂
That's hilarious the dog part of the narcs story".
Their words never line up with their actions.
They over explain, when they lie.
Me: You did XYZ to this person and that is why they quit coming back.
Them: Could you see me do that?! Could you see me do that?! Tell me, could you see me do that?!
Me:*thinking* Ya, after all the things you have said and done to me.
Please make more video related to this topic
When the story takes a 180 in only 10 days!
Narc make friend 9f his type to use his tactic to create problem in supply life
Cuz they were abusing me then later telling me I didn’t say that walking out the house and walking back in. Like nothing happened.
When I look in their eyes it’s like they’re eyes 👀 looks fake 🤥
1. when they get unreasonably angry for no reason;, especially when you feel ike asking a innocuous question, they are hiding the truth and are lying.
2. when you mention one topic passionately that is somewhat unique, all of sudden, they and one of their friends know a lot about the same topic. Seemingly they are knowing even more than you do by speaking loud and confidently. But what they say on that topic don't make sense.
3. Whenever they say they did this to you and did that to you, ask they how they did it, ask for more details of the story. Most of the time, they did not do those things but want you to remember their being nice.
4. When they accuse you of something, and make a mountain out of molehill, they are lying and trying to cover their insecurities.
I busted my female narc’s lies right in front of one of her female flying monkeys.
You should have seen the look in her eyes. Her distorted reality started to crack.
I have some what's up chatting proof where he was demanding a prositute for his night stand and he used to do so and when I ask to him that he is not a fair person he blames me badly and say to me that I will punish by the god becase he is inocent guy...and spiritual guy can you people belive this...I keep these secret to myself for court case...he doesn't know that I have proof...
I must say here that if I don't have proof than I doubt to myself becase his reputation in his family is a simple golden child... how Sick he is.....
True distracting conversation,defensive domineering attention to their lies and insecurity plotting revenge new supply many thks
Mine would come home with this big elaborate story, and then 34 weeks later repeat some thing from that particular night or event, and it would make no sense from the first story and then when I ask about it, he would change it up
He would tell the story part, a and part C and always leave. I’ll b that’s why most of it never made sense and then I had to start over thinking this situation.
My late husband's "mother" is a narcissist (along with her sisters). In the over 25 years that I've known her, almost every conversation she lies at least once. Almost every conversation she gets defensive about the dumbest things. She just goes over the top by telling details with great passion. For example, eating a juicy apple and running her hand down her neck to demonstrate how juicy it was. My husband was in the hospital and I took him the apples he'd asked me for, and she handed them back to me and made him eat the ones that she brought. Mine were gross and HERS were the ones that he likes. She said that she tried the ones that I buy and they are like cardboard, and lacked both flavor and juice. She tried to get my husband's "father" to agree with her and he really didn't say anything because he knew that she was lying. She put on quite a show! My friends would ask me how I knew when she was lying. and I always said I knew because she opened her mouth. It was creepy to watch because it's like she'd gone into her own little world. The look on my husband's face was priceless!
Oh you forgot one thing..they just LOVE to tell stories where they are the main character and how great they were and will say "not trying to brag but I respect others ha/ I don't mean to bitch about others but they did so wrong to me and how they hurt me deeply". Just notice everything is about them.
She would flip out
When their mouth is moving, thats when they are lying
I hen he spoke his eye were always looking elsewhere. Many time he could not look me in the eyes/face. Eyes were always shifting / looking elsewhere…
Often they lie through omission.
My sister lies everytime she speaks, big things, little things, she's nuts. I complemented her on her nail polish, as she never use to bother, "yes my grand daughters did it". Then I find her posting on Facebook her manicure and her thanking her manicurist profusely and saying she'll be back next week as per usual. Why bother? I couldn't care less. Then she told my dad's doctor she is was his carer, and not me, so all details must go to her, cutting me out. When I confronted her, first she claimed I was confused, then the doctor then when I had it in in writing, she would 'fix it'. When she didn't she screamed in my face 'I don't have to do what you say!". "I'm in charge" took me a while to figure her out what she meant by 'im in charge' meant, not as I assumed in charge of assisting dad, but " IM incharge of YOU", who thinks like that.
Narcissistic person opens their mouth to eat and lie and to verbally attack. Im still in dilemma and shock that my bf lied to me and called me a psycho and a liar.when I grey rocked him he's like why you are showing your attitude and ego to me? I still can't be live that he was blatantly lying to me but it took me very long to understand that.I was aware that the events he shares about his life are inconsistent he sats about his dads job friend's jobs but changes the stories to suit the moment. One day he saud he booked a mercedes benz 4 matic and one month later he says he is seriously following a spiritual path and he is not interested in luxury.I was like what the fuck should I believe? He says he protects his celibacy but says his female friends and cousins sit on his lap and pull his cheeks tickle him and fondly tell him they love him and wanna marry him but they have no intention to do so.
He proposed and wanted to get married as soon as posbbile. A month after I asked him did he tell that to his family. He said that everyone knows. I sent a message to his his sister to ask her, she said that they do not know. Then I saw a message he sent to his sister writing her that I'm lieing and vrazy and that she should block me. When confronted to that he acused me of conspiring with several other people to check on his phome, then he slapped me a couple times and spit me in the face.
They say I don't remember.i forget
When for nine months they read and respond timelt to your facebook messages the suddenly they read them and don't respond. That's a big change in behavior. Watch out for that too.
Hi Bashir,i was presenting my boyfriend with evidence of betrayal and emotional cheating and he said: " It wasn't me " lol but not lol,everything is right there and they keep on lying,i feel everything is a lie ,they are terrified of the truth😮
I know that this only can be done if you know very well their doings. And still its exhausting but, i bullied the narcissist telling them how useless, incompetent, stupid, bad looking they were. Meanwhile I already told them that I had no problem calling the police and in the back ground i already left a trail of their abuse towards me with anyone i knew the dr, gov people, etc.
"I forgot everything". I forgot it ever happend...i forgot all my childhood...all reasons not to change...
They were talking
That's one thing I don't let on is their lies
How do I know when he's lying?
His lips are moving.
They seem to have script
Is it strange that i can tell by looking at their eyes? Does anyome else experience this im curious
Love I bing to suck you in. Actions don’t match words. They change significantly in a short time but it’s very subtle causing gaslighting
After the explosion, don't be tricked by a tricky apology. That is also NOT coming from the heart, although they are good at pretending to have one. If you have been with a Narcissist, you might easily pick a seemingly 'nicer' one/Narcissist next time. You can be easily fooled in this moment. Give it time, Stay safe. ❤
u can tell if there ips move [bottom line ]
Their mouth is moving
They gv u silent treatment wen further questioned
He didnt remember