5 Signs to Spot a Narcissist in Conversation
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00:00 introduction
00:49 1.They keep interrupting you & it keeps happening during a conversation
03:14 2.They react badly to praise
05:58 3. You can never have a dialogue with a Narcissist
07:50 4. They have a know it all attitude
09:27 5. LACK OF FOCUS
Money is so important to them....
No kidding! They never stop talking about money!
@@hikerhobby1204exactly, because that’s one of the weapons they use to enslave you.
O yes, because money is one of the weapons they use to enslave you.
Extremely stingy with money. Money is power. They want power power power
It is not the $'s but the spiritual power !
some other signs to spot a narcissist:
-lack of empathy for other's suffeting or bad fortune.
-watch their reaction when you establish boundaries or say NO, the most powerful word in the english language
-they will always one-up whatever story you tell them. for example if you had a serious sickness, they will make their cold sound like it was a life-threatening condition.
-watch how they treat people who are "below" them or have nothing to offer.
-a narcissist's words will almost never match their actions.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
The narcissist I know makes a point to give a dollar to the same homeless guy on the street. Give cans to the 80 year old housekeeper next door. Same person who takes 4 local papers to get as many of the discount coupons as possible… but interpersonally 1 on 1 she’s bored to tears if not high status or offer giveaways like very expensive wine etc…every weekend throwing somebody’s “birthday” party with lots of toasts. I clearly don’t measure up even though I have a birthday every year too. Furious at my being no longer willing to share my feelings with her anymore. Collecting data on people like an interrogation is another sign of a narcissist. They use info to justify themselves for dismissive behavior, smear campaigns and how to hurt/manipulate people. Not safe.
I think the second highlight may not have to be a narcissist thing only. I know someone who’s not really a narcissist, but really takes offense to when you set boundaries. Not a narcissist, but definitely quite selfish.
My light bulb first went off after I told my sister about how her daughter started crying watching the movie bumblebee when he almost died in the movie and how I thought it was cute she cut me off and said yeah every time she does that around me I tell her to STFU and go to her room! 😡 how could you stunt your own child’s empathy development like that! Makes me sick I hope my niece and nephew know they can reach out when they become adults 😔.
I wish I knew all these before my marriage. I was fool enough to marry a religious covert narc a wolf among Christians. And it's TRUE narcs live all over the world and act the same. Greetings from Athens Greece
@tzeccentric7848 all narcissist hate being told NO.
to your point, saying NO or having boundaries on it's own doesn't make identify someone as a narcissist, but it's def a big red flag to clue in on.
once you know how to test people, they eventually will tell on themselves.
-cheers, steven
So true, they just rumble and rant , on and on to no end. They are exhausting and a waste of time.
My ex narc was financial talk and sports. 😂 im like my goodness you don't have a friend at all.
Waste of time is so accurate
They are truly, the WORST about , “cutting” you off mid-sentence! Just totally rude and disrespectful. You literally have to just shut up and sit there, wondering WTAF is happening! It’s so awkward, you don’t know how to react, at first. 😮😕🤨😠😡
Oh I do ive told plenty of them stf up not everything is about you.
🧐that's not as simple
adhd and autism does that, too and there's rarely any disrespect intended
on top of that, cross-cultural interruptions can be wnthusiasm for your words!
It's gotta be the combo with genuine disrespect, dismissal, devaluation, degredation, etc.
100% true. I face this everyday. 😮😢😮
My mom does this 💀 I be like damn… can I finish?
It is impossible to have a normal conversation with a narc. All they want is a debate, an argument, a row or a screaming match. Christ, it's pathetic.
There are many different signs. These include spending time on phone that was not spent previously, withholding sex from you, withdrawing in communication with you, agitation or anger over Petty stuff or making up situations to get angry or agitated over, lying, being secretive in any way, randomly spending more time caring for and pampering oneself such as putting on makeup or wearing cologne or coloring hair etc. Any type of changed behavior that is not aimed at pleasing or benefiting your relationship. With all of that though, follow your gut. your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it's telling you that this could or is happening, therefore listen to it. Just Free yourself from all of it! Run and don't look back. Go 100% no contact. The mental and emotional abuse is not okay at all! Do not bring anything up to her. Don't try to rationalize or have a conversation about anything. Don't let her know that you know she's in narcissist. All of that can cause a narcissistic rage. If you have not yet witnessed one of those just trust me that you don't want to! A narcissistic rage is beyond any rage I have ever seen or witnessed in my entire life. I am an army combat veteran and served front lines for a year and afghanistan. I have abuse going back from as long as I can remember, the first time in my personal memory is 2 years old. With everything I have been involved in, and my rape, other sexual abuse, their physical abuse, etc in narcissistic rage is by far the worst! If you need to contact your local police department and start a new contact order. No one can protect you like you can! free yourself from it all and move forward in your life. The minute you run and go no contact is the minute your life begins again. If need be seek out professional help. Therapy is the best thing I did for myself. The best gift I gave to me! The abuse is so deep and overwhelming that having a professional guide you through the steps of the healing process is extremely beneficial! Just remember, there is great strength in asking for help. There is great lack and strength or no strength at all in putting on a mask and hiding behind the opinions of society and pretending that you are okay! As human beings we all witness A Time In our lives where we are not okay! Those that heal, move past, and move forward, and have a brighter future are those who ask for help and do the work that is needed through the help! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the very best! Good luck! Always remember that you are stronger than you believe you are, you are worthy and deserving of better and always, and you are enough just the way you are and who you are today! Take this time for you! Get yourself again. Fix that meal that you're all time favorite, rent that movie you've been wanting to see, have a guys night out with your best friends, remodel a room in your home, go purchase that item you've been wanting to for so long, just do for yourself! Self-acceptance, self-love, and being able to forgive yourself is far more important than what anyone else can give to you! Believe in who you are! You deserve nothing less than that! You're not alone! Feel free to tag me in any other questions that you have! I'll help if I can. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at digitalinvestigate@gmail.com where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........
They are very proud about their position over others, they praise their revenge and brag about it. It's very sick and clear.
I have seen this too
So you know what they are capable of when they do something shady to you but they deny it. Run!
I knew one who set a SEAL team on a woman he was mad at. Parking lot takedown to humiliate her. He’s high rank and worked personally with them so of course they did it. Never underestimate the revenge of a malignant narcissist who has power.
Over the years, i have lost track of how many times my parents have talked over me, left me in the middle of a conversation, and start up a conversation with each other before I've finished talking. No wonder i have low self esteem?
My mother always did that. So rude.
@@anneofgreengables1619 my mother too. Constant interrupting. Bear in mind she also have horrible untreated ADHD. Sometimes she walls away if im in a conversation.. Its so rude. My dad is the worst. He talks over people allt he time. All eyes on him. Exhausting
😢😮😢
Same here. They word for word start the scentance as I did and then change the outcome. If I try again they do the same thing untill I give up.
Recognizable ❤🥺
So true! They always think they know it all and better than everybody else. They love humiliating their victims in front of others.
I never get a chance to finish a sentence. He thinks he already knows what I'm going to say, but he is always wrong. But it does not stop him from interrupting over and over again.
And yes, he is never interested in anything I would like to tell them. Always looking around or he even walks away while I'm speaking.
Sounds like my bf... He does all this. He lack communication skills big time. Also he hates compliments. Never give me one. Only the first few years with love bombing.
Mine used to give a great big yawn when I was telling him something that interested me, his way of saying shut up. Another actually fell asleep when I was talking, so rude. Yet we're supposed to hang on their every word. Glad they are out of my life!
Ironically, you do know what they are going to say. They are broken records. Every once in a while they learn a new track.
I think you met my Ex. LoL This is the exact same thing I went thru for almost 30 yrs.
So happy to be FREE now!
@@mia_1969 I'm still not free. You wouldn't want him back, would you? Lol
Precisely. They ask a question and want the answer in 5 seconds or less. Often asking, "Do you agree with me?", "Did you watch this other video I did?", or begin a recording with, "I hope you watched the last (2, 3, 4, 5) videos I did."
It's exhausting.
Absolutely correct. I experienced all of this with my narcissistic husband with whom I stayed for twenty years.
When a narcissist wants to tell me something ( to teach me ) about whatever subject... after they are done, I never (now) let them think they succeeded in their attempt to get me sucked in. Instead, I say "oh really! I'll have to look that up myself". It works for me (now). Now that I am learning ways to give myself a gold star😊. Great video, Danish. I appreciate.
The 🌎 needs to know about the destruction of narcissism 🫡🇺🇸🦅
That's brilliant. Most of the time I say things like 'gosh' or 'oh' and keep smiling and do my best to ignore whatever lies they have been spewing. I like the idea of threatening them with a fact check though. 😂
I like asking them about something they claim to know everything about and when they give me a thin basic answer I keep asking more indepth questions to see how base their knowledge is and how they act when they don't know the answers it's funny,they love it
I don't know why but in starting 4 I don't even recognize the demon that I deal with , but have strong spiritual value i never succeeded him.
That was a horrible moment I have photogenic memory and listening. And he always changes what he said in last conversation and without thinking too much I give him a reality check. Fir an example he said baking job is prohibited in Islam yes i agree but we live in India. If u gt a chance and clear the exam u never think about to quiet from this opportunity. I have him reality check u was not able crack the exam that's it this an excuse this job his haram .. if this haram why u not doing in other sector trading his halal?? She passively agreesive but not pretending.
2) Allhumdolillah bit thing I achieved in my life this is nothing but blessing of Allah but in 3 month friendship as much he knows about me at every step comparing me with his failed achivement. example I am medic always dicuss some volatile topics with senior and junior.
Next day she said ohh man I am worried about those students/ junior I am sure they fail in the exam. Look that group of guy seems I have too much knowledge they always ask me about this and that😂😂 that was compression.
3) I'm the kind of person who never talks in scripted patterns , his family and brothers start liking me bec of my charm and gesture. He said ohh u love someone uplift and perise ur achievements I said ohh man we had been in contact for 4 months.. i this thing not meant for me this all just bec who I am .. he said o my friend also crack this and that exam. And he lost his own delusion😂 again I gave him a reality check yes I see him ' chronic snooker and Tabasco chewing gang ' nothing u this company reason u and ur friends still jobless 😂😂
4) last year I was selected for my pg program course in a prestigious medical college in India he said ohh congratulations and again loss in his delusional world one of my friend and his best friend was also selected for m.tech but just bec of his friend he lost this opportunity how luck he have such kind of friendship and bond. I always in reality check I said noo man i never do this for anyone never stop someone for what he acchive by his hardwork and if someone really cares for me and respect my efforts towards my career and goal he never stops me for my growth and upbringing. So i never do this for anyone. How can I believe someone if life is temporary how someone can stay forever ♾️😂😂.
5) he said I am very close to my mother. And we are an innocent and liberal family again in reality check ✅😂 this time he loss his temperament passive agreesive.
Why i said I'm spiritually strong because once we talk on call , his charmingness and gesture of honesty seems saud how u are lucky u have such kind of friend but he forgets to disconnect the call and what i heard is disturbing and i was not able believe that this is a same person. He abused me like hell .. so i treat him the way he deserves whenever he asked for anything I said no or just engaged him for my ans yes or no this passive anger burst at the end of conversation..
I fell m strong empathy but the devil's Shake my Sol deeply.. still i can't get out the charm and the lie 😭
I don’t know there are narcissist in Canada. I have always loved that country and thought everyone was nice there 😂😂😂😂😂😂
And they interrupt you to belittle you in front of others as they do not tolerate competition (i.e. what They see as competition: you).
The lack of focus can be quite unnerving. One has to learn to be dull and not talk very much.
Your videos are super good!😊👏
Mostly religious people in my neighborhood and even my so called family members all are Narcissist....they never follow true path of God .....but just pretending they are so religious....but always preparing their mind to hurt someone .....they always black eye on my contact...but. I don't have anyone...only your guidance protects me brother.....thanks a lot.
I know what you mean bro. In all religions this happens.
Quick to get on their religious high horse but deep down inside they are evil people.
When I would speak of something wonderful happening, my ‘mother’ would talk (lie) about someone who has it better. On the flip side, when I would talk about something that was happening to me in a negative way, she would always mention someone who has it worse! Never acknowledging ME or my life
So sad…SMH😞
My "mother" also has invalidated me in every possible way for 58 years. Best to not speak to her at all unless you give a only a yes or no answer.
Yes they are dismissive to others because they have no soul.
Yikes. Narcissistic parents sound absolutely horrendous.
They are the worst! They have 18yrs to brainwash you from birth. Then you will spend many years of your life most likely married to one 🤦♀️. If you make it out of that, what is remaining of your existence is spent trying to heal from all their sick mind twisting abuse.
It's the worst when you're older because they're even older and you don't want to go visit. My dad is 88 and I should be there visiting. I live an hour and a half away. I just don't want to be in the same room with him. A short phone call will be good for me. I feel very bad 😔😢😢
The talking talking at you, yawning, looking everywhere except you, don’t respect your conversation, interrupting conversation and more. In the end after one of his sudden rages I told him we were over and walked away. They are beyond help, selfish, exhausting etc.
Thanks for the disclaimer about adhd and dyslexia 😅
Yes, I have both.
Very important
Yes the convo has to be about them
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Yes- my dad would tell me my bad grades were me trying to embarrass him and he couldn’t believe I was his child- but then if I did really well he accused me of thinking I was better than him and what didn’t even need him bla bla bla- so childish it was hard to explain to others a grown man said it.
I’m sorry you went through that. 🥲
Sorry you experienced that. 🫂
Sounds like psychosis and a major egomaniac.
When we would be around people he would always have to be the center of attention. ALWAYS monopolizing the conversation. After awhile I started telling him IM TALKING!! I had to cause he would always interrupt me. He would shut up.
I hate wn someone asks me a question & the narc has the nerve to answer for me!🤔🙄
So many things make sense in retrospect. I remember going with my husband to a concert by a resident of our town who had gone on to be a big deal. It was a fabulous concert and the musician was very engaging and charismatic (btw, the concert was free because this musician wanted to give back to his community.). My husband disliked him because of his charisma and self-confidence. It was very confusing to me, but after I figured out he was a narcissist, it all made perfect sense.
Money,and what other people think of them,trying to impress you and what's important to you and how you spend your time. Also watch for a person who wants to hog the conversation and talk about themselves all the time. They also like to undermine your abilities and talents, your success and how loved you are. I have been no contact for 6 years, this July. AND it's amazing, you take your power and life back. It is truly a beautiful, beautiful thing. WE ALWAYS HAD OUR POWER AND LIFE. THAT'S WHY THEIR NO LONGER IN OUR LIFES!!!!
My ex friend always loved to throw out fake facts about her family.
She claimed she was related to Sir Isaac Newton, which can be easily debunked as his last blood relative died in the United States in the 70’s.
She also claimed that she was royalty, and that if her family had stayed in Scotland, she would be a Scottish princess; also not true.
And yes, she loved to talk at you and would constantly interrupt. She hated when I would look things up after she spewed them out and disprove what she said.
She was very selfish and hated anyone being given anything at all. Once, my husband who was my boyfriend at the time, wanted to surprise me by showing me that, new at the time, game PT. I love Silent Hill, and he did everything to hide its title so I wouldn’t know what it was. She was told not to say a word if she knew what it was, and she immediately blurted out as soon as the video started: that’s the new silent hill game.
She loved to ruin surprises for others. She even went out of her way to spoil the entire plot of another game for one of my husband’s friends.
However, unlike most narcissists, she did not have charisma and no one really liked her.
😂 That last part was unexpected and yet comedic.
@@miriamhavard7621 Interestingly enough, covert narcissists are very socially awkward and most people actually don’t like them.
I ended up with her because I believe in giving people chances. I have adhd, so I know how fitting in can be hard.
She told me a bunch of fake stories about her being abused, and I was raised by an abusive narcissist mother, and at the time I was young and naïve, so I believed her. It was only once we were out of high school that her mask slipped and I started putting things together.
Interesting! I just stopped a relationship just like you are describing.
I've been asked a question by narcissistic personalities and they then answer the question, take offence with their answer that they have spoken and then treat you detrimentally for their answer. It leaves you dumb founded, trying to process what they've said and wondering "Are they talking about me?" You are unable to correct them as they have already made their mind up and make it as though you are lying. They love to think they know you better than yourself and constantly put words in your mouth from theirs to demean you for their supperior self pleasure. They then tell everyone what they've said as Gospel!
It is like a conversation with criminals and that is not possible
Yes, my mother would say I needed to be humbled.
@tftcpar: my mother would tell me I was "different". 🤨 Then, she would tell people how my brother and sister are "normal". (Folks, if only you knew all the stunts my mother pulled.) It would definitely make a great story on the Lifetime Movie Channel...based on a true story.
Danish I'm so glad you're giving disclaimers for adhd-ers. Because hearing about these signs make me feel like I am the narcissist. These disclaimers will help people differentiate between a narcissism and adhd. The conversations between my narcissistic parents and adhd me sounds exactly how you describe it here.
Having a parent who never completed high school / secondary school, then to have my own academic process criticized was a point of confusion as I grew up. I was expected to get straight As or was punished. When I made the honor roll, that was downplayed as well.
You hit that on the head.
And all the other points as well. I feel like you and I grew up in the same home. And the behavior continues to today. So I just do not talk anymore. I don't pay attention to them either.
Danish! I am so glad you brought up the presentations of ADHD with interruption of which excludes them from the NPD diagnosis!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!
This is me...I believe what separates people with ADHD from narcissist is we notice we're interrupting and try to adjust accordingly.
@@RebuildingWithClarity yes...we take accountability and reveal our neurodivergence and do our best to be mindful of our interruptions and address it "mid-interruption" sadly... ADHD'rs are targets for narcissists, most of the time.
Yes talk at you because they think you are stupid
Yes, and they don't care at all about what you think, feel or say.
U know exactly what ur talking about!! I have literally experienced everything ur mentioning!! I know exactly how to deal w/a narc…some instinctively but a lot thru u!! Thank u very much!!🙂💖
Look for the patterns
They do not, CAN NOT change the dynamics
I’m so glad you mentioned about the ADHD stuff. My lovely friend has ADHD and sometimes interrupts a bit, she can’t help it, bless her. But the narc ‘friend’ would always shout at her ‘ let me finish!’ In such a rude way that my ADHD friend would feel sad and embarrassed. That narc was such a cow!
Arghhhh 😮those people i consistently feel as though I am boring them to pieces every single time I open my mouth - I’m only there to ask them the “right” questions and to “listen” while they roam around the area and scroll through their phones … these are not kids. One person in particular is constantly looking up old friends and other people as well as acquaintances and passersby after she insists I walk with her to the Market. She then immediately takes off once we arrive at the Market to chat up other people while fully expecting me to be available to walk her back home when she is done shopping and visiting with all of her old and new “friends”. Such bizarre rude behavior. I don’t even know what to think - why even talk to me at all?
Stay away from her
Run!!!
You don’t need her at all,
You will find much much better friends,
Anyway she is Not your friend she’s just using you it’s quite obvious.
Yes! But why why why was it so difficult to STOP sharing for so long...even knowing they don't care, watching him do the things you said, and knowing better!?!
It took so long to stop that habit
My narcissistic mother is doing all these 😢😮😢
Always spoiling my mood by cutting me and throwing away my topic very brutally.
Very true, cause when talk about something which leads to a bad truth which can expose them ,they interrupt you. They might get caught on who they are and are afraid you discover their true horrible nature
I have a new co-worker that I suspected is narcissistic - this helped confirm what I suspected, esp. points 4 and 5. She talks about herself, then when I talk about something that's not about her, her eyes literally glaze over, she looks down at her computer and ignores me. That and other red flags I've learned to see led to me completely backing away from her, even moving where I sit at work. When you know what to look for, it's amazing how they give themselves away. Love bombing at first, then this week the devaluing began. Thanks Danish - I no longer fall for their manipulations
My dad never looked at my exams results.
Narcissistic parents truly do not care about the success or welfare of their children unless it benefits them. They want you begging for their validation because it brings them satisfaction to see you at their mercy. They are sick people.
SPOT ON! I can tell you've been through the trenches too! lol
Thanks for clarifying the ADHD thing and describing it so well.
Many times I interrupt because I know if I don't say it then I will forget what I wanted to say because Ill be on to another thousand thoughts lol
When they want to answer 😂
My mother is a super grandiose narcissist.
I'm sorry
So sorry
I talk and cut people off not because I want too, it’s actually very embarrassing and due to massive anxiety from ptsd, after I’m done talking I realize my lack of control like diarrhea mouth it’s very embarrassing
I do the same thing I have a cute anxiety agoraphobia and PTSD and I'm alone most of the time a widow 56 so I find when I do have a friend around I do the same thing there's so many thoughts racing and also never know when to talk to but I do have self-reflection as you do and the ability to apologize God bless
@@paulettelamontagne6992 I get it, you get it, thank you god bless you🙏🏻
Same here. I'm trying to be more mindful of myself/ my mouth when around others. It's not as easy as it should be though.
Thank you. Yes, it's all true! Concerning my academic achievements my family demanded from me to be only an excellent pupil! Anything less than the very best was the end of the world! I had no right to make a mistake. First I wanted to show my parents what I know, what I managed to learn all by myself and they just used to say: "So, you want a medal for it?" :-) But when somebody else praised me they took all the credit for my achievements for themselves and said that they always help me and how else it can be if I am THEIR daughter! :-)...
Almost word for word, sadly. It was so confusing. Damned if you do and damned if you don't.
I hated that last part you said about taking full credit in front of others 😢
Not being "their daughter" also was a regular slam🕊️
Zactly!
I had unexpectedly ended up in hospital for a few days (while living overseas) and I sent a photo to a friend - who had been in the same hospital and said "so I have ended up here" - the response was to ignore my comment entirely and was straight into to all about how everyone had forgotten her birthday etc etc etc. When she eventually learned that I had been in hospital, she was like - well why didn't you say" and I said I did and sent you a photo and you ignored it. I have just come to realise in the last week that I think my father has traits very like a narcissist. I believe my sister has many traits as well to a narcissist (don't upset her....EVER or everyone will suffer- I have now realised that a LOT of what I heard growing up from my family, are things that have really damaged me and I have unfortunately believed a lot of it for a very long time. I am single to this day because I do not want to foist myself/the person that I am upon others because I have soooooooooo many faults and little to offer anyone. It's quite a revelation - although not the most pleasant discovery.
That is so safe, and am very sorry,
It sounds to me like a were hyper criticized so have no self belief,
It’s incredible that much damage people can do each other just by what they say and do without ever laying a hand on you!
Thanks for the ADHD disclaimer! I am always worried I will let myself runa away with a conversation. Worst part, os the more i find someone interesting, the more ideas my mind begins to associate with them, and theore likely I will get distracted and just get away from myself - oops, did it again! Thanks again, Danish! 1:02
I had a narcissist bird test me multiple times in one day before I knew what the bird test was at my own house but because I feed the birds over here and I love birds I came running every time they said hey look at this bird, but there was never a bird😂
Oh, boy! This video is relatable! Whatever you are talking about, they have done it faster, better, more times, they had it way worse or way better, etc. Also, they find a way to bring the discussion to a point where it's all about them, and how they're doing, how they're feeling, what they're going through, etc. and you can't get a word in sideways. They also offer unsolicited advice like they are the end-all, be-all encyclopedia of knowledge and you're just a know-nothing. The advice they give is usually terrible advice, and they will usually talk extensively about things that are common knowledge - but again - they act as though nobody knows this information but them.
As a young child, i noticed my mom neverrrr listend to me. When i asked her, at the age of 43, why you never ever listen to what i say? Her answer: you know i dont listen, so no need to mention it '
This is a perfect example of them talking at you. It's infuriating.
When she starts talking to you, you should abruptly get up and walk away. Later, when she asks why you left, tell her she knows you don't listen, so no need to talk to you 😅
@@Cerez78 wish i did that before. Now the situation is, that i went 100% no contact since january and ahe started stalking me and does false accusations against me eveeywhere. Im in contact with the Police about that
I belong to a new book club with just five people and one of us has stated that she is ADD. And it’s true. She rattles on and gets rolling, but I noticed that if I interrupt her and start to talk about what we started talking about, she doesn’t mind a bit.
She really does not take offense. She needs to be interrupted.
Very interesting.
Thank you for your neurodiversity disclaimers. This is so appreciated.
Thank you! And also for talking about seeing the whole picture. ADHDers are often confused as being narcissists. Especially when going undiagnosed. I thought I was the narcissist until I got my diagnose 2 years ago age 52. With educating myself and going into trauma theraphy I have also spotted out the narcissists in my family 🙏💜
My first date with a guy I met online was 4 hours, in a Cracker Barrel, where I bought my coffee AND his, and listened to him go on and on about himself, nonstop. These were the things he expected in a new relationship and he was not going to have anything less than these. I barely got a word in. A month and several dates later, he got a job, and when I got a new job a week after, and excitedly shared the news with him, he didn't respond. I left him a voicemail, left him a message on Facebook, and eventually emailed him, four days later. That's when he dumped me. He "didn't think we were going to work out well as a couple." 🙄 That was 2018, the last guy I dated.
Predators online dating
Something I noticed, never pay for a man's meal or coffee and never chase him. Let him pay the tab and come to you. You need to learn better boundaries.
This guy has hit every nail on the head, and triggered so many memories from 1-5 on his list.
Yes!! He described exactly a former friend of mine.
This reminded me of years ago when my husband and I used to compete in amateur sports. He got a you were here prize for a local race and put it on the wall. I got 2nd in nation, different time and sport,and there was no place available for my trophy. Now I’m learning why. Thank you.
This was very good Danish. Especially the part about the ADD, I never thought about that. One first cousin does this all the time, he just gets lost in thoughts and cannot pause. It is so embarrassing and drives other people crazy.
They fought with me.. whenever they think im exposing them... like putting guilt at me.. and shouting at me and today my father bet me also... even i was just saying.. their was a party at home.. and i wasnt invited at morning.. when i was invited i was at my shop at lunch time.. im so sad for my fate... and secondly whenever i try to say i dont like something.. my narc mom has weaponized my fathet on me.. who start creating drama and shout at me.. but today i just said.. im no more available for this kinf of treatment... plz help me
Like you, i am of Indian descent and only realised in my later years that my dad was a narcissist. Somehow I feel I attract that but at my age in my early50's i need to recognise it or rather not ignore red flags
Thank you Danish for the all your videos and thank you for the workshop as well.
I just want to say that you are the best at understanding and explaining these monsters ♡
Well I'm pretty sure my grandson's father is a malignant covert narcissist. And this man never talks never responds no facial expressions he's cruel he's emotionless he ruins every freaking holiday he's abusive but he's silent
Yeap your always wrong they're right
Exactly!😂😂😂
I love your videos.❤ Not only are they very informative , but your humor on such a serious topic of Narcissistic behavior gets me laughing my a$$ off. I identify so much with your stories as I have experienced similar ❤😂😂
Well described.
I had experienced the same.. thank you Danish❤
All of it, 100% spot on!
Hit it right on the nail again! Thanks for another great video!
You’re always right on!
Exactly! Spot on. Per usual.
My mother (narcissist) could never acknowledge any achievements we made. in my late 50's I did something I've wanted to do since I was 19 - I rode my bicycle across the United States, by myself. This was freaking huge for me. About 18months later when I finally was face to face with my mom, she never even asked about it. So Ine day I started talking about it, and she interrupted and said how much she used to love to ride her bike and she would go with friends on the ferry then ride around Staten Island. I had never seen my mom on a bike and this was the first I ever heard that she rode. I asked when that was, she said she was about 16 at the time. She was 86, so she's remembering something she did 70 years ago as if it was comparable to my accomplishment. Of course. I don't know why I even tried. She's gone now and life is so much better! 😁
Your observations and advice are spot on. Thank you 🙏
Very well explain ed
You described my former husband’s partner to perfection. Thank you!
Thank you for brilliant insight. Everything you said was so on point. God Bless you
Well said Danish 💯 truth...gone through all these... thanku so much for validating
Great Vid... You're On Point In Regards To The Character Traits Of A Narcissist... They're Very Irritating People To Associate With...
ThankYou4Sharing Danish!!! ❤ 🕊 MuchLove!!! ❤ 🕊 SoRightNSoTrue !!! Selfycentered n twisted lies n mixed up mess distress constantly!!!
Excellent list! If only this information had been available years ago. And remembering that they won’t change, this is invaluable at reminding us who can’t get away that we are in an ongoing situation
Very true, they re unpredictable
BINGO!!! FULL HOUSE!!! Double prize tonight: my brother and my brother in law.
Okay, tell me..
I'm gonna be ready!🤓💪
Thank you for this - YES to ALL of these - and one other experience that I had with my ex partner - if we were having a conversation - which meant that he was talking about himself lol - sometimes, if these conversations were happening in bed, and I would want to join in the conversation lol, and I would like to bring an example to support what he was saying, but my example would be from my own experience & about myself, he would get angry and upset and make out like I was being so self centred and he would even say "well we were talking about ME". I would feel so bad, I could feel my energy drain from my body & I felt something I couldn't explain because it devalued me as well - I LOVE having conversations & sharing personal experiences - I love listening to others' experiences AND sharing my own, but I began to feel as though he didn't care about my experiences at all as though they were worthless. Also then he would go to sleep & I would not be able to because I felt so bad.
How sad my live was from 1 to 45 growing up in narcist family. . Sinds i understand. Thinks and happenings situations light up. And wil never see my family again 🙏🕊🙏
This is sooo true 😂
I've mentioned this before but I stopped going out with my mother's free breakfast or free lunch because whatever seat she let me choose she had to take it from me and then I was a captive audience. She would get really Perturbed if you quote unquote interrupted her and tell me how rude it was then she needed to finish her sentence or her idea. I finally said one day okay exactly when do I get to talk? You never let me talk I just like to know how long you're going to talk? I quit going out with her.
The ones ive encountered stand too close and stand over me. Im really short so its quite intimidating. 😬
So true, so unrespectful
It took me 13 years to realize. What iam dealing with..... I thought something is wrong with me..... Then it reached a level i develop autu immune disease.
They spend a lot for materialistic things that’s for them - clothes , cars , gadgets etc
Greek for witness is Marcu. From which we get martyr, to suffer for a cause. We suffer for their cause.
This one sounds familiar. 👍
They always talk about themselves😮
Excellent sir. I got married him. No one should suffer like me. Please make a vedioe on how to identify A narcissist before marring him
I have also the habit to where things are not correctly. Most on food. Missing herbs and finishing touch, just that bit more who made it more tasty. Or ingredients. Sometimes I think I have that same Narcissitic behavior taken over from my Mother. And I knew I had to get rid of her indoctrination in my head.
Money and other people important to him
Are covert narcissists as talkative(about themselves) as overt ones?
Yes some coverts are talkative too. Met one for 3months and dump him. Too selfish, talks at you, interrupting etc everything mentioned in the video.